Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Please tell us as much or as little as you like about yourself so we can all get to know and support one another better. Please use this thread for introductions ONLY.

Patty

Hi my name is Patty and I originally met my man during the Summer of 2003 via a misdialed call from County jail. We hit it off and began writing and talking on the phone and in December of that year I came face to face with him in a crowded visiting room.

We did 14 months together before his release. Things were great when he came home although the conditions of parole and lack of employment opportunities became a burden very quickly. In January 2006, 16 months after his release he went back to prison and will max out and I find myself waiting again in this next chapter of our lives...

It is often said that these types of relationships don't stand much of a chance. I have to say I've never been fond of being a statistic so perhaps that is why I try harder, not to mention the fact that he is worth it. I could go on and on but I'm gonna give others a chance to introduce themselves. I look forward to getting to know everyone who "Met While Incarcerated".

All the best,
Patty

Ok I'll go first most of you know I met my man while I was a c/o in the institution were he was. That was over two years ago. The full story is in another thread. Patty you are right there is a whole new set of issues when you meet your man while he is down. First and foremost alot of people think just because you met him that way he can't love you. He is using you. The usual stuff we all hear. But that can be percieved two ways. He also didn't disrespect us by commiting a crime while in a relationship. Didn't choose crime or drugs over us. So there are good and bad either way you look at it.

Thanks for making this forum. I look forward to many good threads.

Ravenslove

I met my fiancé through a pen pal ad. I did not respond to the ad hoping for a relationship, it was the exact opposite, I was looking for a friend who wouldn't judge me. I found my best friend and soulmate. We haven't met yet, but I plan on going out there this summer, and moving to be closer to him so we can start our life together when he gets out.

We have been together for over a year now, and are engaged.

Many people think I am crazy because of this relationship, but when there is a connection as strong as the one we have, you can't deny its exsistance. I have faced a lot of critizism all over the place because of our relationship and the circumstances surrounding it, but I wouldn't have met him if it wasn't for this.

I'm glad to see that we have a forum where we can talk about issues that pertain to this kind of relationship!

I also met my fiance while working as a deputy in our county. I worked at the jail he was incarcerated in and he was one of the trusty's. I used to pick on him and he thought I was so stuck up. I would go out and smoke in the rec yard where he was housed and even though he hates cigarettes he would come out and sit with me. We started talking and when he was shipped to prison I quit working at the jail. When he was released from prison, I went with his mom to pick him up. After a short friendship, we began what has turned into the most powerful relationship other than motherhood I have ever been a part of. He recently went back to jail and has since been transfered to prison. He is up for parole right now and if he is denied we will not be reunited until 06-09-07. We have been unable to visit each other during this 10 months of his being in jail because of the county jails "immediate family only" rule. Once he is finally released we will marry and become "joined at the hip". He is my best friend, my soulmate, and a big part of my future.

5 years ago I answered a pen pl ad and began what was a 3 year relationship with a lifer in Michigan. The relationship was hard due to the different states we were in. It ended for alot of different reasons, but not because of the time he had to do.
2 years ago I began communicating with Kevin, who is my guy now. Things developed with us steadily and we've been through some bad things together. We were looking for his release last August, but the parole board didn't see it that way. He's due to be released this August. We've had quite a few things come up, but we have the type of relationship that just moves on through it all.
I look forward to hearing the stories from everyone and seeing this forum grow.

Hi all :) I'm with whiskeylullabye (apologies if i spelled that wrong - its 12.18am here lol) anyhow, i got bored one night last summer, was surfing around the net, and landed up on a prison pempal site. Tell you the truth - my best pal's husband was 'inside' (as we say) for 12 months over here in the UK. Anyhow, was looking around for a UK penpal site - couldnt find one and google kept bring up US ones - so being nosey, i popped in - two days later sent an email off (they forward them) and Adrian replied.
At the time, was going through a REALLY bad time with my ex (the childrens dad) and a couple of letters later - i poured it all out (court and custody was looming) - Adrian was just SOOOOOOOOO caring and understanding and came out with sucj FANTASTIC advice and support that a bond developed.
Looking back i feel SO selfish - there is HIM stuck in a cell and going through all that he does, and HE was supporting ME !!!

Well, things calmed back down here (the ex got zero contact) and it dawned on me - this guy had been SO selfless and caring - like NO-ONE had ever been for me before.
Well - as the months went by, we've got closer and closer and well....time will tell (and BOY do we have LOADS of that - he's not up for his first parole until 2019) :D

Hello all I met my mom threw his grandmother,my mom and her are good friends.I didnt even want to write him but they kept telling me how lonely he was.Writing him was the best thing I ever did,He's not only the love of my life,he's also my best friend.

I'm lisa and I ment my sweetie billy thru a penpal ad. we've been talking for a few months. we are waiting to hear the decision of his first parole hearing. we have so much in common and am looking forward to knowing him on the outside.

Good Evening! I am Ronnie and I met my husband, Nuro, thirteen years ago inside. I was visiting my cousin. My cousin and I walked into the photo room to have our pictures taken and there he was. He was the "picture man" that day. Our eyes met and we were smitten from that point on.:D He slipped me his number without my cousin knowing and 6 months later we were married. We have been living this life, loving strong and going strong since.:thumbsup:

Hi everyone. I met my man through a friend. (We wont go into that right now.LOL:) LLOOONNNGG story:) ) We have been talking for 3 years almost. I still have not met him face to face but hopefully that will happen sooner then later. Its hard to believe that I can miss him as much as I do, without ever "meeting" him, but I do. :) When we started talking I definately was not looking for a new relationship but I fell in love, what can I say.:D Now I can not imagine my life without him in it. Some things are just meant to be, I guess. ;)

Ronnie, I have seen you around and had no idea you met that way of have been together that long. How romantic!

I love reading your posts.

Maria

ps how are you losing your weight and keep going your doing great. I always check your ticker.

Hello to all the other people on this forum. It looks like it will be a fun ride here.

Hi there I met my pal through a member of a pen pal site and she had asked me to write him and I did, we started off real slow, just getting to know one another and our feelings grew gradually. Its not something that happened over night. And for those who say "you don't really know your man" well... I think we can all come to the conclusion we know our men pretty well, people on the outside sometimes dont even know their partners very well. We now have been talking about getting married and all that good stuff. I am planning to go visit him in June I think, it will be my first visit. I cannot wait. He is my best friend. And I cannot see my life without him. And no one can tell me different :)

Hi everyone

Love this forum :)

I met my Erin through a penpal ad.
12 years ago I was in college taking a few psychology courses and this one particular course was "criminal psychology". The students and teacher were talking about how cool it would be to have the insight of a prisoner into the prison system in the US - if we could somehow start writing to one. That was before the internet so nothing happened with this back then.

Well, I was browsing on the net one night over 3 years ago and stumbled on a prisoner penpal site and instantly remembered that class I took. Browsed through about a 100 ads and Erin was the only one who caught my attention, both because we're the same age and also because he was incarcerated in the same year I lived in the US.
So I wrote him, told him about the course I took a long time ago and if he was willing to answer my ignorant questions, he replied more than willing to - said that he liked my interest in this. So we gradually became very good friends, I went to visit him and we fell instantly in love at that 6 hour visit.

I've only seen him face-to-face this one time but we have been dedicated to each other ever since. He will get out this year or early next year. He's going to work and go to school when he's released. I'm going to finish my school and we'll take it from there. That will give him time to readjust to society on his own terms and it will give us time to evolve our relationship gradually into a "normal" relationship without too much pressure on him.

I love this man with everything I've got and obviously we want to be together yesterday - but we don't want to be part of the break-up statistics so we decided to let time work with us instead of against us. Either it will work out this way or it won't. But we're optimistic :D

Hello all !!

Rob and I met while I worked at the regional jail in the medical unit :) We talked non stop for months til I decided to quit to be with him. Before I did he asked me to marry him on his knees in booking in front of COs lol they all knew us and that we were going or were together they for the most part was happy for me!

We are to be getting married this year we are hoping! I cant wait! He is my soulmate and I knew that from the first time we met! He makes my heart melt! I love him more than words can say!

So, hello to all who know me and Hello and welcome to those that dont!!

Sarah Moats
A.K.A DUBZ baby girl

I forgot to say I think its really great we have this part of the forum where we can come and talk and help eachother :) Im sure Im going to need it. :)

Rob's Angel Congrats on your upcoming wedding.

Hi,

I've been a member of PTO for a long time. I originally met my guy when a friend's daughter asked if I wanted to write an inmate. We started writing 3 years ago this month. He is a lot younger than I, and several times, for his "own good" I tried to call off our relationship and I tried to move on, but I always ended up hearing from him, and writing to him again. I finally admitted to him, and myself, that I love him and now things are finally great between us.

In the beginning we had a lot of problems with requests he made of me, but I set him straight, and at times, lost contact, but we have talked it through, he has apologized and we've moved on.

I have met him when he was closer to where I live. Now I will see him again when I can. We talk on the phone several times a week and I write him every day. We have plans for the future.

So, there's my introduction! This is a good forum where those of us in this situation can talk.

I just found this forum. Thanks, Patty, for pointing me in the right direction.

I met Tony through replying to an ad in my Amnesty International magazine. It was for one of the many organisations that befriend those on Death Row. They were asking for writers who could make life a little better for someone who had nobody in their lives. I was given Tony's name and address and promised myself there was no way I was going to fall in love. Famous last words!! As the months passed I realised I was falling for this guy, and I was convinced of his innocence. When he asked me to marry him in 2002 there was no hestation on my part. I'd found my soul mate and nobody could convince me I was wrong. Tony asked that we waited until after we knew what Ryan was going to do, and we are both sorry we decided to do that. In 2003 Menard stopped all marriages. If we hadn't waited we would be legally husband and wife now, As it is I changed my name to his 3 years ago and I'm accepted as his wife and down as his next of kin in all records.

As Illinois inmates aren't allowed overseas phone calls we have to rely on the mail service to keep in touch but as I get over 2 or 3 times a year that's really not so bad. I could move across the pond but your lack of health care puts me off doing that, plus Tony really wants us to live in England once he's exonerated, which he will be, it's just a question of time!!

Tony is younger than me and sometimes that does concern me but once we're together it doesn't matter at all. I only worry about it when I'm not with him and he gets quite annoyed with me if I mention it, so I don't anymore.

PTO keeps me in touch with what's happening in Illinois and I'm very pleased I found it.

Rose

Hey everyone!!

Well, 8 years ago I got a letter from a stranger. He had my name and address as he was friends with my ex b/f. When he found out that Scott and I were not together any more he wrote me a very nice letter. I answered with anger, pain and was just plain rude to him.

The next day I felt guilty about being so nasty to a man who was simply asking for a pen pal so I wrote back and apologized. We actually fell in love before we even had pictures of each other. We met close to a year later and that only cemented our relationship and love.

We married in 2000 and have gone thru some tough times, but what ever happens we get thru it. Mr. D will be home in May so those unknown steps will take place. I know everything will be tough, but we'll make it!!

I'm looking forward to this forum and talking about the unique things we share here!

Hey everybody, as some of you already know I met my guy while he was incarcerated and I worked as a nurse at the facility. When I joined PTO, I knew nothing of being in a relationship with an inmate, the roller coaster ride I had willingly, by falling in love, had just climbed on. And a roller coaster ride it has been, I learned so much through you all here and through him there. I am glad this forum is here for us, thanks to everybody who answered my posts, gave me information, gave me support, who replied to my PM's, esp you Patty...I will continue to come back here to offer support and information even after he comes home...

Staci

I have been with Ike for 6 for 6 months i had answered a pen pal add and he kept writeing me and telling me that i would never be disappointed. he kept writeing me and asking me when i was going to come and see him and i would never answer him. so i called myself sneaking down there with out him knowing i was coming. so i went down there the guards there are kind of rude i enjoyed my time with him but i was upset cause we did not get to take pictures. the camera guy was out playing ball instead of in the visiting room doing his job. anyway i am off track. i wrote him and 4 others i got his letter which he was the one that i hoped to be with and look at me now i have him. he tried pushing me away and everything after awhile he just quit doing it.

I was sure this forum wasn't here yesterday !!! Obviously it was opened during the European night while I was sleeping like a sweet lil angel. :D

Hi everybody :wave:

I'm Phil and I met Joey beginning of March 2002 on a penpal ads website. It was a rainy afternoon and I was surfing the web from one site to another the same way you move from one word to another when reading a dictionnary.

It was something very unusual for me, I didn't know inmates could put ads on the net and actually I didn't know ( care ?) much about inmates. The only thing I had ever done was to fight against the DP which was eventually abolished in France in 1981. :)

Anyway, the curiosity killed the cat so I clicked on the first URL, and there he was. :D They were displaying some pics of inmates on the homepage and Joey was one of them. And he was THE ONE. :D I then clicked on his pic to read his ad, and that's where I found out that not only he was cute but he was also gay. :)

His ad was about his age, the reasons why he was incarcerated, what he liked and that he was looking for friend and not a lover since he would be released in 2012.

I was not looking for a friend let alone for an incarcerated lover :rolleyes: but I decided to read the other ads and ended up spending like 2 or 3 hours on this website !!! :eek: :rolleyes: Of course I would keep checking Joey's ad again and again. :p

Then I started a letter then stopped then start again stop start and so on.... He was looking for a friend and at this point I had no idea whether I would be ready to commit for a long term penpal friendship. Writing letters seemed awkward to me as I usually called or e-mailed people. Also I wanted to be sure I could be a true friend, not one who's writing for like 2 or 3 weeks and then stops because he's too lazy or has something better to do. So I did not write the letter. I did it on the following day. :p I almost thought about that the whole night and then I wrote him a 2 pages letter. :)

I got his answer on March the 19th. I was in Le Mans attending an antics fair in the morning and when I got back to Paris in the afternoon there was this strange letter with this big red stamped mark on it "mailed from a state correctional institution". :)

I read his letter over and over. He was so surprised to get a letter all the way from France. :D I answered him the same day and it all started... :) We fell in love end of May and almost 4 years after we are still together. :)

I visited him for the first time last November (it was AWESOME !!!) and will come back next May. :)

Phil

Hello everyone.

Some of you might know that I met my friend when I visited the prison w/ my job (1990) for a community outreach initiative. I must admit, at first I was not too impressed w/ him. I thought he was arrogant and pushy. A week after the event, I received a letter from him at my job. I was shocked. I replied b/c I did not want him to think that I thought he was beneath me. Don't ask why this mattered. :)

Prior to meeting him, he had been in 8 ½ years. Over the course of the years, we communicated via writing only as friends. As the years progressed, we began to exchange feelings of love. Once this occurred, I visited him.

We kept in touched, talked about our feelings our future, etc. Somewhere along the way, I became weary and only focused on the friendship and lessened my visits and correspondences. He always told me that whenever he came home, he would look for me. I thought, yea right. I just knew that I would have been married when he came home, b/c he was looking at an additional 10 years, etc.

During this time I had been in several relationships; however, for some reason, they just did not cut the mustard; even though they had good jobs, well off financially, had their own homes, businesses, etc. I just couldn’t connect and was not interested in marrying any of them.

Well, 12 years later (2002), he was released and he did call. I was surprised when I heard the message, especially when there was no operator in the background. :)

He was pre-released to a half way house I visited one week after his arrival and we talked as friends. Well, we began to re-connect and decided to start off as friends and see where things would lead us.

What’s so strange about all of this is because a few years prior to meeting him, I attended a singles retreat at my church; only b/c the committee that I was on had sponsored the program. One of the female speakers stated that some of us in the audience would marry men who had been in prison. Man, when she said this, I got so angry b/c I felt the nerve of her and why would she say that to us, b/c she was not providing any hope. I automatically shut her out. She went on to say that we needed to pray our husbands out of prison. I thought, such foolish talk.

A few years after the singles retreat a female minister ran a revival at our church and stated that some of us would marry men that had been incarcerated and that we needed to pray our men out of prison. Talk about seething. Again, I became angry and felt that they were not providing any hope, for why would we want men who had been in prison (this was my thinking before my encounter w/ my friend). She was speaking from experience, b/c she met her husband while he was incarcerated and stated that great men come from prison.

I never thought about those two meetings until a few years ago and had to laugh. :-) Seeing as though I was one of the women in the audience who ended up w/ someone who had been in prison. I was able to inform both of the women that their words had come to life and what I thought about their words when I first heard them. They laughed. :)

When I look back on things, I realize that God has a great sense of humor and was preserving me for one that he had ordained for me. I have no regrets w/ my choice and am extremely happy that he is in my life. Now, there are days when the man works my nerves, but I love me some him. :)

I know that he is my soul mate and daily, I thank God for allowing us to me. I often tell my friend that I am grateful for his badness, b/c this is how we met. :) He has been consistent from the time we've developed our friendship/relationship. He is a man of his word.

He is a wonderful man and I would not change him for anything in the world. When men try to talk to me, I automatically let them know that I am with someone and would not do anything to jeopardize what I have with him. I know that he’s a gift; therefore I am extremely appreciative of what I’ve been blessed with.

Oops, didn’t mean to bore you or post to much but when I saw the thread, it brought out so much in me.

Patty, as always great post. You always provide posts that get us to think; therefore, providing therapy sessions. Girl, I owe you. I know my tab w/ you is over due and high. I'll see you at my next thearpy lesson. You probaly wondering when am I going to get up off this couch. :-) Well as long as he's on parole, I am quite sure I'll always need some type of therapy. :-)

Have a great day everyone.

Well actually I met my husband quite by chance. I had been writing a friend of his whose ad I answered. There was never anything more than friendship with us, as I was not interested in him only to write him and perhaps try and cheer him up as he has no family alive on the outside.

Anyway during that time, he sent me my husband's picture as he wanted me to have some copies made for him. Which I did and sent them back to my pen pal.

I always would ask how he was doing and if there was anything else I could help with to let me know.

Well my pen pal moved to another prison and our relationship soured and I knew it was over between us.

So, I wrote my husband just to inform him that we had broken up, but if there was anything that I could do for him, to just let me know and I would try to do it.

I got a letter three days later, asking me if I would write him since I was no longer involved.

I thought why not, I love to write and perhaps I could help him out with friendship as his family lives in another state and had only been to visit once.

Well the letters just kept getting longer and longer and they were more like novels.

I found myself sharing and caring and opening up to him as if he was a long lost friend. Here in Kentucky you can only be put on a visiting list twice a year during certain months. So, I believe it was somewhere between 5-6 months before I could visit. Then things really blossomed.

That first visit was kind of scary for me, but we had both seen pictures of each other, so due to a nice group of visiting officers, we had a really great first visit.

I can't really say it was love at first site because I certainly was not looking to get married again. I had been divorced for 22yrs by then and quite comfortable with living alone.

But you know how it is when that love bug bites, it bites hard and we were married the following year.

I love my husband with all of my heart and I only wish that he were home with me. It is so tough leaving him behind each week.

This too shall pass though, because they can't keep him forever. Long enough, but not forever. I long for the day when my phone will ring and he will be on the other end telling me to come pick him up.

Really he said he had thought about surprising me and just showing up at my door. I told him don't even think about it. As if he could really find me as he hasn't a clue about the area and they certainly don't have access to maps in there.

I thank God everyday for this chance to love again and be able to share my love with another caring person who loves me equally back.

Who is next? Great forum Patty. Thanks for giving birth to it.

he knew my then husband. We would talk on the phone (platonic) and write letters. It was based purely on friendship. I was always there to hear him out when he had a bad day or whatever and he was there for me too.

Last year my ex left us for another chick, and he comforted me. Months later we admitted that we like each other and we're getting married sooner than soon. We never did anything inappropriate when I was still married.

I first met my husband in 2002, through an internet pen pal site. Within 2 months I drove 6 hours to meet him and his family then a few months later we were married. It was difficult for me society, my mom and some members of his family were against it. I asked for divorce and he granted it. Last year he sent me a birthday card, from there we slowly started writing to each other again. Thankfully now he is less then an hour from me. In October i went and visited him since our divorce, it was three years since I last seen him. In Nov. we started the marriage process once again. I'm proud to say that I'm a Mrs. again as of Feb. 9th! :D

hi, I am Jen...

I met my husband in a picture...about 7 years ago...through a friend, and then later he wrote to me...we wrote for a year as friends, and then in person, I started to visit often and then 2 years later we were married ... almost 6 years later and two hits at the parole board and he will be home soon!

I know that he is my soul mate and daily, I thank God for allowing us to me. I often tell my friend that I am grateful for his badness, b/c this is how we met. He has been consistent from the time we've developed our friendship/relationship. He is a man of his word.

Thunder this is wonderful...and I feel the same way!

I am so excited about this forum. I met my husband when another inmate on his cell block gave him my address, he wrote to me. We met face to face and we already had feelings for eachother but it was love at first site and a year and a half later we got married. My man is a lifer too and my family and lots of friends don't agree with my decision but I am very happy. I have three children who love him and he claims them, my ex is a deadbeat and he never has contact with us, two of my children asked him if they can call him Daddy, and he loves them, I believe that man would walk threw fire for them if he had too. Even though we only see him about 2-3 times a month we have become a solid family unit despite his circumstances.

Well my story is kind of difficult to explain on here but I used to work inside a facility and got involved with a guy. Things didn't work out but I was still worried about him so I wrote to one of his friends and asked him to keep an eye out for him. His friend wrote back and we started writing as friends. He supported me through some tough stuff and things developed. We wrote for 5 months, then talked on the phone for 2 more months until I was finally able to visit him. Unfortunately they were non-contact visits because of his level. At the end of January he was finally transferred to a lower level and we had our first contact visit on Feb 2! First kiss and first hug were very nice to say the least. I am always looking forward to the next visit, the next call and the next letter! He is a wonderful man and I am blessed to know him.

hi my name is sharon i met mt hunny 5 years ago we started out as p/p we sre still as strong as ever i finally got to come out to see him as sq in oct 05 it was really scarey and now im coming out to see him this june so now i know how the system work i might be a bit more relaxed than the last time

:wave: Hi! AWESOME FORUM!!!

I have known my sweet blue eyed man for 25 years. I had a major crush on him in jr high, I was placed in states custoday at the end of jr high and moved from girls home to girls home and on with my life!

I knew he went to prison when I heard he shot that girl, it broke my heart. I still hadn't written him at that point, continued on with my life! Two years ago a very close friend of mine went to jail then prison, it brought back my memory of Andrew going to prison and I decided to reach out to him with support and friendship. He remembered me right away as the giggly girl on the school bus who always played walk like an egyptian! :ha: ya for real :ha: We wrote a lot, getting closer every day, beginning to have feelings and finally I was approved to visit. I loved him before that day and have fallen more in love with him every day since! He was brougth into my life and I am very thankful for that, everything happens for a reason and we are able to grow close emotionally before we add sex in the mix! We just recently started talking about marrying while he is in. He wants to build his relationship with my kids and they do too but they can't visit unless we are married. We had already planned a 2009 wedding, but now we might just do it while hes in and then again in 2009!!!!!!!

Anyways, thats my story! LOL

I met my boo (haven't found a good title for him yet) through a pen pal site. We write several times a week and I'm looking forward to visiting in March. He has asked me to marry him but I think we need a little more time before we take that step. Still, he's very loving and caring and we're talking about raising a family together and all of that good stuff. He's up for parole in 2008.

I met my guy through a penpal ad. I was just looking to do something nice for someone on death row, I had no intention of falling in love, but thats what happened. He asked me to marry me on Saturday, and Im on top of the world.

I met my husband back in 2000 while I was a CO at the unit he was and still is at. We were cool, he was different then alot of the dudes there, he never asked me for anything or tryed anything. I enjoyed talking to him, because he never crossed the line with me. I only worked there for about a year, not the job for me. I wrote him, just to let him know I was ok and that I had quit. I only intended to let him know I was gone and that I was ok, but we started writing each other, that was back in November 2001. It has been a long hard road from there to here, haveing to fight TDCJ for our visits after waiting the 24 months, but we won. We got married July 8, 2005 which also happens to be inbetween our birthdays, mine July7 his July 9. Prayerfully he will be comming home at the end of this year!!!

First of all...congrats Liberaldog!!!!!! I am so extremly happy for you and your honny!!
Secondly, i am sooooo excited about this forum!!
Hello everyone! I met my baby Jason almost exactly one year ago. I am a forensic psychologist and worked in a juvenille detention center. I had a wonderful relationship with one of the youths at the facility. I love him like my own blood. Of course we kept in touch after he was released, which is a big no-no but he needed me and I love that little guy. Anyway, he is an orphan and asked me if i could take him to see his older brother in jail because he is too young to go alone. Of course i said yes because he spoke so highly of him and family is so important. So we went to go visit him and the rest is history. We fell in love and I am in the process of adopting his little brother, who is the angel that brought us together. Jason has been in for almost 2 years for sale of a controlled substance while he was on Parole. He will be going in front of the parole board for the second time in 14 days, and I think he has a really good chance of being released. He will be moving in with me then! Please pray for us and send your postive energy this way!

i also met mine on pp site that was 5 years ago and things between us just keep geting stronger i have met him once which sealed our love im going out to see him again this june

Hi, my name is Marie and I met my huney through a pen pal website. At first, we had no intentions of hooking up nor getting together in that fashion due to him being locked up.

He is currently locked up at Hughes unit in Texas and has 18 more months until he see the Parole board…. again. His first parole hearing was in Sept. 05’ and he was denied. He was convicted of Agg. Robbery in 2000 and was sentenced to 10 yrs.

As the time passed, me and him began to get closer and understand one another’s actions and views. We built up a strong friendship built on TRUST, UNDERSTANDING, HONESTY, RESPECT and LOYALITY.

As time passed I grew more and more closer to him and attractive to him as well… (and trust me ladies: he’s so hella fine !!!) I didn’t want to put my emotions out there for him just to reject me unless I knew he had the same feelings for me as well.

I continued to visit time and time again and around my 7th visit… we both declared the love that we had for each other and he stated that he wanted to all to himself… from there on… the rest is history… we have been together going on 2 ½ yrs strong and plan to get married in the next couple months…

Who says true love can’t happen to those who wait?

Hi my name is Tina,
I met my new guy about 7 mths ago.. but have only been visiting with him for about a mth now...

I am so glad that someone finally made this a part of PTO!!!!

I met my guy like, I said 7 mths ago when he wrote the guy that I was seeing to tell him to please behave himself and do the right thing by me and my son..

They were together in ACI in florida...
Risco wrote the most heart felt letter, that I have ever read...
To this man....

