My Son Is In Jail Violation Of Probation.we Live In Louisiana The Judge Gave Me 30 Days To Find A Rehab. I Found One In Alabama Where His Aunt,uncles,grandmother LIVE THERE. They Say He Can't Go Unless He's Married Or Has Children . His Po Is Useless!! MY SON WAS SHOOTING UP OXYCON. SHE SHOULD OF PUT HIM INTREATMENT IN A REHAB. SHE WANTED HIM TO FAIL.THEY DON'T LIKE ANY REHABS I PICK. THE BEST ONE IS WHERE HIS GRANDMOTHER IS IN ALABAMA.THEY JUST DON'T CARE.THEY WANT HIM TO FAIL!!! IT MAKES ME SO SICK!!! HE HAS 5 YRS. PROBATION FOR FORGEYSCRIPS.BECAUSE A DOCTOR WHO HE WOULD SEE PAY HIM $300 HE WOULD GIVE YOU PILLS. THE DOCTOR DID GET ARRESTED ,BUT I BET HE GOT LESS THE MY SON.THAT DOCTOR HELPED MY SON TO BE ADDICTED TO DRUGS!!!
He's Back In Because Dirty Urine Test.
Mary

I'm going to move your thread to the Drug & Alcohol Rehab Forum. Even though you also have the issues of wanting to transfer probation, I'm hoping someone in the Drug Forum will be able to point you in the right direction of locating a rehab for your son.

Because you are dealing with such a short amount of time, I would quickly find a drug rehab in Lousiana, because it will take more than 30 days to process the interstate transfer.

Addiction Resources for Louisiana (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showpost.php?p=1576663&postcount=19)

thank you so much shelby!!
mary

Hi Mary, I'm so glad you were able to get such an extensive list of resources. Please let us know the outcome and if you were successful in finding a treatment center for your son. If you feel your son's treatment would be better in Alabama, I would still pursue the transfer, but the most important thing is getting him to treatment right now, and then you can work on the transfer. The transfer would have to go through the Interstate Compact, which says that at the discretion of the sending state the receiving state has to accept him him if he meets the criteria of having "resident family" in the receiving state. "Resident family" means a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, adult child, adult sibling, spouse, legal guardian, or step-parent. It doesn't just mean spouse or children.

Please click here for more information on the Interstate Compact www.adultcompact.org (http://www.adultcompact.org) and the Interstate Compact Rules (http://www.interstatecompact.org/about/history/historical/ICAOSRulesEffect1-1-2006.pdf) or you can visit the PTO Probation & Parole Forum and go to the sticky under Interstate Compact.

Hope everything works out in your son's favor. :)

Thank You So Much!! You Have Been So Helpful!!! My Sons Probation Officer Isn't Any Help.
Mary

Mary, keep us posted! I truly hope you are able to get him into a program quickly!!!

I'll Keep You Posted. I've Just Got A Call My Moms Cancer Has Spread To Her Bones And Lungs.i'm Leaving For Alabama Right Now.all This Is Hard To Deal With.I JUST WISH MY SON COULD SEE HER ALIVE.HOPEFULLY THEY WILL LET HIM COME WHEN SHE DIES.
Mary

Mary,
You have my deepest sympathies!!!!!!! Sending prayers and positive thoughts along with some strength for you! Drive carefully!!!

thank you you are so sweet!!
mary

Mary, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

MPerry. I found out my friend was on craxk when he went back or serving 6yrs. Out for 2yrs with me and back for crack. If I had known he had ever smoked I would have never touched him. I used to work in an outpatient rehab in california. I am going to tell you something. Sometimes there other problems that make them go back besides addiction to the drug. People self medicate sometimes because of mental illness. The mental medicines sometimes have been known to set them free.
Start reading on bipolar, schizophrenia, schizoeffective. Just learn and when you start studing psychology it will start to show you some things.

But as for as the PO you need to ask for a recomemded one. Or try to get someone in the prison system inside or to recommend in order to get around the po. Write or call some of these people on the internet and start telling them and they might talk to the board of paroles for you. Making it hard for them to turn down a facility like they do you.
Anita, Send me an message let me know

I'm sorry you're going through this. I am going through a lot myself. I was a former drug addict... well, I can't say "former" b/c I believe the saying "Once an addict, always an addict." is true. My drug of choice is crack cocaine. Tomorrow (the 20th) will be a month that I have been clean. It is VERY hard, believe me. I have cravings, from time to time. I am also very depressed b/c my boyfriend/ baby's daddy is sitting up in jail & just might be going up the road, to prison.... that, and our son, who will be turning 7 months tomorrow (the 20th) is now in someone else's custody (my b/f's aunt's). DSS is now involved b/c after our son was born, I had begun using again. We got busted with drugs in our room (hotel room) w/ our baby present there & got charged LATER with child endangerment. We got arrested that night and were charged with possession of crack cocaine, etc. My b/f had an warrant out on him (arrest & bench warrant) from 8 years ago and now it's FINALLY caught up with him. They came to pick him up. They wanted HIM, not me, but I f*cked up by shutting the door on them (narcotics officers). Anyway, I am scared for my life. I am hoping that I won't have to face any time. I have a good lawyer & I am hoping I get probation, if anything. I am going to drug counseling, getting drug screened, etc. I think your son needs rehab instead of punishment in prison. There are ways to get drugs in jail and prison, believe me.... there are ways. There are "crooked" cops. Anyway, I wish you and your son luck. In the meantime, I need to focus on getting my son back.

