I sometimes look through the pen pal sites cause its interesting to see and read about people. I also feel that I would like to bring a smile to someones face by sending them a postcard or letter to let them know that someone has thought of them. I even met a really good friend through a site and he is a great person. There are so many to choose from. My question is what made you choose that certain person? What just made you say I'm gonna reach out to this person?

I cant explain why I chose him. I looked through hundreds of ads, not intending to write anyone, but I saw his ad, and I just HAD to write. I to this day dont know why, I suppose it was fate.

When i decided to have some penpal, it was inprotant to me that they were only looking for friendship, since i was in a relationship at the time.
For the life of me, i really cant remember what EXACTLY it was that made me decide to write to my honey. Him looking for just friendship was the main thing of course, but i think it was the way he worded his ad... i knew that i would be able to conversate with him and keep the 'friendship' going for however long it would be til he came home, if at all!

I met my bf of a site as well. I write an inmate on Texas death row and have for years. He told me about a new ad he had put up on another site and wanted me to check it out. Well, I came across my mans profile and had the feeling that I "HAD" to write him. His look, the way he wrote, everything about him made me feel like we would have an amazing connection. Which we did...4 years later and we are going strong!!!

I have never written to anyone in prison that I didn't know before that day Sebastian accidently called me but I just wanted to stop in and say I have so much respect for people that take time out of their busy lives to write to someone they don't know. It makes the planet seem a better place to be on because of you...

Respectfully,
Patty

I went thru adds looking to see who was husband material. When i wrote Ike i wrote like 10 people that day and the one that i really wanted to write me was ike. His pen pal add is still posted cause i have not had it taken down. but he gets mail from some woman and gives them to his buddys. That need someone. i Seen Ike i wanted him and kept on him tell i got him now we are engaged to be married. He first wrote me he told me that he would never disapoint me and tell this day he has not.

I chose to write Tommy because after reading his advertisement I just felt a connection of some kind. Bare in mind I know I didn't know him but it was the words of him saying he just wanted to meet ppl that he could become friends with and he wasnt into the whole asking for $ bit etc. I could feel sincerity thru his words and I wanted to take a chance and infact see if they were true. Besides in the pic I seen with his ad I couldn't stop drooling!!!

~Bella~

I started to write to my man becasue I was cheated on by my x-finacee after 7 years with another women. So I thought if I wrote to someone in prison I couldnt get hurt that way. I went into a penpal site and the first one I saw was him and checked out others but he was still in my mind. So I wrote him a letter and he answered and for the past 5 years we have been together. He has never lied to me or cheated or asked for anything. It was like an angel bringing us both together. I love him and he has made my life something to look forward to, he has helped me as much as I am helping him.

I rememeber the first time I saw his ad and I thought that he met the qualifications for someone I would consider writing to. I was nervous, so I wanted someone with a longer sentence, far away (that bit me in the @ss!). His ad made it sound like he was looking for a relationship though so I decided not to write him. Then I went through the 'Prisoner's Not Receiving Mail Page' and there he was again! I noticed he was convicted when he was 17 which made my heart go out to him more and decided to write but make it explicitly clear that I was only looking for friendship.

Well it turns out he was on the 'Prisoner's Not Receiving Mail Page' by mistake *he was removed the next day* and that he wasn't looking for a relationship, but his aunt had written the ad. Talk about fate.

Wow this funny cause Tommy's aunt had written and paid for his ad as well!! This is a small world!

~Bella~

The reason why I asked this question is because I have been browsing the pen pal sites lately because I wanted to mail some postcards to people. And there are so many to choose from but the ones that really stick out are all in the words. Some of them you can tell they are just trying to run game but others are sincerly just needing friends. I have a pen pal that I met through a site a while ago and on his page he didn't really say much about himself but wrote a couple of memories that he had as a child or teenager and they kind of showed what kind of person he is. I would also like to say that it takes special people to write an inmate because most people wouldn't even give them the time of day.

