Can somebody explain something to me. My soon to be wife is in VSPW on a parole violation. i visited her last Saturday and she seemed sort of distant to me. She told me that her "wife" had just got back in the previous week on a violation also. I didn't know what to say because she had told me months ago that she never got involved with any females while she served her original 11 month sentence. She sort of explained what it meant to have a "wife" in prison but I not sure she is being completely honest. I feel like I'm being cheated on...I'm actually thinking of leaving her now because I'm not sure what the hell it means to be in prison and have a wife. I do know that she said once you take a wife it's for life. There is no divorce or having any other spouse. Does that me me also ??? Can some one please give me the "real" explination and what should I do ? :angry:

did u ever find out what that means?

What exactly was her explanation of "wife"?

Well she never gave me a definition of what it is. She said it's a womens prison and thats the ways things were.I dont believe that. I think she may be sparing my feelings..........

No I havent received an answer

Okay, got me wondering also.

I am sorry you are going through this... I hope you find your answers. But I think wife means exactly what you think. I have not been in prison so I have not experienced it. Hopefully someone will be along soon to enlighted us. Hang in there

I dont know what it means. I have read that in womens prisons they often times will for familys with a mother, father, kids but this was originally explained to me that when you took wife that when you are in prison that is your mate while incarcerated. I am really going through it and ready to just disappear from her life all together. I have been through hell in back for her and because of her and since I am not sure I'm ready to handle this wife thing, it may be time to leave for good. I wish someone who has been in VSPW or another prison in cal or anywhere can explain the dynamics of this "wife" and roles:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

I can't say for sure what "wife" means to your girl but I do personally know a girl who was in county jail and had a "wife" in there with her and when one got released the other waited and they then continued their relationship on the outside however neither one of them were attached to anyone on the outside before they went to jail and they both were gay before they went in unlike your lady.
I'd ask her just exactly what it means to her and what their relationship is like
I'm very sorry your going through this

Im so sorry you are being treated this way. I can't imagine having my spouse in jail nevermind being in the dark. Maybe you need to have a talk with her about exactly what she means and wants? I hope it all works out for you