WELL I AM JUST PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW. I GOT A LETTER TODAY AND LET'S JUST SAY I AM NOT HAPPY ABOUT IT. I UNDERSTAND THAT THEY GO THROUGH IT BEING LOCKED UP AND SOMETIMES THEY ARE MOODY IN THERE LETTERS BUT DAMN WHY DO YOU GOT TO COME AT SOMEONE LIKE THAT.

TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT ANTHONY ASKED ME WHY I LIED TO HIM ABOUT SENDING SOME MONEY (WHICH I DID SEND). APPRENTLY IT DID NOT HIT HIS BOOKS AND HE WAS PISSED. WELL I DO NOT CONTROL WHEN THEY POST FUNDS OR ANYTHING. HE THEN PRECEEDED TO QUESTION ME ABOUT MY SON'S DAD AND ABOUT ME SENDING MONEY TO HIM (WHICH I HAVE NEVER DONE). HE GOT ON THIS TIP ABOUT ME CHEATING AND NOT WRITING ENOUGH. I SEND 3 -4 LETTERS A WEEK BUT HE THINKS SOMEONE ELSE IS TAKING UP MY TIME. SHIT HOW WHAT TIME!!

THEN HE TELLS ME THIS GUARD (WHO CALLS HERSELF LIKING HIM) HAD A TALK THE OTHER DAY. HE SAYS SHE'S A TRIP!! WHAT THE FUCK DO I CARE. I KNOW IT WAS HIS SORRY ATTEMPT TO MAKE ME JEALOUS BUT I DO NOT PLAY WITH THAT I AM SECOND TO NO WOMAN AND DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM LETTING HIM KNOW THAT. TRYING TO MAKE ME JEALOUS WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IS NOT GOING TO WORK I THOUGHT HE LEARNED THAT ONE.. GUESS NOT...

ANY WAY I AM REALLY PISSED OFF AND NOT IN THE FRAME OF MIND TO DEAL WITH HIM SO I JUST DECIDED TO VENT HERE INSTEAD OF PUTTING MY FOOT IN MY MOUTH IN A LETTER TO HIM.. THANKS FOR LISTENING TO MY SOAP BOX.. :fb: :argh

Been there done that letter... (As I am sure many people here have done that had that letter) many, many, many times. I finally said enough and the next letter I got back he asked if we could quit fighting and make peace. Once you have calmed down, let him know how you feel.

hang in there girl.

HEY, NO EXCUSES FOR ANTHONY, OR RON OR ANY OTHER GUY WHO TAKES OUT HIS FRUSTRATION ON THOSE WHO LOVE HIM THE MOST...BUT...I HAVE TO SAY I THINK THEY BOTTLE UP ALL THE TIMES THEY HAVE HAD TO BITE THEIR TONGUE AND SUCK IT UP UNTIL THEY EXPLODE ON THE ONE THEY KNOW THEY CAN TRUST TO HEAR THEM, BE PISSED, FORGIVE THEM, AND SHOW THEM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. THAT DOES NOT MAKE IT RIGHT, BUT IT DOES MAKE IT REAL. SITTING IN A CELL APPARENTLY GIVES GUYS A LOT OF TIME TO WORRY AND LET THEIR MIND WANDER...THEN COME ACCUSATIONS...I DON'T LIKE IT BUT I TRY TO COOL OFF AND THEN RESPOND..B/C I KNOW I HAVE NO REAL CLUE OF WHAT A DAY IN HIS LIFE IS LIKE- I KNOW IT IS NOT LIKE WHAT I SEE IN THE VISITING ROOM ON SUNDAYS. SHORTIE, ANTHONY KNOWS YOU LOVE HIM-THIS IS JUST A TIME HE LET HIS FRUSTRATION GET THE BEST OF HIM-I AM SORRY HE WENT OFF THIS WAY, BUT IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU REALLY. HIS ANGER IS NOT REALLY DIRECTED AT YOU. HANG IN THERE- NEXT LETTER FROM HIM SHOULD BE A REAL,REAL, GOOD ONE!!

