Was your man addicted to something, and it got him in the place he is today?


James was a major drug user and needed to "come up" and well long story stort his addiction landed him 5 years again. Lucky we only have 2 1/2 left!

No, he wasn't on anything when he got locked up.

look at that statistic. unbelievable.. just really crazy... i never could imagine what it is like on drugs. i never been. but my husband after he met me met a girl who was heavily into dope she got him hooked on it. i didnt see him during those last two years only two times but he looked normal it was during the day and i saw him in staten island in 1990 on bay street fixing the harley i bought him in 1989. he was nice but our conversation lasted 5 minutes.
then it started with the robberies and him being on a 100-200 a day herion kick. she died in 1993 and he overdosed in 99 realizing what the hell was he doing he has been drug free ever since.

yes, he was. that is why now he is a big advocate of saying no to drugs and a member of the prisons youth awareness program.

Yup, my husband was drunk, high on speed, and had been up for days (he was hiding his drug use from me). The great news is that he has been sober ever since the day he was arrested, and he is out now for 3 months clean and sober, and he loves it. He has a total of 19 months 10 days sobriety.

there were drugs involved but he wasnt using them. he sold them. he never done any drugs.

Everytime my son got in trouble he was on drugs

yes drugs where involved. he says that prison saved his life!!I beleive that.....

yes he was 2 very bad drugs he didnt need to be doing

Yes, he was under the influence of at least a lot of alcohol..maybe some pot too, when crime happened...
The victim came in high as a kite, and was raging as well. :(

my fiance was high when he commited his crimes and he has a drug problem when he was sober i loved him and when he was high i still loved him but it made him do some dumb s*** he was sniffing coke smoking angel dust crack and weed all the time. so drugs played a major role in his actions because he commited those burglerys 4 money to get his drugs.

The reason my is in is because is was on drugs and selling them..

yes my ex was a meth addict when he landed himself in prison

Why am I so apprehensive about answering "yes" to this question?

I would guess a good 60 to 70 % of the time, if not more, a harmful substance is the cause of why people are in jail/prison. No one makes any good choices when they drink/are involved w/drugs.

Yes hers were done cuz of drugs

Meth addict. That drug really messes with your mind, and my man didnt know which way was up when he was arrested.

Yes my hubby was high on drugs, otherwise he would never have done the things he did.

Yes, he was under the influence all three times he broke the law. I read some where that 75% of all crimes are committed while the person was under the influence. That is an eye-opening percentage.

My husband felt like he needed to get off coke - so he & his friend started manufacturing meth...I'm sure you an guess how it went from there.

He's been revoked twice now & will be released in 15 months. We'll see what happens next.

You know I had to respond to this thread. I told my husband for 19 years that he was going to land in jail or worse Prison. Well he is now serving 4 years in Prison. Down 4 months. His was booze. I do beleive that this man will never touch another drop in his life, but look what he had to go through to figure that out. I told him over & over & tried everything under the sun.....nothing worked. They have to figure it out for themselves. Same thing for me & cigs. I plan on beating the habit before he his released.

Good luck to you Larry's Wife!!! I hope you do put those cigarettes down for good, and when you do, please advise how I can do that too. It is a hard addiction to overcome :(

alcohol and coke was mines drug of choice...always on something landed him 6 years for robbery...23 with a kid and doing damn well id have to say...hes got 22 months left and its been hell already

Welcome swtnsxy513. I hope that after his 6 year sentence he will be able to stop the addictive behavior for his own sake. An addict once told me that they knew their continued pattern would lead two places- institutionalized ( either in rehab, prison, or even possibly a mental institution) or death. Of course, rehab is the best option to stop the rest from occurring!!!!
Hang in there, for the child's sake, and let him know while you love him, you will not put up with his addictions any longer. It is called 'not enabling' him anymore. Hugs! I know this has been hell to you...

Yes, they are the reason. Both times he's been locked up was because he was hustling and stealing to come up with drug money. Now we're still waiting for sentencing.

(((((((((((((((Billy'sBabygirl)))))))))))))))))))) )
You know we are hoping and praying for the best !!! :yes:

Yes, several days worth of drinking and smoking dope. All it cost him was the rest of his life.:(

((((((((((Les)))))))))))))) I know what you mean..... :( HUGS!!!

My son is an alcoholic and got his 4th DWI because of it. When it got to the point the alcohol wasn't enough he used meth or whatever he could find.

I am so sorry to hear that Katybee. :( I hope and pray this time he will want to change for his own sake. A life in and out of prison is horrid, and heaven forbid if he hit someone while driving under the influence!!!! I wish you all the best!!!!!!!!!

thank you for your support..i do love him and hope hes different when he comes home..

I've posted this over & over but wanted to tell it again. Yes....my husband was drunker than a skunk. Clean record up to this point in his life & he was 46. But he had always been LUCKY! This time it got him 4 years. With God willing however, I beleive deep down in my heart, that this man will never ever take another drink in his life. We are divorced right now, but plan on marrying him again when he is a free man and starting all over fresh. Throwing all old bad memories away to never remember again.

Sure was....but in the end he was considered dealer and not a user.

Crap if you ask me....the using is was stemmed to his selling, to support his habbit and his life style.

yES HE WAS BECAUSE WHEN HE WAS ONLY SMOKINGF WEED HE NEVER TOUCHED ME AND WE HE STARTED MISSING WITH OTHER DRUGS HE STARTED ABUSING ME...

the only reason he is in this time is because he did not see his parole officer and moved so broke parole and now he will serve out.

Yes my ex was smoking weed when he got caught but he wasn't really a user just a seller....i hope he has learned from his mistakes cause his daughter needs him now and he isn't here.

My friend was on drugs when his crimes were committed. He was selling them to pay for his own addiction and got caught. I think that his time in jail is a shame but at the same time it got him away from them and I pray that it will keep him off of them when he returns home in a couple of years.
I do know that rehab offers a great amount of help. My husband (who has never been incarcerated..thank goodness) was on any kind of drug he could find for many years. Finally it brought him to the point of disaster....that is losing me and his kids. He took it to heart when I said get help or I will leave. I know that many people do not like the methadone clinics that have been placed throughout many states. However with our experience it has worked out for the best. I have to admit that the drug is as addictive as the others yet he doesn't want the other drugs therefore it makes his attitude better and he has also gotten a job and accepted his responsibilities as a husband and a father. We are 2 years into the treatment program and for a lifetime user that is doing pretty good. Hopefully within another year the treatment will be over and he will be completely drug free. I hope that all people that are addicted to things realize that it is no different than smiking cigarettes or drinking. Although the bad behavior might not be evident we are still addicted to those things therefore we can relate to the affects of addiction.

