Hey all this is my first post as I just joined. My husband is currently in county jail awaiting the long court procedure that will potentially see him in Federal Prison for First Degree Controlled Substance Crime, manufacturing of meth. When this took place we'd been separated for several months so I wasn't there for this (thank God) but from what I've been told, the house he was staying at was raided by the Gestapos and "chemicals and equipment used for meth manufacturing" were seized. He was not there at the time; he had no ties to this house whatsoever except for knowing the person who lived there; the only evidence they have connecting Eddy to this location and activity is the word of a snitch, who was and is a meth cook and is as we speak free as a bird and cooking meth elsewhere, completely free of the charges of meth manufacturing that brought him into jail and contact with the authorities in the first place. HOW do they convict people based only upon the word of someone else, an unreliable person at that? I don't get it, but I know it happens all the time. Eddy is an addict and has been for years. I don't doubt for a moment that his addiction is what has put him where he is now. He's never committed a violent crime in his life, yet he's looking at a good 12 years - more than many violent criminals receive. In the meantime, his 2 year old son hasn't a clue what is going on and will grow to teenagehood before he can sleep under the same roof as his own father. I'm sticking out the time with Eddy - love DEFINITELY is stronger than those walls and those bars and the time we're going to spend apart. While we were separated by choice at the outset, we were communicating and trying to work out our issues (which were all very much tied in with addiction) when this Federal Charge was handed down. A woman who was also arrested and charged with the same thing hung herself in her cell last week. Another casualty of the drug war. *sigh*

Kim,
So sorry to hear it. The Feds pretty much do what they want and keep generally good people locked up while they let the ones who cause the problems loose to destroy more lives.

All I can say is keep your head up and do not lose yourself during this process. Remember that you didn't do anything. Chosing to be imprisoned for 12+ outside while he serves time inside is very very hard. Time outside I belive has got to be harder. Inside they don't have a choice.

We have to keep speaking out and asking for change to these drug laws. People with problems need treatment.

Kelly

Kelly I know this is going to be very very difficult, and yes, moreso for me than him, but I'm going to do the best I can. A lot of people keep asking me "what if you meet someone and fall in love" well, my belief on that is, I'm ALREADY in love, with my husband. I can't fall in love with anyone else unless I'm open to it, and I am NOT. Eddy has my heart and soul, always has. In the time since we separated last July, I've met a lot of guys...not one of them could come close to taking Eddy out of my heart. NO, this is not going to be easy, but I'm ready for it. I truly believe in him.

Hi Kim, forst of all welcome! I hope you feel the love that I do with this group! A truly wonderful bunch of people. I am new to this also and although my husband is not in trouble for drugs he is a non-violent offender as well..felony theft a result of a gambling problem...He was sentenced to 2 years last month (it is a drop in the bucket compared to 12 years...but one day of involuntary saperation feels like eternity) and his sentence is for State jal where he will not be eligible for good behavior time...I find it strange how you can rape, molest or murder someone and get "good behavior" time and someone who is non violent cannot..I really feel the system is so screwed up in many areas! Anyway all though you are facing a tough time ahead keep your head up and remember "this too shall pass"Just think of how sweet your life with eddy will be when he comes home! I have five children of my own (ages 1-6) and it hurts them so much to be away from their father and they dont truly understand why are family was torn apart..Look into a contact visit with your husband at the county jail ( if you havent already) We were just able to visit my husband with the children and it helped them alot ..they had thought he was dead, my 3 year old said " I feel soo much better now..we found Daddy he isnt lost anymore" If you need anything I can help you with dont hesitate to contact me....EXPECT A MIRACLE..Good luck to you and Eddy!

Thanks for your encouragement, and I send it back to you for your family. It's SO tough with kids, no question. Aaron is the only one we have together and he was barely 2 when I left Eddy last year. I am sorry I had to do it, but both Eddy and I agree it was the only thing I COULD do for the children. I had a bad meth problem and Eddy did as well, and I knew living in that house, I would NOT get clean, and Eddy wasn't able to admit he had it that bad. SO, I left, got clean, and now he's in jail. The kids were and are a bit confused, because we hid our addiction quite well from them, my daughter who is 12 knows but the younger boys do not understand. My 7 year old thought I just "didn't like daddy anymore" *sigh*...Eddy wrote him a letter recently from jail that explained things to "lil" ed, the letter was SO heartwrenching, but I think now the kids have a little bit better grasp on what is going on with their parents. I'm requesting a contact visit before he's committed to prison, and hoping it's granted. I think it would do everyone no end of good to have that time together before we all begin doing "our time". Best of luck to you and your husband amelia, and yes I do feel lots of love here, SO glad we have forums like this for support and information we wouldn't otherwise have. Will make the wait much easier to bear :)

I just wanted to commend you on having the courage to recognize your problem and get help even if it was tough! You are a brave woman! Eddy is lucky to have you in his life...i hope this helps him to follow your example..Good Luck with the visit!!

Kim, Tonight is the first time I have checked out this site and your story seems closest to mine. Although we weren't married yet, my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have a 2 and a half year old daughter. He too is looking at about 10 years, which is the minimum mandatory. I am trying to get a felony erased in Florida so he can get a safety valve. I am sure you know what that is. They say that in prison, it is always a good idea to be-friend someone who has an equal sentence as yourself. That's how I feel with your story. I hope we can chat more. He is going for selling 550 grams over a 2 month period....thanks also to a snitch...a meth user himself. Funny thing is that Mo has never touched a drug in his life. He sold 'em instead. I will kep you in my prayers Kim. Heather

Hi I have posted once , but I really dont know how to find some one to talk to . I am a mom of 3 grown children and a grandma to grandaughter 3 years old . Her father my 1st son has been wrongfully incarcerated and given a life sentence. He is a great son and had done everything right his whole life to not be where he is , and then this happens to him. he has been incarcerated since just before his daughter was born and sees her only when i bring her. my heart hurts for him because he does not desrve this , the legal system is hit or miss and they hit him and i am so down today , some days are good and some are soo soo hard. yes doing time on the out side with some one you love on the inside is like being some where with some one you love and they die and you dont and you dont feel like you should enjoy life it is a weird sense of guilt when you cant or couldnt do anything to save them when you know they did nothing to derserve it, it is a sense of pain you can only have or understand when it happens to you. today is a bad day for me , i am in pain in my heart that today prayer has not helped . I came here for validation and understanding and hope , because i some times feel so alone in it and dont know what to do and i just dont know what to do or how to fight anymore , the system merciless and cares not ehrn it is wrong and there is no one to call and say hey something is wrong here dont you see dont you care . my sons whole life was stripped from him not even a year after graduating with a BA and working in a field that helped young adults recuperate for the very system that snatched him up. and now his daughter will watch him as he does time with out ever having the bond they should have , god help us I hope some one in the ;egal system sees and helps us to bring him home . you would not even ever believe the story . i just dont know how i will help him stay strong through this or get through it my self , it has so severly devistated my family . well i could just keep writing to thin air but my key board is getting soggy ,

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