My guy called today and told me that his ex ( who is now in prison herself) has been writing to him???? I have heard that 2 inmates are not allowed to write to each other is this true does anyone know? because im wondering if im being taken for a fool? sue.

ps im not sure if the ex is in a fed prison but she is in prison does anyone know? if they are allowed to write to each other? thanks, sue.

Inmate-to-inmate correspondence is against the rules unless permission is granted by the wardens of both institutions. People do it regardless. However, if you get caught doing so without permission, there are consequences.

thanks for your response hes telling me shes writing to him because she wants custody of their daughter? he told me that shes in prison in nebraska and hes in seattle? so i have no idea what to think but thanks anyways sue.

Sounds like she is in a state prison. Even then, he might be able to write to her but she would not be allowed to write to him, unless she's sending letters through someone on the outside. Unless he has gotten special permission from the warden. Or, if the correspondence is about custody of their child, it could be that her attorney is writing to him about it. Hard to say without more information. Zelda

I dont know I think that she is in a state prison, he told me that she now wants to be reunited with their daughter and had written to him, then my friend told me 2 inmates are not allowed to write to each other. He then went on to say that he didnt want to have a relationship with this ex??? and im wondering why hes saying that?Im getting the impression that the ex wants to see him and maybe out of prison now if she wants her daughter back i dont know, its hard for me, because i cant get to visit him because i had no prior relationship with him and got denied so i have no idea whats really going on, but thank you for your response.

You Can Write Letters To Other Inmates As Long As They Are Both In State Prisons, Now, You Cannot Write From State To Fed Prisons! Hope This Helps!!

Yes They Can Write If They Are Both In Federal Prisons!!

thanks Ts- baby girl im not sure if shes in a state prison or a fed prison ? i dont know? hes in federal prison in seattle. im thinking the best thing to do is just either ask him outright what he wants? or take a back seat and see what happens, after all i know shes the mother of his daughter anyways thanks for your response sue.

Let me try to clear this up for you since Ive dealt with this for four years. NO YOU CANNOT WRITE PRISON TO PRISON WITHOUT APPROVAL FROM THE WARDEN AT BOTH FACILITIES!!!! How do I know this? My husband is in FEDERAL prison, his FATHER is in a different FEDERAL prison. Had to get approval for them to correspond. You may get a few letters through but it will catch up to them. Second example, my FEDERAL prison husband CAN NOT write his STATE prison uncle, nor can my FEDERAL prison father-in law write his STATE prison brother. For awhile we were sending letters for them only to find out that is called THIRD PARTY MAIL. And all involved shall be reprimaned, just proves that YES the mail is read. Hope that helps, message me if you need anything else.

Jessica:thumbsup:

thanks for your really straight foreward reply jessica that one helps alot, maybe they have had permission to write from the wardens or maybe shes out of prison now i have no idea, i know he told me way back in january that she wanted to write to him so i guess they got permission? anyways i will just see what goes on from here thanks again sue.

just to update he called me today and yes they got permission from the wardens and it seems like he is thinking about going back with his ex after not hearing from her for 15 years and she wants to move back to seattle,so i suppose i will be in the when the relationships over section now. lol but thanks everyone for your response sue.

Well, I'm sorry it's not working out for you but it is really admirable of him to be straight-forward with you about it. There are prisoners who just keep playing games and are not honest about relationships with others. So now you know and you can get on with living a life that's good for YOU. Zelda

thanks zelda for your kind words but he called thursday night and hes told me that he does not want to get back with her she didnt want to know him for 15 years and he wants me to go to seattle this summer and meet his family so thats what im going to do, he told me he does not want a relationship with her again, yes i know there are prisoners that keep playing games my friend found one of them, i am a bit nervous but he sounded genuine on the phone so only time will tell? so i think i will get my butt over there and see whats going on? thanks love sue.

Sue,
Keep your head up, some prisoners are tricky things, but your heart and soul should know best. Do what feels right for you. You have my messenger Ill check that more often. Good luck, Jessi

thanks jessica, im just going to wait and see how it goes sue.

Sue, just ride it out. He may find that it is really you he wants to be with. i mean, it has been 15 years. He probably just needs to "try" a reunion for his child if nothing else. Keep writing him and let him know your there for him. She left once and she'll probably do it again. Keep your head up girl!