I've been spending a lot of time with my in-laws lately, who are wonderful to me and my daughter and always have been. Never any tension.

So how does his family treat you? Has there ever been racial remarks or issues with them? Did they change when you had their grandchildren (for those of you who did)? I think it's inspiring how mixed babies have made the older generations change their ways.

Anyone have an inspiring or horror story of their relationship with their significant other's family?

I have actually started communicating with his family now in Honduras and they seem like the sweetest people. She(his mom) doesn't even know me only by pictures and she tells me how much she can't wait to meet me and she already says she loves me, his niece and sisters seem really nice too. His brother on the other hand I don't think he likes me to much but who cares he's not a very friendly person to anyone. But I think me and his family are going to get along really well.

My boos mother is wonderful. She has always treated me like a daughter and me and my boo aren't married. His father left the picture when he was 10 and I have never met him. My boo hasn't seem him since his was 10. 2 years after he got locked up his dad showed up wanted to know where his son was. His mom told him but it wasn't like he was surprised becuase my man learned what he did from his father. Not making excuses he is grown and makes his own decision. Sorry got a little off topic.

I posted in another thread in this forum about how his mother forgets that I am not Black or that it should matter regardless, LOL. His mama and I are only about 3 months apart in age (She's OLDER than me let's not forget that, LOL) and we get along famously. I think the nicest thing I ever heard (second hand but nonetheless) was when she told her son, "I wish I'd met Patty first so I didn't have to share her with you!"

Patty

much of his family doesn't really contact either one of us...so same s**t, different day concerning that.

the ones that do like me have liked me from the beginning, and things are still going great with us...

YES - I AM CLOSER TO HIS SISTER THAN ANYONE ELSE. I TALK TO HIS FATHER/MOTHER ONCE IN AWHILE. BUT MOSTLY HIS SISTER. WE ALL GET ALONG.

For the most part his family is really good to me. I do have problems with one of his sisters but everyone in his family has problems with her. I have very close to another of his sisters we are together all the time. His kids are good to me too.

His mom and I have gotten sooooo close after all this. She is my rock and I am hers. His family is the sweetest and are super supportive of me/us. I know they'd kick his *ss if he messed our relationship up!! :)

His mom and I are pretty close. When she has doctors appointments I take her, when she had an eye surgury I was the one who was there when she woke up. I was the only one besides his mother that was at his little sisters graduation!

My mans family is so good to me. His mom and I are very, very close and we have to talk about 4 times a day, me and his sister gets along really great and the rest of the family just loves me. They are willing to hurt him if he messes things up with me!

Talk to his mother often...she always says thank you for everything.

His father is a hot mess (in a good way)....called me something that means "the black chick" in Spanish. He also tells me thank you for everything I do for him and he can tell that I really like him. Parents treat me really well.

I am da bestest thang since sliced bread !!

They treat me with love and respect.

:thumbsup: WELL MY MAN IS 25% GERMAN 25% BLACK AND 50% MEXICAN I AM WHITE AND NATIVE AMERICAN. HIS FAMILY IS VERY DIVERSE. I LOVE HIS MOTHER TO DEATH AND THE SUBJECT OF MY RACE NEVER CAME UP. I DONT EVEN THINK ITS AN ISSUE. I'D LOVE HIM IF HE WERE PURPLE! LOL MY FAMILY DOESNT CARE ABOUT RACE. MY SISTER IS MARRIED TO A BLACK MAN AND MY BROTHER IS HAVING A BABY WITH A MEXICAN WOMAN. IM VERY LUCKY TO HAVE PARENTS THAT UNDERSTAND THAT LOVE ISNT LIMITED BY COLORS.:o

WELL SADLY ENOUGH HIS MOTHER AND BIG MOMMA PASSED ABOUT FIVE YEARS AGO, HIS DADDY SKIPPED OUT WHEN HE WAS TWO. SO ALL HE HAS LEFT IS HIS BROTHER (SERIOUS CRACK HEAD) AND HIS SEVEN SISTER. YES SEVEN!:eek: :eek: THEY ARE CRAZY LITERALLY. ALL OF THEM. NONE OF THE SISTERS LIKE ME SIMPLY BECAUSE I'M WHITE AND HE IS BLACK. THEY SAY THAT ALL WHITE GIRLS ARE GOLDDIGGERS. UM, HELLO, WHAT CAN HE GIVE ME WHILE HE IS LOCKED UP??:confused: DID I MISS SOMETHING?:shrug: THEY HAVE GIVEN ME SUCH A HARD TIME. I HAVE HAD TO FIGHT AND ARGUE WITH THE SISTERS JUST TO BE WITH HIM. ONCE WE SPLIT UP ALMOST FOUR YEARS AGO, HIS SISTERS WERE HAPPY BUT AT THE SAME TIME THEY ALL SPLIT ON HIM. LIKE I SAID THEY ARE CRAZY!

