Shortly after I met Sebastian he introduced me to key family members via 3 way calls. His mother and I talked on the phone passing messages back and forth, coordinating visits and just checking in.

Although we live in the same city we didn't meet face to face until he came home. I liked her from the start but from the moment she and I met face to face our relationship has blossomed. We get along great, she and I are close in age and I like to remind myself that she is 3 months OLDER than me! LOL She has even said to him that she wishes she had met me first so she wouldn't have to "share" me with him. LOL.

He has other family members here that he is close to and we all get along great. I feel very fortunate. Now that he is back inside I am so grateful to have his mama by my side.

What has your experience with the family members been like?

Patty

I do hear from Tony's sister now and then. Maybe a couple of lines scribbled on a sheet of paper if she thinks of it. Sorry if I sound a bit peeved about that but I find it hard to understand why she's not been able to visit him in more than 14 years and yet professes to love her brother so much. I did used to call her when I was visiting but the last time we spoke I was told she was 'too tired to talk to me' and that was at 6pm in the evening. He has no other family so I do try hard and I've just sent her a birthday card, but I'd be lying if I said it was easy and I don't feel any closeness to her at all.

I envy you, Patty, having a good relationship with Sebastian's mother. I'd like to get along with Tony's sister for his sake but she makes it very difficult.

Rose

i talk to his mom sister and Aunt Often, Sometimes his cousins.... WE call each other just to share our COMMUNICATIONS with him whether it is through letters, Phone calls or Visits... It feels good to know that they're there to talk and they love knowing that im there for him and he is Doing GREAT (under circumstances):)

Rob has intro'd me to everyone in his family from the start! I have talked to my new mom in law all the time, I went and spent Thanksgiving with her and his two brothers! They are all wonderful! We talk online, due to she is in St Louis Robs home town. I plan on going this summer! :) I talk to his grandmother all the time too! Its like they are already family!

I have met most of Mr's family. His youngest son lived with me for a year (HELL to say the least). His Mom is the only one who I talk to or communicate with. His family is "different" and I'll leave it at that! :D :D

I have not met his family yet he talks about his mom and dad. but he says that we need to work on him and i first before i get to know his family i have plenty of time for that. We have been together for 6 months we talk about marriage we kick that around for a little bit. then i bring up his family again he will say you have plenty of time to meet them. as far as my family they think i need to find someone else they say i can do better. he is finally opening up some about his daughter he would never talk about her at first he would tell me that his daughter is his business and he did not want to talk about her. I let it go and all of a sudden he is talking about her all of the time. i stoped asking to meet his family now he is finally talking to me about his mom and dad so when he is ready i will meet them. i am something else if i do not walk about it he will bring it up lol this is to funny how i get what i want lol.
if we get married i will have to meet them sooner or later they live in florida.

I have met some of my guys family. He isn't very close to his immediate family however I have met his mother and sister. His mother calls often to check in, but her and him have much to work on when he comes home. His daughters on the other hand, I am very close to, their mother takes them to visit their Dad which I think is so great. The girls have been to stay weekends with me, and spent christmas break with me. They are great girls and I love them like my own. As a matter of fact their birthdays are coming up. Three girls turning 17,16 and 15, two his, one mine, within a week of each other the week he comes home. The girl's mother and I are planning something so we girls can spend it together. It is a blessing that she has let me into their lives so that part of our lives has already been established when he comes home.

I get along great with my mans parents, I speak with them at least once a week, at times we go visit him together. The problem i have is with his EX, they have a daughter together and i USE to get along great with her (even before he went to prison) she would even allow me to pick up their daughter to take her to visit him whenever i went, their daughter and my daughter have become close friends and spend every minute out of school together.
The EX found out from his parents that he and I have been talking about marriage and i guess she has a problem with that and now she is making our lives a living hell! She no longer lets me take his daughter on visits or anything, I have tried to be polite and have tired to speak to her about her problems or whatever is going on, nows she's mad at his parents, he called last week to tell me that she (the EX) has told him to put her back on his visiting list so she start bringing his daughter. He said she has in her mind that one day her "family" will be back together and she thought that he and i where going thru a "phase" and it won't last (we've been together 7 years...lol some phase) and even asked him if there was anything she could not to prevent us from getting married...... Does anyone have any advice on what i should do or even how you would respond?? I really not worried about the EX but i dont wanna be the reason he cant see his daughter as much as he used to....any responses, thoughts will be greatly appriecated.