Little did he know that this man, had come out and totally screwed my head and my heart and my world upside down...
The letter wasnt even addressed to me, but I opened it up and read it.. I went straight to my computer and printed my story off of the
Drug and Achol Fourm ( what I have to do now ) by Tatsbaby..
and I sent it to him.. I didnt say anything other than, this is what your so called friend put me through...
I didnt even get a response back from him ...
about 2 mths went by and I got a letter, just checking on me and my son. To see how we were doing.. I wrote him back and he didnt answer my letter for about another week..

We have been writing back and forth daily.. since then..
I thought that I was crazy when I wanted to get involved with another inmate....

And did alot of praying and soul searching in doing it..
I can honestly tell you all that it wasa worth it....
Risco is the most loving and kind man that I have ever met.
He is wonderful.. and all though our realtionship is new. I know that I am right where I belong...

I have always heard that everything happens for a reason..
I am now more sure of that, than anything in this world...


I was worried about being called a Prison Groupie, a Prison Hoe, you name it I was worried at first.. now I dont care..
He is nothing like the man, that came out and hurt me and my son..
He is my everything I have ever wanted and more...
And yes there are some ghost in both our closets but we talk and we work through them....


Now if I could just get someone to help me change my screen name..
For I am Tatsbaby Nomore...

but Risco's Angel I will always be.......


Blessings

Tina

Tina PM your request to me or any other staff member...

Patty

So glad this forum is here now!
In October 2004 someone here was looking for a pen pal for a friend, and I started writing him. We soon got on very well and after a few months he was sure how he felt about me. It took me a while longer to get used to the idea and to decide what to do, I'm lucky he was patient with me. We haven't met yet, but hope to soon!

Whats up? Im new to this PTO thing, and my first reply had to be on this topic. I thought i was like the only one that would write to an inmate that they didnt know, but then i found this and was honestly surprised but obviously in a good way. But anyways, i met my man through my friend, they were locked up together. I geuss he had seen a pic and asked about me and asked if he could write to me. The first letter i got i was like ummm who is this? lol Obviously i wasnt really looking for anything, especially not to fall in love, but that was like a year and half ago and we've been writing and talking like everyother day. He makes me so happy, and from the first conversation we just like clicked there was never an uneasiness or quiet, we never wanted to get off the phone. Then the phone bill came and thats a whole different issue lol but yeah i still havent seen him yet, just a sketch unfortunately, but he is coming home in 2 months and 3 weeks, im so excited. I'm picking him up so that will be the first time we meet, so im excited and extremely nervous at the same time! so yeah i just wanted to share my story on how i met my love and thank everyone for their stories! Lates

~*Hannah*~

I met him as a fugitive, does that count? I certainly hope so cause I am lovin this new forum, it speaks to a lot of our issues. For we have never yet been together in the free world.

I'm a reporter and a single mom, and when I heard that there was this guy being hunted by the cops who wanted to talk to a reporter before he surrendered, I was careful. Talked to the cops and DA about it, talked to his parents, his former boss, people who'd known him since he was a pup. Everybody was afraid for his life (well, the people that loved him were, anyway.)

I sent the word out on the grapevine to tell him to come to me. I was expecting I don't know what. A "criminal?" an emotionally disturbed person? a...SOMETHING. What I was definitely NOT expecting was to be blown clear away. The minute I saw him there was a humming in my heart, a rush of destiny. Thing that fits it best is KIpling's Call of the Jungle: "We be of one blood, ye and I."

We talked for hours just so I could get his side of the story. He crashed on my couch that one night. The next week I brought him to the trooper barracks to surrender. He called me from the jail to let me know he was OK. I was writing about the case so he kept calling, and pretty soon I was living for those calls. He is just the most interesting person, foxiest guy, deepest soul and finest heart. I'm pretty smart and he can out-think me- but he's never obnoxious about it.

We are going through an appeal right now and hoping it may get him home. People say how do you know it will work? How the HELL does anyone know anything? It already works. In the few short hours I knew him free, I didn't know him well enough to kiss him. I live for the day we can kiss and not have to stop...YOW!

My name is Rebecca, I met Alfredo from an ad he had on a pen-pal site. I wrote him, we hit it off from the start! A good friendship I was ending a 4 year relationship. And he would talk and listen to me and give advise. I know most guy's would use this to their advantage but he kept telling me to talk to the guy and see if that's what I really wanted so I went and seen the guy and we talked and ended it that day but on a good note! Just after two months of us writing he had his ad removed and we talked once a week on the phone and wrote alot! I've talked to members of his family on the phone his lawyer keeps me informed on his case, it's all good. I hate the fact that we live in different states! I live in Michigan and he's in NY. I plan on visiting for the first time in a few weeks..... We finally get to see each other face to face... His mom wants me to stop by so we can met and his sister wants to get together as well. They have been so sweet to me and seem to like me so far. He has talked to my three kids and they write each other!
It's pretty cool. I thank God I found this place PTO, because I've made alot of friends and a few are in NY and hopefully we get a chance to met as well.
They NY family has been really helpful with info and buses and what to expect and even helping out with finding a nice hotel !!! Love you guys......

Wow... Weve got our own forum!! :D
Hi all... Im Tracey.:) I met my honey since he has been in, 5 years ago. Wasnt looking for love when i saw his ad on a pen pal website, but was blessed to find it.
Times are hard at times, especially because were from different continents and have an ocean between us, but we have grown to be strong... building solid foundations. :)

hello..my name is camille, and i met my husband at the prison i used to work at over 6 yrs ago!!!!!

wow..i love this, heck, i love pto...

Kenny (my husband), has a sister, his sister is married to my brother, and yes before you ask, we do live in ALABAMA...lol

Kenny and I knew each other names, and stuff like that because of his sister and my brother, but didn't meet face to face until he parole after 16 years, (he claims he meet me when i was 18, but i don't remember it)....since his parole, he got married to another women, divorced, parole revoked, asked his sister if i would keep his dogs until released, i said yes and been saying yes ever since...lol..

Hi everyone. Great forum. :thumbsup:
My brother was sent to FCI Oxford, WI. While there a fellow inmate, Juan, saw my picture among the family pictures my brother had in his cell & asked if he could write to me. It wasn't the first time I got a letter from someone my brother knew. To be nice I would communicate with any of the guys he gave my address to with the intention of friendship & nothing more. Writing a couple of times & eventually I would either lose interest or get turned off by them.
Juan grabbed my attention from the start. I knew some how he was different. For one thing unlike all the others he didn't come on strong & was willing to just be friends. Six months to a year being friends he let me know he wanted more than that, but still waited for me to make the first move. I never wanted a relationship with an inmate. So naturally I resisted. After giving him my phone # and hearing his voice for the first time, I could deny my feelings for that man no longer. I thought I knew him well through his letters, but his personality just poured through that phone line. So laid back, honest, happy, & carefree despite where he was. We have been talking to each other almost weekly now.

All is going well with us, except he faces deportation back to Mexico in April '06 when he gets out. When that happens I'll be going there to meet him & some of his family. If all goes well after visiting a few times, I'll probably move there. Crazy I know. :blush: But he's the light of my life & I couldn't imagine being without him.:)

"Destiny" crossed paths in October of 2001 when I met the love of my life while attending an annual rodeo at the prison.

Due to a lack of experience with the system I was terrified of being around inmates. I also didn't want to disappoint a friend and have to admit the real reason why I changed my mind so I decided to tough it out. After being there for less than 10 minutes an unknown voice beckoned me (by referring to what I was wearing) and in a very hesitant way I turned around and needless to say, I haven't looked back since.

We wrote each other back and forth for the first four months until I agreed to visit him. We got married a year and a half later (now 2 years, six months and 7 days - I love him that much) and still going strong.

Everyday is a blessing and our faith in God continues to be the centerpiece of our committment to one another. We are soulmates and 1 John 4:18 is the foundation of our relationship: Perfect love DOES cast out fear.:heart:

I met Jesse through someone he knew forever ago that knows my cousin. He had me help look him up on the state site and as soon as I seen him I seen something in his eyes, I can't explain it really! Then I wrote him ... when I wrote him I didn't tell him about what I thought with seeing his picture and I didn't except anything from writing him. But as we wrote we got closer and now I can't imagine being without him. I know it's crazy but love is crazy. If it's crazy it's crazy, I'm willing to deal with it! :D

Well my name is Kristin. My best friend had an old friend of hers that has been locked up since 2002. She made contact with him about 6 months ago in prison. they ahve been writing non stop and visiting liek it is goig out of style. And actually today is her wedding day!!! Her name on here is Tabycat, so everyone give her some love!! Anyway, he had a friend who wanted a penpal. she asked me if I was interested. I had just gottne out of a bad relationship, so I said why not, I could use a distraction. My intention was not what i got. i did not want a realtionship and had pretty much given up on men in general! So he sent me a letter. We stated writing liek everyday, and about amonth into it, I realized there was something VERY special about this one. Then we got phonecalls. And now we talk for two hours a day and write like crazy. I have pics and so does he. We get our first visit on March 3rd. I am taking off of work, I am so excited! He is absolutely wonderful and the best man I have ever met in my life. He treats me liek a queen and amazes me everyday. he is up for parole in November of this year so we are praying like crazy! That is my story, and I want to say congrats to tabycat on her marriage today!!:D :D

HI ALL
My name is Lisa and i am from england i met my boyfriend thru a friend who has a boyfriend in prison, he wanted someone to write to and i went into it believing it would only be a friendship, boy was i wrong.
from the first letter it was obvious we had a lot in common, we just clicked instantly, a few weeks later he started calling me and we got on even better and became even closer, in one letter a short time after we had started talking on the phone he told me he loved me, so i decided i had to visit him to see what i felt so i visited him a week later and fell in love! 6 months on we write every day talk on the phone twice a day and i visit him every two weeks and we are planning a future together when he is released.
people think i am mad when i tell them how i met my boyfriend but he is my soul mate, the love of my life.
it is so nice to see a forum like this where everyone is in a similar situation and no one thinks badly of you
hope to make lots of new friends
love to you all
LISA xx

Hi there everyone... my name is Erica and I too met my shanookems while we (yep I said WE) were in county and we have been together ever since... I am totaly dedicated to him and have stood behind him 100% since I've come home and plan to be here for him and with him when he comes home... I never knew that someone that I have never touched could touch me the ways that he does and that I could love someone as deep as I love him... I've never needed someone else in my life but I now know that I do need him...
I'll post our story soon... it's a good one... grab the popcorn and settle in!!:D
Thanks for reading!!

Hi, my name is Kathy and I met my future husband Clarence through a pen pal ad. I wasn't looking for a romance but I found it. I'm very fortunate! I love this forum.

Wow these are such fascinating and uplifting stories... :)

Well I met my lifer's dad first... it was a work project related to young inmates. I spent five months slowly getting to know him in county, also sat thru his trial and sentencing. We took that long to decide to even be friends.

Like I said... we took it slooooowly.

He's been in state prison now for a few years. Let's just say we've both grown a lot while traveling this rocky road of friendship and.... whatever it is! We do love each other and have a strong bond.

He's a lifer and also younger so we try to keep it at a friendship level but sometimes we get carried away with the hugs and kisses... :p :o :D oh well, what can I say? :rolleyes:

Hi everybody:)

I met my hubby while he was in jail. I met him through my friend and her ex. All she told me that someone in jail like me. You see her ex was locked up and he did not give her all of information about my hubby. I was scared and nervous. The first time I spoke him, no lie I was turned on by him. His voice was so sexy over the phone. Then I got so curious on how he looked like. I gave him my address so he can write to me. I did not give him my phone number not just yet. I got his letter two weeks later after we spoke on the phone. Honestly, I was waiting for the letter to see if he really will write me. He did. I read it and got curious. I needed to visit him. I had to see for myself on what he was all about. I was not so confident. I was affraid that he will reject me. I'm fat and not so good looking. We met. I liked what I saw and so did he. We have been together since. We got engaged after two weeks in meeting each other. We fell madly in love with each other. We got married months later. I have no regrets. We have been managing well. I'm his ride or die chick. I never thought I ever find love. He has brung so much love and excitment to my life. I took a chance on something and it brung the love of my life.

Wow this is too cool. I met my man through his brother. He asked if I would write to his brother that has been in prison for a while. I said sure, I was at a point in my life where I wanted to give relationships a break and be alone for a while anyway. But Lawd Hammercy when I saw his picture and started writing, whewwwwwww! That's my Boo. It's only been about four months, but we are really feeling each other a lot. He still has about six years, so it's one day at a time, but we have found something very special. Thanks for starting this group. It's hard for all of us, but when you have never had "free" time with your man, you question everything you are doing.

Hello all,
I am Lori and I am going to tell you how I met the man of my dreams.

Well, it all started when a friend of mine got locked up. I was talking to him on the phone one night and he asked if I could maybe write to his friend that was in there. And me, of course I accepted not even thinking about possibly hooking up with him. So we started writing back and forth just as pen pals, then came the visits and phone calls. He has a 10 yr sentence and is half way through. When I found out he had 10 yrs, I thought oh my gosh how can I allow myself to be involved with someone who is behind bars and may not come home for another 7 years. I never thought I would be the one to hang and ride the coaster with him. But one day I woke up to go visit him, it was our first contact visit, and when I got there and looked into his piercing blue eyes and felt his touch I knew that I was in for the long haul. He is everything I ever could have asked for in a man. We have been on this journey for 2 years now, and our love for each other is only growing more and more. We get a 2 hour contact visit each week and my kids love him as much as I do. I keep in very close contact with his family just so that they know that I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE TIL THE END. I won't give up now. He goes up in July for the second time to be paroled out so please everyone say an extra prayer at night for us. Hopefully this time they will let him come home where he belongs. i am so glad that I found this site. i have come across so much helpful information. Its nice to be able to talk with people that are going through the same thing you are. I try to talk to friends that have never experienced anything like this, and they think I am crazy for hanging around. I appreciate all you strong women on here. Thanks for listening or reading. LOL


P.S. Kent, I will always love you baby and I'll be here til the end.:heart: :love:

well i met my ex through my other ex and i was with JR for almost 2 yrs and now i found some info that he wasnt true to me so i let him go and he got caught in his own game and now i wonder who else he will strike next cuz i was the smart one to leave him before its too late :) Good Going for me i think lol by the way im Melanie and im a Devoted Research Asst for PTO and im going no where and im here to help yall in anyway u may need Thanks Melanie

I love this forum!!!!

Some of you already know, but I met Deon when he was incarcerated at the county jail that I was a nurse at in 2004. He was in for drug trafficking.

He would often come to the door and speak to me, which a lot of inmates did, so I made nothing of it. This went on for 5 months. He was about to go to court for a bond hearing and had been placed in a holding cell. I was in that area and when I went by he stopped me. He asked if he could have my phone number. Telling me he wanted to take me to dinner and movie, nothing more, just get to know me.

I, of course, said no. Well, I went back and told one of my friends and she was like, "Girl are you crazy? He's cute, what could it hurt, dinner and a movie, give him your number." So, I jotted my number down on a small piece of paper, grabbed 2 motrins and cup of water and concealed the small piece of paper under the cup. When I got to the cell I gave him the pills and water and whispered that the paper was there. He took it and put it in his pocket. Before I could walk off an officer came into the area and he asked to go to the bathroom, well I told the officer he could go in my office. So, the officer brought him there. Mind you this jail is totally laid back. While in there we made small talk and he told me he call me tonight, but he hoped to be out in a day or two.

Unfortunately, he was denied bond. But, we developed a bond that far outweighted that. Because of the lax environment we were able to spend a lot of time together, I am talking sometimes an hour or more. Sneaking kisses, talking, just getting to know each other.

A month into the relationship he admitted he had had his eye on me for 5 months, but was afraid to say something because he knew if I told on him he could get locked down. Two months after that he transferred to another county jail. Then, I was able to visit. By then, I had met his family. His son had been staying over night at my house and our relationship spawned into such a powerful love thang, it has kept me on a high no drug could ever produce.

We have known each other 20 months, been in a relationship for 15 months tomorrow, and committed to a life together forever!

Emotionally we have grown. He is my best friend, my love, my soulmate, a true blessing that had to be sent from God.

We plan to marry upon his release.

(I guess you all wonder how we were able to take a photo together. His brother passed away in June 2005 while he was in Jackson for diagnostics, he was home for the funeral.....shackle free the whole time ( 3 hours)...the one time we had the freedom to hold and kiss each other, while he was incarcerated.)

Hi my name is Arlene and I met Sly through a friend who gave him my address. At first I was really mad about some guy I didnt know writing me and not only that my friend told him my name was "Jessica" so thats what the letter said. As I tell him he really saved himself by including a picture in his first letter to me because there was just something about him that made me want to get to know him. Anyway it has been over a year now and we are actually in the process of getting married, everything should be done by Friday March 3rd!! He is the greastest man who has ever come into my life and like many of the rest of you alot of people do not understand our situation but I am so beyond caring what others think because I am happy and thats all that matters!

Hi my name is Stephanie and I met Paul through a friend of mine. Her husband is at fox lake in WI and asked if she knew anyone that could write to his cellmate. She asked me and I said sure what the heck. That was in september and we have been writing ever since. We had our first contact visit about a month ago and it was wonderful, I'm completely in love.

Heya my name is Bella Im 25 and Im from Indianapolis, Indiana. I've been with Tommy for 17 months now and he is locked down in Lucasville, Ohio. I met him thru a pen pal web site that his aunt did for him. Hes doing 18 to life with 3 down so far. U guys will see me around for the LONG HAUL ;]

~Bella~

well hello there every one. I'm new on this. Let me start with saying that I'm not from the States. I'm from a small Island in the Caribbean.. I happen to come across this web site and I enjoy it a lot.
I met my fiancee, through a add he posted in a magazine. We became penfriends, fall in love, now we are engaged. This March 4th we will be celebrating our 4 th anniversary. I visted him for the first time last year October 2005. It was wonderful.
I'm 8 hour flight away from him (he is in cmc California ) So I'm not able to see him on regular basis, but I write him every week. Also phone calls aren't possible.
It is hard sometimes, but my love for him keeps me going.
I have met his family too, they are real wonderful persons. He is all I have ever wanted .Though we are far apart we are connected by our hearts.

ps. English is not my native language, sorry for the mistakes.

hi, my name is Soraya and I live in Belgium. I've know Deshon for 4 years now. we became pen pals in 2002. He told me that he was in love with me like 2 years ago, but I was in a relationship. I finished that relationship a couple of months ago (had nothing to do with Deshon). I always felt like a highschool girl when I saw a envelop with his handwriting in my mailbox, but I always ignored it. Now i've spent 3 days reading ALL his letters over and over again and I can't help but realize that I'm in love with him and probably have been for a long time now. I told him in a letter that I've sent him last week. But mail goes sooooo slow, especially oversees so I'm very nervous to know what he writes when he received that letter :d

At last somewhere where I can feel @ home I also met my husband whilst he was incarcerated, have been married for just 3 months all of those I have spent seperated from him by 3,000miles I am not allowed to STAY IN THE Usa!!!! I am trying to find legal help so that I can join him @ least in the same country and get everything ready for his home coming in 2010.............Anyone out there got any tips ??

Welcome, and I've just PMd you. I'm in the London area, too./

Rose

I met a beautiful man thru the internet. In August 2005 I was browsing and saw his ad. We are both older than most of the members. I was looking for a friend to write to but I found more than I could have imagined. He's at Pelican Bay Shu. I went to visit him Feb 18th. We were both so nervous. Poor guy was actually sweating...me I was so nervous I had to use the restroom but I didn't,I held it to the end of the visit..Whew!! I couldn't spare one minute away from him. It was a good visit. We connected from day one..I am happy and thank whoever thought of this forum. Sometimes I feel alone even though he is really good at writing me it's great to have friends out here who understand our unique circumstance.

hi everyone
its great to see so many people in the same situation. i am lisa from the south west of england and i have a boyfriend in prison too, we started off as penpals in august last year and became really good friends, after se started talking on the phone we knew there was some feelings there, in october last year i went to visit him for the first time and we fell in love instantly, he had told me a few weeks before he was falling in love with me which is what sparked me to go visit him coz i had to meet him and discover whether i truly did feel the same way.
5 months after that first visit we write pretty much every day we talk on the phone every day and we see each other twice a month and we are very happy and very much in love and we are planning on being together when he gets out next year.
being separated from him is so hard though, and the phone calls and letters keep me going between visits.
i would love tohear from anyone else in this country to make friends with and to support
love to you all
LISA xx

Well not sure if yall know but I met my fiance while working for his first lawyer. I was the only one in the office that would acept his collect calls for the Detention Center. It soon got to a point where I knew he was gonna call and would schedule my breaks so i was available at the time. he was always so sincere on the pone and finally he asked for my information so he could write me. Three days later I got a letter from him and it just progressed from there. Three lawyers and one appeal later and he is the only man for me. No matter what I am always there for him in the good and the bad and we will soon be married whenever we get approval. But our one year anniversary is right around the corner (the 17th of March). I can't imagine life without him and not sure how I even made it. He truly completes me and literally "He had me at Hello!!!!"

Hi,

I had never seen this forum before, it seems really cool, I will be sure to come here really often! I too met my guy while incarcerated, I got his contact info through a pen pal website. I used to write to many different guys back in 2000 and 2001, but it was all just platonic and we lost contact upon their release.

But not with my bf everything is different, we hit it off right away, and I have been visiting him regularly now, I just feel as if he's my soulmate, even though we are both trying to take things slow, we both know that we will be fine together.

But like I said, I just saw this forum and I plan to be active in it, woo-hoo for us! LOL

Rebeca

hello everyone. i'm from minnesota, way up north where lots of snow falls. i met my honeyman thru my brotherinlaw, who is in the same place. its sort of a long story but i'll keep it short as possible. last year i was attacked in my home, and held hostage for 12 hours. unspeakable things happened to me. i didn't have anyone to talk to, except for investigators who were working on that crime you know? and i was homeless then too because i ran off, i couldn't stay there anymore. so this went on for awhile, and then finally a friendly biker guy heard about my problem thru his sister, my friend. he came and found me and gave me a place to live. i was sitting in this lonely house, all i had was a futon and a kitchen table and i wrote a letter to my brotherinlaw. he and my sister have carried on for 5 years, long distance, you know? he is a really good man too. solid. anyway, he wrote back and told me to hang in, he loved me, he knew i was alone and needed to be alone now for awhile. so, then, months later i got a card from my future honey, it just said that he got my name from my brotherinlaw. we began to write, and eventually i told him what happened to me. but the thing is, that he's my best friend. he's a lifer with the possibility of parole, and had been locked down for almost 14 years when we met. now, suddenly he wrote and said he has a parole hearing in july. i want to be there when that happens, or, at least be close by and get there the next visiting day. so i'm thinking about how i can move to pennsylvania. working out the details. my sisters are supportive of me and him. they somehow understand that he is good for me though they have never met him. my daughter is grown up, having a baby soon, and so are my sons. i'm at this point in my life now where i am finally free to just go and have me a life with a man i love. so, thats what i'm going to do. he's in a usp, and may have to return to cali for a period of time. so, we don't really know what will happen, but i'm planning to be there when it does.
i enjoy reading these posts. they sort of finish off my long day. i work for a battered womens advocacy program, and i work with those women everyday. sometimes it gets me down, but most times it makes me have courage. i think thats what we all have in common, those of us who love a man in prison. we have lots of courage. and, with that i'm going to sign off. Teresa

Oh I'm loving reading these! Similar to a lot of you I met my Matthew about a year after he was incarcerated. Through a friend of mine and her ex he sent a letter saying how hard a time he was having inside and that he really just needed someone to talk to who would share their life experiences to help brighten his days. Well, from there we started writing back and forth nearly everyday and it wasn't until a year later the guy I was currently dating agreed to drive me to meet my friend (Amazing of him right??!!) Well that day was amazing and needless to say I left my poor bf of the time waiting in the car for about 6 hours (yeah I'm mean).... But since then.... Matthew and I have gotten back to talking like every day and now he calls me and I visit him every other weekend... I'm not sure if it's true love or not but I think it's about as damn close as I've ever gotten. And I don't know that I'll ever get closer. Recently, I've been talking to my sweetie about us marrying each other someday and sharing a life and family together when he gets out. Doing that would probably make me an incredibly happy woman and I plan on standing by Matt's side until the day he is released when he can walk out of that world of concrete and cages into my world and share the sunshine and beauty of life with me. So, he has a little over 6 years left to go before his first hearings yet I'm sure he'll get out okay on parole as he's been a model prisoner....But until then I'll wait for my sweetie and continue to live and love my life and share the good times I have with him through our letters calls and visits....:p

My story is long and complicated. I will say this though. We met in 1998, while he was incarcerated, and I was an employee. We wrote for a few months, then went our separate ways until spring of 2004, when I sent him a birthday card. Its been a lot of phone calls, letters and visits since then. I can't imagine my future without him in it, and I can't wait to see him again!

hello, everyone my name is Angel well I meet my man on a, penpale web site, and we have been together for a little over a year now we haven't meet face to face yet but we will real soon, we do plan on getting married and him moving to Atlanta, to be with me.

I just knew if I looked long enough I would find a thread such as this. I was online trying to do my taxes (which I still have not done) and I came across a site for pen pals. I was once incarcerated while I was pregnant and I remember the desolation and lonliness. I wanted to bring a little smile to someone's face at Christmas this past year so I wrote to someone who was 1) attractive 2) kinda close to me just in case 3) around my age or close. Well who knew then that this man would turn out to be my soulmate and forever love. We write every day, sometimes 4-5 letters a day, we are working on the phone calls right now and that should happen in a week or so and as soon as I have clearance to visit from my probation officer I will be there every Sunday to hold him in my arms. I am unsure about all the rules of parole but he doesn't feel like he will get it on the first try in 2008, so I guess I will be waiting about 5-6 years. But compared to the 35 years I have spent waiting for my prince charming that is nothing.

it was all kind of srtange, really. my bestfriend and her boyfriend at the time were haveing problems, he had gotten busted with drugs and she bonded him out. when he went to court, they gave him 4 years TCD. he went in and i would go with her all over Texas to visit him. i wasn't on his visitation list because he didn't know my exact address when he filled out his list. so, i would wait for her in the car. after about 6 months or so, she recieved a letter from danny(her man) and if had a letter in there for me from some White guy. i wasn't worried about it, so i didn't read it for like a week or two. my life was too full of drama at that time. finally i read it and he sounded totally dorky!!! he sent a picture as well and he looked ok. he told me that in that picture he had the flu and was really sick! i wrote back a few days later and he told me that he was updating his visitation list (they can only do it every 6 months and his 6 months were up) and that if i didn't mind, he had already put me on before he ran out of time. that totally threw me off! Danny wrote me a letter to tell me that Scott was a really good guyand that for the past 4 weeks he had been asking to write me after he saw my pictures. he said i was beautiful and looked like a lot of fun. (probably because all the pictures danny had of me are pictures of me and Teresa, his girl, at the club)

So, we meet at last!
Danny and Scott were at a unit not far from our home, actually like 8 miles away, so Teresa convinced me to heet scott while she went to visit danny. when we get there she tells me that danny might have been transferred. at the check in, sure enough, he was on his way to east texas!!! she left me there ALONE!!! i was so scared! i remember i was wearing a pink top a denim jacket and blue jeans, my hair was long and i had curled to ends. when i went to his side of the unit, the officer told me that i was too late, i would have to come back next week, i was kinda sad and releaved at the same time, then he said he was joking. NOT FUNNY! we had contact visits due to his trustee status, so i sat at a picnic table out side and waited for him. i saw him from a distance and i knew in my heart that was him. he looked at me and turned away. then he looked again. i wasn't sure that was him so i felt kinda dumb. then the guard searches him really quick and when he comes out to the visitation area, i was the only one with out a visitor, so we knew then for sure.

he was tall and i didn't think he was that good looking. he was ok, not someone i would try to hit on at a club or anything. he thought i was just too beautiful. he kept saying, i can't believe you're here! i kept offering to leave if he felt uncomfortable, and we both just cracked up laughing! he was so funny! kinda goofy at times, which he still is and i still dont like it. he was telling me about his daughter and i told him about my son. i was in school then and we talked about that. he was also taking classes.

all in all i didn't think we would go any further that that visit. i had too much going on in my life and i couldn't add one more responsability. i didn't write him again.

