my name is Erin and I am 27 years old, I am not married and have no kids. One of my closest friends (we have been friends about 20 years) is serving a 50 year sentence (he has already served almost 6 i believe) at Keen Mountain Prison in Virginia. He has always been there for me, and now I am doing my best to be there for him.

My name is Tiffanie and my husband is in Augusta Correctional. We are doing Life with possible parole. (Already served 15 years). I am in the military. We've known each other for almost 20 years (He was my Junior/High school sweetheart). We were just married 6 June 04...His birthday!

Hello family :D Annette is the name. I am in central VA, been in VA all my life. I have 2 boys, 13 and 18. I am just joining this group. Found it few hours ago. Hope and Faith are there. Look for them. Believe cause we believe. There is always the best in the worst. Everything makes you look back and be a stronger person. Great to be here. :D

My name is Sandy and my 32 years old son is at Keene Mtn in Va. I am married to a very suportive man (Chris stepfather) have 3 boys,2 stepdaughters and 8 grandchildren. MY family is my life, as Im sure yours are also.I work full time for a major grocery store and volunteer my days off at People PLace where we have a play day for handicapped adults and assist the elderly with doctors appointments, phone calls and sometimes just spend time talking with them. I must keep myself busy in order to remain sane.

Thanks for this thread we all need to know a little about each other so that we can understand more.

Welcome to all of our members! We appreciate you taking the time to tell us about yourselves. Take care - be strong and if you need anything, please don't hesitate to PM mlk or myself.

My name is Sherry and my fiancee is doing a 12 month sentence at Pamunkey Regional Jail. Luckily he does get work release so I do get to see him briefly when I return him to his home away from home. I just can't wait until this ride is over. We live in Bumpass (central Virginia) We've been together for 2 years and I have 2 boys 10 & 6, who my man has been a wonderful stepdad to. He's been in since August 2, 2004.

Hi, I'm Jeannine aka meanandsurly. My son is at JRCC. My husband is a nuclear contractor and moves around alot. I sat down two years ago with the children. We have a 30, 28, 27, 26, 24, 21, 20, and 15. (also cust. of 9yr grdsn) We have a menagerie of His, Mine, and Other peoples. I have Multiple Sclerosis and get by day to day. My son (21) gets out....I guess when they say?! Not mean or surly, just everything else I thought of was already taken. We live in Aulander, NC and go day by day.

Hi,

I am taking the time to use it to inform those whom are not aware of a very important life altering Bill in the state of Virginia. Come January, 2005, the state Senate Office will Vote towards Passing Bill SB 75 aka HB 362 - Good Conduct and Mandatory Literacy Allowances for Incarcerated Person. This Bill will allow incarcerated persons to EARN up to 15 days credit for every 30 days sentenced (50%). This Bill was Passed in the state House of Delegates as HB 362 back in Feb. 2004. However, unless it is passed in the state Senate it will not become law. This Bill is similar to the Federal Bill HR 4752- LERA (65%).
As you all know there was a Rally on October 13, 2004 on the steps of the Governor. Bill SB 75 was on the agenda along with the HR 4752-LERA. The Rally was organized by VirginiaCURE, a wonderful organization that we all should become familiar with.

Some of us have been dedicated towards Letter writing to the state Senators. What happen was, back after the House passed this bill it was then sent to the state Senate, the state Senate Continued the Bill until January, 2005 to allow a committee review. The state Senate Committee Rehabiliation and Social Services are currently deciding the fate of every incarcerated person in the state of Virginia regarding this Bill, SB75 aka HB 362. This Bill is for those whom are not eligible for parole, the Post 1995 Truth in Sentencing Bill. It also affects those under parole, to ensure mandatory parole release. Therefore, effecting everyone. This Bill is for both non-violent and violent offenders with some limitation factors for those whom are sentenced for First Degree Murder, Life and Rape. This Bill allows for incarcerated persons to EARN MONTHLY Zero, Five, Ten and 15 Days Credits.
This Bill will Mandate Rehabilitation, through increased education, increased vocation/career training, allowance of college education, increase social behavior assistance, changes towards receiving financial aid assistance for all.
I term this Bill as such: "It is NOT a GET OUT OF JAIL/PRISON FOR FREE BILL; It is a BILL WHICH INCREASES REHABILITATION AND DECREASES RECIDIVISM THROUGH EARNED ACCOMPLISHMENTS, ENABLING EARLY RELEASE. Make no Mistake this Bill if Passed and Become Law will not be easy to obtained. It is a Bill which makes all sides accountable, mainly our incarcerated love ones.

LETTER WRITING TO THE STATE SENATE COMMITTEE REHABILITATION AND SOCIAL SERVICE IS KEY TOWARDS STRENGTHING THE PASSING OF THIS BILL, JUST AS SIGNING THE PETITION FOR THE FEDERAL LERA BILL. WE MUST BECOME INVOLVE IN ORDER TO GO ABOUT CHANGE.
I HEAR EVERYONE COMPLAINING ABOUT THE NO-PAROLE IN VIRGINIA, WELL HERE'S YOUR CHANCE TO CHANGE THIS...COME JANUARY, 2005. HOWEVER, THE LETTERS NEED TO BE IN BEFORE JANUARY, 2005. TIME IS RUNNING SHORT.
TO READ UP ON THIS BILL GO TO THE FOLLOWING WEB SITES:

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bom/legp504.exe?041+oth+SB75F122+pdf

or Virginia General Assembly, type in SB75 in box, click on highlight (impact statement)...this will pull up the full text bill

and/or go to Virginia General Assembly, type in SB75 in box, click on under heading Status "01/14/04 Senate: Presented & ordered printed, prefiled 01/16/14 040797756... This will pull up the bill in its true entirety with all limitations and exceptions.

and/or go to Virginia General Assembly, type in SB75, click on under heading Status "01/14/04 and 02/06/04 to find all the state Senators on the Committee and Social Services to enable you to write them directly.

To obtain a Sample Letter on how to Write and Contact Legislator go to:
http://legis.state.va.us/CitizensGu...yLegislator.htm

To obtain a list of all the state Senators and the Committee Senators address, phone number and email addresses go to:
http://sov.state.va.us/SenatorDBnsf/$Viewtemplate+for+WDistrictAddresses?OpenForm

or Just Go to the Virginia General Assembly Site and make it all happen for you.

Time is running out. Write your loveone and send them this information, to enable them to spread the word to other incarcerated persons, to enable them to get the word to their families, friends, communities, church and loveones to start writing letters DEMANDING the passing of the SB 75 Bill for Good Conduct Allowance and Mandatory Functional Literacy Requirement...

Bottom Line, Don't you want your Love one to re-enter society a Productive Asset opposed to the Non-Productive Liability for which they entered DOC!!!

Feel free to contact me privately if you need any assistance or wish to see our volunteer group group petition letters. We have been giving families one letter with 25 signature spaces to put name and address. They acquire signatures from family, friends, community and etc, then date it, send the original copy to the Chairman of the Committee, Senator Hanger and send copies of that same petition letter to all the 15 other members on the committee. We will be glad to send you a copy or email you it...

Contact VirginiaCURE online and get updates on all the BILLS... And please go and sign the petitiononline for LERA.

I apology for the lengthy message. I just thought you should know what is going on. Lastly, rest asure there are many whom are opposed to this bill passing and know about the vote and they are writing in.... Don't you think your love one deserve a Second Chance in Life, if they Earn it?

All the Best,
Nettie

Hi again,
for some reason the web sites I typed above didn't paste correctly... Here they are again...

http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?041+oth+SB75F122+pdf
http://legis.state.va.us/CitizensGuide/ContactingMYLegislator.htm
http://sov.va.us/SenatorDB.nsf/$$Viewtemplate+for+WDistrictAddresses?OpenForm

if it still doesn't work for you, then just write me an email and I will give it to you

Me Again, I just found out, if you just click on the web sites I liked from here it will take you there directly, even though the spelling listed isn't how I typed it.
Sorry for the confusion.
Nettie

My name is Tereasa and I just have never sail hello in this section per say heheh. My husband has been in VA DOC for over 10 years now and we have a bit over 2 left to do. I have stuck by him through it all and we are stronger for it! We have a 9 year old daughter who I was 3 months prego with when he got locked up. We are all awaiting his release. I live in Missouri right now but will be moving out to VA in June to start getting things in order for his release. He is in Coffeewood at the moment and seems to think it is alright!

I am so thankful for this site it has been of great help to me in the past and furture!!

Hi Everyone:

My name is Alli, and I am new to the Prison Talk Online board. To give you a brief introduction, I am 27 years old and about 2 years ago while working in a law firm I met my sweet heart ( Kevin). What started out as a simple act of kindness on my part soon became something a lot more than I ever imagined. Here were are nearly a year after meeting and more and more in love each day. Im lucky in the fact that I can go see him pretty much every weekend, if time allows me to. He is about a hour and half away from me. Kevin has about another 6 years, but today he told be about SB 75 which is going before the General Assembly in January! I have to write my letter TODAY! Anyway, for those of you who are in my situation may God Bless you very much. I hope that your loved ones come home to you soon. This is probably the hardest thing for me, knowing the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, has to spend another 6 years or so in prison.

Merry Christmas and God Bless you all!:)

Hi my son is in portsmouth Va jail awaiting trial on the 10th and 14th there saying he can spend 45 years it's only been 4 months and i feel like i'm going crazy i get to see him tonight but i'ts behind glass i never thought i would ever see one of my children behind bars it breaks my heart evertime i talk to him and go see him.

Hi myname is Karissa and my man is in Southampton va been there for 7 years and still has another 3 years to go. I love and miss him so much

To view the newly introduced Bill SB 805 formerly SB 75 (Same just updated)
Go to the following:
http://leg1.state.va.us/cgi-bin/legp504.exe?051+ful+SB805
or
Go to Virginia General Assembly. At Home Page on Right hand box, type in
SB 805. You will see a general listing of updates. Click on one of the sentences and the bill in it's entirety will display.

If you are having any trouble, if you need a copy of my pre-written petition letter, feel free to contact me directly at:
VaCureRichmond@aol.com
(804) 737-9624

Remember the 12th Annual Advocacy Day with Virginia C.U.R.E. for Responsible Justice is Monday January 17, 2005 in Richmond, VA at the Virginia General Assembly Building. The Public is encouraged to Attend and Voice Your Opinion about the Passing of SB 805 and many of the other Bills.
There are many Position Papers that will become Bills which benefits incarcerated persons and their families, which needs your continuous support to enable passage.

All the Best

Hi all! My name ia Paula and my husband is at Sussex I State Prison. He has been in for a lil over 6 years and he has a 39 years sentence.:( We have a 6 year old daughter. I am originally from NY but moved down here so I can be closer to him. We just got married this past Oct but I have been with him , i guess u can say on n off since 1997. I apologize for never saying hello on this thread cuz I am not a new member but as the saying goes.....better late than ever. :D

Hey everyone! My name is Angela. And my fiance is currently in sussex 2 state prison. We met under an odd situation, over the internet and our relationship continued from there. we met in august of 2001 and we were together a month before he got put into county. And have been on and off since then. He was sentenced and is now serving until 2033. His circumstances are a bit confusing to me. But I'll be gettin more information on his trial. He's serving time he shouldn't be for someone else. Well good news is he said something about a Heabus corpus ( i think thats how its spelled). Lets see how all that goes! And I FINALLY got to meet him face to face for the first time January 23rd. He's the love of my life and hopefully soon to be husband. I would like to move closer but we will see how all that goes. If anyone would like to contanct me feel free to. I would like to get to know everyone a little bit better!

Thank you
Angela

Hello everyone my name is Leticia. I am new to PTO. My husband is currently serving a seven year sentence. We have 2 years to go. He is in Baskerville Correctional Center. We have been very supportive of one another. I have been there since day one and I plan to stay until the end. I know that we have a very promising future together. I love him dearly. IF anyone ever need to talk, I am here to listen.

Please forgive me as I am new to this site......I am trying to figure out how it works

Hi. My name is Traci. I am new to PTO and my husband just started serving a lengthy sentence at Petersburg Federal Camp. I have 1 child and 2 step children. I just went and visited him for the first time the other day and it was quite an experience. I am thankful to this site. It has answered so many questions I have. I hope everyone can stay strong for themselves and their loved ones. This indeed is difficult to go through.

hi my name is shelby and my son is in lawrenceville c.c. and i haven't seen him in 5 years cause i was just released a year ago and living in tennessee now ,but i plan on seeing him soon my p.o. gave me the ok last week:) he tell me that he is very lonely and wishes that people would write him , that he don't know how i made it threw all the time i pulled . if anyone would care to write him , he is a good boy:rolleyes: and his release date is 2-23-09 ........hes address is jessee rhea #322449 ....1607 planters rd. lawrenceville , va. 23868 thanks

Congrats on getting out and starting your life again! My sweetie is in Lawrenceville Correctional. As far as prisons go its pretty nice, and the CO's are pretty decent as well. Good luck on your visit with you son, Im sure he will be very happy to see you!

Hi, my name is Tiffany and I just found out and joined PTO today. My boyfriend is currently finishing out the last year of his 2 year sentence at Greensville Correctional Center. I have not been able to visit him yet due to the fact that I am a single mother of a 21mos old son and the 1hr and a half road trip would be to long for him to handle. I keep in contact with him through letters and the occassional phone calls. I think it's very nice that there is a site that gives as much information and support to those with incarcerated loved ones as this one does and it is well appreciated.

Hello all... my name is Cheryl. I've been lurking around here for about a month now and have finally decided to give an intro. My fiance is currently in Riverside Regional Jail. He still has one more court date... on the 29th of march. So far he has another 21 months to go. If all goes well on the 29th, that will be all he gets. Hopefully soon after the 29th he will be put into the DOC. We have been together for 4 years. I love him completely and will support and stand by him for the entire sentence. We have had some really rough times lately, but I am positive our love will get us through. He is a very loving, decent man. He has had a few addictions that have pretty much put him where he is. I believe he has been given a chance to get sober and finally look at life with a clear, unfuzzy mind. We have a 10 month old son together, and I have a 7yr old girl and a 14 yr old girl who both consider him to be their father. He loves them as if they were his own. I am soo glad I found this site. It has been an abundance of info. Thank you for all you are doing here.

Hi my name is Cindy and I live in Fluvanna VA. My boyfriend is in Sussex 1. He has 9 months to pull and then he has to go to the bridge ministries for 18 months. This is the first time i have ever been in this type of relationship. I love him with all my heart but if he don't make his mind up to turn his life around I will not stay with him. He has 11 years hanging over his head. I will not do this again. I am a single mom and i have a good job and i just had a house built. So I don't need him. Do I want him in my life yes. I have been attending Al-Anon for over a year now and it has helped me become a stronger person. It has also helped me deal with him. We just have to take it one day at a time. I hope to find someone close to talk to.:wave:

Hi, my Fiance is in Buckingham CC! He has been in for 10 years and we still have 19 years to go! Hopefully (with lots of prayers 10 years). We have a son together, he is almost 10 ... yes if you do the math, you can see I was pregnant when he went in! ... I visited him in alot of the prisons he has been in, except for two: Keen Mtn and Red Onion! He's been in Greensville, Southampton, Wallens Ridge, Keen Mtn, Red Onion, and now Buckingham.
Hopefully in Aug he will be moved closer (now its a 3 1/2 ride - one way) He has been charge free for 3 mos so far...every 6 mos they can put in for a transfer review! Then each year its a mandatory review!!!

Hi everyone my son was moved to indian creek last night thats in chesapeake thats all I know right now new to prison I don't have a clue what to do or who to call the vine called me this morning to tell me they gave me a number to call the women coul'nt assist me she told me to call back later i don't know what to exept or anything if anyone could let me know what to expect that would be great because i'm going crazy!

