What was it like the first time that yall met? Did you have alot of questions rushing around in your mind to ask them? Did you just smile alot cause you were happy?

What was it like the first time ya'll talked on the phone?

I know this seems like basic questions but its different when you known them right before they went in to meeting them inside. there is so much aniticiapation with the unknown. ( does that make sense)

Another great question, Jillian!!!

I had seen his mug shot on the IDOC website and I had sent him a ton of pictures so we knew what each other looked like. The moment he walked into the visiting room I thought to myself, "There's my man." He felt the same. We knew before that day that we were in love but it was an awesome feeling to finally be able to touch him and to look into his eyes.

For us it was as though this were all quite normal as we had made such a tight connection in the few months it took for me to be able to visit. Nothing about it was awkward. It felt RIGHT. We didn't really have any questions until later, each sending the same type of "post first visit" letter (boing thread idea LOL) which was pretty much a "was it as good for you as it was for me?" kinda thing....

I'm sure the experience is as different as the individual/couple but this was mine and thanks Jillian for reminding me of it. I needed that!

Hugggz,
Patty

Our first visit was amazing! I was SO nervous, didnt even know if I would recognize him. But I was lead into a room, and he was standing there, and I just rushed into his arms. I dont even remember doing it, all I remember is having his arms around me. I was nervous at first, but we talked like we had known each other our whole lives. It was crazy, we just couldnt stop talking. 6 hours just flew by. My cheeks hurt when I left because I had been smiling the whole time! :)

Our first phone call was just 2 weeks ago. We had to wait til Feb to get my number approved. He called me when I was in my car. I wasnt expecting it at all, and I had to pull over quick because my heart was beating so fast. Now he calls every other day, and Im loving it!

i met my huney on a pen pal website... and actually, i had pulled 5 different names off... (i have many friends in the pen) so i wanted to brighten someone's day with a pen pal.

when i started writing to my huney, i started of basic with his background, part of town, hobbies, etc. he asked me the same things and we went from there with the personal and intimate questions. I was then finally put on his list (which the trip was ssssooooo stressful - long story) but i made it down there to see him for the first time. i wore a black shirt with a thermal underneath (cold that time of the year), jeans and black boots. i walked in there nervous and stomach full of butterflies not knowing what i was going to expect. He had a pic of me and i had plenty of pics of him so we both knew what we looked like.

When he came in and sat down all i could do was think in my head that this man was hella fine and i was on a mission to make him mine. we talked some about the trip and laugh at other things going on too. i asked him one major question that he remembers till this day... what is your biggest fear: he replied: to hurt you in a way that is so unbearable that you would walk out of my life.

right there i knew he was telling to truth with his words. i asked him back, why he would say that if we were just penpals... he replied that give it time, b/c he I was the one he had been looking for all his life and that he would make me his queen someday...

well as time past... we well in love and he was right, he made me his queen... we are in the works to get married in two weeks.... i have finally found my soulmate.. and he was only a couple clicks away...

Wow very good question and I love reliving all of these moments all over again. He had tons of pictures of me but I had none of him so that was kind of nerve racking not knowing what to expect. Plus it was my first time visiting a prison and all. You know I had tons of things I wanted to ask and tons of things to say but when we came face to face I forgot it all and I could barely talk:nospeak: . Now he can't get me to shut up and I walk around all day like this >:D <. As for the phone calls well after many many months we just got our first one recently with the help of PCO and its great!

Well we had been writing for about six months before we actually got a visit as here in Kentucky they can only add to their visiting list twice a year. So I had to wait. We had exchanged pictures, so we knew what each other looked like.
Our relationship was pretty well cemented by that first visit. It was heaven to say the least.

He was expecting me for that visit and he just walked up to me gave me a big hug and a kiss and said hello babygirl.

I remember I was so nervous. Not nervous of him, but nervous about visiting in prison. I wanted to make sure that I didn't break any rules or have him break any.

He was excited because he hadn't had any visitors there in quite some time. The visiting room does allow them the advantage of eating and drinking things they can't get in the canteen.

So now we have this thing between us that he has to eat every cent I take over there, the maximum which is 20.00. Of course I will drink sodas and coffee and I save my eating for after I leave there.

