I was talking to my cousin and we were talking about her husband who is from Africa. We were laughing and I told her that I think liking black men runs in our family. Her husband is black, her sister has children who are mixed, my love is a black man, my daughter who is white thinks that black boys are cute (that really upsets her daddy too). I told my cousin that I have a feeling our grandmother who is no longer alive had a secret desire to be with a black man but was too scared to "come out of the closet" to be with one. She was the one who introduced to motown music, to love R&B music and so on. So I told her that it must be hereditary in the family to have my grandmother's three granddaughters and great granddaughter to be attracted to black men. Do you think it's possible? The funny thing about it in a way my cousin's father and my mother are siblings and those two are dead against blacks and whites mixing and shows all signs to be prejudice and upset with us about who we decide to be with.

As a teenager my daughter went through different periods where she only dated blacks, then Puerto Ricans, Asians, so on and so forth. The thing I discussed with her and she's come around to understanding is that one does not have to limit oneself to dating any particular type of person with the exception of them being decent human beings. I've always considered myself an "equal opportunity kinda dater". =)

Patty

Hahah This post caught my eye because almost everyone in my family is in a inter racial relationship, All the men with white women and all the females with black men. We are all mexican. Only 2 female cousins and 1 guy cousin didnt date or marry someone of another race (me being 1 of them). Maybe it does lie in the gene pool some where.

I was talking to my cousin and we were talking about her husband who is from Africa. We were laughing and I told her that I think liking black men runs in our family. Her husband is black, her sister has children who are mixed, my love is a black man, my daughter who is white thinks that black boys are cute (that really upsets her daddy too). I told my cousin that I have a feeling our grandmother who is no longer alive had a secret desire to be with a black man but was too scared to "come out of the closet" to be with one. She was the one who introduced to motown music, to love R&B music and so on. So I told her that it must be hereditary in the family to have my grandmother's three granddaughters and great granddaughter to be attracted to black men. Do you think it's possible? The funny thing about it in a way my cousin's father and my mother are siblings and those two are dead against blacks and whites mixing and shows all signs to be prejudice and upset with us about who we decide to be with.

This really upsets me. My husband and I are interracial and are married. We do not go around and advertise it. You should love someone for who they are, not what they are. I really find that desturbing that someone says "black boys are cute". It should just be that little boy is cute. You dont have to be black to like motown music or love R & B. To say that "it runs in the family" - well its just a sad thing to say. I say grow up and love a man for being a man - not for his color.

Loving someone isn't about how he/she looks like from the outside . If he/she is black or white, beautiful or ugly, fat or skinny. It is all about the precious person he/she is from the inside. I'm black and my fiance is a native american indian.

. . . So I told her that it must be hereditary in the family to have my grandmother's three granddaughters and great granddaughter to be attracted to black men. Do you think it's possible? The funny thing about it in a way my cousin's father and my mother are siblings and those two are dead against blacks and whites mixing and shows all signs to be prejudice and upset with us about who we decide to be with.
No, I don't think it's hereditary. I think it's just when one got a black man he looked so good that the others was like they want one to. Yall white girls do not be playing wit it though because black women will be alone saying ain't no good black men out here but my white sisters NEVER have a problem finding one. :p I bet yall even wonder sometimes "what are they talking about -- the world is full of them, they just have to get out there and go for it." :p

But you know what I always say about these white parents who be deadset against their daughters having IR relations and relationships -- that what their hatred actually does is open up the curiosity to make their daughters want to go there when had the hate not been there, their daughters may not of even considered it.

Hate never solves anything so they really need to just let it go.

Ive been with my mixed race man for 18years we have 5 great kids i am the only one in my family who is with a mixed person the rest of my family are with whites does it bother anyone not as far as i no but i am from the uk does that make a diffrence?
i wouldnt swap my man for all the tea in china
respect shaz:fb: I was talking to my cousin and we were talking about her husband who is from Africa. We were laughing and I told her that I think liking black men runs in our family. Her husband is black, her sister has children who are mixed, my love is a black man, my daughter who is white thinks that black boys are cute (that really upsets her daddy too). I told my cousin that I have a feeling our grandmother who is no longer alive had a secret desire to be with a black man but was too scared to "come out of the closet" to be with one. She was the one who introduced to motown music, to love R&B music and so on. So I told her that it must be hereditary in the family to have my grandmother's three granddaughters and great granddaughter to be attracted to black men. Do you think it's possible? The funny thing about it in a way my cousin's father and my mother are siblings and those two are dead against blacks and whites mixing and shows all signs to be prejudice and upset with us about who we decide to be with.

But you know what I always say about these white parents who be deadset against their daughters having IR relations and relationships -- that what their hatred actually does is open up the curiosity to make their daughters want to go there when had the hate not been there, their daughters may not of even considered it.

Hate never solves anything so they really need to just let it go.

