There are a lot of threads on this forum about black/white, white/hispanic but none about black/hispanic.

I need some insight here from my Hispanic sisters. Things are developing a lot faster between myself and Oscar than I thought they would. If I am going to make the comittment that I am being asked to make, I need to know a few things.

I have been in black/white interacial realtionship before and the white famlies reaction has never been too good. I read here about all you guys who have fantastic relationships with your in-laws and that is great. Without meaning to sound stupid, how is interacial dating/marriage accepted in the Hispanic community? I will do what I want to do, regardless of what anyone says, but I need to be prepared.

Mine is accepted just fine. To be honest I don't think about it.

Hey Gurl I always wondering why there was no thread for Black/Hispanic well this is my second relationship with a hispanic man and my ex parents loved me like crazy especially his mom she has a soft spot for me even now she took it bad when I broke up with my ex but I had to do it I was not happy in the relationship and pluse I was in Love with my baby and he stole my heart I just met my future mother in law a couple of weeks ago I dont think she likes me I dont no maybe I'm bugging I can say everytime she gets off the phone with me she always tell me she loves me I think we need time to get to no each other a little better. so my advice to u is to be yourself and everything will fall into place.

Thanks for both your responses. I just want this one to be real and to be good. It feels so right and I don't want anything to spoil it. I will be myself and leave the rest in the hands of the Lord.

Well as a H/F who just got a divorce from a H/M but now in the system cause my new white man is in, can tell that really some of us are raise to make sure the man is well taking care off. most of his family wants to know if ur up for the work. cause really they don't want to worry. which its probably no different to any other race. but sometimes in mine i think that mostly the woman has to prove it to all. see we consider the home life very important and also the more u do for the him the more they think you care about him. each experience is different, but the taking care of is a most. but we are very open minded yeah in every community you find haters but i am sure once they get to know you, who u really are they will get to luv u.

I think this obtains to any race cause every culture have different values .. The best thing to do is talk to him and see what he says.. Ask him if he noticed his family ever having issues with someone dating outside of the hispanic race.. For while every family is raised different and he will know more about how they deal with it.. They may just see it as he is dating a beautiful woman instead of seeing you as a black woman that he is dating ..

Well.... I am hispanic and my husband is black and at first my family was a little skeptical. But not my immediate family. My parents welcomed him easily but i think that is because they knew regardless of what they wanted i was going to be with the person that i was in love with anyway. My other family members were prejudice but they are not involved in my life everyday. But now they know that we are never going to be apart so they have accepted our marriage. And they do like him!!!

Well as a H/F who just got a divorce from a H/M but now in the system cause my new white man is in, can tell that really some of us are raise to make sure the man is well taking care off. most of his family wants to know if ur up for the work. cause really they don't want to worry. which its probably no different to any other race. but sometimes in mine i think that mostly the woman has to prove it to all. see we consider the home life very important and also the more u do for the him the more they think you care about him. each experience is different, but the taking care of is a most. but we are very open minded yeah in every community you find haters but i am sure once they get to know you, who u really are they will get to luv u.
That's "the buzz" (for lack of a more politically correct term) that I've known too, which could account for the buzz that I've heard that hispanic females are extremely loyal in their relationships to their men. What my question has been though is if the females are raised this way -- to make sure that the man is taken care of, then how are the sons raised.:confused: I've never heard of any buzz that the boys growing up in the same households as their sisters are "taught the same thing" -- to be very loyal to their women and to their households.

All of your feed back is much appreciated ladies. It's in my nature to really take care of my man. It's just that some men take this for granted. It may sound silly but I believe that a woman should take care of her man to the max. From the start he said that he needs a lot of attention. I think most men like to be spoiled. When a man really loves his woman, he will return the same level of love and respect that she shows him. E wife 03, I will talk to him and see what he says. I think Hispanic culture is quite similar to my own Trinidadian culture. It's all about LA FAMILIA!!! Thanks chicks. God bless!!