I remember the first extra holiday visit we got which was only for two hours, I took the 20.00 and he was surprised because he wanted to know how I thought he could eat that much in two hours. Well he didn't, but he did manage two sandwiches, dorritos and many sodas. I just love to see him eat what can I say.

I don't really remember the first phone call. I know it came soon though. I couldn't wait for the next one either and we made plans right then and there when he would call again.

Now that we are married, we have a phone schedule based on what I can afford and we just deal with it.

There is nothing like visits, phone calls and letters to keep the sparks flying. I treasure them all.

When we met, I swear...it was like meeting someone I have known all my life. We did not eat all day, we just held hands, hugged, stared at eachother, we sat outside in the sun and just held eachother...Honestly we said so little...but it was so deep.

we talked on the phone first and let me tell you...wow....he has such a sexy but such a sweet voice, strong and sincere and calm....I was so nervous but we never ran out of things to talk about. He was so super polite too! our first phone calls were the best times for us...

Oh what a wonderful idea to remember some of those first feelings/butterflies again. Thank you for this thread.

I, too, met Eric, on a website for penpals back in 2003. We wrote as friends at first but within months we both knew something was up. About six months later I flew out to AZ from NJ to visit for the first time. It was also MY first time visiting a prison so that was intimidating. He was behind the plexiglass window and when I saw him sitting there waiting for me, he knocked me out he was so beautiful. He is also beautiful on the inside. We sat with our hands against the window and stared at each other for a while. I was so overwhelmed that I told him right then and there that I loved him. He said he loved me too. Then we just talked like we knew each other for our whole lives.

Our first phone call was wonderful. I couldn't wait for it. To hear his sexy voice on the phone....my heart just pounded so loud I thought for sure he could hear it. Things progressed to our first contact visit last year ... which was too awesome for words. To finally get to touch and kiss my man...indescribable. I just went down at the beginning of this month....for a special date on February 1 - we got married. Can't speak for anyone else but I knew we were meant for each other..........the moment I saw his eyes.

Heavy sigh!!! :love: :drool: :love: :drool: :love: :drool: :love: :drool:

I would see him when I would go to the visit when my job had programs at the program.
We kept in touch via writing; however, I did not start visiting until 2 yrs into the friendship.

For the first visit w/o being w/ my job, I was nervous, scared, didn't know what to expect, etc. But it went smooth. We talked and were able to learn more about the other.

We just sat and held each other, looked into each others eyes and talked. After almost a year of writing we knew each other pretty well so there wasn't a lot of questions. We talked more about things that had been discussed, but expanded on because some things just can't be said in letters and phone calls.

Well I haven't been to visit yet, but I can tell you about that first phone call.

I was so nervous that I couldn't stop talking really fast -- to my friend next to me. Then he called back and I calmed down, I had butterflies and I couldn't believe how amazing his voice was. I still get that feeling every time he calls

i can remember it like it was yesterday.......the simplest way i can put it is....feeling completely dead inside and suddenly in matter of seconds every nerve and cell in my body was ready to explode.....i'd never know what it felt like to be hit with a thunder bolt until that moment!!!!!!!

We met face to face actually before we were "an item". I was visiting my cousin and Nuro was the guy running the photos program that day. Our eyes met and we were hooked. My cousin did not want me to even think about any guy in prison. He even had the nerve to forbid me to talk to any man in prison; but we outsmarted him! After we took our pictures, my cousin left out of the room before I did. Nuro called to me as I was starting to walk out. I turned around, he said "Can I talk to you for a minute". Of course I fet like running to him, but I tried to play it cool. When I approached the desk where he was sitting, he grabbed hand and placed a folded piece of paper inside of it and closed it then he said "Please write me". The paper had his name/number on it. We wrote & talked for about 2 months before we saw each other again. Our first visit was the best! We just held hands and talked the entire time. It was a done deal after that!