Chuy is an alcoholic although he doesnt think so but
I've lived with one in the past and I know that's what he is!
He thinks because he can give up drinking sometimes that
doesnt make him an alcoholic, but everytime he gets drunk he
cant control his emotions and his emotions tend to be one's
that make his do stupid things and he was drinking the night
that this happened and he was drinking the night that he got
shot, you think that he would have learned when he got shot
to stop drinking but he didnt now he's doing 9-30 years in
prison because of his drinking and to be honest I think what's
next Death from Drinking because if he cant get some kind
of control on it than I couldnt see it leading to anything else!


KarrieMI

We ended it over his addictions, well actually he did me a favor when he realized he was slipping back into old patterns more and more he broke up with me and pretty much fell off the planet.Im greatful actually now, but back then I was hurt and confused... Started partying HARD seeing some other chic and well they were already having issues cause he called me all upset a couple weeks before just to talk. Enough time had passed where I wasnt too pissed off anymore and I could talk to him. I told him he needed to get help, talk to somebody less emotionally involved because I couldnt be objective, or get into rehab do something..... Well he didnt and I didnt hear from him for a couple weeks in July so I did a search on the net and sure enough found him saw that he was in custody but no info he was already out on parole. When he got sentenced and he was finally somewhere I could write I did. Turns out the party girl and him got into fight he took her truck,ran from the cops, smushed her truck.... And of course he was drunk at the time. I hope this time he gets the help he needs, and recognizes patterns of behavior. Im being the supportive friend I dont want to be his g/f cause I dont believe thats the right decision for either of us but I dont think he should go thru all this alone.

Yes, my friend was back on heroin again after being clean for 8 years. Well he said he was clean, but who really knows. The lies and the stealing from me and my kids started once he started using again. At first I really couldn't tell, until he overdosed and I found him on the bathroom floor. And then things got real bad. I finally had to let him go, I couldn't take it anymore. The road he was going down was not a road I wanted to travel. Now he is doing another 7 years for bankrobbery. He swears he is clean again, and he won't ever touch the stuff again, but he said all that before.... I just keep praying for him and hope once he is out he will be able to make it on the outside without drugs.

I am not going to say that drugs made him do it...he has stupid friends too but, yes he was high. You tell a man to quit smoking or quit anything for their own good and they say ok...then the next week you get a call saying "you have a collect call from _________ a inmate at such a place".

My penapl was high and it cost him his freedom

yea he was on meth and herion and later admitted to be on crack!!! I think he was trying to kill himself!! And I honestly believe that's why it happened!!!!!

My fiance' was a hardcore alcoholic, and he was drinking the night he committed his crime

No drugs did not make him commit his crime, maybe it would have been more understandable if he was high???

Yes, alcohol IS his crime (DUI).

He was high on meth and drunk....but getting arrested saved his life and our relationship!

He was high on meth and drunk....but getting arrested saved his life and our relationship!

i agree 100 % and so does he

Josh was three times over the legal limit when he did his crime. I know that he was headed to alcoholism. I don't know if he was there yet but he was on his way. Now he may spend the rest of his life in prison for his alcohol. He'll never even smell the stuff again the way he hates what he's done. I guess if it were me then I would feel the same way. It's his first DUI and now he may never see his boys again.

Yes my Jailbird was smoking water when he was here. But he just got into the drug program on the inside:thumbsup:

smoking water?

Jim's definatly was drugs. He had been using them since he was 16. He was abused as a child mentally and physically. His sisters think thats why he ended up choosing the path he did. He was locked up in jail twice and got out. The last time he got caught he ended up in prison for almost four yrs. I've know him and his family for 24 yrs now. I never did use drugs period. I never thought I would end up with someone that had or was using them. I told him I wouldn't stay with him unless he quit totally. I'm sticking to my word to. They think they are invincable when they are druged up, but look where it lands them in the end.

Jim's definatly was drugs. He had been using them since he was 16. He was abused as a child mentally and physically. His sisters think thats why he ended up choosing the path he did. He was locked up in jail twice and got out. The last time he got caught he ended up in prison for almost four yrs. I've know him and his family for 24 yrs now. I never did use drugs period. I never thought I would end up with someone that had or was using them. I told him I wouldn't stay with him unless he quit totally. I'm sticking to my word to. They think they are invincable when they are druged up, but look where it lands them in the end.

This sound's very like my ex-boyfriend and me. He went from foster home to foster home after his dad died (he was an alcoholic who was robbed and murdered on the street).

Now the police are looking for him again.

I said yes but he wasnt doing them rather like selling them so they are y he went in

My husband was drunk when he got arrested but he was an drug user before that and he stopped that and started drinking. He know realizes that he can not handle that either. He had to learn a hard lesson and a lesson he has learned. He will be spending a trip total of 19 months for one day of fun.

yes.

my cousins baby daddy JON who is currently doing a 3 yr sentence was on all sorts of pills. & he only committed these crimes while under the influence. he has a beautiful 4 yr old daughter that he hasnt seen in almost 2 yrs. ITS A SHAME. he said when he gets out he's turning his life around. I HOPE SO. he has been in and out of juvenile hall growing up & its sad that our system doesnt handle these cases better; then maybe our guys/girls wouldnt be in this situation. locking them up doesnt stop their drug use it just prevents them from getting to it NOW, but whats gonna change when theyget out? we're trying to work out a deal to maybe letting him do his last 6 months ina rehab? IDK any help would be appreciated

He (we) commited the crimes to get more money for drugs (crack). That crap gets a death grip on your soul and won't let go....:( He wouldn't stay off of it for more than 2 days at a time, tops. And on those days, he would sleep all day.

