girligeek
04-26-2006, 10:40 AM
I knew when I met my fiancé that he was on parole, but I never realized we would be going through all this. I love him to death and I am going to stick by him. I am his support and sometimes I need support from friends.
Well my fiancé was drinking a lot. and the last week of January he got super drunk and broke down and told me all about his childhood and all his charges (which I don’t really want to get into detail about openly on here, if u wish to know more to help, send me a message) and that night we decided that he has a drinking problem and he decided not to get drunk anymore but he liked to drink. I agreed, unknowing what would follow.
The first week of February, he drank a little bit, and it hard alcohol so he got drunk faster than he expected. He couldn’t make it home. (He was living in a group home and had a 10: oopm curfew) so he came to my house, where I was in bed asleep and asked if he could stay the night I told him no because he could get violated. He then proceeded to call his group home and lied to them and stayed the night, on my floor!
The next night he had parole group and he lied to his parole officer as well and from then on he went on the run. On Feb. 6 he turned himself in. His parole officer gave him 2 weeks in county jail. My fiance is bipolar and county wasn’t giving him his meds and his parole officer was in charge of the prescription so I was calling him to see if he would do something about it. Then the P.O. told me that if I called him again he would make sure my fiance got more time. 3 days later my fiance saw the parole board and he got 3 weeks in county. The day he was supposed to be coming home, march 1, they tried to end him back to CYA and my fiancé, not being on his meds regularly, freaked out and punched a bullet proof window and it shattered. The next day his P.O. came to see him and my fiance told him that he needed someone to recognize he needs his meds and that no one is doing their jobs. He told his P.O. that he was going to do what it takes for them to notice. That night my fiance was hearing voices whispering my name and it was freaking him out so he cut his leg deep enough to get stitches so they would have to take him to the hospital. He didn’t do it to manipulate the system, he did it because he feared that if he didn’t he was going to hurt someone else or possibly hurt himself more. He went to the hospital and then back to county for about a week. They then shipped him back to CYA, where he has been since.
Yesterday was court. They gave him 7 months with 1 month time served. His P.O. told the board that my fiance told him that he was going to manipulate the system and that is why he got the charge he got. But in my eyes if that’s manipulation, then his threatening more time for us calling about his meds is manipulation as well. We are going to try and appeal his case, and file a complaint against his P.O. We are aware of the consequences of the complaint but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to get the proper justice. As for the appeal, we know we might not get it, but it will take up some time in there and it’s not like they can give him more time for appealing, that’s double jeopardy!
Well, there’s a little insight on my life as of yet. If u have any advice, or words of encourage me, or just any questions, please feel free. Talking about it helps me deal with it. Thank you for listening!
Charli
Well my fiancé was drinking a lot. and the last week of January he got super drunk and broke down and told me all about his childhood and all his charges (which I don’t really want to get into detail about openly on here, if u wish to know more to help, send me a message) and that night we decided that he has a drinking problem and he decided not to get drunk anymore but he liked to drink. I agreed, unknowing what would follow.
The first week of February, he drank a little bit, and it hard alcohol so he got drunk faster than he expected. He couldn’t make it home. (He was living in a group home and had a 10: oopm curfew) so he came to my house, where I was in bed asleep and asked if he could stay the night I told him no because he could get violated. He then proceeded to call his group home and lied to them and stayed the night, on my floor!
The next night he had parole group and he lied to his parole officer as well and from then on he went on the run. On Feb. 6 he turned himself in. His parole officer gave him 2 weeks in county jail. My fiance is bipolar and county wasn’t giving him his meds and his parole officer was in charge of the prescription so I was calling him to see if he would do something about it. Then the P.O. told me that if I called him again he would make sure my fiance got more time. 3 days later my fiance saw the parole board and he got 3 weeks in county. The day he was supposed to be coming home, march 1, they tried to end him back to CYA and my fiancé, not being on his meds regularly, freaked out and punched a bullet proof window and it shattered. The next day his P.O. came to see him and my fiance told him that he needed someone to recognize he needs his meds and that no one is doing their jobs. He told his P.O. that he was going to do what it takes for them to notice. That night my fiance was hearing voices whispering my name and it was freaking him out so he cut his leg deep enough to get stitches so they would have to take him to the hospital. He didn’t do it to manipulate the system, he did it because he feared that if he didn’t he was going to hurt someone else or possibly hurt himself more. He went to the hospital and then back to county for about a week. They then shipped him back to CYA, where he has been since.
Yesterday was court. They gave him 7 months with 1 month time served. His P.O. told the board that my fiance told him that he was going to manipulate the system and that is why he got the charge he got. But in my eyes if that’s manipulation, then his threatening more time for us calling about his meds is manipulation as well. We are going to try and appeal his case, and file a complaint against his P.O. We are aware of the consequences of the complaint but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to get the proper justice. As for the appeal, we know we might not get it, but it will take up some time in there and it’s not like they can give him more time for appealing, that’s double jeopardy!
Well, there’s a little insight on my life as of yet. If u have any advice, or words of encourage me, or just any questions, please feel free. Talking about it helps me deal with it. Thank you for listening!
Charli