Hello Kim,
Welcome to PTO. I felt the same way when I joined. I am sorry to hear you son is incarcerated. I do not have a son incarcerated, I do have a dearly loved one and friends incarcerated. PTO members will help you. I do not know a whole lot, I am an amature myself online learning everyday. They have been very helpful to me. It is nice to know we are not alone. I do have to sons myself and have had my dealings with the juvenile problems for the past two yrs and pray he does not make it there. That is all I can do. I fought that battle til it about killed me and I let him go on his own journey. I had used every resource possible, private, state, and threw the juvenile courts, detention homes, and Riverside Regional Jail til after he was 18. I am here if you need moral support and so is others here on PTO. Take care of yourself.

Kim, First welcome to pto. Im not sure what you would like to know. All I can tell you is that it is a waiting game. If he is in classification they will let him call in a week or so. If that is where he is it is only a place to decide where he will be going.Just hang in there you will learn the steps to take.

Dear Kim:

The following link should help you some as to finding out where your son will be. http://www.vadoc.state.va.us/offenders/default.htm It should give you the basic information you will need once he has been classified and gets settled in. Lets face it honey, were dealing with the state here so they will probably take their sweet time getting him classified and taken care of. You will be fine I know it is very nerve racking, but just have faith sweetie!

Alli

Hi all. I did the general intro, and deb suggested I check out the VA forum. This is my first experience with the system. My fiance (?) is now at Powhatan Correctional Center in State Farm, VA....I would love to get to know you all, as I have no support in this situation from my family. Hope everyone has a great day

G's Sunshine

Hi G's Sunshine and welcome.

I haven't been around the Virginia forum too long but I have found people to be very helpful both here and in other areas of PTO. Best of luck to you and your finace. Mine is at Augusta.

Linda

Hi all. I did the general intro, and deb suggested I check out the VA forum. This is my first experience with the system. My fiance (?) is now at Powhatan Correctional Center in State Farm, VA....I would love to get to know you all, as I have no support in this situation from my family. Hope everyone has a great day

G's Sunshine

Hi everyone my son was moved to indian creek last night thats in chesapeake thats all I know right now new to prison I don't have a clue what to do or who to call the vine called me this morning to tell me they gave me a number to call the women coul'nt assist me she told me to call back later i don't know what to exept or anything if anyone could let me know what to expect that would be great because i'm going crazy!
Hey Kim:

Every place is different but when my baby got moved to Powhatan it took about 24 -48 hours to hear from hime, they allowed him one phone call and one letter...his mom got the phone call about 2 days after he got there and I got the letter about 3-4 days later. They have to ho through a medical processing that takes 10-14 days, once his bloodwork came back we were cleared to visit. Hope this helps. I will be praying for you and your son.

Hi, I'm Angie. I am 26 years old and live with two teenagers, my neice & nephew. My man has been in for a little over 5 years now, and he's got just over 3 more to go. Me and his family all live here in southwest Virginia, but he has been out in Kansas for almost 4 years now.

I didn't know whether I should post here or in the Kansas group!

PS. The company I'm working for is currently looking for a receptionist. That someone needs to be pretty good at Microsoft Word and Excel. If anyone is interested, and lives fairly close to Radford, let me know.

Hello everyone. My Name is Latasha-I'm 28 year's old and I'm from Fluvanna County, Va. However, currently I reside in Stone Mountain. GA. I left Virginia for the very reason that I now find myself compelled to stay connected to my love one's doing time in the VA DOC. I boarded a Greyhound bus set for the Job Corps Program(95) looking for a better life for myself. Tired of seeing loved one's sentenced to time behind the walls of VA DOC.:angry: Though the road has been tough, I thank God for delivering me from Virginia.

I have a close family friend @ Sussex I, a high school friend @ Petersburg (MED), an uncle @ Buckingham Correctional Center, and an ex b/f @ Wallens Ridge State Prison.

My heart goes out to each of them every day especially me family friend @ Sussex I- who was sentenced to life plus 53 yrs. for murder, possession of firearm by a convicted felon, and two malicious wounding charges. No murder weapon was ever recovered and the only two witnesses that came forth were to crackheads that couldn't pick him out a photo lineup or point him out in court- Hanover County was just hungry for a conviction.

Then their is my ex-boyfriend who was convicted of rapping a 15 yr. old young lady-in which her story changed several times. She refused to go have a rap kit done and the mother said it was her choice. The mother allowed my ex-boyfirend to remain at party in here home for several hours after her daughter reported the incident to her :confused: and it took them three days to report the incident to police. The first trial ended in a hung jury and the second trial landed him with 26 years in jail w/ no physical evidence recovered from the scene to support the young lady's claim. Get this a former prosecuting attorney for Clifton Forge, VA was his lawyer and to see him in action you would have thought he was prosecuting my ex rather than defending him.:confused: The young lady stated during the second trial she was on her menstrual cycle during the time of the alleged incident yet, no blood was found on her sheets or clothes. My heart goes out to each of these young men who will either spend the rest of their life or a vast majority of their life w/ the VA DOC.
:thumbsup: Please pray for my friends and family as I will pray for your loved one's. Prayer is the only power many of us have for our loved one's!

Hello,
My name is Helen and I live in England. I belong to an organisation that finds penfriends for men and women on death row. I am the Co-ordinator for Virginia and I've been writing to, and visiting, penfriends in Sussex 1 for about 13 years now (previously Mecklenburg). I've seen two friends executed and I still write to a prisoner there, as well as a former DR prisoner in Wallens Ridge. I've been a member of PTO for a while now, although I've not introduced myself here before.

I am 25 and my boyfriend is in Sussex 1. He has a long time left, but I will stand by him through this ordeal. I began by just writing him strictly on a friendship basis, but things changed. I also have penfriends at Dinwiddie, Wallens Ridge and in Lucasville, OH. I started doing this about a year ago and I won't stop writing until they are all home.

:wave: Hello all at PTO. Sorry I haven't posted here but I have been a member for about 3 months and have posted in other forums. I have lived in southwest virginia all my life. As my name say I'm just a caring aunt. My niece is serving time and has a while to go yet. ( 2 1/2 yrs. app.) I found this site by just looking up info about the camp she is in and have found lots of support and lots of info and encouragement. So thanks to everyone and I hope I can be of help to some one also.

Hi my name is Ashley.. i am new here . my b/f is in Indian Creek. I am new at this so if Anyone has any info for me plez tell me. We have 4 yrs in tell i we can have each other back. But there is a posibility that he can be let go earlyer on good behavor:yay: .. GOD i hope. we have known each other for a yr. but it seems like so much longer and he is my life and love so uf theres any way you can help me or give me some info let me now
ASHLEY

Hi my name is Ashley.. i am new here . my b/f is in Indian Creek. I am new at this so if Anyone has any info for me plez tell me. We have 4 yrs in tell i we can have each other back. But there is a posibility that he can be let go earlyer on good behavor:yay: .. GOD i hope. we have known each other for a yr. but it seems like so much longer and he is my life and love so IF theres any way you can help me or give me some info let me now
ASHLEY

Hi everyone. I havent posted here at all, but I have peeked in to read quite often. I have a good pal in Virginia- in Haynesville. Its horrible there. But I go visit him, and support him completly. He has 7 months left. I cant wait until he gets out! nice to meet everyone on here.
Ashley its hard- just hold on. VADOC is rough, and they have moved my friend around alot lately. You have to stay on them alot, call them bug them. I have found a few really nice employees with the DOC that I have talked to that have given me alot of great information.

hello im mayhew and i am from central virginia i have recently been realeased from powatan correctional facility for a driving charge.anyone with any questions about vdoc i will help all i can

hi my name is natalie.i am from london my boyfriend is incarcerated greensville correctional centre.we've been together for nearly a year now,he's coming out in 2013.it's really hard.I only joined the forum today,because i'm hoping to come and visit my man soon,and i don't know how to get to the prison.I will be staying in richmond.

Hey everyone! My name is Angie, I live in Southwest Virginia and my man is pulling an 8 year sentence (5 years down ~ 3 to go).

I just wanted to come in and say hi, and introduce myself. I hope this group is fairly active, I'd love to get to know you all more.

Hello everyone....I am new to this site, and sincerely hope it will help give me peace of mind.My name is Brandy, and I live in Virginia. I am posting this because I need an outlet to get my feelings out so I don't crack...lol....seriously. About 9 years ago, I met Paul. He had a hard life, in and out of state care since he was 9 years old because his mother was very cruel and abusive. Paul was a mess.....Your average 18 year old trying to mask his own pain and vulnerability with a bad ass attitude...But underneath all that, I found a man who was sweet, creative, compassionate,warm,intelligent and funny. Paul and I became close and gradually he opened up to me about his life, which was no easy feat for him. Everyone in his life had let him down, so it was hard for him to open up and allow anyone to be close enough to see the real man.I feel honored to have gotten that priveledge. We were together for years....until 5 years ago when we got into a stupid argument and I needed a week to cool down and think....I will regret that break for the rest of my life.....I got home from work after about 8 days of separation, and there was a message on my voice mail from Paul.....it was strange....he sounded panicked and said that he loved me and was calling to say goodbye.I couldn't reach him anywhere, and no one knew his whereabouts.So I took that call as a break-up call, and went on with my life. Have you ever felt so connected to a person that no matter where you go or what you're doing, their presence remains??? That is how my life has been these past 5 years. So I decided to Google him and see what I came up with. I was in for the shock of my life.Paul is serving 2 life sentences for murder. I do not know how this could've happened....I am not in denial....I know he is guilty and belongs in prison for his crimes....But I am a wreck right now....I have so many conflicted emotions. Part of me is angry and sickened, part of me is grieving for what could have been and for so much wasted potential, and a BIG part of me feels guilty. I feel as if I could've done something differently to prevent this from happening. Paul has undoubtedly done some bad things....but am I crazy for still caring about him? A person is more than their crime. Of this, I am convinced. The man I knew was nothing less than kind, sensitive, gentle, caring....He always took care of me, and was never abusive in any way. As a matter of fact, I felt safe with him.I am so scared that this is partially my fault....After I decided to take the break, he started hanging out with some guy, Steve......Steve did a lot of drugs, and was there the night of the murder. I am worried that Paul then viewed his existence a complete failure, and didn't care what happened. I think that he thought I was going to abandon him, and lost all hope, since everyone else had failed him. Am I crazy for caring? Am I wrong for loving a man that I know has taken a life? I am so confused......I cannot talk to family or friends about all this, because they wouldn't have any compassion for the situation. I am angry that he could commit a crime of such senseless violence.....I am scared for his well-being, since he is incarcerated at a Super-Max facility that is notorious for the abuse and dehumanization of it's prisoners....I am sad because I miss him.... I am sad because I see the good in this person that the world seems to have forgotten.... I am heartbroken because to top it all off, Paul has a 5 year old son he knows nothing about.....I lost contact with him before I knew I was pregnant... I feel guilty because I know I could have done something to save him.....I know I must sound like an idiot....But Paul had no history of violence before this.... While I was with him, he transformed into someone who actually cared about himself..... despite a troubled and abusive childhood......I have written him a letter. I sent it off to Wallen Ridge....But I have no knowledge of prison mail procedures.....Do the prisoners actually receive their mail? If so, do they receive it promptly? Are they given supplies to write back? Do I have to be on an approved mail list? I have so many questions and concerns in regards to prison life....You may all be laughing at me for caring after all this time.... But the heart cannot choose who to love, and once real love has been established, It doesn't just die due to ill circumstances... Love is unconditional.....This, if nothing else, has taught me the truth in that....I would really appreciate any feedback: info on Wallens Ridge procedures and treatment.....mail procedures.....how mail is distributed to prisoners......visiting info and regulations.....or even just a hello from someone who can sympathize......I feel so alone right now....could really use a friend to talk to . Thanks for listening to me ramble....God Bless....
Brandy

Brandy first off welcome to PTO, secondly, no one here is laughing at you. Why do you think we're all here. All of us has or had a loved one in the system for one reason or another. We can not judge you, just as you can't control your heart. You two will always have a connection through your son. I'm sure you have tons of questions. You are more then welcome to pm me. My husband is no longer incacerated but I'm still here for ya.

hi
my name is elsa and new in this forum, my baby is at Jonesville and just had 17 years knocked off his sentence, new release date 2011

Well...I am Jessi...I am 21 years old and my fiance is currently serving I dont really know cause he has mosre charges pending and I got on PTO to have some people as a support and OMG I never thought I would depend on this site like I have come to..My Fiance is currently in Roanoke City Jail but is awaiting Transfer to prision which could be anyday its really touch and go...

Hello all :)

My finance is currently located at Red Onion State Prison... I have been going down to visit him every month... It a hop, skip, and a jump to get allllll the way down there.. He's been locked up since '98 and has been all over the state of VA... I miss him so much and I can't wait for him to come home soon :)

Hello all!!! I introduced myself in the general space but here goes my local intro!!

I met Lee 2 yrs ago..... I worked as a counselor at his facility and it just happened. The first thing I ever said to him when I saw him was "you need to get away cuz you're gonna be trouble". Oh if I'd have known then what I know now!!! ha ha!!!! We became friends through my days there and soon enuff it led to our "capture"..... 10 months after meeting him I was escorted from the premises, threatened with my own prison time, lost my job, home, and friends. He was moved from the facility he was at then (a level II as they'd already moved him from my Level III to keep us apart) to a level IIII as his punishment..... lets just say that some days I think his punishment for duping the system was A LOT worse than mine.

I would never change my relationship with Lee... it started out hard and continues to be hard. The one thing I would do differently is I would have been strong enuff to have quit before they found out..... but what I can say, the idea of giving up seeing him EVERY day was too much.... so I stayed and they caught up with us. Otherwise, we're making it thru. We got engaged last year and have hopes of getting married sooner rather than later. Of course that is now on hold as the DOC has seen fit to ban me permanently from any VA facility. Petty I tell ya, argh!

So I found my way on here because some days I just don't know how to handle it. I mean, I fell in love with him unexpectedly and now I'm doing time. I am ok with that.... but I also have to live with what I know of where he is. He's in an awful awful place cuz he fell in love with a girl on the wrong side of the desk.... and I hate that for him. He's moody as hell since he moved and some days I honestly want to beat his head into a wall!!! We've tried to walk away from each other a billion times but the fact that we're in love always keeps us coming back..... We've both been through a lot to have this relationship and we keep fighting not only everyone else but ourselves... interesting way it turns out eh?!!?

Anyways... I'll be around... and answering questions if I can based on the fact that I know the "inside" scoop!!!! Take it easy ladies and I truly hope being here makes the hurt of the next 3 yrs away. Thanks in advance!

Brandy,

Do not apologize for your feelings.... I think it's natural to wonder the "what ifs" and to now wonder if you could have prevented it. What you need to know is that you could NOT have prevented this..... it is NOT your fault... and you have NOTHING to regret.

Maybe things would have been different had you guys remained together.... but hindsight is ALWAYS 20/20. You could not have known what he would do that week. You could not have known that you'd be preg. (You're not psychic are you?!) There is no way to go back in time and to redo that moment... it's impossible and you're wasting more time if you spend your efforts dwelling on the past. Therefore, I suggest you focus on the here and now...what do you want from himnow? What do you want to offer him now? What will you do with him back in your life now? Those are things you need to know before you meet up with him again......

I wish you sooo much luck and if you ever need a shoulder, I am here!

T.

