Hi
I am new to this website and from Australia. 5 weeks ago, my 17 year old daughters boyfriend of over 2 years was arrested and has been in jail, pending his next court appearance on 19th July. He is 19. This has turned our life upside down, and a whole new experience for all of us. It is his 1st offence, and we are completely "new" to even being in a situation anything even remotely like this! It has been devastating to watch our daughter ride a huge wave of emotions, but she has shown a strength that we never even knew she had! We have decided to take one day at a time, as each day seems to pose different feelings and circumstances. We are supportive of the boyfriend,as many factors contributed to him being in this situation, and at the end of the day, we have always known him to be nice regardless. Time will tell. I know I can't predict the future. I certainly didn't predict the current situation! I just want to be supportive of my daughter and her boyfriend and his family the best way possible. Good luck to all out there in a similar situation. It really does take a toll on everyone, doesn't it!?

Your post sounded like it could have been written by my mom, except I'm 21. :) The most IMPORTANT thing you can do for your daughter is just be there & listen. My mother was so supportive of me (my dad was a different story) & just knowing that she supported me & my fiance helped me because I was a wreck when he got locked up. So, I'm glad to see that you're so supportive of your daughter because its rough. Good luck to you, your daughter, & his family. You made a great choice by joining PTO.. its a wonderful site, with wonderful people. XOXO

wow blossom i wish i had a mom like you, my mom doesnt even know that i am with my boyfriend. she knows that he is in prison and that i write him but she doesnt know how serious we are. and if she did for that matter she would throw a fit and tell me how i was wasting my life. anyway best of luck to you and your familly.

Welcome to PTO and how WONDERFUL to hear that you are standing along side your daughter and her boyfriend in this.

You will find lots of support and friendship here as well. Please encourage his family to join us as well.

mrsd

Welcome to PTO and the Extended Family forum. I wish I had family even remotely as cool as you are. PM me if you ever need anything.

Blossom,
my mom fliped out at first, now just doesn't ask me nothing. I wish there were more supportive people like you! Good luck

hi Blossom Im sorry what happened to your daughters boyfriend, it must be hard on her. Im hurting cause my older brother is in prison. Im glad you help her get throuh this. many hugs

I'm new to this forum (spent most of my time so far in the Australia NZ forum) And when i read this post i thought- there should be more mothers out there like you!!! My mother knows my honey is in prison- she knew of him before he and i met, and when she found out we were getting friendly she told me straight out that he was not welcome at our house, and she has only met him once or twice (and my father not at all). I tell you what- there should be more supportive mothers out there like you! I have never been in trouble with the law, and my relationship with him hasn't changed that- i just wish she's realise that he won't be a bad influence on me, and that this is hard for me too- i need the support right now! Good on you Blossom, for being open minded and supportive and a loving mother.

My heart goes out to you and you are a truly blessed LADY

Dear Leanne,
Welcome from across the ditch!!
It's great to hear that you are going thru this as a family together.I don't know what the boy did but I hope that he uses his time inside positively and realises ( as I have )that being a guest of her majesty isn't much fun.
Best wishes to you ,your daughter and your entire family.

It is so nice to hear that you fully support your daughter and her boyfriend.My mom supports me and my man also .Being that this is his first offense maybe he won't have to do alot of time.Not alot of parents understand nor do they want to.I'm sure as long as she has you in her corner she will be fine

You seem like a great Mom , I wish more parents-families were like you .My family does not agree to my being with Joe , I dont care though , they dont live my life or pay my bills so I love who I love regardless of what any of them think

Welcome to PTO Blossom! Glad to have you hear. Let me start off my saying your a great mom, and believe it or not, your daughter will never forget the support your giving her, and her boyfriend/fiance is just as gratful. Im in the same boat except kens been locked up 7 months. My mom and dad have been more supportive then i thought they would ever be. I have my really down days, and my mom is right by my side with a tissue and a good mother daughter chat, and my dad, he does his best to be there for me ..he loves talking about the funny things ken and my dad did together (they were totatally father/son lol) and my brother, well hes only 18 and he has definitly been great to me. he gets me through a rough day.
Blossom, your a great mom, friend, person. I think anyone in this situation can use someone as wonderful as you and or my family.

Hope everyone has a great night...keep your heads up...and just fight for what you love

I wish I had a mom like you. I can't even tell her he is in prison. I just told her, he moved because she would just look down on me for being with him.

I just want to say that if all mothers were like you, then this would be so much easier for us. My mother is very supportive of me and my husband and God knows that I would not have made it this far without her support and guidance. My mother in law however is the exact opposite. I hope and pray that all goes well for you and your family during all this. Your daughter is very lucky to have you.

Blossom62,
I think it is wonderful that you are being supportive of both your daughter and her boyfriend. He will need all the support he can get right now. I hope his own mother is as supportive as you are.
Chipper62