Remember that letter you sent and the one you received after the first time you visited him?

Sebastian and I knew we were in love before the first opportunity I had to visit. We felt confident that all would proceed well. I recall after I left the visit going to lunch with a friend and fellow PTO member and then off for some shoe shopping cuz let's face it a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. He called me (my calls were forwarded to my cell, shhh) an hour or so before we made it home and we talked all the way up to my front steps about how great the visit was.

I flew through a 5 or 6 page letter to him about how great the visit was how fine he looked etc etc and mailed it off. I waited impatiently to hear from him and was so pleased by his comments, " Can't wait to see you again", "You looked so great", "The best day ever", "Laid here the rest of the day thinkin' about you", so on and so forth. Shoot, I don't know which was better the first visit or the first post visit letter, LOL okay I know but the letter was a close runner-up!!!

Share your thoughts,
Patty

i still have all the letters from him (stored up in a box)... 2 1/2 years worth of letters.... thinking about it... thats A LOT !!!

i remember him writing me telling me that he appreciated me going down there and after i left that i was all he thought about. he loved the way that my makeup looked plus he fell in love with my eyes... he said that he gets lost in my eyes when looking at me... (his weakness)...

i also wrote back to him that he looked hella good and that i couldn't wait to see him again... i made sure that i visited him more and more often... more like i was addicted to him... he sure made it known that i was needed in his life and thanks me for it everytime we talk and mentions it everytime we write...

I wish I had that same experience. My first visit sucked. I knew my man before he went in but for the first 3 years he was too far to visit. When he got back in Cali I was nervous till I first saw him. We had written so much about it, how it would be, blah, blah, blah and it was nothing like that. And the letters right after were worse than the visit, mostly from my end but it was a difficult time for us.

The visits have gotten better but each one is completely different than the last but it does feel good when he says he just laid there thinking about me the rest of the day and sweet things like that.

But all in all my first visit was the worst visit.

Well our first visit didn't suck because anything one of us did but since I was new to the whole prison visiting thing I didn't know how it worked. I got there around 10 am and was in the visiting room by 11 but they didn't let him out til 1 and visiting ended at 3. Plus I didn't know what he looked like (not that it matters) because he didn't have any pictures to send me but imagine sitting there for 2 hours and watching all of those men walk out to meet their loved ones and not knowing when it was going to be him:eek: ! We were both nervous the first time but it still went okay. I went back to visit the day after because it was Labor Day and they had extra visiting. At the end of that visit was the first time he kissed me! And I guess I'm pretty clueless because I was still wondering for a while after that if we were becoming more than friends and if he really liked me:confused: . The post letter was awesome since we didn't have phone calls yet and I was left wanting to see again. You know he said the sweetest thing to me in one of his last letters. He said that he wasn't going to ask me to be his valentine because he knew he had me from that first kiss :D . Which he is right.

OMG! I remember our first visit like it was yesterday. I was SOO nervous. The first thing I could say was "are you sure u are 28??" My husband has such a baby face and looked 18. But we talked and talked, and talked. I was so shy.

We still fuss over who asked who to kiss who first (it was him). I know I couldn't WAIT until that first letter after the visit. I think I was on my stairs at 6am waiting for that letter that Wednesday.

He talked about how beautiful I was, and how much we have in common. He taped a little purple flower he picked from outside on top of the letter. He told me how soft my lips were, and how shy he was.

U ladies got me ready to go home and dig that letter up... :)

PowandVonne ~ great story! Your siggy... love it...

You make me feel brand new,
Patty

I had to dig hard, but I found the first letter after our first visit. I'll quote: "When I first looked into your eyes I saw eternity. I never knew love like this before and I can't wait to see you again. Thank you for coming to see me. I love you like I never knew possible."
Think that says it all :) Damn I love my man!

Yea, I remember it, :) I still have it and I still have all his letters all the way back to 2001. :)

It was the biggest surprise to him, because I wasnt supposed to beable to visit till the first weekend of December, but I called and found out they had approved me the weekend before Thanksgiving, we hadnt seen each other in two years, since I was a Ex-CO I had to wait that long to get on his list, anyway I rushed to get my hair and nails done so I could go that weekend, Since I was listed as a friend we had a non-contact visit, everytime I saw someone walk in my heart would skip a beat LOL, anyway when he did come in he was heading to the other side, because only his family visited him and they had contact visits so I saw him before he saw me, the lady stoped him, asked him his name and then told him that I was down on the end, I had turned my head but I was still watching out the corner of my eye, When he go down there the first thing he said was, "Your not supposed to beable to come till December" I told him "I called and they told me I could visit so I came" He sit down and just looked at me with this goofy smile on his face LOL, several times during the visit he would just sit and stare at me smiling, when he wrote me, he was like, I am sorry if I made you uncomfortable, by just staring at you, but you are so beautiful to me, I cant help it :) He told me that everyone he talked to that who next week had to sit thru him talking about our visit. :)
I am with you PowandVonne, I am gonna gave to put it out and read it, LOL
Oh how I love that man of mine :)

The night prior to my first visit w/ him I had a dream that there was a riot at the prison. Need less to say, I was scared. I think my apprehensions just kicked in.

