Do you feel the need to always make your man's or baby father's race apparent? I have this friend who is dating a Puerto Rican fellah.. They make a cute couple and they are very much in love .. Until the other day when he brought it to my attention i realized that when she is talking even if he is there she makes it a point to throw it in the conversation that she is with a Puerto Rican man..

He stopped her a few days back and said why do you do that.. and she swears up and down she doesnt and he is not just some sort of trophy guy.. Do you know anyone like that or are you like that?

I dont believe i have ever done that cause to me my husband is just that my husband not a color or a race he is my better half..

No - I don't go around saying the race of my husband. When I talk about my husband - I let everyone know that I am married to a wonderful MAN and that he treats me and our kids like we are gold. I hope that your friend realizes what she is doing before its too late.

No - I don't go around saying the race of my husband. When I talk about my husband - I let everyone know that I am married to a wonderful MAN and that he treats me and our kids like we are gold. I hope that your friend realizes what she is doing before its too late.


Yea i do too cause it is driving him insane .. he told her she needs to stop it .. she even brought it up while talking to someone in his family.. And they were caught off guard by it .. I think sometimes she just want ppl to know yea i am dating a guy in another race as if it makes her cool.. I dont know what too say about her

i never do this at all. but people do ask about my children, and i let them know that yes their father is hispanic (because they ask). as far as everything else goes...it's APPARENT that i'm with a non black man because he is as fair skinned as they come LOL.

The only time I have come across this is in the work environment and it made me crazy then. One of the women that used to work at our office would always refer to one of the UPS drivers as "the black UPS guy" but she never said "the white UPS guy." When I called her on it she got upset with me and said she needed to find a way to distinguish between the two. I suggested that she ask him what his name was (Rodney) and go from there. Uh uh - I wasn't her "best friend" in the office ever again after that. It does sound like your friend says it so she can show people how "cool" she is for dating a Puerto Rican man; but she seems to have no idea how uncool that is.

I don't feel the need, but when people start talking to me about black people, I get upset, little do they know my family dynamics. I was at my old apt complex visiting the office, and this man there was talking about how most people r guilty until proven innocent, and the majority of them r black. Of course, I challenged his view, and then he goes (chuckling) to me "you're probably against profiling, hugh?!" Everyone in the office, but this guy, knows my family dynamics, and were waiting for me 2 blow. I kept my cool, its wasn't even worth it. The guy was a joke.

This girl that e is talking about is probably young and feels she needs the attention for some reason or another. When she becomes more mature and less worried about what other people think, she hopefully won't do this any more. My 3rd is half hispanic/white but looks more white than hispanic and i dont go around saying he is this or he is that. All his gold jewerly his dad has on him gives his hispanic side away. I love it-- he is so cute with his gold bracelet and necklace. God Bless

Nobody even knows what race my hubby is until they see our pic :)

U should of seen the face of my Hubbys Boss when he first seen me*LOL*

The only way others find out that hes a different race is when they would see him with me, or see a picture of him/us. I just dont care about that. My booboo is my life. I know people stare, but I think thats only because they are jealous.:D I never have and never will say that Im with a black man or white man or whatever race I might be with. If its someone I want to be with then thats all that matters, and for what other people think...they dont like what they see, then they can look the other way. Im my own person, and I do what I want.