Hi, how is everyone. Well, let me first start off, I'm 19yr old.. and my fiance is in Greensville C.C., He's been in Deep Meadow C.C., and the county jail. I've been with him since I was 15, so it wasn't that hard to wait for him until May 25, 2006 (he gets released 2days before my birthday, what a great present huh? haha) .. I recently moved down here to Powhatan, VA, which is probably 25 minutes away from Powhatan C.C., Deep Meadow & James River...I moved here in Oct, and was going to go see him Nov 5, but he got put in the "hole" for fighting, and a week later, transfered him to Greensville C.C., it really sucked because I was SOOO close to seeing him, and now about an hour away!!!! Well, he got locked up Dec 20, 2003, and I think that the county really screwed him over, his side of the "story" was recorded, and "somehow" the tape got pieces recorded over... How weird huh, yeah.. It is, parts of it were missing (we realized this when we read thru the printed version)... One part he was talking about how he was eating dinner with my family, then all of a sudden the next thing he says is something about a car... Really wack. But it's alright, I actually think being locked up has helped him, not only mentally, but physcially. I love him to death, and he will always be my bestfriend. Two months after I met him in 2001, he got locked up for burglery, which really upset me, but I was still a teenager (he was 19)... I talked to him once-in-a-while, but nothing serious, he got released a year later, and we started talking again, it got serious, and then Dec 20th came of 2003, and the police called me to speak to him, and asked him to just come down to the station and talk to them... Of course we werent going to say no! haha. But, as he went in, they arrested him... I guess he found out who his real friends were (one of them said he did the crime...) The justice system is really messed up, they wouldn't let me testify for him, since they said "they can cross-examine you" i was like SO WHAT... I was there when everything happened the night of the "crime" and know what my baby did, and what he didnt do, I believe that if I had gotten up on the stand, he would've been only charged with one crime and not the second... But oh well, this prison time has brought us closer together, AND he asked me to merry him the other day (I was shocked.. becuz all the years I've known him, he's always said "im never going to get married"... haha i guess he changed his mind)... I cannot wait for the day he comes home :-) If anyone has anyone in Greensville C.C. & have questions, you can email me at XxGentlebesosxX@aol.com OR If anyone knows how to get married in Greensville C.C. PLEASE email me, we are SOOO stumped on how to do it!!!

Thanks for reading

Nicole

Hi family,,, my name is Terrie and my husband is in greensville c.f, we have loved one another for over eight years, but as of 11/10 we were married, not the way we wanted it but that is ok, he releace date is 3/2017, we have a little wait, i will be here when he comes home to me...God bless you and yours..

Can't remember if I replied to this before or not, anyway
My name is Crystal my Husband , Thomas is in Riverside Regional awaiting trial Jan 11, 2006. he could get up to 10 years this time.
For those of you that remember me from before I'm Back, and for those of you who don't I look forward to getting to know everyone. I love PTO and all it's support.

Hi. My name is Sarah. My man got locked up on Sept 3rd this year. His charges are Statutory Burglary, Grand Larceny, and 3 violations of probation. Now this is his second grand larceny..last time they gave him 11 years and suspended 9 & 1/2 so he only served 1 year and some change. I have no clue what is going to happen, and i'm so scared. He has court tomorrow. It's only to set his trial date though. I see him every wed over a tv screen w/a camera and a phone:cry: I was going to marry him, I got the license and everything but my mom will kick me out if I do it, and I have nowhere or noone else to turn to, because i'm from pennsylvania so all my friends are there. I don't know what to do, but I do know that I will wait for him for as long as I have to. He is my SOUL*MATE!! Well if anyone has any advice, let me know please. If not, thanks for listening.

-Sarah

Just checking in.... to say hello to my fellow Virginians -

:) Hello, I'm Michelle and my boyfriend/soulmate, Keith, is currently in Mecklenburg CC for felony assault & battery. We met after he was let out on bond for the crime last summer. Was the crime that he's in there for really that bad?......No. He got into a bar fight in Henrico county and got attested. But unfortunately, this was his third charge & so it was changed from a misdemenor to a felony. He is the most caring & easy-to-love man I've even heard of (not including books & movies). We've been apart since July and according to the local jails, he SHOULD be getting out on April 14th to start work release. He doesn't have another release date yet for serving full-time. But now DOC has him & they say they don't have any records of work release for him. But (they tell me) if he has a release date for it, then he will only be in DOC for processing (I've heard how long that can take). So far I've been hoping for the best & expecting the worst. I have a 6 year old daughter and he has an 8 year old son. Our kids get along like brother & sister, but they both miss him alot. He's always told me that he doesn't want his son to visit him & we've agreed that it would be best not to tell my daughter were he is at since her father would use that as leverage to take her from me permenantly. Anyways, I'm sso very excited to have found a place were I can talk openly & honestly with other people going thru the samething. It's been so hard these past few months not being able to say anything about what we've been going thru & trying to figure out everything on my own. This is my first & only time going thru this & most in the VA law enforcement have been giving me the run around about everything. I hope this website stays open for many years to come. :thumbsup:

Hi to all glae you all responed i feel goo to know that i have surport in va
my husband is in prison in petersburg va and i live in norht carolina he's only 3 hrs away. are there any one that has a love one in petersburg

have you heard about hte bill 3072 it's for reviving the parole sysem for federal inmates and allowing good time behaver for federal offender you can found out more from fedCure .com it has already past the house check it out and vote

hi my man is in petersburg va and we are from north carolina it's a 3hrs drive but trust me it is worth the drive cause we visit for 7-8 hrs i was taken that trip every other week-end until my car broke down on mothers day coming from visiting him
ineed a motor for my car so...sad in north carolina

hello My name is Christina. I am 26 yrs old, married with three children (2,3, & 5 yrs). My best friend Ross is currently in keen mountain correctional center in western va. We have been friends since early '99 when he married my friend from high school. We had just started to be good friends when he invited me and my boyfriend (now my husband) on a trip with his daughter (lily is 7 now she, she was under a yr then) wife, brother in law, and two kids he was watching for the weekend, to the beach. I wish I knew then, what I knew now. I was with him at the time he "did what he did" to get in prison. Nothing! I testified in trail after trail hung the jury every time. We didn't lose until him wife decided not to pay for his lawyer. We got some court appointed lawyer, who was good buddies with the procuter they were more concerned about planning their fishing trip than us. Lost my job then my lost my home because of all the court dates. I fought for my friend, I never gave up. I never will. I know he is innocent, I was there. Now I am the only one other that his mom who believes in him. His wife left him, his other friends gone. Now it's been 6 yrs. I have not seen him in about 5 yrs, I had move out of state for 3 yrs. He was moved all around the area ( he has a attitude and will protect him self) then he got into powatan I planned to move back to richmond, the week before my move he wrote me and said he was being moved to keen mountain. That is along trip. Iam hoping to go next summer and take his daughter with me. I am trying to get him see if he can be moved closer to richmond. But.... Anyone eles with friends and family in keen mountain I would love to here from yall. I got a long while before he will be out. Jan. 26, 20017 I will be where ever he is at and I dont care if we are 43 yrs old we will have on hell of a party
lots of love
Christina Johnson

I posted the below with "Worried Mom" at PTO with Great Responses...So I am Sharing it Again... Hope You Find My Story and Suggestions Helpful...
All the Best

Hi, I my only child, age 26 is incarcerated for a first time multiple robbery offense for 30 years. From jail to prison, he has been away for only 2 of the 30 years remaining. In the beginning, my son said to me, "Mom, I have died, I have no life anymore"... Through the wonders of God, prayer, family and friends, today, my son is attending acquiring his degree in Business at Ohio University through the College program for incarcerated persons. He has a relationship with God. He and his father have reunited. He and I, other family members have grown closer. He finally realized that those whom he thought was his friends, were just as much lost souls as he was. The blind leading the blind straight to the "hells" of prison. My son will be the first to tell you today " I may be in prison, but Prison is NOT in me"...

Here are a few things I wish to share to assist your child(s)....

1. Write your child often...Even just to say "I was thinking of You", "I Love You and Support You"...Don't depend on anyone else to do this. Nothing like a mothers Love.

2. Clip out the newspaper, or buy the book of crosswords/ word finds and etc and take pages from it and mail it to them. If they are allow books or magazines...Subscribe to at least one, preferable their newspaper. Go on the internet and copy, paste and print spiritual, reglious, comic, jokes, and etc and mail in an envelope. You don't even have to write a note with it... I've found appeal information off the internet and printed it off and dropped in the mail... My son loves sports, music... I send him clippings of whatever interest him off the internet... Little things go a long way...

3. Put something Special in their accounts for birthdays or to reward them when they accomplish something while in prison.

4. Under that only through Education shall "Recidivism" stop. If your child needs their GED, make it your business to write the prison or go online and look up that prison information towards acquiring an education. Don't stop at a GED for education, Just because there are no federal funding to allow for college of incarcerated persons, doesn't mean they can't register and take college course with their state local or out of state college. It is much cheaper in state tuition. Stop looking for a program for incarcerated persons. Ohio University happens to have one for that if you can afford it and it is a good program...BUT almost all local colleges have "DISTANT EDUCATION COLLEGE PROGRAM"...and all inmates are entitled to attend with the approval of their Warden. Instate Tuition at a local college cost an estimate of $130- $150 for 3 credit (1) course. Get a fund raising going, ask for donations, with-in your family, friends, church and etc to help pay for one or two courses each semester. When my family ask about gift for my birthday, christmas, etc...I simply tell family and friends...a contribution to my son college education and/or his appeal...My point to you, if you want to put an end to our children coming out of prison to not being able to get a decent job, having a home and being independent, then, what can we expect but for them to do crimes and return back... This is called "Recidivism" Read up on this matter! Support your child towards rehabilation. If you need assistance in this area...write me anytime.

5. Tell Your Love One NOT to BORROW, EVER from anyone while incarcerated. Go Without!!! Not even a cigarette, for the interest on the loan WILL BE higher than the loan. This is why it is important to put something on your loveones account. $2.00 is better than Nothing. They will appreciate it. Tell them not to join any gangs. Mind their own business... "Do You"... Gossip will get you hurt and/or killed. Keep Busy. Have a schedule that includes exercising, mediation, reading, job and/or school. Make the Best of the Situation. Again, I can't stress the issue of NOT BORROWING...from anyone. You never want to owe a favor. Don't Loan Out Either, or Your may be the Bank for everyone and having trouble getting them repay their debts to you. Simply Again... Tell them to do themselves...or go without.

6. My son's deadbeat child support father, today, 20 Something years later, maturer, has promised our son to financially support his account until he is released. Our son has a budget for general expenses and basic needs. He can pay the MCI collect calls, newpaper, magazines and etc from that monthly allottment his dad now provide. This enables me and others to contribute to his college education and appeals. GOD IS GOOD!!! GOD IS ALWAYS ON TIME!!!

7. If your loveone is incarcerated out of state and it is hurting you not seeing him, and it cost to much to fly. Greyhound Bus service have all types of special programs and rates. Amtrak does too. My son is in state, but is over 9 hours away from me. I have met others that live in my area and have to travel that far, we now group together and even stay over night and bunk together in a hotel to save money. If there is a will, there is a way. If you have to stay overnight, book your room on the internet, it is much cheaper... Due to the distance, we are overnighters, The room cost $79 per night, we pay $43 with taxes...off the internet...for the same room... The hotel has offered us the 2 room Suite at a discounted rate. Weekend rental car service is much cheaper. You can rent a car/suv and buddy travel to visit your loveones. There are so many things to do, to get you where you want to go... It's call "If there's A Will there's A Way"... For God Is Good!


8. My son says to me too, that it is hard for him to have to leave us, he wants to go home with us. Yet, he also says, I will never tell you to stop. Some inmates have chosen not to receive visitors until they are moved closer to home, which is understandable. Bottom line, unless they refuse visitation...Go see them. Also, while visiting my son, we witness family members of another inmate, arguing during the visit...If you could see the expression the saddness on the face of the inmate having to sit and watch his two siblings argue on his time...Please, come at looking and acting your best. Leave all the negativity at home. Visits should be pleasant, loving and to put a tiny bit of normalcy in that loveones life. For, tomorrow is not promised.

9. Don't baby them. Don't condone, but don't condemn them either. If you see or hear them changing for the better, let them know. If they are not, let them know.

10. Do not become friendly with the prison personnel, however, call or write your childs counselor, let them know that you are supportive to your child rehabilation and the family is available to assist with this. Find out what programs are being offered at the prison. Know the prison rules and regulations. When ever requesting for, e.g. that your child be allowed to attend college, which must be approval by the Warden, let them know, that education is a preventive measure to prevent relapses nto criminal behavior which is commonly referred to as "Recidivism". This will go a long way. Most prison officials think that the families have thrown away the key on the inmate. Be professional and pleasant at all times. Make sure that the counselor, the Warden have updated emergency contact information. Your child won't be treated any different the other inmates, but you have put them on notice that you hold the prison and warden accountable for your childs health and safety.

11. Don't assume anything about prison life, the prison your child is incarcerated at, and don't depend on your child letting you know, they sometimes don't know themselves. Call the prison and ask. If you don't know who to ask, ask your childs counselor.

12. Stay in touch with web sites such as this one. Don't be afraid or ashame to come out about your child, your loveone, your friend being incarcerated. I know, for my son is the first person ever in my entire family to be incarcerated and to be incarcerated in a max prison for 30 years. It was truly difficult for me to come out about this. It happens to the Best of Families... We are all in this together.

13. If you want your child to have the faith, you must have it, show it, and convey it. Regardless, of how much they may not be ready for it, send them spiritualand religious information. I simply tear pages from old books, magazines and send it. One day when they are bored and feeling hopeless, trust me... God is always On Time...

14. Send them photos of family, friends, of the house and etc. Never enough photos.

15. When writing them, tell them about your day. No need to discuss prison, they know, they are living it. Be honest about your day and things that happen. My son often tells me, "Mom, I can hear you actually talking in your letters"... I keep it real.

16. Take Care Of Yourself. You can be no good to your loveone if you aren't good to yourself. Your Health Is Your Wealth...Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually. Incarcerated persons worry about their families and close friends. My son, worries about me constantly, Just as I worry about him. So for me, I make it my business through visitations to see for my own eyes that my son is in good health, spirits and safe...vice versa. I have made a promise to my son and self, God willing, I will be at the Gate when he is Released, whether it is 5, 10, 15, 20, 30 years... I don't talk about taking care of myself, I do it, by any means necessary. So, please take care of yourself. Be Good to yourself. Live your Life to the fullest... Simply incorporate your love ones situation into it....

17. When Praying For Your Child to be in the Best of Health, Spirits and Safe, Pray for their Cell Mate, for a Healthy and Good Spirit cellmate makes for a Safe environment for Your Child and Vice Versa... I pray for all the inmates, the warden, counselors, and even the C.O.'s... Like one CO told me, We are no different than your son, we just didn't get caught... We are all human beings and God's children

I hope these suggestions are helpful and know that I am with all the Mothers. Fathers, Family and Friends with a Child or Children in Prison... It's truly difficult, but it's a Blessing each day that they are still with us. I know some Families that visit a cold grave.

All the Best

Hello I just joined the board tonight. I am a 25 yr old single mother of one and future step-mom to 2. I met my boyfriend while working at his first lawyers office. It begin as just accepting his collect callswhen no one else would, to a blossoming friendship. It grows more and more everyday and I can proudly say I love this man like I have loved no other. He was recently transferred from Mecklenburg but now he is currently at Augusta Corectional. I have yet been there to visit but I will definitely be getting there soon. I really need a car. Looking for a great support system to get me through the sentence. Estimated DOR is 01/17/13

My name is Tammy and my husband is at Petersburg camp. We have 5 kids (2 mine, 2 his, 1 ours). He self surrendered 12-23-05. He was sentenced to 36 months. He is as close as they could have put him. We are hoping the time will fly by. We have a long ways to go though.