My dad was on drugs (so he says) when he commits his crimes. He claims to have been on speed and coke but i don't know how to accept this well because he used to watch my daughter while i worked and went to the gym (sometimes soon after he wandered in the house-i knew he stole...didn't know he was on drugs) and i am wondering if something (probably not-but it is the betrayl of trust that makes me question it) ever happened to my daughter.

My sperm donor was liquored up when he committed the crime he was detained for 2 years for (he ended up getting aquitted at trial-but they took it to the 11th hour) and from what i understand and know has at least been drunk when he committed his crimes.

My current dude is in jail illegally, but he was on prescription meds after being shot when he was arrested. He wasn't committing any crimes though. In the past i am not sure about. I'll ask later and get back to you. Wow! Never even thought to ask.

I will say in general they are part of the reason but not the sole reason. In the case of my ex i know that liquor and weed and stuff always made him feel bolder. Maybe that is the case for other as well.

yupp....he was addicted to heroine. But, he's been clean now for 2.5 yrs!!! I told him he ever touches a drug again- I will be there for him as a friend, but nothing more.

Yes he was into the drugs hard core and with that came the B&E's to suport his habbit.

My son is in prison now for the 3rd time on drug related charges and parole violation. Yes, he did a lot of stupid things while on drugs, but could never see it for himself.

Mine had had a few beers, but not enough to mess up his judgement as much as he did that night. I wish I could blame it on something, other than him....

Yes, every bit of it. Mine needed to get money to get the drugs so yes he eventually got hit with another bid of Burglary again

Yes He was strung out on "Meth", he was also dealing it among other things, he was on all that when he got in this trouble that got him locked up, only a little over 6 more months to go!!! WOO HOO:D

Yes, my love is heroin addict, has been since his college days and spent most of his life behind bars. I just hope and pray this time will be his last.

yes heroin, now clean for 1 year he was addicted for 2 years. Hope that it is all over.

mine has a heroin problem too. He stayed clean almost 2 years this last time. Is your man doing methadone treatment, or just cold turkey? I've seen mine relapse multiple times doing cold turkey and I really want him to do the methadone treatment if he comes home and relapses this time. from what I've read, methadone hits alot of the same brain receptors as heroin, but a person can still function, work, have relationships, etc.

Yes SHE was. A theft to support a habit.

My fiancee was very strung out on drugs when he got incarcerated. As much as I hate him being locked up away from me, I honestly believe that him being arrested saved his life. He was on the way down a long, hard path of drugs and violence.

I didn't vote he doesn't blame the alcohol or pot he had used so I can't say that was the reason, but I can say he was under the influence at the time. He done it he is guilty he ain't gonna blame it on anything but himself, I don't believe he was so messed up he didn't know what he was doing. It may of given him some I don't care feelings, so he didn't chicken out, but he still made the choice. (a really dumb, bad bad bad choice)

omg. a no answer box, i did vote my bad ya'll

Getting into trouble as the result of an addiction or drug use can be the wakeup call some people need to do something about it. It's the harshest of harsh lessons, but some of us have thick skulls and need to run into a brick wall (sometimes more than once) before we figure out that we can indeed do something better with our lives.

I answered earlier in the thread for my ex - yes, DUI would certainly be due to alcohol.

Now for my pen-pal, yes, he was on meth and paranoid....carried a gun as a result.....felon in possesion of a firearm has him in this time.

Yep Stan was drunk & high he wanted money to go and get more crack....he is back in jail for violation of probation for not going to a court ordered drug program...dork!

no he's just bad to the bone

Ozzy Ozborne sings a song called Demon Alcohol!:angry:

Yes, DUI, other than than never in trouble.

ACTUALLY MY MAN WAS GOING THRU WITHDRAWALS AT THE TIME OF HIS CRIME

My baby would be home if he had not been "under the DEMON influence", his addiction HAD a hold of him. He's done with it, going down was his wake up call. Going down saved his life......on so many levels.

My man has had a nine year addiction to Heroine and now has found the safety of jail to help him kick his habbit. I think it was a blessing in disguise.

Both my sons were high when they committd thier crimes. Thier crimes were a direct result of using. Dealing and Burglery.

No. We dont do drugs or alcohol.

yes, he was on meth... had been for nearly 2 yrs. he says getting caught may have saved his life.

yeah me n my man were drunk and i dont know if he was doin n e thing else but he was locked up and i knew he had done some stuff b4 i dont wanna put him out like that but he has told me all the stuff he has went thru with it and now hes changin his life hes been having bible study in there and writing me about it and ive been having my own as well and now he wants to come home leave that life in the past start a family and go to the hall together and live happy :)

yes, every time as his were all DUis and when drunk he is mean and beligerent. he said he drinks himself into a pair of handcuffs time and again.

he was not on any drugs...he has never done any in his life...just sold them...i don't look at him as a criminal...HE JUST MADE A BAD BUSINESS DECISION

Everytime my son got in trouble he was on drugs I know exactly what you are saying. my son too. yet not once did they ever even offer treatment of some kind. the system is really messed up, and needs to be changed. :angry:

Heroine and Coke/CRACK also landed Tommy into prisons many(3) times.....

My baby would be home if he had not been "under the DEMON influence", his addiction HAD a hold of him. He's done with it, going down was his wake up call. Going down saved his life......on so many levels.

The same can be said for my boyfriend. The reason he is currently in is b/c of cocaine use and this time it really hit him in the bum. Ultimately, this time around was the official "wake up" call.

my son has struggled for years with alcohol and occasionally, other drugs. Even when he got clean...his so called friends :mad: would not leave him alone and it was too easy for him to hide from life behind numbness. It was a vicious circle for many years...luckily it was all co jail time
However, this time...even tho he had been sober for quite some time...slipped up, make a stupd decision while under the influence and he is now in prison and just received his first flop.

How did you handle it whrn "friends" came along and gave them the squeeze or your not cool anymore attitude? Even when I put my foot down, they would just come over when im not home.

Yes, Alex has been and was on drugs once again, it has been a cycle for many years. I'm happy for you; James is coming home.

pili

Yes, Stinky Pot was stoned off of both weed and alcohol and a bad attitude contributed to the crime he committed.

