Some of you may know part of my story, but I don't think I have been posting in the right forums.

My husband is eligible for Transitional Supervision in September. When you serve 50% of your sentence and are not a disciplinary problem, you can get out on intensive probation, I guess you'd say. I have known him for eighteen years, been together for ten years and married for almost four years. We have a 7 year old son. When he was filling out paperwork relating to TS, he was told I could not be an approved community sponsor for him. Seven years ago, while he was high on cocaine and I told him I couldn't stay with him while he was using, he threatened to hurt himself so I called police to help him and they listed me as a victim of him. He was arrested and charged with Domestic violence. He didn't hit me and he is in jail now on charges relating to drugs, not me or violence, he has a substance abuse problem.

They will not even let me visit him, althought our son can. Recently his counselor told him he and I could write to each other and he did not have to take any domestic violence classes. I have already written a letter to the Warden requesting that they review our case, that this incident was not a violent one, at least not physically, but I have not heard from the warden as of yet. I sent along letters of support from friends and family and a City official that I work with. Does anybody have any experience with this? Is there something that I should do that I haven't done yet?

I don't have any answers but, want to wish you luck with your situation.

Cocaine is one of the drugs, along with meth, that seems to have a higher incidence of associated violence. Given that addicts so often go back to using when they're released, maybe that plays some part in their deciding that it would be a high risk situation if they were to allow you to be his sponsor.

my story is similiar, my husband is locked upo on spousal abuse charges because i had my teenage daughter(not his daughter) call the police after he and i had an arguement that resulted in a push from him. the reason i wanted the police involved was because i was at a loss at what to do because he had relapsed on cocaine the day before and with his 25 year herion addiction and only 2 years sobriety i knew that the cocaine relapse was a prelude to him returning to heroin, he's now fighting a spousal abuse charge and nothing is being done by him or for him to deal with his relapse i am so afraid for him and society if he returns to heroin, the drug makes him a threat to society, theres nothing he won't do to get the drug when he's strung out.

twisted pencil-- I know what you mean. My boyfriend is inprison right now for violation of parole, and pending domestic violence charges with me as the victim. He has a history of addiction, but when I met him he was sober and on parole-- I didn't find out he was using crack again until it was too late to help (although believe me I tried.) I thought it was 'just booze.' (and booze is bad enough.) I would rather he was in a treatment program, instead of just being locked up, but he WAS on this really self destructive train so part of me is actually GLAD he's locked up and can sober up again. I hate to say that, but even one of his best friends who was his bunkie on a previous term agrees. When he's high, or between high's, he is a danger to himself and others and acts like someone I don't know and don't want to. But, I love who he really is and I am trying to work through this. And yes, I really want him home and am so afraid I won't be able to visit him in prison because of the DV charge. But, I want him SOBER, bottom line.

I don't want to be negative, all I can say is that you women will have to be very strong to deal with what might yet come once they are out. It might not be over with yet, if ever.

Tanya