That is intresting cause i wrote my xs baby momma and told her to back off. The only thing that they had in common was the fact of his daughter. That she needed to focus on her relationship with her husband she has now. I made the letter as nice as can be maybe i can post the letter and someone can tell me what they think. she has been acting funky since she got the letter and she is not answereing his calls when he is calling for his daughter and he calls the sisters house to get his daughter and no ne seems to answer. We did not want her to stop him from seeing his child her advances is what he was tired of so he read the letter i sent to him to send to her and then he said all of it sounds good to me and sent it to her. but he slipped up and said i should have never sent her that letter and i felt bad about it

His mom and I keep in touch, and also his sister. His mom is sweet and supportive.

Yes, I am in contact some form or another usually on a weekly basis. Either by phone or email. Once in while a card.

Four months after our wedding, I went to visit them because his sister was getting married and I was able to meet most all of his family and many friends.

His one sister and I also email on a fairly regular basis.

I hear from his family members (aunt, uncle, brother, son, sisters, etc.). They call to see how we're doing and to invite us to events. We visit them as well. I also encourage him to visit them w/o me, so that he can re-kindle his rapport with them and I am quite sure that there are somethings that they would like to discuss w/o me being there. :-)

I truly love his sisters. We understand each other and only want the best for him.

I have contact with a few members of Nuro's family - basically the ones who are in support of him. The numbers are few though. It is kind of strange that in all of these years I have only met 4 of his family members. I talk to more of them on the phone but have never met most of them.

I have wondered about how the first meetings will be with his family once he comes home. The majority of them have not had any contact with him in 20 years so I have no idea what a "homecoming/family reunion" will look like.

yes, I met all of his 6 sisters and 2 brothers and mother, except for one sister who I talk to on a regular basis, she is is Mass...I have known them for about 4 years of the 6 that I know my husband. ;) They have been supportive but somewhat flakey since we are together, which is common I guess...

They will be helping us with the homecoming process :) yet he is somewhat apprehensive about being too close to them because of things that happened in his childhood.

I rent my house from his parents and they live right around the corner from me. I see them every day, or at least talk to them.

I have spoken to his grandmother on the phone and she sent me a Christmas card and I send her pictures of our visits, she is 94 with a bad heart and lives too far to travel. His brother and sister-in-law I met at one visit and spoke to on the phone but they always say they will visit and never do. His whole family knows we got married though.

Yes, and his family is so amazing! I stayed with them when I went to visit him. His mother is so sweet. I was able to talk to her about anything. I think we both really opened up to one another. His little niece loves me to pieces. She became my lil friend. His family feels like my own. I'm so comfortable around them to the point where I feel like I'm part of the family. It's such a great feeling.

I talk to his mom, grandma, and his dad's 2nd ex-wife (his little brothers mom). They are all very supporative. His mom is even helping us buy a house when he come home :) But I have never met them in person as they live 5 hours away and I wasnt able to go home with him before he was sent back from work release.

i speak to his grandmother i have seen photos of her but we have never met she raised him i have also spoken to his children

Both of Jasons parents have passed on. I visit his mothers grave (he hasnt even) and thank her for giving birth to him and to let her know to stop worring because i will take good care of him. I had a great realtionship with his baby brother and he is the one who introduced us. I will hopefully be adopting him soon. His sister is a different story. She is older and they were out of touch for a while. I found her when i was the baby brotehrs therapist, before i met Jason. We had a great professional relationship and she was greatful that i reaunited her with her littlest brother. Once i got involved with Jason i told her to contact him in prison. She thanked me for getting her in touch with Jason too and thinks that I am a great psychologist. She has no idea that i am in love with him and adopting the baby, and i am sort of embarrassed because it is so unprofessional and unethical. We will break it to her soon.