Hi Everyone.YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:angry: My husband was under the influence of drugs and alcohol.That means,not only did he mess up his life at the moment,but me and our children are stuck with all of the backlash of HIS choices!Its easier for us to forgive,because we LOVE him,but for others,........well I really can't speak for them.When Daniel comes home in Feb.08,he will have alot of atoning to do.roxieann

my man was selling painkillers and coke to support his oxy habit which is an expensive habit.he got charged for selling but he was using more of his own supply than really ever selling.Good thing is hes in prison and its helped sober him up being drug free has helped him appreciate and see life for what it is.hopefully he keeps that attitude up when he gets out

My Fiance Was On Meth And Thought Someone Was Trying To Kill Him He Had Been Up For Almotst A Week Only Taking Small Naps. He Also That Prison Saved His Life. Now He Has To Make Up For His Mistakes And The Time That He Has Lost With Our Children Due To His Actions I Just Pray That He Can Stay Clean And Be Here For Our Children.

yes, my husband was on prescribed pills, but not taking them as prescribed:angry: thats why he is in this time. hopefully this is the last i think this has give him time to realize he was wasting his life. so now he has a whole different outlook on life and is a different person than he was when he went in:) this time also has saved our marriage:D :D

Yes, my brother was high on coke. :( I really hope he stays clean from now own. I was so scared when I learned about his drug habits. I don't want to say that drugs were responsible because he has admitted he was wrong and claims responsibility, and I am proud of him for that. Obviously drugs played a big role in decreasing the quality of his life, though, as well as harming his relationship with his gf.

My husband is an alcoholic and was intoxicated when he was arrested and stayed that way until about a week or 2 before he SS.

I was at the end of my rope with him and I thankd God everyday he's where he is. Prison saved his life and our marriage.

Randy is an alcoholic and he stole the 4 wheeler on a whim, bad decision. He did it in June '06 and we were together Dec '06... he finally got picked up for prison in Nov '07 but the entire time we were together he didn't get drunk so he's overcome the addiction and now he's gotta pay for the past. He'll be 100% clean of everything once he's out. Only things he touched recently were weed/alcohol and he tried pills/crack for about a week way back and said he's glad he never got hooked on any of them.

Tommy finally told me his whole ordeal of the Robbery. He is in for bank robbery with no weapon...He was on crack and had $150 of crack in his MOUTH when he was arrested...They finally discovered it, but one rock fell out of the plastic baggy and he chewed it up ate it and was sent to the hospital before they could book him. He started using THC when he was in the 6th grade and drugs/alcohol have been his issues since he was 12....sad life. He has been down on this charge 13+ years but has only been sober 3 years..He was smoking weed and drinking home made wine in prison for 10 years..he is hard to change but has finally sobered up now that he has Hep C, Diabetes, High Blood Pressure and is nearly blind due to teh Diabetes...FINALLY realizes his body can not handle anymore abuse from drugs...

Yes he was and he fully admits to the reason he committed the crime was because of the drugs and alcohol.

Yes, every time my love has ever gotten into any trouble, there's been alcohol involved. When he's not drinking, he's very rational.

mine was on a crack binge for 7 days maybe longer , he assaulted his previous girlfriend, they both were ch.. so out of charachter for him so i strongly feel it was the drugs

Only things he touched recently were weed/alcohol and he tried pills/crack for about a week way back and said he's glad he never got hooked on any of them.[/QUOTE]

ONly thing?!...and Tried it for a week?! Don't believe a word of this:angry:
think about it...ask who he was with when he "tried" the crack, and then go ask them if he has ever "tried" it again. Would you believe a small child if he told you he "tried" a taste of sugar, and then told you "Whew mommy, I'm glad I never got hooked"....becareful!

Yes. He was drunk and had a blackout.

oops my comment above was directed for silversgirl...I quoted wrong...girl can you trust this man? I would think ling and hard before getting married.

Yes, definitely. My hubby was on meth when he committed the crimes, 3 1/2 years ago. Now he is clean and got picked up on a probation violation. If he was not on meth for most of our relationship, he would not have been on probation to begin with. Bad Drugs :blah:

My ex husband was messed up too but I believe he has always been an angry person and the drugs and alcohol just helped him release his rage without remorse or feelings. But that is just an excuse for my ex because I believe him to be very mental too.

Yes he was and he fully admits to the reason he committed the crime was because of the drugs and alcohol.

I agree to this one, My man has been on drugs and alcohol for his past teen and adult yrs close to 19 yrs, he never asked for help but was crying out for help deep inside but nobody wanted to help cause he never wanted it .. But i believe this time has really did him in he is 38 yrs old and he knows its time to grow up , he knows he is just runing his life and his family and i believe this time has made him relize it as much as we all was hoping!!

I will NO MATTER what stand by man but he knows i wont oput up with it anymore!! its either the drugs or me!! i been down the same raod and been clean for 3 1/2 yrs and i have no intention on letting anyone or anything come in bewtween my soberity i fought way to hard for this!!!


So i do believe he will be a man and be strong about everything and keep his soberity himself!!!

Wish you all well!

Yes, My boyfriend was way messed up, his addiction led to his crime, I wasn't together with him when he got in trouble, but shortly afterward, I wish I was with him before it happened, cause it never would haved he quit using when we got together.

The thing is our justic system has no intention of rehabiliting people that get incarcerated, let alone trying to provide counseling for those addicted to drugs and alcohol. The government needs to make a concerted effort towards rehabilitation, provide job training, intense counseling, interventions for relapses. This would really be beneficial for the inmates and their families.

The thing is our justic system has no intention of rehabiliting people that get incarcerated, let alone trying to provide counseling for those addicted to drugs and alcohol. The government needs to make a concerted effort towards rehabilitation, provide job training, intense counseling, interventions for relapses. This would really be beneficial for the inmates and their families.

I COULDNT OF SAID IT ANY BETTER!

My son was alcoholic, a major factor of the crime he comitted.