4 weeks later, i got a letter from him. i felt like crap when i pulled it out the mail box. i thought he kinda understood that i didn't write cause i wasn't interested in writing hem any more. well, the letter was short and sweet. pretty much, sorry we couldn't be friends, thanks for visiting me, i hope when i come home i'll run nto you some time. AAWWWW... i felt horible! so i started writing again 2 letters a week and i visited 2 times a month. Very slowly i started to see just how handsome he was and what a good heart he has.

Well, I came to PTO about a while ago to get some advice on how to go about the appeals process when I was denied visitation to my (NOW X) fiance. Needless to say, I was never approved! Now I see that as meant to be.

Now years later, I have a new need for the support and love that PTO has to offer. Last July I was planning on moving from the city that I grew up in and knew everything about to a small town hours away from home and knew no one except my family. One night I decided that since I knew that the people from back home probably wouldn't write me I'd take a chance on writing someone behind the walls. I told myself that I wouldn't fall and that it would be nothing except someone's words to keep me company and exchange a few smiles to one another here and there. I sent out a few emails (they forward them) and didn't expect to hear much back because my E-mail was pretty cold. I think that I said something like "I'm looking for a pen pal, if you're looking for someone to send you money, buy you some kicks, accept your calls, or come and visit...throw this away." About a month after I sent out this Email I got a letter in the mail from "Val". I never sent an email out to him. Turns out he was passed my email through someone in the same institution and my thoughts went sour immediatly. I decided not to write, but something about his style and the way he came off in that first letter intrigued me. I sent a letter that was again filled with hurt, pain, tears, and nothing but ice cold emotion. Slowly Val has melted the ice around my heart. We fought off feelings for about a month and finally decided that with each other is what is meant to be. I know that God put this man in my path and brought me this chance to love again. As I'm typing this I'm planning on going to see him for the first time.

We've only been together for a small period of time but besides the usual hardships that come along with loving our men behind the walls, I've faced sickness and hospitalization. The past few months have been rocky and I know at times he's been frustrated and doubted my love for him, but he is my other half. I love this man deeper than I've ever thought possible. I never knew what finding a soulmate exactly meant until he walked into my life...

He's waiting on a decision from the parole board as we speak, and needless to say I can't wait. Either way it goes come October 12th he will be in my arms forever....What else is to say...I love Val...

I met my finance' almost 3yrs ago while preaching at the county jail. Besides Jesus, he is the best thing that's every happened to me.

LadySmith...I couldn't agree with you more...I found Jesus who will forever be the leading man in my life...and then I found Val. I have truly been blessed....

I met my man through my friend. He was already in jail. My friend called me up and asked me if I was working things out with an ex and I said no and why. She was like well you have to write my cousin he is locked up for having drugs on him, and he needs a girlfriend, I was like umm okay...So she brought me his address and I wrote him. A month after I wrote him he got moved to Salinas Valley State Prison, when I started writing him he was in Pleasant Valley State Prison. What are the odds of him getting moved closer to me....I am so happy. I am waiting for him to write and say I got approved to go see him....

I met my boyfriend In August of 05 with writeaprisoner, I also wasnt looking for a relationship. I just wanted some advice on men since I was going through trouble in my relationship. So I was telling him about different guys and everything! After about a month of talking, we became close friends and hes only 40min away so I finally went to see him and thats all it took and Ive been smitten ever since! I love him so much,

Wow, I don't know what took me so long to post here.

I am Shavonne. I am 27, and live in Upstate NY.

I met my husband through my best friends ex-boyfriend who was in the same dorm as him at one time. He asked me if I would write his friend etc etc. I was hesitant at first, and it took me about 3-4 months to write. When we wrote, I would write once a month. Then the letters starting getting longer, and more frequent. The next thing I knew I mastered the art of stalking the mailman...lol.

We started talking in Feb 2003, had our first visit in May 2003, and got married November 2004.

My best friend and husband. I never knew my heart could love like this.

Well my name is Amanda and I am in Texas and I met my husband while I was working for TDCJ. The first encounter I had with him was me cussing him out for smiling at me. I later apologized to him once I had time to check him out and see that he wasnt your typical inmate. He stayed to himself, was well known and respected, stayed out of trouble and he used to pop up every where I was. Not to mention I though he was SO FINE. Once I apologized to him we would chit chat here and there and then after about 6 months one of his cellies asked me how I felt about him. I told him that I thought he was ok but I wasnt there to hook up with anyone, nor was I going to loose my job behind an inmate. Finally one day my husband came up to me and told me he needed to tell me something but everytime he started the words wouldnt come out and he would walk away. SO one day when he did this I stopped him before he could walk off and told him that I cared about him and if he looked me up when he got out I would buy him lunch. He stood there looking shocked. Well as fate would have it he ended up getting shipped to another unit and I wrote him and here we are almost 6 years later and I couldnt be happier. Once I decided that I really wanted to build a relationship with him I did quit my job at the prison. It didnt take me long to make that decision we started talking in November and I quit in April. It was the best decision I ever made. The Lord knew just what we needed and He placed us together at just the right time. Things have been rough at times but I dont regret one single thing and I wouldnt have done it any other way even if I could.

I fell in love not wanting to. I met my baby Banks through a friend who's fiancee was serving time in Gowanda and one day out of the blue I received a card, letter and picture. All I wanted was a friend so I wrote him back. So many beautiful letters, communication and cards. I am truly in love with Loyd a.k.a Banks.
People tell you that you can't fall in love with someone's heart that's a lie you can. he and I both out of bad relationship we where friends first. we vibed so well it was like I"d write him oneday and he would send a letter saying something similar. Can I say that I found my soulmate, my best friend and soon to be my husband. I understand him and yes we have this huge issue with him trusting me. He's the second man I been involved with and it so different. Yes it is complicated because they ar not there and you carry all the wait. I look back now and know that I am Loyd's woman and he is my man . I wouldn't trade him for nothing in this world. I'm blessed to have him in my life. Nothing but god himself could ever stop me from loving him the way I do.

Tamnyc -n- Banks:love:
4ever

Hi Everyone,

My name is Tia and I met my man from a penpal site. At the time we started writing to each other I think I had around 5 penpals it was great getting mail in the box everyday and each one very different. Well my penpal and I started out kind of slow like I would write to him and then wait up to 2 wks before I would get a reply. I remember running in the house to open his letter it was the way he wrote I guess that I like well after around 3 months or so I gave him my phone number and it took him a while to call. Then one day after a very stressful day at work I was sitting on the side of the bed and the phone rang and it was him. I think that was the day I got hooked to his voice and even though it was a three conversation thing it was great. He called as much as he could we talked about anything and everything well that was in like November. I was also going through some serious health issue at that time and I have to say that if it wasn't for him I don't know how I could of done it. I decided to go and visit this man whom I had fell head over hills for in Feburary before it was time for me to go back to work from being on Medical Leave for 4 months and it was such a thrill and I loved every minute. I can't wait until I make that long trip again.

Tia

Hi all,
I met by man on an internet site last December...was just drinking wine one nite.. trawling thru sites and saw his face. Wrote, didn't think I'd get a reply.. got one. The rest is history....am now pretty much "heavily involved" !! Have spoken to another girl in the UK from this site... she has many good friends here who help her with her visitations!!!. It's sooo good to know that you are not alone in how you feel. Ofcourse, I thought I was the only one in this situation.
I am hoping to visit this year.. 6 thousand miles is a long way to come but i'm sure it will be worth it!! This site gives invaluable information on all aspects of a relationship of this kind..THANK YOU ALL!!!! I look forward to chatting to you...
love Traci xx

Hi, I received an email from someone I don't know who he is, but he was asking me to be a pen-pal to one of his homies that was busted. I replied that I would. This is not the first trip for me around this block, so I thought why not? My son is always busted, my ex husband is doing 15, and my babys daddy has been in & out most of his life. Needless to say I have been up and down the state of Calif. for the last 20 years. Anyway, I started writing to him and he writes me everyday, I got approved and met him for the first time this past weekend. It was great, he's very nice and is a very special man in my life. He's been down for 12 years and has 1 1/2 to go. I was his first visit in the years that he has been down. I'm planning my next trip already. I'll be back to see him on the 14th & 15th of this month. I can't wait.

OK, I guess it's time to introduce myself. I never thought I would be doing this. I wrote this guy after seeing a TV show about him last month, he wrote back, and after many letters and phone calls, I'm totally falling for him. Luckily, he feels the same!! I have so many emotions and I don't know where to start. He's serving a life sentence (no parole), but he's in a state where they allow the governor to commute sentences, so there is always a chance he'll get out. I'm scared to death about this whole thing. I'm scared he'll never get out and I'm scared he'll eventually get out (he's been in for over 18 years, so the world is completely different). I told my mom today and she didn't handle it very well. I can't imagine telling other people. I'm so glad to be able to come somewhere where people understand. I do have some experience with the system as my ex-husband has been in and out. I'm also about to graduate with my criminal justice degree.

Dawn

I met my husband thru my stepsister's mom.She had a penpal,that after 6months of writing,she wanted to meet. Her car was no good,so I somehow agreed to take her.I was introduced to a friend of her penpal.He was a jerk.The next visit, I was to meet another friend.He was transferred out a few days before the visit. I was just going to drop E off for her visit and read a book in the parking lot or hang around town or something. No one liked that idea,so I was introduced to this other friend.Oh,what harm could a few hours of talking to someone do?
Well,we talked and talked and I knew then that I had met someone very special. We have been together over 7 yrs, married for over 6 yrs. We have a 4 1/2 yr old son together.
I live in RI, he's in NY, so there have been some stretches of long drives mixed in too.
'spooky' bit of funny..we met on Halloween, and I had to drive through Sleepy Hollow to get to the facility.

Hi, my name is Angie and I've become penpals with someone who's currently in the Lewis Complex (Rast Unite) - this is a new thing for me and I've got many mixed emotions, mostly good ones. We've been corresponding for 2 months, a few letters each week and so far, I'm trying to follow my heart. We really have been finding a lot of things we share in common and right now we're "just friends," both of us open to a relationship - but he's never pressured me even this early for anything. I've had penpals before, but not with the real potential for anything beyond that. So time will tell, I guess...Thanks for reading this and GOOD LUCK to you all and your loved ones :) !!

Hello everyone..
Well, I met my guy through a pen-pal ad in a heavy metal magazine around 7 years ago. I put the ad in not wanting a relationship at all because I had just gone through a really horrible time with a guy and was just looking for friends and distractions. And OMG! I was just not one of those women who wanted to be with an inmate!!! (ha-ha!! I was proved wrong in that one!) Well, Patrick turned out to be just too cute and funny and...here we are years later planning on marriage and kids and praying for parole!
Sandra

Hello everyone! My name is Anitra. I met my man through a friend I worked with. She heard I liked black men and asked me to talk to her "brother". I said sure I figured it wouldn't hurt to make another friend. First he sent me a letter and a picture introducing himself. I did the same. He is in the Feds so he put me on his phone list and a few days later I got my first phone call. Back then they didn't have restrictions on the calls like only 300 minutes a month and you could call back to back. His calls are fifteen mintues I think he called me back over and over for like 3 hours. It was like we had known each other forever. That was in June of 2000. We have had our rough spots but we are still together and going strong. I told him the day I met him my life was changed forever. This year we will celebrate our 6th anniversary and next year he will come home finally. Just before Valentine's Day I couldn't think of a better gift. :) :heart: :)

Well, I stumbled upon this page about a month ago and i've been reading and making posts here every now and then, so I decided it's time for a proper introduction! :p

I met my boyfriend, Marty, last August while I was in the visiting room visiting my best friend's fiancee. We were sitting there talking, and in walked this GOREGOUS man.. I asked "Oh my god, Darren.. Who is that?!" He told me.. oh.. that's just Marty. I was like.. JUST?!? WHAT?! lol.. Anyway.. he asked me if I wanted him to hook me up.. At first, I was really really skeptical. I just got out of a 5 yr relationship with my ex fiancee.. and the last place I ever wanted to meet someone was in PRISON. lol.. yeah, how do you explain THAT one to your family and friends.. heh.. :confused: Anyway.. after staring at his beautiful face all day long while he visited with his family, I decided, why not.. I'll write him and get to know him. I guess my stares were obvious enough, not to mention my giddy school girl giggles every time my best friend and her man cracked a joke about me wanting to meet him. He came over after his family left and sat at the table behind us.. My best friend started talking to him, and I was HORRIFIED. I was sure she was going to say something to him about me, so I just started hitting her arm, begging her to shut up. lol..

Anyway.. We started writing back and forth, and within only a few days I had him calling me 5x a day which got EXPENSIVE!! :P Due to me being on someone elses visiting list already, I had to wait 3 months until I could visit him. Those were the longest 3 months of my LIFE! Now that I look back on it.. I'm so glad that we had those 3 months to get to know each other better, because when the time did come for us to really meet again.. it was WONDERFUL! :D

He's been in for 12 1/2 yrs, and we still have another 12 months to go.. I had no idea that such a smart, funny, sexy, good hearted, motivational person existed. He's truly one of the best things that has ever happened to me :D I can't wait until we can start our life together when he gets out.

-Laura-

Hello everyone! I met my wonderful man through a penapal site/ as most of us i wasnt looking for a relationship. MY son was locked up at the time and i read some sites about pen pals for those that had no one. got me to thinking that could be my son one day and i would hope someone would be kind enough to write him. The first time I wrote him it took him a month to recieve it and i thought it was a dud. he wrote me and we were both adamant that it stayed friends only <coff coff> yeah right we blew that theory right out of the water. we finally declared our feelings at the same time and our letters crossed each other and we both got the i love you letter about the same time. gotta love that karma lol. We take one day at a time. in no rush for anything. he is a lifer with no parole and quite a few hours of flight time between us. He is also in the hole and waiting on his transfer to a SHU so no calls or contact visits for quite some time. but as long as we have our pen and paper nothing can take it away from us.

hello i am new to the pto my bf is currently at upstate he was at the adirondack and got into a fight so he got 90 days in the box i knew him before his sister and my sister were best friends and i babysit one of his nephew last august for his nephews birthday party i saw him for the first time in years i knew little of his troubled past we talked really well played water balloon fight he tried to get my daughter comfortable with him few days later i saw him again for the last firework show at some lake and i called out his name because i had his nephew with me he started to ask me all questions and i was still with my kids father at the time so i didnt do anything he had been at the adirondack since nov and when my kids father left me i decided to write to him in feb asking him why he did what he did that night and i told him how i had a crush on him he is really hot few days later i got his letter and we started to write back and forth i had his sister bring me up to adirondack so i could visit him and since then i have been going up every sunday either alone or with my kids i have two kids by another guy and they adore him and he adores my kids as well since he got transferred to upstate last sunday was the first time i didnt see him and i miss him so much but i do plan on going up to see him this sunday even though it will be another half hour drive i certainly dont mind i cant go without not seeing him at least once a week he used to call three times a week to talk to my kids since i am deaf and writes to me all the time now he is at upstate my visit would be soooo different since it is non contact visit but it is ok because at least i get to see him he is supposed to get out in august so there isnt much time left i cant wait to start a "real" relationship with him

hello everyone,

I am new to this site and would love to become part of your group. First I would love to Share my expirience. I met my hunnie Jermaine in late Feb o 2006. One night bored and loney and nosey I decided to look or online pen pals, but whenI typed pen pal and hit search the first couple of links were for prison pals. I looked through maybe hundreds but paid particually more attention to those based in South Florida. That is when Jermaine's ad came up and I was captivated by his highly motivated spirit despite his incarceration. he is attractive and wow what a bod, his mind seemed matured. I emailed him and in his prison they give it to him on mail day. A few weeks later he responded and now we corresponde daily. Last week I offered to repleniosh his monetary account for phone use, and mail use. he called me the very same day his money came in. I think I am falling for him, but I am scared too, he has a littl less than 3 years to go.........:idea: I am open to any feedback and open to new friends.


Vivian:)

good luck !

I met my love through a friend that he was locked up with, that was 4 years ago. At this point I don't know what I would do without him and his love. We did have a rough patch through these 4 years but we are over that and are happy now. I also have a friend that I met through one of the pen pal websites when me and my man were going through our rough patch. He is in Federal Prison in PA. I would love to go see him because he has always been there for me, we are like best friends now.:p

Thank you all for sharing. I met my man through a friend. He is currently incarcerated. His next chance at parole is January of 07. I feel a little less lonely now....MsSchema

MsSchema, Jan 07 is just around the corner. We are down to 32 mos. We met at 40 mos. I'm planning now to visit him in Aug 06. It will mark our 1 year anniversary. Will he be surprised!! You hang in there..lot's of love Angie*M

Hello there, I was directed to this forum from someone who replied a question from another PTO because I had a question about my new penpal - this is super :) I've met my penpal and am not 100% sure what made me choose HIS ad over all the others (only wrote to him from that site) - but it's surely been a blessing for both of us !! I know I've been hesitant because of the distance between us - but at the same time, I can't ignore the simple fact that we've connected so well in a short time - 2 1/2 months so far. He's SUCH a sweet person and we're both taking everything slowly because it's been a long time since either of us were in any kind of relationship - who can say what will happen, but he definitely wants a relationship and I do as well. I think what "sealed the deal" (as far as me deciding to say YES about being a couple) was that he told me in a letter he made extra effort to write me every day because I was feeling sick and crappy and wanted to cheer me up :) I almost cried - I thought it was SUCH a sweet thing to do :) We'll see what happens... :)

I met my man while he was incarcerated on a 9 year sentence. And he's coming home in 6 months or so.

I'm fairly new to the whole thing, but I've gotten close to my pen pal. I met him about 5 months ago on a pen pal website. We have connected so well together. I didn't think I'd met someone as sweet as him, but I did. Even though we have been writing for a short period of time, I think we have something special between us. After he gets his final time cut, he'll have 6 months or so left to go on a 9 year sentence. We have talked about becoming more but we haven't made any promises about what's to be yet. But I think that's the way I want to go with us. He's never gave me a reason to doubt or not trust him in any way. I've started visiting him on May 5 and the Friday after that. So, I'm hoping for the best between us.

hi

i am maria and i am here for a while reading and get information.but i have never introduced myself
i am 27 and my fiance is in hdsp. i have met him true a pen pall site.
on year ago. and i have to say i really love him.
i come from the netherlands so maybe my englisch is not that good but now you understand where i come from.
i got a lot of questions but i whil ask them later.

WELCOME to each and everyone of you. I am sure you will find the Met While Incarcerated family to be a friendly and informative one. I hope to get to know all of you better in the days ahead. Thank you for joining us, the more the merrier!!!

All the best,
Patty

thank you and i am sure i will like it here.

Hi everyone

I am new to this site, just board and browsing the web and I happened upon this site and thought it would be cool to join. Well I'll try to be as brief as I can, me and my man now of going on a little over 3 years meet while he was still in county jail. We meet through a friend, actually my friend's boyfriend was cell mates with my now boyfriend. At first when my friend told me that her boyfriend had been telling his cell mate about me and he was interested and wanted me to write him I was extremely scepticle. I just gotten out of a relationship (if that's what you want to call it) with someone who had just gotten out and while he was locked up he was trying to fill my head with all that jail talk and when he got out he never lived up to any of the promises and things he told me he would do, so running into this similar situation didn't give me a good feeling at all I told my girl no maam you can miss me on that, thinking to myself why is it that I keep having run in's with jail birds. A few weeks had past since she mentioned it and one day she called me at home with her boyfriend on 3-way telling me that he told his friend all about me and he was really interested, and he was standing right beside him and wanted to take down my address so he could write me, I was put on the spot and before I could dispute the phone was passed and the sexiest voice was on the other end and all could do was say ok here is my address and from that point on it's been history. When I got his first letter he was telling me about his self and also mentioning all the things that he was told about me from my friend's boyfriend and how he was really wanted to meet me, when I wrote back I was honest with him about my recent experience and was not at all looking for a serious relationship, just wanted to have that someone I could talk to and he seemed like he needed the same so I wanted to keep it strictly on a friend level and we would see how things went when he got out. A few months went by and I wrote and sent pictures, he put me on his visitation list and we talked about his plans for his life when he got out. I knew what he was there for but from what he told me he said that he was innocent and so called friends of his were trying to put a crime that they committed on him, at the time I really wasn't aware of the seriousness of the charges he was up against and thought he would be out in a few months, and from the impression he was giving me I assumed he was thinking the same way, until his case came up and when I went to see him that day I was stressed about some other stuff and thought that seeing him would make me feel better until he told me that he took a deal and would have to serv 10 years, it was then that I realized that my feelings had evovled and he was more than just a friend I had strong feelings for him and was devastated that we wouldn't be together as soon as I had hoped, since I had just been treating him as a friend I didn't want him to see my true feelings so I ended the visit and told him I had to go. I cried all the way home, my emotions were going crazy, I didn't really know what to think, I kept telling myself that I was trippen because he was just a friend this wasn't suppose to get serious. I wrote him and told him how sorry I was about his situation and I came out and told him the real reason I had to leave was because I didn't want hime to see me cry, I told him to not think that just because I knew he got all that time I would abandon him, when they shipped him to prison I would still keep in touch and come visit him every once in a while and we agreed to maintain a causual relationship. I guess both of our feelings became too overwhelming and he came out and told me that he really cared about me and was thinking that it was love but wasn't sure because of the way we meet if it was possible and he asked me to be his girl, I wrote him and told him that even though I had feelings for him, given his time, I wasn't sure if it was realistic or if I was willing to make that committment I had just turned 20 and didn't know if I would be willing to put my life on hold, I didn't tell him no, I told him I needed time to think about it. It took me 6 months after he was shipped off to a prison about an hour away for me to finally realize that I wanted to be with him and ever since then it's been official. I have meet just about his whole family and they consider me apart of the family his mother calls me her daughter in law and there isn't a family function that goes by that they don't call to invite me to, I talk to his grandmother at least every other week and when we end our phone call she always tells me she loves me. I've always told him that 10 years is a long time and I don't even know if we will be the same people we are now that we are at 30 but we take it one day at a time and I just keep finding that I love him more and more as each day goes by. Last November about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving a member of the Parole Board visited him and told him that the max time he would have to do is 5 years since he has already done 3 that means at most he only has 2 more, I'm getting mixed messages because when I researched his charge online, By GA Law once sentenced you have to serve your full sentence without any chance of parole but I'm praying what he was told is true and we can finally be together in 2 years.

Well I guess I didn't do a great job of keeping this brief hit me up sometimes you guys.

C-lover, welcome. Don't ever worry about the length of a post. We're here to listen and support.

Hello everyone! I am sooooo happy I found this site! I have been through so much over the past year and needed something like this so bad. Thank you God! I'm sitting here boo-hooing like a baby right now because I finally have someone to talk to, I hope. I don't really know what the "rules" are or how exactly this all works, but I am certainly willing to find out. I saw another "section" on "husbands/boyfriends in prison" or something like that and then I saw the "met while incarcerated" subject and began reading. Like the other person above, I don't mean to be long-winded, but man I need to vent! I worked in a state prison in the medical dept for several years and never once thought I would end up falling in love with an inmate. Don't mean to sound harsh, but it was very much against the rules and never crossed my mind. I guess I'll share our "love story" later for brevity's sake. I had to resign my position, needless to say. He was transferred to another facility and I finally found out how to reach him and we began writing. We were not allowed phone calls until about 6 months ago. I am still not allowed to visit. He is up for parole in a couple years. I found this site looking for information to contact the group Fairness for Prisoners' Families in hopes to see what, if any, avenues I had to be allowed to visit him. I am so happy I found you!:) This man truly is the love of my life. I wasn't looking and never expected it. He calls me Precious, thus my "name".

my name is michelle and i met my man jesus through an ex boyfriend of mine three years ago. we just started going out in january. he has four more years left. he gets out on may 8, 2010. hes going to try to get out on parole so we can be together. he broke up with me last month and i was crushed but the his mom talked to him and told him that if he really loved me then he would fix it and he asked me to marry him and i said yes. so now we are getting married when he gets out. i have never been happier then i am now. i cant wait till he gets out.