I SURE HOPE SO CUZ I COULD SURE USE THAT RIGHT NOW.. I AM JUST BEING HIT FROM EVERY DIRECTION AND READY TO DUCK FOR SOME COVER.. YES I AM STRONG BUT I DO HAVE MY WEAKNESS TOO.. FOR NOW I STAND TALL AND JUST TRY TO MAINTAIN AND NOT FALL IN THIS MESS. THANKS SHRRI...

When you settle down shortie, you might remind him that relationship are built on trust and broken from the lack of it.

In fact, you might send such a statement on a post card with nothing else said. And sign it "Your loving wife"

Just a though.....

Please don't take this the wrong way, Shortie...but DAMN! I thought I was the only one that had to put up with that crap! Todd has done the same thing with me thru letters and phone calls.

I know ur anger and your hurt right now. These are the times when u step back and ask urself why u're even going through this if he's gonna trip on you.

Just take a breath and remember that the only thing he's really got to do in there is think...and sometimes they think way tooooo much!

You know your down...deep inside he knows your down too. It's a phase and it will pass.

Wayne does it too and usually beats himself up over it later. It's too much time on their hands, I think. Also, when Wayne doesn't get a letter from me at mail call, some of the "guys" will tell him I've fallen out of love with him or some BS like that, only feeding his insecurity.

I've seen guys do that & it's pretty messed up. I saw them give one kid such a hard time about his girlfriend he couldn't take it & escaped. I've seen guys buy into the BS & take it out on their girlfriends on the phone, yelling & screaming & getting all stressed out.---Ken

I agree w/what everyone else is saying shortie!! I have had the same problems w/EJ in letters & over the phone as well.
The mail on his end is messed up a whole lot & he is always on my case about not getting letters. Example...last night he called & told me (the first thing) that he didn't get a letter from me on Fri., Sat. & yesterday. I told him that I wrote him everyday last week, but Wed. & I sent him something out yesterday morning. He has to put his little "jabs" in. When I get mad about it & let him have it is when he says his "I was tryin to pull your chain & it worked." Sometimes though I just get tired of hearing that damn phrase & I don't totally believe that he really WAS messing w/me!!

Step back a bit, count to 10. When you calm down some write him a letter telling him something like BRay mentioned. Anthony has a lot on his plate, but YOU do as well & YOU have a whole lot more w/being on our own right now w/your children.

Take Care girl!

I just had the very same problem with Butch..... One thing I really do tell him tho is this, "SON, I AM NOT SUPERMOM, I CANNOT STOP THE WORLD FOR YOU. IF YOU CANNOT UNDERSTAND THAT MAYBE YOU WILL HAVE TO GO WITHOUT SOME MONEY FOR A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME THEN SHAME ON YOU. DON'T TAKE YOUR ANGER AND FLUSTRATIONS OUT ON ME...'

We have to make them understand that things are just as hard for us as they are for them..... Sometimes I look and this 37 year old man who weighs 280 lbs and ask myself,,,,Is he ever going to grow up?

Prison itself has created this for us and we must try to keep them up on what is real.... they really do not know.


my love sweet girl

Donna

I got a pretty snippy letter from Richard. Right after I got the letter I just started a new job and didn't have time to respond to him. I was really stressed out and tired everyday. Plus I had inlaws over for my daughter 's graduation. Two weeks went by before I had the chance to respond. He sent 6 letters to me apoligizing for the mean letter. Poor guy thought I was mad and not writng back. He knew he wrote things he should not have. I guess I'm glad I just let things slide because at that moment I could have let him have it! LOL

I know what you are going thruogh cause i had send my husband stuff and he never got his stuff either saying the same thing almost. and visa versa

Shortie;

As you can see, we all get "those letters" from time to time.

It took me a while to figure out that they are in a situation, where they cannot vent to anyone! Not without some serious repercussions, anyway.

