Hey guys maybe someone can help me with this problem. My girlfriend and I have been together for a short time. We actually met over the phone when I called Sheraton to make a reservation to the Bahamas. She lives in Ca and I live in NY. Anyway she would come here often enough before all this happened. It was hard for me to go out there because of my kids, work, school, etc. She has no children. But know all this happened and I speak with her family often enough because she is not around. I have come to find out that a lot of things that she told me about herself wasn't true. What really gets me is that they were small things, nothing to even lie about? I do love her, but I HATE to be lied to. If she can lie to me about small things, who's to say if she's been keeping really big things from me. I don't want to give up on her, but who knows anymore. I don't know whether to believe her about how she ended up in there. All of this is so confusing for me. This is actually my first lesbian relationship. It started off fine, but now I don't know. Does anyone have any advice?

Diane,

This is a tough one to give advice on because I don't know the frequency or the magnitude of the lies.... Is this a habitual problem?

I personally do not like to be lied to. I am sure that no one does, but in my relationship I expect and give full honesty to my Partner. I can very honestly say that I have never lied to my Partner.

Here is what I would do - I would throw it all on the table. I would expose the lies that I knew about and see what the response was. But in doing this you have to be willing to handle the outcome no matter what. This could raise major issues between the two of you. I am about communication and my Partner knows it. He knows that I will ask, and ask until I am satisfied with the answer. I don't give up easily but communication is one of the strongest points of our relationship.

Take your time and make sure no matter what you are doing the right thing. Look out for you and your kids first.