I read the news today about the little girl who was kidnapped on her way to school 8 years ago and held in a cellar, only allowed out in the yard once in a blue moon.
The cops said they found her in the yard her eyes burning not being use to daylight, her abuser/kidnapper killed himself running from the cops by jumping in front of a train.
They say this poor girl has a severe case of Stockholm Syndrome(SS).
I remembered something about SS with the Patty Hearst deal and decided to google SS.
I was amazed! I found it way interesting..
If anyone; a friend, family member, someone in my domestic abuse support group (yes, I sought help for myself even when I was with my abuser) if only someone had educated me a little on this syndrome I would have "gotten it" and left my abuser alot sooner then I did!
It explains some stuff to me-it is eye opener.
Why is SS never talked about with regard to domestic violence? It is when you google it and read about it-but it's not like "mainstream".
My abuser stalked me + and is locked up, so I am safe as well as any other unsupecting women who would have blocked/abducted/abused after me, but it was a all a very scary time for me-suffer(ed) "shell shock".
I do not want a relationship at this time as I'm fearful history would repeat itself only with a different face and name as I have aot of stuff to learn/face/deal with about myself.
Reading about SS helped with my rather torturous journey to healthy mental health.
Maybe this info can help someone here. Get some more insight as to why we stay-it ain't love, it isn't, and why we won't let it happen ever again!
But why is SS never talked about with domestic violence victims?
It should be spoken of I think in those pamplets from padv, etc. I was just wondering..

Hi there....I have read about Stockholm Syndrome in "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. I think that his book taught me so much about domestic violence, and many other things. I believe that he is the top expert in domestic violence. He did start the first group for abusive men called "Emerge" about 20 years ago. I met him once and he is a gentle, kind, person.

Thank you for the book info.
I will read it. Minds are amazing organs they are!

What an awesome finding, Thank You for posting that on here. I pray that many people will see this and look into it. When we educated ourselves it also empowers us to do amazing things. God Bless and keep up the hope.

Stockholm Syndrome is a great piece of info, but it won't do everything you need. Lundy Bancroft is a marvelous resource, as is "Women Who Love Too Much", and "Trapped in the Mirror", and "Verbal Abuse".

Thanks nimuay-my mom advised me to read "Women Who Love too Much" as well. Education is key!