I am not new to the prison system, but I am new to really falling in Love with someone I never seen in person never talk on the phone...Just letters back and forth. I need some advice how to handle this. His case was on Court TV and something came across me to write him. I believe it was God, his crime was unthinkable, but I have falling for him and I don't know how to handle it. He is all the way in North Carolina and I am in Michigan. I want to go visit-should I or Not.:confused: I really do like and feel his pain. I also feel the pain of his victim- so what should I do. He is so special to me, I want to be with him as friends and whatever he want.

I am not new to the prison system, but I am new to really falling in Love with someone I never send in person never talk on the phone...Just letters back and forth. I need some advice how to handle this. His case was on Court TV and something came across me to write him. I believe it was God, his crime was unthinkable, but I have falling for him and I don't know how to handle it. He is all the way in North Carolina and I am in Michigan. I want to go visit-should I or Not.:confused: If:love: loving him is wrong, I rather be wrong because I love him. Despite what my family and friends think.....:grouphug:

Hi and Welcome to PTO! You will find so much information and support here. All I can tell you to do is follow your heart.

hi welcome to pto

Welcome to PTO and sweety no one can tell you how to LOVE or who to LOVE, you need to listen to your heart and soul and follow the guide of that. Alot of ppl wont understand your decisions you make, but you have to do it for you.

WELCOME TO PTO !!! I agree with flacosgg - you find alot of support and assistance with questions on here.... everyone on here is like a 2nd family.... ones who understand the heartache and pain of having a loved one in jail.

With your situation - follow your heart to what you believe is right. No one can make your mind up nor tell your heart who to love or not love. Build your relationship from there and don't worry about anything... anytime you need some advice or a helping hand... the PTO Family is here to listen and help....

I have INCREDIBLE skills of inference and I think I know who you're talking about. I understand what you mean, not first hand, but I have put myself in your shoes and understand the inner conflict. People make mistakes, sometimes horrible ones with bad consequences. They are still people and people are social animals and everyone needs love. If you are noble enough to give it to him despite what others might say then go for it. Only you can decide who you love.

Welcome to PTO! Well you certainly are not the only one, I'm sure you'll see that from all the posts here.
Keeping an open heart, an open mind and open eyes, is what is helping me. Ah, and not forgetting to enjoy all the fun stuff too of course!

My fiance was convicted of an absolutely horrific crime (I believe he's innocent, but thats another story) but I still love him, and even if he did do it, I would still love him. Follow your heart, I found the love of my life behind prison walls. Not many people agree with my decision, but it is just that, my decision. I choose to love him and no one can tell me not to. PM me if you ever want to talk. And welcome to PTO

Welcome to the PTO family.

Hello and welcome to PTO :)

Welcome to PTO. None of us can say what is right for you but we can offer support regardless of your decision. A piece of advice I will give is to take it slow, time is on your side no need to make a hasty decision. This is your life after all. Get to know him if that is your desire, the answers will come in time.

All the best,
Patty

P.S. I'd give you the same advice even if he wasn't incarcerated...

Welcome to PTO and the Met While Incarcerated Forum. I agree with Patty.

There is no rush, take your time and get to know each other and if your heart tells you to go meet him then go for it.

No one can tell us who to love or why we should or should not love someone. Only you can do that.

Know that we are all here for you. That is what PTO is about.

All my best to you.

Welcome to PTO and all the good advise you'll find here. I can't add anything to the above except that it won't be easy no matter what you decide, but it's your decision and you'll know what's best for you.

Rose

If you have the time and can afford to visit then I say do it. You'll know better how you want to proceed after that. Part of loving is accepting people for who they are and it's not always pretty.

Hello & Welcome To PTO!

Welcolme to PTO...u will find so much support here. Everyone is great. We are all here for the same reason, we all love someone behind the walls. None of us can judge one another but only offer our advice. Just by writing to him in the first place shows how much courage you have. Good luck to you both. If you ever need an ear I'm just a PM away.

It is sort of scary at first, but if you want to meet him you will know from there what to do next. The meeting part is exciting and well worth the effort. I don't regret at all taking that step. I just wish he was close to my town again so I could go all the time. We're back to letters and phone calls.

Thanks to everyone who responded to me. I need that support inmy life, I can't turn to anyone. Now I have the support of people who are kind. Living in a world that everybody have something to say about what you do and how you do it---it is a hard way to live in my world. My family have put me down from the minute they found out whwo he was. I am grateful to have PTO to talk to about my situation. Thanks to everyone, looking forward to talking to you guys........Have a great weekend

Thanks to everyone who responded to me. I need that support inmy life, I can't turn to anyone. Now I have the support of people who are kind. Living in a world that everybody have something to say about what you do and how you do it---it is a hard way to live in my world. My family have put me down from the minute they found out whwo he was. I am grateful to have PTO to talk to about my situation. Thanks to everyone, looking forward to talking to you guys........Have a great weekend :) If loving him is wrong, I don't want to be right

Welcome to PTO and the 'Met While Incarcerated' Forum. :wave:

My advice is to take things slow... see where it leads you to.