Our relationship started with phone calls, and I knew the first time I talked to him, that I LOVED him and wanted to be with him. Then I started getting letters and fell even more in love. 7 months later I went to go meet him, and also meet his Favorite sister, I was nervous and scared not knowing what to do or what to say. I didnt want his sister to hate me cuz then he would probably listen to what she said. It was hard cuz I was staying at her house. But his sister and I fell into being best friends automatically, and then the first time I met him, OMG to look into his baby blue eyes was amazing. The first kiss was awkward a kiss on the cheek, but to sit with him and get to spend time with him was amazing. He kept looking at me and saying how blue my eyes are and then talking to his sister and glancing at me. He grabbed a hold of my hand and just sat there rubbing my hand and wrist, then he noticed the raised place on my wrist, and looked down. He was amazed at what he saw, just two days prior to seeing him, I got his name tattooed on my wrist like a bracelelt, he almost cried. Cuz I had always told him I would never get his name tattooed on me, at least not until he did it first, cuz im the type of person that you have to prove your staying with me before I do something that drastic. But anyways our time together was AMAZING and then our first kiss good bye, it was like no OTHER, I finally felt the tingles that go all the way down your back and into your toes, I saw the fireworks that so many had told me about but I never believed cuz I never experienced them until that Kiss goodbye with my SOULMATE Travis.

It was kind of weired the way that we met. I was actually going to visit my brother in Minnesota and everytime I would visit my brother would tell me that this guy would wheel his self to the window to look at me when I came and left(He was shot in his legs so he was in a wheel chair). At first it was kind of scary because I wasn't looking to meet anyone but I said what the heck and my brother gave him my number and he called. I did go see him and we just talked about everything. And it has been great every since,

The first time I got a call from my guy I was on a G2G in TN with Mrs Benji, Angeltob and Mrs Dragon! Boy was I excited! We were in the hotel room and the call didn't come through so I ran outside to see if I could get the call again. All I heard the first time was the correctional message. He didn't call back. The next day on the way to dinner he called! We got to talk for a few minutes before the call was dropped again. I remember being extremely excited and I know I was laughing because his voice was not what I imagined. I still tease him about his accent even though he tells me he doesn't have one. The first time we met with behind glass 2 months after our first call. It was great to see him and talk to him. I remember being nervous for that too but the best of all came this past Feb 2nd when we got our first contact visit! Whoo Hoo!!!! I was shaking all over and nervous the whole time. Its just a wonderful feeling and I feel like I am flying home ther whole 2.5 hr drive back.

What was it like the first time that yall met?
It was like all the pieces of the jigsaw puzzle had finally come together. It felt like pure magic.
Did you have alot of questions rushing around in your mind to ask them?
I DID have lots of questions rushing around in my head before the seeing him face to face to face that, but it all went out of the window once i was in his arms and all i could think about was how much i love him!
Did you just smile alot cause you were happy?
I was constantly ginning from ear to ear... the biggest and widest grin that i have!! :o
What was it like the first time ya'll talked on the phone?
It was like we were old friends. I wasnt nervous or anything after i initially picked up the receiver. I was just a little gutted that the call only laster for about 7-8 minutes! :(

Sly and I had been in contact almost a year when I went to go see him and about a month before he confessed he really had feelings for me so I was NERVOUS! I felt kinda insecure. He kept sayin on the phone when I see you I am just gonna hug you and I was like no just sit down!! LOL Anyway he came up from behind me and hugged me haha we were both so nervous! We were both shaking and gigglin the whole time like some kids! haha its funny to think of now

No big thrill for me, I met him because of a work project... it took half a year for us to become friends. I did like him on some level right away, but it was no big thrill.

He's really fine (and charming) but I honestly didn't pay the slightest attention to that back then... :rolleyes:

What was it like the first time that yall met?
Dang it was like yea this is the man that is going to be my husband one day. i had snuck down there and i did not tell him i was comeing cause i had to see him. i felt that i loved him. i had to see him to be fore sure so i drove 8 hours just to visit for 2 hours. i did not have alot of question i just wanted to sit and look at him i know i am silly :) yeah i smiled alot and his behind my hair i fixed my hair so that it is always close to my face. Did you have alot of questions rushing around in your mind to ask them? Did you just smile alot cause you were happy?