Hello to everyone! I am new to this and have been checking out the different forums. I was happy to find this one! :D I met my "sweetie" through a penpal site when I was on there checking out my brothers' ad to see how many hits he had received. For some strange reason when I kept trying to pull up my brother it kept directing me to a picture of a very handsome young man with a beautiful smile that made me do a double take! (U GOTTA LOVE YOUR COMPUTER!) I tried probably three times and finally I took a second to read his ad then I left the website all together. Needless to say I could not get that smile out of my head..........Later I went back to the website wrote down the info and TOOK A CHANCE! I don't know that I was "looking" for anything in a sense but SOMETHING drew me to this person and when pen met paper the words started flowing so naturally like I was writing someone I'd known for years. I didn't receive his response right away and later learned that he was taken by surprise first for receiving a letter and second by the sincerity that came across to him in the letter. That was almost six months ago and we've written each other at least 2-3 times a week (sometimes more) ever since. We talk as often as possible (as he is allowed) and our conversations have been beautiful and very comfortable. I never felt any discomfort about the idea probably because my brother has been incarcerated for 8 years in a federal prison and I would never want anyone to judge him based on that situation (if that makes any sense). I have a strong belief that we are placed in the lives of others (vice versa) for a reason and nothing occurs by happenstance. He says it was "divine intervention"! We have found that we have SO MUCH in common, our interests, likes/dislikes, dreams and desires etc..etc.. Our feelings for each other came about so naturally and we both feel very good about EVERYTHING now and in the future. I'm usually not one to "fall in love" but I can't help but to love and adore this man!!!! He has served 10 years of a long sentence (I'm not going to claim it!) and will hopefully have things worked out in our favor real soon! I will travel almost 10 hrs. for my first visit real soon and I'm excited and nervous! But, I know everything will be alright! I'm very glad to have found this forum and I've enjoyed the "family" atmosphere. I look forward to this new experience!:)

hi there my name is samantha! like mscrystal above me i am in the same type of situation, i met anthony through his father he is a friend of my aunt, he told me about his son and the situation he was in, and being the person i am and the life i lived i felt for him, so i started writing, it was a little ackward at first bc we didnt knwo eachother, and i had never written to anyone before......but as the letters started coming more and began to get longer and longer, i fell for this man, we have so much in common and come from the same background that its a trip, like we were made for eachother, everyone thinks i am crazy, thats why i am glad to find you ladies, your there for me and i am for you, and thats definetly something that feels really good, its hard to talk to people out here cuz unless they are in the same situation they dont know where you are coming from..... so thanks, it feels good to finally be able to talk about my true feelings for anthony......i love this man, and cant wait for him to be home with me, i have never met him face to face either, that is until tomorrow, i am flying out to california to go visit for the first time, im soooo excited. I have pictues of him and him of me, but to fell him, hold him, kiss him, i cant wait. And i know that its going to go by so fast so i am going to make the most of it, and hopefully can go back out there soon to see him, if not he gets out sept this year so wish me luck!!!! and thanks for this forum, i think i will learn alot and get to know alot of you, so thanks!!!

hi there everyone thanks for this forum it will be a lot of help, i am in the same situation and hes coming home in sept cant wait, until then we will get to know eachother a lot better!!!

hi everybody! my name is vickie, and i'm from a small town in mississippi. i guess i should start from the begining....
i first got involved in the prison scene when my youngest daughter told me she and a friend were doing a paper for school on inmate corospondance(i can't spell) and was it ok to write an inmate? well, i freaked at first, but she convinced me it was ok, and that she would be careful. it worked out great. well, a relationship i had been in for 7 years ended shortly after that, and almost a year later she convinced me to find a pen-pal. i was apprehensive at first, but said what the hell. now it's 5 years and lots of new friends later. but i had gotten to the point that i was getting too many letters. i just couldn't keep up with them all. so i removed my name from the list. they dwindled down to nothing finally. until one day......my son went to get the mail, and told me i had a new prison letter(as he called them). i said just throw it away. he said aw mom, you can't throw this one away, it's from ronald macdonald. i grabbed the envelope, and sure enough, it said ronnie mcdonald. i said well i can't let him down! so i read it, and the rest is history. i never knew my future was in that envelope. we've been writing for almost 2 years, and we met for the first time this past january. it was through glass of course. at our visit, he got down on one knee behind that glass and asked me to marry him. how could i say no? so on feb. 14th, the day of love, i married the love of my life. he sees parole this oct., and we're hoping for the best. he's in fort stockton, texas, so we will try the interstate compact thing.
i know exactly what you all mean about the things people say when they find out your involved with someone on the inside. but i have found so much support and love here. it's the greatest site on the web. goodness, i've written a novel! i hope you all don't mind, and you can consider yourself blessed with a new friend!:D

Hi, Everyone, I'm Catminister. I've been on Prison Talk about a month or so. I was thinking of a question to ask, and I found this place, which seems like where I should be.

Welcome welcome welcome to all the newcomers, we're so glad to have you here with us. We aren't fancy but we're happy to make room on the couch for y'all so have a seat and make yourselves at home!!!

All the best,
Patty

I was a pen pal to many and a family friend asked me to look up his brother in jail , he had been feeling bad that he lost touch , so I found him and wrote him asking if he wanted a pen pal ad , seeing that his own brother hadn't wrote in years , he wrote back , and we just kept on , the brother that asked me to look him up never wrote and we fell out about that !! I am in love , and happier then I have ever been ,

Wow, so many new comers since my last post. Welcome, welcome and welcome.

We looking forward to chatting w/ you and getting to know you guys.

Pull up a chair, grab a beverage of your choice and jump right in, for we're family and we're all have something in common; therefore, there's no little you or big us. We're all on the same level.

Welcome and best wishes.

i live in wis i had met my best friend and soul mate who is in mo state prison it has been four months but havent met face to face yet.hopefully we will in aug

good luck girl and dont let nothing bring you down, stay behind him the whole way always, i went up to see my man last weekend and they were on lock-down, so i didnt get to visit, that would of been our first meeting---we were soo excited---he thought i was going to give up on him after that, never,,,,,i am determined to see him soon, if i have to wait til sept---when he gets out---so hang in there girl and keep ya head up!!!

HELLO Everyone! I met my baby through his sister, my exhusband's new wife. She had asked me to write because he was down and not receiving any mail (not even his family) So we started writing and it started off very impersonal and no biggie kinda thing. THEN we started talking about personal things just through the process of getting to know each other. In just 2 short months, I had fallen for him. I went to "meet" him on May 19, 2006 (BEST DAY OF MY LIFE) and when he walked in and our eyes met, I knew I loved him. At the end of our visit he whispered to me "I LOVE YOU" I was so taken back and shocked to hear such sacred words from him, I don't think he even heard me tell him that I loved him too. He is my sunshine in this crazy messed up world. He is so affectionate and romantic - I love it! I write him everyday. and he writes me about twice a week. I can't stop thinking about him throughout the day and have caught myself smiling quite a bit lately. I am truly blessed to have found my soulmate.
Thank you for this site, I have found it to be VERY supportive and reassuring that I'm not alone in the quest to conquer the walls that divide us.
Congrats to you all who have found true love.

I MET MY MAN WHILE HE WAS INCARCERATED,,, AND I AM SO IN LOVE... I CAN'T WAIT TILL HE'S HOME...:)

WELL HERE'S MY STORY ... I MET MY MAN WHILE HE WAS IN PRISON AND HE'S STILL THERE. HE IS SERVING HIS 19TH YEAR, I WAS MARRIED TO HIS BROTHER AND I USE TO WRITE TO HIM AND WE WOULD GO VISIT HIM AND I STARTED TO GET FEELINGS FOR HIM. SO I PURSUED IT AND HE HAD THE SAME FEELINGS FOR ME AND WE STARTED TO GET TOGETHER, SO I ENDED IT WITH THE BROTHER AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVERYSINCE NOW IT HAS BEEN SIX YEARS AND I AM SO IN LOVE WITH HIM. AND I CAN'T WAIT FOR HIM TO GET HOME..

i met my man while i was incarcerated. i was serving my last year at CCWF Chowchilla,CA.and my home girl was writing her brother in law who was (and still is) fighting a double life sentense.well...his letters to her were so intelligent and well....just wonderful!!!i bugged and bugged her and finally when she paroled,i got his hookup. we wrote (and still do)all of 2005, he was my life saver!!! i paroled Dec.2005 and march 25th we celebrated our one year anniversary. he is still awaiting trial and we continue to write and talk on the phone!!!!!!!WOW it was so wonderful to finally get to hear his voice!!!!!we plan on getting married whether he is convicted or not.it will be hard if he is cause he paroled from an indertiminate SHU term at pelican bay CA.so he will be transported right back there. no phone no visits. we have yet to meet face to face cause the terms of my parole wont let me but we keep on pushin!!!! i shake my head in awe and wonder at times when i think of how i met this man and the feelings he brought forth in me. i wrote a book of poetry while i was down maybe i will share some of them(so many to him)with any one who might want to read them. love is real........and strong enough to transend miles,barbed wire,and brick walls...

Hi Everyone... I am new to all this so bear with me!!!..like most of everyone on this site i met my friend Elliott from a penpal site.. I wasn't looking for anything but a friend, but what I did get was so much more... somethings just happen for a reason!...LOL he has been in 7 years and still has 5 to go. I have know him for almost a years now and he seems like a sweet guy with a big heart. he has talked about marraige and a future, but my biggest worry is what will happen after the next 5 years are over.... only time will tell... this is an awsome site.. I plan on spending alot of time here.... thanks everyone!

welcome!!! we are all in the same boat here, and everyone is very helpful!!! although let me warn you that i have only been here for about a month and i am already addicted---lol----jk---so good luck and have fun!!!

Hey,I met my snotface through my bro-inlaw.My nieces father was in prison and i wrote him to let him know that i would be keeping his daughter for a year to help my sister out while she finished school.I gave him my address and phone number and told him he can call his daugter anytime he wanted to.On feb 1 he called and was telling me who was in there with him that i might know.So he mentioned my hunn'ys name and I was like oh tell him I said hi and i remember he used to hustle with my brother years ago and that he used to call me koala bear (he said I look like one).So a few days later my bro-inlaw called again and talked to his baby and then me and him talked then he said,Shaquana this boy is in here driving me crazy about you and he wants to send u a valentine's day card".So i asked him where is he now and he said that he is right here you wanna talk to him.He got on the phone and I said Hi and kept the convo pretty neutral.Then he said I sent you a valentines day card I hope that's ok with you.I said sure thats fine.On feb14th I was checking my mail cause I didnt have anywhere to go or no one to go out with and in the mailbox there was the card.After that we just kept writing eachother.Now we talk about everyday and it's weired cause it feels like i knew him all my life. Hope you enjoyed my story of me and my snotface.LOL

Teardrop73, I know that I am late, but I want to welcome you to our family.

Best wishes.

Greetings everyone. I met my guy through my parents! They had been visiting him for 15 years through a prision ministry program. He's serving 2 life sentences for 1st degree murder and I have to admit for the longest time I didn't even really want to hear what my parents had to say about him. :-) I started writing to him about 1.5 years ago and we met for the first time last July. All I can say is that he and I are meant for each other. Go figure. LOL It is absolutely the LAST thing I would have ever expected to happen. Ah well, it's really not in my hands, is it? :-) By the way - I just found this section. I've been posting in the lifers section for a while, but I'm glad I found this one.
MK

okay here it goes , i grew up with my man , we were actually best friends.At one time even , his ex girl (of 4 years)and I were roomy's in my freshman year of college ! omg ! , he ended up going into prison in 1999 , and 6 months into his sentance she left him flat for another guy , sold all his jewlery ,the whole 9- , Have'nt spoke to her since! Him and I continued to write one another , daily ,we actually were both going through pretty rough brake ups , We became very intense , passionate , deep penpals , that is when I fell in love with him ! About 7 -8 months before he came home , we both hinted at our intense feelings for one another , But never made it official . I picked him up at the jail when he was released , chilled with him for days on end to help him adjust , watching movies , cooking , ect. On about his 5th day home we shared an unbelievable magical kiss , and the rest is history! We have a beautifull baby girl , and have made quite the life with one another. Now , here we are 2006 , he's back in for 3 1/2 -4 years.And this time I'm trooping the bid as his wife. So yes , we did fall in love during his 1st incarceration. Deeply. We saved all our letters , as we do now , and sometimes I will go through them , and I just cant believe it , who would of thought...

welcome to MWI forum, your in the best place..great stories..good luck to all and stay in touch..

(email address removed per PTO Policy, please contact member via PM)[quote=gabbygirl372001]My story is long and complicated. I will say this though. We met in 1998, while he was incarcerated, and I was an employee. We wrote for a few months, then went our separate ways until spring of 2004, when I sent him a birthday card. Its been a lot of phone calls, letters and visits since then. I can't imagine my future without him in it, and I can't wait to see him again![/quote

if you do not mind me asking.. did you meet himwhile you were employed where he is at? Actually, the reason i ask my story is long and kinda complicated. would like to hear from you on this? thanks for your time:)

I want to welcome all of the new members to the Met While Incarcerated forum. Please feel free to start new threads and tell us more about you and your relationships. You will find this to be a great group of friends...

Glad you found us,
Patty

i met my baby souk from a best of friend of mines. she and I write alot of inmates that don't have anyone to write too. at a certain point i had about 35 pen pals and one who was my finance that was already doing time in arizona. Souk and I met 1 year and 1 month ago and he knew i was in a relationship and was fine about being friends. He tried and tried to hold down his feeling for so long and when me and my finance were on the rocks due to his anger problems souk was there for me. What really tip the scale was because when i was in financial bond he send me 500 dollars to help pay my telephone bill even though he knew he wasn't the only one to call me. when i got sick he called me at the hospital on my cell every chance he got. He even had his family call me to check on me for him. When his dad died I felt like i needed to be there as he was for me so when i spoke to his family i told them i will be the one to break the news. i got a hold of his counselor and talk to them about letting him out for couple of hours and to have a champlin talk to him about the news. The champlin let him call and he chose to call me and we cried together and i told him that i loved him with all my heart and no matter what i am going to be there. he writes constanly every day maybe twice a day and call me 3x a week. we both can feel each other presence at times and call when we are doing the same time for example he gets out the shower and i am getting out too. Being sick at the same time and get over at the same time as well. isn't that something and we are planning on moving together and live that happy life we both need. i love him like i never loved anyone else.:thumbsup: :yay:

Looks like I will be joinin ya'll folks here real soon. :yay: As I have stated in a couple thread here my ex thought to pass out my addy to others in the facility. :eek:I was fumin' at first :angry: but I guess I got curious and opened a few letters. Wouldnt ya know one or two caught my eye and so I responded. :o Things are really progressing forward with one of these gentleman and we plan to meet as soon as I can get on his visiting list at the facility. :dance: Ladies I thought I would NEVER do the prison love lifestyle again but this gentleman is worth it I can tell. He is already doing more for me than old boy ever did. :thumbsup:

We always welcome new members...Isn't that right ladies???

Yes, that is right Amanda!! Welcome to all of you. Relax and enjoy, this forum is like a second home to me. :)

Hello Everyone!!! I met my boyfriend while he was incarcerated almost a year ago. I saw his documentary on TV and first wrote to his friend that was also involved in his case, as well as his brother. I wasn't expecting a relationship, I was going thru a divorce and just wanted a friend and someone that would listen... Wouldn't you know a year later I have found my soul mate and have never been happier. He is a lifer... he is serving 29 to life, has been since 1995 (he was 15 at the time)...I will always be at his side...He has a very strong appeal and we are waiting for some good news... My family isn't very supportive of our relationship so at times it's hard, I am so glad to have found PTO...I visit here everyday and have found so much helpful information...THANK YOU!!!

Hello,
My name is Teresa. I met Andre off of a prison pen pal thing. I was actually just playing around and sent a message. About 5 months later after I had forgotten what I done, I got a letter in the mail with a pic of this beautiful man!!! Oh my gosh I could not believe it. And the funny thing is I could not remember. Well, in the letter it stated that he just got my message and that his account on that site was supposed to be closed out a month prior to me posting the message. So, we corresponded and got to know one another and eventually I fell in love with his mind which was beautiful for me because I had never experienced this before. He is in Federal prison and was in KY now he has moved to WV. His for sure release is 04/2012 but you know how they get good time and all that other stuff so he thinks it should be 04/2009. I don't know, but I stopped talking to him because I was scared eventually he got tired of trying I am sure. Be none the less still wrote sometimes to let me know that he was thinking of me. So, I can't fight this feeling that I have for him anymore and I need some support on this issue I love this man and it is crazy to me!!! Can anyone help??? Or try to explain why I feel the way that I feel?

Thank you so much in advance for your help~
Teresa

hi everyone, don't know why i never thought to put a post here but I met BJ while incarcerated....I met him in 2002 through a friend....we hit it off from day one and wrote and talked on the phone for 3 years before we became a couple - so now we are getting married and just waiting for them to give us our date! Keep your fingers crossed that is coming soon! Glad to see this forum!

We're glad to have all of you here with us, this forum has really taken off in a short time, it's good to know that many have found a home here.

Patty

:heart: :heart: :heart: Hi all. Well here goes the story of all stories. I met the love of my life while we were both incarcerated at a small town county jail. This was two years ago and we are still going strong. We were both in trouble but for completely diffrent things. We were from completely diffrent backgrounds and lifestyles. I had been living the straight life and she was a full fledge dedicated lesbian. I fell in love with her instantly and we spent about 6 weeks together before she was released and I was still awaiting court.
All odds against us we survived. Now we both are in violation for probation and living on the run until we have enough money saved to hire private attorneys to see us through our next journey. We will both have to serve prison time which will be taking place in the very near future. Our relationship has not been perfect and we've incurred ALOT of mishaps and challenges thus far. If anyone has any advice or prayers or simple words of wisdom, please share...........:heart:

hi femme75,

no advice yet, but plenty of prayers for you and your partner, and i just want to say welcome to PTO and the MWI forum! you will find PTO to be a wonderful source of information and support. :) also, MWI is special and everyone on this forum is SO great.

best wishes to you in whatever you do. be smart. you will always have a friend here. :heart:

smiles,
k

Hello:

My name is Karen and I met my loved one through my best-friend. Her boyfriend is Aaron's cell mate. We were friends but it started to progress and now I like him alot. I will be visiting him for the first time next month. It's been only 3 months he is incarcerated in Elmira Correctional Facility located in NY. He will be released next year. I am taking it slow because you really don't get to know a person until they are released.

OK I am fairly new here. My hun is an old friend we have known each other since I was a little girl. We have previously fooled around but were always involved with other people. But we both have always had a thing for each other. I recently started writing as a "friend" when his sister told me he was down & out after being in and out of the hole.

He wrote back right away and also said he was surprised I was still single and he would be my man (if I wanted).

Anywayz we are still writing and thinking about pursuing this when he gets out 10/07. In the meantime there has been alot of flirting and fun in our letters getting to know each other again. So here I am. Nice to meet you all!! :)

Hi, my name is Sheila and I am 35 years old. I am from Ohio. I meet my fiancee throught a mutual friend. And it was love at first sight. He was in an halfway house and ended up leaving for about 8 months now he is back in a Correctional Facility for the rest of his time. He is very upset because he isn't allowed to have any visitors. How can I reassure him that everything will be ok. He doesn't have that much longer to go. I keep telling him that we have to stay strong and believe that everything is going to be ok. :new:

I met Jose threw a pen pal ad. I hadnt even thought you could write to prisoners. I read his intro and knew we had a lot in common so I wrote him. He has been in all his adult life and in and out most of his teen years. He was very shy about writing me and scared he would 'make a mistake' but I knew he was the one from his letters... e is very polite, doesnt ask me for anything, we finish each others sentences and use the same phrases etc in letters to each other writen at the same time but dont recieve them till 2 weeks later. He gets out in 10 years, then parole. I have to say I hope he stays out but I dont know if he will cuz prison is pretty much all he has ever known and he does seem institutionalised~ completely manages his life inside, his friends from his barrio are there etc. I think he wants out but he doesnt have the hope that it will be permanent.

:cool: Hey I think I know you? :cool:

:heart: Anyways each everytime you guys talk or write all you can do is uncontionally express your love for him to him. You have to stay strong for him. :heart:

WELCOME TO PTO LADIES, GLAS TO HAVE YOU WITH US :yay: :yay:

Hi there. I am fairly new here. I found this forum yesterday. I met my boyfriend, love of my life, thru a prison pen-pal forum.

It's tough for us because I am in Upstate NY and he is incarcerated in Folsom in California. We have been writing and together for 28 months.

I get alot of slack because of this but I love him to death and he loves me.

I love this forum and I am glad to be here!

I met my guy while he was incarcerated. Its great to know there is a place to chat with others in the same unique situation.

Hi All,

I am brand new to PTO, and am of course excited and happy to find a forum like this. My pen pal is in a California state prison. I'm originally from CA but am in the military stationed in Virginia right now. I look forward to becoming part of the PTO community.

Welcome everyone to the MWI forum.

Hello, One of my pen pals while I was in prison is finally getting out of prison next week. I have been out a little over a year. I have faithfully written him for over a year. As a felon just released I had the rude awakening how hard its going to be to live my life because of my background job, apt etc... I have explained all these obstacles to Stacy and tried to prepare him for what he normally did in life before prison such as job trade is no longer. We need alot of help in all aspects and have to take what we can get. Of course it has sunk in yet because he has not experienced it yet. We are planning on giving a relationship a try and hope all goes well. No surprises here. Just two felons who seem to get along very well trying to make a place in this sterotypical society we live in.

i met someone in prison and now our relationship has gotten deeper and i love him.i met him before he was in prison and he was married..well we started writting each other and we just fell in love...im new to this site and really new to this kind of love...hes getting a divorce now because his wife was cheating on him...how do u deal with someone u care for in jail for so long?

Special welcome and hello to all the new comers.

Continue to check in for updates, advice, support, etc. Feel free to provide pearsl of wisdom to the family, regardless of the length of your relationship w/ your loved one.

hi everyone.....i'm tonya, 30 yrs old, in raleigh NC.

i hope i'm doing this right, lol, i just found this site a couple days ago while looking for info on the interstate compact thing. this is SO cool! i don't know anyone who has met their man the way i did and i'm sure i don't have to tell u guys how hard it is to explain it to someone who doesn't know first hand.

i met tomas in november of last year. i had actually gotten in trouble myself and spent a couple months in a county jail in NH and figured out during that time how much i liked getting mail and writing. (i know first hand how much those letters mean!) so i went searching for some penpals. i'm an overacheiver, lol, i wrote about 7 guys but something different happened with tomas and we connected like i've never connected with anyone. i actually wrote him because we are complete opposites. he's 6'5", half black, half puerto rican and grew up in the bronx. i'm 5', natural blonde, as white as u can get and grew up in a small town in NH. anyways, he's in AZ until he gets paroled in about a year and i am in NC. i've never met him face to face. because of my record, i wouldn't be able to visit anyways. i sent in my mothers info so that he can call me, but we're still waiting for them to change the number since i moved. BUT i did find a nice CO a couple months ago who let him call me for literallly 2 minutes. it was a tease, but enough time that we got to hear eachothers voices for the first time and tell eachother that we loved one another. i only write him and one other guy from NY now, that i hit it off with on a different level, he calls me the little sis he never had.

ok, i'm writting a book and that wasn't my intention. i'm still really new to this forum stuff but really would like to get to know some other people in the same situation (email address removed per PTO policy please contact members via PM system)

WELCOME ONE AND ALL!!!

Patty

I met my man 3-years ago through my god-son that is in the same facility. We escalated to phone calls and visits about 18-months ago. Love developed and grew to marriage last July. He is being moved to a camp near where I live in about 2-weeks where he will be for about another year until he finishes his sentence. What am I in for?

Good luck. I married my guy a year ago. I am certain I did the right thing for me and Im looking forward to his homecoming in about 2-years.

Hello Ladies...I met my Soldado(soldier) through pen pal ad....Id been a member since 05/05...Id never even looked at an ad...one day for some reason i was looking at ads ...i think his was like the one of the first one...I kept going back to him....ladies I know ive easily read a thousand ads....None even came close to Soldado's...it wasnt anything he said any different...after reading that ad for days over and over...i finally wrote after about a week he hadnt responded id given up day leafing through bills I had a letter.....he is on extended lockdown so his mail is SLOW...its been a month now and Ive gotten so many letters and even a card today..Im FALLING FOR HIM LADIES>>>he is ONE BEAUTIFUL BLACK MAN INSIDE AND OUT.

Family,

Welcome to this thread. We look forwarding to communicating w/ everyone.

Hi all...saw this topic and thought I'd add our story:

He and I met at Potomac Highlands Reg. We used to "talk" every night thru the vent and occassionally on the "wall phone" LOL. Sounds so funny in retrospect. Well that started in March of 2004, then I was moved to Lakin and he to the Hut, and we lost touch. That fall (Oct 2004) he shot me a letter asking me to help find him a pen-pal, when he ran into a friend at the Hut who knew me. Although I had not planned to be the one, I ended up writing him and we developed a great friendship. He saw me thru being denied parole the first time, loss of loved ones and I did the same for him and somewhere along the line we found love, the one thing neither of us was looking for.
I made parole in Dec 2005 and came home, we contiued to write and added phone calls. He went up for parole in May 2006 and made it!! ..but he had a detainer for a probation vio. in VA, so we had that to deal with.
God had us covered though. It took forever for WV to get him to court to sign extradition papers but once they were, VA never responded. He was free to go...I picked him up at the Hut July 19 and we've been inseparable! :thumbsup:
He's met my family (they love him) and I've met his (I assume they like me..they talk to me LOL). All is great and we just take one day at a time. We were able to build such a foundation for our relationship thru the letters and phone calls, that bringing it face to face was just a natural extension.
I can't imagine anyone I'd rather spend the rest of my life with.:cool:

My man & I met as penpals about three months ago. The most I was hoping for was a new friend, but from his first letter to me, I knew I could love him, and in just a few short weeks, my heart was his. Lucky for me, he feels the same way, and we're cautiously starting to plan a life together.

I'm happy to have found this MWI forum, I know there'll be times when I need all the support I can get, and I hope to be able to help others as well.

Shel

Shel,

Welcome to this forum.

:wave:since '04 and have never even bothered to look at other threads. I'm sorry that I have missed so much, I guess the fact that I was in school pushing myself to graduate that now that I have succeded I have plenty of time. Well I met my hunny in '02 through a prison pen pal site, I never thought that I would pull something off of that nature I was sort of embarressed at the mere fact that society always thinks of individuals behind bars as anything but good. Anyway how it happened was at the time I was with someone else and of course he left me for someone else. I guess the fact that I was upset and hurt really pissed me off that got me to the point that I started to search the web and came upon the site that I found my hunny. I think that what attracted me to writing him was his persona, the fact that we had similar likes and dislikes and he was gorgeous:haha: Well I wrote him and soon enough a week later he responded and we have been writing ever since. I see him at least 2x a month and we are very much in love. he is a wonderful person and his family come to find out today, think very highly of me and like me very much.:thumbsup: We have 13 months before he sees the board and keeping my fingers crossed we can finally be together. So I'm thankful that my then partner decided to go elsewhere because now I'm really happy. :yay: :fb:

hi i'm diana 49 from va..i met justin through my
son who was his cellie...they became fast friends and i started writing and visiting justin 29 because his family was in calif and he didn't have anyone... we realized we (even thou the age dif) had alot in common...we talked alot and wrote many a letter..i fell for him hard...he is the sweetest person....we take things one day at a time not fooling ourselves...no one knows what the future brings...all i can do is hope....

