When I first started visiting my Boyfriend at Attica Correctional Facility in New York State. He had warned me that his friends had send some COs could be a**sholes to IR couples. (I am White and JL is Black) No one was ever mean to us. Atcually everyone has always been very friendly. I have became a regualr they ask me where I want to sit and joke about me running over a turtle on my way up one time. Then last week I was up on Friday and the one CO who has been there before never really talked to him. He just stares. Terminated our visit after warning JL to keep his legs under the table. JL put them back with out any arguement. About a hour later I was resting my head on his shoulder/arm like I always do and back come the guy and yells at JL to come with him. He does and says he is terminating the visit b/c JL had his shirt untucked. I was upset and was going to leave but the stupid rule was I had to wait until the visiting hours were over. While sitting there the CO came over to me and said that " I should date my own kind" and that " That I should go to school and get an education and become something more then just white trash in life." He went on with the comments. JL called me later that night and I went to see him today he wants me to file a complant. I want to but after that I am very affraid someone else is just going to be the same way. Now my poor baby is stuck in his cell until his hearing date b/c the guy wrote saying he thought I was doing something to him under the table. (Today we had to sit on opposite ends are the table not b/c the other COs wanted us to or that it was ordered but b/c that one saw me walk in and came and made me move) I don't want JL to get in trouble that never happened and I am just angry about what happen. JL is a good guy there and never looks for trouble with anyone.
It is a long standing joke around there that the CO is a drunk and is sometimes drunk. He was looking all day for a reason to kick me out. He said to me as I left maybe this will teach me to never come back. I was back today. I love JL it is going to take alot more then one a**hole to keep me from him.
I need some advice though. If you were in the situation what would you do? and how would you go about filing a complaint? and lastly what do you think is going to happen to my boyfriend JL?

Beara, Being an Ex-co and also in an IRR I can give you alot of advice od what to do. Firstly, you need to put everything in writing from start to finish about what was said and done. Don't leave out anything that this racist idiot said. Do you have his name? You need to call the facility tomorrow morning and ask to speak to the Warden. They may have you speak to the Deputy Warden or the Wardens assistist but thats ok too. They may ask you after explaing the situation if you would put it in writing. You can fax it to them asap. Don't worry about retaliation because I can guarantee you they have received complaints on this CO before. The other officers most likely don't like working with him either. If you smelled alchol, say you did. Or if your man has ever smelled alcohol on him let them know. He probably won't be working the visiting room again. Your man may have to deal with him inside but as long as you have documentation they will know he is being retaliated against. Keep a copy. Your man could also request to speak with shift command or someone that he feels comfortable with. Even the Chaplain could help him out because he is equivalent in rank to a Asst Dep. Warden. I think this will work but if not than you can call the Central office and report it. Besides all of this, get a comment card and send it in. Pm me if you need anymore assistance.

Hmmm, why does this always happen at Attica?
Thanks for helping her, Michela. Your experience is indispensable to us. You're a brick!
God bless you.

It happens all over Katy, and we all need to do something about it! From here on out you need to document everything that happens for future use. This is very unacceptable behavior by an officer.

I read in your other post that you have a meeting with the Deputy Warden and that is good. he may even be wanting a reason to hang this guy because as I said before and the other co said that even the other officers don't like working with him. Good luck and let us know how it works out.

...don't let them get away with anything if possible...they will do it again to someone else...GOOD LUCK!

I agree with what everyone else has said, girl...do *not* let him get away with this. He had no right what-so-ever to say anything to you about who you are with (regardless of their race or yours)...or about anything else for that matter...*that* isn't his job...ya know? Don't let this go, girl...
I hope everything works out for y'all & I wish y'all the best of luck!! :)

***huggs***
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hey sweetie - I am with the other dont let him get away with that ish that is BS and yes it does happen every where .. good luck sweetie !!!!

I have never had a co say anything to me during a visit But, When my boyfriend was inthe county jail he would have to deal with it. One co would give him a hard time after I left and tell him that they didn't but up with that sort of thing there. ( IRR ) We knew that my guy was going to be transferred soon so we just stopped the visits while he was there. My guy never told me everything this co said to him, just that it was bad.
I kind of wish now that I had done something about it instead of letting this co by with it because now he will just do the same thing to the next IRR couple that comes in there.
I wish the person that started this thread would come back and let us know how things went with the complaint she filed.

I have never had a co say anything to me during a visit But, When my boyfriend was inthe county jail he would have to deal with it. One co would give him a hard time after I left and tell him that they didn't but up with that sort of thing there. ( IRR ) We knew that my guy was going to be transferred soon so we just stopped the visits while he was there. My guy never told me everything this co said to him, just that it was bad.
I kind of wish now that I had done something about it instead of letting this co by with it because now he will just do the same thing to the next IRR couple that comes in there.
I wish the person that started this thread would come back and let us know how things went with the complaint she filed.


I am sorry that your bf had to deal with someone ignorance but i am sure that if it happens again wherever he is you will now what too do thanks to the great advice given here. I hope that you and him do not have to face that type of crap again.

hi, i saw this post too late. it happens that i have a friend who is white, her husband is black and in new york state. sad to say that what you have encountered is like common in some ny prisons. i called my friend to ask her some advices.because she has had problems too in the past. if the problems reoccure with the same co you should call albany to file a complaint.but not because of your b/f,file a complaint for the comments and remarks he told you.if it becomes too unbearable then call albany again and request his transfer due to the fact that you are afraid for his safety. it's what she done. if you need more infos,let me know,i will ask her what you need to know.

I am sorry to hear all the trouble you are having while visiting your man.I have had trouble as well but not the same as yours.My husband broke his foot and they did nothing about it,after I left from visiting him I went to the captains office and asked them why my husband had not seen the doctor,he told me my husband had arthritis and not a broken foot and that he had seen the doctor there.He called a few days later and told his mom his foot was broken and they weren't doing anything about it,that night I wrote the department of corrections., and they made sure he saw a doctor the next day.They still didn't follow up with his doctor visits and it ended up being 6 months after his foot was broken and didn't heal properly
that he was told he had to have surgery to fix it,that was done in Oct.he is healing fine now,but I had to constantly write letters to the represenatives ,congress,the governor,the president anyone I could until they did what they were suppose to.I am now trying to find a lawyer to see if i can sue them for their negligence.So write and complain to who ever you have to,until that CO is either transfered or leaves you and your man alone.Talk to your man and make sure he is ok with you doing this,sometimes they can make it hard on him in there.Good Luck.

love is color-blind, so what's the problem? too, many blinded by their own problems or they have no one to love them. Either way, there is a time and a place for everything! Rude and inappropriate conduct by CO, if it bothers you so bad after sleeping on it, report it to appropriate authorities (use your discretion, seriously).

Please let us know how this goes, i hope it all turned out for the best for you and him ..