What was it like the first time ya'll talked on the phone?
It took almost 3 months before we got to talk on the cause of pco i get so excited to hear Ike talk to me. He makes my day a little brighter when he calls.

I know this seems like basic questions but its different when you known them right before they went in to meeting them inside. there is so much aniticiapation with the unknown. ( does that make sense)
sure it makes since i am a firm beleiver that you can meet a man anywhere and still feel the same. i do not think it should matter where you meet a person as long as that person treats you wright. Ike is spoiled and that is my fault that is how me and his mom have him. He pals that he has in there blame me more so then his mom lol. but anyway that is another topic.

John and I had been together a year and a half before our first visit that occured last month ...
Prior to our first visit, I decided to move across the country, to the state he is incarcerated in , so 3 months ago I took the plunge and moved here.
Our first visit was magical, it was his first visit from anyone in 4 years, and the smile on his face could light up the world. We were so happy :) we mostly just talked about nothing, ate lots of food, and snuck a quick kiss when no one was looking.
It was worth all the waiting definately!

I walked in and saw him in a chef's outfit serving at a semi-formal dinner. We met eyes and I thought that is my man. I just knew that we would be together forever and we had not even spoken a word. He said he felt the same. It was the next day I found out he was an inmate. It didn't matter and we have been together ever since.

the first time we met was..."movielike" is all i can think of lol. it was a tier full of inmates of course and i was sitting there trying to get the circle of guys to back down away from me...and he was just standing in the back of the entire room...with his arms folded over his chest staring straight at me. the first thing i saw on him were these two long beautiful braids hanging down his back, and he was just staring and smiling. our eyes caught and i turned my head away and down. i didn't stare at him again, but i know he was looking at me. when i was done dealing with the inmates, i left the tier. we never said one word to each other, and he never approached me or said one word to anyone about me, but he sure did just stare. my cheeks were red HOT for like an hour afterwards! not because of interest but just because i felt his eyes on me the entire time. eventually the entire moment went to the back of my mind; it took me over a month to ever see him again, but that was the beginning of it all :)

Well, my first visit is in less than 48 hours and reading this thread has helped me calm down a little...til i get in the car and start driving. A friend of mine is taking me and I made her promise that no matter how many times I tell her to turn around or pull over she'll just keep going!!

As far as our first phone call I remember hearing "For English press 1..." and I smiled ear to ear and actually jumped up and down in my kitchen. He says that when he heard my voice he was speechless and felt like he was back in school with a teenage crush...said that he didn't know what to say. I think that our first phone call went well, there were a few akward silences, but towards the end of the call it felt like i had been talking to him for years...

We smiled a whole lot is what I remember most. We smiled a lot on first phone call too. This man has made me feel like a high school girl every since we met and we are both in our forties, go figure.

Well we hadnt talked before we met, he is in the county and my cousins boyfriend is in there too. Well I would always go to visit with her, cause he is like my best guy friend, but this time he asked if I would mind visiting one of his friends. Of course I said sure why not!

Ladies I tell you...when he came out I was like WOW! He is so fine! He looks like Lyfe Jennings! We just started talking and it was like we had known eachother for years! And the rest is well now history!

I tell my Cousins man all the time..."You did a Great Job With This One!!!!"

Wow! What a good question. I was not expecting to meet the man of my dreams because like I've stated elsewhere on this site I was at the county jail on a preaching assignment. My very FIRST preaching assignment outside of my church so I was already a nervous wreck. Me and another Evangelist was sitting in the room waiting for the inmates to come in and that is when the most beautiful sight I've ever seen walked in the room. He was just FINE!!!! It was all I could do not to stare :). Later I found out he felt the same way. We never had any real conversation out side hello, God bless and good-bye. So after that day, when he started telling everyone that came from my church that he knew that I am supposed to be his wife, I was like ok :).
But 6 months later were engaged and have been going strong ever since.

It took six weeks for me to get approved to visit. That first visit I was so nervous, I got up at 4am to make sure I was ready in time. He came out and we talked like we knew each other for years.
The first phone call on the other hand is not what can be considered normal. We talked about my nephew and the presidential election.

