Well the new question on the post???? Now we all love our husands , boyfriends whom ever we visit, now what if after 5 or 6 months your man tell u he have cheated on you or u notice a chamge in his behavior what would u do? will u try and save the relationship or would u seperate? or would u just leave him???

:( OKAY FIRST OFF I DON'T EVEN WANT TO THINK ABOUT THIS QUESTION. MY MAN IS MY HEART:heart: AND SOUL AND TO EVEN GO IN MY HEAD AND ANALYZE A "WHAT IF" IS JUST NOT RIGHT. I DON'T NEED ANY NEGATIVITY IN MY LIFE.

MY WHOLE THOUGHT ON CHEATING IS THAT IF HE CHEATS HE MUST HAVE THOUGHT THAT'S WHAT HE HAD TO DO AND THEN ME BEING THE GREAT WOMAN I AM I WOULD HAVE TO KEEP IT TO PUSHIN UNTIL HE CAME HOME. I WOULD NEVER ABANDON MY BOO UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. I WILL NEVER LET HIM GO WITHOUT. THAT'S #1. ME'S MY #1 NO MATTER WHAT. I CAN'T PREDICT THE FUTURE. I LIVE FOR TODAY AND I KNOW I HAVE MY HONEY'S HEART TODAY AND THAT'S WHAT MATTER'S TO ME.

Now are you talking cheating while inside or cheating before he got locked up?

Ya know... I thought he cheated on me before he got locked up. He denied it and I kept on wondering... Since he has been gone we have a developed a great bond, really took our relationship to the next level. Now, I KNOW he loves me when before I wasn't so sure (I don't think he was so sure either). With that said, if he told me he cheated in the past I would more than likely stick with him and let the past stay in the past.

Now then, if he cheated while inside I'd be out the door really quick. I couldn't handle him cheating on me, even writing to or calling another woman. After all I've done to stick by his side... keeping things going on the outside... making sure the kids are taken care of... and all the tears and pain of missing him... well it would be a slap in the face. What's to stick around for?

Ok, I am gonna break it down on alll levels if this were me...
First of all, IF it happened while he was in there.. Honestly.. like I told him before, he better get all he can and take all the stress off of my back.. Phone calls etc... Let her get the packages, just as long as when it comes to visits..AINT NO BI$$H name on that list but MINE and FAMILY...
See, I had cheated((well left him, to be with someone else, to explore my options)) so when I went back to him, I did NOT and could NOT put any stipulations on him, just as long as he knew HE TOOK ME BACK... so there... I let him know to get it allllll out of his system..meaning talking to females ((COs included)) whatever.. What people fail to realize is that just because they are locked up DOESNT mean they can NOT cheat or WONT.. I have seen tooo many visits interrupted from that I am the Girlfriend and I am the WIFE crap because the guy was talking to two females(( he aint a real G..LOL))...that was the ONLY stipulation I had..if any one interrupted my visit with that sh$!! I was gone..I say it this way.. YOU CAN NOT get angry at him if you have already done it , thought about it, and or want to do it.. THEY ARE IN JAIL....I give my husband STIPULATIONS now, because we are married.. but before that, I know I would Flip.. but I can NOT because of what I have DONE...
NOW scenerio 2...HE comes home and CHeats...That is his GRAVE and my PRISONTERM...so you figure that out.. I refuse that when he comes home to be disrespected in any form.. and then again I KNOW my B like a BOOK.. so knowing him, He may be the one on PTO and posting questions about me.. lol... I gotta a good hubby what can I say, It may run across my mind the cheating thing, but usually only when I read the threads like this.. or hear other peoples stories.. I am cool.. and B knows that I am NOT trippin. Whatever you do , do it before you get home.. because once you are home.. that is OUR life he will be F"in with.. I am NOT trippin off what I can NOT see or do NOT know.. I say let the HO pay for my visits, phone calls, Packages..etc..just my hubby keeps it way to real and wont holla at another one, he rather go without, and talk to me every phone call((he wont even call his mom))..so there ladies.. I hope I answered it good Groove

I asked if inside or out I kind of had reason behind it, If he did it on the outs before I would more than likely do it back because that is the way I am but if it was on the inside (not with a woman) I would be out of there faster than you could say California Correctional Institution......I have a prima that I spoke of before and I recently found out some stuff that couild have only come from her telling someone else (me:such a chismosa) that he like her to use a manual with batteries on him...... if you know what I mean ladies, to me that is just not right for someone who you thought was behaving wasn't doing what they said they were and there are other methods of getting off instead of being someones punk....you feel me I'm not havin' it .....