I can remember the day as thought it was today. I was excited, scared, nervous, etc. I took a van service and I felt no connection w/ the women, b/c all of this was new to me and I just needed to collect my thoughts and feelings.

On the way back home, I was quite and reflected/re-played the visit over and over.

I still have all of letters. During our rough period, there were some letters that I destroyed during his incarceration.

Now that he's home, I think I am going to pull out some of those letters and have him read them to me. :-) This should be interesting, b/c I might have him act out some of what he wrote. :-)

Excellent and thought provoking thread

We fell in love and talked about marriage before we met. Mr. had lost his visits so we had to wait almost a year before I could finally meet him.

One morning at a minute after 6 am my phone rang and it was him telling me "I got my visits back, how soon can you get here?" Since I was 4 hours away we set a time for 1 pm. By the time I make hotel reservations, took a shower, threw some clothes in a suitcase and make the 4 hour trip, I was a basket case! :D :D He was too because when I got there the desk clerk said "you are HERE!" Apparently his Unit C/O's called up front to make sure my visits were approved (even though Mr. knew they were he had to verify) :D :D

When I stepped in that room and into his arms I KNEW that all the feelings were RIGHT. He felt so wonderful and I felt like in his arms is where I belong. He felt the same way and we talked of that.

He wrote in his next letter voicing the same things.. He spoke of how good it felt to finally be with me and to hold me. He spoke of me meeting his family now that we had finally met and he spoke of the trust issues I had. He was glad I was accepting of him the way he was... that was a biggie for him. He made it clear from day one that If I expected to change him that things would not work out for us. I made it clear from day one that I wasn't his ex wife :D :D

:mad: my first visit with him i drove 8hours to see him he kept sending me letters asking baby when are you comeing. I only got to see him for 2 hours and they made me leave after i drove all that way i was so upset. I almost lost the visit cause i did not know that i was not suppose to go out side and get a pad. So i went thru changes on that they made me wait for ever to go back in and see him. When i first seen Ike and kissed Ike i was like yeah this is my man :D. Tell this day he still does not understand why I love him so much.:thumbsup:

I remember that first visit like it was y'day! :blush: We had previously discussed what it was going to be like, and when i got there it was EXACTLY how we had described it. :)
I left the prison and his mum dropped me back to the hotel, and i ran straight up to my room to write to him all my feelings. He did the same. I had to wait about 5 days after i got home to get that letter. :( I was hounding the mail man for it! ;) He wrote saying how that i was all that he expected me to be... perfect! That i handled the situation of his mum being there like a real woman. That i was beatiful, intelligent and everything that he wants. He said that the visit it left no doubt in his mind that i am the woman for him and that he wants to be with him for eternity. He was also saying how much he will miss me once i go home, but looks forwrd for the next visit i make over. :) It was a real emotional letter for me. Made me love him all the more. :p

Yeah I remember very clearly. We just stood there for a moment looking each other straight in the eyes.... and I'm rather shy and usually don't look people in the eye. I remember the holding hands, I remember when I reached out and touched a scar on his chin and he flinched instinctively backed away but apologised right after because he said that he had not been touched by anyone but his mother in the 10 years he's been inside.
And the chemistry was unbearable :o

The "after" letter was also amazing. He told me that his friends kept telling him off: "get that stupid hanger outta your mouth" - "wipe that smirk off your face" etc. hehehe

And the 1st "I love you" came in that letter.

Yeah, we clicked that day *sigh* :love:

our first visit was friday may 19, 2006 the day i found my soulmate we had only been writing for about 2 months or so, he didn't know i was coming, i called to see if i was approved and when they told me thurday that i was approved, i moved mountains to go see him. i was so nervous, what if he didn't like me, after all this was going to be our first time to actually meet, but i had such strong feelings for him i had to go and see if they were real or something i had dreamed up in false hope. when he walked into the room and our eyes met, i knew that i was born to love him, he had been the one i had been looking so hard to find all my life. he is my soulmate. we were both nervous the whole visit and caught ourselves staring at each other. our post visit letters were so awesome, i re read his alot, to relive those precious memories we made, i told me that my coming was the best surprise he had ever gotton and that i made his month (not just his day)
I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!
thank you for this thread.

I remember our first visit like it was yesterday. Actually it was only a month ago. May 5 was our first visit, after writing for quite a few months and a ton of phone calls. I wasn't even expecting to get to see him so soon. I didn't have a way up there. But one of the ladies my older sister works with, her son is like my guys best friend in there. And she called me around 11am and asked me if I wanted to ride up there with her. I wasn't nervous until we pulled into the parking lot. I got nervous in the check in line, and messed his DOC number up the first time. I was sitting in the waiting room waiting for him to come out. And when he did, I know I had the biggest smile on my face. When he held me it was like we had always been together. After that the visit was great.

I got his letter about the visit a couple days later. He told me he didn't want to let me go at the end. And that he felt right in my arms. Now I visit once a week, faithfully, rain or shin. Even though I have a few pictures from visits, that first picture is by far my favorite.