:wave: Hi. My name is Sheila. I am a victim of domestic violence. My man is currently in prison for battery, against me:( . I didn't press charges against him or ever call the police on him. The neighbors did. They had heard us arguing pretty bad at times:no: . And, me screaming "Help me!!!!" or, "He's going to kill me!!!",:blush: too many times, I suppose:shake: . It was getting pretty bad. And now, he will be getting out in about a week. We are still together:love: . And I am due to have a baby girl, here in a couple of months:yay: . He promises to change and never treat me that way again:shrug: . He blames his actions back then, on drug use. Meth to be exact:banghead: . That is one of the devil's drug, just like they say:mad: :angry: . It literally, tore us apart:cry: :banghead: :shake: :yuck: :argh: :no: :sneeze: :help: :help: :help: . I really hope, with all my heart, that he means it:o . I promised to give us another chance but only one more chance. No more:no: . I will soon have someone else to think about besides myself:yes: . And I have a responsibility to my new baby:D , to protect her from an unhealthy enviroment, and keep her safe and secure;) . That is my job, as her mother:thumbsup: . Me, having a baby, has changed everything in my eyes:) . Although I love my man very much, and so much, want things to work out for us:love: , I cannot, or will not:no: , tolerate any (and I mean any), of his abuse:nono: ! He is well aware of this. It's how it's going to be;) . I really hope and pray that it all works out for the three of us because, I really do love him so and want him in my daughter's life, just as he should be:grouphug: :yes: :o . It's funny to me, how sometimes we can't do this for ourselves, but we can for another person, someone we love:cry: :o .
Thanks for hearing my story:o .
Love, Sheila:)

I only wish you the besy of luck and will have you in my thoughts as time passes Sheila. I was raised in a home of domestic violence so it scares me to hear you going back into it. I think some people might be able to change and I sure hope your guy is one of them. But I also understand the cylce of abuse so keep your eyes and ears open..please. I saw my mom sucked in time and time again believing and hoping that the situation was going to change but it never did and I sure hate to see or hear of another beating or death from the result of trusting and loving someone that much. Like I said we were raised in it and with it as well. Be strong and know we care about you and that little one coming...keep us updated-ok. Take care and you are in my prayers. sam

Sheila, Welcome!
I hope your homecoming is a good one with your guy.
I was also raised in a household where you never knew what would sit them off- my mom and dad.
If he does want to work out his issues, I hope he will be able to attend anger management classes for your family. I hope the courts dictated that.
I understand how before you were able to be the punching bag, but do you want anyone hitting your child?
I will keep you in my prayers.
There is a book called Boundaries and it helps us learn to speak up for ourselves. It has helped me alot with my mom.
Wishing you the best,
Tammy:)

Good luck,you and family will be in my prayers. Reality isn't as easy as planning.Congrats on the baby,and YOU are worth protecting too.

I really hope that this was his wake up call. And you and your daughter will not have to live that way. I would thank my nieghbors every day for getting in the middle alot of times no one will help. Best of luck!!!

Sheila - the best of luck to you! You may not be able to do this, but if it's possible, he shouldn't be living with you for a while, like until you are pretty sure he's not going back to the meth. Your attitude is great, and your boundaries correct, if you stick to them, but I'm worried about the drugs - Is that part of your "no more"? The reason it sets up alarms is that users can flash up into violence with virtually no warning, and I'd hate to know that happened to you and the baby.

Keep your head up and dont accept any excuses! Everyone deserves a second chance but I dont beleive in third chances.

Good luck to you Shiela, and I really mean that. My ex was an abusive SOB and he never changed. After 13 years, all the while letting my sons see this, I finally got out. I wanted what you want, but, for us it was not meant to be. Today, both of my sons would tell you that it is the best thing that I ever did, not only for myself, but for them. Be very careful, make sure he is working his program, and please let us know how it is going. Good or bad, we will be here!

Good luck to all of you. Just remember if you begin to see signs of drug use again please get out. Sometimes we dont realize how much our children see and here that they shouldnt. I know thats the case with my sons I got out of an abusive situation with thier father and its the best thing I ever did.He just couldnt end his cycle of addiction.

I hope everything turns out ok. My boyfriend's in prison for abuse that happened when he was on meth, too. He was arrested 4/05 and gets out 4/07. We're still together and I'm hoping his time in there has opened his eyes to how destructive meth really is (he says it has). Hopefully your man's new status as a daddy will help keep him off drugs and improve your home. Good luck with your new baby! Congratulations!:)

im just praying that your man has not let his mistakes be for nothing.he already lost his freedom once.and he almost lost you-that was his wakeup call and i pray that he heard it.if ANYTHING seems off that is your cue TO LEAVE.if you have to play it off for a while do it-then first chance you get you run for safety.i know you probably hesitate to do this but talk to your neighbors before he comes home.let them know you honestly think it will work out BUT if they hear,see,even think anything is off they should call the police.-your man will definitely try to tell you that your neighbors are nosey,they in yall's business etc.etc.after he comes home his reaction to them may be your cue if he is remorseful in what he did to you.if he still is angry at them for saving you,then he probably hasnt changed at all.if he is distant with them then he may be watching to see if they keeping an eye on you.him keeping his distance from them could just be that he stays to himself but i would look for clues IN EVERYTHING.