My Ex was also under the influence of METH when his crime was committed, & sadly too, also a Dealer of that drug. :(

Ok heres my husbands story. He used to be with this other girl for 4 years, she tried to kill herself when he left her( she did not die!), and he didnt take it to well that someone he had cared about tried to hurt herself when he realized they werent meant for each other. She had gone crazy, stole his money, crashed his car, cursed his mother out etc. He got hand surgury a month later and they gave him percocets. He became addicted(very common) i met him a year later. I didnt notice it, because i only knew him as someone addicted but once i found out a few months later i put a stop to it he cleaned up and i was head over heels He got addicted again due to his heroin addicted scum of a brother whose done nothing but lie and steal from us, he tried kicking the heroin by doing perc and Rob fell back into that life style. He didnt do his crime for the drug but he was on it when it happened so he wasnt thinking clearly. He says prison saved his life, he feels great and never wants to give up on life. He says the day i met him i saved his life because he knows he would have overdosed and he fell so in love with me he couldnt leave me here without him. Hes getting his GED and welding certification when he goes to prison, the mans been clean for almost 5 months and has plans for our life. I'm so proud :)

Yes! If he wasn't DRUNK this wouldn't have happened!! :mad:

my husband was sellin powder and snortin it....he is where he is for it....prison saved his life too

Yes. He was drunk.

I think he was under the influence. but the only thing he did was driving with no licence. VOP

yes my hubby is where he is today because of drugs.. meth was his drug of choice. Honestly, I think him getting caught and going to prison actually saved his life. Ive never seen him look so healthy. I pray every day that he can beat it this time.

He started with drugs and alcohol when he was a teenager. I always knew he was into stuff (we were childhood friends) but I never knew how bad. We lost touch, he was high on coke and drunk when he did his crimes. We werent together during those times. Nobody (his family) ever held him accountable. His mother always gave him more money and tried to cover it up and would baby him. When we started dating seriously I still didnt know the extent. I thought he was only into pot and drinking, which was bad enough. Not until he was picked up on DUI warrants did I know that he was into coke too. (which was from before)
Prison saved him and us. Who knows if he would've O.D.ed one day or if we would've made it through all that drama.
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yes he was dealing. regrets everything to do with it.

Yes, he was drunk. :(

Yes, he was high and did make some stupid moves.

yes...he was drunk every time he got in trouble. but he's on his way to a halfway house now thank G-d. hopefully it will work for him.

my fiance was using coke,and to calm himself down, he took xanex. Both drugs combined made his heart stop. He was found passed out in his car in a church parking lot. He was taken to the hospital, hospitalized, then released. He's in prison now for felon in posession of a firearm. They found the gun in his car when they towed it.

Just curious: was his original conviction a drug offense? I believe the prohibitions on "felons" owning firearms should be reviewed, especially in the case of non-violent offenders. Furthermore, the definition of what constitutes a firearm needs to be clarified in at least some states. Under Minnesota law, for example, a slingshot, water pistol, a vacuum cleaner or air pump with an "exhaust" fitting, or one's own throwing arm if used to throw a ball meets the definition of a "firearm". It's rather difficult to imagine that anyone, convicted felon or not, could possibly meet the letter of the law.

Curiously enough, a bow, which meets the Minnesota definition of a firearm, may be legally possessed by a convicted felon. A crossbow or a paintball gun may not.

And if you're not a convicted felon, Minnesota has an entire class of "crimes of violence" (many of which do not involve actual violence or injury), conviction for which also bars the possession of firearms. Whatever that may mean in Minnesota.

he was in prison 2 years ago and since it hadnt been 5 years since his last conviction, in Texas, you are not allowed have possession of a firearm until the five years pass.

OK--it's different in every state. Five years is not bad. In Minnesota it's a lifetime ban, assuming you are sentenced for a crime that fits in with one of the group listed under "crimes of violence". Ten years after your sentence is complete, you can apply for a pardon, but even that does not necessarily restore your firearms rights.

No, he was just a habitual criminal, did it for the rush.

im glad im not the only one who has drugs as the reason.

tj..was an addict and even though he was high as could be- he always wanted to come up too. we talk about it alot now....he felt like he had something to prove to everyone. Ironic that all he proved was he could go back to prison. We both know drugs were the reason he was messing up. and we know that if we want to do right and stay together after he gets out in january- we have to be sober. drugs suck. they arent worth the pain.

yes he was. as he has no memory of that night anymore, he was accused by an other..... and as he is honest, he says I "dont know". the state takes this as a proof of guilt............ the facts lay different........ but truth is: alcohol and medication are the reason at the end, he is in prison today!

Yes, Teemo has a really bad binge drinking problem. He's so good at hiding it and lying to everyone who tried to help him. Total Jekyll & Hyde thing going on.
I'm really hoping he uses this time to try and get a handle on his addiction. He's already signed up for a bunch of programs so *fingers crossed*

Yes my son was stinking drunk, and I suspect maybe meth too, since his exgirlfriend was a raging meth head. Got in his vehicle to flee after stabbing someone, and wrecked and totaled his truck. Doesn't remember too much about his crime, that night, but was driving on a suspended license after a previous DUI. He almost killed himself and someone else that night, and he turned 21 while still in county.

Yes, My Son Was Very Drunk. Alcohol Impaired His Judgment, But It Doesn't Matter. It's Not A Defense In The Legal System. He Was On Meth For 10 Years! Then He Turned To Liquor!

My husband was addicted to Morphine and Marijuana. Sometimes he would take a bunch of Xanax and thats when he blacked out and committed his crimes (robberies). I didn't realize just how bad it was. I'm not a drug user and I can't understand addiction. He has been BACK in prison for 2 weeks and already got busted for having morphine, xanax and tobacco. There goes our visitation for the next 6 months. I am glad he never hurt anyone or stole from me, and he's not on coke, meth, etc. (the real scary stuff) but its still DRUGS. I am at my wits end and very depressed about him being on drugs, the drugs causing him to commit crimes, and that he's still using while in prison.

my man has told me several times if he had never done drugs he would of never been in trouble the thing is he cant get the help he needs in there

My husband was on drugs and that is why he is in there now.

My daughter was on heroin and broke into a house.

My man had a addiction to meth, and that is why he is serving time now. He made some really stupid decisions and ended up on Prison.

I know that drugs were a big part of it i use to always find baggies and flush them down the toilet, He NEVER slept and since he never slept he wanted to be out tagging and doing stupid stuff. ARRRRGH Now im getting mad all over again thinking bout it.:angry::mad:

no, he was fully sober.

He was staying in a hotel room, on crank, when the cops came into his room and arrested him...