So they dump onto the one person they TRUST not to make their life miserable, because they need to express their general frustration and anger.

I'd suggest you ask "What were you REALLY angry at that day?"

He's feeling as helpless as you are, and is not in a position to cause a scene (about money that hasn't seemed to arrive etc.)

Behind most anger, there is usually fear. Anger is the shield we use to hide the fear.

Sounds like he's afraid you're "slipping away" from him... It would be really unfortunate if his fear of you slipping away causes him to push you away...

Menolly

thanks bray i am going to try that.. good idea.. thanks for bring a male perspective on the issue

donna i am tying a knot and hanging on right now.. let's just pray i don't get rope burn.. :) love ya mom's.... i am so sad right now and just depressed.. i hate not being able to call or talk to him. it really sucks

he could never push me away. it may hurt but i am a fighter and i know that. i knwo that he loves me and that the guys play head games.. they hate on what we have and i know that. the fact does not make it easier to deal with.. this is the first letter i have ever gotten like this in 2 1/2 years so it was hard to swollow i guess.

Shortie...
Girl I had started a response and had to get offline (apparently before it posted...) so I am just getting back to this thread... I will just add another to the pile... I have gotten some VERY foul letters from JD... He is getting a little better in that he will "vent" and then apologize in the same letter... but he DEFINITELY gets out of pocket sometimes... he has told me that things guys say... when he doesn't get a letter or just in general, and I think at first he can blow it off, but sometimes his mind just breaks down and gets to thinking tooooo much.... KNOW that the next time you see or talk to Ant, he will apologize.... Just try to let it go and know that it IS just anger and frustration that is getting dumped on your lap undeservingly... but hey girl... I gotta give Ant some credit if he went 2 1/2 years... JD is lucky to go 2 1/2 weeks without sayin somethin' out the side of his head!! Hang tough girl-- "it's gon be aight!!" :)

THANKS SHAWNA I AM JUST TRIPPIN ON HIM RIGHT NOW IT IS NICE TO KNOW THAT IT IS NOT JUST ME..

shortie...maybe ant was pms-ing? i swear men go through their own set of monthly mood swings! i know it's hard for these guys, but i think sometimes they lose perspective that it's not a picnic for their wife/girlfriend/family members/friends, either! i think a lot of it is a control issue. they have such little control over anything in their lives, that they tend to control what they can, and unfortunately, you are within anthony's realm of control to some extent. i agree with bray. calm down, and then write him a letter and confront him with your feelings! you have every right! *hugs*

maybe he is just flattered that someone else finds him attractive. Most people in general are. I would think being where he is at ....a flirty woman that noticed him would make him feel good. It's just natural.

Jealousy can be good and bad. Use your jealousy to the good and express high compliments to anthony that your very proud to be the woman of such a wonderful guy and you are not surprised other women find him attractive and want him. Your very proud that other women want him.

And as Lorreta Lynn would sing it............ "She ain't women enough to take my man"

If you don't have that much confidence fake it until you make it.

Shortie,

I am guilty of writing those kind of letters. It's just that sometimes I felt alone, & like the whole world was going on without me. I felt like I was an after thought for everyone. That people were doing things cause they felt they had too, not cause they wanted too. I felt if I didn't ask for what I wanted no one was going to offer anything. Sometimes I felt like the world just didn't know I even existed anymore. I was on my own & no one was looking out for me but me. Just some insight, & my two cents.----Ken

Ken, it's nice to hear the other side of the story too. I'd just say come here to vent until you calmed down a little and then tell Ant how you feel and that you don't like it when he plays these games with you

Ken;

I salute your honesty!!!

Menolly

I get the same kind of letters from my SON, I guess the sayings true,.......You always hurt the one you love, He'll get over it Shortie and so will you

THANKS FOR BEING HONEST KEN I AM GLAD TO KNOW IT IS BASICALLY NORMAL TO DO THIS KIND OF STUFF..

THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR ALL OF YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT. I HAVE STILL NOT GOTTEN ANOTHER LETTER FROM ANT. I AM UPSET AND NOT DOING WELL IN OUR LITTLE TIME OF UNBALANCE.. I JUST PRAY THAT HE WILL PULL HIS HEAD OUT OF HIS BUTT. THIS IS GETTING REALLY OLD REALLY FAST.. I AM GOING TO SEE HIM ON FATHER'S DAY SO MAYBE HE WILL EXPLAIN WHAT IS GOING ON IN HIS MELON..

SHORTIE- I HOPE YOUR VISIT GOES WELL- RON AND I HAVE HAD A ROUGH TWO WEEKS FOR SIMILAR KINDS OF THINGS- AND I GO SEE HIM TOMORROW TOO- HOPEFULLY WE WILL BOTH HAVE GOOD VISITS

iam pissed off to i don't understand men sometimes you know.i have hung up on charlie today !!!

Shortie;

Say this to him 5 times really fast.

"Menolly says quit making melonade!"

HAHAHAHAHA

Have a good visit, m'dear, but set him straight, eh?

Menolly

THANKS FOR THE WELL WISHES.. I AM GOING TO NEED THEM.. CUS WHEN I SEE HIM I JUST MELT BUT I NEED TO BE STRONG AND TELL HIM THAT THIS IS NOT OK.. I AM SO IRRIRATED AND JUST LET IT OUT... DAMNIT QUIT BEING AN ASS AND BE MY HUSBAND AGAIN.. lol :) ;) I HOPE I CAN SAY THAT 5 TIMES lol

PRACTICE IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR, SHORTIE--LOL

HOW'D THE VISIT GO?????

Dying for an update here too Shortie.... Been thinkin' about ya all day.... C'mon girl.... gimme some good news.... :)

Shortie,

I get those types of letters from Billy too. When he is in a bad mood, he tends to write hurtful letters. He accuses me of seeing someone else because I've slacked off on writing to him. Or he will tell me that he thinks that I'm up to something and I don't have those feelings anymore for him.

He gets frustrated and his mind starts to play tricks on him. After a while, he's ok again. So we all go through it from time to time. You are not alone!!!

Shortie...

Tell us girl how did your visit go?

ok here is the update.. I went and seen him and we had a really good talk. He did not even realize that I was upset before I got there. He said he had wrote me and apoligized for being as ass. He also said he got the other money and felt bad for what he had said.. Needless to say we had a good visit and we are ok again.

He felt bad cuz I did not get that letter yet. Well I got it today and he did a really beautiful envelope for me it said Anthony & Darla on it with purple hearts all over it and all kinds of things on it. It was beautiful I love him so much and I am glad we got to have our talk and just spend father's day together.

We are really funny sometimes but he understood my point of view which was really nice. I am so glad that we are so connected. I love him...

thank you for everyone who has been helping me through this mess. I love you all very much.. I am really lucky to have all of you..

shortie-glad to hear your visit went so well- mine and ron's went well tooi i kind of had a feeling they would- you know we are just so loveable that it scares them to think about losing us (lol)-seriously, ron tells me the fears, the pain,the felings that he cant do anything for me from where he is-am sure anthony and other guys go through those same feelings--Love always wins though--

your end quote on your posts says it all

Well it's DANG time we get some real "GOOD NEW'S" about's ya, around this here place!

Well there shortie, you just sit there and bask in the Glory. Or is ya dance'n a jig, can't see that fer ta tell. LOL

Glad it went well!!!! At least you got to kiss and make up in person!!!

See... I told you it would be aight!! :) Glad to hear it girl!! Love perseveres!!!

glad you guys sorted it out and that Anthony is so understanding! it's a lot better to talk about it face to face then in a letter,I'm sure

I am glad to hear that your visit went well w/Anthony Shortie!!
Sometimes it just takes that face to face visit to sort so many things out. In letters & phone calls so many things can get turned around & misinterpreted.

That's great girl!!