I chose four death row inmates to write to (in four different states), because some of their ads said that they had lost their support systems, after being gone for so many years. I just wanted to try to make a difference in someone's life, who was in a difficult situation.

One day, I came across a totally different penpal site, and began looking through the ads. I really wasn't looking for another penpal, but I stumbled upon this one ad in particular. I couldn't get that face out of my mind ... plus, we had so much in common! So I printed the ad out, and looked at it for a few days before actually writing. I didn't even expect him to write me back. I don't know why, maybe because he was cute! LOL

Anyway, he did write, and after exchanging letters for about six months, he asked me if I would be his girl (now that's funny, because we're both "forty-something"). We've been a couple, for almost a year now (who would've thought). Since he gets out next year, we're gonna give it a try.

I've been thinking of writing to a US prisoner for years...just took me this long to do it. Trawled thru some sites, looked at a thousand faces, and then just saw this guys picture!! Read the profile...and the rest is history.. so much in common!! Was going to write to a death row prisoner, in hindsight I'm glad I didn't. How the hell do y'all cope with it??? you guys must be so strong!! Anyway, it's the best thing I've done in a long time.... my heart is full.

While searching through pen pal ads, I was up to the letter G and I came across my Baby's picture. The first thing I noticed was that he was fine! So I read on. Then I read how he was looking for a friend and that he wasn't looking for anyone to financially support him. Which was good for me because I wasn't looking to be financially supportive:haha:. He said that he has a loving family and that hooked me, right there. I am a family oriented person and when a man says that his family is important to him, that really stands out to me. Come to find out, his sister put the ad in for him but it's all good. I now love him and his family with all my heart!:love:

i too found him on a pen pal site we have been together now for 5 years i am in contact with his family i have found a very good kind man i could not be happier

2 years ago I had 35 pen pals and a job that allowed me to have the time to write to them all. Kevin is in the same place as my nephew and when he and I started writing and then talking I just knew. When I told my other pals, they pretty much stopped writing to me. I met them all through pen pal sites and just the content of the ads is what made me choose. Out of the 35 only one asked for money and a bank account set up for him.

Ike told me i would never be disapointed. i haven't been so far we have had a few struggles do to his babys momma but we are ok now.

I met a man in prison recently, and i am in love with him. He is from North Carolina, and I am from Maryland. The dilemia is that he want to get married, i would love to marry him. Should i be worried about the fact that i have never been with this guy in the "free world". I really love him:(

Hi,

Great thread...

Actually my story is a little on the wierd side...this particular pen pal site, lists inmates, as "new ads" and also by alphabet, state, and so on, anyway, I would always look in the new ads and there i saw my bf's ad which caught my attention right away. Well I didn't decide to write to him at that moment, a couple weeks later i went back to the website.

And there he was again in the new ads section, I was like "what the &*^%" lol anyway, when I looked at his ad it wasn't new at all, it was actually going to expire a couple of months after that! :eek: So I've always thought that it was kind of like destiny.

And I am so grateful that I went back to look and that I found him and that i wrote to him, I love him now! :o

Rebeca

I sometimes look through the pen pal sites cause its interesting to see and read about people. I also feel that I would like to bring a smile to someones face by sending them a postcard or letter to let them know that someone has thought of them. I even met a really good friend through a site and he is a great person. There are so many to choose from. My question is what made you choose that certain person? What just made you say I'm gonna reach out to this person?

Get this, I have pen pals and was looking thru ads, not for love just to write and I wrote this guy, well the guy had met someone and got engaged. My Man was walking past his cell and the guy said "hey this girl wrote me and seems nice but I got engaged and all maybe you would like to write her" so he gave my husband my letter and he wrote me, that was April 2003, we met October 2004 face to face and now we are married as of December 2005. I was not looking for romance either. we started liking each other even before we met face to face.

