I just wanted to tell you all about a book that I have read that explains all the questions about slavery, racism, etc. It is written by a black minister and based on bible facts. He tells the story of his own racism toward whites and how he overcame it all. I am white and my boyfriend is black. He doesn't want to but I plan on him reading this book. I want him to for the simple fact that it will answer a whole lot of questions and bottom line, make him feel better about who he is. I was already proud of him but after reading this book I got even more proud. :) For instance, this book tell such facts as black heritage doesn't start in the jungles of Africa. Black heritage starts in Egypt and Ethiopia. You guys just need to read it for yourself. You will be glad that you did. The name of the book is -- No Apology Necessary-- by Rev. Earl Carter. You can find it on Amazon for less than $9.00.

I just wanted to tell you all about a book that I have read that explains all the questions about slavery, racism, etc. It is written by a black minister and based on bible facts. He tells the story of his own racism toward whites and how he overcame it all. I am white and my boyfriend is black. He doesn't want to but I plan on him reading this book. I want him to for the simple fact that it will answer a whole lot of questions and bottom line, make him feel better about who he is. I was already proud of him but after reading this book I got even more proud. :) For instance, this book tell such facts as black heritage doesn't start in the jungles of Africa. Black heritage starts in Egypt and Ethiopia. You guys just need to read it for yourself. You will be glad that you did. The name of the book is -- No Apology Necessary-- by Rev. Earl Carter. You can find it on Amazon for less than $9.00.

Maybe I shouldn't post because I get really sensitive about some of these topics but I have to as I have a question...

How does reading this book make your black boyfriend feel better about who he is??

Peace and blessings...

. . . He doesn't want to but I plan on him reading this book.
My husband would feel the same. He won't even watch slave programs on TV with me -- he will leave the room. The material educates, no doubt, and like me, he's no racist against whites. His thing is he just can't take looking at or reading about the hatred behind slavery, a hatred that thank God has gotten better over the years but will still live on until the end of time. It's just too painful for him. So if your husband says leave it alone and you push for him to read it anyway, don't get upset if he's insistent on not wanting to read it.

Thanks for informing us about the book.

I agree, my boyfriend doesn't like to hear or talk about the slavery issue either. I can understand that in a way but I can't say I understand it completely because I am not black. I mentioned Black History Month to him last week and obviously the concept of black history sort of offends him. He's said there shouldn't be Black History, only history. I agree. Still, we all know that there is still a great deal of hurt and pain over slavery. It is like he says though, black people aren't the only ones to have ever been slaves. Something I didn't know, it was black people who enslaved the Jews in Egypt for 400 years. I learned so much from this book (No Apology Necessary). Parts made me scratch my head and parts made my jaw drop but now Iunderstand. The reason I said that I know it will make my boyfriend feel better about himself is the way black people have been treated. After years and years of oppression it is time that black people AND white people (all people) know just who black people are. We all know that back in the day blacks were thought of as dumb, ignorant, and good for nothing but serving other people. Most people don't know that the black race didn't originate from the bush of Africa as they have been portrayed. They originated from Egypt and Ethiopia and ARE the descendents of kings and pharaos, and as the book says - trailblazers in sciences, medicine, architecture, writing, etc. In his introduction Rev. Carter says --- No white man could write this book. It's dangerous enough for a black man to say these things, let alone a white man. This book is what I call skandalizo, it will offend you. It will offend your mind, your emotions, and your habits of thinking. But it will heal your heart. ---That is why I see this book as so important. After reading it I agree with Rev. Carter, I think it will heal hearts - black and white. If it was just another book about slavery or just somebody's opinion it would just be that, another book.

Jennn,

Do you know for a fact that your boyfriend does not feel good about his heritage or himself? I think that if he doesn't want to read it then you might want to let it be just imo sometimes things should be left alone until that person is ready and if they feel there is nothing wrong and they are happy with themselves then let well enough alone before you make a situation that wasn't bad, bad.

