Wasn't quite sure where to post this, so I guess this is as good as any! I talked to my husband's PO a couple days ago and got some great news!

Kenny was supposed to be paroled to a long term rehab. Originally it was a 6 month setback, but got changed. Well, the first rehab will not take him becaus ehe is a violent offender. The second one also refused him due to non-payment the last time he was in. So, his PO was ready to go along with him going to the half-way house. There is a 4 month waiting list for it, so it would still be a while before he got out (10 more months). I called his PO and had a nice chat with him. He is willing to go along with the original 6 month setback (which means 4 more months) and then enrollment in an outpatient rehab upon parole. So, we are now scheduling a date to see the parole board again and get the sentence modified. So, if all goes well, Kenny will be home in April! Yea!

Well, so much for April! Kenny called last night. He got word from his old unit manager in R&D. She talked to his PO to find out what he was now reccommending. He is now asking for 6 months in the halfway house. The problem is there is a 4+ month waiting list. This will bring it to or beyond the original 6 before he gets there, so we're looking at a year or more. I feel pretty betrayed by his PO who has always been very honest with me. So, I'm calling him tomorrow to see what the hell is going on. It's been hard with the holidays. I cried all morning on Christmas, most of today, and then with my birthday tomorrow, it won't be much better. But, I suppose things could be worse.

You know, it is very difficult to have a husband or any loved one in prison...my husband is there and has been for nine years, even though I wasn't there the whole time. I knew him before he went. I have cried many a night as well, and even during our visits, which are 400 miles away from me. He is supposed to be moved closer soon, but you know NYS dept of corrections moves slowly. I'm glad I can come to a place to talk about it where the people understand because my family doesn't and my friends try, but they don't either. Anybody out there have a husband in jail? Any doubts about how he will be when he gets out? Will be he be the man he says he is?

Tiffany...
You are not alone in your situation of having your man in prison and you are not alone in your fears and concerns. I am not technically married to my man yet, but hope to be one day (I would like to wait until he gets out myself...) My fears are slightly different because my man was 15 years old when he was incarcerated, so really he can't go back to being the man he was, because he wasn't even a man. I worry about his adjusting and his being able to catch up on learning everything he hasn't had the chance to learn. Anytime you need an ear from a person who understands your frustrations and your fears, feel free to Email me.
Peace!;)

Thanks, I appreciate that. It is very hard. I have known my husband for 10 years and we were living together before he went to jail. As hard as this is, I do believe he wouldn't be alive today if he didn't got to jail. He was on a bad road. I married him 2 months ago. I haven't been with him the whole time of his incarceration ( I was gone for 7 years) because of how hard it is. But we have accepted each other back into one another's lives and I know that we are soulmates. But sometimes I feel like "Is he just using me to do this time with him?" But I really don't believe that. It is just hard to actually know. They go through so much in there, you just don't know who they will be when they get out. Know what I mean? So many things go through my mind sometimes that I get frustrated and end up taking it out on him. I just want to scream sometimes. It must be hard for you as well, because he was in there from a young age. Feel free to email me as well.

anybody heard anything from Jasmine lately?

tiffany-i can relate -ron was on a bad road too-he has even said that this tinme in prison has given him time to think, evaluate his life, and plan for the future-I have seen much growth in him --and in in me!!--not to mention our relationship- there are good things that can come out of a bad situation

hang in there!

sherri