When we first met, we hadn't talked on the phone yet. But we were writing like 4-5x a week. It was a BEAUTIFUL Sunday in May (my favorite month). I was sooo nervous. When I came to the visiting room, I couldn't believe how beautiful he was. I had seen pictures, but his pictures do him NO justice. Gorgeous smile, deep dimples, baby face (he was 28 at the time and looked 18 and still does..lol),and a body like WHOA! Then we sat there and talked like we have seen each other a million times.

Then came the first kiss........

ronnie and i met through a penpal service in oct. of 2004. we wrote each other for about 6 months, before i thought wait a minute, this guy is GREAT! he was moved to a facility that allowed phone calls, so we got to talk for the first time last june. it was wonderful! he's from texas, and has the sexiest texas drawl. we got to talk several times before he was moved again. well, now over a year later, not only are we still together, we're married and he gets out later this year. life is GOOD!!!!:thumbsup:

When I first met Damon, I was introduced by my girlfriend's husband who was serving time with Dame. He asked his friend to hook someone up with him so they thought of me. He sent me a letter and a photo with a visiting form. I was so excited that I didn't waste no time to filling the paperwork out and within a week I was up there for my first visit. He came into the room and hugged and kissed me on the neck. I was so nervous that I did alot of laughing that day, and of course he thought I was silly because I was laughing for no reason. The rest just keeps getting better and we are reaching our 9th month together. Thank you Sweet lord for sending this wonderful man into my life.

When Rome, and I met we, connected I feel in a way I never connected with anyone else before. It felt like I had knowen him forever. We had been already writting for 8 in a half months already and he had helped me get thur my Grandfather dying suddenly of Cancer, The sudden news of my closet Aunt battling Breast Cancer and choosing not to have Radiation nor Chemo and beliving in her highest power I mean I can go on and on, Then the melt down I had after losing my great paying job. This man was Heaven sent and to think @ first I was reluctant to write him back. See Rome, is older then me and even though we may not come from such diffrent worlds I just couldn't can't get through my mind until this very day why is it that he would settle for a woman who is so far a way. When he can find someone very near. Well I will tell you why, I know my man loves me, and respects me, as well as worships the ground I walk on. We all know that is very hard to find and there is a lot of people who condon us woman who Marry men incarcerated or decide to settle down with men incarcerated because some have a bad rap- well if you like me could of witnessed the look on my mans face the very first time he walked into that visting room then all the people that doubted his intensions including me will have knowen how sincere he really is- This man is the one and has been the one for me forever I just had never knowen until I met him. Do you all feel me on this, it was all written on his face and I realized it as the three day visit went on. The more we talked and socilaized. His kiss, his touch, his hug, when we walked hand in hand, it all felt so damn right, and nothing has felt so right for or to me sense. I mean we have had a lot of adverse situations sense that visit and God which we beleive has seen us through just like we believe has brought us together- literaly-- I know you all believe in fate and in true love. This man is a blessing and the most honorable man I could ever ask for and I wish for both of our sake we met 12 years ago- we both would of been so much better off but as it is we still have found one another and have one another and will still see one another thur, that is my story, oh we met thur friends- one that was on the inside- and he was dating my friend on the outside- Rome, sent me and unexpected letter- without my knowledge I am so glad he did- Today I am!! I LOVE U ROME!! I AM HERE FOR ETERNITY..

when i met my love he was a free man.i was hard on him and he found me a few days later and swept me off my feet LITERALLY and dipped me over the table(i was a cashier at a convience store). my heart left me then but it still lives in my chest:eek:

I went in to talk and visit with him without planning on anything more than a talk. His best friend and my recent ex was killed in a bad accident and he just wanted someone to talk about him with.
We clicked then, but neither one of us would admit it. It didn't seem right, but then again, it was perfect.
Now it's 40 going north and I'm loving it.

