Mr. D's family used to delight in telling me all the sordid details - often embellished - about my husbands past. Some of those stories turned out to be pretty big whoppers. FORTUNATELY, he had told me all of them already and I was able to smile back and say "I know all about that."

In some ways it spoiled their fun because some of his cousins and his sister in law were being "bwitches" and were trying to cause trouble. :blah: :blah: It didn't work!!!

How about you?

Great question! My man's best friend and an ex-girlfriend (who is still trying to be a current one) have both told me bad things about his past. Some true, some not just blurted out in a conversation where it doesn't fit about stuff I've never asked about. Fortunately I don't come in contact with them very often or I'd have to tell them what I think of their lack of loyalty for someone they act like they care about.

Well, Sally, you have met his niece and nephew and they are the one's who tell me more than I ask for. They usually then bring their grandmother into it who also adds the minute details of his past. The only things he refuses to verify are the potty training stories and the time he got dressed up as a girl for a halloween party.

Sebastian's mom has told me things but not in a "hey let me tell you bad stuff way" just sharing her insight on things he's talked about to me. We all have a really open relationship.

Patty

I really havent' had this problem...when I met his children's mother she mentioned a couple of things but not in that causing trouble way, just part of the conversation we were having, it actually coincided with what he had already told me so that was good, I knew he could be trusted to tell the truth. Because it was very early in the relationship. He has actually told me the most about his past, things that you just don't tell everyone, things that most people even his family don't know...we have that kind of relationship and I cherish it.

Staci

I have not had this problem, early on in our relationship I met his childrens mother she mentioned a couple of things, not in that causeing trouble kind of way, just part of the relationship we were having. It was actually a good thing, as he had already told me about it and it made me know that he was truthful. He has told me more about his past than anybody in his family. That is probably because they don't know the things about his past that he shared with me... we have that kind of relationship and cherish it.

His mum has told me some stuff, but it wasnt in a malicious way. We were on a certain subject and it would just fit in to what we were talking about. He has told me a lot and none of it really surprises me.

It never ends. His mom is at me with "do you think this is all because we didn't turn him in for having pot in his room when he was 17"
yah, OK I don't think so.I keep tryig to get her to stop blaming herself and blaming him but it just has no end. His biggest prob is an attitude toward authority and the obvious source is her, and I am th "lucky" soul in the middle

how about...

do they tell you how bad they were to him? hmmmmf!

how about...

do they tell you how bad they were to him? hmmmmf!

As far as his bad past deeds yes. All of his family told me some very horrific stories about his past. The good thing is that he had already told me all of his past crimes and bad deeds. So yes they did try but I was able to say I already knew about those and more.

Now about the things done to him by his family. His mother and aunt told me some things that they seem proud of. Teaching him how to use drugs at 10. Giving him a tattoo at 11. Breaking his eardrum twice and his nose twice. So there is alot to be said how these guys get into a life of crime.

Things I now know and can see by own interaction with them... make me angry, and to think about what some children go through is sad. Not to make excuses for the actions of my husband or anyone else in prison, or to place blame, but there IS there is alot to be said about how these children end up in prison at all... My husband was 16 when he went to Prison.

NO mine tell him all about me LOL!!!!

Yes and no. His mom told me how things were and what her dreams were for him before he got locked up. It was breaking her heart to talk about it cause she started tearing up. But for the most part she talkes/d about the good and bad.

his mom and uncle would get drunk and tell me the same stories over and over and over again.. tell me about all of his ex girlfriends... it would drive me crazy .. the one thing they always said that i loved... is that i was the best and Gary never stops talking about me.... ya know all that good stuff but finally it got to the point that i could tell them their stories back hahaha

Well they really didn't share anything that I didn't already know about my husband. They were very open, honest and respectful of any questions I did have.

After I got married, I was fortunate a few months later to go and visit them for his sister's wedding and were able to meet the rest of the family and friends.

I was able to look through the picture albums and see pictures of his childhood growing up.

His sister took me around to see where all they had lived, went to school, the Lake where I am sure my husband had lots of fun and even the jail where he spent time in briefly. I also got to see the hospital he was born in and believe it or not his other two sisters were born in the same hospital and Mom had the same room.

My Mother In Law did have a newspaper article complete with picture of my husband and it brought tears to my eyes. I had already known the story, but that was the first I had seen the newspaper article.

He was so very young to go from there home to here prison and I often ask him why, why, why. I guess I will never know, because all he can come up with was he was bored. Well how does a 17yr old get bored? I sure was not bored at 17. I was having the time of my life, until now that is, lol!

I don't know whether it's a good thing or not but Tony only has one sister left in the family who is capable of telling me anything, and that doesn't happen so I'm in the dark, so to speak. All his family have died, including his mother and his former wife, while he's been locked away. I often think he didn't have much chance in life as he was the result of his mother being raped when she was 12 years old. He's spent most of his life in prison.

Rose

I get a lot of what I call "when Michael was younger" stories. Most of them are crazy funny though.

mrs D, I had the exact same thing happen. They knew nothing about his trial, but threw out gossip and whoppers. I was shocked! I didn't expect this, and repeated something to him at a visit, not knowing what to believe and saw his look of shock and anger! His Mom hardly had one photo of him and none of him as a child. Yeah, I want to ask them, why don't y'all ever visit or write your son/brother? send him a few bucks? He sure helped y'all out before he went in paying rent, buying the kids clothing etc. They are less than a 45 min drive away. This is why love and loyalty are more important to him than anything else in life.