I didnt go looking for an inmate to write. I was on the internet in a game room, with this person in there with the screen name "prisonpenpals". My curiosity got the best of me, and I clicked her name and she had a link to a prison pen pal site. I was browsing all these ads, but this one just stuck out. I kept going back to it several times. He has a biracial child and was in the state of Calif. Which I relate to both of these. After browsing several more ads, I decided to drop this man a few lines. He wrote back, and we started a friendship. I dont know what it was that got me there that day, other than FATE!!

I can't really explain what made me chose him, I think back on that all the time and be like I knew it had to be the work of god, that allowed me to pick this one special person out of so many, and I wasn't even looking to fall in love just to have a special friend.

I didn't actually 'choose' Tony to write to, that choice was made for me. For several months I'd seen an advert in my Amnesty International magazine from an organization that befriended those on Death Row. They were looking for people to write to those who had nobody else. The ad just kept jumping out at me so, because I felt I could maybe make a difference to someone's life, I wrote. Tony had written to them at around the same time and I was sent his name, address and number. The rest is history, although I no longer belong to the organization because they frown on their writers actually getting romantically involved with the inmates they write to. Shame that!!

Rose

For one my man is such a cutie, but besides that he has such a wonderful personality, although I choose him because of his looks, once I got to know him his looks didn't even matter, it was all about the person and now when my girlfriends see his pic, they are so into his looks, but thats the last thing that intrest me now, but it was the first thing when we met

I used to write a death row inmate years ago who since was executed. now and than i check out websites related to death row and came upon penpal requests, not only death row. i must admit i looked at the pictures first, call me shallow but could not write so someone unattractive. in addition his request is what i would say too. this only stared 6 weeks ago and must admit very worried about the emotionalal rollercoaster as done it b4 and still miss by executed friend alot. of course we all worry that we are getting told a load of bull, especially us writing to us inmates from europe. i just hope that writing to these poor souls locked up 4ever, mine has life without parole, that we give them something to look forward too and an escape from their concrete walls. a warning if you are writing to a death row inmate it will eventually hurt, mind you so is l w p, we are never going to know them on the outside or in our overseas cases may never get to hear their voices.

what a cute question and what cute responses :)

I searched through every ad from the state of Illinois that was on the site I got his info from. I immediately tossed some out because they did not appeal to me and I came up with a list of top 10. His ad was number 1 because of what he said, his photos and his looks. His height was a reason I did not write him when I first saw it. But his ad kept popping up in my mind and I couldn't get him out of my head. So I wrote to him and he wrote back within 5 days and it's now been a year.

I'll try to get the link for his ad and post it here, but the first line in his ad, happens to be from my favorite movie "A Bronx Tale". Which is also one of his favorite movies.

Here is the google cache link for his ad:

http://72.14.203.104/search?q=cache:m6iPeHX0zeIJ:writeaprisoner.com/template.asp%3Fi%3Dz-b15407+b15407&hl=en&gl=us&ct=clnk&cd=19&ie=UTF-8

I decided to write Maurice cause he was so fine in the picture, I never thought that I would l fall in love with this man, he is everything that I ever needed and wanted, it's crazy..but it was because he had a beautiful body and a beautiful picture..I just wanted to get to know him and possibly bring some happiness to him..boy did I get and give more then I ever planned for..but it's a great thing!!

I also have 2 penpals and I write them, I have gained true friendship with them..it was there pictures and there letter on the site that attracted me to them, but I advised them from the jump that this was a friendship, and that I had a man in my life, I have always been honest with my penpals pertaining to Maurice..
Hugs Shay

U know I been thinking about writing to a DR inmate.I've read some ads from them and man they sound so sincere. I only got one other penpal and then I have my baby!!!!

