hi, my situation is kinda funny. my boyfriend is in mdc brooklyn and i wanted to know if i would be able to get on his visit list. he says he will try and talk to his counselor, but i dont know if they will let me because he also has his daughter's mother and daughter on the visit list. will they give him problems? he tells me that he will try his hardest, because they won't even let his mom go visit him.. it sounds kinda funny to me, i'm too chicken to call and ask the jail myself. any help would be nice. thanks in advance

Not sure I can answer your question, however, I'll just tell you my experience and maybe someone who knows what they're talking about will give you the right answer...I think you are saying that he's in a detention center right now. In my experience, when my husband was at FDC Tallahassee (FL) they were more strict on visiting. The only people allowed to visit was immediate family. (Spouse, mother, brother, child, child's mother **with the child**). My mother was not even approved. I've never heard of them not approving a parent **unless the mother is a convicted felon, a co-defendent, or has committed a crime or something that they feel is a threat to the institution** I don't know your situation. Some FDCs (in the south) you cannot visit if you are just the girlfriend and you do not have a child with him. Now at the FCIs (etc.) I think they allow at least a few non-relative 'friends' and associates if there was a prior relationship (b4 prison) and then if there was not a prior relationship then the warden or some other administrator has to approve it. Hope this helps you even a litte.

On the note of whether or not you should call to check on his 'story'...that is up to you. However, I've been on this journey for 4 years almost and I was married to my husband b4 he went to prison. There is NO way I would have chosen this life (lonliness and the coping my child has to go through because he's the only one in his class without his Daddy). But he is my life, my love, my mate, and so I deal with it. I would suggest that you find out b4 you commit so much time and energy supporting him through this if it is worth your time to follow through. If he's playing games (and I pray not) then its better if you find out now, right?:thumbsup:

I just left MDC BK today. Depending on the Counselor and the Unit Manager you may be able to get on. And depending on your man's status with them. Some of the counselors are as useless as, well, you get the idea.

The guy next to me had his g/f on the list, but he had to do a whole lot of butt kissing and pleading to get her there.

What unit is he on? I spend the last four months on 3 North, in the old building.

he's in I-61