Yes those from trinidad are just like the hispanic culture.. Very family orientated .. My family who have moved from trinidad are still like the ones we have left there

chelle_belle, my family has had open arms for my man since they first met him. I am half hispanic/half white and he is black. i believe that hispanics are very open to dating outside of their own race. almost every couple in my family has married someone outside of thier race, so go for it girl.

Ladies any doubts that I may have had, have all gone!!! Thanks for your support and advice. It's more apprciated than you will ever know.

One more for the road, I used to work with a Trini lady. Her and her husband had 3 daughters, and she brought them up the same way. She taught her daughters how to wait on their dad, treat him like royalty. So when her girls get on with their life and marry, their husbands will be getting women who've been groomed since childhood. At work, we'd tease her calling her "The Queen of England" because every day she'd have the girls take turns bringing their father a cup of tea!!

I think you guys will fare fine as long as you don't let outsiders run your relationship, or, sorry to say, live with you.

One more for the road, I used to work with a Trini lady. Her and her husband had 3 daughters, and she brought them up the same way. She taught her daughters how to wait on their dad, treat him like royalty. So when her girls get on with their life and marry, their husbands will be getting women who've been groomed since childhood. At work, we'd tease her calling her "The Queen of England" because every day she'd have the girls take turns bringing their father a cup of tea!!

I think you guys will fare fine as long as you don't let outsiders run your relationship, or, sorry to say, live with you.
Chick, I like treatimg my man like a king, he deserves it:) ! From the start he told me that he needs a lot of attention (what man doesn't:p ). I think our cultures are very similar and I am hoping that it will help make things easier. As for family moving in. I aint happening. Either from my side or his side. I saw this destroy my cousin's marriage.

what part of trinidad

Well my mother is Jamaican and my father is Puerto Rican....seemed to work just fine to them...both are extremely loyal FAMILY means everthing to them....and both cultures have more simularities than you would think...my Soldado says he heard puerto-rican women have that graveyard love for their men...DAMNED RIGHT! and im only half.

My mother (RIP Mama) had much distaste for her Mexican heritage due to the fact that her daddy was the janitor of an all white prestigious Catholic School and thinking that because they allowed it his children should receive the BEST education available. The nuns were very cruel to my mama and her siblings singling them out time and again for being "different".

Mama married Daddy a sailor she met on leave, he is Spanish and Puerto Rican had most of his children (I came much later) and moved to his birthplace of California.

She tried hard to shed her Mexicanness if you will but when all is said and done we are some loyal damn chicks this is to the core and they couldn't take that from her or from me and that's just the way it is. And heso you are correct in assuming the brothers were not raised the same way and it shows!

Unfortunately both of my parents passed before I met Sebastian (he's black for those that don't know) they would have loved him, lol mama had no issue with "other" races just the "Mexicans'' however I have more traditional family members one uncle in particular comes to mind... when his daughter brought home her baby daddy now husband who is black he hit the roof. Traditionally Mexicans have issues with Black folks, there are many reasons, one being and this is because I was born and raised in California and there is a stigma about the land that once was Mexico now being California it's an old story and many Mexicans believe that Blacks get better treatment in a land they were brought to than those who believe (The Mexican's) that the land is rightfully theirs.

Fast forward to today and my family and friends have no issues with the fact that I am with a black man, his family feels exactly the same, we get the occasional glance from Mexican men or women in the SuperWalmart but noone has said anything... GOOD FOR THEM! LOL

Love the one you're with,
Patty

Hello ladies when my family met my man they didn't like him. I would tell them they are racist and they would tell no but I could see it. I didn't care as with any relationship there are trials. My family now accept my marriage we have children and they see no color.

I have been married for over 22 years to a Hispanic man. I am bi-racial however to all persons that see me they only see a black female.

I have been accepted by his family and friends here and in his country of origin.

My family loves him!