Hey everyone my love Scott has less then 8 months left we have had alot of ups and downs but i am still here and we are going to make it. getting married soon after he gets out next year.....hope you all the best on your loved ones....dont mean to be rude but am looking forward to leaving the prison scene for good.

he wil be out oct 21 2003 yipee!!!!! you are not being rude at all.

carol

WOW! Good for both of you i am very excited for you both..and thank you.

Are any of you worried about the adjustment when your guy is released? My husband is coming up for parole again next year. He's under the old parole system, so it's uncertain if he'll be released. But he might! He's been in prison for 23 years and I can't imagine what that will be like when he gets out. Really difficult I imagine but we've been together this long and through lots of hard times, so we'll face this challenge too. Part of me thinks of the awesome-ness of being together and him being free. Part of me has fears about him finding work, adjusting, staying away from friends from the inside, and staying out of trouble - plus dealing with a P.O. who might just want to send him back, etc. Do others of you have those fears?

Well allow me to tell you what i have seen and what i have been through and what i think will happen. I have 2 family members who have gone through prison my uncle did 11yrs flat when he got out he was happy but it was so hard for him to adjust always eating fast...saving everything etc just like in there to even come up to him from behind was a mistake his natrual impulse was to hit...he was good for a while but turned to drugs and its been 3yrs since anyone has ever seen or heard from him....another my female cousin she did 8yrs flat and was discharged free as bird but still has not adapted to the outside world. She hates it so much that she is trying to catch another case to go back...in there she is important has a place etc....no worries...no bills its hard for them to adjust.....My love and me talk about everyday he knows that in order to make our new life work it means he needs to move a way from his family and old so called friends....I am in california he is in salem oregon so he is coming here. Where i can better help him. no doubt its going to be hard but my friends and me are going to do whatever it takes. I already go to meetings for support and drug abuse to learn what to expect and how to help..also make a smooth adjustment meaning i am makig sure i am caught up on my bills and more stable then now so that there are no worries about anything. Its scary and yes i am afraid that i wont win but i need to take that chance i love him dearly and will do whatever i have to make it work...i have bought so much stuff to keep him busy and making sure i can take time off....i am not saying it going to be easy but i am going to try thats all i can do...thats all WE can do. I am sure it will work out...my suggestion is prepare him now as to what to expect on all counts...bills....family...everything dont leave anything that will shock him until he gets out....cause atleast in there he cant hurt himself and can think about things out here its worse...and i know lots of CO's and PO's and more then half are good people. Hell i have so many in my family and know alot....just be there for him cause thats all you can do and i am sure you are doing more then enough.


*220 days till my love comes home...whoo hoo

Thanks Mia. (I love your name) You've given me some good things to think about. Hope others might share ideas too. My guy says that inpatience will probably be his biggest difficulty. You'd think they all learn patience in there, waiting all that time but he says that, from watching TV and movies, it seem like you can have and do everything if you can just be free. And waiting in there creates impatience out here - don't wanta wait anymore for anything. And actually, I know what I won't have to wait anymore for!! LOL!! Zelda

I am glad that i was able to help in some way.....oh and ty for the compliment. I just spoke to Scott (my love) right now and we are talking about setting a wedding date. etc and also he was asking me how so certain things are going to work etc. I told him not to worry that SLOWLY i will show him. Patience is the key and something that Scott does not have at the moment. He was telling me that it seems to be taking forever..ha ha poor thing. I love him so much and can't wait to get him home. He is very excited to start a new life and leave the past behind. Not long before he is home. (sigh) i miss him Zelda I cry at night for him sometimes and stay up real late nights till 2am wondering what he is doing, in what position he is laying in if hes snoring etc little things like that...am i crazy or just in love? ahh i miss him so much i have not seen hm since March i hope i can see hm this year. ok am rambling better go before the water works start. do you have yahoo or msn etc? maybe we can chat.


*119 days before my love is home.

Oh Mia - I do think you are IN LOVE!! That's cool - not long to go. (I know - to you it seems like a long, long time!) I know it's hard to be so far away geographically. I live in Oregon and my husband used to be in the federal penitentiary in Lompoc, CA. It was a 24 hour ride on the train, rent a car and drive a couple hours, to get to see him. Long time inbetween visits.
Did that for 13 years! Now he's up here at the federal FCI in Oregon - 2 hour drive. So you stay strong - I get the feeling you'll make it til he comes home. Don't forget to do things for yourself too - pamper yourself when you're feeling down. I don't have yahoo or msn. Sorry. Zelda.

how long has he been down, my loved one went down when we were 18 years old and got 5 years 10 months, and its only been 15 months, im scared who hes going to be when he gets out let me know how it goes

Hey Zelda actually the time is going by FAST for me its him that the time is going by so slow. TO be honest tooo fast its scary almost kinda like TO GOOD TO BE TRUE ya know? to beable to wake up and no longer wonder what he is doing cause i will see him...to be able to call him cause he will be here...to no longer everything! Mostly i just want to lay in bed and talk to him and outline his facial features with the tips of my fingers as he lays there.... :-( .....ok i will stop.