This was true in my mother's case. My grandfather was a klucker, and she dated every race EXCEPT white because of it. I think my father was the only white guy she was ever with; he treated her like crap and left shortly after I was born. I had only dated white guys until I met Vic, but it's not like I consciously said "Only white guys for me."

I don't think there's an "IRR" gene. I've always said you can't really help who you fall in love with. My mother did teach me it's whats on the inside that counts not the outside.

When I was younger I only dated white men. I was raised by a down to earth mother and a very very racist father. He passed away when I was 16. I still dated and even married a white man. I turned 30 and a beautiful peurto rican man caught my eye. Ever since then I have only dated spanish men. The man that I am totally in love with is spanish. Yes his looks made me attracted to him. The complexion, chisled jaw line, dark hair, and big brown eyes. But his heart is what made me love him. Not what he looked like. It was what was in his soul.

No, I don't think it's hereditary. I think it's just when one got a black man he looked so good that the others was like they want one to. Yall white girls do not be playing wit it though because black women will be alone saying ain't no good black men out here but my white sisters NEVER have a problem finding one. :p I bet yall even wonder sometimes "what are they talking about -- the world is full of them, they just have to get out there and go for it." :p





i was thinking the same thing about the black women saying there is no good black men left !! i have on occasion been cussed out by a black woman for taking "their" men saying thats WHY theres no good ones left for them lol

i have always enjoyed all different types of men i am blind to color or race i see everyone as the same now if only everyone else did i frickin hate ignorance

HesSoHandsome mama you just cracked me up *lol* My baby is Boricua and I'm 100% Irish and ya know what I think, the two of us together is absolutley perfect. I speask Spanish so the language is no prblem either. When we have our kids, not if, WHEN :) They will have the best of BOTH worlds and if some ignorant fool out there has a problem with it well all I gotta say is...
Don't worry bout mines don't worry bout me

It's funny that you said that, but all my family was against it too and I have several cousins that have dated black guys too. But, I think it's just becoming more common in general. I don't think it's that it just runs in the family. There's probably someone in every family that dates outside of their race! But I have thought about that before too and thought it was funny.:)

I don't think it runs in the family but when the family is more open minded about things like this than it happens more often. My grandmother married a black man. My mom is now married to a black man. In two years when my bay gets home I will be married to a black man. My two little sisters are in inter racial relationships, and as far as I can remeber all of my little bro's girlfriends have been black.
Two of my moms brothers ( they are white ) have married black women. And my moms youngest brother and sister are biracial and have been and still are dating black men and women.

I don't really think I agree. My mother has dated people outside of her "race" (though she is 1/2 Puerto Rican). But then all of her children, myself included are extremely attracted to people with darker skin. Maybe it is because we have grown up around all kinds of people, but have gone to school with mostly black people. All I know is that we, as children who look white, know and love the fact that there are different races and though we have a preference, no doors have been shut on any one race. It just so happens that my brother believes black women are queens, and my sister and I....lol we just love our dark men....

. . . But then all of her children, myself included are extremely attracted to people with darker skin. . . . we just love our dark men....
That's very honest Amanda and for that you get full applause from me because honesty is something that everybody can't be. I mean it's just some peoples' nature to lie, and for others, being honest means subjecting yourself to the Judgment Committee waiting to confront and judge a person for feeling the way that they do. So, to avoid the hassles that sometimes come with being honest, sometimes people will just take the easy route and lie.

Like you and the thread starter, when it comes to black [american] men I, too, am attracted to dark skinned [with rough looks]. It's nothing that runs in my family though -- that's just me.

Though many people have preferences, I honestly believe that peoples' preferences and attractions are individual and not family-based. There is such a thing as "jumping on bandwagons -- that, I do believe in, though I am not one to jump on any!!" :D

i never really thought about it, nor do i say hey my name is $%^#%#$5 and i have a black man with a bi-racial child. nor do i know off the top of my head how many of my family memebers date out side our race. it would take me a while and i would have to sit and think about it. when my family gets together its not her and her black man or him and his black woman, its all our family memebers.

Well I dont think it runs in the family. As far as I know, only one other person besides myself has been with a black man. She didnt stay with him though, because our family froud apon it. She now has a mixed child(she got pregnant on accident). Hes excepted and hes now her whole life and the family excepts him and sometimes makes comments(which are about him bein a lil tanner, when Im around I just say hes been in the sun to long thats all....and he just smiles at me and we go on our way)I love the lil boy myself. Hes a babydoll. I know she isnt ashamed. She ended up marrying a white man and as far as I know, Im the only person that has dated a different race in my INTIRE family(besides her, but didnt care about what the family thought) Alot of my family is racist, but alot of the ones that I didnt think would like it, came to know that my booboo is a good person, and treats me the way I should be treated and hes respected for that. There has been a few times where I had to stand my ground with my family and tell them they needed to grow up and it wasnt the 1800's any more and its excepted and they needed to get with the program. No matter what, Im going to do what I want to do, and if that means bein with a man of a different race...so be it...DEAL with it!