if he's ok! Due to some rather dumb decisions (on my part) it's been several years since we corresponded last. When I finally came to my senses, it took me 6 months to track him down to CTF. I've sent cards and letters but no response. He is justified in not answering me, but I just want to know that he is ok. IS there someone I can call to verify his health status?
4ever Nissan's Girl:heart:

Well if he is at CTF then his health issues are probably not that bad because they are not a medical facility. I do not think that anyone at the prison would give you any information about his medical condition…but you can try.

For future reference you can always call the inmate locator at 1-916-445-6713 (you will be on hold for awhile) you need the inmates CDC number or full name and date of birth. They will not give you release dates until after the inmate has been released however they will provide you with the prison/facility that the inmate is currently being held at along with the mailing address.
Megan

Are you able to get in touch with his family to see how he's doing? I'd try that. Unless you are family or married to him, his counselor won't tell you anything. Hope you hear something soon.

i hope that you hear somethign soon. Maybe the mail is just taking awhile to get to him and that is te delay. I know what it feels like to worry, but in the end, things do work out. So I will be thinking of you guys!

Thank you Megan, JaimeeLynn and Wife for your comments. My heart is very heavy right now because I'm kind of at a loss as what to do. We went through Ivy House to get married on August 13, 1997. (I have the receipt to prove it!) I just recently found out Ivy House never filed our license with the court. So all this time, I thought we were married and actually we aren't - legally. I'm not even sure if he knows. How do I find out who his counselor is and how can I contact him?
Thanks again Ladies!

What is Ivy House? You can just call up to CTF and ask to speak to the counsellor. Explain to them you don't know his housing unit and they should be able to help you. If they give you the run around ask for inmate records and ask them for his counsellor.

I'm so sorry to hear that!

The Ivy House is not a good option! I have heard terrible things of them! Basically what Ivy House does is conduct marriages by phone for inmates - I believe specifically in county. It costs $300-$500 and then the inmate schedules his time to call in for the "ceremony". They say that you are able to file all the paper work like normal, but, I have heard horror stories of women who were not able to. The problem with the whole senario is: the state of California does not recognize marriage by proxy. Both parties should be there in front of the official. So, if someone REALLY checks into the validity of your papers, (we all know CDCR does a pretty EXTENSIVE backround check on everything) and they find that it was by proxy, not only will they make your life rough, they will never allow the inmate to apply for a marriage in CDCR's walls ever - you'd have to wait until he got out.

Not a good option. I'd see if there was a way to get your money back! I've heard of them being sued quite a few times.

Wow Ivy house sounds like really bad business. I am so sorry that you have had to go through that. I hope that you do find him and that you are able to get that marriage situation fixed. and even if you aren't married maybe now you guys can work on things and do it right in the eyes of the state.

Ivy House IS really bad news! Unfortunately I was unfamiliar with them. Nissan was the one who made the initial contact; I guess we both got the shaft.
This is a mess! If I can just get him to return some correspondance, or CALL!