His family can't stand me. They have ill feelings for me since I am raising his son. They thought that I would never let them see him, which is not true. I have no love lost there. I took his sister and her daughters in when she had no place to live. I have custody of his son(from another woman) cause the girfriend he had at the time of his arrest,no intrest in taking him in. His mother(child's grandmother) didn't want to handle the problem. And finally his sister had an ACS case against ger so she couldn't take him, funny thing is that after the case was lifted she still didn't ask me to take him in. So go figure, for me I'm just better without them.

im very close with his family.... i mostly talk to his sister most of the time... and also take his family to see them often...

i have a good relationship with this family... but i was kinda of scared to meet them in the beginning....

One day I got an e-mail from Eric's niece introducing herself and we hit it off big time. Next thing I know we are on the phone and her mom, Eric's sister, Donna, joins in. Then within days I am getting oodles of calls AND e-mails from loads of Eric's family who live out west in California and Arizona. When Eric and I got married this past February 1, 2006, I stayed at Donna's house .... I get along famously with his family and they have welcomed me with open arms.............and houses! LOL

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I talk to his family a lot. I met his younger brothers awhile ago and I used to talk to them a lot. It wasn't until his baby brother was murdered that i met his whole family. But even then it was a good thing. Everyone knew about me and people just kept telling me that they were so glad that Trav has someone who loves him and cares for him. his mom and I write each other and I still talk to his younger brother almost daily. i go see him too. I also think that his family and his friends keep in contact with him more since he and i got together since everytime I go out there its like I remind them that even after 13 years, he is still alive, you guys can write or go see him.

I talk with his dad, mom, sisters, nieces, cousins, aunts, ect....I talk with them all. They are all very nice and we all get along fine. His mom and I keep in touch and use to go visit him together and hopefully we will soon be doing that again. I try to go visit them as much as possible, but since I'm still in school and have a part time job, it's hard to sometimes. I really like being around his family though!

Yes, I have contact with his family through letters, cards, and such. However, we haven't formally met. He has told them about me and he is eager for us to meet.

He is their only child and it's a somewhat strange but yet close connection...I am the only contact between him and them. His mom is a control freak and kinda nutsy and he doesn't even want to see her, and I don't blame him, but she and I get along OK. His dad is a great, great guy. I have become sort of their substitute kid. Sometimes I don't think his mom thinks I am good enough for him, other times its like she is trying to scare me off him- whatever. His dad always slips me a few bucks toward visits and packages. I love them very much, we talk at least every week.

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sorry

I talk to Travis's whole family, his Dad, step MOM, SIS, Brother, and MOM and his BEST FRIEND. Oh and his Grandparents as well, They all LOVE me and cant wait for me to move up to there town which im doing this year. They all call me Travis's wife even though we are not married YET. and they accept my four children as Travis's cuz they know that he is going to adopt them and take them on as his own. They are the best and I wouldnt be able to make it with out them. They even call me on his bday cuz they cant call him. I LOVE them to death and am so grateful that the children and I finally have a family to call our own.

I talk to his mom & sister every now and then. I've talked to his dad a few times it's hard because he only speaks Spanish... So it's cute tryin to talk to him he just laughs at me and my broken Spanish:D .
I'll be makin a trip to NY here pretty soon and will get to meet alot of them! By myself I 'm soooooo nervous!!!!!!!!! For the first time and I'll be visitin him as well for the first time face to face.....

