I am not sure what to say except that my fiance is in minimum security in Canon City, CO. He is in Skyline there. There are a lot of other ones in the area. I live in Washington state so I don't get to see him a lot. I just visited there a couple weeks ago. He is ok. I will be moving there within about six months. He has family in Pueblo. I will be staying at his parents house.

Anita

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Anita:
Just wanted to say welcome! Look forward to getting to know more about you. How long is your man going to be away from you? Sounds like his parents are supportive. Having family who understands is priceless. Peace...

Thanks! I'm glad to be here. My fiance' is going to be there until next year sometime. He has another hearing coming up next January that we are sure he will get good results this time. It will be his third hearing and in June he will have halff his time in. The only reason he didn't get it this time was a lack of a few months. I will be hopefully moving there in September. If all works out at least. His parents are supportive. Mine are a different story. :(


I just got a letter from him today. He is mad at me about something. I don't like it when he's mad because all we have are letters and phone calls right now. It makes having an argument difficult. Especially the making up part. :(

I completely understand what it is to have UNsupportive family. I don't dare tell my parents (or any family for that matter) anything about my situation... they are extremely judgemental. It makes it difficult. I am happy to hear that you don't have much longer to go!! I wish you the best at his upcoming hearing!
I agree too that it is difficult to have disagreements when you can't be face to face just to talk things out. I faced that recently when he was feeling as if I had abandoned him. It hurt my heart to not be able to just reach out and reassure him. Delays in mail... ugh! Hang in there though... in due time, in due time, you will get to "make up" for all those make-up sessions you missed out on!! :)
Hang in there!!

Thanks! :-) The disagreement was something to do with when I recently visited and stayed at his parents house. I emailed his mother last night and she wrote back today. Things are fine with her. She said she already got on his case for sending me that letter. She told him it wasn't called for. He will call this week sometime. I printed out what I wrote to her and her reply to me. I hope that will end this argument. He made me feel really bad last night. It was a cold empty feeling I hoped I'd never feel again with him. He left me about 11 years ago because it wasn't the right time for either of us. We recently got back together a couple years ago because god gave us another chance. Last night I felt the same way I felt 11 years ago. He is going to really have to apologize this time. I admitted I screwed up to his mother but she said I didn't. She said what he said was something he shouldn't have said. I'm just really sad right now about this. Thanks for talking to me about it. I guess sometimes it's easier to talk to someone you don't know about things like this than someone you know. People I know don't understand don't want to.:-<

Just remember that no relationship can be perfect and you shouldn't expect it to be. Being able to work through disagreements and misunderstandings is what it important. Think of this disagreement as an opportunity to teach him something about how to fight. Let him know what was hurtful and what he could have done differently. Use this time you have to really communicate with one another, because the opportunity to communicate is one thing you do have. By the time he comes home your relationship can be stronger than ever! :)

Anita,
Just wanted to say hello and glad you found us.. :)


David

I am going to write to him either tonight or tomorrow. Probably tomorrow. I need to think of what to say about it all.

Thanks David, glad to be here :-)

Anita

Mielle:

Sounds like things may be comming together for you. Good luck with your move..... It's great that your love's parents are supportive. This really helps in a situation like this.


My prayers are for you.

So glad you are here! I wanted to write and tell you welcome, and also, I understand how you feel about negative coverations and arguments. It is even more difficult when we only have letters or have such a short time on the phone to talk. we want it to be positive, because it is all we have. For me , it has been important to realize that I am the closest person to Ron, and when he is frustrated and upset, I am the person who is going to be the recipient of his pain. An argument may seemingly start about something simple, but underneath are probably a lot of pent up feelings that he is not comfortable anough to let go of with anyone else. So I know it is really not directed at me, but more of an appeal for comfort. Viewing it this way keeps me from becoming offended or defensive.

Take care, and good luck on your move!!


Sherri

Well I know you have probably have already moved but i am here in washington state. i am sorry to hear you have to go all the way to CO. i am fortunate that my fiance' didnt get sent out of state

Anita,

Welcome to PTO! Good to see you here!

Just wanted to say Welcome. You will find great advice and encouragement, I have. Again Welcome to PTO!!

Joy Roy

welcome to PTO

Hello to everyone! I have been on vacation for a few weeks and haven't checked the board for awhile. My fiance' Mark is in Colorado because he was living there before he was sentenced. We met in the Navy 11 years ago and went our seperate ways until about 1998 when he first wrote again. We got back together in about 2000. I just went to see him in September. His next hearing is in June of 2003. The only reason he didn't get parole this last time is because of a lack of a few months time. By June he will have 6 straight years in plus his 2 years good time added onto it. His sentence was only for 10 years to start with. With all this he will have about 80% of it done. We are confident he will get out this time. Seeing him was very nice. I melt every time I see him. Getting on that bus to leave the last day of the visit (I had 3 days of a special visit) was so hard. I cried all the way driving back to his parents. But we're trying to stay positive about it. The next time I see him hopefully he will be the one picking me up from the bus station instead of his mom. That would be the happiest day of my life!

Anita

Hi! Anita,

Welcome to PTO!

Welcome to PTO Mielle!!:D

Hello Anita and welcome to PTO!! Glad you found our site and hope all is going well with you and your fiance! I know what you mean about the "mail argument". By the time you get to respond and try to explain, they're off on another tangent!! Then by the time they get your response, they've cooled off and aren't so angry and then it's "I didn't mean to be so harsh...your taking it all wrong...that's not what I meant!" LOL

Welcome Mielle :)

WELL ITS NICE TO SEE YOU BACK. WHAT PART OF WASHINGTON STATE ARE YOU IN ANITA? I AM GLAD TO SEE THAT THINGS ARE GOING A LITTLE BETTER. AND JUST THINK NOT TOO LONG HE WILL BE HOME IN YOUR ARMS

I live in Vancouver, Wa. I've been busy lately and haven't had time to check the posts on here. I plan to visit him again in June or July after he's out. I will be moving to Colorado after that sometime but not quite sure when.

Anita

Hi Anita !!!

Just another warm welcome to PTO :wave:
All the best for both of you
Philippe

Hi Anita!!

Hi Anita!!

Hi to Ginger and to Philippe. I am a bit behind on keeping up with the board here. My fiance's parents are having some health problems right now and since I am in Washington state and he is still in prison at the moment both of us are stressed. I have been emailing his mother back and forth about me coming there to help them out. They were considering either hiring someone to come in a couple days a week or live in help but it makes no sense to do that when the logical choice would be me going there. He would also worry less. I am not sure yet what they are going to do.

Anita

Hi! Anita,

Welcome to PTO!

WELCOME ANITA.... GLAD YOU ARE WITH US AT PTO.

DONNA

Thank you! I've been here awhile but haven't checked the posts regularly lately.

Anita

Welcome, I it sounds as things are looking good for you, count on everyone here for support, thats why we are all here