Thank You!!! I Can't Even Image What You Are Going Threw. Thank You All For So Much Information.
Mary

hightek669,First of all, congratulations on being clean for one month today! :) I hope this is the beginning of a new life for you, and you make the decision to remain clean for the rest of your life. I understand that you have 'cravings'...from what I have seen, others have told me you can even have crack 'dreams'. It is not an easy addiction to break, and yet, I have seen those who really want to do it for themselves succeed. It takes a lot of will power, and of course, the drug counseling that you are receiving is very helpful. Considering the situation you are now in, you are already suffering by the loss of your son to DSS, your man is going to prison, and you are still left facing unfinished legal business as far as your personal involvement in this goes- I am hoping they will recommend drug rehabilatation for you. Truly, that is first and foremost what you need. No drug is worth losing your son, and the child endangerment charges are not good. You have to really want to stop using because you feel it is wrong for YOU in order for the rehab to work. If you stop for your child, or to escape jail, it will only be a matter of time before the 'cravings' will overcome you. You will be a recovering addict for the rest of your life, even after rehab. Stories like yours are many, and yet recovery is possible if you believe in yourself, and want to turn your life into a positive way of living. I believe that you DO want to stop your addiction. Take the time to focus on YOURSELF, and all of the rest will fall in to place as you go. Again I congratulate you on a new beginning, and I am always here for you. Please keep us posted on what happens!!!! Hugs!

mperry61- Mary,How is your search coming along? I have been keeping you in my prayers.

Thank You! Ive Found 2 Rehabs I'm Just Praying The Judge Will Allow My Son To Go There.i'm From Louisiana,but Im In Alabama Right Now.my Mother Is Dying.i Called The Jail Because I Visit My So Every Fri.and I'm With My Mother. I Wanted Him To Know Why I Wouldn't Be There To Visit Him Fri Night.they Did Let Me Talk To My Son.my Son Didn't Even Know He's Grandmother Was In The Hospital.he Told Me He Was Praying& He Had A Vision From God,he Saw My Mom In A Hospital Bed,and A Lady In White Was Beside Her.he Told Me To Make Sure She Called Gods Name.that Has Given Me Some Comfort.with My Mother And My Son.thank You For You Thouhtfulness And Prayers.please Keep Us In Your Prayers.
Mary

I surely will have you all, your mother, your son, and yourself in my prayers!!!

My Son Was Sentenced 5yrs.
Mary

mperry61... I live in Louisiana.. I am so sorry about your son..I just HOPE he gets the help he needs..BUT I doubt it. They just DO NOT CARE!! I will send you a PM message...
GOD BLESS!!
"I-Care"

mperry61, I am sorry this is what happened. Were you not able to get him into a rehab on time?

I Found Him Rehab.the Judge Ask If He Has Use Drugs In Jail And He Say Yes.thats Was It. Sentenced Him 5yrs.he's Only 21 Never Ever Been In Any Trouble Before.he Just Needs Help.this Has Taken Over My Whole Life!!
Mary

Mary,I am so sorry to hear this. The good thing is, he did answer truthfully when the judge asked. That is an indication to me that he does admit he has a problem,and that is the first step to recovery. I will be keeping you both in my prayers!!!!! Stay strong, there is still hope!

Thank You For Everything!!
Mary

Oh my gosh, just reading what you wrote brought tears to me eyes. I am going through so much. Thank you so much for your support. I am hoping & praying I'm not facing time in jail or prison. I hope they put me in rehab (like you suggested) or give me probation. I was NOT an endangerment to my child, however. I never neglected my son. While I was getting high, if he started crying, I was right there. It was hard. Very hard... since I had to do it all on my own (tending to Tyler, that is). Angelo would get high and didn't dare touch Tyler. I was left with the bottle feedings, the diaper changes, the rocking him to sleep, etc. I hated being high and having to hold Tyler. I felt like I was hurting him. I felt tense. My whole body was tense. I was sometimes afraid I was going to drop him. At times, I was ashamed because I sensed that Tyler knew his mama wasn't in the right state of mind... that I was high, indeed. I felt terrible inside. I was depressed. I cried a lot. I kept thinking to myself, "How could any mother do this to their child? What is wrong with me? I hate myself. Why do I keep doing this to myself? To my family?" It was a disease... an addiction. As much as I wanted to stop, I coudn't bring myself to. Angelo wanted to stop, as well. He actually tried a few times, but one of us always ended up relapsing. Thank you so much for your support, once again.

Hey Sweetie.you Sound Like Your On The Right Track.we Have All Made Mistakes.anyone Who Has Addiction Needs Help,and They Should Get It.my Son They Just Don't Really Care.thats Sad! A Mother Will Do Anything & Everything To Help Their Kids.i Wasn't Such A Perfect Mother.don't Beat Yourself Up.you Are Not A Bad Mother!don't Ever Belive That!you Have A Addiction You Need Help I Pray You Get The Help.please Let Me Know How You Are Doing.i Care!!!
Mary

hightek669, you are definitely in my prayers..please keep us posted because we are here to support each other!! I agree don't beat yourself up. Just bring that strength you have deep inside you, and the love you have for your child will help you get through this...the first step is admitting there is a problem. You are only beginning! Lots of positive thoughts coming your way!!!!