My son had been drinking at a friend's house, and tried to drive home on an unfamiliar road. He didn't see the stop sign, and that was a very costly mistake. People think alcohol is okay, but it's a drug too. It has probably ruined more lives than all the other drugs put together.

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yes mine was also he was a crack addict and thats why he's in now it landed him 5yrs too.

my husband was on a 9 day drug binge and commited all his crimes in those 9 days, when i finally found him in the streets he didnt even look like himself, he hadnt ate, slept or showered in those 9 days, i thought he was going to die so i begged him to get in the car to just talk to me and i drove him out of the drug area and we met up with his father where we asked him to do the right thing and turn himself in so he said ok and we took him home so he could shower, eat and nap and about 8 hours later i dropped him off at the county jail and he's been locked up ever since and still has a whole lot of time left to go :( even thou its sad and it sucks it was still the best way to get him off the streets, i'd rather visit him IN prison then have to bring flowers to his grave...........................

My son is 31 and has been addicted to drugs and alcohol since he was a teenager. This is his first time in prison but he has been in jail many times - all of them because of his addictions. He has been in rehab several times and spent years (off and on) in AA. I see people get sober all the time - I don't know why it is so much harder for some. The saddest thing now is that he has a wife two small children who are suffering for his mistakes.

I am involved with a great support group for addicts and family members of addicts - Palmer Drug Abuse Program. We are in several major Texas cities - just google PDAP. They also have a group for children of addicts to help them cope with this disease in their families. I am with the San Antonio group. I hope to see some of you there.

Mary

yes he was dope sick and needed to get some where quick before the hook up left and he stole a car and got busted !!

mine was drunk and high when he commited his crime, took prison to realize that this life was worth so much more.

My fiance was blackout drunk when his assault charge occurred. Many other bad things have happened in both of our lives due to drinking alcohol. This was a major wakeup call, and I know that we have both learned terrible, yet life saving, lessons..

my husband was very drunk at the time. i'm sure this would never have happened if he had been sober at that time. he sure wishes he could go back to that night. he's been in for 13 years and 4 months now. what a waste of life huh?

Yes mine was heavily on drugs when the crime was commited but had been clean for around 9 months when the D.A filed on his case :( I'm sure 6yrs in will make him stay clean forever :)

Ok, when he went down the first time he was definitely strung out. This warrant that he's been extradicted for is from the same time period. I just can't figure out why he's just now getting charged for it. We are talking five years after the fact. I just have to wonder, how many more things will pop up from the past. What bothers me now, is that he got clean and has stayed clean and to him it feels like we have a good life but he won't ever be able to escape that old life if they keep bringing him back, he said the other day, that I am the only reason he won't use when he gets out, just because he knows that I am always there. Period.

Ok, when he went down the first time he was definitely strung out. This warrant that he's been extradicted for is from the same time period. I just can't figure out why he's just now getting charged for it. We are talking five years after the fact. I just have to wonder, how many more things will pop up from the past. What bothers me now, is that he got clean and has stayed clean and to him it feels like we have a good life but he won't ever be able to escape that old life if they keep bringing him back, he said the other day, that I am the only reason he won't use when he gets out, just because he knows that I am always there. Period.

wow that's crazy...5yrs later they charged him! In cali they have 1yrs and 1 day to file on old charges

When my fiance first got in trouble he was driving drunk and got in a car accident and almost killed his ex girlfriend...They hit a tree going 95mph on her side and it messed her up bad...but that was in 2006, He was sentanced to One year in the county jail and two years felony probation...Then this past July, he got his first probation violation and they sent him to prison for two years...Thats redundant how it was his first probation violation for failing a drug screen for THC and absconding felony probations. and we know a girl who has 19 felony probation violations and she just got sentanced to a county year for Absconding felony probation and failing a drug screen for Heroin..
The judicial system is so messed up...


If the only place I can be with you is in my dreams...
Then I'll sleep your time away....<3

My hubby was messed up on pills when he did his crime.. Not only did he take them he sold them just to support his habit.... I tried countless times to get him help but he never admitted to me that he had a problem.. It took him going to jail to finally tell me that he had an addiction and needs help.. It took the da sentencing him to 3 years behind bars to realize oh shit i have a problem and i fucked up.. But i am still here and still standing by his side we have been together forever and we will make it thru this!!

Yes my hubby was a dope boy he sold drugs and then spent the money to get high on weed ,xanax and codine in liquid form .So the xanax made us fight and he would stay gone so messed up that he would get cought standing on the block with mass amts of dope the codine made him broke and stay out which made us fight and the weed well it didn't do any thing but keep him from a job which made us fight so there is my life on drugs haahaaaaa

Nathan was not on drugs, but was drunk for each violation. He knows he has a drinking problem but refuses to stop. I am hoping this 2nd time in prison will finally knock some sense into him. (I was not with him when he was in the 1st time, for the EXACT same reasons) He goes from prison to probation for 3 years, and was told by the judge no drinking, not even allowed to be in a liquor store. I said something to him about it, and his reply was "I can drink as long as I don't get introuble"
He's got 2 years to think about it. I hope he's changed his ways by then.

I suspect mine was on Angel Dust, PCP at the time he attempted to do the stupidest move of his life that cost him his freedom and finger. But He swears he doesnt have a drug problem. This is an issue that is taboo for us we just started to speak on it. He has never been "strung out" on drugs or stealing to do them but he does Dust and Heroin that I know of from other people because he is ashamed to bring it to me. but I am forcing him to bring it to me now because he has a a year and a half left and I need to know. I really do not know how to handle this drug situation at all.

I met my baby 3 years ago through a friend. He's a private contractor and I worked for him. He was a strong Christian man when I met him. He didn't use drugs, drink, smoke cigarettes. He was the vice president of a Christian motorcycle group. He had everything; 3 boats, cars, trucks, a beautiful house. He took his wife on several cruises; there was nothing he wouldn't do for her.
He found out she was using drugs and he started up; co~enabaling each other... All he wanted was her, all she wanted was other men and that was his reason for using more and more. At first it was because he didn't want to lose her and eventually it ended in the loss of himself.
A couple of years ago he began opening up to me, seeking my advice. I told him then to leave her and get his life together. It happend so fast one day we were working at a site and the next she had filed false domestic violence charges which put him in jail for 8 months.
She sold everything he had while he was in jail, everything but the work van, his tools and the house itself. She even sold the fixtures to the shower and the jacuzzi while having other men live with her and her children in their home.
We all thought he would divorce her while he was incarcerated but he didn't and when he got out he was doing good. Going to meetings, getting back involved in church and work. Until he ran into her at a meeting and she pulled at his heartstrings and of course that didn't work and they were back to chaos and drugs once again.