~Bella~

Kevin and I talked about this Sunday. Why I chose him... Well, I was in a chat room and a screen name said prisonpenpals. I clicked on the link and found the site. My idea was just to bring a smile to someones face as I was in that same situation long ago. I know how lonely and desolate it can be in jail. I looked at pictures some but my monitor was actually going out so I could only see a bit of what everyone looked like. I chose Kevin because he was fairly close by (if in fact someday we wanted to visit), he was close to my age, he was a black male (because I have bi-racial children and usually date black men) and the words he wrote sounded intelligent, caring and kind. He wasn't desperate for a female but wanted to make a friend. We started writing and BAM fate handed me my soul mate.

i met my man through a pen pal site over a year ago. he was just transferred to Allenwood and we were to be married. i was doing so research and found out the he has 4 other women and we are all in diffrent states. 2 of them he is to be marrying.

our whole relationship was a lie. funny tho i really never did send him a lot of money only 3 times in a year and half.

beware ladies of the pen pal playas

LadyBear2 ~ I guess playas come in all varieties even the pen pal kind. I'm sorry this happened to you and hope you feel better soon.

Hugggz,
Patty

I chose my (now man!!!) ad because he seemed so honest and sincere. Something about him just stood out to me and tugged at my soul. We were friends for almost seven months before things turned in another direction. I love this man and believe that everything happens for a reason. No one ever knows how they'll meet the love of their life.

LadyBear2 ~ I guess playas come in all varieties even the pen pal kind. I'm sorry this happened to you and hope you feel better soon.

Hugggz,
Patty


thanks patty

yes playas come in all varieties...lol

LadyBear2 ~ I guess playas come in all varieties even the pen pal kind. I'm sorry this happened to you and hope you feel better soon.

Hugggz,
Patty


you are so right gurl....

I was searching through ads and I was looking for a lifer because I couldnt face having a friendship with a DR and having to face his execution possibly one day. I have never been involved with the prison system until my son decided to go in lol. so im searching through the ads and his ad just stayed on my mind. i saved his ad in my favs and kept searching but i would always end up back at his. Later on I found out he wrote his own ad but his mother was the one that had to talk him into it and she placed it on there for him. It took me over a month to finally hang it up and write him because i always went back to his ad. his picture wasnt bad on the eyes either lol. got to thank his mom for placing that ad one day. since then his ad has been removed per his request. thank goodness i saved his picture before they removed it. its now my wallpaper lol

I Actually Accidentally Came Upon The Website So I Got Curious. After About 10 Min I Saw This Gorgeous Man And His Words Were So Deep Yet He Added Humor To His Page Which I Loved. I Was Nervous To Write To Him I Didnt Know What To Expect. But When I Finally Did Get A Letter It Was No Lie 23 Pages Long!!!! It Was Like A Book. From That Day On I Write Him Every Other Day Because If He Can Write That Much So Can I :)

Its crazy, i was looking at a site because i had an ex that was listed in there before and i wanted to see if that losers ad was still up(can we say LOSER:eek: ). So i was looking around and i came to this add, it was FROGGYS add. Frist thing i thought was that hes was FINE, but then when i took a really good look at the add i noitced that he looked really, really sad. His eyes were droopy, so sad looking and when i read what he had to say and keep looking at his photo, i started touching the screen. I know it sounds werid but it was almost like i was peting him. I didnt think anything would come of it because i live in california and hes in Illinois, but here i am, 5 years later and loving it. It was a great day.

Well THAT has cheered me up lol
Without trust tho - there is nothing - and if i turn out to be a FOOL - then i would rather be a 'fool' for Bill , than 'sane' for someone else !

I wrote a couple pen pals but there was something that connected with us unlike the others. I picked my pals because they weren't asking for money or anything like that. And there was something about his ad that reached out to me.

. . . beware ladies of the pen pal playas
Wow girl, talk about a real piece of work -- this man was workin overtime!! But yeah, the playas are out there. The only difference being the ones in society talk anything to get what they want and the ones on the inside write anything to get what they want.

