I am new at this thing! I just stated talking to this guy and never meet him in person. We hve been communicating for over a year now. should i talk to him? I am kind of worried about giving out my social. What should i do?

Does he see your social? If you are weary then don't. Follow your gut instincts on this. If you give your information to the prison and not him personally then that is different. Find this out first, who gets your social, then go from there. Good Luck!!

How did you meet him?

I meet him through a guy who is locked up with him. somebody i know from home

If you are wery about giving out your social you could contact the visitation supervisor yourself and give your social security number that way.

I am new at this thing! I just stated talking to this guy and never meet him in person. We hve been communicating for over a year now. should i talk to him? I am kind of worried about giving out my social. What should i do?
why do you need to give your social security # to TALK to him? and you aren't supposed to be able to visit unless you are immediate family,so i don't understand.

why do you need to give your social security # to TALK to him? and you aren't supposed to be able to visit unless you are immediate family,so i don't understand.


i can remember being worried about the same thing, the inmate has to fill phone list/funds list and visistion list all at the same time (when they first arrive). It is a hassel the change any of them and takes some time.

after all phones, funds and visits are all a privileges and are not a "given"

Alabama allows male inmates to have ONE female visitor other than immediate family, unless inmate is married.

All you tell us about him is that he's in. He might be a great guy or a total flake but thre's no way to tell from that one fact. If you yourself feel you don't know much more, I'd keep it to letters until I did.

Until I felt comfortable about giving him any information about myself, I wouldn't. Everyone here believes their loved one is great, best thing around and so on, but the truth of the matter is there are inmates in these prisons who put on a good front but are dangerous. Since it will be you who will be writing this person, giving him your personal phone number, then it must be you who decides if you want to do this or not. After all he will have your social, your home address, your phone number, and other personal things you share with him. So the question is simple, do you really want this person who you don't know very well to have all this information? If you feel good about it, then go with that feeling...if not, wait until you do feel good about it. Maybe you will learn more about him.

o'reilly is right.my son is 'in there', and he says that there are some really sick people in there.and ofcourse they aren't going to tell you every thing about themselves.the sad truth is that some will ask for penpals saying that they just want someone to corresponde with,then it turns into wanting you to help support them.i'm not saying this is the case here.just follow your instints.