I dont think I have ever introduced myself as I do and dont fit in here.....

There was once upon a time a guy who lived across from my brothers house. I had talked to him a few times, but didnt actually know anything about him until many months later...

I was writing to a friend of mine that was in prison and one day he told me Chris said Hello and wanted to know if he could write me. Being a little curious I went ahead and let my friend give my address to this guy, but I was only curious. When I got the first letter I didnt plan on writing back. About a month later I got another letter saying all kinds of things that got my attention. At first I really thought (and it probably was) just a bunch of words to get my attention so I would write to him.

Well it worked and 3 1/2 years later we are happily in love and married.


BTW...When I first met him I thought he was kinda arrogent and was never even the slightest bit interested in him.

Hey everyone.

I met my man through a pen pal ad, and at first, he wasn't sure if he wanted to write me or not. He has been in there for so long, he wasn't sure if it would work. That maybe, with him being sentenced for as long as he is, us having a relationship was out of the question. We started writing more and more, he called me and i was hooked. Hard!!! I went to see him and knew from the minute i laid eyes on him, he was the one. He's in lockdown so we aren't able to touch each other, we have to wait 53 more days for that!! He asked me to marry him on our 1 year anniversary, and of course i said yes. I'd be a fool to let him go. He's taught me so much about myself, about love, and about trust. All that from a man locked up, who would've thought that to be possible??

We've hit an obstacle in getting married though, he has to be there to sign for a marriage license, they don't allow a power of attorney to sign, which really stinks. But i'll marry him when ever we can get it situated. People look at me like i'm crazy, but love sees past the walls, bars, and cuffs.

Wife To Be Club Member #113

:yay: It's so great to see new faces.

Welcome to all the new comers. Looking forward to reading your posts.

Best wishes to all.

Hi, I`m kind of new to this site! Looking to meet similiar people in the same situation as me! I met my boyfriend through my best male friend, about 7 months ago. My best friend(Jose) had gotten locked up .. and ended up being room-mates with his cousin Jabriel (my man). Jose hooked us up, we wrote to eachother for a month or so, and then I went to visit him. He is currently in Garden State Correctional Facility, in Yardville Nj. Since our second visit, I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, and we've built a relationship since then, mainly based on letters and visits. He's a really nice guy, he has his very possessive and jealous moments, but what man in jail, who isnt seeing whats really going on, wouldn't be? Right? He goes to a halfway house on august 31st, and from there he is supposedly supposed to do about 120 days, and then he'll be home on Parole. He's been incarcerated for a total of 50 and a half months. He tells me he loves me, because I`m there for him, when even his family is not. But I'm wondering if alot of this supposed "love" he has for me, is because he has absolutely NO interaction with any other females, and has not had any, for about 4 years. Im wondering if i'm the only one who feels this way. I'm afraid of being hurt, that he's just using me, for contact and something to keep him busy. I don't know quite what to do, I was under the impression he was going to be home this past July 13th. Now, its almost another 6 months of this b.s.! :blah: I don't know what to do, I'm just feeling frustrated I guess. He keeps telling me, he wants me to get his name tattooed on my neck, and all this other crazy talk. I mean, I like him alot, and I'm faithful to him, and I don't mind (too much) the relationship that we currently have. But i've never been in a relationship with anyone whos been incarcerated before, so maybe its a little harder. But i'm starting to doubt his sincerity in his love for me, and our relationship. Has anyone else had these fears? I just need to talk with someone that is in my same situation! I hope this thread is helpful to me! to all who read this, thank you so much for your time, god bless, have a great day, and good luck with your men!! :D

- Margaret

I met my husband almost 3 years ago when he was onthe last 7 months of a four year bid. My daughter and his neice were best friends and decided to play matchmaker. His niece wrote him about me and then his letter came. I wrote him back we spoke on the phone and a week later I visited him ( with his sis by my side of course i was nervous) That was a wrap. I then make the trip to Gouvernour NY every sat and sun (4 1/2 trip one way) Until the day he came home (sept 2nd 2004) Now he went back in on a PV. And will be back home june 6th 2007. Anyway he is my entire life. My first husband stabbed me 25 times, ( we have 3 kids the youngest being 14 months at the time of the attack 2001) Need less to say my children have nothing to do with their "birth" father. My husband has been the most wonderful DADDY to them I could ask for and the absolute best husband in the world. My son was only 3 when we met, so he has no memory of the "psycho" he only knows Daddy. Its most hard on him Daddy going back to jail. Our girls are older but they miss him just the same. Love sometimes is found in the starngest places. I wouldn't give up my husband for the world. Because men like him are one in a million. I HATE people who put indivuals down who go to prison. We ALL make mistakes. The only difference is our loved ones got caught. Its hard holding a relationship together thru a bid, but if you really love some one, you make it work.

Hey!!! I met my fiance through my cousin who was in the same cell in a SHU unit with my man. My cousin and fiance both sent me letters simultaneously. When I first saw my man's letter I was pissed @ my cousin for involving me in some jailhouse s**t. I was about to throw the letter away. But by the grace of God that letter kept calling me and calling me. So I read it over and over again until something hit me that indicated this man was sincere. I went to see my cousin at the next visit to question him about his bunkee and he confirmed all I was feeling about him. So the next visit (In SHU they only have 1 visit a week) me and my friend came up to meet him:thumbsup: . Actually I introduced my friend to my cousin and they liked each other but my friend is one of those out of sight out of mind people and couldn't keep up with a faithful relationship with an incarcerated my. My baby and I hit it off immediately:) . I visited him the rest of the time in SHU and when he got out we continued our visits. He is due home before the end of the year and we are engaged to be married later on this year. I was so suprised that you could find your soulmate behind bars but it has happened and in my adventures traveling to the different visits to see him I met lots of other women who met their men and husbands that way. i am so blessed to have him and he is a great guy. I am so excited about the end of the year when we really become official. :love:

I met my baby back in January 06 when I decided to do something nice for someone (other than myself :) ). My baby brother had had a short stay in prison and he told me that my letters really helped him to keep his spirits up and made his time go by faster. So I found a penpal site and randomly picked a few ads. I sent a letter introducing myself and he responded about a week or so later. In his first letter to me I knew that we would make great pen pals. We shared so much in common and he had a great sense of humor (which I LOVE). He made me smile, made me laugh so I decided to write him a second letter...and thats when he said that he fell in love with me:) . He says that when he saw my pictures he knew that i would be his. No matter what it took, "I would be his". I loved his confidence and his cocky little attitude. He told me that he was one in a million and he has turned out to be just that. He showered me with letters and cards and even managed to send me a beautiful gift basket. As we got to know each other I began to question this whole situation...Like how can this man say he loves me when we have never met, are his feelings for me true or just "jail talk"? But more importantly was how could i be falling in love with an "inmate" and a complete stranger ...for lack of a better word. I knew what my heart was feeling but everything else inside of me was questioning my actions. When we had our first visit in May 06 it practically sealed the deal. We clicked instantly and as he stated to me that meeting me was like finding the missing piece of his puzzle that is now complete. I would have NEVER in a gagillion years thought that I would meet the love of my life this way, but I did. No one but God knows whats in store for us, all i know is that i thank God that he allowed our paths to cross. He sees the board in October and hopefully will be coming home in December :thumbsup: . I hope my Christmas is MERRY.;)

I am so glad to have found a place where I know that you guys know what I am going thru and how sometimes our situations can be downright frustrating:banghead: :cry: . Its good to know I have a place to share my feelings and vent. Thanks for being here for us PTO!:thumbsup:





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I guess I am gonna finally break down and do this. I was a little hesitant because I didn't really want to "jerry springer" my life, but...what the heck. It isn't really fair for me to post and comment but not take the time to let you know who I am now is it?

I met "my man" who I have fallen totally and completely heart, mind and soul in love with while he is incarcerated.

Here is the story. I have a friend that got sentenced to 94 years to life who I write and flirted around with but was not really serious with. Although he seemed to be a little smitten with me. He had a cellie for about 2 years and finally they got seperated so my friend had me writing the cellie to keep up with him etc. Well the cellie (my man) has game and he caught my attention. We have taken our friendship to another level and I am loving it. He has all my attention. At first I felt a little bad about falling for my friends cellie, but....at the same time you can't hand the kid candy and then say don't eat it. Right?

Anyway...that is me. I have been behind the bars and outside of the bars and I like it from the outside looking in a lot better than the inside looking out.

Glad to meet you guys/girls.

Keeping it real!

HI my name is Liz and I met Jerome through a penpal ad as well. we were writing for 4 months and then committed almost at the same time our love for each other. It was actually funny holding his letter asking me the question i just sended to him. Since i am from Germany I cannot go and visit him. I will not get to see him live til November of 07. But i am willing to wait. He is my all. My comfort. Best friend. Just all. He sended me two pics of him and didn't forget to write small comments in the back. He thinks about my children at all times. Whenever someones Birthday comes up he sends a card to let the kid know he thinks about him/her. We been in Contact since 2003 and we are in love since about two and a half years now. I don't care what anyone will say. My heart tells me that he is dead serious with me. He had withheld the real reason why he is in prison and I told him that I do not appreciate lies. It took a long time for me to trust him again but we went through this together. We both could have moved on - we didn't. I am proud of my man. And I am sure he will not lie to me ever again. He was scared I would run away from him once I would know the charges against him. Probs tio all the people who support their loved one. It's not always easy - but we will be there at all times.

Liz

;) Hi..my name is AnnaMarie and I've been writing my friend Sammy for almost two years. I first saw him on a pen pal website and to tell the the truth it was sort of an odd curiousity until I saw his ad. You know when you get that feeling? Well it was three times that I clicked over on his ad and something inside me that day just said Go for it!! I sent an email (which the prison would print out and give to the inmate and from then on it would have to be snail mail) and said well here goes nothing and forgot all about it...until two-three months later I went to check my mail and there was a letter from him!! I felt soo bad because by then it was January and the letter was addressed in November :o ( plus they had moved him from Wende to Attica for fighting :( ) I was half stunned half happy, half scared to death!! Long story short it was on from there until June when I just stopped hearing from him..and I just let it go, I was kinda sad but like whatever ya know I figured maybe he got back with his baby moms or something and I was little too proud to actually write and be like "what did I do??" But the thing was I NEVER COULD REALLY FORGET ABOUT HIM. Time went on..I got myself a bf and it crashed it burned miserably..and everytime we'd break up I thought about writing Sammy but I was like nah...he stepped off so I must've done something wrong. So finally after breaking up with my ex for the third time I spent sometime by myself and I thought: I can't live the rest of my life wondering whatever happened to him!! It wasn't until 12/31 of '05 that I just let it all out!! I wrote him a letter and the rest is history!! We met for the first time on 8/13 and it was one of the best times I've ever had!! We're taking it easy; I mean of course there is sexual tension but we've decided:p the best way to go about is to be friends first and to let nature take its course.

Welcome to all the recent new comers.

I hate to admit it but I met man while incarcerated. I just had a prison ministry and I wrote him once a month for 6yrs. But I quess he thought I was his woman. I never did but we never talked about things like that either. But really he was in loved with me the first time some relative showed him a picture of me. But it was even a few mos after that before we spoke. But he was religionous thats how he got me. He could even speak in tongues. But anyway when he got ready to get out - I had to use my address to get him out. His family member had refused him. I had to find the head PO to get him in 3days or he would have been maybe a month or more. He was just choosing me so hard - my mother say I fell in love the day he got out. But I must admit if it were any feelings all that time it was not apparent to me. I thought I never cared about him just someone to write when I was lonely.Until the day he got out. But after all of that ministering he went back 2yr and 3mos later. Violated for possession, driving without a license. He got about 3-4 separate charges. So I have even been to see him again.
I write even more now. Sometimes he get 3 to 4letters and 3-4 cards. Last monday he got 7letters and 7cards. I write and send love letters, sermons online, gossip column letters-named As the World turns. I love to write and send cards. But it don't stop me from feeling insecure in my mind , in my heart. This hold thing is a gamble.

Hello Everyone!!

Well, I met my love through one of my best friends. He is her cousin. She asked me to write him because he didn't have anyone writing, but I never did. One day I came home from work and there was a letter sitting on the kitchen counter for me. Since I never wrote him my best friend gave him my address and he wrote. I read the letter and responded. Well, that next letter I knew then that he was the one. I tell him all the time that he makes my heart smile:D . I truly mean that. Well then we kind of stop corresponding for a about a year and then his mom had a stroke. My best friend told me about it and asked me to write again. Well, I did wrote, but I didn't send the letter off. One day I came home and saw the letter and decided it was time to send it off. I sent my letter off and went to the mailbox and he had sent me a really sweet card. We have been together every since. I really really love him. It has been a tough journey because there are times I still feel myself hesitating out of fear. But I'm trusting God because I know that this is the man for me. So keep me and love in your prayers and I will do the same for you guys.

P.S. I really knew he was the one when I went to visit him and we got a contact visit and he only has me listed as a friend.

AnitaFoxx, hang in there. Just give it over to God. You are going to have doubts because when the enemy hears you praying he has to do something to intercede. He is the author of confusion and i believe that's what he is trying to do. Just know that God works in mysterious ways, so it doesn't matter what the circumstances look like because if God called this man to be your husband it has to be a reason. I look at like this would I really be ready to be a good wife to my love if he was here right now, probably not. But just know God is working on you both. Just let go and let God. I'll be praying for you.

:thumbsup: Hey everyone, I met my honey on the inside while I was working as an officer, I ended up quiting before we had any problems, people were starting to notice, one inmate said one day, "All you have to do is look at each other and tell theres something there." Well with that comment I quit, he transfered 4 months later and we have been visiting for the last 3 years, I love him to death and have come to the conclusion that even tho hes down for life plus 155 years, Im still there. :)

Im Bella,

I met my DH through my stepdad in 2000, he was released in 2002, we married in Aug 2003, we had our first child in July 2005.

My stepdad is still incarcerated :(

hi my name is cheryl i meet my finace thru his mother whom i worked for as a houskeeper we started out as pen pals and i visited him for the first time in county jail and it was love at first site for both of us there is about 6 yrs differance in our age but we have everything in common from our religion to our taste in music and movies.

I met my fiancee while i was a co . It was kinda funny cause I was the best of the best, and he was the worst of the worst . I walked by him one day after months of nagging on him , heming him up for contraband and just said "who you writing me?" he said "I could " from then on it was on we have been together ever since . I quit my job , he got paroled and then he got locked back up for parole violation. Still I couldn't be happier unless he was home , but I love him so much , I can feel exactly what every one has said about the "bound" or whatever you call it . best wishes to every one and their loved one . :)

crazy how much we love these "fools" you ever think they will know how we love them?

I met my man while he was incarcerated. It's good to know there are others out there like us.:o

You aren't along there's alot of us out there I met my man while in prison and he's still in prison. We met him in 2001 and got married April 2004. I wouldn't change anything. You can sure find love in prison and I have found it. The most important things is that we live in two different state and that make our love even stronger. Even thought we miss each other very much when we see each other it's like meeting for the first time. So to everyone that found love in prison my hat goes out to you and keep you head up.:thumbsup:

Welcome new comers to PTO.

Hi my name is Patty and I originally met my man during the Summer of 2003 via a misdialed call from County jail. We hit it off and began writing and talking on the phone and in December of that year I came face to face with him in a crowded visiting room.

We did 14 months together before his release. Things were great when he came home although the conditions of parole and lack of employment opportunities became a burden very quickly. In January 2006, 16 months after his release he went back to prison and will max out and I find myself waiting again in this next chapter of our lives...

It is often said that these types of relationships don't stand much of a chance. I have to say I've never been fond of being a statistic so perhaps that is why I try harder, not to mention the fact that he is worth it. I could go on and on but I'm gonna give others a chance to introduce themselves. I look forward to getting to know everyone who "Met While Incarcerated".

All the best,
Patty
Hi ladies,

Well i know this may sound quite to familiar but i also met my boyfriend in jail, i went on a inmate pen pal site, picked him and just started writing him, i've been doing a 2 year bid with him, he's been in there for 5 years. I love him and he's suppose to be home in May. I feel crazy and scared i know that them being in there, they want and are always willing to do good when there home and i want to believe it and i want it to be right, i almost sound nieve to think that it might work. All i want is him to come home and stay out of jail Again!! While i believe it can happen i dont think it will and i'm not sure if i'm strong enought to do this all over again.
Has anyone ever been in a sistuation where there waiting for a release and at the same time has the knotts in the stomach and the fear in there mind? Now he got moved to another jail farther and i went almost twice a week for visits, it just made it harder on me physically cause of the drive and mentally cause i worry. Is this really worth it?? :confused:

Hi I met my guy on a penpal site about 10 months ago. We both agreed we weren't looking for a relationship especially since I am in Indiana and he is in Arizona. But now we are talking about marriage. I am going to fly to Phoenix to see him for the first time in December. He still has 4 years and 6 weeks to go. I worry constantly..he called on Sunday (last week) and the phone got disconnected it was his 4th call so I knew he couldn't call back then he called on Monday when he wasn't supposed to--we got cut off again. I haven't gotten a call since and I am going crazy with worry. I wonder sometimes too if it is worth it but I know I love him with everything I have. So I will wait til I find out what is going on..I just hope I can keep my sanity until then

Sheila its worth it gurl...Its not easy ...you have to ups and the downs..the good and then bad, bitter and the sweet..when you hear their voice or get that letter ...U know in your heart its worth it.

Hey everyone. My name is Heather and I met my man while I was working where he was incarcerated. we laid eyes on eachother and fell in love. Now my bay is in prison and I have to deal with this for 32 months. Anyway look forward to chatting with all of u.

I met my boyfriend while working in the county jail and he has since been transferred to the state prison, i didnt expect this, wasnt looking for this, but it ran over me like a truck & when i looked up there was his beautiful smile, love finds you sometimes in the strangest places and im NOT going to turn it away because of temporary circumstances, i fell hard & this is the most wonderful & kindest man i have EVER met!!

Hi to all, I met my husband through my daughter's boyfriend at the time in May 2003. we strarted writing then he put me on his visiting list. We met face to face the first time in June 2003 at the Lawton Correctional Center. then on July 8, 2003 he was transferred to James Crabtree Correctional Center. We fell in love instatly after our first kiss. We were married on November 19, 2005. I joined PTO in Dec 2003 under Honey Bun. We have been happy ever since. I am sure glad they started this thread, Because I dont feel so strange and alone. There is 16 years differnce in our ages, but as far as Heavenly Father is concerned there is no age! Love, Carol:)

Welcome newcomers to the MWI forum! :)

:) Wow ! I don't even have the right words to express how happy I am to have finally find a place where other woman share the same experience, I'm new to this and I'm glad it brought me here.
I want to start by introducing myself. My name is Johanna I am from Houston TX and my boyfriend is currently incarcerated. He's been in for 16 years and it wasn't until 3 years ago that I met him thru an ex-boyfriend of mine who also is incarcerated. When my ex and I broke it off he was mad :mad: so his friend told him if it was kool if he'd write me so pist of that my ex was because I had broke up with him he gave him my address and phone #. It started off as just being friends we wrote letters and the phone calls were frequently which by the way gets a little to expensive. But it was all worth it because we grew strong feelings for each other, I can honestly say that I have found my soul mate I love him with all my heart and I know he does too I await the day that he gets out, which by the way he is up for parole on 6/07 and I'm hoping that all goes well. We have plans for the future getting married and having a family. I'm happy because he's given me so much support, he's a great listener awesome partner I couldn't of asked for better. That is my man and I love him and willing to ride till we die. thanks to all for sharing your stories and thanks for taking the time in listening to others stories its greatly appreciated

I love you Alejandro

Welcome to this forum.

Knowing that there are others out there that underdstand your plight, makes things easier and more bearable.

Best wishes.

Hey everyone,
I met my man, best friend, soul mate, on the inside of the fence. I was his primary CO in the pod. He's everything plus some. I just recently was walked off the yard for "unauthorized relationship with an inmate" - funny thing is, they accused me of having a physical relationship with a different inmate! HAHA! They were wrong. My man knows nothing ever happened between me and the other guy, so I'm not worried there. I can't wait to get this first letter to him and receive his first letter back. Lucky for us, he only has 6 months left! :)

I love reading this thread! It's fun to hear how everyone met their significant others!

Aymee,

Welcome. Sorry about the crap w/ the job.

Best wishes with your relationship.

Hello everyone,

My name is Jay and I recently started writing to a woman in a Texas prison through a pen pal site. I'm not even sure what gave me the idea to start, but I sure am glad I did. She is incredibly refreshing to hear from. She is honest about her past, and says she is a work in progress, and I can see that she has come a long way. She is sweet, smart, and articulate. She echos so many of my own thoughts, it really is amazing. I find myself hoping for a letter every day when I open the mail box.

I entered into this offering friendship, but I now see how easily so many people fall in love. She's got a year and 8 months left, if things keep progressing I can see a future. Never thought I'd say that, but that's the great part about life, you just never know how it will turn out.

Hi J, I can tell you from experience that you can definitely fall in love through the mail. My husband and I met through my daughter's boyfriend at the time. We started writing , I never expected to fall in love like we did. But we got to know each other through our letters, then he put me on his visiting list. I will never forget the first time we met face to face. We fell in love after our first kiss, when I left that day I could not get him out of my mind from that day forward. We met on May25, 2003, and we were married on November 19, 2005. I have not regreted on minute. My baby was sentenced to 45 years in May 1998. But at least he does get good-time, because he was arrested before 2000, so he gets 44 days off for each month he is in. He will qualify for minimum in 1 year and 7 months. So keep the faith! Follow your heart. I did not listen to anyone's reasons for not loving someone who is incarcerated. My husband is 44 I am 60. But we were meant for each other. Good Luck! Carol:)

Hello to all....PTO is a wonderful place with complete acceptance of all who are here. I met my man after he had been in for 10 years. It was only a person on the outside for him to write to and shortly after i began dating his younger brother. He told me then he would marry me some day and i thought it was him just being silly. Little did i know he would learn to know me better than i knew myself. He is doing 15 to life for murder and has been in for 20 years. We helped each other through both of our divorces and continued writing and just learning each other. He sent me a letter one day and after i read it i knew i loved that man. I wrote him and asked him how he felt. He called me a week later and said What are you saying to me. I said I love you and he told me he had loved me for ten years. So now all we had to do was tell his family. Mine was already aware (at least my mother was). His family has not been at all supportive and his brother(my ex) is having a problem with it more out of ego than anything. My ex has gone on with his life and lives with another woman. However his son is behind us and my children love him. We are to go before the board AGAIN:thumbsup: in jan 2008 and i pray that our heavenly father will see fit to send my best friend home to me. He is the half i have always looked for and knew was missing. We learned to be friends through are letters and learned that love comes in many forms and can be deep and everlasting. God has prepared us for our future and we intend not to waste a minute of it. Thank you PTO for being here for all of us in the same situation. Standing by our man in this situation is never easy but in the long run will be worth it. MAN HOW I LOVE MY MAN!!!!!!!

Sit back---I will try not to make it too long---LOL!!!

I was at work doing some research for an assignment in school that had nothing to do with prisons or pen pals. I don't even remember what it was that I was looking for now....anyway I clicked on a link and it was David's ad from another site. I backed out of it and went to another link and printed some stuff off and then went to another link. It was David's ad again. I looked at it and thought he was pretty sexy but that was it and went on with my research. I ended up clicking on his ad again so this time I decided I would print it out.
I wasn't going to write to him because his ad had been up for 10 months and as good looking as he was I figured he had enough girls hitting on him so he wouldn't even think about writing to someone 10 years older. When I got home from work I put his ad and some other things on my coffee table. For a week anytime I moved anything on that coffee table his ad would fall on the floor. I figured it must be a sign that I should write to him and I did.
A week later I got the most amazing letter. Not only was he good looking but he was as intelligent as he seemed from his ad. He had beautiful handwriting as well. He said that I sounded really interesting and he wanted to get to know me better and he ask me a million questions. I wrote him back that day. When I got his next letter he ask if I would ever be interested in coming for a visit. I wrote back that I would but that it was 4 hours one way so it wouldn't be very often.
They initially denied our visits and we wrote alot while we were appealing it. I gave him my phone number and he had to wait over a month to get it added to his phone list. During this time we really got to know each other through our letters and we ended up falling in love. His first call was very awkward. It was so cute because at the end he said "I love you" really fast and hung up before it even registered in my head what he had said. After I put the phone down it dawned on me what he had said. He started calling about 2-3 times a week.
The day before Thanksgiving 2004 they approved our visits finally after close to 4 months. I drove up there to see him. The closer I got the worse the weather got. I was determined to see him though. He didn't know that they had been approved so he wasn't expecting me so I had to wait for about an hour before they called me back. I was a nervous wreck.
They finally called me back and when I walked through the one door I could see in to the visiting room. I saw the most gorgeous man I had ever seen standing there and thought it had to be a mistake because he was even better looking in person then in his pictures. He saw me and smiled real big and at that moment I knew I would spend the rest of my life with him. Later he told me that as soon as he saw me through that window he knew that I was the one he was going to marry.
That first visit was wonderful. We got in trouble for kissing too much though. And considering I wasn't going to drive up very often I ended up being there every 2 weeks. By January 2005 we were talking about getting married. And on June 20th 2005 we got married. 11 months after I wrote my first letter. We had our first year anniversary this year.
Now he calls pretty much daily---sometimes 2-3 times in a day. Fortunately I have a good job. It has been a long rough road for various reasons that I won't get into now since I have already written a book.

Well I am like oneills, hope this won't be too long, if it is try to be patient with me! :p

I am a CJ major at school, we had discussed penpals in class and that got my curiosity going. I was up late one night studying and searched some ads just out of curiosity. I read A LOT of ads. Most were like, they were the man of some woman's dreams (NOT) or something like that. Then I came accross my sweetie's ad, it jumped out at me immediately, the ad was really nice and not to mention that he is fine as hell!!!! :drool: He started off by saying he wasn't looking for the game, no need to say he was the man of my dreams, he was just looking for a friend and wanted to keep it real. I was like okay, I can do this one. I sent the first letter via email from the website. Well, remember I said it was late, like 2 or 3 am, so guess what, I forgot I sent it. A week or so later I get a VERY LONG letter from him and I was like oh yeah I did send in a letter. Duh!!! But his letter was so nice, we started writing, A LOT! The post man is one of my best friends now! Anyway, both of us were feeling things but neither wanted to be the first to "go there". Well, finally thank God he did, and the rest is history. Am I happy, HECK YES! Would I be happier if he was home with me, HECK YES! Would I rather not have him if this is all we have, HECK NO! I can't picture my life without him. He is the most amazing man I have ever met and I look forward to a long and happy life with him! Okay, everyone can say awwww, now! I do everyday!