We ran into each other one evening and by the end of the night we were embraced in a kiss and I knew I was falling in love with him. I stood by him in that time of his downfall-rebellion-craziness; whatever you want to call it. He was so caught up in the crack; he just couldn't stop on his own.
One night he wanted to see me and picked me up. He told me he was putting himself in rehab the next morning. We went out for a ride and next thing I knew we were being pulled over for running a yellow/red light; so I thought...
They arrested him and I took his Mothers car back to the house. I found out the next day he was arrested for another crime non drug related and violated his probation. He did a month and me and his Mother got him out on 20,000 bail. The very first night out he used again. He just couldn't stop. 4 days out I was involved in a high speed chase with him and the police wanted to arrest me for conspiracy. They eventually let me go and kept him.
Well I don't know how this happend but the next day the local police let him walk right out onto the street; as a bail jumper *shrugs* 27 days later they caught up with him and all his warrants. He got 3 years to serve and he's up for parole next August. The night they arrested him he was looking for a means to go out and get more crack...
Drugs will take everything from you, even your freedom. Now he is rehabilitating in jail. He filed for divorce and we are taking one day at a time. If we both follow Jesus I know we will make it through this.

yeah, thats why im 100% against drugs and alcohol..

Alcohol and anger management issue.

My man is an alcoholic and has many mental dissorders, he tends to blackout alot when he is drinking! and at the time of his crime was also addicted to meth! i'm praying that with my suport he will be able to overcome his addiction problems

He was taking pills

My son started using drugs in high school and then started doing lots of really senseless things, which escalated to breaking the law. Each time he was contacted by police he had been using. Each time he appeared for probation violations it was because of positive drug tests ... and when he was using he didn't do what he was supposed to do. Just wanted to get high and thought he could beat the system, or perhaps fool the PO. Well, he is now in prison for probation violation, you guessed it ... dirty urine tests.

Yes Darrell was dusted and drunk when he did what he did. He is now a lifer at sci albion in pa

Why am I so apprehensive about answering "yes" to this question?
If your reason is anything like mine, maybe it is because although he was abusing alcohol at the time of his crime, I do not accept it as the reason, (a contributing factor perhaps), so I answered instead... yes, it caused him to do stupid things. He in my opinion (and now in his own) was a functional alcoholic, he was able to work his 9 to 5 and put in hours and hours of overtime throughout the week performing at an above average level without touching a drop of alcohol. He did his job and did it well, however his philosophy was work hard, and play harder so when the weekend came, it was on. He believed because he didn't drink throughout the week he was not addicted to alcohol... the progression became worse and worse, and he spiraled completely out of control. He was on a path headed for destruction and was to blind and stubborn to recognize it, even when sober. So like I said, I refuse to blame the alcohol for his poor choices.

My husband was addicted to crack cocaine when he committed the crime that landed him in prison. He was trying to support his habit.

my man was drunk, high and beyond sober. nothing close to it. he says it was the worst he had ever been. :X i hate what he used to do. i am terrified he's gonna start smoking and drinking when he comes home.

i am terrified he's gonna start smoking and drinking when he comes home.

ditto

My D was royally messed up on alcohol and drugs when this happened too. I don't accept his disease of alcoholism and drug addiction as an excuse,reason,or justification of what he did. However, as someone else posted it definitely was an contributing factor.

Mine too was addicted to crack, he also was selling to support his habit, then came the theft...then went on probation and left AL and moved here, got sober met me then we fall in love and quess what...gets stopped and was arrested for probation violate and gets sent to AL and now we await his parole date. I was unaware of the probation, but by that point I was in love with him and it didnt matter, he explained I forgave and its yrs later...still ridin it with him..

Mine was on drugs and alcohol every time he went to prison.

Was your man addicted to something, and it got him in the place he is today?


James was a major drug user and needed to "come up" and well long story stort his addiction landed him 5 years again. Lucky we only have 2 1/2 left!
My son was psycologically unsound even before he started the drugs.No doctor would listen.I saw the signs from his early childhood.The drugs just perpetuated a bad situation.
There was even a majistrate who understood the enormity of his problems and instead of serving jail time,he was sent to an assylum for psycological assessment.The doctor there pronounced him irrefutably sound after a fifteen minute consultation.
Two weeks later,he was breaking and entering again to feed his habit.
Long story don't even come close.It's a never ending nightmare.:(

Yes, absolutely. My boyfriend had a very, very bad cocaine problem. As much as he was using, I think he really had no sense of reality, he was living in his own world mentally. The drugs caused him to make alot of bad decisions. If he wasn't in prison right now he would probably still be using like before and may have wound up seriously hurting himself more or making even worse decisions while high. Honestly that is the only, only, only thing that was a pro of him being in prison. He has to be clean and will get the help he needs in drug and rehabilitation programs while in.

Yes. My boyfriend was drunk and on valium when he committed his crimes. He has had a long history of drug abuse and depression issues. He always tried self medicating his depression when atypical treatments didn't work. Heroin is his drug of choice but any opiate would do when that wasn't available. When I see him in prison it is like talking to a totally different human being. It's amzing where drugs will take you. I have to have gratitude that i'm not visiting him at the cemetary because that would be worse. Although times are bleak, it is a blessing that my boyfriend is still alive and has a second chance at life.

Yeah... he had drank about 25 beers the night he violated his parole.

On the night of his original offence almost 20 years ago he had been drinking for 2 days and had dropped acid.

He made me a promise that he won't touch any of that stuff ever again and I pray he keeps that promise.

yeah he had been up a long time. you know, I find it odd how so many people who need psych meds refuse to take them, or if they do take them for a time, they dont take them correctly, but they take all kinds of street drugs to self medicate the same issues... so much goes wrong this way!!! Thankfully Christopher is working very hard to mannage his meantal health issues now. He fills me in on every step and is doing what he can. Hopefully it sticks!!

