I was looking for support from others who had loved oned in prison, people that could understand the issues involved with loving an incarcerated person. I found all of you, I found PTO. When I knew that I fell for a person that I met while incarcerated I was in huge denial. I would pray everyday for God to let me stop loving him, I didn't want to do this time with him, however I knew that as long as I did love him I would.I didn't want to because I knew it would be hard. I would think of giving up, of giving him up...and on the tail end of that thought...I would see my life without him in it...and I knew that wasn't an option.. God knew what was best for me then, as he always does. At the time I didn't look at loving him as a blessing, not until I read a book by T.D. Jakes entitled The Lady, Her Lover, Her God...I found my answers there, I began to recognize this as the blessing it is. I have learned so much since loving him, things that no matter how bad at the time...became a much bigger blessing in time. Now with my counter reading two days, I remember when I first got it and is read....765!!! Through hard work and perserverance he was able to cut that time by 8 huge months...the time does get smaller, I can vouch for that. For all of you with lots of time left, hang in there there are good things to come for you...for you with small time left, embrace the journey you have been through and the journey ahead...I will always come back to PTO to offer my continued support and encouragement to you all...

Staci

Staci,

Your words were very encouraging. I can truly relate to what you said. When I let go and allowed God to take charge of my relationship w/ my friend, that's when I began to love him.

Thanks for sharing.

Thunder, thank you for the encouragement. I have had many relationships, and more than one marriage. He has never been married and only intends on doing it once. He asked me once: Why do I think this one is "the one"? My reply, the only reply was: Because God was in charge of it, he brought us together, brought us through it and we give all the praise and glory to him for everything we have...his reply...OK...We will marry when he comes home and you are all invited....

Staci

I can completely relate as I was not looking or ready for a relationship when I met Sebastian, it took a lot of patience on his part, soul searching and prayer on mine before I realized I had to quit fighting a relationship I was already in.

Staci ~ it has been great getting to know and share time with you and I hope you will continue to spend time with us once your loved one is home with you, I'll be looking for you in the Now That Your Loved One Is Home forum as well!!!

As one who has experienced the amazing joy of having a man she did not know in the free world come home to her I remind you to expect the unexpected and make each and everyday together count. Thunder will remember a thread in the other forum about how important the trivial and sometimes frustrating times together can become enriching life long memories to savor on and on through time.

I wish you both every happiness in the world, much success and love everlasting.

Much Love & Many Blessings,
Patty

I just wanted to thank u for yer kind encouraging words. I can relate to the long time an the ticker remark because I have several LONG years ahead of me and I still have the frustrating days to deal with. I know if u can do it and have done it then I can too! This is infact the hardest thing I have ever done in my life let alone the fact it takes LOTS of patience. I wish u the best in life and God Bless you and thank u!!!

~Bella~

Very encouraging words! Especially since I "need" them. Thank you. Best Wishes to the both of you.

Thanks for all the positive feedback, I will come back to PTO always, I have met some of my very good friends here. Some actually met in person, some just talking to here in the forums. The time is growing smaller now, I am actually down to counting hours..YAY!!

Staci

I was looking for support from others who had loved oned in prison, people that could understand the issues involved with loving an incarcerated person. I found all of you, I found PTO. When I knew that I fell for a person that I met while incarcerated I was in huge denial. I would pray everyday for God to let me stop loving him, I didn't want to do this time with him, however I knew that as long as I did love him I would.I didn't want to because I knew it would be hard. I would think of giving up, of giving him up...and on the tail end of that thought...I would see my life without him in it...and I knew that wasn't an option.. God knew what was best for me then, as he always does. At the time I didn't look at loving him as a blessing, not until I read a book by T.D. Jakes entitled The Lady, Her Lover, Her God...I found my answers there, I began to recognize this as the blessing it is. I have learned so much since loving him, things that no matter how bad at the time...became a much bigger blessing in time. Now with my counter reading two days, I remember when I first got it and is read....765!!! Through hard work and perserverance he was able to cut that time by 8 huge months...the time does get smaller, I can vouch for that. For all of you with lots of time left, hang in there there are good things to come for you...for you with small time left, embrace the journey you have been through and the journey ahead...I will always come back to PTO to offer my continued support and encouragement to you all...

Staci
My heart and prayers are with you and your loved one! Thanks for the words of encouragement. We probably won't hear back from you for about two weeks :rock: :drool: :dance: :fb: (IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN) But best wishes to you and good luck with everything. The wait is over Sweetie! ENJOY

Thanks for the encouragement and I wish you to all the luck and eventhough we all go through hard times we can not give up because anything worth waiting for is also worth working on. So good luck and I will keep you guys in my prayers......