Im very close to Jerry's mum. We talk on the phone for a couple of hours 2-3 times a week. Ive met her in person whenever ive flown over there. She always makes the effort to get to Atlanta to see me (his family live in Alabama). Ive spoken with his sister and dad a couple times on the phone. One time his sister, one of his brothers, his sister-in-law, mum and neice came on a visit when i was there (intentionally to meet me ;) ). They all seem to be okay... but his mum is fantastic. I love her to pieces! :)

My husband's mother is deceased and his father doesn't exist to him although he is alive. He has a 20 year old son from a previous relationship (he was only 3 months old when his father left for his bid) that I refer to as Son because like my own two daughters, I love him as though I gave birth to him myself. He also has an older brother and sister with whom I talk to often and visit at least twice a year like this past Christmas. He has other relatives like a cousin who was his best man at our wedding and a couple of close friends that have managed to stick by him since he's been incarcerated. So life is good and when he joins us, life will be even better.:thumbsup:

David gave me all of his mother's info even before I got out of CJ and during one of our first phone calls, he asked me to call her to get some paperwork that he needed me to work on for him... I met her at a visit about 2 weeks after I got out and we ended up spending the whole afternoon together... he was floored by this... he tells me that his mother has never wanted anything to do with any girl that he has dated... says that most times, she won't even acknowledge their being there... he said that HE knew that we were meant to be when his mother would ask for me during that month that him and I were not talking... he says that she asked for me everytime she went to see him... to this day, we spend time together and talk on the phone... I was having some issues with our situation that whole week, but last night, she called and we were on the phone for 2 1/2 hours talking about him and she really just made me fall in love all over again... then, on top of that... I've met and become very close with his G-ma, she is the most important person in this world to him and to know that she too has accepted me, also makes things that much easier!! I LOVE HIM!!

That is so great that you have that kind of a connection with his family! Some people don't even have that with their own family and you just lucked out. I wish you and Travis all the best. Damn I love hearing that name, my husband and step-son are Travis' as well!


I talk to Travis's whole family, his Dad, step MOM, SIS, Brother, and MOM and his BEST FRIEND. Oh and his Grandparents as well, They all LOVE me and cant wait for me to move up to there town which im doing this year. They all call me Travis's wife even though we are not married YET. and they accept my four children as Travis's cuz they know that he is going to adopt them and take them on as his own. They are the best and I wouldnt be able to make it with out them. They even call me on his bday cuz they cant call him. I LOVE them to death and am so grateful that the children and I finally have a family to call our own.

I met his dad before I met him... we are pretty good friends. His dad is a former inmate, a good-hearted person who is struggling a lot to keep his job and do right. We check in when we can.

Just recently, I met his younger cousin, a really great kid and I think we are also destined to be friends. He's in the Air Force and just got sent to Iraq so we're all praying he'll be home safe by summer.

Ooops, I almost forgot! Me and his mom talk on the phone a little but have never met face to face.

That is so great that you have that kind of a connection with his family! Some people don't even have that with their own family and you just lucked out. I wish you and Travis all the best. Damn I love hearing that name, my husband and step-son are Travis' as well!

I am really lucky, cuz the sperm donor to my children, all four have the same one, well his family disowned us when I turned in my X for molesting my children. So now they have AUNTS UNCLES Grandparents and Great Grandparents again that wont let anything happen to them and that LOVE THEM as if they were Travis's. YES TRAVIS IS A GREAT NAME LOL

how are yall to have 3 way call, because if they let jesse call me it is collect and for 5 minutes. And only 1 time a month.

I am in contact with some of his family (his mom, one grandma, and his former stepmom &half brother), I have never mat them face to face. But talk to them on a regular basis. I didn't not even talk to him until he was sent back from PATC. Then I was the one who had to call and break the news to the family :( And that started our relationship....

i've met much of his family, but i am very protective of him and many of them i don't like, so i do what i feel is neccessary to have him not be hurt by them (he's a grown man but he's still MY baby). i have a great relationship with his brother (he came 2200 miles to cook for me once! LOL) and his aunt is like my savior and connection to him when we aren't together (she was there for the birth of my last baby :D). i am thankful for them...they are the ones who let me know that he does have people that love him and want the best for HIM, not THEM. as far as everyone else goes...i respect them because they're his family, but i won't trust them until they give me reason to.

I met Deon's mom, dad, brothers, aunts, cousins, & friends about 3 months after we got together. Unfortunately he and I don't communicate with his mom anymore, but we still have contact with some of his other family members.

Matter of fact, one of his brothers now dates my sister! It's nice because my kids were already referring to his brother as their uncle. We're just one big happy family, waiting on Deon to come home!