Im not even gonna go there.... I dont wanna open that door for the devil to take control! Story closed on Di's part!

1st let me say the post was not ment to open negitive thoughts b cuz believe me we all love our husands and i'm the 1st to say i love mines to the fullest but i seen this happen to others and i just was looking for input i do promote happiness for every 1 when your mate comes home ,so ladys no disrespect and i hope no luv lost and BVN thank u for your input and for being open minded........

YOUR POST IS COOL GROOVE. I JUST DIDN'T WANT TO GO THERE. GIRL POST ON..POST ON:thumbsup:

Thank u Hagan b cuz i'm not out to be a negitive person i just wanted input u feel me b cuz i believe in love & happiness.........

GIRL..NO THANK YOU..THESE POSTS WHATEVER THEY ARE HELP PEOPLE AND LET PEOPLE VENT. THEIR ARE PROBABLY PLENTY OF PEOPLE WHO ARE GOING THROUGH THE WHOLE CHEATING THING AND THIS POST MIGHT GIVE THEM SOME INSIGHT.:thumbsup: YOU GO GROOVE:)

THANK U HAGAN u r a true support also and we all need each other in 1 way or another and a shot out 2 BVN & Diamond our real key team players they also help in out post........:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

WELCOME, BUT I'M JUST BEING ME. I WANT TO BE HELPFUL AND OFFER SUPPORT TO ANYONE THAT NEEDS IT AND EVEN IF YOU DON'T FEEL YOU NEED IT. I'M HERE TO JUST LISTEN. ALL YOU LADIEZ HAVE TOUCHED ME IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER AND I WANT TO GIVE BACK AS MUCH AS I CAN. :thumbsup:

((Pating myself on the back.))..Well what can I say..LOL
Groove.. This would NOT be what we claim it to be if you were NOT allowed to post what you want NO matter what it is.. And same for everyones opinion.. as LONG as we are OPEN and have fun with it.. THen hey... I am wit it, Just NO MORE DL stuff Groove.. I was on one, and had B laughing when I asked him was he BROKEN BACK MOUNTAIN..hahahahaha
Keep um comin, you know I am and I am gonna answer truthfully... No love lost and SAWWWWWWOOOOOPPPPP!!!!!!!

Thank u to all the CCI ladys for your luv and support and yes BVN ride til the wheels fall off to the curve ....:D :D :D

Then I am on the Spares.. I got Triple A...Hay NOW...!!!

LOL>>>>>>>>BVN on the move ,hey triple A is the business...:D :D

Lo jack too, so if I am slippin and dippin and someone trys to dolow the vehicle...LO JACK((which is FIGI))lol

WELL NEVER CHANGE A SPARE IN HIGH HILL BOOTS OK.....LOL CALL 4 HELP OK BVN........:D :D

WELL NEVER CHANGE A SPARE IN HIGH HILL BOOTS OK.....LOL CALL 4 HELP OK BVN........:D :D

I can NOT believe you went there.. I will use those boots.. These boots were made for walking........**singing***
But also made for stopping vehicles and getting HELP..
Call for help..
HEEEELLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !

OK U R GOING TO GET IT NOW U ARE SICK WITH IT...LOL THOSE BOOTS R DANGEROUS.......:D

EVERY ONE of UM.. and I got 7 more to add..Yeah I am off the chain even though they are collecting dust...Grrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!I was banned from the Boots at CCI...so oh well I guess I am going bare foot..

NO MORE BOOTS BVN DONT GO OUT LIKE THAT ..KICK ASS AND TAKE NAMES LATER.........

Well the ass belongs to B sooo U know the Routine.. Give some A$$ and give some later..L<M<A<O