I have been writing to a few pen pals over the last 6 months. One has a very simialr background to me, also we are both shy and get along well. I wasnt sure if he could do phone calls or not so I sent my number and set a date with him.... 15 minutes ... what on earth should i say on the first call, I am very nervous and I am pretty sure he will be too! Any suggestions?

I have been writing to a few pen pals over the last 6 months. One has a very simialr background to me, also we are both shy and get along well. I wasnt sure if he could do phone calls or not so I sent my number and set a date with him.... 15 minutes ... what on earth should i say on the first call, I am very nervous and I am pretty sure he will be too! Any suggestions?

I would say be yourself. I know you said your shy but he has gotten to know you in your letters, right? When Ryan called me the first time, I was so nervous! But we just clicked so well that him calling was like he'd had been calling me everyday of my life! :) I know on our first call when we both said Hello, I was like all giddy and told him I couldn't believe he was actually on the other end of my phone! We talked about everything really, like what the kids were doing, what he had been doing that day, my work and so on. He called back like 3 times that day! LOL I'm sure your first call will go great! :thumbsup:

I would say be your self and say hi my name is so and so and the words will flow after that dear.

I would say to just try and be natural, as of you were going to be talking to someone whom you talk to on a regular basis.
I remember my first phone call with my honey. I was both nevous and shy at first, but as soon as i heard him say, "Hi Tracey. How you doing?"... all of my shyness and nervousness went out of the window. It just flowed like we had been friends and lovers all our lives. :)

I was a nervous wreck before our first call, even though we've visited before. I dont hear that well, so I was scared I wouldnt be able to hear him, and I wouldnt have anything to say. Well when he finally did call, it was all really natural, we even talked over each other a few times, 15 minutes goes really fast, you'll be fine. Just talk to him about what he wrote in his last letter or something on those lines. Enjoy it!

I think you should open by saying hi and then see where you guys go from there.

I was sooooo nervous the first time Jason called me. you will soon find out that 15 minutes goes by sooooo fast!Just be yourself and you will get through it. good luck!

One thing not to do is to watch the clock while sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring. It will make you even more nervous. I learned that the hard way. Now I just do whatever I want as long as I am within running distance of the phone. Though I'm rarely that far away. I'll watch a movie on tv, read a book, or watch a sports game if there's one on. Anything relaxing that can take my mind off of the waiting & nerves. I still get giddy nervous 40+ calls later & probably always will. Besides it gives you something to talk about.

Myself, I had other worries. For instance, will I understand him. English was his newly learned second language. Like you, I am shy also & phones aren't my thing so that was a concern. Warned him ahead of time that I am very quiet on phones. Found out he's a regular chatter box & made me feel instantly comfortable. From my mans letters I had no idea he was that outgoing. :love:

So long story short. Talk to him like you do in your letters. Whatever topics you regularly discuss would be a good ice breaker. You'll be surprised how fast 15 minutes flies by.

Let us know how it goes. Good luck.:thumbsup:

Just like Liberaldog said; you can ask him about something he said in his last letter - that's the best ice breaker. Worked for me - I was extremely nervous the first time too, but this is so much fun.

Enjoy your first phone call and tell us how it went :D

Hi,
Ok *deep breath* I will try to be calm... picture him like any other friend calling... wow I am nervous!

I remember me and my baby's first phone call, it was truly special, we laughed and talked and I felt so shy

at the end of our phone call, he said, "you love me, don't you baby?" I said yes and he said "I love you too"

it was the first time I heard those words from him over the phone, he'd written I Love You many times but it was so special

so my advice is JUST RELAX. don't make any plans of what you will say, just let it flow...

and enjoy!

oh my god I was so nervous my first phone call, cause he was in the hole so I was never really expecting him to call, and when he did, it was a real shock, I was so shy, he was like, man you write all that stuff in your letters, now you ain't go nothing to say, but by the next phone call I was real relaxed.

I wish I could give some advise but I can't!! How I envy you all being able to speak to your guys. Illinois doesn't allow overseas calls so we have to rely just on letters between visits.

Rose