Alright... ya'll bare with me, this may get a little confusing! lol

I have a female friend that's in prison. She's been there about a year now, and she writes to me more than anyone.... confides in me, because for one, I've done prison time, and two, because I'm bi. So, she comes to me with all her questions, opinions, and whatnot.

Before my friend went to prison, she had never been involved with a woman. Well... since she's been in, she's gotten herself a girlfriend, and claims to be falling in love with her.
She's like, "Jody, I know you understand because you've been in my shoes" Well, the thing is... I was bi before I went to prison.... there's a difference... a huge difference between being openly bi, and experimenting while incarcerated. I wrote to her and tried to explain all this to her... that she's lonely, probably just experimenting, that things will change once she gets out, blah, blah, blah.

Well, she's very adamant in saying now... I never want another man! She's gotten on this kick about how awful men are, that she likes being with a woman because it's (and I quote), "easier".
I don't know... I just don't know what to tell her. Then she tells me about her girlfriend, who is a lesbian, and how crazy she is about her. I'm like, "Don't lead this woman on".... but nothing I say to her is registering.

Hmmm... any advice?

Jodygirl

It sounds as if you have already offered your best advice. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. You are obviously a good friend. I hope everything works out for her and she is happy.

Yep Jody you have given her the best advise anyone can give her really. Now it is up to her. No one can make up her mind except herself. She is gonna do what ever it is she feels is right for her. And if it ends up being wrong in the long run it will be a lesson learned. At least you did what friends do... you gave advise and thats all you can do~

Jody,

You know what? I think that as long as this is between consenting adults - and it seems to be so... that it is Ok... You are a good friend to look out for her, but this may be a road (from the sounds of it) that she will just have to travel down and see where it leads...

She is lucky to have you there for support!

Thanks ya'll... that's what I was sort of thinking.... that I said my piece, now just let her be!
I appreciate the input!

Jodygirl

hi there. your friend may be "experiementing" while incarcerated, but who knows what will happen with her feelings as time goes on. i feel like everyone's sexuality changes as life goes on... i know it has for me. only time will tell!

I know I'm late to this, but I'd say Hey, if it makes her time easier and they are both enjoying it, what’s the problem? You know how when something is new you are all absorbed by it? Well maybe she discovered something wonderful and suddenly everything is about women, but when it's not new or exotic anymore when will get some distance.

Be happy for her!

/Emma