Well, I assume my original intro was so long ago that it's been erased. So, My name is Cindy. I live in WV now, we just moved from MD. My husband is David and he is currently at Deep Meadow CC. He was at Coffeewood until 7/13/04 and he was released. He managed to screw up again and is now in the VA system again for VOP. We have 3 dogs. Shasta is a female Husky mix, Wolfgang (Wolfie) is a male Samoyed mix and Nomad (Nimrod or Blockhead most of the time, lol) is a male Boxer/Pitt mix. Theyare my sanity through all of this as well as my friends and the PTO family. I'm very glad I found this site on his first go-round.

Hello all

My name is Sherie. I have a friend that in Sussex 2 State Prison. I currently work for the Department of Correctional Education. So if any one needs help or advice let me know

Daughter was sentenced to 3 years a little over a month ago for a violation of probation ie failed a drug test. Shes still sitting in city jail and we found a lawyer to file a motion for reconsideration and I am going to write a letter to the judge. Not holding out a lot of hope because this judge seemed to love giving people the max. but still hoping. Trouble is that she is almost 6 months pregnant. Anyone have any trouble in the state of Va of the family taking custody of the baby???? How about not being seen by a doctor in over a month?? I am so worried about her and the baby. Whats up with Virginia and their treatment of people? Is there anyway to get her tranferred to Tennessee where she lived and where we lived?? Any information or ideas would be most welcome. Thanks

Hi all. My name is Barbara and my daughter is waiting to be transferred somewhere. Shes still in a city jail. We do have in a motion for reconsideration of her sentence. I dont know if there is any hope but doing alot of praying. I just completed a letter to the judge and will send it in begging him to reconsider since my daughter is pregnant and it would be wonderful if the child actually knew its mother before it was 3 years old. However I think she got one of those judges that love to give out long sentences and never change their mind.

HELLO & WELCOME TO PTO....I AM SORRY THAT I DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTIONS , BUT HOPEFULLY SOMEONE THAT DOES WILL SOON COME ALONG TO HELP YOU OUT.

Hello and welcome to PTO :)

Thanks and appreciate the welcome.

Welcome to PTO.

Welcome Barb! You will find a lot of information here. DOC is usually in no hurry to transfer from regional/county into the system but in this case, it works in your favor. You can file motions for sentence modification as long as she is in the same region she was sentenced in. Don't forget appeals too. Once she goes into DOC and becomes property of the state, you can't change the sentence.

As for the baby question, I read about one recently and I think they didn't let the baby stay with the mother, a family member had to take the baby. I guess the baby has the right to not be incarcerated. *shrug*

Please ask all the questions you have, someone will know the answer and you will feel a lot better when you know what you are up against. Good luck!

dw

Welcome to you all. you will find alot of information here at pto as well as a family that will help and support you on your way through this. if you need anything feel free to ask....

Kari:thumbsup:

might I just say......Congrats to you two on being mods! :D ((((HUGS))))

might I just say......Congrats to you two on being mods! :D ((((HUGS))))


Thank you thank you....(((((((hugs)))))))

Thank you very much dw.

Hi, my name is jess. I have a boyfriend/fiancee serving time in the richmond area. hopefully will be out this june. we both have children. and are waiting for him to come home to start our life again.

Thanks for the welcome. Congrats on the mod status... Daughter still sitting in city jail dont know when she will be moved. But since they have like 28 people in a space built for like 15 I hope its soon. Heck I wouldnt treat my dogs or cats that bad. Its really rotten that cant help her out.. The funny thing is Im sure the judge thinks hes doing her a favor. Drug issues and pregnant however inpatient rehab would have been much better. I keep trying to think along the lines of he is only doing his job but sure wish he had learned that justice is best served when tendered with mercy. I cant believe how many techinal violators are in prisons. They didnt commit any new crimes but did stuff like not report on time to PO, failed drug screen, didnt have a job or lord knows what else. And most of them non violent in nature. Its a shame really. Guess I am preaching to the choir here huh??

Welcome to both Barb and Howtodeal. I'm glad you found us.
It's ok Barb sometimes we need to vent. If we don't we'll explode.. I'm just sure of it!:blah:
I hope everything works out for the best with your daughter! Keep us posted. We're always here for ya!:D

Hello all........

well my day is getting better. First Justin called me to tell me about the MCI new rates god Im so happy......

then he calls me later and tells me I can now Wire his money through this new web site that he saw posted in the jail. if anyone wants info PM me.

And the Bill has been approved to be passed on to the house....Im feeling good about it this time

keep our fingers crossed

if no one sees me this weekend its cuz i just booked a flight to see my husband Yahoooooo

Hello everyone I've been here awhile now and never really posted in here. My man is at Nottoway Correctional Center. I love the site, and everyone has been great. I thank all of you for being AMAZING ppl. Hopefully I can get to know all of you better.

Hello everyone I've been here awhile now and never really posted in here. My man is at Nottoway Correctional Center. I love the site, and everyone has been great. I thank all of you for being AMAZING ppl. Hopefully I can get to know all of you better.

Welcome to the VA forums..... Glad you came in. If you need anything please ask anyone. Have a good day.

Nottaway, not far from where my husband is. Are you in CA?

kARI: No, I'm actually in Canada. 11 hrs away. It's terrible, but I'm goin on the 11th and 12th of March. Yay!! Cant wait. Thx for the welcome.

Let me know and if you want to meet and have dinner we can do that, I go to VA about 2xs a month.......Pm me if you are interested in meeting and hanging out girl

Glad you found us!

Glad you found us!

Thank you for the welcome!!

Hello All,
Just wanted to introduce myself. I have only been on here for a couple of days and I am figuring out my way around. My husband is in Haynesville Correctional Facility. He spent 10 months in the county jail before going to HCF. I wish I would have know about this sight 10 months ago. I would have had alot of questions answered instead of me calling a bugging people to find out things. Thank You very much PTO for being here and letting all of us talk and get information.
God Bless all of you
Tazsvt

Hello & Welcome To PTO!

Glad ya found us. Welcome to the forum and PTO

Hi and Welcome to PTO!! Glad you found us.

Hi Tazsvt welcome to PTO, you know where to find me if you need me.:D

Thanks All for the great welcome. I enjoy and learn form all of the forums but I cant get into the site at work to read at lunch. I have to read them when I get home.
God Bless All
Tazsvt

Hello and welcome to PTO :)

Welcome to PTO!

Welcome to PTO!

I just joined recently and am loving sharing in this wealth of information and I must say it is a joy to see that I have a kindred bond with so many women in the same situation as I am.

My Love is at Nottoway Correctional Center in Burkeville. I am just getting clearance to go visit in the near future. (On probation and it is not fun getting cleared). I am unable to recieve calls at this time and would love to have input from anyone who can help. I have pre-paid phone service at home and they have a block on the line, my hunny sent in money to MCI for pre-paid calls but without this block removed it is no use. Wonder if we'll ever get our money back. We are going to go with PCO as soon as one of us has the $$ to send in, calls will come to my cell and that is all I really wanted.

Would love to meet any other girls with loved ones at Nottoway.

Welcome to PTO Lisa and to the VA forum. I'm glad you found us.
The only thing I can think is that whatever company had the calls from the detention center he was in has the block. It's most likely Correctional Billing Services. Did you call your phone company to ask about it? I've been through the same thing with the blocks more than once. It's a pain! If you go to the prison phones forum you may find some better info as well.
Good luck!

Lisa: Welcome, my man is also at NCC. I would deff tell ya that PCO is the way to go. If you need other info feel free to PM me at anytime.

Hello all my baby is in Lunenburg Corr. Center, in Victoria VA!!!! I miss him so much but it is good to see so many positive women holding their husbands, boyfriends, fiance's down. I have been in love with this man since I was 17 and now I'm 33, he knows, that I'm there no matter what.

Hi and welcome to PTO

Hi and welcome to PTO. Glad you found us!!

Well my hunny bunny is now transferred to Red Onion after being at Augusta for a minute. No word on when he will be able to call because he was given 90 days without visits or calls but not sure if that transfers over to him at Red Onion

Hey Osha's I think they start "fresh" at each place. So hopefully you'll get a call soon. I'm sorry for your troubles girl.

Thanks but does anyone know if it is still MCI that they gp through with phone calls.

Hello all I can defiantly feel what you guys are all going through! My loving husband to be has been in prison most of his life!

When I first met him, I was a brand new mom of my oldest daughter who was 11 months old.

Her father and I had broken up when I was 5 months pregnant because he was hooked on crack. He was arrested for 6 accounts of strong armed robbery and was sentenced to 5 years. He was also abusive physically and mentally. He has never had my oldest daughter by his self. He was released from prison in January 2004. He got hooked back on crack and robbed 7 places, attempted murder on a police officer and much more. He went back to prison in April of 2004. His release date is in December of 2033. My oldest daughter is now 7 years old and soon to be 8 in July 2006. His mother takes her to see him once a month.

Bumpkin and I met in May of 1999. We met through a mutual friend. He was in prison before I met him and was released in February 1999. We started seeing each other and he was the most honorable loving man I had ever met. He had gotten his self straight with a job and an apartment. He had a friend move in with him and they worked together. We were together until July 1999 right before my daughters 1st birthday. He got into a domestic dispute with an ex girlfriend, I was present at this argument. he never hit her or anything. She was hitting him and I had my daughter there as well. I was not trying to get into the situation at all not in front of my daughter. The ex girlfriend called the police. They came and arrested her and then because Bumpkin was a convicted felon they searched the apartment and found a shot gun in his friends room in the closet. Because his friend was at work and they could not reach him. They arrested Bumpkin for possession of a fire arm being a convicted felon. This was done because the apartment was in Bumpkin's name only. So the took him away and left me standing there crying watching the police car driving away with him in the back seat looking back at me kissing through the window.

Things were a little rough at first trying to adjust to being with the man that I loved while he was behind bars and seeing him once a week with a glass window between the both of us. Until he was transferred to the DOC system. It was a little better at that point. Where we could touch and kiss and spend more than 15 minutes together.

He was in prison from July 1999 until January of 2002. Brunswick is an awesome place to be and visit your loved one. They are so nice and laid back. That is were he did most of his time.

We were still together in January 2002 when he came home. I got pregnant with my youngest daughter in February 2002. This is when things began to fall apart. I think the pregnancy scared him. He was raised with 2 brothers and his mother and no father. he did not know how to be father. Not only that but he has been in and out of prison since he was 17 years old. he had no real play around time. he ended up cheating on me a couple of times. This resulting in us breaking up. I know you have heard if you love something so much set it free and if this love returns than it was meant to be. Well, this is what I did! I set him free, even though I was pregnant. He began seeing both of the girls that he cheated on me with and they both ended up getting pregnant. Still to this day he is not sure if the children are his. The one girl gave up her baby for adoption, she was also sleeping around with numerous guys. The other girl had her baby and turned in to a heroin addict and a prostitute and gave her baby boy to her mother to raise. She was also sleeping with Bumpkins brother and other guys as well. He was still coming around and seeing periodically while I was pregnant.

Our daughter was born in November of 2003. He was not present at her birth because he violated his probation and got locked up for 2 months. Our daughter was born disabled. She has Spina Bifida. She is as any child would be but has some set backs. He was scared that she would not make it or be paralyzed. He could not handle seeing her in the hospital connected to machines and tubes and all that. So again he ran away. This hurt me in so many ways. Here I was a mother of 2 beautiful girls and doing it all my self.

After awhile he started coming back around periodically and seeing me and the girls. We did this for almost a year. I knew he loved me in a way. He just wanted time to play and get his mind straight and find out what he really wanted. I waited for him to decide.

In January of 2005 he was arrested for not seeing his probation officer. He had not see her for sometime and he finally turned his self in. He started writing me in March of 2005 and saying how sorry he was and he did love me and that he realized that when he decided to turn his self in. He was pruning with the wrong crowd. He said he needed to be a man and be a father to his children. He admitted that he got hooked on cocaine and made so many wrong decisions in his life. I started going to see him in March 2005 and have been ever since. We have become so strong together. We have a date set to get married on June 17, 2006. I have become a stronger woman. I just bought a house in the country. The girls and I are doing great in our new house. I have forgiven and forgot what we have done to each other in the paste and we started a new life in May 2005. He comes home in September 2006.

All I can say is just hang in there! There will be tough times and times when you feel like giving up! Don't give up! Good things always come to those who wait!

I waited and now I have the love of my life back. We have humans cannot help who we fall in love with. Love is a wonderful thing! You make it what you want it to be!.

Laura ~ Bumpkin's Girl

Hello, and welcome to pto. Hope you enjoy this site as much as I do. Please don't quit posting. Seems like everybody in Virginia has gotten really busy with Spring & all. I really miss hearing about everybody.

Hello & Welcome To PTO!

Hello and welcome to PTO :)

Wow!

I thought that I had introduced myself in the Virginia Forums ages ago! Guess not!

Well, I guess I will now.

I am Patti, I have had my own guided tour of the VA DOC, however, now I am here for my niece who is in Fluvanna. She has been in since she was 16 and is serving a life sentence.

Patti

Hello to everyone, new to PTO , my husband is in Wallens Ridge Ridge. It is good to find a place like this to find the support that is needed to continue to be strong for our loved ones.

Hello and welcome NatesFuture... we are glad that you have found us.

Welcome to PTO Nates

Patti,
I think you're waaaay back there somewhere with me. LOL.
But welcome to the forum again!

My Screen Name Is Angelstellar From Chicago. Just Stoping By To Say Hello:) To The Virginia Community.
I Am Looking Forward To Give My Support And Friendship To All.

Hello and welcome to PTO!

Hello & Welcome To PTO!

Welcome to PTO!

Welcome to PTO! :)

Welcome to PTO!

Patti

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia Forum. You will find a lot of support from people how have been there and done that!

:) Hello, and welcome to PTO!

Amanda8088

Welcome to PTO! :)

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Hello and welcome to PTO :)

Hi and welcome to PTO, know that here you are NEVER alone as we are here for you 24/7 - 365 ...

Granted we aren't close enough to hold you when the tears come falling down but we are here to support you, listen to your fears, cheers, stories and anything else you want to give us.

WE ARE FAMILY, FRIENDS here at PTO and you just joined the biggest family on the net!! Welcome

Welcome to all the newcomers! Glad you are with us, and this is the best family ever.....Cindy and TNC and dwight omg.....they are awesome...
if you need anything let us know.......

Hi and welcome to PTO, know that here you are NEVER alone as we are here for you 24/7 - 365 ...

Granted we aren't close enough to hold you when the tears come falling down but we are here to support you, listen to your fears, cheers, stories and anything else you want to give us.

WE ARE FAMILY, FRIENDS here at PTO and you just joined the biggest family on the net!! Welcome!

hello everyone. my soon to be husband is in coffeewood in va. however i am in az now. i fell in love with az when i was here years ago and couldn't wait to come back to live. so, we are learning all about the interstate compact stuff.

anyway, all the mushy stuff- he used to be my boss! then we bacame friends, then lovers, then realized we were soul mates (on the outside). we have 1 daughter- 12. ironically he has been in for as many years. long dumb story that ended up with him getting all his time from something he did previously.

he mandatories out in 2008. so we are on the tail end of this. he went in under the old law- and started going up for parole in 2000! nay everytime- despite no infractions, no charges, a completed apprecticiship in opticianry, and several other certificates and steady self-supporting employment. they know he ain't coming back, so they want to keep him as long as they can! plus he is productive and makes them look like they are doing a good job. when in reality, he and i did all the work. i took criminology and sociology courses at W&M specifiaclly to learn as much as i could about the doc, justice system, prisoners, etc. so- WE get the credit, not the vadoc.

hm. last year we tried the packet, and a personal meeting- nada. this year i have a job offer and we will be married in december (or before if they grant parole in august). after parole, he will move to AZ with us.

well, oh! i am 33, he's 40, we have been to greensville, deep meadows and powhatan. i think. now he is at coffeewood. nice drive (the long way)- i used to live in newport news.

well, that sums us up.

take care and i hope to become very active in this community getting to know you all.

mrs. b

Welcome to PTO.