THANK YOU LORD..... WE ARE SO GLAD TO HEAR SOME GOOD NEWS FOR ONCE..... IT'S BEEN AWHILE..... GOD BLESS YOU AND ANTHONY

MY LOVE
DONNA

yeah, shortie! i'm sure you feel so much better know that that's solved. take that big weight off your shoulders and relax! :)

Oh Shortie;

I too am so glad the visit went well.

You know I've sometimes wondered if those letters that clarify arguments and issues are not PURPOSELY held up by prison staff, just to play tricks with people's minds.

Letters of mine, and letters to me, sometimes were not delivered at all. So now I always number every page, and every letter in sequence. That way we know which letters are withheld completely, and which are withheld for unreasonably long times.

I also write on every page exactly what I've sent, because photos have gone missing etc.

So every page of my letters say something like:

"#47, 2 of 6, + card, + 2 pics, + mag piece."

That's the 47th letter I wrote that particular inmate, and this is the second page of a 6 page letter, that also includes his birthday card and two photographs, and a magazine article about a new medical procedure for his illness.

With this on every page, somehow things don't go missing any more. But they do still get held for a long times sometimes.

Menolly

Once you start a system likethat, it is astounding to find out how many letters DO NOT get sent or delivered!

Menolly

I do something like what you do Menolly!!
When I send EJ jokes or when I have sent him packages w/magazines, etc. in the past I have written a letter telling him something like "enclosed in the letter is this joke, magazine, pic" whatever I send him. It would figure though the 1 time I didn't have the time to write him w/what was enclosed in the package the catalog I sent him & some sheets of paper w/some info. he wanted disappeared, but the mag I sent he got. Now since I have no proof of that I sent them to him he doesn't get them...I would love to get my hands on the mail room!!

yeah they do mess with the mail. that is a proven fact. they pick and choose so you have to just pray that this is a good mail week. that is really sad too. how do they think that solves anything. it really just makes us stronger and more united to make changes...

Here's the part I don't understand - it takes Wayne 2 days to receive a letter from me, but it takes 5-7 days for me to get a letter from him. Do they hold the mail a couple of days before sending it out?

Oh - and when I send him a money order, you had better believe it shows up on his book ASAP - they sure like the interest they collect! He'll get those letters ahead of other. I've often thought of instead of sending one money order a week, send several smaller ones, so they will "rush" all of his mail.

a tip that is given to me by several inmates to put on the envelop and in the letter whatever you send to them. Like write on the outside of the envelop(and on the inside if possible) : incluced 2 pictures, 3 printed pages
or whatever

that's a great idea, soraya. i always put a list of what should be enclosed in my letter on the inside, and if i send stamps or photos, i always note in the bottom left corner of the outside envelope *stamps/photos enclosed*. have had no problems with him receiving everything (yet). :)

Keep that up aprilcat because once you slip I just bet 1 or 2 things you send your friend will magically not be there!

Danielle...
They probably do hold up his mail for a bit. Have you called the mailroom where he is at? If you have maybe try calling the local postmaster there & see what he/she can do about that. They are NOT supposed to hold their mail for any kind of reason & especially that long!!
I have the opposite on my end here. I get EJ's mail in 2 days, but it takes the slow A** mailroom 5-7 days for EJ to get his letters. I have called over there w/no results & EJ AGAIN put in yet ANOTHER grievance after he didn't get a catalog I sent him & some info. on paper he needed. If he couldn't recieve the catalog & paperwork they would have sent him a letter stating that he got this & this, but it's being sent back because it isn't in the "rule book" for what he can receive. Of course he didn't get that letter so I know they took the catalog & paperwork for their greedy little selves!!

DJ: i plan to keep it up, honey. i don't have enough money to keep every co in florida in stamps! lol i hope you're doing ok, sweetie *hugs*

AprilCat, you're allowed to send stamps? Not so in Canada. We aren't allowed to send stamps or envelopes, because we might impregnate the glue with LSD etc.

