Hey everybody....this is just my opinion on IR. I don't see why IR is any different from any other relationship. I don't love my man "because" he's black. I love him for who he is, and the fact that he happens to be black has no bearing on how I feel about him. I know some people have a specific preference but for me it is and will always be the man on the inside not the color on the outside.

I agree that it isn't about "color" it is about culture. I am white and he is black, there have been some things that have come up, not about what color we are but what culture we were raised in...a couple of examples and please this isn't to offend anyone just some of our own quirks...he says that cottage cheese and yogurt is white people food. He also told me that he thinks that eating fish and spagetti at the same meal on the same plate is normal, I say that is black people food...just things like that that come up...there are differences in all of us, it isn't about color unless we make it...
just my thought.
Staci

You are right snowbabydavis, I have found our differences to more cultural than color. Thanks for the point.

I think most people would agree it's not about color but who the person is and the culture. Personally I am more attracted to black men cause of their physical features but when I meet a person I'm not most concerned about their appearance but who they are inside and when it comes to the relationship, color rarely comes up but how we were raised and our backgrounds is what most comes out and that's what we most love about each other all of our differences and similarities.

For those of us who are in an IR relationshp we dont never see color as an issue. We only see the color of love.. What that person brings to our lives and not what others may see.. IR relationships deal with ignorance some more than others and there are many who have never had to deal with it.. We depend on our love to get thru situations like that ..

As i do agree it is not any different than any other to us but we are all open minded and we love with our hearts and not just our eyes ..

Color has never been an issue for us, nor will it ever be. Yes - we have different ways of doing things, but you do that with anyone regardless of color.

I agree w/ all the comments previously stated. I think it is evident that some people outside of our relationships "looking in" ~if you will, like to stir up the pot. My husband always reminds me that people hate what they do not know or understand. Jealousy could be an issue, but so could everything else. My question is, do some of these threads seem like people are trying to stir the pot???? To me they do, and I'm amazed that people respond. As long as I am happy in my own skin, I try to ignore everything else. Sometimes that is hard 2 do. It is always going to be a struggle, as long as we allow it to B one.

For those in an IR color is not an issue... I see no color when I look at my grandkids, I only see my grandkids. But at the same time, my grandson who is blonde and blue eyed gets eyebrows raised at his obviously Hispanic last name, and when standing next to his brother who is dark eyed and dark haired someone always asks "who's adopted?"

The way I look at things is its not about those who are in an IR and don't see color...its about the ignorance of others who do.

True love sees no color. People in IR do go thru different issues. My situation was mainly family and showing them that it did not matter to me. Here in the south (G.A) where the prisons are way south, you get a different vibe. Racism still exists unfortunately.

Love does not have a color. Just like Sherry1 put it: Trues love sees no color. I second that. If you are proud and comfortable with your self then all the things that people do and say to hurt our relationships wouldn't matter or even affect you. I've been in IR's for 13 years and all the negative remarks have made me a stronger person. Good Luck to all of us!!!

. . . My husband always reminds me that people hate what they do not know or understand.
That is the truth right there -- I always say the same thing, and, like you, it is enough to make you believe it's not much more than basic jealousy.