Welcome to PTO...Glad you found us!

Hi
My husband is at Coffewood Correctional Center, he has been there for almost 8 years and now I can say we are on the down hill side. He comes home in Oct 06 finally its been a long hard ride but we did it. Life will be great when he comes home..

Hi
My husband is at Coffewood Correctional Center, he has been there for almost 8 years and now I can say we are on the down hill side. He comes home in Oct 06 finally its been a long hard ride but we did it. Life will be great when he comes home..

I'm very happy for you both. I'm surpised that he's been at CCC so long. When my hubby was there he said only people with less than 5 to go were moved there. That's cool though. I liked CCC better than any of the other prisons. Most of the C.O.'s were pretty decent to me.

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thank you everyone for the welcome. i have to run out and work my second job today. i will be back on tonight. happy mother's day to the moms & i will be in touch soon.

Welcome to PTO

Hope all the mothers enjoyed their day.

Hi new to the site and found you thread What happen with this bill and what can i do to help I agree we need this bill

Welcome to PTO...

Hello my name is Keasha and I am 30 years old. I have two kids, 8(BOY) and 2(GIRL). My two year old's father (MY SOUL MATE) is in RED ONION:eek:. He has been over their for three years and he'll be home next AUGUST:D!!!

IT HELPS A GREAT DEAL KNOWING THAT I AM NOT ALONE!!!
Thanks for being here!!!


348 more days to go!

Hey everyone! My name is Crystal and I'm sticking by my bestfriend/lover Aaron. Were not sure yet how much time he will spend, so right now things are in the air! It's good to find a support group here! I'm telling you I feel 100percent better after logging on! I love knowing that no one will question why this happened etc...it feels good to not have to explain over and over again how my baby isn't a bad person, just made a few mistakes....

Hi Crystal! PTO is a wonderful place full of people who walk in the same shoes you do. Just because we love someone in prison doesn't make us bad, it just makes us someone who juggles a lot on our plates.

Like I always say, we all break rules, just some of us get caught. Stay strong, girl! We are here for you.

dw

Hey Everyone, my husband is not in v.a. but i am. He is in Century Florida.
The distance is terrible and i cant go see him as i dont drive :( Thankgod for this site, id be lost without it.

Hello Crystal & qtkelly.... Welcome to the site! I hope to get to know both of you better through the posts. Take care and God Bless!!

Hi everyone. My name is Grace, I'm 31 in Washington DC and released and want to hook up with others. How can we meet?

Hi my name is Hannah I am 23 and my fiance is 25 and in prison again. He is currently at Deep Meadow Correctional Center, serving 6 years. He has already been locked up for 10 months now. We have a 3 year old son. It is hard to being a single mom. We just take it one day at a time. My man has been in and out of trouble since he was 16. When I met him I thought he was a changed man, but he had a drinking problem and that caused him to get into a lot of trouble. Most of the times he got in trouble in the past they let him go with a slap on the wrist few months in jail, lots of fines, probation. Then he got first offense violation of probation and got 18 months in prison and 3 years 6 months probation. He got out and things seem to be going good until he picked up the bottle again and started back into trouble, so now he is back in prison again for second violation of probation plus new charges. I hope this time he learns a lesson and comes home better than when he went in. I love him with all my heart and I will do anything for him. He has proposed to me twice once when he was out and once when he was locked up, I think I will wait till he comes home before we tie the knot, any suggestions on the tieing the knot thing or any information about deep meadow correctional center would greatly be appreciated. I am so glad that I found this site and that there are so many other people dealing with the same things.

Welcome babygirlpeaches! Yes, PTO is an amazing place full of information and support. You will find a lot of information about Deep Meadows as it is a popular place for those starting out. If you have any questions, I am just a PM away and I will be glad to help out. So glad you found us!

dw

Hi this is lisa i wanted to re introduce myself, and say hi, to everyone, night as well be family! i am young, married to tim, my hubby thats currently been transferred to DOC, and is awaiting classification there, so i am patiently waiting to see what will happen, he is facing 5 years 6 months, and has been in jail since last oct. and i have been here every since, which i am glad i found this website because it helps to vent alot at, and i have got real involved with it, and visit once or twice or more aday. it helps everyone here is helpful, i am a secretary at a law firm i newport news, and i enjoy everything new i can learn with the law because of tim, i really miss him more than life in itself, hes all i have to ever look forward, and i reallly love him, and b/c of that it brought me here, and here to say, b/c this will always be a part of me, these days spent without him.
love everyone, thanks dw, 4 the support so far.
love alwayz,

Hi my name is Jessi im 29yrs. old. I'm a single mother to a 10yr. old. i recently met my boyfriend while he's been incarcerated in june 06'. i hope to meet alot of great people on here.

Hey luv welcome to the family ;)

Welcome Jessi :D

Happy 1st of the month everyone,hope you all had a great halloween :)

Yes, I did. Now.....can someone come hide the leftover candy?

Hello all....I have two friends in the Va. DOC system, really more like my sons....one is in St. Bride's Corr. Facility, and one is in FCI Petersburg. My special one is in SCDOC. But these two here are like my kids. :)

Welcome countboo.... we are glad you found us.

Hello my name is Ana my husband is in Keen mountain and we are still waitng for the court of appel, we have a baby girl and i hope and pray that he comes home soon.

Hello sweetNeni... Welcome to PTO. We can't wait to hear more from you and get to know you. This is a great source of support, feel free to ask questions, we'll try to help as much as possible. :grouphug:

Hi everyone. My boyfriend is currently at the Albemarle Charlottesville Regional Jail. He should be home Around November of 07. Would love to hear from all the cool ass people representing VA! Holla at your girl! Peace
Gummibear27

Welcome Gummiebear27... we are so glad you found us. We can't wait to hear more from you and get to know you a little bit better. Good Luck!!

Everyone, please contact your representative and ask them to support SB 105. That is the good conduct credit. They can receive up to 50% of their time taken off. We need everyone to show their support.

Hello everyone!
I'm Diana..but everyone here calls me, "Ms.Smith". I have a beloved King (Husband), in Petersburg, VA. He doesn't get out till 2010, and he's going to be there for a while. I haven't relized how fast the years are pasting. It has already been a year, and doesn't feel like a year. I love him, so much that I plan to stick in there...and get married. So, I'm on here to get sapport because its hard to get that, when you look at the world we live in. Love is hard to find, but most people care about the riches and golds. I care about my "Suger Monkey". Oh, His name is Chris very smart, and very handsome. I was just saying to hello to all my VA memebers here...:)

Welcome Ms. Smith.... you will find alot of support here. We are so glad you found us. Good Luck with everything!

Just wanted to say hello to everyone and Happy Holidays.

Welcome to the Virginia Forum!

Hello VA friends,

As you can see, I am from OHIO - the Buckeye State. You can read about my two friends from my siggy on my profile...anyway...why am I here?

My sister lives in TN, but right by the VA border. A friend of hers is being moved from the county jail to her "new home" at Fluvanna.

I need some info about this facility if anyone has any.

Thanks! Patty

Welcome Ohio!

Welcome aboard Ohiogirl!

I can help some, what would you like to know?

My niece is there.

Patti

Welcome to Virginia!!

Welcome aboard Ohiogirl!

I can help some, what would you like to know?

My niece is there.

Patti

Thanks Patti with an "i" :)

Well, is it a "rough" facility? Will she be able to make a productive life? What types of programs do they offer? Drama?

From Patty with a "y"

Hello my name is Deidre, I am 44. I live in Richmond and I am the proud Mother of 3 and Grandmother of 2. My soon to be husband is in Coffeewood and we have 4 more years to go

Welcome to the Virginia Forum!

My daughter was at Fluvanna but is now at VCCW... Your friend may not stay at Fluvanna.. it will depend on her level, crime and medical condition... I live in TN too and use to live very close to the VA border... thats how my daughter ended up in jail in Va...
My daughter didnt have any problems at Fluvanna. They are pretty strict. Its a newer prison...

Hi everyone this is my first time actually posting something my fiance charles is at James River Correctional Center.

Welcome to the VA forum

Welcome limama80.... we are so glad you have found us!

My daughter was at Fluvanna but is now at VCCW... Your friend may not stay at Fluvanna.. it will depend on her level, crime and medical condition... I live in TN too and use to live very close to the VA border... thats how my daughter ended up in jail in Va...
My daughter didnt have any problems at Fluvanna. They are pretty strict. Its a newer prison...

Thanks for the info, Barb.:thumbsup:

Hi it's nice to meet all of you all.

Hi... totally new here.. to everything! My dad's been in Culpeper County for over a year now and is getting out in March...

He has no Virginia family and we live out in Arizona....this past year hasn't been easy for us and i really wish i'd found this site last year.. but at least i found it now and can try to help him get situated once he gets out.

Glad to be here! :)

My Friend Is In Indian Creek And Have About 3 More Months Left. He Did 20 Years At St. Bride. There Are Not To Many Half Way Houses There. Where Does One Go If They Dont Have No Family? I Hope They Dont Keep Them In Cause He Cant Find No Where. This Is A Shame.

My fiance is in Riverside at the moment, but he has been to lots of places- he is about to go to the Men's diversion center in Harrisonburg and the Detention Center in Harrisonburg also- each for 20 weeks. Does anyone know about the visitation policies for these places? I am trying to look it up online but I can't seem to find any information about visitation. Well, I am VERY excited to have found this site- it makes me feel like I am not alone- This is just so wonderful- such a blessing for me to get through the next 11 months! :) I have hung in there for the last 3 years, so I am getting excited that it isnt years anymore- just months :) with each day that passes, it gets closer and closer- it really is exciting. A lot has changed since he has been in there- I have a new house and animals- a new car and I just can't wait until we can share our lives together and for him to see what I have done for us since he has been gone.

Welcome to PTO and the VA forum

My man is at the Albemarle Charlottesville regional jail and he has a release date for November 13th. He has a state number and is basically going down the road here real soon. Not sure what facility he will be at, I will just be glad when November comes. If anyone wants to leave me a message, feel free to do so, especially if you are in or near Charlottesville. I have no idea what to expect on visits to prisons, or the phone calls with Mci. I have been using Paytel for almost a year and going to visit him through glass at the county jail. I have no car, and I mainly depend on cabs to take me to the jail. I know that taking a cab to see him in prison will be at least $200, probably more. So expensive... I miss my baby.

My man is at the Albemarle Charlottesville regional jail and he has a release date for November 13th. He has a state number and is basically going down the road here real soon. Not sure what facility he will be at, I will just be glad when November comes. If anyone wants to leave me a message, feel free to do so, especially if you are in or near Charlottesville. I have no idea what to expect on visits to prisons, or the phone calls with Mci. I have been using Paytel for almost a year and going to visit him through glass at the county jail. I have no car, and I mainly depend on cabs to take me to the jail. I know that taking a cab to see him in prison will be at least $200, probably more. So expensive... I miss my baby.
After so long behind the glass, you will finally be able to hug him!!! And don't forget that first kiss! :blush: For $200 you would be better off renting a car, or maybe once you know where he is, you can find someone to either take you or ride with. Take it one step at a time and you will be fine!! November isn't far off. You are lucky.

Thank goodness for all the love here! Everyone be blessed! My Lamont is in Federal... USP Lee, to be exact... I'm still waiting for a reply for my visitation! It's been ova 3 weeks and I'm starting to ALMOST LOSE MY HOLY PATIENCE!! Now that's a paradox!! lolol

Hi Everyone,
I am new to PTO.
I am very active with assisting many groups/organizations with prisoner legislation. I attend many of the meetings in Richmond and pray for change that will enable my love one to come home and be productive in society.
I look forward to learning from you all at PTO.
Thank you for being here for us.

Hi to everyone here!
I'm new and this is a great place to communicate. It's so good to be able to chat with those who are going through the same experiences. This is a versatile forum and everyone's post is informative and helpful. I have a son in a Virginia prison and I am all alone with the hardship. But, here I find advice and encouragement. I work three days a week and I don't get that much time to get online but I am so happy to meet you all. I want to read every post on this forum.....it's going to take some time.

Hi everybody my fiancee is serving 2 years and 9 months, he's at mecklingburg now, im so glad i found the website, i dont feel so lonely now, because i am around people who can relate:) :o

Welcome to PTO! You will find lots of information and support here.

Hey BuffsBaby...glad you found us. Welcome to our little section of the world. You should be able to find anything you're looking for here and if you don't please feel free to ask!

Oh the joy I'm feeling.... gonna go see my man on August 31!!! Just when I was really to give up and fuss... God came through and made everything good... oh, and I'm driving there myself from Miami... sigh... but I'm so happy... :yes: :haha: :ha: :yes: :haha: :dance: :dance:

Hi,
i'm janice. my son is at nottoway correctional center. i just joined hoping to connect with other people like me with incarcerated loved ones. we can encourage and pray for each other.;)

Hi Janice! Welcome to PTO! You will find lots of information and support here as we walk this path together. So glad you found us!

Thanks!!!

Ok, I guess i never formally introduced myself so here it goes...lol. My name is Stacey, and the man in my life is currently serving a 4 yr sentence at Caroline Correctional. If anyone has had any experiences with visitation there, I would love to know. I go see him for my 1st contact visit on the 21st...I'm so excited!

Hi Stacey! Welcome to PTO!! :D

Aloha,

My name is Cynthia. I have a friend in Lawrenceville. He's not supposed to be paroled until 2021. But I'm beleiving God for a major miracle. I haven't seen him since 1991 and that was only for a fews hours in the hood. Before then we saw each other from 8-12 yrs old. I loved him then and I love him now.

Mahalo ahui o,

Welcome Cynthia! Glad you found him again and us!

Hi everyone,

My husband was just transferred yesterday from the county jail to (I assume) Deep Meadow for intake and classification. Neither of us have ever been through anything like this before and I'm definitely struggling emotionally. I'll feel so much better once I hear from him and know that he is doing ok. Is it normal for there to be a few days in the beginning when he can't call out? How long before he'll be able to, does anyone know?

Thank you for any and all help you can give!

Welcome to PTO! As soon as he gets his PIN he can call you. You will get a recorded message from Global Telelink to start the process to validate your phone number. If you have an internet phone or a cell phone, you won't get the message. You have to have a regular land line to get the message. Otherwise he will get a message saying the number will not validate.

If you wait a couple days, he may show up on the Inmate Locator, if he has a DOC number. Or you can call DOC direct and ask where he is.

Now, about you, take a deep breath. This is a hard thing to deal with, but take it one day at a time. Your life won't get easier, but it will be easier to bear, if that makes sense. Read on the forums, find out how to put money on his books, how to set up the phone account and any other things you can find. Knowledge will help you deal with it all. Hang in, he will call you. We are here for you and I am glad you found us. (((HUGS)))

dw -

Thank you sooo much. I've spent hours on this website looking through all the posts and your information and kindness is overwhelming.

You said that if I have an internet phone his call won't come through? I have one of those bundled packages through Cox cable where I pay my internet, cable tv, and phone all together. Does that mean he can't call me unless I switch to some other phone company???

By the way, he's on the inmate locator with a DOC number but it still lists him as being at the county jail. Supposedly he was transferred yesterday morning at about 5:00 am.

Thanks. :D If your phone number was an old one and you transferred it, it may go through. If you got a new one, it will flag who the carrier is and you will have to talk to GTL direct and then you will be limited how many calls you can get each month. Yes, this sucks. But that could be why you haven't heard from him yet - he can't get through.

The Locator takes like 48 hours to update. He may show up tomorrow. If not, call DOC. Find him!! Then send him a letter so he won't feel so alone. A lot of guys have a hard time when they first get sent to DOC. ALso, all his jail stuff was taken away and he has nothing, no shampoo, soap, toothbrush. Find him and send him a money order, even for $20. It will make the difference and he will be able to buy stuff so he can write to you until you get phones squared away.