DSAGIRL: I KNOW THATS PROLLY HARD TO DEAL WITH 7 WOMAN ALL WHOM ARE AGAINST YOU, BUT YOU HAVE TO REALIZE THAT THEY DONT MATTER AND THAT YOUR MAN AND YOU HAVE SOMETHING THEY WILL PROBABLY NEVER UNDERSTAND. I WISH YOU THE BEST!

TAKE CARE AND STAY STRONG!

LAUREN

1 YEAR 2 MONTHS21 DAYS TILL MY BABY IS HOME FOR GOOD!

my In Laws All Of Them Are Great They Love Me As I Do Them,thank God For That,it Makes Everything A Whole Lot Easier When Everyone Gets Along, My Mom (in Law)calls Me Alot As Does My Husbands Aunt We Are All Close And I Could Not Ask For A Better ,in Law Family

Well here is the weird thing. Before I even knew my honey his sister was my best friend and she and their mom loved me . But ever since we got together they both have changed their ways. They do not agree with our relationship. What I don't get is why they would look down on it, niether one of them visits like they should as his family or takes care of him , they don't even write regularly, so what is it to them if I love him more than anything on this planet ?

pbe,you Keep On Keeping On In Loving Your Man God Bless

Well His Mother Is 1 Bitter Old Lady , She Thinks Im Here To Take Her Son's $$ , But Its Funny I Have Been The One Taking Care Of Him Since Day 1 !

An His Niece Hates Me Cuz She Cant Get $$ For Pills To Pop From Us ! His Mom Ouce Said While He Was Over There An I Was On The Phone , " YOU KNOW THEM WHT GIRLS WILL PUT YOU IN JAIL "

Its Funny Tho Im Wht / Hispanic An She Has A Problem With Me But His Ex Wife Was White An His Mom An Neice Love Her But Also Used Her An Still Do !

His Brothers An There Wifes An His Nephews An There G/f's An Wifes Love Me Tho We Are All Close An Always Get Together !

Far As His Mother An Neice I Feel Like Im Not In This Relationship For Them So F*cc Em !

His brothers treat me very nice, they the ones that hooked us up. As for his mother, him and her had a fallin out when she removed herself from his visiting list for someone that was supposed to be his friend while at EKCC. The man has since married her and they dont have much contact. For mother's day I went and bought a huge card for him and attached anote from me that she could come to my house on days he calls and my cell and house number. So far no response :( He hasn't heard from her either. I pray everyday they can get that mother son relationship back, he says hes putting her in a nursing home I said no your not, he says what she going to do live with us? I said if she needs to yes. I have met some uncles and cousins and they all seem to be fine with us. But ask us do we care what others think? We don't, we love each other and both say nobody and nothing will ever change that.

THEY LOVE ME!!! I have been around the family for a while though. His sister and I were best friends all through highscool, and still are. His mom loves me too, she always jokes around saying " your the only white girl I know thats not crazy like his son's mother is" Thay see me as family and she calls me her daughter-in-law. I lucked out though. My last boyfriend (who was black) was a WHOLE other story!

me and my honeys mom dont get along at all she thinks am too young n can get him into too much sh** but wtf you know shes been thst way since we frist meet or whatever

His brothers and I get along ok, I've only met them a couple times so really can't say anything else. As for his mom.............. Well let me put it this way. T asked me to call his mom and find out info from the atty. well I did that and it was all good. She was like call me back this afternoon and I'll the info for you. Well I did no answer, no call back and I tried 2 more times and nothing. So I take it as she doesn't like me.

