View Full Version : What does 'Forsaking all others' in wedding vows mean to you?


RAG4LIFE
04-11-2006, 12:26 PM
For those who took the 'traditional' wedding vows, you know, the part that says, 'forsaking all others'... What does that mean to you? And even if that wasnt part of your wedding vows, when you think about that, what does it mean to you.

MurphyGirl
04-11-2006, 12:27 PM
It means putting your man first and leaving all of the other men alone!!!!!!

sblvsmb
04-11-2006, 12:41 PM
To me it means you put each other first ~ no matter what. You have agreed to become "one" in a sense......meaning you are now partners for life and you are there NMW~!!!:)

RAG4LIFE
04-11-2006, 12:41 PM
It means putting your man first and leaving all of the other men alone!!!!!!

And that goes for the man, too, right? ;)

Leave them alone, like just the men you had relations with? or every man, including men who're 'just friends'?

according to dictionary.com: forsake means:

To give up (something formerly held dear); renounce: forsook liquor.
To leave altogether; abandon: forsook Hollywood and returned to the legitimate stage.

mrschris
04-11-2006, 12:46 PM
to me it means to put no one else above your husband.

SaraTony2005
04-11-2006, 01:07 PM
I totally agree with all the others. It means putting the other persons happiness and well being before anything. to me it also means putting their needs before your own.

babygurl919
04-11-2006, 01:23 PM
To me it means that we both vow to love ONLY each other for the rest of our lives. In other words, we give up on all other men/women, out of respect for our commitment.

sblvsmb
04-11-2006, 01:33 PM
I totally agree with all the others. It means putting the other persons happiness and well being before anything. to me it also means putting their needs before your own.

HoneyBee4Me
04-11-2006, 01:33 PM
For those who took the 'traditional' wedding vows, you know, the part that says, 'forsaking all others'... What does that mean to you? And even if that wasnt part of your wedding vows, when you think about that, what does it mean to you.


Staying committed to your vows and remaining faithful.

Willsgirl
04-11-2006, 04:18 PM
To me it means, that no one and I mean no one should be able to come in and cause trouble in your marriage. If having that friendship is causing problems between you and your spouse then you gotta let that go, simple as that.

Eternal Hope
04-11-2006, 04:39 PM
Putting each other first always and remaining faithful to each other is what "forsaking all others" means to me.

zhane
04-12-2006, 02:41 AM
To me it means that you will not allow anything else to be more important that your marital union to one another.

mrssunnyb
04-12-2006, 08:17 AM
To me, it means that you will never let anyone or anything come between you and your spouse.

wenzhecominhome
04-12-2006, 11:27 AM
To me it means that you are faithful to each other with no love or commitment of any kind to any other person.

Woody's Girl
04-12-2006, 12:50 PM
okay, i did not want anyone to jump down my back, so i am backing up my "opinion" of what that means; with the dictionary definition of forsaken... I am not saying traditional wedding vows when me and my husband remarry once he is home, because i want to make sure i am saying my vows and standing by the vows i chose to say... when you say "forsaking all others" that not only means other men, that means "everyone" ; and it means basically abandon all your other people in life; turning your back to everyone other than your husband, and to me; i would definately hate to vow to do that, cause i am very family oriented and i have a 12 year old that i have already vowed to place as my number one priority.



Main Entry: for·sake http://www.m-w.com/images/audio.gif (javascript:popWin('/cgi-bin/audio.pl?forsak01.wav=forsake'))
Pronunciation: f&r-'sAk, for-
Function: transitive verb
Inflected Form(s): for·sook http://www.m-w.com/images/audio.gif (javascript:popWin('/cgi-bin/audio.pl?forsak02.wav=forsook')) /-'suk/; for·sak·en http://www.m-w.com/images/audio.gif (javascript:popWin('/cgi-bin/audio.pl?forsak03.wav=forsaken')) /-'sA-k&n/; for·sak·ing
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English forsacan, from for- + sacan to dispute; akin to Old English sacu action at law -- more at SAKE (http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/sake)
: to renounce or turn away from entirely <friends have forsaken her> <forsook the theater for politics>
synonym see ABANDON (http://www.m-w.com/dictionary/abandon)

AJCason
04-12-2006, 02:17 PM
Forsaking all others to me means that there is no other relationship that takes a higher president than the one you and your spouse have with each other.

notlyte68
04-13-2006, 06:12 PM
Well, forsaking all others does mean that you are vowing to put that person above all people/things on this earth. That is why it is very important to know and trust the person that you marry, because that relationship comes only second to God. It is a serious vow and many are entering into marriage without really thinking about what that means. You have to be sure that the person you marry has the same priorities as you. So when he/she marries you, they will also have the people/things you love in mind and vice versa when making choices for this union. That is why communication is of the utmost importance in a relationship, so that each one of you can know what is a priority for eachother. You should know eachothers opinion on everything from keeping the house clean/chores to how and where you want to raise your children. I don't agree that you put their happiness before yours, because those things that make him/her happy will become what makes you happy and vice versa. Then their is compromise. If their is someone that is not healthy for your relationship then you may have to put them on ice, but this should be a mutual decision. If you are family oriented, he/she should be family oriented. If you feel that making this vow would somehow compromises your relationship with your child/children then you should not marry before discussing how you will relate to the children together and separately. I believe that my husband knows how important my children are to me and has seen how I deal with my children and I know that he has my childrens best interest in mind because he has not only developed a relationship with my children but has also built an understanding of my love and expectations for my children and vice versa with his daughter. So now the children are not mine and his, they are ours and we discuss the type of things we want for them and how we are going to go about obtaining them. I think this is very important because if you were to die tomorrow, you would need to have someone in your children's lives that would do right by them. So again I say don't marry anyone if you have doubts about trusting him/her with your vows.

Starr83
04-13-2006, 07:11 PM
Putting your husband first