Greetings to all. My boyfriend was sent to DVI Reception last week and I'm really starting to get sad about it. He was in county for about 30-days and I got used to talking to him everyday as well as seeing him 3-times a week for a 30 minute visit. To go from constant (though limited) communication to nothing at all has been hard to deal with. Ladies, do you have any ideas on how to cope while he is in Reception??? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I've already started writing letters.....any other suggestions??

i know exactly how u feel:) when u get used to one thing its really hard to let it go and switch to something else. My BF was in county for a long time and he called me 2x a dayand i visited him every weekend 4 an hour. then he got sent to wasco he was there a total of 3 months i think..we wrote a letter every day..theres not much else u can do..u can try calling his counselor..my bf told me to do that but i tried a few times and he never called me back. then once my visiting got approved i went and saw him in RC..but i only went twice cuz i was 9 months pregnant..lol u just gotta think of it as a positive thing..and as a break for you and a chance for u to relax and gather ur thoughts. because hes not going anywhere..but you can..hes the one that needs to worry..not you..i just thought of it like that and it totally eased my mind the whole way..now hes in a CCF and he can call..but its 12$ for 15 mins..so he calls twice a week now and i cant wait to go visit him..cuz in prison its contact visits as im sure u know. just take it day by day and keep yourself buisy..that always helped me.

:( i felt the same exact way when he left county jail and he was in county 1 year!! i cried when he left to reception is very hard my baby was there for 6 months!!! we wrote letters everyday! i was not able to see him until 3 months after he was in reception luckly he was not to far but it was hella hard to get an appt at the reception he was at i saw him like 8 or 9 times in reception which is pretty good some people dont even get that many chances like u i used to talk to him like everyday in county and saw him twice a week so it really puts a strain on ur relationship as a matter of fact he just left on wensday from reception and that was hard too because now he left further but i know our communication will be 10x better in mainline rightnow i am waiting to hear from him i still have not:( in his last letter he wrote before he left reception he said" they say reception is the hardest part for most couples because the lack of contact communication no phone but iam glad we made it" so yes keep ur head up pray and write write write...

My BF has been at DVI for over a month now:( We went from talking on the phone daily and weekly visits in County to nothing now! We have been writing all the time and he tells me how much it sucks in reception. His letters get to me SO much faster than mine get to him. My advice to you is to try and hang in there and think positively (as hard as it is). I usually try and think about how much better it will be when he hits a mainline and we can actually touch, hug, and kiss on our visits...At least it's something to look forward to.

My BF is serving a Parole Violation and has done 2 months in County and now 1 and a 1/2 months in Tracy(not too bad since I heard it would be at least 60 days) he just found out he will be transferring to Pleasant Valley on the 15th....so hopefully your man can get out of DVI quick too?

Thanks for the support ladies.....I will definitely continue 2 wirte and pray. It's just so hard....as you already know.

Laides, I know how you all feel. When my fiance left for DVI I cried so hard. But then I remembered our talks and I held on to every word, every memory that we shared. I knew this was the hard part and that after that I could hold him in my arms if even for a brief moment. So I wrote him constantly and we became closer for it. My fiance has since mainlined at DVI so if anyone has ?'s let me know!!

So my advice to you all would be to-write and pray constanty and ask him to send you a visiting form ASAP because once you are approved and if he is still there you can have a 1hour visit with him.

my BF was in county for a lil less than a yr so I understand where a lot of your are coming from. It's so hard. I used to talk to him all the time and see him twice a week. I have been trying to be strong but he says his friend got sent to ARIZONA! I know if he gets sent some place far like that it will be close to impossible for me to see him. As much as I would like at least. Does anyone know if they usually get sent that far? I have been holding it together pretty well since I was told at County that he had been sent to a prison even the guard haden't heard of. But when I got my first letter from him from DVI I was so thrilled he was so close. But when I heard that someone was sent to Arizona it really got me scared and I got my visiting application approved faster than I thought so I tried making my appointment Friday after calling from 8-8:30 constantly and then going to work at 9 with no shower and calling and my friend calling on break and another friend trying to get through I finally got through a lil after 10 and was told there was no appointments left for his area. I started crying right when I hung up the phone...in front of everyone at work. It's been really hard the past couple weeks. :( I hope and pray for the best not only for me and my BF, but for all of you too. God bless.

my BF was in county for a lil less than a yr so I understand where a lot of your are coming from. It's so hard. I used to talk to him all the time and see him twice a week. I have been trying to be strong but he says his friend got sent to ARIZONA! I know if he gets sent some place far like that it will be close to impossible for me to see him. As much as I would like at least. Does anyone know if they usually get sent that far? I have been holding it together pretty well since I was told at County that he had been sent to a prison even the guard haden't heard of. But when I got my first letter from him from DVI I was so thrilled he was so close. But when I heard that someone was sent to Arizona it really got me scared and I got my visiting application approved faster than I thought so I tried making my appointment Friday after calling from 8-8:30 constantly and then going to work at 9 with no shower and calling and my friend calling on break and another friend trying to get through I finally got through a lil after 10 and was told there was no appointments left for his area. I started crying right when I hung up the phone...in front of everyone at work. It's been really hard the past couple weeks. :( I hope and pray for the best not only for me and my BF, but for all of you too. God bless.

