Hello! I am so glad to have found this forum. I met a man 3 years ago and we became friends. Then he gets sentenced in Michigan 6-15 years. He already has a little over 1 year down. We have commuticated by mail the entire time as friends, but over the past four months it has turned into more than a friendship. I never imagined in my life that I would get involved with a black man let alone someone who is 14 years younger. My problem is, my family would never accept this relationship for three reasons: race, age, prisoner. I have yet to visit him so I haven't had the experience of the prison staff / other visitors reactions.
He asked me if I was going to be able to handle the negative vibes from others and I feel at first it will be a little hard. But as I said, as time goes by and people see the love and happiness we have, maybe they will have a change of heart. Afterall, God has no color preference and I believe it was His plan to bring us together.
Feedback Please!

WELCOME AGAIN!!! We seem to have alot in common. Maybe I'll see you there or if you want we can go together and then you won't feel so all alone.

I think sometimes I'm blinded by society's reaction to inter-racial relationships cuz I've never put much thought into it before, let alone see how everybody reacts to us in the visiting room...maybe it's b/c I don't care...When i go visit baby, i am focus on me and him only and don't look around to see if people are giving us the evil eye or not...maybe i'm just naive and live in a dream world where race doesn't exist b/c i've never had to experience the negative vibes of the public...me and my husband are as inter-racial as it gets...i'm asian and 4'11, he's black and 6'0 so we are obvious...i wouldn't let the "negative vibes" get to you cuz in the end all that matters is your happiness and love for each other

It doesnt matter what other people think as long as the two of you are happy in what you are doing.

It does not matter how others perceive your relationship. You may find that others may look, but honestly, in this day and age..it's not uncommon.
Hey..let them look and smile when they do..they are not living your lives...it's you life to live..
Good Luck!

Jmslry,
You are right. Love sees no color. I understand family being protective. Race should not be a reason but unfortunately there are still people out there that make it an issue. You have to stick with your feelings not anyone else's and it'll make you stronger. Do for you and you won't regret it. Take care!

You have to do what makes you happy - you are responsible for your own happiness. Live your life to the fullest, it's the only one you have. Alot of times I think that we think our families won't accept our relationships or our decisions but if they see he is what makes you happy they may suprise you!

As long as the color doesn't truly bother either of you then everything else won't matter. I hope you get to visit and have a wonderful time. Don't be paranoid about the stares and things, just enjoy each other for the little time that you have together. Keep us updated.

As for your family they want you to be happy I am sure.

As Long As You Two Are Happy Together, Who Cares What Other Think. Yes You Will Get Looks And People Talking. But Unfortunately People Dont Like To See Everyone Happy.

jms~we have a little in common, my man is younger than I also, we are IR, he is in prison, but we could not be happier. Nobody can take away your happiness in this situation but you. If you two are really happy, the heck with what others say or how they look. We sometimes feel people are jealous because they aint as happy as we are, we dont even think the looks have anything to do with our IR. My family is happy that I am really happy and cant wait to meet my baby.

hey girl...I just read your post. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years (he's only been locked up for 1 1/2 years of that). I have lost family members over this relationship and friends. None of that matters to either of us. As long as you both are happy and treat each other with respect, your relationship is nobody's business. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and he would go to the ends of the earth for me....In the end all that matters is you and him....Keep in touch with me...
Allyson

[quote=CoopsBabygirl]jms~we have a little in common, my man is younger than I also, we are IR, he is in prison, but we could not be happier.

Same here for all of these... It is also not my first IR relationship. In my personal experience, when I am so happy and caught up in my own relationship I don't even notice other people's reactions, even when they're negative. It's like we're the only people in the universe. Now the younger man and prison things....I'm definitely a novice and can use all the help I can get! :p