well i haven't posted here in a long long time..but i'll write a lil story of what happened :)

well my bf came home about 2 years ago and it was hard..the fights the breakups, pushing one another away..i never thought we'd make it..i posted here many times spillin my heart about how much he hurt me it was beyond pain :(

i even met someone else had a relationship with them, then me and him got back together, and on and on it was like a rollercoaster ride

the past year almost we're still here still going strong..we don't even discuss the time he was in prison bringing all of that back would make us fight since the time he came home was so painful ..we kind of let that go..sumtimes u have to let certain events go..even if u wanna discuss why and ask questions..let it go (and belive me i dont let go that easily lol)

people told me to give up but i never did..as much as he hurt me and i swore i was the perfect girlfriend it's hard for them being here..especially those man who won;t share that they are scared to be back..he only told me he was scared being home maybe a year ago

i know alot of relationships dont work..but follow ur heart pleasee..it's not easy..u feel like giving up...but it just takes ALOT of time..and i have to say i've never been happier than i am right now <3

I hope everything works out for you guys, with so much time and effort put into it I don't think I could have walked away either. Keep us updated. Good luck to the both of you guys!

I am happy for you!

I did alot of time too .. 7.5 years and I got into a serious relationship which ended up into marriage ..I met him only 4 mths.of being out.
and my personality sucked for awhile after getting out.
I referred to women as bitches..hated getting to know these 'fake ass bitches' out here I used to say...I didn't trust anyone (don't much still) and I just had a real negative way of approaching subjects.
It goes away within time but it took me almost 4 yrs..
Hell it took almost 8 years to develop a hardness and bitchiness so it doesn't go away over night..
he stayed tho.
I am still resisliant...but not so mean anymore.

its taken me 20 years to actully lose all the bitterness, but i now know what compassion really is. it feels good to be honest. it feels good to be alive.

my regards to you and wish you well

I really needed to read the end of your message today and I just wanted to say thanks for putting it out there to not give up. So many people dont understand what you are going through because they are not in our shoes and it makes the world a lonely place but I am going to definately follow my heart and hopefully everything will be alright.


Casslyn -- [email removed per PTO posting guidelines]

I can really relate to your story. I too have lots of problems with my fiance, and people have tried to tell me to give up too, but I do really love him so much, and I feel I have to hang in there. I've been with him for fifteen years, I've known him since we were kids, and I could never abandon him. I admit, it's been hard, really hard, but I believe he'll do right by me now and he now knows how much I truly love him.

That's a wonderful story!

How courageous you are.. I have to give you props, I myself probably wouldn't know what to do and I would give up but you stuck it out.. way to go!! =)

YAY!!!!! that's good to hear