:grouphug: Hang in there sweety... your BF is a lucky man.

"You need not go through anything alone... ever. Understanding and help are always close at hand..."

Thank you so much Lisamara! I am so glad I found this site...its full of support and information we all need. It's nice to have support of your family and friends but it means even more when you have the support of people that are going through what you are and surely understand how you feel. I appreciate it and hang in there with me. WE can survive this :) :thumbsup:

I know all to well where you all are comming from. I founf out early one morning b4 work that my sweetie was transferred from county jail to Wasco Reception. I found out by going the the fresno sheriffs website and typing in his name under inmates. he was no longer listed there. and I knew what it meant. I cried and cried. It seemed like it took forever to be able to see him again. it actually took 42 days. 42 days too long if you ask me. like all of you I was very used to 2 visits everyweek and a phone call every single day and those phone calls were an hour long. we went through some serious withdrawals. We always said if we can make it through his incarceration and the seperation that we had to deal with, that We could make it through anything. and we have. God heard alot of prayers from me, so much infact im sure he has caller ID and and answering machine installed up there in heaven, LOL! you will all do fine. Just write a lot of letters back and forth and keep that communication open, and PRAY!:)

I just wanted to add mine in here LOL I was pulling a 13 hr shift and a 3 hr drive to be home for visit in county the next day to find out he was transfered that morning to DVI. Then no visit or call for 2 months while we wrote letters and got the visit form sent back and forth. It does get hard and it does hurt But u know what we love our loved ones or we wouldnt be standing by them and like my husband tells me " I know we are doing this time together but baby just remember you are free" so you know they are going throught it too. sorry for rambling I am tired and missing My budda :-(

I can understand where you are all coming from. My story is a little different, but I totally understand the lack of visiting and calls. My fiance is not in reception, he is actually in fire camp right now. But I am in NY and he is in CA of course. Visits for us are pretty much out of the question. Actually I did surprise him last weekend and made the trip out there, but it was the first time I got to see him since he went to county in Feb. 06. We also have only talked on the phone like three times in all that time cause the calls from CA to NY are over $20. Believe me I miss him so much but we have gotten a lot closer by writing each other all the time. I wont be able to go and see him again before he is released in ten months cause this last trip cost me almost a thousand dollars. I need to save to be out there when he is released. But we will start having at least one call a week next week cause I finally set up an account with PCO and it will be half as much as the regular calls. So gals hang in there. We love these guys so much that we can go through anything for them. And remember this can only make the relationship stronger for both us and them.

Writing Letters Is An Awesome Communication Device. My Friend And I Have Grown So Much And He Is In For Less Than A Year. We Have Gotten Really Close, It Has Been Like Therapy For Us.

Thank you so much Lisamara! I am so glad I found this site...its full of support and information we all need. It's nice to have support of your family and friends but it means even more when you have the support of people that are going through what you are and surely understand how you feel. I appreciate it and hang in there with me. WE can survive this :) :thumbsup:
Yes sometimes it gets soooo hard I feel like an emotionally mental crazy person at sometimes, and its so hard to put on a face at work like life is happy and dandy but I do! :)

My man is in DVI reception, so no phonecalls or visits yet. I write a lot and talk to my friends about how much I miss him. At least to the friends who don't think I'm crazy. I also work a lot to keep my mind busy, and when all else fails, I call his cell phone and listen to his greeting. Sometimes I call it several times a day. I miss him so bad....

I was actually going to post a thread on this very subject.I am in awe of you ladies that have gone through this time and time again. Not being able to see my husband or touch him has been really hard . I feel like I am on and emotional rollercoaster. I cried all over the last letter I wrote him and kind of had a little mini break down . Now I feel better. Writing letters does help. :(

Larryslove,
I hear you girlie. My Boo is in reception too and no phone calls is killin me. I miss his voice and just being able to talk to him. Letters feel like they take FOREVER to get back and forth.:p I guess I should not complain since the letters are all I have for now. I write him everyday and I get letters from him every other day. Thankfully he will be home soon.

Thank God for this website it has helped so much! Stay strong.
JC

Larryslove,
I hear you girlie. My Boo is in reception too and no phone calls is killin me. I miss his voice and just being able to talk to him. Letters feel like they take FOREVER to get back and forth.:p I guess I should not complain since the letters are all I have for now. I write him everyday and I get letters from him every other day. Thankfully he will be home soon.

Thank God for this website it has helped so much! Stay strong.
JC

Letters do feel like they take forever to get to me! My man isn't coming home until probably mid may.I'm glad you will get to have your man at home soon. Yes thank God for this website it has helped me a lot .I'm trying my best to stay strong. You too okay!:thumbsup:

My son has been in reception for about a month. I just got a letter from him and he said his councelor told him he will be moving in 2 weeks. He was only in county a week before he went to DVI. Things seem to move along quickly for him. i just wish his 3 yrs could go as quick.