I am so happy for this thread and glad to see that I am not the only one! Take care! Onec:p

I've been writing Brandon for almost 3 years now. We were introduced by a cousin of mine who was incarcerated. We've talked on the phone a couple of times, but for the past 2 years, I've only had a cell phone, which I cannot receive prison calls on. Our relationship is undefined at this point. I think we both want more out of this than we let on, and maybe we're both afraid to let it out in the open.

I'm glad I'm not the only one, though, who met someone while they were incarcerated.

Well i met my soulmate also while incarcerated, but i was working there also..(not good) but WE saw it was getting very serious so to keep us both out of trouble i resigned. 4 months later I BECAME HIS WIFE. so i feel all of you..Good Luck Take Care

Hello All
I will first say i have ran all over this site trying to find someone to help me or talk to me...so here i am i think were i should be

I met a young lady who was in my city attending college, she answered an add for a room i had for rent...i later found out her father is incarcerated...one day as she was talking to him on the phone he asked to speak with me...and from that moment my life has changed. The first letter he wrote was so poetic and profound, showed a deep sense of spirituality...having a best friend that is a co and my father as a cop i was a little cautious but was like what the hell...i wrote back an so on and so on...now when i tell you this man comes to me in my dreams, his voice set me on fire...and i find myself staring at his pictures, daydreaming about our life...it is crazy.

i am still a little cautious he has not asked me for a dime...and when i offered he declined all he wants is letters and pictures...he is serving time for a drug charge...i know he has served 14 years so far and is scheduled for release in 2009...but he says he is coming home sooner...is this true?

I met somebody while visiting my son at one of the socials. My friend approached me to talk briefly at the second social I was at. The third time I was there for the social we actually spent the day together as his guest could not make it to the social and he asked my son permission to spend the day with me.

About a week after the social I wrote him a letter thanking him for spending the day with me and he called me. We have been talking on the phone (not collect, on his dime) and I have been writing him as well. He just called me tonight to tell me he has mailed me my first letter with 2 pictures and one of those pictures he has his shirt off!!! LOL

He is a very sincere, kind and honest man and I am glad to have met him. What will happen who knows but I already am crazy for him.... did I mention he is HOT??? :D

Hello everybody!!!! I met my man through a very good friend that got locked up and ended up being his celly. His first letter to me was all he wanted from me was to be his friend and 8 months later we are in love. He knows more about me then anybody I know. I met him for the first time in person this weekend and I must admit the feeling was so great I have no regrets. I hope his appeal comes through so he can come home to me.

Welcome to the new comers.

We met while I was working at the facility he was in. We started out talking about everything-just really good friends. It progressed from there. It will never end. I am a rider.

I MET MY MAN THROUGH A PEN PAL SITE. I JUST SO HAPPEN TO COME ACROSS A PEN PAL SITE AND I CHOSE TO CHECK OUT THE ONES ON LOCK JUST TO SEE WHAT WOULD HAPPEN. WELL, IT WAS WAY MORE THAN I EVER EXPECTED. WE STARTED OUT AS FRIEND. AND I WAS NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM LOOKING FOR THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE. I HAVE ALWAYS HEARD YOU WILL FIND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT. HA, I CAN SURE TESTIFY TO THAT NOW. BECAUSE I NEVER EXPECTED TO FIND THE ABSOLUT LOVE OF MY LIFE ON THE WEB MUCH LESS ONE ON LOCK. BUT I LOVE MY BABY VERY MUCH. AND I WOULD CHANGE NOTHING. I JUST HATE ALL THE CRAP HE AND ALL INMATE HAS TO GO THROUGH EACH AND EVERYDAY IN THOSE HELL HOLES. BUT I KNOW IN MY HEART THAT THE BEST THINGS COMES FOR THOSE WHO WAIT.

I LOVE YOU CHANCE THOMPSON!!

I met my now boyfriend on a pen pal site. I have never been much for even get on the web. But one night I decided to see if there was a pen pal web site. And I ran across a site for people on lock. I e mailed two people just looking for a friend. You know how you have friends but we tend to get cought up in our own lives and tend not to speak as often as you use too. Well, I just wanted that one someone I could call my friend. So, out of the two emails I got one response. That one response has turned in to hundreds of letters. It has now been an awesome six months. And my now boyfriend has come up for parole for the first time in five years. And "if" they do not give him a chance he has five left. I am still waiting to hear an answer and it has been almost a month. I am in Alabama and he is in Texas. We will be meeting for the first time in November, hopefulley sooner. at first I did not want anything more than a friend. But he is that and more.
It is tough at times because we depend on mail for communication. They say the best things comes for those who wait. And no matter what I promised him to be the last one standing. I do want to thank this site it has helped me so much! I am still new to this site, but it is an awesome website. i am so thankful to have a place this i can come to. I love you Chance.....I will be here waiting for you as long as it takes!! .............!!

i wrote a letter to a man called Charles where i got his contact information from a prison pen pals site (this is where it gets interesting lol!) the add was old and by the time he received my letter, he had been transferred to another prison, had my letter forwarded to his new prison and he had been with his soul mate for a little over a year so instead of throwing my letter out he gave my letter to his cell mate, Ricardo who is now my man and i love him more then anything i truly believe its fate .. it just amazes me to think how he was brought into my life, but il never regret it for a second:)


*edit* forgot to introduce myself LOL im shaunna 22 year old from australia:P haha sorry got carried away thinking about my man

HI, ITS MELINDA, FROM CALIF. OVER 5 YEARS AGO, MY HUSBAND DIED....TO SHORTEN THIS STORY UP. MY BEST FRIEND OF 27 YEARS, SAID SHE WANTED HER HUSBAND TO GET HIS FRIEND TO WRITE TO ME, TO PULL ME OUTA THE GRIEF, I WAS WEARING SO WELL. i SAID "no!!!" sHE CONTINUED ON, FOR ANOTHER MONTH, TO MY SAME REACTION...AND EVENTUALLY i GAVE IN. i HAD FORGOTTEN ALL ABOUT IT, WHEN IN MY MAILBOX ONE DAY, WAS A LETTER. i DIDNT KNOW THE NAME...OPENED IT, AND AS i READ, MY HANDS BEGAN TO SHAKE. tHIS MAN HAD MORE "LIFE" IN HIM, THAN i HAD SEEN IN ANY MAN , IN YEARS. WE WROTE BACK AND FORTH, HE EVENTUALLY SENT ME A VISITING FORM, AND I SHOWED UP UNEXPECTEDLY, ONE DAY. i HAD NO IDEA WHAT HE EVEN LOOKED LIKE.HE IS BEAUTIFUL, INSIDE AND OUT}
WELL, HE WAS JUST TRYING TO HELP A GRIEVING WIDOW...AND THAT WAS 5 YEARS AND 3 MONTHS AGO. HE HAS BECOME MY BEST FRIEND, ALWAYS WANTS THE VERY BEST FOR ME, WORRIES ABOUT MY HEALTH, WANTS ME TO EAT RIGHT, AND GET ENOUGH SLEEP. iN JULY, FOR OUR 5TH YEAR ANNIVERSARY, HE SENT A DOZEN LONG STEMMED ROSES, TO MY JOB......
hE DOESNT HAVE AN OUT DATE. wE CANNT HAVE FAMILY VISITS, EVEN IF WE WERE MARRIED...HE WANTS TO MARRY ME. i AM SO IN LOVE WITH HIM..
HELP!
MY WORK MAKES IT NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE TO SEE HIM AS MUCH AS I WANT TO, THE PHONE BILL WILL BE CRAZY, AS I ALWAYS TELL HIM TO CALL ME BACK.
CAN U RELATE???
MELINDA
OOPS AKA {MELINDA LOVES TOMMY}
DID I FORGET TO SAY HE IS HANDSOME, THE TYPE OF MAN I DREAMED OF ALLLLLLLLL MY LIFE?

Hi Melinda Wynn, Welcome to MWI forum, Your story sounds almost how my hubby and I met. But I had just gotten out of a bad relationship with an alcololic husband. And I know what you mean about always wanting him to call back. It happened to me too! But we finally have our system down now. He always calls twice on Saturday nights, and sometimes inbetween when necessary. I used to pace the floors waiting for him to call, and I would panic if he was later than I thought he shoul be. We have been together now for 3 1/2 years, and married for one year on NOv.19.2006. My baby does'nt get his parole hearing until JUn 2012. LOve, Carol: :grouphug: :grouphug:

Well, i guess its my turn to introduce myself, My name is Marta, i met my husband right after i turned 18, i met him threw my sisters ex boyfriend, just as a penpal, so he called me, we talked and then i went to go see him in county for a surprise visit. the moment i seen him, i loved him, they way he looked at me, how he would smile everytime i talked. just the stars in our eyes as if we were dreaming. i talked to him for about 2 months then he asked if i would be his girlfriend..im like ok, its going to be intresting being with a prisoner. well little did i know that i fell for him but so hard. and now 6 years passed and we got married on our 7th year anniversary this oct. 6th. we are happily married, but sad cause just got a parole violation. we are just waiting for him to see the board so we cant find out what is going to happen, although we didnt even get to spend our first week together! but i dont reget meeting him or any of these past years, hes my life and i cant ask for a better husband.

Welcome to the MWI ladies.

Hi Charlie's Girl, I am so sorry your husband got a parole vioation. It is very hard to walk a parole. My hubby dont get his parole until Jun 2012. But the governor of Oklahoma is not giving many parole's. But we are still hoping for ours. Good Luck, Carol. :cry:

Originally I met him briefly before he was incarcerated because he was friends with my daughters boyfriend. At that time I thought he was really cute! :)
I wrote to him while incarcerated because I wanted him to give me some insight into prison life because my son got into some trouble and I thought he was going to be there himself. (luckily he is in rehab) So we began writing and I sent some pics and he said he had always been attracted to older women. For whatever reason I got caught up in getting his letters and then I went to visit him. Wow!!! The attraction was overwhelming!!! And Wow....THAT KISS!!! It was absolutley AWESOME!!!!:p
I have basically visited him almost every week. I have also become friends with his mother and I take her to see her son. She is happy someone is there for her son and does not see an age difference.
Here's the problem really...there is such a huge gap in our ages and my daughter and her husband who are friends with him think it is really "weird" that we are "talking". Of course they have no idea that it has gone to a different level.
I am constantly asking myself if I'm crazy or what!! But I do have feelings for him and on the visit before last he told me that he was having strong feelings for me. During the last visit he said he is falling in love with me!!!!
So what do all of you think? Am I crazy????

loveisfree ~ You're not crazy, I'm 15 years older than my man and it's really a non-issue. Welcome to you and all the new faces to the MWI forum. Be sure to check out the threads in this forum or start your own, we look forward to getting to know all of you! :wave:

Patty

No you are not crazy, loveisfree. You are not alone. You have found the right forum. We all understand each other here. No one judges you, just support each other. Keep the Faith! Dont listen to all the negativity. Carol:)

I met my man six years ago while he was already in. His cellmate was friends with my room mate and they thought it would be a good idea for us to start writing. Sure enough, 6 years later and here we are. We are in the process of completing our forms for a proxy marriage and I couldn't be happier.
What I am glad to see is that I am not th only one in this situation. Somedays I feel silly for doing what I am doing and it's hard not having him with me. I love him though and we have such an awesome bond. There is absolutely no one who could talk me out of this or tell me that it should be any other way. Randy and I are just meant to be...plain and simple.

Gina

Welcome missginagm! Sometimes things just are. Hope everything goes smoothly with your ppwk. Congrats!

Welcome missginagm! Sometimes things just are. Hope everything goes smoothly with your ppwk. Congrats!
Thanks so much! I'm determined to make sure everything goes smoothly..we'll see though! :)

I guess it is time for me to introduce myself...I have been lurking and posting a few things here and there, buy any ways here goes :)

My sisters, neice and I decided to surprise my mom with a picture of all of us together for a Christmas present. One of my sisters has a boyfriend that is incarcerated. She sent him a picture, unbeknownst to because I would have told her heck no! don't send him a picture with me in there.
Around February my sister had told me that some guy wanted to talk to me, so I put her off saying "yeah right". Her boyfriend kept asking me to write him but I honestly thought it was a joke. So her boyfriend said forget it I am just going to have him write her.
In march a couple weeks after I got back from Vegas my sister said that boy wrote you. I was like hunh:confused: .
To make this long story short, I am so very glad that he sat down on that Sunday March 19th (during slow jams and dedications) and wrote to me. I think he is so amazing and of course I am falling in love with him. On September 17th we had our first phone call and I can't keep a :D off my face and can't get his voice out of my head.

Take care everyone, I am happy to have found PTO and happy to be here.

Shauen

Well I have been on PTO over a month now and posting but I have never actually formally introduced myself anywhere so I guess I will do that now.

I met my man, while I was working in the prison he is in. I was his detail officer so of course we were around each other all day everyday, and so we got to know each other, but no more so than any other guys that worked for me at first. Then one day he was joking around (or so I thought) about how when he gets out he is gonna come look me up, and would I go out with him if he did, and I kept brushing him off, because he was an inmate and talking inmate talk as far as I was concerned. But as time passed I came to realize that maybe he wasn't playing, and that he wasn't trying to play the game. So one day I said look are you for real? and he said yeh I am for real. Well I still told him it couldn't happen, for obvious reasons, I was a CO. But very slowly things progressed to where I had feelings for him, and I knew he had feelings for me, and I finally told him that it wasn't just him feeling this way. Well to make a longer story shorter, I eventually decided to quit, so that I could be with him. I love him more than words can convey, and even though now I don't get to see him everyday as I did before, I do not have to hide my feelings for him now. So I felt that in the long run doing things this way was the best way, much better than people finding out, and losing my job etc. I miss him like crazy and somedays wish I was back at work with him but, I will have him home soon enough, and then the rest of our life can begin.

Hello everyone this is my first time here and I thought it was about time I told my story .. I met my man through his sister, we are good friends and back in January she asked me to write him just as pen pals .. She had talked about him alot and it seemed as if we would have alot in common .. I had just had my son and I was all alone figured it would be cool to talk to someone .. Well I wrote him on New Years Eve .. He was in county then, well we wrote each other for about 6 weeks and he was transfered to tdcj .. That was in Feb I did not get a letter for about 6 weeks thought he had forgotten about me , we were just friends so it was no lose but I missed his letters .. Finally I got a letter and he was apologizing telling me how sorry he was and how much he missed me.. that was ok! We have been writing ever since, in last few months our relationship has gotten really intense and I started having real feelings for him and I know he had feelings for me .. So in August I finally told him that I love him and he was so excited, he said he had been waiting to hear that .. He said had been feeling that way for a long time but he did not want to freak me out.. So now we are planning to be together we he comes home .. It freaks me out because I have never heard his voice only seen his face in pictures, is he really the person he seems to be.. He is being transfered to a halfway house on Dec 6th and we can finally talk .. I am so excited .. His family or sister does not understand how we can really love each other and never met .. I cannot explain it to her because I dont know.. She is afraid he is using me because I do send him money but not much.. But she was the one who told me he was different then any guy I had ever met, he was a really good guy !! I am scared and I dont want to get my heart broken, please keep me in your prayers!
Sarah

I have been "lurking" and posting here and there. I have been hesitant about a *real* intro because I thought I would be "judged" by others and a little paranoia because of my situation. But it seems I am not the only one. :) I met my fiancee while working at the prison as a psychologist. Yeah. Big one there...some might be :eek: But he wasn't on my caseload and I never responsible for his counseling. I did get to get to know him though while taking cigarette breaks on the yard. And facilitating groups. And he would speak to me every chance he got. We had and continue to have great talks. Then I would find "mystery notes and drawings" under my office door. I knew they were from him and they would always make me smile. I found myself missing him when I didn't see him. All my years, I had made it a point to *keep that distance*, those that have worked for the DOC know what I am talking about. I was so conflicted :confused: I made sure he was single because I was not going to be *that woman* either...the one that was talking to another woman's man.:nono: Our relationship flourished. End result...I left because that was what was best for both of us. ( LONG STORY inserted here) And our relationship continues with phone calls and mail. We are comitted to each other and very much in love. Whew. My *Real* Intro. Thanks everyone*

:wave: Hi and welcome to all the new faces in the Met While Incarcerated forum. We hope to get to know you all better through your participation in this forum.

All the best,
Patty

Cool :)

Hmmm... I have been checkin things out on here for over a here. I have only posted a few times. I have a "friend" who is in the system.

We started as pen-pals, actually a dare from friends to find someone on W.A.P. (saw on ETV) and write to them. Well, im always up for a dare and have been intrigued with anything having to do with the legal system or forensics. I took days to pick someone. I chose a him and we have continued correspondence for almost 2 years.

Of course, now we are more the "pen-pals". I visit every other month for two days at a time (7hr ride). We have a deep connection and he is my best friend. Oh, and i would eat him up if he was out. LOL.

We don't label our situation, he still has 3-4 yrs left and we are quite a ways from each other. But, he has a huge part of my heart. No doubt there. We take each day at a time. I am now single and dating and still have not found anyone comprable to him. Which i think he finds flattering. LOL.

I will be posting more hopefully and keeping up on things.

So nice to see all the new people here. No, you're not crazy. Hubby and I have made it through 8 yrs already and there are quite a few people on here with loved ones recently home that are getting by happily.

i too have been posting for a little while and i can't really remember if i did an intro or not honestly:eek: Anyway if I did sorry for the repeat:( I met my love through my mom his mom and mine have worked together for years and my mom would see his picture on his moms desk all the time.One day my mom had to call the prison for his mom and she spoke to his counselor ,she later told me that the counselor spoke so highly of him that she told his mom give him my daughters address and she did. I come home one day to find a letter in the mail from a correctional facility , and that was the beginning no matter how much I came at him with my negativity about his situation the harder he came at me .I was so impressed with his knowledge and patience and his respect. The clincher was 3 months into the relationship on my birthday when he sent 3 cards that arrived exactly on my birthday with 3 pictures of him and he called me every half hour on the hour . i knew then I was in love . Its only been 6 months yet I wouldn't change a thing:D

I wanted to say hi to everyone one! Richard is my best friend, my soul mate, my everything! I knew Richard way back in the days when I was 13 and he was 17 and that was the last time I seen him. My dad and his dad are best friends and work together. I only knew Richard, because of his dad, and all it was, was just a hi and bye, because my parents were strict when I was young. Life goes on at 18 I got married to my husband (which now is my ex husband as of July "04", I was 23) and at 19 I heard through my dad that Richard was in incarcerated. Years went by.......But I always heard nothing but good about him through my dad, while he was incarcerated. And new life and new beginning.....I work with the same school district that Richard dad works with and my dad. His dad has watched my grow up to a girl now a woman. He asked me in August of this year, that if I had time, if I would write his son. I said "sure". Thank god I did!!!! I'm now 25 and Richard is going to be 28 tomorrow (b-day). God has sure blessed me when the man I always desired. We write, we talk but the only thing we are waiting for now is my approval. Once it's approved we will finally met face to face after 12 years! I can't wait for the first kiss, first hug. He completes me!

Welcome everyone to PTO and the MWI Forum.

Well, a lady that I work with told me that her son was incarcerated and wanted a pen pal, so, I volunteered for the job, and it has turned out to be the best experience of my life. He is so caring, so thoughtful and definately my SOUL MATE! He sends me cards every week, I think we write about 40-50 pages a week to each other, I just got pics yesterday, and we get 2 hour contact visits twice a month (and he's only an hour away). I'm so happy!! I've been doing alot of reading and it seems to be able to work, God I hope so. He's wanting to get married now...so we shall c!!

Welcome mdietrich to the MWI forum, and to PTO.

My George is a 40 something female crazy quilter online pen pal...:D I got the wrong link was trying out rose cursers and the one that I had was to big and hit the wrong link in the search. this was back in 99 me being the linker that I am I thought oh well might as well look and see if a family member was on that site so started going though the ads all of them were just babies really came across his looked at the age and thought well at least he is older then I am but went on to the next and so on well come back around to his again and thought well I have seen this one before read it and thought ok... but nothing more and went to the next.. well the thing is I had just got a new printer that you didn't have to switch out the ink to print color and black and I had been printing things just to see how it worked... well the puter froze up I shut it down and rebooted and went back to finding the crazy quilter... about 3 weeks go by and being the stacker I am a stack fell over by the printer and right there on the top was George's ad :eek: this is where the dodododododo music comes in that ad was supposed to be removed from that site Dec 19, 1998 this was June 1999... I looked at it :idea: well might as well check him out put him in a search and his florida doc page came up I have never had that happen before or since. I read his rap sheet and seen that he didn't lie on it and I could live with what he has done in his life so I sat and wrote him a letter mind you I had been married since '76 no thought of ever getting divorced and I told him that and I told that ol fart that I was writing him. I got a letter back with him asking why I would be writing if I was married.... I wrote back to him from my "Pit" I had all but been living in for over a year as my ex smoked in the rest of the house and I have asma and can't breath in a smoke filled rooms that if he didn't want me to write that was fine and sent that off to him. needless to say he kept writing and as he told me about himself his two ex wives two kids first ex wife is name is Deborah Lynn mine is Deborah Lynne his mother's name is Margaret my best friend's name at that time was Marymargaret we are both lefties we both draw we both love roses he has a chest of tat roses, my father's middle name is George and I also found out that my mother's oldest brother's given name is George too that may sound strange but we all ways called him Tommy (its a long story) so I had no idea of that. and those are just a few things that bring out the twilight zone toon...

need less to say he got me out of my 10x10 foot cell, it took another two years but I finely found out that I was worth more then what I thought I was and found out that I could take care of myself and didn't have to put up with the control my ex had over me in everything from what I could eat and when, to not letting me see my sister because she lived to far from me. I have never looked back. my ex says that the internet took me from him and that George is a scum bag from the word go and that I had finely proved my family right when they told me I would end up marrying a biker with a record as long as my arm and his.. well its not that long but its up there and he is a biker but My George treats me better then any man in my life ever did and I love him more then any person on this earth! I won't be marrying him in the eyes of that state (but I am his wife in my heart) as we would lose to much, (the ex under estimated me and thought I was to stupid to go after his military retirement :D one pretty fart smeller here;) ), I'm going to let him have a harley payment when he gets home in a little less then 5 years, out of that.

Needless to say I run at the mouth got to go... Deborah

:wave: Hi and welcome one and all to the MWI forum!

Patty

hi. i am isabella in my 30s and my sweetie pen pal sean little bit younger
and little shorter!lol but he do not mind as i do not mind the height just love how he is inside and he love me for the inside most.
i am his life as he is mine,at least i am hoping.he violated after being out 1 and a half mos.:( and i have not heard from him.but i am not going to say we wont make it,maybe he is just stressing since we argued the same night he went back in. we got engaged so fast but i know he is my life and i will just wait until he write back to see what is really up.
good luck to you all.and happy thanksgiving.:)

:wave: Hi and welcome one and all to the MWI forum!

Patty


i thank you for welcoming me today.:)
happy holidays.

What penpal sites and who is he

I dont think I have introduced myself, if I have then accept my apologies for repeating myself.
I didnt set out to fall in love with my penpal, infact when I sent a letter off I didnt know if I would be paired with a man or woman. As a person I have a very caring nature and with him it was no different.

Soon I couldnt wait to recieve his letters and he was the same. In the beginning he was the sort of person that had trust issues and if I asked how he was I always got the same reply, "Oh I'm fine" and "I can handle what get throws at me" that sort of thing. I think it was about six months and he then started to open up to me. He told me what prison was really like, the lonliness, his regrets, family life, what things could he offer anyone etc. I told him exactly what I thought about the kind of person that he was and I made this big, strong man cry, in that letter I mentioned no feeling of love in a romantic nature but he was like this big brother that I never had and he was also like a best friend. I trusted him 100%. His whole family knew about me and how I was helping him. I knew all about his crime, he kept nothing from me. He told me the truth whether I liked it or not and thats how we have always been. If either wants to ask anything, or we have some doubts we just say it and there is nothing that either one would not ask.

I think we were writing for about a year or a bit longer and he sent me this letter about how he had feelings for me, I felt the same and we spent many an hour discussing our feelings for one another. He is a very talented person and he writes songs and poetry, he is good at making things out of almost nothing. We have only been able to get to know each other through writing and phone calls. I live in the UK and he is in Arizona, its not easy and I would give anything to be able to visit him. I have just finished college, I was a mature student, I do work but its not what I have now trained to do. I am a single mum of one and he showers her with drawings and gifts and he gives me some much needed advice and he is there for me when things get on top of me. He makes me so happy, he loves me for me and although we have that distance between us, I know that he will always be there for me. We go back a long way and I was with him for his first incareration. This is his second time.

Its a very long story but I met someone on the outside, got married and had a child. I was married for 8 years. I was the one who actually finsihed what we had the first time around and I hurt him very much. We went our seperate ways but both were unhappy with what we had and nothing matched what we we felt we both had before. I set out to find him and he did as well but I had moved 8 times during that time and although I placed ads in newspapers, the newspapers that I placed the ads in were not in the area that they lived or the papers that he or his family would buy.

I did finally find him and he was in Arizona SP. I wrote a letter to him basically saying that I needed him to know how sorry I was for the ways things ended. I wasn't wanting to start anything back up again, I knew how much I had hurt hm and was not going to go down that road again. I thought I would get a letter back telling me to go to hell. Well we started to write again and I made it clear that love was not on the cards, I had a boyfriend. All I can say is who was I trying to kid! I loved this man and always had. My excuse was that I was young at the time, I didnt know anything about life, I still lived with my parents at the time. Since then I have had enough life experiences to last me a lifetime.

We are now back together, just like we were before. I feel exactly the same and he does too. Right now I am saving up to go and visit him. He has 2 years 8 months to go.

We usually write every other day and if my postman walks on by I'm as miserable as hell. No money can ever buy the happiness that I now feel. I get criticism about this relationship all the time, do I care, NO! As long as I have my daughter and him in my life then I'm happy. I just wish I knew about this site a long time ago. I look forward to getting to know the MWI family. Can I join?

Take Care

Claire

You are welcome here. Love is such an amazing thing. If it's real, it will survive and find a way to amaze.

Welcome!!

Lets just call me Byrd.. i am from Chicago.. i have been writing my penpal for 7 months and its getting pretty damn toasty!!!

Welcome Byrd

Aloha
My name's Jennifer, I'm married and have a daughter. I was a juror in my "friends" trial (which ended in a hung decision). His eyes haunted me for weeks...and over a year later I've still not been able to get him off my mind. I've never spoken to him and he probably wouldn't even know I existed if he were asked....but that's ok. Something about him has made me want to know more about him. Here's hoping to a bright future...