Well ladies, good to know some of the Momma's aren't going off the deep end!! That is almost expected in these types of situations, they don't like togive up their baby boys, like our momma's don't want to give up their baby girls!! My man's family is pretty cool. I met him since he's been in, and so I expected a confrontation on the subject, but nothing like that has happened. When he first started calling me, his sister was calling me on 3way (shh!!) and so she knew we were friends. Then he had me call his mom one time to ask for her to send some money, her phone was blocked, I did and was so embarressed and I apologized for calling for such a bad reason, she said she understood, and was very sweet to me. Once her phone got unblocked, he called them and told them I was now his girlfriend, blah, blah blah, his mom was like okay. Then he wrote them a legnthy letter telling them he was coming home to me when he gets out and he didn't want to hear nothing on it cause he really loves me and really feels a sincere connection with me and the kids, his mom and dad were like boy, your a man, and we respect your decisions, and now they refer to me as his girl, his mom asks how I am all the time!! I have spoken to her a couple more times. They can't afford to send much $ or go see him often. His sister and I have met up to visit him, she's only been twice to see him, but is always busy. We got along great, went to eat, we text and call eachother quite a bit. He has a brother, but he's locked up for child support and drugs, he has like 12 kids. I once was going to stop in at his parents after a visit on the way back home, but he asked me to wait until his brother went back to jail, because his brother was a for real hoe, and woould try to holler. Crazy!! I'm so glad we get along. Sorry for those who are having trouble with in-laws, and bf/gf families.

Well, I'm unsure why but my mother in-law hates me and his sister is in her own world so we don't really talk. My husband says its because I stand up to her .... What ever I am not trippen. His father is remarried and he is the sweetest man and his wife also as well as his little sister. At fist I felt bad cause she doesn't even have time for our 3 year old son but now I see its her loss and at least this way I don't have to worry about laying hands on his mother. LOL

his family is simply wonderful. they have welcomed me into their home. they are very supportive.when my guy(their son) went back in they opened up their home and hearts to me and are helping me immensly get through this very diffulcult time. i just adore them.

I get along with some of my fiancee's family but not most. I'm good friends with his cousin and his wife, his brother and I were cool at one time, but who know's what happened to that, mommy skipped when he was a little one, daddy died when he was real young, grammy raised him, but she's totally racist and will have Nothing to do with me or her great grandchild. Her loss!! Most of his cousin's don't like me and his sister doesnt think too much of me either. But we don't care what they think, we still love eachother reguardless.

My inlaws have been nothing but kind and loving ppl to me and our daughter.. They respect our relationship and dont interfere with anything, they are always here if i need them and always offering up support for us .. They write him and show him support as well. So i am glad for that ..

his mom is such a cool woman..me an her get along so well an she is so down to earth an comforting..she cool as a fan,she reminds me so much of him so i love talking to her,even though me an her are just starting to build some sort of relationship it seems like i've known her forever..she a really cool lady..me an the rest of his family havent really met like that though..i met his brothers once..an they were alright..an his little cousin is really cool too..i've been cool wit him for like a year now..ever since my man got locked up we been talking on a daily/weekly basis..

His family is as fake as they come. they are your best frineds when you are giving them something or doing something for them but they never call without a purpose of asking for something, they are greedy, ingorant as hell and some of his family are drug heads - mother, uncles, cousins, so that makes it more unbearable. they are just low lifes.

The whole time we were together and I was pregnant, we didn't talk much. But ever since all this happened *jail* we have gotten pretty close. I talk to his momma on a daily basis. Her other son (who is 10) comes and stays the night at my house all the time and LOVES the baby to death. She takes the baby whenever I ask her to. Over night and everything. He is only 4 months old and hasn't got to see his daddy yet but hopefully soon! They have NEVER once said anything about me being white and now they have a beautiful little mixed baby to love!

Im mixed race (black and white) and he is black. Im of a very fair complexion. I could pass as white woman. It used to be an issue with his mum, as i would say things to her and she would take it as if i was a white woman looking down on her because she was black! After a few years of talking through this we have finally broken through those barriers and now everything is cool. noone has ever commented on me being mixed. i think as far as theyre concerned, love has no colour! :)

my color/raceis not an issue with his family, they do treat me like a daughter, he told me just a few days ago that his family love me like he does, i talk to them all and i love them to bits

his family loves me. I have known them since i was 2 years old. i have always been apart of the family His sister and i had our daughters on the same day 3 hours apart in same hospital. We are very close.

His family treats me great and so does my other baby daddy's family. And the other baby daddy's family are just corrupted and i see no need for them. But for the ones im close to i was treated nicely before i had kids and i suppose its better now cause i'm actually family but i have no problems. They may talk about white girls in general but i'm not included as the topic.