Ive been talking to my man for about year and a half now...our first time meeting face to face will be when i pick him up in about 10 weeks...so im just curious if i should hold out or does it matter cuz we've been talking for awhile... cuz ild rather not lol :p but if you think holding out will make him want to stick around let me know...:thumbsup:

That is such a personal decision only you can decide what is best for you. I guess it depends on the nature of your relationship. Sebastian and I knew we would be together the moment he touched down long before he actually came home but we were/are very committed to one another. Whatever your decision you should talk to him about it BEFORE he gets home so there is no misunderstanding.

Best of luck,
Patty

I have to mirror what Patty said. It is a very personal decision and I would hope that you can have some open and honest communication with him before anything happens. It is always better that way.

Just my thoughts.

Ditto what they said. My own personally arrived at and honestly communicated decision is yes I will hold out...until we get to the car:)
(j/k, really guys)

Yeh i see what ur saying...but i just wanted to know if its best to hold out or not...or does it not matter cuz we have been talking for so long...and ive talked to him about it...he says,its all on me...but im saying from a girls point of view, is it better to hold out? I know ultimately its my decision...but im trying to get girl's advice :)

I was curious about other peoples experiences, if u met him while he was locked up..how it went when u guys first met???? Like did u hold out or not lol...

Let me just say again that long before he came home we were completely committed to one another. We talked about the first time we would have sex besides our weekly SUPERPHONESEXSUNDAY sessions and we discussed how we wanted it to be and much to my surprise we were able to make that fantasy happen just exactly as we talked about. Simply put we were taking our clothes off less than a minute after he walked through the door. It was fantastic, everything we had talked about and more.

'Nuff said,
Patty

Holding out sounds real good in theory, but... ;) Ya know..
Seriously, if you think it's best to take it slow, for whatever reason, I think he'll understand.
It's kind of romantic too, to have a bit of an oldfashioned courtship period, the rest will follow naturally.:drool:

Dopey'sGirl,

I can only echo what the others have said. This is a personal decision and you and your man are the only ones that can make that call.

Best wishes.

Well for us, being that I worked in the facility he was incarcerated in we had the opportunity to sneak away and have some physical contact which included kissing, hugging and some mild fondling. the fact that "it" coud have happened wasn't lost on either of us. And we talked about it, because let's face it, we wanted to, but in reality I knew that this was the man I was going to be with in the future and I didn't want "it" to go down like that. I told him that and he was respectful of my feelings, so "it" didn't happen. This is a decision neither of us has regretted, except for "those" times. As Patty says, it is about your individual relationship and the commtiment you have. We are totally commited and are lookig forward to the day when we can consumate our relationship, but when we do it will be the bonus of the relationship, not the basis of it...just my thoughts.

Staci

Meeting for the first time when you pick him up could be pretty overwhelming. If you need some time to let it all sink in, then holding out might be the right move. But holding out for the sake of holding out like some sort of test of do you really love me just would be too frustrating for me.

Well my guy and I have talked about this and he has said that he wanted to spend the first day just holding me and snuggling but he made sure to tell me that at midnight it starts a new day. LOL Good luck on whatever you decide. Don't feel pressured either way. Make your decision because it is right for you. If you decide to wait it won't kill him. He's waited this long so a little longer won't hurt. If you decide not to wait then that is fine too. Just know what you want to do and do that!

I would think you will know more when the time actually comes- it'll feel like it's "time," or it won't.

This is a personal decision, definately one we can't make for you or probably give you adequate advice on. It's your decision to wait or not, you have to do what feels right for you. Would you be happy with your decision if you decided to wait? How would you feel if you didn't wait?

You know what to do that is best for you, follow your heart, and talk to him about it to avoid a miscommunication.

I seriously doubt I could wait very long :D