I was bored at work (like now) and was just messing on the computer. came accross this web site and seen my husband and thought "he must really think hes all that" So I did click and put my info but after my lunch break I said Nah what if hes some Murderer. (smile) so I went back to try to retrieve my name and stuff and nothing happened. Well I never went back on the website but about 3 weeks later I get a letter from my husband (then freind) and I was beyond nervouse. I looked at that letter for one entire month and finally I went ahead and wrote him. We always speak of this and the reason he says he wrote to me was cause all I wrote was my name and he got my message twice. Go figure, when I thought I was retrieving it I actually sent it in twice. He said the same thing I did "she must think she got it like that just sending her name and address" He's too silly.

I MET MY HUSBAND ON A PEN PAL WEBSITE... I WAS ACTUALLY WRITING TO SEVERAL OTHER PEOPLE AND FOR SOME REASON, MY HUSBAND CAUGHT MY EYE. NOW IF YOU WERE TO ASK ME 5 YEARS AGO IF I WOULD BE MARRY TO A MAN IN PRISON I WOULD OF TOLD YOU NO. BUT WITH HIM, WE CONNECTED ON A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT LEVEL THEN I DID WITH MY OTHER PEN PALS.


WE HAD BOTH DECIDED THAT IT WAS BEST TO KEEP OUR RELATIONSHIP JUST FRIENDS DUE TO HIS CURRENT SITUATION AND ME NOT WANTING TO GET INVOLVED WITH ANYONE. BUT I GUESS THE FEELINGS BECAME TO GREAT AND WE GAVE IN. I MET MY HUSBAND IN DEC. 2003.... AND JUST THIS PAST MARCH WE WERE MARRIED BY PROXY.


WHO SAYS YOU CAN'T FIND LOVE IN THE SYSTEM.... I KNOW I DID....

I have met 13 pen pals through a pen pal site.... there has been one. I swore i wouldnt write to someone in the same state because I didnt want to do visits or phone calls and I said I wouldnt write to anyone with a blank ad cause I want an idea who i am writing to but I went out on a whim one day and I wrote a guy who's hometown is only 40 miles from me he is incarcerated 3 hours from me. I have gone to visit once, write him daily and he calls as often as he can. We have had a major connection.

Unlike many, I specifically went to a pen pal site to find a wife. I had tried the other "normal" pen pal sites. The ratio was about 1 woman:10 men (possibly more). If a man ever makes the cut, he still has to compete with the half-dozen guys that she's selected to write.

One day searching for new sites I came across a prison pen pal site, and thought, "Why not? I'm not having any luck right now." That's how I met my lady.

A lot of the ads from lady prisoners said things like they liked riding horses or jumping out of airplanes, stuff I couldn't relate to. My lady's ad said something like, "When I get out, I just want a good man and want to lie on the couch and watch movies." I thought, now that's a real woman.

On a normal pen pal (dating) site, the competition is intense, so I thought it'd be that way with a prison pen pal site. I was stunned when all four of the ladies who I wrote answered my letter. I didn't feel lucky that I had four women to pick from. I felt so sad for these poor women with no one to love them. My lady was the last to write and I had initially written her off. But I remembered that ad about lying on the couch and watching movies.

The first person I met/date I had from a "normal" pen pal site, the woman let me take her out to dinner, spent the whole date talking about herself, and then dumped all over me at the end. My lady in prison treats me with the utmost respect. People outside want to know why I don't want a "normal" relationship. I think the choice is obvious.

My lady in prison treats me with the utmost respect. People outside want to know why I don't want a "normal" relationship. I think the choice is obvious.

Amen!

I met my man from the same screen name, which took me to the link, where I found my penpal, which became my man. I wonder how many other couples have been brought together by "prisonpenpals"!!Kevin and I talked about this Sunday. Why I chose him... Well, I was in a chat room and a screen name said prisonpenpals. I clicked on the link and found the site. My idea was just to bring a smile to someones face as I was in that same situation long ago. I know how lonely and desolate it can be in jail. I looked at pictures some but my monitor was actually going out so I could only see a bit of what everyone looked like. I chose Kevin because he was fairly close by (if in fact someday we wanted to visit), he was close to my age, he was a black male (because I have bi-racial children and usually date black men) and the words he wrote sounded intelligent, caring and kind. He wasn't desperate for a female but wanted to make a friend. We started writing and BAM fate handed me my soul mate.