. . . but he slipped up and said i should have never sent her that letter and i felt bad about it
I agree -- you shouldn't of sent it to her -- you should have sent it to her husband so he could check his wife. Because she wants to play games with the child which is the one who in the end pays, I would take this opportunity to communicate with her hubby because she has now taken it too far.

I had to meet my husband's family before accepting his proposal and we've been in communication ever since.

I have tried to reach out to his folks in Ohio. His aunt tho that really had anything to do with him....me and her had a fall out. Well it wasn't cause of me. She went back and told TOmmy that she thought I was a COP. Yeah, of all things a COP? Why, U must ask? Because I decided to be dedicated to him and find out all I could...thru prosecutors web site and transcripts and all that...but yet I freaked her out and she avoided me and stopped taking Tommys calls, wouldn't write to him, and sure stopped with the $$ around Xmas time that she always did....all because she said IM a COP! Tommy found it rather funny that his family would even be like that but we knew it wasn't gonna stop anything. By the way she just wrote him out of no where last week and half and basicaly told him why shes been mad this long and how I was never gonna help him etc. He responded back with a letter basically saying "shes done more for me then U guys ever did even in a short time and U accept her or U don't accept me". -shrugs- i wonder what kind of response thats gonna get. She shouldn't of labeled me right off bat when I was the one offering her the things I could print out to her since she was never able to go to his past court dates. Everything I found was public...I didn't need to dig but I guess some ppl lead sheltered lifes!!!

So no I haven't met his parents or her. The only one I get along with and have love for is his brother whos back doing time for a parole violation in Pickaway. I would of liked to of gotten to know them tho....but sadly I wasn't given that chance.

~Bella~

I talk to his sister all the time. Talked to his mom a few times but she's hard to deal with....and have recently been in contact with his brother and uncle. They basically have all just sorta left him high and dry so he truly only has me to fully rely on.....but they are coming around....

I haven't ever met anyone in his family. His mom and her boyfriend just went to Federal Prison for 71/2 years for drug charges. I know he has a sister and he mentioned his dad and his grandparents a couple of times. I'm not going to push anything like that because we have only been writing a few months. If it is meant to happen it will.

I speak with my fiance's mom every 3 days. And we met via 3 way phone calls. She was feeling me out to make sure I wasn't just playing with his emotions thats her baby boy and he means the world to her. She knows my feelings for her son is genuine and we have a great relationship. Can't say the same about his baby mother's and I. But his three kids can't wait until the wedding, and thats all that matters to us. They are the past and I am the present and future.

I have been fortunate enough to be able to meet his Mom and step dad, both are very cool people, I got to meet them on a visit, but I had talked on the phone and emailed with his mom a few times before that. I have also talked to his sisters a lot, I look forward in meeting the rest of his family soon.

Rebeca

I haven't met any of his family. He did give me all of their addresses once he was sent back for a leave violation and I have sent out a letter to his sister, aunt and daughter to introduce myself and to advise them of his new location. He's talked about them a lot so I'm hoping they will stay in touch.

I talk to his sister in law on yahoo messenger now and then and we email. I have gotten one email from his birthmother as he calls her, but never got a reply back. I had contact with his baby mama too, because she believed that I was a CO where he was at and didn't believe that I live in Europe. I must admit that I have to agree with his opinion on his family, they say always that they'll do this and that but it never happens. The only one I really care to get in touch with is his son, so I'm waiting until he's old enough to e-mail me :)

I do speak with his mother quit often, I'll call her and send her cards on the holidays, to let her know that I'm thinking about her as well as her son

talking about cards, I send birthday cards for his son to him, so he can give them to him when he gets released.

Tim gave me his sister's email and told me to contact her, and to send a couple photos of us to her. Well its been four days since I sent it off and no reply. Im starting to wonder if I should have sent it at all. We are getting married, I should know his family, but it appears Im the only one who is thinking like this.

liberaldog don't give up hope, some of us are on the internet 24/7 but I have friends and family that only sign on and check their mail every week or so. It might not be personal.

Patty