My friend has written to me and informed me that recently he has been re-united with his daughter. Its his daughter's birthday today and he has requested me to call her on his behalf and relay his birthday wishes. I am confused about this, I go from....o.k i'll do it.... to what if she is upset but the worst is (and am ashamed to admit it) what if he hasn't really been re-united and is using me for this purpose ( I have only been writing him since end of dec 2005, so not very long) etc
I really want to do right by my friend and therefore sought to ask what you guyz would do in my position..... many thanks in advance

I'd call her. I'm sure she'd appreciate it and if she does have anger towards it I doubt she would show it towards you because you are just doing a nice favor for someone. Since you haven't been writing that long and it's just on a friendship level I doubt he would have reason to lie about something like this. The only way to find out is to call.

I would call her and I have made several calls for a couple of my friends. To Mothers, Daughters and so on.
I don't see any harm in you calling and conveying his wishes to her. If she doesn't want to hear them then she won't listen or will tell you so.

softie

I agree, I would call. You never know, you may make her day!!! You may allow her to know that her father is thinking of her even when he talks or writes to another.

How old is his daughtet? That could make a difference in me calling or not.

I would call her, even if they didn't really re-unite I would want to know that my father was thinking about me is I was in that situation. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Thank you one and all ! a problem shared is a problem halved! Anyway I will go ahead and call her and just let her know that her daddy loves her and wishes her a happy birthday, someone asked how old she was, she is 29 and therefore not a minor, thanks y'all and God bless!

I think making the call no matter what the outcome will make you feel better that you have done something that means a lot to your friend. The situation he is in is not comfortable for him nor is it for any on DR. I feel that those of us that do have penpals can and should fulfill requests like that. We all know how important family is.
I know I would feel better relaying the message. I hope for the best out of the situation and pray that his daughter welcomes the message with open arms.

Patti

I would call her since she is not a minor. I just thought she might still be in her mothers care and she might not like it. Yes, call.

Just wanted to let you guyz know that I rang her and that it was absolutely fantastic to hear her happiness and surprise! God is so good! She shared that she didn't know how to approach her dad as she really doesn't know him that well, and I was glad to let her know that her dad is very proud of her and her family and loves them all dearly! to cut a long story short, we exchanged email addresses and she said she would write him today and send pics of her family!!!!!!!!!! now i gotta go and write my friend...........thanks y'all for your positive feed back on this issue! :D :D :thumbsup:

What wonderful news!!! I want to tell you that this is the FIRST email notification that I have gotten since the switch over and I couldn't be happier that this was the notice.
I sure hope that your friend and his daughter can get to know each other!!! God is awesome!!!!
Thank you for making the call!!! You may have strengthened a bond that needs the strength!!

Patti

I am so glad that the call went well.
I bet your friend will be thrilled.

Just wanted to let you guyz know that I rang her and that it was absolutely fantastic to hear her happiness and surprise! God is so good! She shared that she didn't know how to approach her dad as she really doesn't know him that well, and I was glad to let her know that her dad is very proud of her and her family and loves them all dearly! to cut a long story short, we exchanged email addresses and she said she would write him today and send pics of her family!!!!!!!!!! now i gotta go and write my friend...........thanks y'all for your positive feed back on this issue! :D :D :thumbsup:

:yay: How wonderful I am so happy to hear the phone call went well and that she was thrilled.

You are a wonderful person for making the call. Your friend is very lucky to have you.

softie

I'm glad that you called his daughter and all went well. I called my mans daughter and then also went to see her. She gave me a hug and was real friendly. Her mother also came out and shook my hand and I got to see my mans grand-daughter who was 2. Then I asked if she would like to have a picnic or I would take her out for lunch so that I could get pictures and send them to her Dad. She sounded excited and said yes. I bought everything for a picnic and went there on that day and she was nowhere to be found and I haven't heard from her since. I was very disappointed and I dont know if it had anything to do with her mother or what. That was why I asked earlier how old she was. But anyways, I hope everything works out really great for you guys!

Hi ya! thanks for all your positive feedback, I am just happy that I had someone/"someones" to ask for advice as I have never been in such a situation before. My husband and I have "adopted" our friend as a brother and I am very happy to have been of assistance to him, Thanks again for your advice and God bless you all ........one love!

What a great story. I'm really glad that she was receptive to your call and she is able to write him like that.

Hi ! all :) , just an update to let you know that my friend recieved a letter from his daughter and also loads of pictures of her and family:) , He forwarded them to me and my hubby and we have just sent them back! ( his grand kids look so much like him!!!!!!!!!!) I am soooooooo glad that I contacted her on his behalf, now they can start a journey of discovery and healing:thumbsup: , and I have just made another friend (as we remain in contact via email!)
Thanks once again for the encouragement to do the right thing ( I mentioned to my buddy about this and that I was abit apprehensive and he understood and also sends big thanks to you all!)
God bless you all and your loved ones:)