I met my man three years ago from prisonpenpal site..i was only looking for a penpal because i was already involved with someone t hat was locked up. he was not looking for a relationship so i thought that would be great..well, we wrote, and then he started calling me...i couldnt ever visit him..family only...i tried kicking him to the curb..but could never do it..he became a really good friend, even though i denied it for a long time..but he was always there when i needed someone to vent to or just cry out to..well, my now ex that i walked out on, we had split up for a few months and my current man and i got together..he still was not in a place to be in a relationship, but i went to go see him, i went just about everyday because i worked right around the corner from the prison..we went our separate ways, but eventually he would start calling again...i got back together with my ex..things were going good until that night of may 10 and i left the visit...have not talked to him since..so i am with my good friend which i can honestly he is my BEST friend..he treats me like a queen..he calls everyday whether i am home or not....but when we first met face to face it was hard because it was behind glass..just the other week we met face to face with contact..he said in a letter that it took us three years to kiss we surely can wait another 2 to make love....

I wrote to my first pen pal, chose him because he kept saying that he was an honest person. This after looking at hundreds of ads. Goes to show you can't believe evrything you are told.

I wrote to my first pen pal, chose him because he kept saying that he was an honest person. This after looking at hundreds of ads. Goes to show you can't believe evrything you are told.

You really have to watch out for the ones who *tell* you they're honest, both in prison and out of it. If he really is an honest person it won't occur to him to say so.

That reminds me of a debacle I witnessed on a penpal site ... this guy who had an ad went on and on and on about how he wanted to find one special woman and how faithful and devoted he would be, blah blah blah ... and TWO different times girls found out he had multiple concurrent relationships going on and he was feeding them all the same lines, let's get married when I'm out, I love you so much, more blah blah blah. >:-) Some of the girls were making preparations to MOVE ! Others were making preparations for him to be released to their homes. What a mess. I think the guy's ad is still up ... I wanted to check but looks like the entire site is down.

Sounds like what I swallowed only to find out that he had several of us on the string. Telling us all the same BS. He had women in England, Finland and the US. LOL
Wow was I ever dumb.....

I found my man by sheer fate. I had ventured onto a web page and there was so much choice that I decided to seek out a pen pal with my eyes shut...LITERALLY! :)
So, there was me, eyes shut tight, moving the mouse around. I clicked it and I was in a State in the US. I scrolled down and there he was, looking right at me. His photo grabbed my attention initially, what a man! :dance: And then what he had written kept me there.
Now he is the love of my life. :heart:
It's amazing what life throws your way!

I searched through lots of ads... but i kept coming back to his ad. so i decided it must be a sign, so i wrote to him.... it's been over a year we been writing.... it's the best decision i've ever made! :yay:

i also met mine on pen pal site we have been together for 5 years 7 months its the best decision ive made

I'm not sure where I even got the idea to look at a pen pal site. I really had no formula to what I sought. I just knew that I would like to coorespond with someone who was genuine, and that I might be able to make a little bit of a difference in thier life. I had no idea what site was better than another, I just clicked on a link.

I had thought it would make sense to find someone in the women's facility in Chowchilla California since I live about a half hour from there. That way if a genuine friendship or something more progressed I could actually visit. But the site I was on did not have a search engine and only organized by name. So I just started at A and started clicking on ads.

I had found a few possibilities, but nothing that really jumped out at me, and I thought maybe this was not a great idea. I could see scam written all over quite a few of them. That was until I got to the S's and saw this big beautiful smile. The only problem was that she was in Texas.