You rock, dw. :) Thank you for making me feel so welcome and cared about.

I called GTL like you suggested and got a recorded message that said there was no problem with my phone number and I should be able to receive calls from any GTL facility. That's a relief, at least. Now I just need to wait to hear from him. That's the hardest part since, for the last 9 months that he's been in the county jail, we've spoken 2-3 times per day and written every day. Going from that to no contact at all has been difficult to say the least!

Well, I guess I'll try to get some rest and pray that he calls tomorrow. Thank you again for all your help. You'll definitely be seeing plenty of me around the forum. :)

My name is Debbie. I am a 38 yo WF who has a fiancee who is currently locked up in Arlington County Jail awaiting sentencing on various charges. Is anyone else here in the Northern VA area? I currently live in Alexandria.

Welcome to PTO. Glad you found us

My son is doing time at Nottoway. He called me over the weekend and told me something that got my blood boiling. He said that there was a fly in his meal and when he went to the server for an exchange she refused him because he had already breathed on the food. Now these guys are already paying for their crimes. I think it is heartless to refuse them a proper meal (if you could call it that) when insects are found in their food. Most of the time they throw the extras away so why not give it to a hungry human. I am taking this to a higher authority because although my son is a felon, but he's still a human and deserves better than that.

My name is Rebekah and I am 24 yrs old. My boyfriend, soon to be husband... I think, just got sentenced last wednesday to 5 years. He is currently in the local jail, which he and I both hate, and we are allowed to visit every week. I hate it though because we have to sit and talk through a phone and look at each other through this thick glass. We have a 3 yr old lil boy and he thinks his daddy is at school. One day I know he will understand where his daddy is at and why, but for now school seems to work. :o I am new to all of this and find myself trying to soak up as much info as I can possibly get... yeah I am one of those people who hates the unexpected, I like to be prepared!!! So if anyone has any advice on how to make it through these next 5 years I would really appreciate it. It's good to know that you are not alone.

Love,
Rebekah

Welcome to PTO and the VA forum. Just hang in there. I know it seems like forever right now. When I heard the judge say 10 yrs I thought I would die, but believe it or not it will get "easier" as the time goes by. You'll get into your routine (specially since you have a child to care for) and time will just keep rollin' by. Also remember that he won't be gone the whole 5. Good luck and keep your chin up!

I Love Homer Hostetter, He Is In Mechlenburg And After He Is Moved To Another Prison We Want To Get Married. So How To We Go About This. Help Us Out. Cheryl Alias Ornerylady

There is a thread in this forum about how to get married in VA.

hello everyone. my name is tiffany and my boyfriend is serving 18 months. he just got sent to mecklenburg yesterday. ive had one 5 minute phone call and i have no idea whats going on. i live in virginia beach and he was in chesapeake but now hes 141 miles away.

Welcome to PTO! I am glad you found us and we will do all we can to help answer questions. Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time.

Hello everyone. I have been lurking on here for the past few weeks and decided to join. We need some more action in these VA forums/threads/whatever they are called!!!

Anywho, I have a few friends who are "involved" with the lovely VA DOC. One in Dillwyn, one in Augusta, one in Sussex I, and last but CERTAINLY not least, one in Wallens Ridge. The first 3 are my friends from high school, who for one reason or another, have managed to keep in touch over the years. We write occasionally, and I like being able to be there for them and let them know they are not forgotten.

That last one, though.... I met him in 2003 right after I had my first son. He was involved with someone, and so was I. He was also the brother of my boyfriend's best friend. I always had a little crush on him, but becuase of the circumstances and my shyness, nothing was ever said. Well, I ran across his picture recently, and remembered hearing he had been locked up (again). Sooo, long story short, I did an inmate search, found him and wrote him. Immediately I heard back, and to my surprise he remembered me and admitted he liked me too back in the day when we first met. :D

So, we have been writing for a couple weeks now, and all seems to be going well. It's really crazy how things turn out sometimes. This is the first time I have even considered becoming involved with someone in prison..... but I do already know him, and he is just so darn good-lookin'! I guess we will see what happens.... one day at a time, right?

Well, that was more long-winded than I had intended. Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. Now, I am off the check the mailbox. Again.

Hello everyone. I have been lurking on here for the past few weeks and decided to join. We need some more action in these VA forums/threads/whatever they are called!!!

Anywho, I have a few friends who are "involved" with the lovely VA DOC. One in Dillwyn, one in Augusta, one in Sussex I, and last but CERTAINLY not least, one in Wallens Ridge. The first 3 are my friends from high school, who for one reason or another, have managed to keep in touch over the years. We write occasionally, and I like being able to be there for them and let them know they are not forgotten.

That last one, though.... I met him in 2003 right after I had my first son. He was involved with someone, and so was I. He was also the brother of my boyfriend's best friend. I always had a little crush on him, but becuase of the circumstances and my shyness, nothing was ever said. Well, I ran across his picture recently, and remembered hearing he had been locked up (again). Sooo, long story short, I did an inmate search, found him and wrote him. Immediately I heard back, and to my surprise he remembered me and admitted he liked me too back in the day when we first met. :D

So, we have been writing for a couple weeks now, and all seems to be going well. It's really crazy how things turn out sometimes. This is the first time I have even considered becoming involved with someone in prison..... but I do already know him, and he is just so darn good-lookin'! I guess we will see what happens.... one day at a time, right?

Well, that was more long-winded than I had intended. Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. Now, I am off the check the mailbox. Again.
Hello! Welcome to PTO and the VA forum! Glad you decided to join us!:beer: And remember, stalking the

mailman is a no-no!!!!!!:nono:

It's the most excitement the mailmen get!! They think its them we want to see and not the letters they bring. :D Don't be taking away their joy!!

Welcome djsgirl and jemjtg1108! :)

dw - Well, that explains the grin on my mailman's face every time I run for the mailbox.... Who knew? ;)

hello everyone. my name is tiffany and my boyfriend is serving 18 months. he just got sent to mecklenburg yesterday. ive had one 5 minute phone call and i have no idea whats going on. i live in virginia beach and he was in chesapeake but now hes 141 miles away.

welcome!!

Hello, I'm Nicey.. and I have a boyfriend that is at DMCC. He has been there since 19Dec. I am still waiting for him to be cleared for a visit. Though his time hasn't be recalculated yet, I am prepared to see him threw this.

Hi Nicey and welcome to PTO! Chances are he has been cleared and you could visit. Call out there and ask them what day he has visits. Don't ask if he is cleared, or if he is on the list; just ask which day he has visits. Pretend you don't know his number or anything. If they tell you a day, he is cleared. Usually they see the doctor within 2 weeks, they just don't tell you he is cleared. 804-598-5503, then press 0.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia forum, Nicey. I think you'll find this is a great place to come for support and information. There are so many people here who are going through the same things you are.

My name is Leah and I'm 20 years old. My husband is serving time on about two years. He's done 2 months so far. Right now, he's in a regional jail but should be transferred to a prison soon. Hopefully, he will be closer because he is about 3 - 3.5 hours away right now. We just got married in October, about two months before he was sentenced. I love him more than life itself and am counting down the days until he comes home to me.

My name is Melissa my old man is sentenced to 2 1/2yrs with one down and waiting to go to classification. Since he has been gone I have given birth to our daughter and I am glad I found this sight to have so many answers to questions not even thought of yet.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia forum, Leah and Melissa! This is a great place filled with so much helpful information and people who really care and understand what we're going through.

Hello everyone, I am new to this site and I need help. My fiancee has been out for about 6 months now and he is having trouble finding a decent job. The main problem is fines about 6,000 dollars in fines he has to pay at least 2500 and go in front of a judge to get a restrictive license. I know some of this is due to interest. Can anyone give me some help concerning fines. Thank you and thank God for this site. Its nice having a support group.

ps fines are in newport news va

hello and welcome to PTO!!!! anglcys22002

I would guess contact the locality and try to set up some type of payment plan? The job market is hard no matter how the deck is stacked. Welcome to PTO.

My name is Ginger, 27. My husband is currently in a county jail (duffield), awaiting trial but is looking at going back to prison, he has been out for a little over a year, when I talked to him today he said that he was probably going back to Bland. IT will be anywhere from 3 years to 10 hopefully not more, so I"m sure I will be around as much as possible.
We have a nine year old daughter together (we were high school sweethearts) expecting our second daughter in april, if all the stress doesn't cause me to have her a bit earlier. We've been together off and on since we were 13, we will be celebrating our one year wedding anniversary in July though.

Anglcys - I agree with dw. Contact Newport News and check into a payment plan. I know with court costs they allow you to pay as little as $5-10/month, but I'm not sure about fines. Welcome to PTO and please let us know if there's anything else we can do!

Hisoneandonly - My heart goes out to you. It must be so hard to be looking at having your baby without him there. ~hugs~ This is a great place to come and get lots of love, support, and encouragement though. I'm so glad you found us! Welcome to PTO!

it is great possiblity my husband will be transferred to petersburg fci. soon.
looking for any information about this prison.:)

Hi everyone. I leave very close to the NC border and a friend has just been sentenced in Reston, VA for two years. I haven't heard from him in about two weeks now. All I know about the prison system is how it works in CA(my fiance is there). Is it like CA in that they have a reception center and are not allowed to make phone calls from there? Anybody have an idea of where they might have sent him? Thanks.

it is great possiblity my husband will be transferred to petersburg fci. soon.
looking for any information about this prison.:)
You might want to try the Federal Forum (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=-1&f=186) for better information. I know where it is and how to get there but nothing on how it works.

Hi everyone. I leave very close to the NC border and a friend has just been sentenced in Reston, VA for two years. I haven't heard from him in about two weeks now. All I know about the prison system is how it works in CA(my fiance is there). Is it like CA in that they have a reception center and are not allowed to make phone calls from there? Anybody have an idea of where they might have sent him? Thanks.
Welcome! He will stay at the local jail until taken into DOC. This can take 6 months or longer. There are reception centers but on a rare fluke, they go straight to a permanent facility. Most do go to either Deep Meadow, Powhatan, or Mecklenburg. THey stay there about 6 months or so until getting assigned to facility.

Just read around and see how it all works.

Hey Ive Recently Just Found Here And Considering Most Of My Thoughts These Days Annoing Or Not Are To Do With The Va Doc I Guess I Should B Here, My Babys Doin 10 And Im Right Here, Dw Thanks For The Info Yest, Still No Mail Tho!

Welcome to the VA forum, GEMSUK! Keep your head up about the mail... sometimes that first one seems to take an eternity, but it will come. :)

Thanks Christianldy, Although Its Not The First One We Been Writin Since Last Yr But I Havent Had No Mail In... Well Seems Like Forever! Im Patiently Waiting Tho.x

I had a spurt where I didn't get any of his letters and mine were not getting to him either. I sent in 8 cards for valentines day and he only got 2. It is really sad that the people handling the mail doesn't realize how important this is to the ones writing.

for alot of people its the only means of communication so u wud think they wud take more care, evidentlly NOT!

I Got Mail, I Got Mail, Im So Excited It Was The Best Well Worth The Wait It Made Me Cry Itsmy Daughters Bday And He Had Something Made For Her, Emotional! Xxxx

I am so glad you got mail finally!!!!

Yay!! Congratulations, GEMS! :)

Hi Everyone, my name is Lina. I am married to Dana who is currently in Sussex II, he has been with the VA DOC for 15 years, 8 months now and mandatory release date is august 2013 :(. We were high school sweeties and got married at Southampton in 1997. We have three children Alexa 17, Erica 16, and Jahwon 15. Dana committed armed robbery and maiming and got sentenced under the old law which renders him eligible for parole, however they don't want to give it to him, he was deferred for three years his first time up and he gets turned down every year in the fourth quarter for the serious nature of the crime. I love him deeply and it was never a second thought to stay with him:p. So much love and so much pain, it kind of balances itself out, although the pain kicks my butt sometimes and the frustration of being without him hurts deeply. It's nice to be here in this forum, I hope to learn alot about you all.

Welcome Lina! ((((((HUGS)))))) Glad you found us! Going up for parole is so hard and I admire your stamina in standing by him all this time. As for learning from us - I think we can all learn from you!

I am new to this site and I was feeling quite sorry for myself. I read others post and came to see there are so many of us waiting for our loved one to come home...It brings tears to my eyes. Prayers for everyone!

Welcome to PTO! Yep, you feel you are all alone and then you find PTO and realize the other amazing people also waiting.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia forum, Lina and Jakris! :)

Hi everyone! I'n new to the site and am interested in gaining all the information I can about VADOC. I worked at Augusta Correctional Center in the Department of Correctional Center where I met the man of my dreams. He has been in the system most of his life and has about 15 years to go. The system found out that we had been communicating and as a result I resigned from my job and returned to PA my home state. There was an investigation and of course no charges were filed because we only were writing letters to each other but of course that went against the fraternization rules. I am now banned from all DOC facilities. My sweetheart was transferred to Green Rock Correctional Center the day after I resigned, 7/3/08. We are allowed phone calls and mail. The warden at GRCC has agreed to talk to the regional administrator to inquire as to what I need to do to get visitation rights. Has anyone out there been in this situation, it's been 46 days and I'm going crazy. Any help would be appreciated.

I don't have any answers for you but I did want to welcome you to PTO and the Virginia forum. :) I'm sure dw or someone else will come along shortly with some advice/information for you!

I'm sure dw or someone else will come along shortly with some advice/information for you!LOL! I try!!

It states on the visiting form you can't go visit any inmate if you have worked for DOC within the last twelve months. Now, if you worked across the state and this was a relative, then they would relax those rules. However, based on your circumstances, I am sure they will throw this up as the rules they have to abide by since this is exactly why they don't want you to go see him. :) Now, here is the silver lining - it is completely up to the warden where he is to approve or deny visitors so work on him. For example, if someone is on probation or has a record, the warden has to approve it. Focus on him.

Just so you know, there are several VA members here on PTO that worked for DOC and met someone and quit so they could be with him. Keep the faith!

See? Told ya she'd have some info and advice! ~;) at dw~

hello and welcome to PTO!!!! Glad you found us this is a very goooood support group:D:D

big hugs and welcomes to everyone!!

Hello to eveyone. I'm new to PTO. I have a loved one who is currently in USP Lee. He has been in almost 3 years and we have 9 more years to go. I loved him before this, I'll be loving him throughout this and I'll be loving him after this. It's hard, but we are learning to pray and taking things 1 day at a time. This situation is making us both stronger people. I worry about his safety and his frame of mind a lot. But I know that GOD has a hand in this. It's good to have a place to go to when you have questions. Glad that I found PTO :D.

Welcome and I'm glad you found PTO, too! Hopefully, you've found the Federal Forum as well as this one. Both will give you lots of great advice, support, and other people to talk with who can relate to what you're going through in ways that most of our friends and family can't.

God's hand IS in this and He promises that He will "in ALL things work for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose". (Rom 8:28) I have seen the fulfillment of that promise already, in so many ways, in my own situation and I trust that you will too. ~hugs~

Hello all my name is Debbie and my man is in Hampton Roads Regional over in Portsmouth. He has been there for about a years and 6 months now. I'm not sure how much time he is REALLY doing but he just got his DOC number last week I'm not sure what that really means. If anyone could help me that would be GREAT. I'm new to this prison talk thing. My friends don't understand why I'm still with him so I thought I would try this site out. I hope to meet people feeling the same way I do about LOVING INMATES!!!!

Thanks Debbie

Welcome Debbie! You can look up his court records and find out what his sentence is.

http://wasdmz2.courts.state.va.us/CJISWeb/circuit.html

Make sure you read all his records as they may suspend some, make them concurrent, or consecutive. This will give you the total time he has to do.