What a great post. We had been writing to each other for a little more than eight months when he called for the first time. Ours was a friendship that was getting stronger. The night he called as soon as I heard his voice I knew that I loved him but still I didn't say anything. I remember he called me one night after reading a letter I had sent him and asked me if there was something that I needed to tell him...LOL, I was and still am such a backwards soul, I told him I didn't think so. The next letter he sent to me stated in bold letters that he loved me. That same night he called me again and told me over the phone. I simply melted. It was another two months before I actually met him and like so many others I wasn't sure what he looked like. He had a ton of pictures of me but the only thing I had to go by was the one posted on DOC. I was so nervous that I was shaking all over. I watched him walk up me and he said "I think you are here to see me". It was all I could do not to cry, our journey had already been so intense and to actually see him face to face was like a dream. We talked and held hands the entire time. It was like both of us were afraid that if we looked away the other might vanish. By the way, as soon as I heard his voice the nervousness disappeared....He will always be my best friend!

The first visit...:rolleyes:
We had been writing for almost a year and a half. I told him that I wanted to meet the man behind the captivating words and amazing artwork. And there I was on my way to a prison an hour and a half from me scared to death. He had a couple of pictures of me and I didn't have one of him(well I did but I lost it). He had described himself to me so I had a pretty good idea who I was looking for. I went up there strictly as a "friend" the first time. I remember seeing him come through the door and the sight of him was breath taking. He is gorgeous! It was amazing! I remember being so nervous..lol... We talked about a ton of things. He has the sexiest voice I have ever heard. I just want to melt everytime I hear it. The visit went by so fast! When I had to leave he said, "Come here", pulled me to him, and just held me. Now, here I am and head over heels in love:heart: with a man behind so many walls, so many fences, and so much electricity. He stole my heart.

I'll never forget the first moment I laid eyes on him--that first visit. I had seen his pic on the DOC website and had sent him a couple of me. We'd been writing about 6 months....but nothing prepared me for the face-to-face. When I walked in, I spotted him clear across the room and there was an aura around him (I know, sounds crazy!) and I could not see anything or anyone else in the whole room except him. I was sooo nervous, I'd never been to a prison before and didn't know what to do--so I simply slid my butt into the chair and left him standing there. Oh hahha. He sat down and we really did have a great visit. It was his first visit in years and he was as nervous as I was!! Fast forward to a year later....many visits (Great kisses, too!!!!) /calls/letters through-out the year and things are great between us, we've built a relationship on trust, faith, respect and lots of love. Parole hearing January 5th!!!! He's expecting a flop--first time up to the board. Possibly SAP program, which would = 9 months to a year. We'll take it as it comes. He said "hope for the best and expect the worst." I'm a stronger person for knowing him and I know that together we can deal with whatever comes our way. :)

The first time we met was just in October 2006. We had been writing to each other for ten years prior to that. I was sorta nervous at first and then just ready to get the initial part over with.... I just couldnt wait to kiss him. I know that sounds silly but that was what kept going through my mind....We talked all day, held hands, and just stared at each other.....I was so jet lagged i dont know how i stayed awake....but i wasnt going to miss one little minute of my visit. We visited for three straight days and it was heaven...I cried at the thought of having to leave him there and come home to mississippi without him. It was the most humbling experience i have ever had....and it was the most wonderful moment i have ever had. It was like i had finally found what god meant for me. He knows me better than i know myself sometimes. We are trying to decide now if we will wait to get married or if we are going to go ahead and bite the bullet and get married while he is still inside. For me, i would marry him anywhere anytime but he is unsure of whether he wants to be married inside or not.... i think he wants to make it official but is afraid it will take away from our special time...to me it just makes me no difference i just want to be his wife. We can always have another wedding when he gets out. I am just proud to call myself his woman....so there....just happy to share my wonderful moments with all of you....
As far as talking on the phone... we have talked on the phone once a month for ten years and the very first time i talked to him i remember thinking he has such a cool sexy voice....but now i know it is sexy....in one phone call he can turn me upside down....lol:D