The picture was dark and grainy, her facial features could not really even be made out, but that wasn't really important to me. That brilliant smile did cut right through that picture though and on it's own prompted me to read further.

She spoke of simple pleasures that she used to take for granted that she desires the most now. She said how lonely it is on the inside and how she had a very small circle of friends and family and was pretty much alone in the world, and that she really was in need of someone who would take the time to really get to know her. I knew immediately I was just the kind of person she needed, regardless of how far away she was.

I have never regreted for a moment sending that first letter. I have found her to be intelligent, thoughtful, introspective, and determined. She has spent 14 years inside, and has fully come to terms with who she was, is, and wants to be. Her attitude is astonishingly good, especially considering that she has spent 40% of her life inside. A lot better than mine.

She posts inspirational quotes from a book I sent her in the day room because she wants the other women to find strength in them like she has. She wants to help young women when she gets released, so that they do not make the same mistakes that she did.

Here I thought that I would be the one making the difference in her life, and here she is every week inspiring me in mine. I never would have imagined that would be the case. She is up for parole in early 08', and I hope and pray that she is given a new lease on life.

I think sometimes the good Lord puts people together to help them grow, no matter how unlikely the scenario. I believe that has happened with us.

Wow I could have sworn I posted here before ...guess NOT here goes: my soon to be ex husband and I were looking to start our own penpal site for Muslim since we are Muslim and my ex was incarcerated for 10 years (married me and walked out on me in a month) he and knew many men who wanted penpals..We were looking to see how its set up ..One of the first ones was SOLDADO I could only see the side of his face..he was Muslim and I wouldnt stop looking I would go back..Finally I wrote and the rest is history...Weve been together for 4 happy happy months..Im truely in love Chicas..Guess I'll have to thank the EX hahaha

I too met my baby on a prison pen pal sight...over 3 years ago.Only thing that sucks is that he is a lifer however I made it clear to him I am not going anywhere. I beleive he is my soul mate and if he wouldn't have caught his case I would have never met him. Anyone else here involved with a lifer? I know I make his life brighter as he does mine . Yes it is hard sometimes and I guess thats why im here so I do not feel so alone.

I won't lie, like I told her, it was purely based on looks as if we'd met in the real world. After getting to know each other through mail I was amazed at how perfectly matched we were or should I say are!

I know choosing a person based simply on looks is shallow but hey, I'm a guy :-)

She calls it "Fate" maybe she's right, who knows!

I was doing research for a paper and an ad at the top was for a pen pal website. I don't know why I clicked on the website. I browsed for inmates around my age and found my pen pal. My friend's ad was different from the others. I was definitely drawn by his words.

I think I may have found her, we have written a few letters, she gets out in about a year, she is doing 15yrs, any ideas on how I can make her more comfortable with re-entry?

i started writing some one because my best friends husband went to jail and we wanted to do something together so we found me a pen pal from a site. i think it was the best thing my best friend has ever gotten me to do. i chose him cause when i saw his add a light bulb just went off in my stomach. then my best friend approved of writing to him so i knew i couldnt be totally crazy. i always have to say that you should trust your gut.

looking back i have no regrets even though it is so hard to be away from someone whom you have never met. when i first started writing penpals i wrote to the ones that were on death row because i was scared i have had nothing but wonderful letters and i have met so many nice guys people think i am crazy but this is something that i enjoy doing the guy i am inlove with now is in tx he was on death row and got moved down to life because he was 17 the time of the murders out of all the people i have written to he is the hardest which makes me reach out to him more i guess he is a great person no matter what mistakes he has made and he means so much to me i would recommend anyone to write to a prisoner it makes a difference in their life

i agree totally u have to be careful because alot of them do rungame i have been writing to prisoners for about a year and i would say i have written to at least 50 and out of that there has been about 10 good ones so be careful

I cant explain why I chose him. I looked through hundreds of ads, not intending to write anyone, but I saw his ad, and I just HAD to write. I to this day dont know why, I suppose it was fate.