WOW that is or was along drive when i went to see Scott i rented a car it was a 10hr drive non stop. I went alone so that was a big reason for the non stop. and it seemed to take forever to see him too..i remeber the first day with complete detail...aweeeee see now i am tearing....i miss him so much talked to him on friday hope to hear from him today cant wait...but hey i am going up in October god willing. Maybe if we are good friends by then i can say hi. I am not sure where u are at from salem i dont know it that good needless to say i was not going for the scenery know what i mean. Well on i am off time to get ready for the day and the kids start school tomorrow and they are looking forward to it. So take care and talk to you soon.

* 117 days till my love comes home!! oh man oh man

Mia: I drove the long drive to southern CA once by myself. And it seemed LONG. If you're renting a car anyway, you might think about taking the train. It goes right to Salem and then you could rent a car there for a shorter time. With the price of gas and the rental car, the cost might be less and the train is cool. Good scenery. You can relax and read. Movies in the evening. It's a bit hard to sleep but the seats go way back (not like on a plane) so it's O.K. You can take snacks to save on the food cost - though they have both a diner car and a snack lounge. You meet interesting people on the train too. Something to think about anyway. Zelda

well i have thought of taking the train before but it will cost me more....i already totald the cost before and it will take me longer to get there. best way is the train..its ok my friend from work has family n portland she may go with me the next time so i can split the cost with her...see what happens.. :-( scott tried to call me earlier but the phones are missed up he could not get through..hope he tries later......

*117 days to go before he is home....

Tanyalee: I know what you fear - but you'll have gone through changes also! I think the key is to maintain communication about your own changes and feelings and hopefully he will also and you both will be much stronger for it by the time he comes home. But who am I to talk? My guy's been down 21 years and I have NO IDEA what will be challenges to him when he gets out. All I know is that we can talk with each other for this long, we should be able to talk things through when he comes home! (Of course, it won't be talkin' we'll be doing for awhile...) LOL!


And Mia: Is Scott going to live in California when released? Or are you moving to Oregon? You don't have much time to go at all!! Though I'm sure that the shorter he gets, the slower time will seem. I love hearing about people getting out of prison!! It just gives the rest of us more hope. Zelda

My Jody has nine more months to go and I cannot wait for the time to pass so we can be together again!

Hey Zelda yes scott is coming here...I am stable here and can do more and offer him more. plus i dont want to uproot my children...we are doing good so far and oh my gosh its going by scary fast...i mean i have never BEEN with scott(wink) and its just well new to both of us. We developed a friendship above all else so that makes it SOOO much better its differnet to be able to say you fell in love with your best friend and they did too...i will pray for all your loved ones and i hope you do for me. My goodness 215 days...the more i think about it the more i get sick of excitment isnt it great ha ha....damn i love him so much i cant express it enough soon zelda soon i wont have to want anymore..........

Yeah, Mia - sounds like a good idea to stay put and have stability and support as you all settle in together. Doesn't that sound great? Settle in TOGETHER? Pretty soon, you'll have one more kid in the house - LOL!! In some ways, that's probably true though in others, you'll have a best friend and partner to help YOU out. That will be nice, eh? Zelda

Oh yes it will be and guess what i have fantastic news..I work in a gov. office and about a month ago they cut 16hrs off my paycheck with out notice then they said 2 weeks ago that i would only have my job till the end of the year...etc etc so i hae been looking at jobs and got an interview to one i wanted real bad i never told scott cause he worried enough with the cuts in all but I GOT IT!!!!!!!! i will be making 800.00 more then what i do now a month...i almost had to file bankruptcy cause my exhusband stopped paying my child support a while back too....i am so giddy and on cloud nine he is going to be estatic when i tell him...i hope he calls me tonight.....man i am so happy this mean i can afford to go see him too.....(as soon as i catch up)cant wait till he calls...i start tuesday.......

(Thank you dear God for everything)

oh and yes scott is a big goof baby like me we like to joke and be silly but have our serious moment....aaahhhhhh so excited cant sit still!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SO I WILL BE THERE TO SEE MY BABE

That's great Mia!! Congrats! I know that finances play such an important part in our connections with our sweeties who are locked up. What kind of job??? Will they let you have the time off to go visit?? Zelda

Thanks!! I will be an admin clerk...with the intention to move up. Thought scott has not calle me yet :-( my hours will be monday -friday 830-530 and if i have to i will fly up for just one day as long as i see him. i can leave friday soon after work then back sunday morning.