I need to know if what my son is telling me is true or not? My son tells me that because I would not bring drugs into the jail for him that his fellow inmates woud say that I was not a solid person. Please help me

The defintition of "solid" varies depending on the character of the person using it. Generally, if you are "solid" in prison, you are considered a decent person, a good guy, honest, hardworking, that sort of thing. So, if someone thinks you are not "solid" for NOT bringing drugs into a prison, than what does that say about their character...not much. And if someone has a character like that than I wouldn't worry about what they think of you anyways. Their perception on things is obviously way out of whack.

Not to mention, if your son is asking you to bring him in drugs, he is either not getting the help he needs or not interested at this point in getting the drugs out of his life. You do not want to be a part of him harming, even killing himself, or anyone else who may take the drugs. People also get shanked, even killed all the time over drugs. You do not want that on your head either.

And on top of everything, you WILL go to prison if you are caught brining in drugs. That doesn't just mean if you are caught at the visit bringing them in. If someone OD's or if drugs are found in your son's possesion, they will go back, and listen to his phone calls, listen on his visits (make no mistake they have mics at visits too) and they will find out where it came from and you will be charged. Corr.Canada takes drugs in their institutions very seriously so I would not mess with it. I would have questions as to why anyone who loves me would want me to risk so much for drugs.

I hope I haven't offended you in any way, this is just a all too common problem, I have seen it at visits myself. Don't get yourself involved in something like this. It will only lead to bad things.

Good luck and good for you for telling your son no in the first place.

Erin

Skitzer:

Your son is manipulating you - PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

DO NOT CONVEY DRUGS INTO THE JAIL. If you get caught, you will be facing felony charges. Then you'll be sitting right next to your son serving time.

Tell him, "I AM a solid person. I don't need to prove that to anyone. Especially to some guys in jail."

God bless!

Welcome to PTO skitzer. Good for you for not agreeing to take drugs into the prison! Besides the obvious possibility of going to prison yourself you would likely lose your visitation with your son. The consequences are definately NOT worth it. I doubt the other inmates he is referring to have parents bringing them drugs!! Best of luck to you!

you have nothing to prove to those guys. what they mean by "solid" you dont want to be. frankly {if i may say so} your son is a goof for suggesting such a thing.

If by not bringing drugs into the institution it means that you are not a "solid" person, it also means that you are stupid person. Having worked for many years in a correctional setting, I can tell you that it concerns me greatly that you son would make such a suggestion. Not only is he placing himself in a dangerous situation but, more to the point, he is trying to get you into the cell beside him. This boy has some serious problems that he is clearly not willing to face and he is trying to get you to assist him in continuing those problems. It's time you have a heart to heart with this boy and let him know that you are not prepared to condone his drug use and certainly will neither condone nor assist in his drug use inside. When I worked inside, drugged up inmates was one of my major concerns for the safety of the institution, the inmate population and myself. Put a stop to it and put a stop to it now!!!

I agree with what has been said........also, other inmates lean on others to bring in drugs for them. I am glad you said no to this.

GOOF,MUTT and Piece of Shite call your son on this one, and don;t risk your freedom over someone other than your son, someone else who doesn't know you or who could care lesss about YOU.Drugs bring out Tension, power struggles,(deadly debts) and get everyone jonesing for a mind escape.......this ratchets up the tension and pressure like a steam cooker ready to blow.......good for you"NO means NO" solid one.

Good for you for saying no of course.
Unfortunately the problem is that your son has moved into a place with a whole new set of rules and pressures.
I think the current state of our prison system is pretty sad (I doubt many would disagree), but long ago I heard a saying and it seems to keep coming back to me as of late, 'the inmates are running the assylum'.

On the other hand I would tend to lean away from what MrJustice is saying, he doesn't neccesarily know what kind of pressure your son may have felt he was under, or why he felt he needed to prove himself or to be accepted or protected.
I hope he accepts your answer and doesn't ask again, but I doubt this request means he has some sort of 'serious problems'.

Good for you for saying no of course.
Unfortunately the problem is that your son has moved into a place with a whole new set of rules and pressures.
I think the current state of our prison system is pretty sad (I doubt many would disagree), but long ago I heard a saying, and it seems to keep coming back to me as of late, 'the inmates are running the asylum'.

On the other hand I would tend to lean away from what MrJustice is suggesting, he doesn't neccesarily know what kind of pressure your son may have felt he was under, or why he felt he needed to prove himself or to be accepted or protected.
I hope he accepts your answer and doesn't ask again, but I doubt this request means he has some sort of 'serious problems'.