Sebastian and I want to be married, however we want to be married outside of prison walls. I am curious though, if you met and were married while incarcerated could you please answer a few questions:

How long did you know each other?

How much more time will he/she serve?

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge?

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married?

What was the ceremony like?



Happily Ever After To All of You,
Patty

How long did you know each other?

1 1/2 years.

How much more time will he/she serve?

When we married he had no less than 5 years to serve, but at that time we thought it would be much longer because of circumstances surrounding his situation. He's coming home in 3 months.

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge?

Trust, trust, trust. And even then I still had some doubts, I'm glad NOW that I didn't allow them to ruin things for us. I also had just been diagnosed with cancer so I wanted to give him the option of backing out...boy was he mad when I suggested THAT!

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married?

We decided before we even met to be married, but the final decision on both our parts was made the day we actually did meet. We had to wait for me to get a divorce (I had been separated for 11 years, but never divorced) so we didn't get married until 10 months later.

What was the ceremony like?

Quiet and small. His Mom, brother and son Michael were there. We were married in a Christian ceremony even though we aren't Christians. Its the only way the chaplain would do it. That was OK with us, in our hearts we were already married, we just wanted the legality of it all.

The prisoner who came to take pics was good. I had 15 picture tickets Mr. asked the chaplain if we could kiss during a couple of pics and the chaplain said yes. The pic taker had to change film about that time so the chaplain let us "practice" kissing... and the camera guy took LOTS of time changing the film so we could enjoy ourselves. :D :D All in all it was a 45 minute ceremony.

Awww mrsd ~ it sounds lovely. I know it's been a while now but I wish you both all the best. Thanks so much for sharing.

Hugggz,
Patty

How long did you know each other?
7 years

How much more time will (http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=182312#) he/she serve?
5+ years

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge?

I really don't know that we resolved any issues. Ever day seems to bring a new set of concerns and problems, so we really work on them on a case by case basis.Alot came out in the wash though, before we got married.He told me he might have a son out there.

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married?

We were engaged in September and we set a date for April, which didnt happen due to his visits being suspended.We ended up married in December.

What was the ceremony like?

It was really really sweet.Just him and I and the wedding offciant.I loved hearing him say his vows and when he said them I know that me meant them. We didnt get to do it how we had wanted to but we have made plans to get married again when he comes home. Best day of my life!!

hesavedme ~ sounds wonderful, I wish you all the best.

patty

How long did you know each other? 6 years

How much more time will he/she serve? according to his sentence 10 more years, but with recent legal moves, we are praying for about no more than 18 more months

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? none really... we had a beutiful, solid friendship first for years... we just gre into loving one another

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? 8 weeks

What was the ceremony like? simple, signed papers... and .... tada......

How long did you know each other? 4 years

How much more time will he/she serve? coming up for parole 12/06, 10

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? That we were adults and that for us to make it we have to live and make decisions based on what is best for us and not others

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? A little over a month, because we had to have July 8th because it is right between our birthdays

What was the ceremony like?
it was nice, proxy, so my mom stood in for him, we had a great Judge Stiles down in Johnson county, she is the best and sweetest, I was still happy and all smiles, even though he wasnt there, I went to see him the next day which was also his birthday and he put the ring on my finger.

How long did you know each other?
We were married twice! the first time we knew each other 7 months.

How much more time will he/she serve?
He is serving a life sentence with his first parole hearing in Feb. `08

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge?
I can't recall any issues that we needed to resolve.

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married?
4 months both times.

What was the ceremony like?
The 1st one we were married at the chapel in the prison iwth his mom and his aunt present, the second time it was in the b side of the visiting room and it was just us and our guest. Of couse both times it was beautiful, the second time they let us have a cake delivered by a local bakery, it was beautiful 10" round cake with a bride and groom on top. We even had pics of us cutting the cake, I'll try to post one later.

I got to see a picture of my husband in late 98. I was with a friend of his at the time, but only on a penpal basis (seriously). We started writing in Jan of 2000 as I recall and were married in May, 2001.

How much time does he have to serve - Well depends on the appeals courts. We have already been denied in local court, state court and now we are taking it to the Supreme Court. He does have a parole date of June 23, 2007 however and we are hopeful for that. One can always hope right?

An issue we had to resolve, I guess would have to be our age difference. It wasn't a issue for me nor for him as it turned out, but I had to make as sure as I could that it wouldn't be. I am 30 years older by the way.

Well we got married in May, 2001 and we were engaged I believe it was June or July 2000. We were trying to set up a date where his parents could attend. They live out of state. We also wanted to have time to get our rings.