I am glad you found PTO and if I can help you, let me know.

dw

:)Thank you without this website I would be LOST!!!:)

Welcome to PTO and keep the faith.

Hi Everybody.....I was new to PTO and then got ERASED during the data loss. Well, I've decided to give it another try, so here I am...same user name. My friend is incarcerated in Lunenburg Correctional Center in Victoria, and I'm looking to meet others with loved ones there as well. I'll try to catch up with everything on the website, but looks like I'm wayyyyyy behind.
Best wishes to all,
Vanessa

Welcome to PTO, Debbie! I think everyone here would agree with you: without PTO, we'd all be lost! :)

Welcome back, Vanessa. Good to see you again!

Hi Everybody.....I was new to PTO and then got ERASED during the data loss. Well, I've decided to give it another try, so here I am...same user name. My friend is incarcerated in Lunenburg Correctional Center in Victoria, and I'm looking to meet others with loved ones there as well. I'll try to catch up with everything on the website, but looks like I'm wayyyyyy behind.
Best wishes to all,
Vanessa

Welcome Back!!:D

Hey My name is renee! I'm a new MWI in VA. I met my boyfriend through my good friend who is dating his ex-celly. She is an ex-employee. He gets out in 6 weeks. Yeah! I am very excited and a little antsy I will admit. Any advice would be great! Glad to have found PTO VA!

Hello all

I wanted to introduce myself and hopefully my loved ones will use all of your resources over the next few years to help cope with my situation. It looks like I may need to accept a plea agreement and serve a sentence due to the change in laws that the commonwealth put into effect last year that would have made a minimum sentence of basically life the jury's obligation should they find me guilty. I can not go into details but lets just say that poor choices were made when confronted with a situation that should have never occurred in the first place :(

This is the first time for me ( besides a few speeding tickets ) having to deal with anything concerning the law. I am not a violent person ( never even been in a fight or would think to harm anyone ) even though I will be considered one upon release by the state due to the same change in laws that were passed recently. I am known to be well educated, friendly, kind and of good character . I hold a very good job and have the support of friends, neighbors and family alike. Although they understand the situation and are sympathetic they all agree I could have handled the situation much differently as do I.

To say I am afraid of what I will have to deal with while incarcerated is a gross understatement but hopefully I will be able to cope and exit the system without being violated. Any and all information concerning the VDOC is/would be greatly appreciated and any support you could give my loved ones in the interim would be most kind of you :)

Take care all and TIA for your support of my family should they choose to come here for guidance.

Welcome, welcome, welcome! LOL! In my opinion, PTO is a god-send and I never could have made it these past years without it so if I can help, let me know.

Hey My name is renee! I'm a new MWI in VA. I met my boyfriend through my good friend who is dating his ex-celly. She is an ex-employee. He gets out in 6 weeks. Yeah! I am very excited and a little antsy I will admit. Any advice would be great! Glad to have found PTO VA!
Your boyfriend gets out in 6 weeks? Wow! He will need to have a good home plan so there is no reason he can't get out when he is supposed to. Be supportive, help him find a job and get into a productive life. He will have to do at least one year of probation since that is mandatory so be prepared for him to report with in 72 hours and find out what his rules are. Holler if you have any specific questions.

dw

Hello all

I wanted to introduce myself and hopefully my loved ones will use all of your resources over the next few years to help cope with my situation. It looks like I may need to accept a plea agreement and serve a sentence due to the change in laws that the commonwealth put into effect last year that would have made a minimum sentence of basically life the jury's obligation should they find me guilty. I can not go into details but lets just say that poor choices were made when confronted with a situation that should have never occurred in the first place :(

This is the first time for me ( besides a few speeding tickets ) having to deal with anything concerning the law. I am not a violent person ( never even been in a fight or would think to harm anyone ) even though I will be considered one upon release by the state due to the same change in laws that were passed recently. I am known to be well educated, friendly, kind and of good character . I hold a very good job and have the support of friends, neighbors and family alike. Although they understand the situation and are sympathetic they all agree I could have handled the situation much differently as do I.

To say I am afraid of what I will have to deal with while incarcerated is a gross understatement but hopefully I will be able to cope and exit the system without being violated. Any and all information concerning the VDOC is/would be greatly appreciated and any support you could give my loved ones in the interim would be most kind of you :)

Take care all and TIA for your support of my family should they choose to come here for guidance.
Life would be so much easier if we had a 'do-over' button, wouldn't it? Unfortuantely, life gives us the tests before we learn the lessons. I hope your family does come here for support because a lot of people will turn their backs on them. This is a very rough road to walk - inside for you and outside for them. One thing I want to say though. DO NOT EVER trust a commonwealth attorney or any law enforcement to do what they say. Get it in writing!!!! They are, by law, allowed to lie to you. So before you agree to a deal of any kind, get it all in writing so there is no confusion. "What? You think we said three years? NO!!!! We said thirty-three!"

Make sure this deal is what you want because there is no way to overturn it when you have second thoughts. If you are guilty, and you know they can prove it, then try to get the best deal that you can versus what a jury would give you. If there are extenuating circumstances, and this would effect the outcome of what happened, then go get a second opinion from another lawyer as to what you should do. I wish you the best of luck and know that PTO is here for you and your family if you need us.

dw

Hello all

I wanted to introduce myself and hopefully my loved ones will use all of your resources over the next few years to help cope with my situation. It looks like I may need to accept a plea agreement and serve a sentence due to the change in laws that the commonwealth put into effect last year that would have made a minimum sentence of basically life the jury's obligation should they find me guilty. I can not go into details but lets just say that poor choices were made when confronted with a situation that should have never occurred in the first place :(

This is the first time for me ( besides a few speeding tickets ) having to deal with anything concerning the law. I am not a violent person ( never even been in a fight or would think to harm anyone ) even though I will be considered one upon release by the state due to the same change in laws that were passed recently. I am known to be well educated, friendly, kind and of good character . I hold a very good job and have the support of friends, neighbors and family alike. Although they understand the situation and are sympathetic they all agree I could have handled the situation much differently as do I.

To say I am afraid of what I will have to deal with while incarcerated is a gross understatement but hopefully I will be able to cope and exit the system without being violated. Any and all information concerning the VDOC is/would be greatly appreciated and any support you could give my loved ones in the interim would be most kind of you :)

Take care all and TIA for your support of my family should they choose to come here for guidance.

I am very sorry to hear of your situation. However, it happens to the best of us with the decisions we choose to make. I was just released from the VA DOC in April after serving 5 1/2 years (1st time). Any questions you have since you really don't want to put a lot of information out here you may PM me and I will answer them to the best of my knowlege. Of the 5 womens prisons here in VA, I resided in 3 of them for some period of time. Since I have been out I have been on this site and my mother utilized it during my incarceration. I recommend your family, friends and support group to do the same. Wonderful people here. Good luck to you and your family during this time of your life. Stay strong and always keep your head up. This is NOT forever!!! Please again, PM me and I will answer any of your questions.

Hello all you other VA people with loved ones incarcerated, my husband is incarcerated. We have two children together and he has a son from another relationship. He has been away from us for almost 1 year and we have a little more than three to go. I am glad that this forum is here for support. No one truly understands what you go through unless they have been there so it is hard to talk to people I know. I just can't wait for this to be over so we can move on with our life.

welcome to pto! there are definitely a lot of supportive and knowledgeable people here to help. I know I feel the same way but my husband told me that the only thing keeping us away from each other is time and time never stops moving. One day this will all be a distant memory....

Welcome to PTO, terrysangel. This place has been a godsend to so many of us. ~hugs~

Hello. My x-husband [& love of my life] is currently serving a 13 yr sentence In James River CC, partly a parole violation, all non-violent charges. We've been friends and more for about 18 years. I just started visiting him again back in July... I love him. That's all there is to it. He loves me too. He's been turned down for parole 3 times even though he's done everything possible to make parole and has no inside charges against him. He works, takes every available class/etc. So I will be looking for support, prayer, and any parole info thats out there!
Hopefully, I can also find a way to help other. God bless and peace!

Welcome to PTO! Getting parole is so hard now and they only have to give "serious nature of the crime" in order to turn it down. I wish you two the best of luck in putting together the right package to get his parole. There was some interesting information posted here in the past year regarding parole. You might want to search for it.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia forum, sublime. I'm glad you found us. You'll find lots of support and information here as well as just some really nice people. :)

I will do more searching for parole info and thank you for the welcome! Many people don't understand our situation, but I do feel truly blessed to have such a wonderful man in my life. None of us are perfect ... and we should all work together to make this world a better place.

Hey everyone, my name's Kristin. I'm 25, a single mom and law student. Well I guess you already know I'm another "lucky resident of the commonwealth of VA." lol - that was a joke!!! V.A. is the reason I decided to study law! Someone needs to put the word "Justice" back in our Criminal system! Judges wake up in a bad mood and take it out on our loved ones! Well anyway, I'll quit ranting now. Just wanted to say hello to everyone. My lil bro was sentenced to 120 yrs based on "making an example for the community" (blog on my page). If anyone knows anything about reconsiderations please please let me know!

Thanks...

Hi Kristin and welcome to PTO and the VA forum. You will find much needed information and support here. Reconsiderations can only be done if he is still in the jail and has not been transfered to a state prison. If you have other questions feel free to ask!

Hi my name is Kelly and I am 25 years old and My fiance has been in the local jail since april 2008 and we are currently awaiting a reconsideration trial, but at the moment he has a little over 5 more years to do, hoping the reconsideration trial will be soon and maybe we will only have half of that. But, I know as soon as the trial is over he will be moving to a prison soon after that.

Hi my name is Kelly and I am 25 years old and My fiance has been in the local jail since april 2008 and we are currently awaiting a reconsideration trial, but at the moment he has a little over 5 more years to do, hoping the reconsideration trial will be soon and maybe we will only have half of that. But, I know as soon as the trial is over he will be moving to a prison soon after that.

AJ'sGirl4Life, welcome to PTO and the VA forum. I know that playing the waiting game is very frustrating, however be strong. You have come to the right place for any information and lots of support. Keep us posted.

Hello everyone. Im 31 and the love of my life is currently serving a 2 year sentence in Southwest Virginia Regional Jail in Abingdon VA. We have taken different roads in life but we have been brought back together at a time when we really need each other the most. I am so thankful for the letters and phone calls between us. This is the hardest thing that we have ever had to face.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia Forum!

Hello everyone. Im 31 and the love of my life is currently serving a 2 year sentence in Southwest Virginia Regional Jail in Abingdon VA. We have taken different roads in life but we have been brought back together at a time when we really need each other the most. I am so thankful for the letters and phone calls between us. This is the hardest thing that we have ever had to face.

Again, welcome to PTO. I know that this is a very hard time for you both, but believe me when I tell you that this will only make you both much stronger people! I am here if you ever need to talk.

My name is Danielle and I'm a 30 year old soon to be college graduate. I have no children and I'm not married. I never could have imagined that I would find the love I needed in someone that I met in middle school! He is so sweet, kind-hearted and full of love. His scheduled release date is 2018 but early release could be 2015. It's amazing that he has been under my radar all this time. I have him know and I'm not about to let him go. People talk but that doesn't bother me. I've had someone say how could someone locked up find someone like you. You can't control who you fall in love with. I support him 100 percent:thumbsup:! This site is great and full of information. Glad to be apart of the big love chain for inmates:)!

Hi my name is Tracey I am a Sgt. in corrections in Texas I am not married but I am engaged to a inmate in Va. I'm new to the forums and would like some information so that I can support the man I love dearly.

welcome any thing you need to know just ask we will all jump in and there are enough of us here in different parts of va. to give bits of info on places to stay or not to stay if you are visiting the area were your guys are.

Welcome to PTO!

Welcome to PTO and the Va forum. You will definitely find the info and support you need here. This is the best bunch of people!

Hi, my name is Sandy and I'm a new member here. My guy was convicted and sentenced last year - 25 years, with an appeal recently filed. He's currently being classified into VA doc and I'm out here in Colorado where I live, trying to deal with everything from across the country. I've read posts on several of the forums here and I think this is what I need to help get me through. Just to be able to talk to others who are walking in the same shoes and know what it's like...

welcome to pto Va. we have some great people here ready to help you. you can find almost anything you want to know on this site if it isnt here just ask and one of us will respond.

Hello! I have several friends and family in the VA DOC. They are at Keen Mountain, Augusta, Lawrenceville and Nottoway. I hope to keep up with happenings in the VA DOC. Nice to meet you all!

Welcome! Welcome! Welcome!! So glad y'all found us!! (((hugs))) pull up a chair, put up your feet and get comfy!

Welcome! Welcome! Welcome!! So glad y'all found us!! (((hugs))) pull up a chair, put up your feet and get comfy!

dw, I just had to drop in and say Hi to everyone and Welcome to the Virginia Forum! Oh dw any coffee left, Krispie Kreme's maybe?

Oh in case anyone is wondering why "FriscoLady" definitely a California girl and a San Francisco girl at that is saying Hi in the Virginia Forum.

Well let's just say I am in self-exile to Hampton Roads till I can immigrate back to the Golden State. Hopefully after the tax woes are solved!

Patti

Welcome to the newbies. Glad you found us!
And Patti, you know darn right well you couldn't leave us if you tried! I've got rope and duct tape so don't even think about it. LOL

Well Patti, there is some coffee left but I think I ate the last donut. Sorry. I have chocolate though. ;)

Well Patti, there is some coffee left but I think I ate the last donut. Sorry. I have chocolate though. ;)

Chocolate, Chocolate! To heck with the donuts, on my way! ;)

Patti

Welcome to the newbies. Glad you found us!
And Patti, you know darn right well you couldn't leave us if you tried! I've got rope and duct tape so don't even think about it. LOL

Daveswife;

Hmm! I don't know who is trying harder to keep me in VA, my PO, my Mortgage adviser, or you.

Somehow I think with the possible exception of my PO I would be more concerned about you and that rope and duct tape! ;)

Honest I think I will stay a bit. Least till the Govenator and the Cali Legislature gets their collective head out of their collective posterior end over taxes and the state budget! I have a feeling that may be awhile! Ugh!

The Chesapeake Bay may not be San Francisco Bay but in it's own way it is just as beautiful and far more fun to sail in foul weather. :)

Patti

hi all im new to this forum but not pto i have 2 loved ones in va doc and 1 in ga doc ga forum is way more active than va hopefully we can change that because i know we all need some one to talk to sometime or just an ear

welcome to Va. pto \

which facilities in va central western or eastern thread people tend to hang out together more than the rest of the threads because they have more issues in common visiting the same place and such

welcome to the va forum glad to have to you here!!!

Welcome to the VA board!!!!

Hello! My name is Jenn. I am new to this sort of thing so please bare with me. My husband is currently still in VA Beach Correctional Center awaiting to be transferred to a state facility. He has been there for nearly a year now. He has 6 more years ahead of him to serve. We were not married at the time of his arrest we were married within the jail. At the time of his arrest I was 7 months pregnant with his first child. My husband is 47 years old will be about 54 when he is released. He has only been able to see his son through video visits and we are looking forward to contact visits upstate. We are also looking forward to his transfer so he can get the much needed medical attention he needs. He is diabetic, has an upper hernia, bad arthritis, and mental heath needs. None of which they are helping him medically with at the city jail. Its been hard raising my two sons (I have one from a previous relationship and then the son with my husband) without him. I work full time and I have had to move back in with my parents since his arrest. I hope to gain some support through this site. Church and faith only go so far, I need people that know exactly what I am going through. I have been with those in the military but you know pretty much when they return, prison's are hit and miss.