On Sunday November 5th, I had my very first visit with by Boo. We've been corrsponding with each other for a little over 1 year. We talk on the telephone all the time. I finally mustered up the courage, ate the butterflies that had taken over residency in my stomach and I made the 2 hours quest to Danville. I went through the whole range of emotions on that ride. I got my nails done because my family here said that would be important because we did spent alot of time just looking at our hands. I got my hair cut, dyed and curled, and even slept in a chair to keep it fresh. I wore my PJ's until I got to a McDonalds about 3 miles away, I went in there changed clothes refreshed my smell good. Then when I got there I almost had a fit because I thought I was not going to be able to visit because I did not have my social security card,(thank GOD they revised that rule 2 months ago.) I added money to the card so he could eat, then they called me to stamp my hand, got patted down and of course spit out the dead gum I was chewing to releive some nervous tension. I then took the walk to the visiting table, where would I be assigned to sit? Right in front of the C.O. (Corrections Officer's) desk. He was taking quite a long time to come down so I want to the vending machine to get him something to eat when he got down there. While I was at the machine he came in, I didn't notice him until I turned around to the most gorgeous, Adonis of a man I have ever seen in all my 12,045 days or 33 years on this earth. Tall, strong and firm absolutely breath taking. I almost dropped everything in my hands. I got over to the table, he wrapped those massive arms arms around and all I could do is exhale. Like Whitney Houston, Waitin To Exhale. His lips touched mine I can't even explain what that was like. Like something I've been waiting for ALL my life.:D Of course I have been kissd before,it has never been like that. It felt SOOOOO good. I think now all I can do is shake my head and exhale again.:faint: An the anxiety and nervous tension went away. It was like we were best friends. The visit went well. The leaving of course was sad but I made a vow to make it my business to be there at least twice a month, but I know it will be more since he is so close to me. I thank PTO for all their support. I am so glad there is a website that related to me.MMMAANNNN!!!! Everytime I think about that man, I just close my eyes.... exhale deeply...... and shake my head. He has waves so deep in his hair I get sea sick just lookin at them. When I look at him I have to remind myself to breathe because he takes my breath away. I bet a fat, wet man rollin in fifty's I'll will NEVER forget it
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Zachary's Woman ~ I KNOW that feeling like it was only yesterday, as you know my man is home now but damn girl thanks for the reminder, precious!

Patty

I haven't gotten to visit yet, but it's really nice reading other peoples' stories about their first visits. :) Jesse and I have talked for almost a year and a half at this point, and we were actually SUPPOSED to be having our first visit TODAY. However, it (obviously) didn't work out that way. He's been transfered 2 times in the past month and a half or so and at the "middle" prison, he was in the hole almost the whole time he was there. I was still going to go up there to see my kids, but drama ensued with that as well, so I'm sitting in Kansas. :blah:
However, now that he's finally where he's supposed to be, and he's in a minimum, we're ready to start planning for that first visit again. Even in all the planning, and having talked to him for so long, I am still nervous as hell and scared to death to meet him....:p Call me crazy, but I'm afraid he's going to meet me and not like me anymore. Anyone else ever thought about that??? lol I know we've been talking for a long time, and he's seen probably over 200 pictures of me over that time. We talk on the phone and write, and we've been through ups and downs, so I guess he'd be gone by now if he was planning on going, but the thought is still there...lol
Anyway, thinking about all this has got me rambling so I need to go now....lol I'll post back when I finally have my visit (hopefully in a month or two) and see if it compares to all the great stories all of you have. :D
Have a good day!
~Sammi~

Our first phone call was on Christmas Eve last year (2005). We'd been talking for around 5 months or so I think and I told him I wanted to know what he sounded like. ;) So he called me completely unexpected and made my entire day. We talked twice in a row and then I had him call me back later that evening so we could talk again. Before then, I had so many things I wished we could talk about person to person but as soon as I heard that voice, it was curtains for me, and I couldn't seem to remember a damn thing...lol :p I was just so excited to get to talk to him and hear his voice, I think I told everyone I know for days... :p We talk pretty much every day now and while things are a little different now, I still get that excited feeling when the phone rings and I know it's him. :D

~Sammi~

Wow the first time we met was like christmas for a little kid :dance: . I was so nervous but once I saw him it was everything I could have dreamed of and more! That was 3 years ago after writing and talking over the phone for a year and a half I finally got up the courage to go meet him face to face. I knew of him threw a friend and both of us had plenty of pictures but being face to face couldn't touch a picture! I must admit though the anxiety that was built up during that 4 1/2 hour drive was a killer. We will be married soon and I honestly can't tell you how my life would be otherwise. Every relationship has its good and bad but this is something I do not regret!:love: Ya know the funny thing is after almost 5 years I still get excited like it's that first visit all over again!

