Ok, I know I met Raven when he was down. So we have no free world experience. yet how can a house not feel like a home, or a bed feel totally empty, because he is not there. I feel like my other half is missing. Funny considering he has never been with me here.

Any body understand what I am feeling? Do you guys feel the same way?

I know exactly how you feel. By the time Sebastian was paroled he knew the exact layout of my home. We had talked about it so often. In the days before I could picture him in the doorway, on a certain chair, etc...

Now that he's been with me and helped me move into what will be our home when he is free AGAIN, I feel the same....

Patty

I feel that way all the time. I live with my mom so I'm not alone per say. But I do not feel like this is my home, my home is where we live together. He once told me that he can't wait until he comes home to where we live, because that's the first time he'll be coming home, I told him that the moment he walks out my home will be coming to me.

yes, everything is temporary and unsettled and the bed's too big for sure!!! we have never lived together either. how did he leave such a big hole in my existence?

how did he leave such a big hole in my existence?

Oh my that is exactly what I was trying to say!

Ohh yeah I feel lost without Rob! He is my soul mate and without him I am not complete!

So girl you are not alone I promise you that!!

I ditto everything you all say. I'd lived alone for many years before Tony came in to my life but he's missed all the time. I even send him colour charts when I'm thinking of redecorating so that he can choose a colour scheme, and it's always the choice I've made myself!! Plus I have his drawings and paintings hanging everywhere. he sees a bare wall in a photo and the next time I visit I've got something to hang on it.


Rose.

I have to agree with all of you! Thats why I feel this is SO RIGHT for us!!

I absolutely agree with you all, it is good to see so many relationship started the same way mine did. I know when this all started for me I thought I was the only one. It is so funny that even though he has never been to our home, he knows when I am in a particular part of the house because of certain noises or echos. I think their hearing becomes very good when they are incarcerated because he can hear everything that is going on in the house when he calls...

I've been taking pictures of the rooms in the house to send him. He's anxious to come home and says it's what keeps him going. It's still a year and 8 months away.

Well I have sent my husband pictures of the home I am in now. However, when he gets to come home, we will be moving to another place.

I can't really say that I don't feel like it is home without my husband, however, I feel that he needs to be here since we are married and I do so wish that I could make that possible now rather than later.

I use to wonder how I could miss someone who was never here.

I agree understand and relate!!

amazing isn't it?

I can relate to everything everyone has said. I have our girls at home with me now so I am not alone per se. One thing I did to help incorporate Nuro in our home is when I was decorating I would send him pictures of stuff I liked to get his opinion and try to incorporate some of his likes too. For instance red is his favorite color; so my bed has red linens on it. I tried to incorporate his sense of style in with mine to make it feel like ours.

I may feel very different about all of this if he is not home before the girls go off to college. I have never lived alone and I ain't so sure how I would handle it???

I know exactly how you feel!! I just moved so he will feel it is our place as opposed to my place. BUt we picked out the decorations together and it really feels like he is supposed to be here. Sooo weird right? I sleep on my side of the bed without even thinking about it. It is like he used to be on the other side, but he never was. CRAZY

He wants us to buy a house together because he feels like this is my home, when he finally gets home I will have lived here with my kids for almost 9 years, so I understand his feelings. But until then, I reassure him that everything that is mine is his to enjoy and we will get something together when the time is right!

Well, yes I do feel alone without him here and it's very irritating, especially lately....our daughter just turned one and is doing things that he can only hear or read about.
I just moved a month ago however by the time he gets out I'll be way across the U.S.

I fell you 100%!! I always try to ask Jerry his opinion about all aspects of our lives... the home decor and the overall decisions. The void that i have day to day just goes to show me how much we were MEANT to be!

Yes, I feel the same way. Although he's never "been" with me outside of prison, and we've never been together before in that respect, I feel an empty space when we're not on the phone or reading/writing letters to each other.

He is my home and I his...its very real this feeling and I feel it all the time.
him too...he wants to come "home" and can't wait

i wake up EVERYDAY and look at the empty side of the bed...and i sigh a real heavy sigh. yes...i know what you mean...and yes...i want my hubby home.

I also feel you girl, I use to say how can you miss somebody you never knew, but thats exactly how I feel, I miss him so much, although I never seen him face to face

I totally know how you feel! I miss him so so much!!!