Hope that made sense. Anyways, good luck!

I just found the book for $6.50 on half.com and ordered it. I will read it because I think I can always further my education about any topic. Once I have read it I will be happy to come back to this thread and offer my thoughts on the book.

. . . I mentioned Black History Month to him last week and obviously the concept of black history sort of offends him. He's said there shouldn't be Black History, only history. I agree.
You can let him know that the only reason there is a Black History Month is because whites knew our history but they did not supply that history in the schools textbooks. Out of a whole pie, they only allowed a slice or two of the pie to be printed.

So I guess the Black History month came about to give recognition to let people know we got short-changed with what we learnt in social studies and history classes in school, that we have a lot of history, and that if you do your own research into the libraries and sorts, you could find out all that was left out.

So actually Black History Month is a good thing because if there were no such thing, alot of people wouldn't even think to do their own research but would believe we learned everything there was to learn and know about Blacks back in school.

NOW, had whites not done that with the textbooks but instead included all of the history to be taught in school, THEN I could agree with your man that there should be no need for a black history month. But because that was not the case AT ALL, I can't agree with him on that.

Hope that made sense. Anyways, good luck!
What you said made plenty sense to me.
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Jenn, I'm sure the book is very informative but because of the slavery and racism issue being such a stickler for some black men, he could miss the information the book offers because as he's reading it his mind and thoughts could become, with every page, filled with images and thoughts of how badly we've been treated. He may ultimately even just put it to the side and say "phluck that sh*t!!"

There's alot more I could say about some of the things in your second post but I'll leave it alone. Do keep us posted though on your efforts should you nevertheless push the book on him. I, too, will buy the book, so thanks again for bringing it to the forefront.

I agree, my boyfriend doesn't like to hear or talk about the slavery issue either. I can understand that in a way but I can't say I understand it completely because I am not black. I mentioned Black History Month to him last week and obviously the concept of black history sort of offends him. He's said there shouldn't be Black History, only history. I agree. Still, we all know that there is still a great deal of hurt and pain over slavery. It is like he says though, black people aren't the only ones to have ever been slaves. Something I didn't know, it was black people who enslaved the Jews in Egypt for 400 years. I learned so much from this book (No Apology Necessary). Parts made me scratch my head and parts made my jaw drop but now Iunderstand. The reason I said that I know it will make my boyfriend feel better about himself is the way black people have been treated. After years and years of oppression it is time that black people AND white people (all people) know just who black people are. We all know that back in the day blacks were thought of as dumb, ignorant, and good for nothing but serving other people. Most people don't know that the black race didn't originate from the bush of Africa as they have been portrayed. They originated from Egypt and Ethiopia and ARE the descendents of kings and pharaos, and as the book says - trailblazers in sciences, medicine, architecture, writing, etc. In his introduction Rev. Carter says --- No white man could write this book. It's dangerous enough for a black man to say these things, let alone a white man. This book is what I call skandalizo, it will offend you. It will offend your mind, your emotions, and your habits of thinking. But it will heal your heart. ---That is why I see this book as so important. After reading it I agree with Rev. Carter, I think it will heal hearts - black and white. If it was just another book about slavery or just somebody's opinion it would just be that, another book.

I have to commend you but what really amazes me is that you, a white woman..are encouraging your black boyfriend to read out history he should already know...

Your boyfriend, a black man doesn't like to hear or talk about the "slavery" issue? Wow...

EACH ONE TEACH ONE...

Peace and blessings...

I'm just glad that a black man wrote the book and some white guy didn't! :) I think of it kind of like this. If someone I cared about was sick or hurting, yep I would want them to take their medicine and yep, I'd insist that they did. Whether they did or not, that's another story. I don't know, I can't see it from a black perspective but as far as me, I agree with the author that the book will heal hearts. But, for those who don't believe in God, the book won't mean anything to them. All I know is that I love this man with all my heart and I always want what's best for him. And he knows that so very well. :)