I remember the first time I noticed him. WhenI started working at that prisont, I never really paid anyone much attention. Just the regular hello, how are you, keep on walking. One day, my husband had walked by me wearing this cologne that was soooooo alluring it literally had me spin around and ask him what are you wearing? He said "prison juice" walked off and laughed. I was like whatever and he came back to my area and told me what he was wearing and when I looked up at him, we just caught serious eye contact...not the same eye contact when I asked him to take out thetrash or to help me carry some things to another area, but this time, we both got a little stuck, I felt chills and I couldn't help but to smile at him. I felt bad because I was thinking OMG this dude got me shakin, and hes an inmate!!! But we played it cool, I tried to not pay him any mind but I found myself wanting to see him, hoing that he would come my way, I mean, it got to the point to where I removed myself from the area so I wouldn't get in trouble. But we end up really falling for each other and it was time for me to follow my heart and I knew it was wrong for me to be with him and try to sneak around like I didn't love this man, or have to walk past him and not say anything, so I quit.

I just wanted to post and tell everyone that even though i myself am in a MWI, i think all of your stories of how you met are so wonderful and some are so romantic... almost story like...I would like to thank you for sharing something that is so nice...At this time of year we need to be thankful and appreciate the little things in life...
Merry Christmas everyone...
msmomto4

I was teaching a money class with another woman with about 15 people in the room. He walked in late so I gave him a dirty look, he took a chair and told the guy who was sitting next to me to move down. So he wound up sitting next to me and somehow worked it so that he was next to me for the remaining classes lol!
We had prepared information packets for all the guys to read and tried to address specific questions that they had. We started off writing after the third class. And that was a little over a year ago :-)

What was it like the first time that yall met? Did you have alot of questions rushing around in your mind to ask them? Did you just smile alot cause you were happy?

What was it like the first time ya'll talked on the phone?

I know this seems like basic questions but its different when you known them right before they went in to meeting them inside. there is so much aniticiapation with the unknown. ( does that make sense)

Getting there I was scared spittless, I had just gotten on a plane and flown across the US rented a car and a hotel room all by myself someone that had never been more then 300 miles away from my home and that was to a family members home... but I thrilled so much I was shaking and talking to my self, all I could think was will he know me will I want to touch him, ( that may sound strange but I do not touch people they make my skin crawl to do so.), will he like me even though he said that he loved me... He said in his letter he was worried if he should hug me or shake my hand... I told him if he did I would kick him!

I should not have worried, even though I had my ass in the air bending over at a vending machine to get something out of the bottom and all I seen was a pair of blue legs standing behind me as I just turned my head to look up at him.. I seen the biggest smile on his face. I had made a pair of white jeans that had a black celtic knot on the right pant's leg so he would know who I was... as I looked into his eyes all I could think was I want to crawl inside this man and never leave him and I reached for him right then and there... then all that ran though it was would you just look at that man!!!! :eek:

We talked like we had always known each other that there had been no time between us or 6,500 miles it was like we had always been together that I had been there the day before, the week before, it was like nothing either of us had dealt with before... He made me swear that I would come back the next day.. the pictures we took that day he was scared to death in them and you can tell by the look on his face it was like he didn't want to do anything wrong so that I would come back... he even told me he wasn't going to eat so that if he did something that grossed me out while he was eating I wouldn't see it... I informed him if he didn't eat I was going to bring a CO over and have them order him to eat! that got a strange look out of him and he said you wouldn't do that would you I said you better believe it I did not come all this way to see you starve! he laughed and started eating... he made me swear again before I left to come back again the next day before he would let me go and I told him I would be there. it is still the same I still want to crawl up inside him and stay there I feel at home when I am next to him and I want it no other way.

as for the first phone call... well beings we only had 3 phone calls in the first 4 years the 15 minutes went by to fast and he called me a yankey when he first heard my voice and him with a NY voice if I have ever heard one!! but with him being Down south I can see how hearing mine would make him think that.. I wanted to say more then I could but then I was not alone at the time...