OK well that sums it up.
Have A Blessed Day! :)

hey welcome to pyo there is plenty of support here anything you want to know or need we are hear for you. my husband has been in for two years so far and his release date isnt until 2015 so we have a long way to go jail took about a year for him as well so this seems to be the norm for Va. he first went to reception at powatan then moved to pocahontas for a year which is on the west side of the state now he just moved to lawrenceville he likes it better there they are both level three but pocahontas is run more like its a security level 5 so he should have a better time of it now. I live in pA. so its closer for me as well.

the hard part of all of this is that friendas and family dont quite get why you would stay in it along with him so you are in the right place we are all in it together and we all understand what you are going through and up against.

sarah

Welcome to PTO you will find lots of support here we are all going through some of the same things and you will find that alot of us are riding those long bids and we know how those times are. Mine was in the city jail for almost a year then went to mecklenburg for recieving and now at Dillwyn he has 5 or less to do thats what we were told in december anyway. Again welcome to PTO and to the VA forum anytime you need to talk or vent feel free we are hear to listen and talk. Best of luck with the lovely VADOC!!

Kelly

Welcome to PTO! I am so glad you found us and we will walk beside you every step of the way. ((((((hugs)))))) You found friends who totally understand where you are and what you deal with every single day.

Hey everyone,
My name is Cammie. My husband is in Stuart VA. He is about to be transported to a prison there. Not sure what one though. I live in Lincoln NE and do not know much about VA. Any info would be helpful. Thanks

Welcome to PTO Cammie!! So sorry you have to deal with Virginia DOC but we will help you through it. You might want to read the Heading Into DOC (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=265832) thread since it gives you the basics on what you both are facing.

Please feel free to ask any questions you have, chances are we have been there and done that and can give you a good answer. So pull up a chair and get comfy!!

Welcome to PTO everyone. PTO are here for you all whenever you need support or someone to listen to you and be there for you then that is what we all are here for. that is what PTO is all about.

Hi Jenn!!! Welcome to PTO! You've come to the right place for support.:cool:

Hi my name is lee and my baby Jess is in Petursburg va fci med and he will be out march 2010 hopefully sooner. We are a MWI couple and going strong.

Welcome to PTO, Lee! You've come to the right place for support.:cool:

Hey everyone,
My name is Cammie. My husband is in Stuart VA. He is about to be transported to a prison there. Not sure what one though. I live in Lincoln NE and do not know much about VA. Any info would be helpful. Thanks
Welcome to the PTO family, Cammie! You've come to the right place for support.:cool:

hi all im new to this forum but not pto i have 2 loved ones in va doc and 1 in ga doc ga forum is way more active than va hopefully we can change that because i know we all need some one to talk to sometime or just an ear
Welcome to PTO, mx! You've come to the right place for support and answers.:cool:

welcom to our pto family . you will have plenty of support here. any thing you want to know just ask, we all do our best to answer and if we dont have an answer we can usually piont you in a good starting direction. i have read some of the other info sites and this one is by far the most inforational you name it and someone here has been through it. these va pto people become your family and its great to have them.

Intro/Nancy from VA
Nice to find this support group. Lots of good information and support here.
My boyfriend has not been sentenced yet, but I am very afraid of how much time he may get for the alleged charges. His case has to go to the Grand Jury because the Prosecuting Attorney would not even allow a plea bargain.

Commonwealth Attorneys are not the easiest people to live with. Hopefully he has a good lawyer. Glad you found PTO!!

Glad you found us. Welcome!

Hello to all!
My name is Ashley, live in Alexandria VA, and I am new to PTO. My son was just sentenced to 10 years in VA DOC. He was given eight mandatory, and an additional two years to be served consecutive. He was sentenced 5/22/09. He is in the Alexandria Public Safety Center, detention center. Hopefully, he will be here for awhile. I understand there are state facilities that are closing, and the intake process is moving slowly.

In addition, we need to get the VA Penal Code ammended.
One interesting statistic, the highest incarceration rate is the age group 18-24, and the average sentence was 10 years, if my memory serves me correctly. You can view these statistics by googling VA DOC Statistics 2007, 2008 should be out shortly . I find this horiffic. My son spent his 20th birthday in lock up. He has nefer been in trouble and I find his sentence to be cruel and unusual, when compared to other states penal code.

Welcome to PTO and the Virginia Forum. Yes, it will be awhile before he gets taken into DOC so enjoy the cheap phone calls while you can!!

welcome to our big va family

Welcome to PTO and the Va forum you will find I am always late lol

Since as of May 16, 2009 I no longer live under the jurisdiction or recognize the legality of the Criminal, Outlaw government of Virginia I guess I am going to be here less often.

However, since the Oppressive Government of Virginia still holds a family member in the VADOC I will be around at times.

Richmond what happened to the Commonwealth? Once a bastion of freedom where our greatest fight for freedom ended in victory at Yorktown.

Maybe it is time for the citizens to do it again and maybe it should start in Virginia!

Thank God I am home and out of Virginia!

Patti

HEY! I am so glad you checked in! While I am sorry Virginia lost your voice, I am glad you found a way back home.

Richmond what happened to the Commonwealth? Once a bastion of freedom where our greatest fight for freedom ended in victory at Yorktown.
Maybe it is time for the citizens to do it again and maybe it should start in Virginia!
Thank God I am home and out of Virginia!
Patti

"Our forefathers would think it's time for a revolution. This is why they revolted in the first place...
They revolted against a much milder oppression."
Ron Paul (Texas)

Hey everyone, my name is Manda and my man is in USP Lee. And to say the least he wouldn't be in there if he would have kept his own mouth shut. But we all make mistakes so I will ride it out. I have 4 kids, ages 3yrs, 5yrs, 7 yrs, and 9 yrs. According to BOP site my man will be coming home in 2028.

welcome to pto. i see you are in west va. and a federal pen so you might also check out the wv. thread and the federal threads. dont take tht the wrong way you are welcome to hang with us Va. Doc. people..you just may be better served for your questions on the other threads.

Doing time is no easy feat! Been there, done that. . .It is one of the lonliest extistances there is. Without emotional support from family and loved ones. . .just makes an already intolerable situation worse.

Keep the faith!

Hi all im new to all of this,
But my Boyfriend was sentenced to 18 months for the dumbest "crime" ever. He sat in sussex county small overcrowded jail for 4 1/2 months and Well long story short he was taken to MECKELNBURG CC for intake and classification. I visited him the first weekend I could and it was a nice visit overall no problems from anyone! This is all new to me so I have to get used to it all, I cant wait for him to be out so he can finish college and begin his dreams ( YES HE WAS IN COLLEGE, and the judge still put him in jail for a non violent crime)!! He met with his counselor and he put in to go to all work farms, yes he loves to work and make money!! BTW MCC is 2 1/2 hours away! Im in hampton for the summer and I go to VCU for school in Richmond.

Today Tues July 21st 2009 is his transfer date to where he will finish the rest of his time! Cant wait to talk to him, and hopefully its a little closer and a facility with little problems and nice COs.

Oh yea his 21st bday in March 29th 2010 and his release date as I heard is April 14th, 2010..:( Hopefully he gets out b4 or on his bday he already had to spend his 20th bday in the county jail. I know I sound picky compared to some other people with loved ones with long sentences but he really really did not deserve his sentence. The racist county judge even said he was going to make an example out of him. But Why him? A College Student in Florida only visiting his family in VA....Okay Im done venting...

Thanx for reading All!

Welcome to PTO! You've come to the right place for support.

Welcome!! You will definitely find support here! If I can be of any help, let me know.

You will find nice people here and lots of good info.......ask a question and you get answers.....maybe not what you want to hear but the truth is always best....

Hello, My name is Kristen. My friend is at the Loudoun Center...I am pretty sure he just got moved to the Work Program, thats what his mother tells me. Just found this site. I am in Texas he is in Virginia so it takes longer for the mail which kinda sucks but it makes its way. His mom also put some extra money in his canteen to be able to call me but both times he has tried to call I missed :(...just found this site thought I would introduce myself.

Welcome! If there's anything we can do to help, let us know.

I am 26 and just moved to Raleigh NC from Washington State. I traveled across the country with my boyfriend and our 2 dogs. I don't have any children, and very few friends on the East Coast. My boyfriend and I were having a wonderful day, before they came knocking. He had just been promoted, literally 10 mins before they came. He was taking his lunch break from work, we were talking about his promotion, our lives and our great future ahead. Then the officers came and said they had warrants for his arrest. Boom, just like that; my life turned upside down. He is now at the Albermarle Charlottesville Regional Jail, and is looking at close to 2 years for a felony bad check charge. He also has a probation violation in Prince Edward County. He is hoping to go to Buckingham Prison. He wants me to move to Virginia and I am so overwhelmed with life, the thought of relocating is just eating me alive inside. Does anyone have a loved one who has been sentenced for a PV? We have no idea what he is up against, and he is praying they will run his time concurrent, but we just don't know. I want him home immediately. It has been 2 months now; and I still don't know what my future holds.

Welcome to PTO! Probation violation can go either way depending on if the judge wants to help or be a butthead. You are just going to have to wait and see what his lawyer comes back with. As for moving, I would make sure you know what is going to happen before you make that kind of decision. I know a long drive just to see him through the glass for 15 minutes really bites. We are here to help so holler if you have any questions.

my name is Erin and I am 27 years old, I am not married and have no kids. One of my closest friends (we have been friends about 20 years) is serving a 50 year sentence (he has already served almost 6 i believe) at Keen Mountain Prison in Virginia. He has always been there for me, and now I am doing my best to be there for him.

Welcome he is lucky to have such a good friend. It is not an easy road we travel but we do what we feel we must do....:)

Welcome to PTO, new members. Guests that are not members are welcome too. Again, Welcome!!

Hi my name is Karen and my fiance is in Greensville Correctional center. I am new here but am finding this site to be awsome.

Welcome!! You have found a wonderful support system.

Hi all. My name is Fallon and I'm 27 years old. My BF is in Norfolk City Jail awaiting transfer into DOC. He just received his sentence last week (6.5 years and he's 6 months in) so we know its going to be a while before we find out where he's going to be. I will update when I find out because I'd definitely like to know some others with experience with whatever facility it turns out to be. Please share any experiences (good or bad) that I can learn from. Thanks!

I can tell you where ever he ends up it is a step up from the Norfolk City Jail....

welcome to our pto family

I can tell you where ever he ends up it is a step up from the Norfolk City Jail....

Lol...and i know that you are right about that! They suck! :blah: I'm so over it that I don't know what to do. Plus I'm ready for the chance to at least hold his hand! Geez louise! lol

I am 26 and just moved to Raleigh NC from Washington State. I traveled across the country with my boyfriend and our 2 dogs. I don't have any children, and very few friends on the East Coast. My boyfriend and I were having a wonderful day, before they came knocking. He had just been promoted, literally 10 mins before they came. He was taking his lunch break from work, we were talking about his promotion, our lives and our great future ahead. Then the officers came and said they had warrants for his arrest. Boom, just like that; my life turned upside down. He is now at the Albermarle Charlottesville Regional Jail, and is looking at close to 2 years for a felony bad check charge. He also has a probation violation in Prince Edward County. He is hoping to go to Buckingham Prison. He wants me to move to Virginia and I am so overwhelmed with life, the thought of relocating is just eating me alive inside. Does anyone have a loved one who has been sentenced for a PV? We have no idea what he is up against, and he is praying they will run his time concurrent, but we just don't know. I want him home immediately. It has been 2 months now; and I still don't know what my future holds.

I'm new to all of this but I'm originally from Prince Edward County and the judges there can be some buttheads when they want to...I hope that everything worked out for you and your BF. And I hope that overall you are taking care of yourself!

Lol...and i know that you are right about that! They suck! :blah: I'm so over it that I don't know what to do. Plus I'm ready for the chance to at least hold his hand! Geez louise! lol

Don't get you hopes too high about the holding hands, got to hold his hand during classification...not anymore. His prison doesn't allow it:angry:!! You do get to see him face to face, all depends on what prison he is sent too. They all have there own rules...some are worse than others. The next thing I am looking forward too after two and half years(by the time the classification goes down), is his classification going down and maybe moving somewhere I can actually hold his hand....one step at a time. :thumbsup:

Don't get you hopes too high about the holding hands, got to hold his hand during classification...not anymore. His prison doesn't allow it:angry:!! You do get to see him face to face, all depends on what prison he is sent too. They all have there own rules...some are worse than others. The next thing I am looking forward too after two and half years(by the time the classification goes down), is his classification going down and maybe moving somewhere I can actually hold his hand....one step at a time. :thumbsup:

Dear God this is going to suck! lol...well i'm hoping for any sort of physical contact at this point (brief hug and peck at beginning/end of visit...anything! :yes:)...hell, being in the same room is good enough for me right now because we haven't even been for the last 6 months (minus court last week which SO doesn't count...they told him not to make eye contact with anyone because the victims and their families were there)...Norfolk has video visitation and it is NO fun (efficient yes, but personal NO)...i miss my man and i just need to be NEAR him/breathe the same air as him/be able to look into his eyes :lovestruck:...

Dear God this is going to suck! lol...well i'm hoping for any sort of physical contact at this point (brief hug and peck at beginning/end of visit...anything! :yes:)...hell, being in the same room is good enough for me right now because we haven't even been for the last 6 months (minus court last week which SO doesn't count...they told him not to make eye contact with anyone because the victims and their families were there)...Norfolk has video visitation and it is NO fun (efficient yes, but personal NO)...i miss my man and i just need to be NEAR him/breathe the same air as him/be able to look into his eyes :lovestruck:...


Man how things have changed, when mine was there it was a piece of pexiglass or whatever that you had to scream for someone to hear you, somewhere in there they changed to the video...I never visited him there..we talked about 4 to 5 times a day(those were the days, that is when it was cheap)....he was in that place for a year and a half....:angry::angry::angry::angry::angry::angry: :angry:

Man how things have changed, when mine was there it was a piece of pexiglass or whatever that you had to scream for someone to hear you, somewhere in there they changed to the video...I never visited him there..we talked about 4 to 5 times a day(those were the days, that is when it was cheap)....he was in that place for a year and a half....:angry::angry::angry::angry::angry::angry: :angry:

Lmbo...that is too funny (i can so see the screaming matches where no one is mad...they just can't hear each other...:haha:)...from plexiglass to video visitation where the phones aren't much better...lol...but yeah i did get spoiled with the every day phone calls (sometimes 2 or 3 a day) at first :D...now he's on a different floor (because of a physical altercation with some young wannabe thugs) and they literally roll the phone in and plug it up so phone calls are more sporadic :(...but i guess its saving money because the phone calls are NOT cheap...on the one hand, i'm ready for him to be at where he's gonna be at (lol) but at the same time its nice to be able to visit him every week (he is so spoiled and its partly my fault :o lol)...so i guess its a catch 22...i soooo despise the whole "system"

Lmbo...that is too funny (i can so see the screaming matches where no one is mad...they just can't hear each other...:haha:)...from plexiglass to video visitation where the phones aren't much better...lol...but yeah i did get spoiled with the every day phone calls (sometimes 2 or 3 a day) at first :D...now he's on a different floor (because of a physical altercation with some young wannabe thugs) and they literally roll the phone in and plug it up so phone calls are more sporadic :(...but i guess its saving money because the phone calls are NOT cheap...on the one hand, i'm ready for him to be at where he's gonna be at (lol) but at the same time its nice to be able to visit him every week (he is so spoiled and its partly my fault :o lol)...so i guess its a catch 22...i soooo despise the whole "system"


Yeah, the phone calls go from 3 something(I cant remember at first it was global tel link and then it changed to another company..more expensive for a whopping 15 minutes), now it is 7 a phone call, so keep saving that money. Rolling telephones, now that is the first time I ever heard that one....sit tight, he will move...you can call the state DOC and ask them if he has a DOC number and if he is scheduled to move. They will not tell you a date, so don't expect that, but they will tell you he is scheduled. From that point it may take a couple more months, but at least your going in the right direction.