Welcome to all the recent newbies.

We're wishing you guys peace and happiness and support during this journey.

I met mine a little over a year and a half ago. He was in the county with my now-ex. He wrote me a letter letting me know that my now-ex was going to leave me and was running game. We've been writing ever since. I had my first visit about 2 months ago and it was amazing! I never thought I would find myself in this situation. For the longest time I thought people like us were crazy, but now I realize that you can't help who you love no matter where they are!! He's the most wonderful man I have ever met and wouldn't change anything about him! I stumbled across this site and now this is what I do most in my free time. This site has been so helpful! Thank you to everyone! Y'all are awesome!:) :thumbsup: Keep your heads up and your heart strong. It's a long road, but every mile is worth it!!

I met mine a little over a year and a half ago. He was in the county with my now-ex. He wrote me a letter letting me know that my now-ex was going to leave me and was running game. We've been writing ever since. I had my first visit about 2 months ago and it was amazing! I never thought I would find myself in this situation. For the longest time I thought people like us were crazy, but now I realize that you can't help who you love no matter where they are!! He's the most wonderful man I have ever met and wouldn't change anything about him! I stumbled across this site and now this is what I do most in my free time. This site has been so helpful! Thank you to everyone! Y'all are awesome!:) :thumbsup: Keep your heads up and your heart strong. It's a long road, but every mile is worth it!!


Babyjay,
I wanted to tell you how much i appreciated your post...Many people do not ever come to understand our kind of relationship and many more never admit when the misconceptions they had were wrong....I dont believe most of us get into a penpal type relationship thinking this will be love....but once you find that special person, you find things and the way you see things often change. that is what i typically refer to as learning about different ways of life. the women on this site are some of the strongest and most courageous women i have ever seen and all of the women in these relationships should be commended as most of us face life alone with little help or understanding from others not in our positions. I too have only been in my relationship a short time, however i have known my man a long time....so i have seen first hand what it is like and to be honest....my opinions have changed drastically...I have seen a different side of the penal system than i knew before and have had to face first hand how wrong things can be for these men and women involved....I commend you for stating that your ideas have changed...
thank you
msmomto4

hi to everyone... just a quick rundown...im from australia & have been writing to penpals in prison for the last year or so...met alot of great guys id now call friends.. but with one of them, from the start, it was different... we just have this awesome connection...ive never met anyone like him...he always makes me laugh...i feel like i can be myself with him , without being critisized or put down...the bond we have is amazing...hes like my best friend...yet my feelings for him are not just that of a friend... something more...alot more... ive tried everything to control the way i feel...i just cant... its crazy...im here in australia, hes in california...& the sad part about it all , is he is a lifer... have i gone insane??? i dont know??? there was obvious chemisrty b/w the 2 of us from the start... he was at first against getting into anything more than friends...he said it wouldnt be fair to me!! but i just cant see myself wanting to ever be with anyone else... in my eyes, no other relationship with another man could come close to what we have together. i feel like ive met my soulmate... yet at some times, i get scared... this is all new to me...
so ive decided to join this forum & meet some other people in similar situations, etc... its not like i can really discuss this with anyone out here!!!
cheers from australia....

He was in the county with my now-ex. He wrote me a letter letting me know that my now-ex was going to leave me and was running game. We've been writing ever since. I had my first visit about 2 months ago and it was amazing! I never thought I would find myself in this situation. For the longest time I thought people like us were crazy, but now I realize that you can't help who you love no matter where they are!! He's the most wonderful man I have ever met and wouldn't change anything about him! I stumbled across this site and now this is what I do most in my free time. This site has been so helpful! Thank you to everyone! Y'all are awesome!:) :thumbsup: Keep your heads up and your heart strong. It's a long road, but every mile is worth it!!

Welcome to PTO! That is how I met my husband, he was my then boyfriends homie. That was 13 yrs ago:p as you, i would never change anything about him or us. For the record your not crazy, we're not crazy, just in love :thumbsup:

Hello Jennifer,
I say if you are still thinking about him after a year, you should look him up, write to him and see where it goes.
Love (friendship and passionate) hits us all in mysterious ways and especially when we're least expecting it.
Aloha
My name's Jennifer, I'm married and have a daughter. I was a juror in my "friends" trial (which ended in a hung decision). His eyes haunted me for weeks...and over a year later I've still not been able to get him off my mind. I've never spoken to him and he probably wouldn't even know I existed if he were asked....but that's ok. Something about him has made me want to know more about him. Here's hoping to a bright future...

Mrmomto4~I was just being honest. I used to always thing,"How the hell can these women love someone that they have never been with on the outside?" But now I know. It's unlike any relationship I have ever had on the outside. It's deeper, more meaningful. It's absolutely amazing. He told me from the get-go that it takes a special breed of woman to be able to deal with the ups and downs of this kind of relationship. Well, I guess we're all that special breed. It's so nice to have a place to go and talk to people who understand. I haven't met a single person out here that understands. :)

OsHoney~Well it's good to know that I'm not the only one who met someone the way I did. lol! We are crazy believe it or not. We're just crazy in love though...and girls don't it just feel so good!!:yes:

Im not sure where i should be looking at, she asked me to get on the net and try to find a nice penpal for her, if u think u can help me pls let me know thank u for ur time jessica:)

Mrmomto4~I was just being honest. I used to always thing,"How the hell can these women love someone that they have never been with on the outside?" But now I know. It's unlike any relationship I have ever had on the outside. It's deeper, more meaningful. It's absolutely amazing. He told me from the get-go that it takes a special breed of woman to be able to deal with the ups and downs of this kind of relationship. Well, I guess we're all that special breed. It's so nice to have a place to go and talk to people who understand. I haven't met a single person out here that understands. :)

OsHoney~Well it's good to know that I'm not the only one who met someone the way I did. lol! We are crazy believe it or not. We're just crazy in love though...and girls don't it just feel so good!!:yes:


Babyjay
I hear what you are saying and i am here to tell you.... people can be downright ugly about things they dont understand...i guess in my opinion that makes them less than perfect but not everyone see things the way i do.... I dont believe that there is one person on this site that wont tell you that they have changed because of their loved ones incarceration....It changes everything about your life....but i can only hope that it will change people for the better....one person at a time....that is truly how change takes place.... You know? We all hav e the ability to change it is just some people choose not to change for the better. I have to admit being in love with an inmate is hard as hell but i am a better person for loving mike and wouldnt change anything except when i could have him here with me....YESTERDAY would be good....LOL If i can tell you anything about support i will tell you that you can find it here....If it wasnt for PTO and a couple of friends I have met here i would sometimes go nuts....so you know if you ever need an ear... i will listen. Have a wonderful day
msmomto4

:wave: Hi and welcome to all the newcomers to the Met While Incarcerated forum. I hope to get to know you all better as you join us in the many discussions we have going in this forum!

Patty

Hi! My name is Karla and I met my fiance through a friend with whom he was incarcerated. They were cellies and when my friend came home he gave my now man my number to call to get ahold of him. In calling me to give messages to my friend we got to talking and he told me that NOBODY writes to him because he's been there a while and the whole 'out of sight out of mind' thing. I thought that was so horrible, and as I was used to the writing your life away thing I told him that I would be his penpal. At the time I really thought I was just going to be writing a friend of a friend in the hopes of making my own friend and hopefully making a difference in somebody's life. Well that was a year ago and now we are going to get married. We would like to get married before he gets out (who knows how long his PO would make him wait if we try to do it once he's out). He is the love of my life and we both feel like some crazy twists of fate brought us together. Becuase he had his visiting privileges taken away about 3 years ago we still have yet to meet, but he should get them back in January... but you know how that goes right??

I am very exicted to have found this site with other people in my situation who will understand where I am at and how I can feel the way that I do. I look forward to the mutual support that we can provide each other!

Babyjay
I hear what you are saying and i am here to tell you.... people can be downright ugly about things they dont understand...i guess in my opinion that makes them less than perfect but not everyone see things the way i do.... I dont believe that there is one person on this site that wont tell you that they have changed because of their loved ones incarceration....It changes everything about your life....but i can only hope that it will change people for the better....one person at a time....that is truly how change takes place.... You know? We all hav e the ability to change it is just some people choose not to change for the better. I have to admit being in love with an inmate is hard as hell but i am a better person for loving mike and wouldnt change anything except when i could have him here with me....YESTERDAY would be good....LOL If i can tell you anything about support i will tell you that you can find it here....If it wasnt for PTO and a couple of friends I have met here i would sometimes go nuts....so you know if you ever need an ear... i will listen. Have a wonderful day
msmomto4


msmomto4, Thank you for offering me your ear. You have mine also. It has definately changed me. Everything from how I used to think to teaching me how to love so much deeper and unconditionally. I agree, the only thing I would change is to have him home. Unfortunately, we don't even have a definate out date. If he doesn't get his appeal, he will parole out sometime in 2012:(. Momma always tells me "good things come to those who wait." Well, waiting I am. Maybe not always patiently. Some days I would just like to stop my feet and yell, "ITS NOT FAIR!!:angry: ", but that really wouldn't do any good, so I just try to take it all day by day and deal the best I can. Thank you again for being so nice. I'm always here too. I hope you have a great day!!:)

Hi everyone. My hubby is in for a long haul but we keep strong in our faith that he will get out on his next parole (late 07). We met through a pastor and he is the love of my life. We went through the whole proxy mess and I am a pro at it now if anyone ever needs help with it:)

Met the love of my life while working at the prison where he is incarcerated. TDCJ is doing everything in their power to keep us apart but they can't stop the love. That's what my baby says...and he is right. I didn't intend for love to happen to me and I didn't intend to go out like I did but I can't change anything and don't regret any of the time we spent together. I only regret that we didn't have more time to spend together before everything blew up in our faces. We were so lost in each other that we never saw it coming... So bam!! Now I can't visit, can't receive any phone calls. All we have is letters. I am crazy about Pop and that's not going to change even though he first parole review date isn't until 2012. I'm ridin' with him all the way...He is worth it.

Hi everyone I am new to this forum but hopeing maybe someone could help me relize my feelings arent nuts I met my "friend" through a friend of mine that he was locked up with and we have been writing each other for a few months and I am starting to have feelings for him and he said he feels the same way and wants to know if i would give him a chance when he gets out which is next dec. any comments/help would be apprecitated thanks

:wave: Hi and welcome to the MWI forum. Feel free to join the discussions in any of the threads you find of interest or start your own! I look forward to chatting with you!

Patty

Welcome to the MWI Forum.

Hello..I currently feel as if I'm in a "state of upheaval" so to speak. I'm sure alot of you will have something if not alot to say about this..but I've got to admit to myself..not to mention "come clean" about this to someone before I feel I am going "crazy" so here goes: I was online looking for some of my old friends to get back in touch with while my hubby was at work. I happened to do a search and found 2 of them on a doc website. At the bottom of the site were links to inmate penpal sites..being curious and bored, I decided to see if either friend had an ad up. Upon looking for them I ended up reading an ad that had caught my attention..I don't know what exactly just remember having the thoughts of "this guy seems interesting..and it would be nice to talk to him about books and such that I'm interested in as well", the fact that his picture did absolutely nothing for me..just made me think all the more how easy it would be to keep things platonic. Even though my marriage has been rough I wasn't looking and I was even upfront in my 1st letter about being married having kids,etc. He responded that its cool and nice to be friends and wanted nothing more from me than that. For months now we have been communicating as friends and every once in awhile he would make some kind of "flirty" comment being nothing more than that..regardless I've been finding myself to have alot of feelings come up for him and am really confused about everything. How I feel,what to do,what if's, etc. I have found not only am I now 2nd guessing our "friendship" but also that of my husband as well. I recently sent him a letter stating that "I care for him" but want nothing more than friendship from him. I am still waiting for his response to my letter and in the meantime feel as if I'm on "pins and needles" about the whole situation with him and with my husband. I love my husband and don't want to hurt him. At the same time I question whether or not I could actually be "falling" for my penpal and what to do about it..etc. I also find that not only am I worried about what if my penpal has been starting to "feel" things for me but hasn't said anything due to being respectful of my marriage but also what if the thought hasn't occured to him and now our friendship will be awkward,etc. I've also found myself wondering if I am the only one who is going through this or if there is anyone out there who can be supportive and noncrtitical about this?

i met my man through a friend we started wrighting each other and fell in love we plan to marry this april

Jason and I like i said met through a friend of mine that he was locked up with He saw my picture that my friend had and said wow she is hot can i have her address Travis(my friend since i was 6) said ok which is weird since he doesnt give it out to anyone he said he doesnt trust anyone in there....Jason started writing me and we ahve sent pics back and forth I plan to go up To Ma to see him in person hopefully in Feb or March if plans work out he has already asked if i would be willing to go to the next stage and have a relationship I have never felt this way about anyone....So there is my whole story...I am glad to have found this site it has helped me understand a lot thanks to everyone who has helped me and may everyone have a blessed holiday season

Hello skylar22657
You are gonna have to decide that one on your own. Sounds to me like you've already made up your mind by following your heart, feelings, etc.... which is a GOOD thing.
In PTO you will read good and bad. Some things will really make you stop and think about things. But if you and Jason build a good strong relationship with honesty and good communications, you will be just fine. PTO offers alot of support and information for you through this relationship should you decide to go to that next step.
MWI relationships are very tough and it takes that to survive for you on the outside especially.
Although my baby and I have only been together 6 months, the toughest at the beginning was all the negative comments by family, friends, and co-workers. But through our growing relationship, they've all seen how HAPPY he has made me!!!
I wish you LUCK and just remember, we're all here for you if you need us, good and/or bad!!!

Jason and I like i said met through a friend of mine that he was locked up with He saw my picture that my friend had and said wow she is hot can i have her address Travis(my friend since i was 6) said ok which is weird since he doesnt give it out to anyone he said he doesnt trust anyone in there....Jason started writing me and we ahve sent pics back and forth I plan to go up To Ma to see him in person hopefully in Feb or March if plans work out he has already asked if i would be willing to go to the next stage and have a relationship I have never felt this way about anyone....So there is my whole story...I am glad to have found this site it has helped me understand a lot thanks to everyone who has helped me and may everyone have a blessed holiday season

Hello insomniac7905,
First of all, welcome to PTO and the world of MWI's.
Sounds to me like you have some in debth soul searching to do. I'm not criticizing you by any means, but I have to ask this.......why if you are happily married????? would you write another man???
I guess that may be the first question you should ask yourself.

Hello..I currently feel as if I'm in a "state of upheaval" so to speak. I'm sure alot of you will have something if not alot to say about this..but I've got to admit to myself..not to mention "come clean" about this to someone before I feel I am going "crazy" so here goes: I was online looking for some of my old friends to get back in touch with while my hubby was at work. I happened to do a search and found 2 of them on a doc website. At the bottom of the site were links to inmate penpal sites..being curious and bored, I decided to see if either friend had an ad up. Upon looking for them I ended up reading an ad that had caught my attention..I don't know what exactly just remember having the thoughts of "this guy seems interesting..and it would be nice to talk to him about books and such that I'm interested in as well", the fact that his picture did absolutely nothing for me..just made me think all the more how easy it would be to keep things platonic. Even though my marriage has been rough I wasn't looking and I was even upfront in my 1st letter about being married having kids,etc. He responded that its cool and nice to be friends and wanted nothing more from me than that. For months now we have been communicating as friends and every once in awhile he would make some kind of "flirty" comment being nothing more than that..regardless I've been finding myself to have alot of feelings come up for him and am really confused about everything. How I feel,what to do,what if's, etc. I have found not only am I now 2nd guessing our "friendship" but also that of my husband as well. I recently sent him a letter stating that "I care for him" but want nothing more than friendship from him. I am still waiting for his response to my letter and in the meantime feel as if I'm on "pins and needles" about the whole situation with him and with my husband. I love my husband and don't want to hurt him. At the same time I question whether or not I could actually be "falling" for my penpal and what to do about it..etc. I also find that not only am I worried about what if my penpal has been starting to "feel" things for me but hasn't said anything due to being respectful of my marriage but also what if the thought hasn't occured to him and now our friendship will be awkward,etc. I've also found myself wondering if I am the only one who is going through this or if there is anyone out there who can be supportive and noncrtitical about this?

Hey Robnlynw,
I never knew there were so many MWI relationships until I became one also. Although I didn't work for the prison system, I'm in Law Enforcement as a 911 Dispatch Manager and an ex-wife of a cop. I met the love of my life on my job while he was working a detail. As soon as they found out we were talking, they shipped him out and sent him 4 1/2 hours away from me. Believe it or not, I was approved for visitation (no lies). Now, we are planning to be married (pending his transfer closer to me).
I hope that somehow you will eventually be approved on his visitation and his phone list.
The system is so messed up. They all claim to support visitation from friends and family, so what's the difference??? The system can't stop people from having feelings. It happens so frequently, they should realize it and just let it happen.
Good Luck!!

Met the love of my life while working at the prison where he is incarcerated. TDCJ is doing everything in their power to keep us apart but they can't stop the love. That's what my baby says...and he is right. I didn't intend for love to happen to me and I didn't intend to go out like I did but I can't change anything and don't regret any of the time we spent together. I only regret that we didn't have more time to spend together before everything blew up in our faces. We were so lost in each other that we never saw it coming... So bam!! Now I can't visit, can't receive any phone calls. All we have is letters. I am crazy about Pop and that's not going to change even though he first parole review date isn't until 2012. I'm ridin' with him all the way...He is worth it.

hey ladies i had broke up wit my ex who was locked up also and my girls told me about this pen pal site and that i should find someone interesting and just write to them since i had stamps and stuff left, i was soo leary but my curiosity had me on that site in kno time and i took my time lookin at diff. pics for about a month and i always kept going back to EJ, so i finally got up the courage to write him and a week later i got my first letter and let's just say i've fallen, he made this girl his babygirl and i had to make him my babyboy...........don't know where this will lead but keep ya fingers crossed, i'm prayin we last for eternity...he's me but in a male form.he makes me feel like i'm cloud nine..he comes home in 8 months.......and i'm soooo excited!!!!!!

Just wanted to drop you a line and say CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK!!!

hey ladies i had broke up wit my ex who was locked up also and my girls told me about this pen pal site and that i should find someone interesting and just write to them since i had stamps and stuff left, i was soo leary but my curiosity had me on that site in kno time and i took my time lookin at diff. pics for about a month and i always kept going back to EJ, so i finally got up the courage to write him and a week later i got my first letter and let's just say i've fallen, he made this girl his babygirl and i had to make him my babyboy...........don't know where this will lead but keep ya fingers crossed, i'm prayin we last for eternity...he's me but in a male form.he makes me feel like i'm cloud nine..he comes home in 8 months.......and i'm soooo excited!!!!!!

Hello insomniac7905,
First of all, welcome to PTO and the world of MWI's.
Sounds to me like you have some in debth soul searching to do. I'm not criticizing you by any means, but I have to ask this.......why if you are happily married????? would you write another man???
I guess that may be the first question you should ask yourself.

You are absolutely right..I do have alot of soul searching and have been doing just that. I didn't think (hoped actually) that I wasn't the only one going or having gone through this problem but it appears either as if I am or no one is willing to share about this. :confused: As for your question about why a married person (happily or not,man or woman)would write someone of the opposite sex..my answer is as follows: Just because someone is married..doesn't mean you belong to that person..it just means you have chosen to be with that person and who's to say that being married automatically means that either spouse cannot have friends or have them discriminated by their sex?? My husband has platonic female friends as well as female "family" friends..Who would I be to break those that support him when he needs a female's opinion on something such as a gift or surprise for me or just needs advice?? As for penpals..isn't that the whole purpose of the ads they place on penpal sites..requesting anyone man or woman to write regardless of sexual preferences..to have someone they can talk and have common interests in (ex:books,music,etc)..in order to have contact with the outside world,someone who listens and doesn't pass judgement upon them based on their crimes and just to "make their day " so they feel more like humans than animals..such as that the world and system portrays them as being??

It's nice to see so many newcomers, now if I could only coax you out of the Introduction thread and into the forum...

Welcome everyone,
Patty

Hello all,:wave:
Well I have been a PTO memeber for over a year and a half--don't know why I never posted here before. :confused:
Anywho I met my man while I worked in SAP. I was a counselor and he was a lifer mentor in the program. I worked for a non profit that was contracted with the state. Anywho I always say this however it's not totally true. I couldn't stand him then and now I can't stand to be without him. I was drawn to him in a weird way but really wouldn't give him my time :no: as I thought he was arrogant. :cool: He knew my boss from the street and arranged a one on one meeting with me because according to my boss--he (my man) had some issues :help: that he (my boss) thought I was the best person that my man should talk to about it. :rolleyes: Well we worked in a theraputic community which in English means groups. I told my boss well if he has issues let him take to a group like everyone else--what makes him so special?:argh: :hmm: My boss got mad :mad: and said could you just do what I tell you to do. So with an attitude :mad: I complied and to my surprise :eek: our first "one on one" was an awakening to me. I realized at that moment when I looked into his eyes why I was so drawn to him-:heart: -I knew him from another lifetime and he recognized me and reminded me of who we really were. :heart: Sounds crazy but true. I stayed on with my job for another 10 months and then I quit to be with him. Our first kiss (this lifetime) was in the visiting room 3 months later. We have been together now for three years and will be getting married in 2007. He is my Sun and I am his Moon.

Helo to one, and all. I met my friend as a pen pal. I think we are dpoing well, but in all thigs there are things to be worked out. I have had a lot of my friends tell me to get real. I really, and trully can't explain it, but I don't care! It's me who counts, and of course her. I can say this much, this isn't the type of relationship for the weak of heat, or mind!

I answered an ad on a write a prisoner site in 2002. I too was just looking for a pen pal..didn't want anything more. He was released 11 months later and we were married. 2 months later it all turned bad. He was cheating on me and I kicked him out. I had been writing this guys friend (friends since 9th grade) too (with his consent). I had set up my friend with his friend. He didn't like her and was complaining to my man and i wrote him to apologize. When husband left there was a lot of heartache. His friend was right there helping me pick up the pieces as best he could because he was also in prison. Fast forward to 2006. We were married in Feb. He was released in August. Now because of some BS (prosecutor denied pressing any charges but PO says he violated parole(confused about that)) he is looking at going back. He is my heart and soul and my best friend. Would never found him had I never answered that first ad. I will be here for him til we can be together again. I have heard all the warnings about guys in prison. I believe we have to trust our intuition. If it doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Alot of guys(as well as females) use the sites to prey on people and their generosity and lonliness. Don't give them more then you are able to lose whether it be your time, money or even your heart !!! lisa

Well yes like some of you I met my boo while he was locked up. I saw a picture of him that his sister in law had and one day while he was on the phone we spoke an well the rest is history. It is almost 5 years now and trust me this hasn't been a walk in the park by any means:rolleyes: He was released in June of 2004 only to return 7 weeks later to get a new sentence. When you love someone you take the good with the bad sometimes it hurts but this I feel is worth it. We have had our share of ups and downs but are getting married in the weeks to come. Something I am very happy about I love this man more than I know what to do with sometimes but in the end it's me and him! So many of my friends say I'm stupid and that I'm settling for less but ya know I've thought about it long and hard gotta live my life for me I can't live it for anyone else! Think about how many friends or family members that you know have told you at some point you are stupid...is their relationship perfect? Nope :confused: Well I wish all of you the best in your realtionships as well as our journey through doing time:heart:

My name is navida and i am 27 yers old from texas. I met my vato while working in a prison in nm. We talk and got to know each other but it wasn't until after he left that prison that we started to write each other and write. We got together after i had quit working there. I know some people may not agree with it but its like a tell people i didn't work there looking to find someone, i went there to work but i found him and I love him. Also i dont' care what people think or say i love him and he loves me and that is all that matters..................

Hey LisaW,
The true love is when it hits unexpectedly. Sounds like you two were meant to be together. Like my situation, I met my "Heart" when he was on a work detail. We both believe he was sent to that work detail for us to meet. People looking in on us MWI's from the outside don't understand, we didn't go looking for "Love", but you can't control how or where "Love" hits us. Good Luck!!
I answered an ad on a write a prisoner site in 2002. I too was just looking for a pen pal..didn't want anything more. He was released 11 months later and we were married. 2 months later it all turned bad. He was cheating on me and I kicked him out. I had been writing this guys friend (friends since 9th grade) too (with his consent). I had set up my friend with his friend. He didn't like her and was complaining to my man and i wrote him to apologize. When husband left there was a lot of heartache. His friend was right there helping me pick up the pieces as best he could because he was also in prison. Fast forward to 2006. We were married in Feb. He was released in August. Now because of some BS (prosecutor denied pressing any charges but PO says he violated parole(confused about that)) he is looking at going back. He is my heart and soul and my best friend. Would never found him had I never answered that first ad. I will be here for him til we can be together again. I have heard all the warnings about guys in prison. I believe we have to trust our intuition. If it doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Alot of guys(as well as females) use the sites to prey on people and their generosity and lonliness. Don't give them more then you are able to lose whether it be your time, money or even your heart !!! lisa

Hey chaos at night,
I'm just gonna copy and paste the same message I just sent to LisaW, as it's your story as well.......
The true love is when it hits unexpectedly. Sounds like you two were meant to be together. Like my situation, I met my "Heart" when he was on a work detail. We both believe he was sent to that work detail for us to meet. People looking in on us MWI's from the outside don't understand, we didn't go looking for "Love", but you can't control how or where "Love" hits us. Good Luck!!


My name is navida and i am 27 yers old from texas. I met my vato while working in a prison in nm. We talk and got to know each other but it wasn't until after he left that prison that we started to write each other and write. We got together after i had quit working there. I know some people may not agree with it but its like a tell people i didn't work there looking to find someone, i went there to work but i found him and I love him. Also i dont' care what people think or say i love him and he loves me and that is all that matters..................

