Hello all....... I just got a letter from my man yesterday and within the letter he opened up about a situation he has kept from me for the past 11 years.

Here's the story.... When I first started dating him back in 95 he was on parole. His parole officer was always nice and polite to me. Well come to find out on a frequent basis the po always made comments about our relationship to my honey. (I'm white and he's black) So as time went on my man began to think that the reason the po was on his back so much was the race issue. After reading the letter a part of me began to think maybe if I hadn't been around so much he wouldn't have been on his back so much. What do ya'll think? Am I just reading too much into this?

Hello all....... I just got a letter from my man yesterday and within the letter he opened up about a situation he has kept from me for the past 11 years.

Here's the story.... When I first started dating him back in 95 he was on parole. His parole officer was always nice and polite to me. Well come to find out on a frequent basis the po always made comments about our relationship to my honey. (I'm white and he's black) So as time went on my man began to think that the reason the po was on his back so much was the race issue. After reading the letter a part of me began to think maybe if I hadn't been around so much he wouldn't have been on his back so much. What do ya'll think? Am I just reading too much into this?

Maybe it was a race issue, and maybe it wasn't, but you can't continue to live your life with your man worrying about those kinds of things.
If your man's PO was on his back because of race, then it's wrong as hell, but you can't control how other people are going to think or act.
At any rate, what's done is done. Don't stress yourself over it now.

There is no way to ever know...let it go and don't stress out over it. There will always be people that treat others differently due to their own ignorance. You can only live you life and worry about only the things within in your control. Unfortunately the way some people think and act towards interracial relationships isn't going to change anytime soon, so don't stress yourself over it.

I think people need to be careful of playing the race card. It usually serves no purpose unless you are absolutely sure it happened. For example, if your hubby was a perfect angel and the PO was still on his back, then perhaps. But to just randomly throw out "It's because I'm <Insert color>" will not help the fight against racial injustice. Just my 2 cents

Thank you all for your input I really appreciate it. I don't let ignorance by other people bother me & neither does my man. People will say and do as they wish.

welcome to PTO trini's. i hope that it wasn't because of the race issue, but you said that your hubby's PO constantly made comments about your relationship with him. it's wrong, but as long as your hubby is doing what it takes, and you two are happy, then ignore the comments. you aren't going to ever make everyone happy, so just make yourself happy!

welcome to PTO trini's. i hope that it wasn't because of the race issue, but you said that your hubby's PO constantly made comments about your relationship with him. it's wrong, but as long as your hubby is doing what it takes, and you two are happy, then ignore the comments. you aren't going to ever make everyone happy, so just make yourself happy!

Awww that was very sweet, ty. We are very happy and plan on being even happier when he is finally home!!

Whatever the reason, the comments were unproffesional most certainly.

Patty