this works for me! lol i d k. i forgot which pen pal site i did see my solmate
on i think friendsbeyondthewall or something else not sure anymore but i do know i got at him for him not talking about ladies this and how he a player with women or how he want a BUNCH of ladies, many to write to him, he was not like that at saying this bull crap.

he want a woman who can love him for him not for him lookin good body face etc money cars etc. just for HIM and can overlook his bad past of robbing stealing drugging drinking too much etc....

and i was loving ads like that and not too many were like his.:thumbsup:i do believe it was fate because of how he worded that profile web ad.

i myself love to browse through the penpal websites and read about all fo them and their crimes i guess for me it was the words in the ad that made me connect with him he is a great person

his smile and his outlook on life.As soon as I saw is picture and read his ad I knew HE was the one.

I knew he was the one when I saw his pictuer and read his ad. His smile made me nelt.

I found him on a penpal site but got there by mistake I had to big of a curser on my mouse and it hit the wrong link... didn't pick him out really his ad came up two times without me going after it while I was linking thought the ads and some how I printed it out had a new printer... they were all just babies on there with so many years ahead of them I did notice his as at least he was older then I am and his picture wasn;t that bad either but didn't even think about writing him... then about 3 weeks after going on that site a stack fell over and there he was on the top of what was left, I said so you want me to write you do you.... I pulled him up online, the weird thing about that is that I have never been able to pull him up online the same way and get his DOC page,:eek: but what he had done in his life I could live with so I wrote him.. Something else about that ad is his ad was more then a year outdated and should not have even been on the site at all. I was meant to find him is the way I figure it.:D

I agree with Liberal Bear - things happen for a reason and sometimes you can really tell after a few letters if you have that special connection with someone

:)

I read tons of ads before selecting. One guy's ad I remember saying a letter was like a handshake or a warm embrace & his birthday (listed on the site) was in a couple of weeks. He seemed sad, so I thought, oh why not write him & tell him happy birthday! I ended up getting impatient waiting for a reply, so I wrote a couple of others whose ads moved me. By the time all was said & done, I was getting letters all the time & they all sounded the same. Then one day, I couldn't remember what my pp looked like, (not remembering which website I found him on) I googled his name. Now I knew he was a bank robber, but I had no idea how famous he was! I actually learned through that search that he was written about in a book. Subsequently, I informed him (he didn't know) & of course ordered both of us the book. He was a real cool guy, but as I said of all the letters I got, they all sounded alike. Plus, I had some liars in the bunch!

So through reading this book, (written by an ex-FBI agent) I read about this other guy...he just sounded like more of the type of person I was lookin to talk to - honorable, just caught up in some mess. I had no idea what he looked like or anything, but even the author had the utmost respect for the guy. It seemed his core values were intact. So I looked up his name online, got his address & wrote him. (I figured he wouldn't lie, he wasn't lookin for a pp anyhow :p) It's weird, I would never do something like that, but something compelled me to write him & the rest as they say is history...

Well, for my part i didn't even know we could write to inmates. ( here in France it's forbidden ).
So i checked different websites and found 7 inmates I wanted to write to.I wanted to be sure at least one will be okay to built a friendship. I was really impressed when I saw 6 out of 7 answered me and were glad I wrote them..
And as I like all " prison stuff" (books, stories, etc) I thought it could be interesting to write to incarcerated people and make someone's day just by sending a card or little message of hope.

It sure is really hard to choose.
I wanted someone close to my age ( between 20 and 25 ) and someone not incarcerated for murder or sex offense cause it's something that would have been hard for me to deal with. I also wanted men looking for friendship only.So I wrote to them cause i felt a feeling and common things between us.
We never know but these were /are my 3 criterias...
It's such a wonderful thing to maje someone's day and they actually make some of mines !
Good luck and just follow your heart ..;the most important is to write to somebody you "feel confortable" with:)