For those of you ladies who can't visit or can't visit often what do you do when you're all alone to pass the time. For me visiting Jose was my life every other weekend. During the week I work and go to school and every other weekend I have my kids with me so I have no time to stop and think and feel sorry for myself. But now that I can't visit I will have every other weekend all alone to myself and I don't want to sit around being depressed. So what do you all do to pass the time?

I work full time and go to school full time. It's very hard not being able to visit him as he's across the country. We both dream about the day that will come when I can visit him, and then when I can visit him regularily.

It really helps me to count down the months until I can visit, and when I get really upset I write him -- a lot.

The first time he was in I visited once or twice monthly. We talked on the phone almost every day and wrote daily. I work and have a fulfilling social life, my girlfriends in Rockford have been like family to me so I had plenty to do. I decided and he agreed about 2 months before he came home that I needed to begin to view him as my man in the freeworld instead of my man who is incarcerated and this is how we deal so we did not visit during that period, the letters remained the same the calls increased. It worked for us.

Now we are doing another bid together, it's been almost a month since he went in and during the past 2 1/2 weeks he has gone thru receiving been transferred etc so we've not had the communication we are used to and it is difficult. I can't wait for us to begin our routine even if this time is just for the short haul. I haven't been going out much with friends so far this go 'round but I'm just getting used to the idea of him being gone. I've kept busy with work, getting his paperwork together, and PTO duties.

Patty

I suppose I just do all the things anyone does while alone. I'd been on my own for a good number of years before Tony came into my life. I do all the mundane things like walking the dogs, shopping, cleaning, etc., etc., but last year I did start making greetings cards as a hobby. I find this really calming so, if I'm feeling a bit low, I get the cards out and make a few to send when I don't write a letter.

Rose

Well normally I visit my husband each and every weekend, but he landed in the hole for 90 days. We only have 17 days and a wake up left, thank goodness. We didn't get phone calls for the first 60 days in the hole and that was rough. Now we get a short call each Saturday and it is so much better that I can hear his voice at least.

I have always written, but since he has been in the hole I write even longer letters, like the 24 page one I sent out yesterday. I also have a full time job, I spend alot of time on PTO and I have four pets that keep me company. I have the normal errands everyone has to run and right now I am in the process of moving, so I have the packing to do and then moving it. Gee where is my husband when he could be helping me with all of this.

Know that we are all here for you. Please stop by often and share.

I have a job, two daughters, grandsons, an aging father who needs attention, and my house needs attention on the weekends, plus occasionally I get together with friends, so I stay busy. I'm unable to see him now, but I hope in the near future he's closer so I can see him.

i work full time i have children a house to look after andlots of friends we talk on the phone 3 times a week and write lots of letter im looking forward to my visit in june

I visit my husband about every 2-3 months. We are about 1,000 miles away from each other. We talk once a week for an hour or more. We write a few times a week. I work full time, in grad school part time and have 2 teenage daughters plus with all of my other projects, like working out, writing a book, my book club, my plate is pretty full.

Use this time to do "you", focus on your dreams and goals for yourself!

I actually got some real sleep when I couldn't visit, no more sleeping in the car. I took my daughter all over the place. All the places we wanted to go but never had time for, disneyland, Knott's, Marine World, great America, The zoo, the aquarium, the Egyptian Museum, Santa Cruz, the snow, Reno, Tahoe, San Francisco. I used all the money that i would have spent on a visit and I took her someplace for a mini vacation. we had a blast, but I wouldn't trade anything for a visit.

I went for 9 months with nothing but letters. I work full time and sometimes take an evening class during the week and on weekends I see my friends, work in the yard or just veg out with some chick flicks or a good book. Once he gets transferred from intake and I can visit, I guess my weekends are going to get a lot fuller. Also planning to work in some phone calls this time around.

We live 1200 miles apart, so I can only see him every two months or so. He calls every other day, writes everyday, but I'll be honest. It gets damn lonely. And tonight in the great state on MN, its going to be -16, so I cant even get out of the house. Just going to stay in and write, as usual.

Even though i live 4000+ miles from my honey, i always tried to visit him bout 2-3 times a year. In the between times i kept myself busy... going to college... the kids school PTA... and the kids themselves. It not only takes my mind off the distance and ocean between us, but also makes time seem to go faster too.

I'm in college, so I've got my daily routine of classes and homework to keep me busy. On days when I find myself feeling lonely/have nothing to do I select one of his letters to reread and I'm not lonely anymore. I hope I can visit him before I go home for Spring Break, but if not then I should be able to when I return.

I'm in college, so I've got my daily routine of classes and homework to keep me busy. On days when I find myself feeling lonely/have nothing to do I select one of his letters to reread and I'm not lonely anymore. I hope I can visit him before I go home for Spring Break, but if not then I should be able to when I return.

Same here. School keeps me busy. We only have letters, I will probably not see him again until he's out. We have the Atlantic Ocean between us so I can't even jump in the car over a weekend and visit when I feel like it.
The funny thing is that we have gotten used to it in a way.... it's not as frustrating any more. It's just the one day at a time approach really. And it works fine so far :)

well i was use to seeing my man every weekend but since he's been transferred i havn't seen him.. it's been a little of a month :( and it's driving me crazy. what do i do when i'm feeling lonely... write A LOT, listen to music mostly our favorite songs, take pictures, do things with our daughter.. yeah we have a 3 year old daughter so she's very time consuming and i also work fulltime and i'm getting ready to start college (woo hoo i'm so excited) and i'm also taking a course online... so my time is pretty filled... i still feel lonely a lot.. the worst time is at night... the baby is in bed and i feel all by myself... and thats when i get on here (which helps a lot) and i write or read and i pray A LOT... God gets me through each day

well i was use to seeing my man every weekend but since he's been transferred i havn't seen him.. it's been a little of a month :( and it's driving me crazy. what do i do when i'm feeling lonely... write A LOT, listen to music mostly our favorite songs, take pictures, do things with our daughter.. yeah we have a 3 year old daughter so she's very time consuming and i also work fulltime and i'm getting ready to start college (woo hoo i'm so excited) and i'm also taking a course online... so my time is pretty filled... i still feel lonely a lot.. the worst time is at night... the baby is in bed and i feel all by myself... and thats when i get on here (which helps a lot) and i write or read and i pray A LOT... God gets me through each day

I've actually come to enjoy my "alone time" at night. Try to find that in you, it really is possible, even though you love someone with all your heart :)

I have a million things to do but I still miss my husband every day and can't wait until I can see him again.

I used to visit my man every other weekend but now since he is so far away I try to stay busy by working alot of hours and taking care of the kids. I also try to write more.

I have a pretty full life as it is. Me and my man talk on the phone all the time...I just take it one day at a time and he's in my heart every step of the way

i work and i go to school and look online for a place to live that is closer to ike.

I only have letters. I use that to get through with not being able to see him. I get on his list in June and until then there is nothing else I can do. I have kids and a household to run. I have to just use my words and my imagination to keep me going.