So our guys HAVE TO buy paper, stamps and envelopes from the commissary. Which of course if they're in lockdown, or solitary etc. they cannot do.

Menolly

And DJ;

You can send magazines? Goodness. We can't even send a clipping from a magazine.

When I want to send something from a mag, I have to colour photocopy it and send that. (Again the rationale is we could be sneaking drugs in, drop by drop on the period at the end of every sentence in the mag article.)

~~~~~~~

Shortie;

The pessimistic side of me thinks they are trying to sever contact with the outside, even with loved ones, ON PURPOSE. Why? To drive home that society doesn't want you anymore? That caring about an inmate makes us kooks? Who knows the rationale. IS THERE A RATIONALE? Maybe we are assuming too much!

Menolly

Menolly...

I do get to send EJ magazines & I have even sent him a dictionary & thesarus to help him in writing his book. I have been really surprised that I was able to send him those. Most people I know can only have publishers or order books online like from Amazon.com & have them send it to their loved 1's.
What makes me think the mailroom swiped his catalog & the copy sheets of info. is that I can & have sent him all of the above, plus cards & a couple "interesting x-rated" stories I found on a web site. When I have sent those items in the past I have enclosed a letter stating I sent you such & such, the 1 time I don't he didn't get the whole thing.

DJ;

Yeah, we can't send books either. We have to deposit the money in their prison account, then our guy has to order it directly from the publisher. (Internet ordering is not permitted.)

In fact, I once tried to buy a book for the Prison Library, and was told I couldn't even do that. (It was a basic book about diabetes, and the disease's management.)

Finally, when one inmate died from medical mismanagement, someone opened a bank account in his memory. Once we had a few hundred bucks in that account, it was sent to the prison, exclusively for library books, from the "Joe Smith Memorial Fund". They finally cashed the cheque, and bought some books, but of course, the prison staff decided which titles to buy. You can be sure they weren't law books, or human rights books, or medical books!

Ah well, we tried...

Menolly

Do you guys get letters with whole paragraphs blacked out with giant magic markers? And whole paragraphs CUT out, so your letter looks like cheesecloth? We sure do!

Menolly

No I haven't had that happen to me...yet!
You know makes me wonder though if 1 day I might get the cheesecloth letter from EJ. He is a pretty opinionated guy & he likes to "express" himself on paper or even the phone. I can't tell you how many times I have had to tell him to SHUT UP for a bit...haa haa!!

DJ;

Now you bring up phones. Are your phone conversations recorded, like ours are?

Menolly

Menolly...

Yep our phone conversations are recorded & can actually be listened to while we are talking. How about that?? EJ & I have heard a very faint click MANY times when he has called me. From there if we are discussing something important we use our little code words. Sometimes though since he has such a big mouth he will start talking dirty so whoever is on the other end will get a kick out of it. He's a bad boy that man of mine...hee hee!!

i know that they hold ant's mail, it sucks but what can you do.. it has gotten better lately but i am sure it will go back to the same ol same ol....

I know how you feel Shortie, he's just feeling a little insecure about his wife. He was mad about the money not getting to him, and like you said you know they can get mad sometimes because of their situation but he can't take it out on you that's not right. An apology and a good talking to is in order from him, and I'm sure you probably already received it. He's just a little upset.

YEAH I AM DOING OK NOW.. WE HAD A VISIT LAST SUNDAY SO IT GOT WORKED OUT...

like the other girls said been there done that over and over again. it gets tireing after a wile and trust is the key to a relationship. my man would get all mad when he wouldnt receive a letter from me he would start asking me if i was sure if i still wanted to be with him and all kinds of stuff. he always said that he trusted me but obviously his actions spoke lauder than his words. i guess what im trying to say is that maybe hang in there cause they do get frustraded and insecure just always reassure your love for him and that there is no need to fight over pety things that dont really mater. i know mail does take for ever to get there sometimes (more like all the time) but just hang in there and keep on being the stong person that you have been...

thanks I am staying possitive.. I have figured him out a little you see when I don't get a letter for a few days I get worried. He knows that and uses it so that I will come see him sooner.. Litttle shit but it is my fault for falling for it..

Last week I did not get 1 letter and I got a birthday card and he said he thought I would have surprised him last weekend. Nope I did not.. So I think he realized the game is up and all his is doing is hurting himself... LOL

yes i dont' think it's wrong to let them know two can play at this game. yes they are islolated and need your support but you don't need his abuse. you don't abuse him. a some what prolonged silence without hearing from you at all can make them sit up and notice and realize how much they need you and appreciate you. they can't control you unless you let them and you need to love yourself as well as him, you know. you don't deserve to be abused or mistreated.

SHORTIE, I AM SORRY IT HAS TAKEN ME SO LONG TO CATCH WITH EVERYONE. AND HERE I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE GET PISSY LETTERS. I FINALLY HAD TO TELL KRIS THAT I NEDD HIM TO BE HONEST WITH ME. I AM ALSO HAVING THE PROBLEM OF GETTING LETTERS AND RECEIVING THEM FROM HIM. HE SAY THAT THEY SHOULDN'T BE HOLDOING HIS MAIL BUT WHAT DOES HE KNOW. GLAD TO HEAR THOUGH THAT THINGS ARE GETTING BETTER.

THANKS YOU KNOW IT SUCKS WHEN OUR MAIL IS JACKED I MEAN THAT IS ALL WE REALLY HAVE. MESSING WITH MY LETTERS IS WORSE THEN MESSING WITH MY MONEY.LOL

SHORTIE:

I SEEMS THAT MAIL IS THE DAGGER THEY USE TO GET TO THE INMATE..... ANTHONY IS JUST A PAWN IN THE CHESS GAME....

REMEMBER THAT AND DON'T FEEL LIKE HE IS DOING THIS ON PURPOSE....

HONEY, MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU. I LOVE YOU.... LET RENEE TELL YOU ABOUT HER TRIALS.... THEY STILL HAVE ONE OF HER LETTERS THAT THEY HAVE NOT GIVEN TO BUTCH YET.....

MY PRAYERS
DONNA

i knkow it gets frustrating at times.. like last week I oly got 1 letter.. this week so far only 1 letter that I should have goten last week... It just makes me mad...:(

I guess we all go through that one way or another. At the begining it really affected me, now I understand and anticipate it. I realized it usually happen the 3rd week after my visit. I live in Utah, he is in Lompoc, CA, and I go and see him every 6 weeks. It cost me about $500.00 for the plane ticket, hotel and rental car, so I can't go every week...well, as I was saying, I noticed that after 3 weeks, he really starts to be frustrated, jealous, on the edge, in one word: a JERK. So, I remind him that we have a pattern, that after 3 weeks we miss each other so much, we make the other one miserable, knowing that, we have to calm down and laugh at it. Does not always work but I am trying !

I know how that can be.. we have a pattern now too... things are much smoother and to be honest we really do not have conflict that often. I think in 2 yrs maybe 4 of them.. We are so calm by nature it usually just gets blown off.. thank goodness we can talk and communicate very well with each other....:)

i have gone through that and still going through situation.i try everything to make my boyfriend dj happen.i feel like he is using me.i spent alot of money on him.and showed him love.but i just dont know anymore.if my love is good enough for him.he is soiled.selfish.always wanting something.and i can't take it.at times. i dont talk to him when he calls.i am the only one stood by him.his family is good for nothing havent done anything for him. or seen him.its always been me.like my love isnt enough.he does say thank u apreat it but it keeps pouring on.i need help from all of u on what to do...

everybody at one time or another has had a frustrated letter where hubby/boyfriend writes a not so nice letter its there way of releasing frustrations youll probably recieve a letter soon apologizing for it dont let it worry u that much hes just confused frustrated and is using u as a scape goat to his fears and anger in the end it will work out.