The ceremony was in the chapel of the prison with the Chaplain in attendance along with the judge who married us. We had one guard at every second of the time spent there. My husband has a friend there as his best man and I had a relative who stood up for me. Her husband was also there along with my Mother and Father In Law.

My husband wanted a strawberry chessecake and that is what I ordered and got from the bakery, I had lots of pictures taken. Although I must admit I am envious of the person who got to practice kissing. We were allowed to kiss when I first got there and of course during the ceremony and before we all parted for the day.

I recall I was very nervous as I didn't want to break any rules and nor did my husband either. The female guard was perched in the corner so she could see everything. Of course her eyes were on us and I guess that is as it should be.

All in all it was lovely for a prison wedding, however, we want to renew our vows in church when he gets home and have family and friends with us and all the kissing we want.

By the way this is my second marriage and his first marriage.

How long did you know each other? I met him in 2000 and we married in 2003. So 3 years into this was when we got married. I have now been with him about 6 years this November. Married 3 years this June.

How much more time will he/she serve? he gets home this year! soon! When we got married, we were facing parole or a few more years together inside. We did both think he would get paroled in 2002, but he did not, so it has been a rough road for us, with 2 parole denials so far...It has tested our relationship ALOT! This is NOT easy. But it is worth it for sure! I could not have married a better man!

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? LOTS, like marrying someone I could not BE WITH. Could I be faithful, Marrying him, or him marrying me as a safety net. Marrying him too soon. If I had to do it again, I may have waited until he came home first, but I do not regret it, not one day since! I am so proud and happy to be his wife and being faithful comes naturally

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? we were supposed to get married in 2002 but I backed out that time.

What was the ceremony like? I cried during my vows to him, it was sweet really, and I really took everything spoken very seriously! I wished family could be there but it was our little world, our vows, our commitment, so that still meant so much to me and still does! He didn't like it being in prison, he feels like I was cheated, he feels so much guilt about not being able to be a real husband to me, but we try to make the best of everything. And we remain committed to make it work out here.

I can say that no matter what, I will always know this man, for the rest if my life!

How long did you know each other? We have been together almost a year

How much more time will he/she serve? 7 year til we see parole ~ at worst 14 yrs til hes home FOREVER

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? We knew from the start we were meant to be together!

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? he asked me to marry him 5 months in. I said say..... We have to wait for my divorce to finalize, I had been seprated forever ... so we will to together for alittle over 2 years.. before we will marry

What was the ceremony like? Not sure ask me 10-31-07 :) I will be "legally Mrs. Moats" But heart and soul we already are Mr. & Mrs. Rob Moats :p:p:p:p

How long did you know each other? 2 years

How much more time will he/she serve? 23 more months

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? A lot of talking and meeting his family

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? about 30 days

What was the ceremony like? Proxy I have not seen him in two years.......at all.

After we were married I called the chaplain and asked him to let my hubby know that he was now married. i also sent him a copy of the marriage license. It might sound bad but I sometimes tell people I am married t a ghost in my mail box. I don't get calls either. Texas is strict.

timber - I don't think it sounds bad that you say your married to a ghost in the mailbox. Different is all. Actually without visits, phone calls,it must get to feeling that way to you. Yea, I hear Texas is very strict.

It's my turn...

How long did you know each other? Nuro and I knew each other for 6 months before we got married. We met face to face first. We knew it was love at first sight; then we started writing and visiting just to make sure that it was right for us.

How much more time will he/she serve? Nuro's sentence is 25 years to life. I met him in the 11th year of his sentence. His first parole hearing is in 15 months (see my siggy). I pray that it is our first and last!

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge? Nuro and I are of different faiths. He is Muslim and I am a Christian. We had to resolve this difference before we married. We both agreed to respect the others beliefs and never try to make the other conform to their belief system. It has worked well for us - mutual respect is the key.

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married? It was fairly quick. It was about six weeks from the time we got the superintendent's approval to our wedding day.

What was the ceremony like? We had a Muslim wedding ceremony. It was short, sweet and blessed!

How long did you know each other?
2 years

How much more time will he/she serve?
16-22 more months

What if any issues did you have to resolve before taking the plunge?
my family accepting my decision.

How long did it take once you made the decision to actually be married?
a year

What was the ceremony like?
fast, simple, but special. I had a really nice wedding dress with a balero jacket. It was perfect for the occassion without overdoing it. I will never forget the look in his eyes when I came through those doors. :blush: