I hope my story touches someone and i get some post's back . right now i need some support and some advice . I am due with my frist child in 2 days , i am 18 , and was in a wonderful happy relationship with my boyfriend . We just moved across canada , and bought a home , and got parpared for our son . He got a good job on the oil patch and i was able to relax juring my pregnancy and wait for the baby too come . 2 Days ago , a knock came at my door , this was the rcmp and took my boyfriend saying he volatied his praole by leaving the provience and was on the run from a half way house in Newfoundland ( Our previous address ) . Now , i am across canada , alone . i cant pay the bills , i am due in 2 days .. i dont know what to do . i dont want to go through this alone . things were soo good . the police here told me that if someone never came and got him and took him back to newfoundland within 6 days ..He'd be realeased , He's not wanted for anything here in Alberta . do you think they'd let someone go who ran from a half way house across canada ? This happened back over a year ago . havn't been in troubl since , got a steady job, a home , a baby on the way , and a loving girlfriend . Someone please tell me you hear of this befor and everything worked out ??? please post me back . Need some kind of closeure . thank you .

I am so sorry for what you are going through right now...I can only imagine how hard it must be for you.

So from what I am understanding, they took him back to Nfld? Is he in prison again? How much longer did he have on his sentence? Hopefully he will have some sort of hearing (I'mnot sure of the process myself) and they will look at all the facts and see what makes sense and release him.

Now, the most important thing right now is you and the baby. Obviously you can't fly right now, but is there anyone in your family or his who could fly out to be with you at least for when you have the baby and maybe even stay with you until you know what is going on with your boyfriend?

I hope someone comes along with more answers for you but feel free to pm me if you like. I'm also an east coast girl ;) ...speaking of...where was your boyfriend incarcerated? I'm assuming if he was federal hemust have been in a New Brunswick prison since there isn't one in Nfld. My boyfriend is in a New Brunswick prison right now also...

Keep your head up and stay healthy for the baby!

Erin

Wow. I feel for you. Really.

I had a pregnancy scare right after my boyfriend got locked up... False alarm, but my nerves were -raw- until I figured it all out. I knew I wouldn't be able to do it alone.

I got lucky though. I don't know how laws are in Canada, but maybe with a baby on the way... They'll be merciful.

Keep your chin up girl!

Good Luck Girl I hope everything works out for you. Keep us posted.

Hey everyone. There's nobody i can get too come here with me while i have this baby . everything is just way out of arms reach . i was talking to the po today and they told me that David is going too be doing alot more time then what i though ( he has 18 mths left on parole ) ..He's after picking up time some how .. i guess from maybe being on the boot or whatever . Lovin Jus - David is now going to St.johns jail until his court Date .. Then he will be going too either Nova Socia or New bruns. What are the visiting rights there ? Is there anything i can do too try too get his scenceing shortened or anything he may beable too do ? I am younge and i just cant do this alone .. thanks for listening .

WOw Im very sorry that this is happening to u and with U being prego U have to take care of yerself and that baby no matter what happens. I unfortunately KNOW NOTHING about Canada and their laws but I do know we have a Canada forum that is full of ppl that can prolly help. If u need anything please feel free to PM me and try and keep ya head up for u, that baby, and yer man!!! I hope U find all the answers yer looking for!

~AM~

I think right now you need to worry about you and the baby. I know that your worried about him, but your more important than he is right now, cause if your not in good health who is going to take care of the baby. If your under stress so is the baby. There are services out there you can go to, to get help! Do you have family that can help you?

I agree with Tammy. I am sorry sweetie this happened to you but you still have to take care of business. You have two days to prepare for this baby and how you're going to support it on your own till your man gets back. I know you are worried, my husband got locked up when I was 9 months pregnant, it was a state of shock but you still have to do what you have to do, you know? We are all here for you...just hollar if you need some help.

All I can tell you is my prayers are with you, your baby, and your boyfriend. I hope everything works out for ya'll!!!

Well, im not sure how far apart those two places are.. my geography isnt in top form lol But my boyfriend had a warrent here in IL for probation violation. He got busted in Florida and they held him there waiting for IL to pick him up. Well he sat in jail for those 3 months and was never picked up. But he was released. He just now turned himself in here in IL to just get rid of it. I dont know how it works there but here i believe they can only hold you 3 months waiting to be extradited. If the other party doesnt come get that person, well sorry bout it they let ya go. Good luck!!!! Im kinda in the same boat as you as to how the hell am i going to support my family with him gone???? It's not easy!!!!!
Hang in there

I feel you i am sorta in the same position. My husband was taken in july of 2005 a week before we knew we were preg. Two days before he was taken i thought i was. I took two tests. I also was living in another state. to make a long story short He has missed it all. All he's seen is pictures. I sure hope that someone will either come and get you or come and be with you. It is a vary scary time. A vary lonly time expecially if he is all you know their. Thank fully i got to be home with family to have our daughter who is now 7 weeks old. I send my heart and again to you. I wish that their was so much more i could do to comfort you and help you out. All i can really say is if he agrees sell the house and go back as soon as you can. Family is the best right now. Honey i send you many, many hugs.

Ps- email if you need to
talk Yours Always,
A friend

Ok hon, I know this is horrible for you and we will all be here the best we can for you. First of all is he in jail right now and if so which province ? Lets start at the basics and try to get threw this.
HUGS !!!
p.s. I sent you two pm's (private messages, top right corner)

Lost in....

I dont want you to think that Im cold hearted or against you. I have been where you are. I got pregnant Jan 1,1999. I found out V day of 99. He told me that he wasnt the father. He told me we didnt have sex in dec. I said no, we didnt you fool we had it Jan 1. I said we come over after new years..thats the 1th right? He said yes. Anyways, make a long story short..about a month of him not working being lazy I asked him to leave...Didnt see him again until he called me lookin for my brother. That was about 6 months later. The next day he come to me and told me he did a crime. 2 days later he was locked up for man slaughter. I have been though the pregnancy, birth and raising him myself. Yes, he is my only child. He is almost 7 now! I know your scared right now. Your parent skills will kick in. I havent looked back. I just keep moving. I hope this helped you. I dont know anything about the laws where you are, but Im sure there is. U just have to find them. WIshing you the best. If u need me PM me!

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and I hope we will be able to help you through this!!

OK so after he leaves Nfld he will either go to Springhill(NS) or Dorchester(NB). My boyfriend has been in both so I can probably answer most of your questions. Although as for the visiting in Springhill I am not sure cause I never visited there. He was only there for a few months in reception.

So, PM me and you can ask any and all questions you have and if I don't know the answer I will do my best to find out. Also check out the threads we have on visiting as this may help you. I have also listed some info on the jail in Nfld.

I hope this helps and stay strong right now for the baby. Maybe you could think about getting a midwife or a doula or look into any other services that can help you both while you are delivering the baby and afterwards. Any support you can get will be beneficial to both you and the baby.

Here are the links for you to check out.

This is the Canadian Visiting Forum: http://prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=580&order=desc

This is the Prison Profiles Forum:
http://prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=368

I look forward to hearing from you and helping you however I can.

Erin

OMG there are tears in my eyes. I can't imagine how this must be for you being so young and alone. You have certainly found the right place for advise and support. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

i everyone my name is amanda and my husband david vop when i was 3 months pregnant hes been in prison over a year our second child was born july od 05 she will be 1 in july and he will be home to see her first birthday and we also have a 11 year old son together to we have been together 14 years married 1 year its hard but thank god i have my mothers help so if anyone want to talk you know what to do thank you from amanda

Lost_In_Canada, you havent been back since you posted and Im wondering if you have had your baby. If so, big congratulations !!! You will get threw this and we are all here for you when you get back online !!!

Take care of yourself and your baby FIRST. Write to your bf. I had our son while my husband was in jail. It was 5 weeks before they got to meet face to face. That was over 4 1/2 yrs ago. It is rough raising a child 'alone',but it can be done. Send him pictures until you are able to get to see him. Driving takes a lot longer with a child. Stops for diaper changes and feedings..and another diaper change :) It will be ok.

I am so sorry you have to be going through this all alone. I have 2 sites for you to check out. I hope it will help. I have heard this organization is very good.I am not sure where you are. Are you in Alberta?

http://www.johnhoward.ab.ca/serv.htm

http://www.johnhoward.bc.ca/

One link is Alberta and the other is British Columbia. There are phone numbers to call. Someone will surely get you in touch with someone in your area.
Good luck and I hope the birth will go well. Congratulations. Give your baby lots of hugs.;)

Find your nearest Salvation Army!!! They can help give you support, possibly give you money to move back to where your boyfriend has been taken, and give you direction as to where you can get help and support for you and your baby. I work as a family service councillor for the Salvation Army. They will help you!!
Kassiesgma