Nope! Not messed up on them but did some.

Yes. My husband was drunk and driving when landed himself in prison. He is 1 year sober and I hope he stays that way.

my husband was on meth for about 4 years and all the times he was arrested he was either high or had some on him. hes a dumba** but i still love him! hopefully he will stay off when he gets out cause hes missing out on all his kids growing up!!!

Yes he was on drugs when he did his crime.He has been sober for 6 yrs this month but what he did bit him in the ass after 6 yrs of the crime!

Yes he was on drugs when he did his crime and now is a term to lifer in a prison so far away from his family and me ( especially our grandchildren) This is not the first time in but now he is for too long.

yes. My fiance has a very bad prescription pill problem...thats PART of why he is where he is...i am so glad he went when he did though, he was getting out of control. Hes been sober now for 6 months... hopefully he will never use again, it just totally changes who he is...

Definitely drugs and alcohol to escape some very real pain in his life. A fiance who was pregnant with "his" child and then leaving him and telling him it was her old boyfriends and going back with him. She was even living with us.....and then his Dad dying suddenly within the same time frame.......yes.........he tried to escape by the use of alchohol and drugs which led him to where he is now.

Yep. Got caught selling weed, had 32 bags on him. He was an avid drinker too, I really think he might be an alcoholic and if he's not he was well on his way to becoming one. When he gets out I told him, if he wants to be with me, he's staying sober. Only because I'm a recovering abuser and we need to support each other.

Absolutely. He loses all common sense and nothing matters but drugs and alcohol. He is a full blown alcoholic/addict with bipolar. Very common I guess. Self medication.

He has been paroled 4 times and has gone back 4 times for using and/or drinking

Was your man addicted to something, and it got him in the place he is today?


James was a major drug user and needed to "come up" and well long story stort his addiction landed him 5 years again. Lucky we only have 2 1/2 left!I never knew the extent of my husbands drug addiction,when we met he was incarcerated and I was a CO. We were just talking and learning about each other. When he got out and I was no longer a CO I knew that drugs had gotten him in there,but I was pretty clueless on this and he didnt let me in on his past. We did really well for nearly two months and then he started. He'd take off and not call for days and then he'd show back up at his parents trying to clean up. In the meantime I was not being told the whole story about his problem till the third time he did this and his sweet little mother finally told me that his problem had been ongoing since the age of 16. His parents had been trying for years to find just one thing that would put him on the right road.My heart fell and her advice to me was maybe I should leave him as it was not worth living this life with him if he was going to continue drugs.Well needless to say he got messed up one night and we didnt hear from him for days,I was taking the advice and just suffered inside. His Mom called and she told me he was in jail.:mad: All because of the drugs!:angry:I was angry and hurt! It was so confusing for me and I couldnt understand why?:confused: I stood by him after we talked and he told me the whole story of his drug history. We continued to talk and try to figure out what to do next. When he went to court he got 3yrs for his offense,he was lucky. The judge told him that when he gets out he is to stay out of trouble or else the next time he will get 25yrs flat.:slap:He has now 9 mo left on his time and since his incarceration we have gotten married:kiss:we have spent many visits and letters talking about how he is going to combat the drugs.We are really trying to make some positive changes and find ways to fight as a couple.You can safeguard the home,your activities and how you conduct your daily life.The problem is controlling it away from the home.Its at the workplace,its in the schools and sadly its in our churches. A drug addict knows where to find it and if they arent looking someone is looking for that addict.:no:I've learned that for a drug addict every day is a fight and we cant keep them safe 24-7.I pray for his strength and hope that when he comes home he will make that fresh start and leave the bad times behind.

Gonna try to make a long story short. My husband has been an addict of different drugs since he was a teenager. He is 28 years old now. Last year, after he had been off crystal meth for some time, got aaround some people and decided to do it. This was the last of September and we had just got married June of that year. Well, he would not tell me that he had done it. I got up the next mornin to go to work, and he was still awake, but would not tell me after me questioning him many times. Well, I went on to work and he stayed home with my 2 daughters as usual. My oldest daughter was 7 at the time and my baby was 2. Neither of them belonged to him, but he loved them dearly and still does. Well, that morning when I went to work he ended up blacking out from being on the crystal meth and beat my oldest daughter with a belt. He got arrested and the state took the girls from me. He ended up getting 11 years in the pen and I still don't have my girls. This was a one time thing. To me he did not deserve getting all this time. He was on a drug. He is an addict. He needs help and rehab instead of prison. My husband is not a bad person.

yes my husband is a heroin addict and he was clean for over 2 yrs when he ended up in the hospital with horrible pain. they gave him pain meds and he took them and relapsed. then within a few months he was doing coke and heroin again. met up with some other kids who were addicts one was a bank robber and he got a bright idea to rob a bank. my man thought hey thats a good idea and did it. now he is where he is. he shouldnt have taken those pain pills.

My only son was 30 years old before drugs ruled and ruined his life,he is serving a 7 year sentence for a second degree burgarly,which was due to having to support his habit.

Yes I believe my man was. Based on his history with drug use. He smoked speed and crack. He has never said he was on it when he actually got caught up but his poor choices led him to where he is at now.

yes! he was on multiple drugs when he got into trouble.. that stuff ruined his life

Mine was on a 3 day drinking binge but he had taken Ambien cr also. That pill is no joke when mixed with alcohol. My honey found that out the hard way. I think he learned his lesson now. He has always had a problem with drinking. We have been together for 8 years known each other for over 12. I never saw the side of him that I witnessed that night. he told me the other night he's done drinking. He sees that it's hurting our boys and himself

My man was addicted to Meth and everyone around him was too, it made him feel powerful I guess and do such stupid stuff!! I understand slip ups because I too have had problems and I don't expect him to get out and be PERFECT and not ever mess up, although I pray he won't but I fear that he'll get lost and if he starts doing it again that I will loose my man forever.

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He was 4 sure on a SICC ONE when he commited his crime!!!

hw was completely messed up! i didn't even know him any more. happy (and proud) to report though that he has been clean for about 3 years now.