hi everyone, im kinda new to the federal prison system and hoping someone could possibly answer a question for me, my hubby was sent to a FCI in california about 4 weeks ago, and i haven't heard or received mail from him yet, i know mail only usually takes 3day to 5 days max. to get from the states to australia, does anyone happen to know how long does it usually take for phone and mail privledges to be set up? With being in a seperate country and not knowing the US prison system im getting a little worried, concerned and a wee little bit impaitent...

Thanks
Scarlet

From the time of Surrender, it should generally take about 7 - 10 days to set up phones and mail should be almost instant. Being in an FCI could take a little longer, particularly if he has to do some SEG time initially; however, Iwould suspect you should be earing something anytime now.

Keep the Faith

Michael :thumbsup:

:cry: I'm glad yours will write. My son says he under no circumstances will he write anybody. This is getter harder by the minute:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Im sorry to hear that your son won't write SCMom, and can understand how hard it is. My hubby was in a state prison for 3 yrs before going into federal custody and he was the same under no circumstances wanted to write to anyone but i was persistant and i sent mail every day even if it was something boring like my day of cleaning walls or floors, or my day grocery shopping, A year later i was suprised to find a letter waiting for me when i got home from him and now i usually have a letter waiting for me every day..

I hope that your son will eventually write to you , my prays are with you

my husband writes me every day but only mails them on Mondays and Thursdays...he encloses both his sons letters in mine then i forward them on to them...i am not doing as well in my letter writting i have to get better i know that they look forward to their mail...i get my phone call every night even if its just to say i love you and miss you

I'm sorry your son won't write. I don't think that I would be so supportive toward my hubby if he didn't want to write. It seems like part of the package deal.

For me, sitting down and writing to my wife is a kin to sitting down and haveing a "heart felt" conversation with her. I set up our wedding picture and simply write away. In many ways it is like having her there with me.

SCMom, I would write irreguardless of whether your son writes back or not. In many ways, the "Walls" our loved ones put up for their own self protection are like an Onion Skin.... Write him as often as you feel like. Let him know how much you care. Peel away that "Onion Wall" one layer at a time. Show him through your example what it means to open up and share his heart. I know for many, it is not the "MANLY" thing to show your emotions, but it is the right thing. Do not let your son's selfishness diminish your love. By being you and writing despite the lack of reciprocated mail... perhaps like scarletrose's husband... your son will come around as well. In short this is just one aspect of continuing to...

Keep the Faith

Michael :thumbsup:

Scarlet - You are not the only one in Australia to have to wait a long time for prison mail to arrive. I don't know what the problem is but it's a common one, according to others I know who live there. Also, once he arrives, he will have to wait for commissary to purchase stamps, so that takes at least a week or maybe even more, depending on what day he arrives and what day is his commissary day. He's probably purchasing other items too since he just arrived, so stamps may not be first priority. So be patient - you may even get a bunch of letters all at the same time. Zelda

Thanks Zelda, i finally heard from hubby, he called everyday last week ( im liking the phone set up in fed prison, state was only 22mins a month) and i got a stack of mail today, i was just a bit wee impaitent i think...

Glad to hear it! That's a skill the BOP teaches us - how to delay our anxiety for awhile before getting upset and worried. The longer your loved one is in the BOP, the longer the time period. My husband's been there so long that it takes at least 9 or 10 days without a phone call or letter before I start feeling a little bit of anxiety. There are so many variables. Zelda

God i didnt get a phone call last Monday night...that was the first time my husband had not called since he had been there...he surrenderd on March 8th called on March 9th and had approved phone list by March 11th and had never missed a night calling ..i was climbing the wall..i called the camp...the CO was very nice...told me phones were out but that he was fine

hi all, am fro the Bahamas and my boyfriend is at FCI Edgefield South carolina, nad i sent him a letter in the second week in march, its now Aprl 20th, i want to know how long does it takes for him to get his mail. inturn when he writes me how long will it takes to reach me.
nekes, thanks

hello everybody. new to this site. love someoe who went to prison. has about 10 months left on a 4 year sentence, but really growing to like someone else who is presently incarcerated and actually enjoy writing him.

Spicy: Are you asking a question? Or just commenting on your situation? Zelda