Hi! I met my love while working in the prison. I'm still there, only because i can't find another job, but he was transferred 2 weeks ago. He was transferred to a medium facility (Federal) because he gets out in 19 months!! I work in A Federal Pen in the medical field. I'm also a little afraid to say too much. We talk on the phone all the time but he only gets 300 minutes a month. We would write each other every day while he was still in the Pen but i was always so paranoid. I had never worked in an environment like this before. Anyway, he was an orderly where i work and we got to know each other. He was so protective of me. He would tell me all the time that i was too nice to the inmates and to be very careful. One day i was left alone with about 10 inmates and got so scared that i went to him to help me. After that he and another inmate sat me down and gave me lessons about the Federal Pen. I should mention that i am not a BOP staff member. I am a contractor, which is concidered not much better than an inmate. Anyway, i also have a big problem with the system. Thats another story!!! Well, any way, here we are. I have a few issues to deal with before he gets out. I am married,not happily. He is black and i am white, which could be a big issiue with my family. I have had a long hard life and so has he so i feel that we deserve to be together. All we want is to be happy and in love. He is everything i have looked for in a man and entend to be with him no matter what. Life goes by too quickly. I want to live for me now, for the first time in my life. Thank you all for being here. I'm so glad i found this site. I need to talk because i have no one right now to talk to about this. Thank you and Merry Christmas..........

I Love My Baby And Love Has No Limit. I Don't Let What People Say Affect My Relationship

Hi my name is Patty and I originally met my man during the Summer of 2003 via a misdialed call from County jail. We hit it off and began writing and talking on the phone and in December of that year I came face to face with him in a crowded visiting room.

We did 14 months together before his release. Things were great when he came home although the conditions of parole and lack of employment opportunities became a burden very quickly. In January 2006, 16 months after his release he went back to prison and will max out and I find myself waiting again in this next chapter of our lives...

It is often said that these types of relationships don't stand much of a chance. I have to say I've never been fond of being a statistic so perhaps that is why I try harder, not to mention the fact that he is worth it. I could go on and on but I'm gonna give others a chance to introduce themselves. I look forward to getting to know everyone who "Met While Incarcerated".

All the best,
Patty
Hello everyone. I'm new to this site!!!THis is my first posting. I met someone thats incarcerated.I was watching Msnbc one day and seen the show , it was called Lockdown and it was about this guy who was selling dope and on one of his dope missions, he thought the guy was gonna rob him so he shot the guy killed him and robbed him. Well this is the guy I wrote the other week for the first time. At first I was a little skeptical in doing so , but I did. I just loved his swagger and attitude. I don't have low selfesteem and I never wrote a guy in prison before , but this guy was an exception. He has a violent pass he was in a gang, since age 12. I could tell the type of person he was when he sat down with an interview with the guys mother. He appologized for his actions and stated that he know she wouldn't forgive him, but the victims' mom said " Son, I already have forgiven you" She had also talk with him about when he get out to make sure he takes good care of his son, cause he had a child before he went in. But i could tell from the show he's not just cold hearted, he just lived a hardcore life, he's a good person though. Respects women. During the show he states how he still has to survive in prison, so he intimidates prisoners for stuff.If I talk to him when he gets out,I don't know if I'm trying to think I can change him or what. Do u think it'll be hard for him to leave the gang lifestyle with no problem(harm to himself) He is 32 and I'm 21.That's another problem, I think. Cause I never communicated with someone on that level of trying to hook up with someone of that age. He did write me back, got the letter in like a week later and Thanked me for taking the time out to write him. Thanked me for the pic I sent and commented on how pretty and cute I was throughout the whole letter. I blushed reading the whole thing. He asked me to ask him anything I wanted to know about him. So I did send
another letter asking him things. Do anyone remember seeing that series of LOckdown in Lebanon Ohio. He says he dont get letters from no one other than his mom little sister and little son. Cause I told him I bet u a celebrity now and get letters from all kinds of women.lol Does anyone think I was wrong for sending a letter with my home address on it? Don't have P.o box. Another thing I'm waiting on the 2nd letter I asked him what all happened what lead him to being in jail,Do u think He would tell me the whole thing? Him thinking if he tells me the truth I wouldnt wont to talk to him anymore or for legal reasons?? Also can anyone tell me if this is true. He went in Feb.2001, sentenced to 9 yrs. 3 yrs for gun charge. He was charged with 1 deg. involuntary manslaughter and 2nd deg. robbery.He told me He could go up for parole 2008, but on the web it says 2012. He did say If i don't make it 2008 Ill have two yrs which mean 2010. Im confused , who could i asked about this or will anyone tell me anything not being related to him. All help and responses to my questions are appreciated. Hope to meet all of you soon..Bye bye!
Also if u remember Ask peeps who are in lebanon if they know "blu" and ask them what he does and what kind of person he is. thanks so much

Hi :wave: and welcome to the forum. You might want to start a thread and post any questions you might have as this one is mainly just to introduce yourself. I hope to hear lots more from you...

Patty

Blugirl,

Welcome and Happy New Year.

I was looking for an ex boyfriend. i looked up the info and mailed him a leter with a picture of me and my daughter and my phone number. Turns out it was the wrong guy. My now fiance called a few times and asked if he could write me or call me--not collect and I said OK but I may not write back. It will be two years in April 07. I written more than I have in 7 years of college almost. He will be home Jan 18th 2007.

Blugirl,

Welcome and Happy New Year.

Thank you! You all have a very safe and Happy New Year also..

welcome to the mwi forum.

I met my boyfriend 2 years ago through a friend that was incarcerated, they were cell mates. We started corresponding through letters until he got the courage to call me. We talked and wrote to each other for 1 year and then I went to visit him. The visit was great and he was so nervous , I was too but I didn't let it show. He transferred to Atlanta about 6 months ago and I live in SC and has not visited him. We talk just about every 2 weeks but he trying to get closer so the drive won't be so long. It's crazy the first time I didn't talk to him I missed him and I really didn't know him. Now, I can't see a future without him and I can't wait for him to come home. Yes, he's coming to live with me.......

I met my friend in 2000. we met through a mutual friend who was also incarcerated. I was then and still am married (unhappily) This guy was incredible. I had never wrote to any guy in prison before other than my uncles. Unfortunately I got scared and thought I should give my marriage a try since I had small children. He understood completely. Well all these years later I am still unhappily married. Im working on separating. But taking it slow as to be easier on my children. So... this guy I couldn't get out of my head all these years. I found him a few months ago back in prison. Turns out he tried to find me. So we are back in contact. And I am just as crazy about him this time as I was last time. I know now that we are just meant to be in eachother's life. I am going to do everything I possibly can to be with him when he gets out. I just found this website by accident. This is my first posting. I have already found this site to be very supportive to me. Thanks!

WELCOME to the newcomers :wave: Happy New Year to one and all, hope to get to know you better in the Met While Incarcerated forum.

Patty

Happy New Year & Welcome to all of our Newbies!!!!

I met my boo while I was a CO at the prison he was at. He was one of my detail orderlies. If anyone would have told me 4 years later we would be in love I would never have believed it. He never asked me for anything he said all he wanted was my love and that was enough for him. We have had our ups and downs over the years but he has changed so much for the better since we have been together. He has done 17 years of a life sentence and we hope this time around they will grant his parole. It comes up in July 2010. I hope they let him come home but if not I will continue to be by his side.

I felt like I was the only one. Most of the women I know knew there husbands before they were locked up. It's nice to see I'm not the only one who met the love of there life inside. I met my Stephen at Folsom State Prison while visiting my brother who was incarcerated there. Stephens Mother and I used to visit every weekend like I did and her and I became friends. She used to always talk about how wonderful Stephen was and he was always so sweet when I would get a chance to talk to him so I got curious and asked my brother if he minded asking Stephen if he wanted a pen-pal and he did. we wrote back and forth everyday and visited 3 days a week (well still do) and he is the most amazing man I have ever met in my life. The only way my life could get any better is if he was home.

I have been reading the posts and I think this is the place for me ... Smiling. I am not sure where to begin except at the beginning. My relationship started off as a penpal relationship and over the last six months, I have most definitely fallen in love, which is NOT like me at all. But it has happened and I find I am embracing it. We have a solid base of friendship which means the world to me and I found I was captivated by his intelligence and openness.

He is serving a life term at Telford and is eligible for parole in 2012. He is working on something called "time-cut" which quite truthfully I have not a clue what that is. Smiling.

I have two kids, 20 and 17 and depending on how the next year and a half goes with visits to him in Texas (I live far away). I am thinking I should consider moving to Texas to be closer. I am a teacher so I can get a job just about anywhere. OH and the other tiny problem, he is 15 years younger than I, is that a problem? Not sure yet. Smiling.

SO that's me and I welcome any advice I can get. This is completely and utterly new to me and not something I thought I would ever be so committed to.

Mahalo Nui Loa,

Lani :)

Welcome georgiapeach5, Atreyusmommie and Lani!!! I look forward to seeing more of you as you check out the MWI forum.

Patty

You Go Girl,
I met mine while he was on a work detail in the building I work in. We fell "totally head over hills in LOVE". He's 11 years younger than I am. We are planning to be married, just waiting on some things to happen first. So, as I said, GO FOR IT!!!
I have been reading the posts and I think this is the place for me ... Smiling. I am not sure where to begin except at the beginning. My relationship started off as a penpal relationship and over the last six months, I have most definitely fallen in love, which is NOT like me at all. But it has happened and I find I am embracing it. We have a solid base of friendship which means the world to me and I found I was captivated by his intelligence and openness.

He is serving a life term at Telford and is eligible for parole in 2012. He is working on something called "time-cut" which quite truthfully I have not a clue what that is. Smiling.

I have two kids, 20 and 17 and depending on how the next year and a half goes with visits to him in Texas (I live far away). I am thinking I should consider moving to Texas to be closer. I am a teacher so I can get a job just about anywhere. OH and the other tiny problem, he is 15 years younger than I, is that a problem? Not sure yet. Smiling.

SO that's me and I welcome any advice I can get. This is completely and utterly new to me and not something I thought I would ever be so committed to.

Mahalo Nui Loa,

Lani :)

Thank you babydoll!! What a great story. Congratuations on the upcoming marriage! That is so wonderful!!

I do love him, I just have to get those pre-conceived notions out of my head ... smiling

Anytime Lanigirl, if you need to talk, jut hollar. We're all here for each other!!!

Thank you babydoll!! What a great story. Congratuations on the upcoming marriage! That is so wonderful!!

I do love him, I just have to get those pre-conceived notions out of my head ... smiling

This is how I met my boo. One day I was so bumed out that I did not know what to do. I had gotten out of a bad relationship. And I was back living with my parents and of course my daughter as well. One cold night in December 11, 2005 my sister called me and told me that one of her freinds was already out and that he was going to call to my home. What she told me to tell him was that she already got married and that she did not want for him to distrub her marriage. What my sister also told me to do is too talk to him as a friend. So he could not bother her any more. Well on Decemer of 2005 my boo called to my house and asked for my sister. I told him everything that my sister told me too do. Well he was like can you call her and tell her that I am already out, so I did. I called my sister and told her what he told me too tell her. Well then every thing stop and then he started to call me. I was talking to him because he sounded nice and all. We started talking and one thing lead to another. He told me that he had finished serving 4 1/2 years in prison and that he was already out. And that he did not know any one in town and if it would be nice if I took him places. Well one thing lead to another, I startedto see him as often as I could and then we started dating and then the big question poped out. I only knew him for 6 months and now I became his wife. It is such a big thing that I would never forget that day I met him in person. It was like we were met to be. We are soulmates. lol
I got married to my soulmate in April 25,2006

Hi my name is Jeanne. I met the man of my life May 12, 1999, though a friend. I wasnt looking for anyone, especially someone incarcerated. I am a woman who has been hurt many times and really didnt like men at the time. But I guess God had other plans.

We hit it off very well and he is my best friend. Even though I live in Tennesse and he was in Ohio, God blessed me with the money to go visit. Well, to make a long story short, he got paroled in February of 2006, with one year of probation to do. I am sad to say that his freedom only lasted for nine months. What is sad to me is that sometimes your family can be your worst enemy. Instead of supporting him in some ways, they put more pressure on him. I did get the chance to go visit him while he was out and I thank God for that time. It really made our relationship real. He commented on how peaceful he felt around me and that he knew it would be like that in Tennessee.

Even though he is locked up again. I still continue to be his lifeline. Everyone makes mistakes, so I cannot judge his, unless I am ready to be judged, and I am not. So I am gonna stick by my man till God says other wise.

He goes to court tomorrow and Wednesday. And I am praying for him, cause that is all I can do. I dont know how much more time he will have to do, but good things comes to those who wait on the Lord. I have been with God long enough to know that He dont give no shabby gifts. So what is a few more months or years.

Jeanne

Welcome to the MWI forum.

:o I met my penpal 10 years ago through one of my girlfriends. We have been writing each other every since, and we now talk on the phone. Last month was the first time I meet him in person. I really have feelings for him, we have a connection that I never felt with a man. I don't judge him and I don't listen to everyone else's opinion because he makes me happy.

Wow! I can't believe I stumbled upon this website! I met the man of my life 2 1/2 years ago. We were introduced by a my friend's boyfriend who went back on a PV. I was just doing it as a "favor" to help out. I went into this thing as just wanting to bea friend. Soon found myself following deeply in love with him. Never did I want to be that woman that got scammed. But from day one we knew that we found "our one and only!" I can't imagine not having him to laugh with.

What a great website...I guess I never realized there were so many others like me. It's very reassuring, since no one else understands....now I know someone out there does.

:wave: Hi everybody, it's great to see all the new members. Welcome to the MWI forum, we hope to get to know y'all better!

Patty

Welcome to all our new family members.

Hi everyone. I loved reading the posts here. A friend asked me if I wanted to write someone in prison. I said yes. I picked his name off a list. We wrote for a year and saw each other at an event inside. He wrote and asked me to visit. I did, and long story short, we were married in Sept 2005. He has a life sentence, and we are praying for reduction of sentence somehow. It will be a miracle. There is no parole in Maine, and he's been down 29 years. I am really enjoying this site and others. K

K,

Welcome to PTO!!

Whats good everyone? wellme and my man met initially when he was about 14 and i was 10, he was my older brother's friend, and i've always had a crush on him, and just a few months ago i got his address and started writing him

Hi everyone! My nephew was in county and he was always talking about this man that led him into walking a life-changing path with the Lord. One day while visiting his friend came by and peeked in the window, our eyes met and WOW, I have met my soulmate for life. We plan to marry very soon. He will be up for his first parole in April of '08. We are praying that the good Lord sees fit to bless us a yes vote so that we may start our life together in a physical sense. Through letters and non-contact visits we have such a miraculously powerful spiritual, emotional and loving bond that no man could ever come between. God Bless!

Welcome to all the newcomers this is a great site i know i am glad i found it

Hello - I am new here - I have posted in the MA part of PTO - I met my sweetie a year ago - he was my pen pal and the more we wrote one another the more we grew.. We have both been hurt and do not want that again.. He is 5 years older than me and so sweet, caring and special to me.. I am in Florida and he is in MA right now.. He is being released this Nov. I am very excited and nervous at the same time.. He is unlike any other guy I have ever known.. He tells me not to worry that I am what he wants.. and that he is not like other guys.. some guys after a while will ask the female for this or that and he said he will never ask me for anything but my heart that he has grown so much being there and he is ready for real and true love !! I never thought that I would be able to fall so hard for a man after I had been hurt so many times. But I have and I am Happy and very much in love with him.. I love this site and I am thankful for everyone here.. It is nice to feel welcomed and know that there are many others that have met the love of their life in the same kinda fashion that I have.. Thank you all so much your stories here have touched my heart I look forward to talk with you all at some point..
Kat

Chad was incarcerated with my ex boyfriend, Mike for several years. well, after two years of writing Chad, along with his fatal attempts to win me over, I fell head over hills in love with him. I will be able to visit him face to face in March...

Welcome Ladys!!!!

:wave: Welcome to the MWI forum everybody, I look forward to hearing more from you in the forum!!!

Patty

Hello- I have been on this website for a couple of months. I usually went to the Texas forums, but once I saw this one I keep coming back to it. I began writing a penpal 7 months ago and it has developed into so much more. I've been to see him 4 times and it just gets better each time. We were both very skeptical, but I am so thankful we both were willing to take a chance. Just as I am scared of getting hurt, a lot of these men have done nothing but hurt and lose while locked up. I know there are ones through the penpal sites that take advantage, but for most I think they are truly just reaching out for someone to care. Glad to have found ya"ll!!!

Hi everyone! My story is odd, but amazing. I met my man because he was a patient at my work. He was in there because he had stolen a car while drinking and driving and he got in an accident. I knew that from the beginning. Even knowing that, and him being in that neck brace (he still looked hot), I knew there was something special about him. We talked and connected for about 1 month before he was taken away. I could feel myself starting to fall in love with him and although I tried to fight it, I fell. I have found in him someone that I love and believe in. I have never been in this situation before so I still have questions about things, but I have faith in god and I believe that everything will work out the way that it was meant to be! He is everything that I want in a man. The lord works in misterious ways and I look forward to seeing what the future holds.
Like the saying says, "To the world you might just be someone, but to someone you might just be the world!"
This forum is awesome and everyone is really nice and helpful!
Thank you!

Howdy New Partners. Welcome to the forum.

Best wishes to you all.

:wave: Hi jayssunshine and bbabycakes, welcome to the MWI forum, we're so glad to have you with us. I look forward to getting to know y'all better in the days ahead, kick off your shoes, you're among friends...

Patty

hello to all of you--reading your posts i can feel your strength and committment to these men; i also waited--2 1/2 years for my special
man to be released. during that time we weren't allowed to visit as i
was considered a 'security risk' because i had been employed there. our only contact was correspondence and phone calls. we both endured punishment from the doc of our state, affecting him on the inside and me on the outside. i'm particularly interested in hearing from women who worked at jails and prisons and how their situations were handled.

he's out now, we're married, and all is going well. we survived job threats, job loss, mail interference, recorded phone conversations--played for doc entertainment and physical beatings. let me hear from you, sisters.

Welcome to the MWI forum susanalee!!! I hope to hear more from you and I am sure as you check out the many threads in this forum you will find many members that share your experience. Glad to have you with us!!!

Patty

:yay: :heart: :dance: Hi my name is vicki, i met my boyfriend Jody while he was in county, he is now at L.C.F. in Lawton we have been getting to know each other really well i go visit every sun. & all free visit days. I plan to ride out this sentence with him, he knows there is someone waiting for him to come home!!!!;) :love: :heart:

Welcome

Awww JVS you be wearin' your heart on your sleeve and I LOVE IT, LOL. We're glad to have u with us and look forward to getting to know u as you check out the MWI forum! :wave:

Patty

I met my man through a friend(long story) we fell in love. He wasn't suppose to get out till next year but he is getting out early IN 3 WEEKS!!!!! I am scared, excited and nervous to meet him for the first time. He has been in there for 3 years and I am picking him up!!!!

I met mine while he has been incarcerated. Things have been wonderful and we get along beautifully for two years now. I'm really scared that he could be using me for various reasons though and that things will be different when he comes out in July. Any advise or opinions would be appreciated.

Well I can kinda say im in the same situation as you. The only difference is that I knew my man since I was in the second grade. He was in the 8th and we went to the same school. The only connection we had was that my mother was his teacher and he was her favorite student so he was around me a lot. But 12 years passed before we reconnected last Sept and ever since then we have been inseperable and we are very much so in REAL love. So If you feel that its right then then it probably is. Just keep the faith and I wish you the best.

I found out about my buddy rice thru his brother BJ.
I never met him face to face but I have known of him
Since the end of 98 we have been writing each other
For 10mos and I have spoke to him on the phone
Wonderful friendship very innocent very heart warming
Very fun felt, nothing cerious just a really good friend.
Truly

Hey Vicki,

Welcome to PTO.

hi my name is gladys and i met my man thru a friend, somehow i just knew that he was for me and just by his letters and dreams and goals he had me feeling that i had somehow met the man for me, which i still believe to this day , i cant explain to alot of people how i can possibility be in love with someone thats behind bars , but guess what i am not worry too much how they feel because loving my man has made me feel that there is true love and that there is a good man for me totally. so when i found this place , i knew that there are ladies that feel just like me , thanks soooooo much

I didn't know how to post something on here so I hope I'm doing it right. I met my fiancee' 6 years ago in 2001 just on an off chance of a friend who was already in a relationship like this one. She told me I should just find someone to talk to about the day to day. I did not intend on falling in love with him but that is exactly what happened. Tone (my man) and I have been through so much together in the last 6 years and he is showing signs of improvement and is expected to be home this July. When I met him, he was in maximum security in SOCF in Lucasville, OH and now he is minimum one at an honors camp. My friend's guy got out in 2002 after serving 15 years and he has a job, they are married, and are expecting their 3rd child. They are my inspiration. They are the reason I've been able to hold out for so long. They are living proof that these kind of relationships can and do happen. I haven't always been perfect though because in 2004 when he was supposed to be released he messed it up for himself and I got angry and slept with another person and got pregnant. He eventually forgave me and we are still together. My son's biological father is not in his life but Tone is. When I visit, I take him to see him and the two of them have so much fun like they are truly father and son. Well, I can go on and on but I won't. wish me luck, as I will do the same for everyone else.:)

Casslyn -- sanmer418@yahoo.com




Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Please tell us as much or as little as you like about yourself so we can all get to know and support one another better.

Patty

Hi.....I met my love/lover/best friend/soulmate through a penpal site a few months ago now....the spark was there from the first letter....over Christmas we both told each other how we were feeling/falling....Id never been in a situation like this before....and Ive been lurking reading these boards obsessively for a while now....Im still nervous excited and blown away by it all....So hi ladies and gents

I've read most of the stories and it's sort of like reading my life story. My cousin was seeing a guy that was locked up and she sent him a picture that had me in it from one of the nights we were in the club. He in turn pass the picture on to his best friend, who liked what he saw and wanted to know if it was ok to write. I was going through a divorce and figured what do I have to lose but to gain a good friend. This was back in 1999. I didn't think it would go any further than friendship because I just wasn't ready for a relationship, I needed to take care of me!!! As time goes by, we are becoming really good friends and I start to develop feelings for him. I tried to fight these feelings at first because I wasn't prepared to deal with them myself, but you know like I know when it comes to love you can not stop LOVE! I fell for him hard. He has been the best thing that has happened in my life next to my children. Of course, you all know that once my family and friends heard about me loving a man that in behind bars oh they had so much to say, but like I told them they don't make me happy he does and that is what matters! On October 20, 2002 I drove 16 hours to Kentucky to marry my Baby and I am happy to say that we are still going strong and better then when we first fell in love. I'm not going to lie it is a hard, lonely road for us on the outside. I have my share of nights when I cry myself to sleep. I've never doubted the decision that I made by being with my husband. He is no longer in Kentucky. He is in West Virginia which is a 5 hour drive for me, much easier to get too. We did go through a tough spot 3 years ago. I suffered a stroke and he and I both was really worried if I was going to make it through my health crisis. What kept me going was I had to be here for my children and my husband. I'm so glad that I found this website so now on those sleepless nights I have somewhere to seek comfort.

Bless your heart missdiva33, welcome to pto I joined last month in Jan 07.
This site is truly a blessing and I think you will find alot of comfort and Friends here not alot of people can understand love and incarceration.
I have a play brother on the inside in a federal prison called Big Sandy
Federal Penn in Kentucky we have been friends since 5yrs old.
He is a good man and has a lovely woman that is in his corner as well.
I have a dear friend at Glades Correctional in Belle Glade Florida outside of Miami FL where I used to live for 5yrs and I made connection to him thru
His brother that used to date my sister and I have known of him since 98
We have been writing faithfully for a year.
We are only good friends as I am married but he has been a true blessing
As far as his friendship it soothing and has gotten me thru some ruff times
Within my marriage I am sure you can relate to that, at any rate I am happy you found us blessings on you your health your sweet babies and
Your husband God will work things out and see you thru stay strong stay
Positive and always keep your self at a happy medium the rest will fall in
Play....God Bless.....Kimi 06

Missdiva33,

Welcome to PTO. I echo Kimi 06 regarding support.

I've been apart of PTO since 03. I have continued to check in, even though my friend has been home since 04. During my darkest hour and my emotional mess, I found such strength, support, love, feedback, etc. during his absence; and during his coming home, I've even found a greater support system, insight, wisdome, in dealing w/ him now that he's home.

I honestly don't know how I would have made it while he was away and druing his transition back home.

What you put into PTO, is what you will get out of it.

Again, welcome and best wishes.

It's actually kind of interesting, my MWI story that is. I've scanned through some pages, but geez there are a lot, so I'm not sure if this has happened to anyone else. I also wasn't aware of the fact that there are penpal sites. I really learn something new about this every day.

Anyway, my mother had been (and still is) dating his (my baby's) grandfather for quite some time, after not being with a man (my father) in almost 13 years. It was amazing how perfect they were for each other and how both of our families immediately accepted one another and became one large, crazy happy family. (heheh) So one day (after I'd met almost his entire family and them loving me) it was suggested to my mother that I meet him (J - my baby now) because after his family got to know me, they were certain we would be perfect for one another. So my mother went up first (for approval I guess) to visit him and came home to tell me all about the experience. She said he was gorgeous and couldn't believe how much he reminded her of me. I'm thinking wow, my mother has never approved of anything I've done in my entire life, now this?

A few weeks later I found myself setting off metal detectors in the reception room because of my underwire, thinking oh geez what have I gotten myself into as I remember the gun tower being the first thing I saw driving into the parking lot. I went up to visit with my mother, her boyfriend, and his daughter (J's mother). I was already close to all of them, so that made it more comfortable. Although his mother is my mother's age we act like sisters. =]

I thought I was fine, chatting with the family, people-watching in the visiting room, until he walked over to the table and everyone stood up to hug him, including my mother who had already seen him a few times at this point. I didn't know what to do or even if he knew I was coming, and I could feel myself starting to cry out a combination of unexplainable emotions. I still don't know to this day if he noticed it because I tried to cover it up as quickly as I could. I remember wanting to reach over and hold his hand through the entire visit and never have I clicked with someone so quickly and so beautifully in my entire life. I hugged him at the end of the visit and as we were ending our embrace, we smiled at each other realizing we had both said, "Thank you" to one another simultaneously.

Since then I have not missed a weekly visit (with his family there too), have written like there was no tomorrow, and get calls every Wednesday now. (That's the night you'll catch me speeding home from work on the back roads! haha) I have our families to thank for such support, and the suggestion in the first place. I'm just glad that my mom approves of older men! (obviously haha) As he's got me by about 4 years. No biggie.

So hello all, that is one of my many stories. Hope you enjoyed and were able to relate. :p

Greenstripes that has got to be like one of the sweetest stories
I love it . It sounds like something out of a novel OMG you got
To love it best of luck and wishes to you:thumbsup:

Greenstripes,

Thanks for sharing your story. This is so sweet.

Best wishes.

Hi Everyone

My name is Lisa and I met Gus while he was already inside. The story about how we met will seem a little mean or shady to most people when they first read about it so I will save that for a later time. First and foremost, when I first started to write Gus I had no idea where this was going to go, if anywhere. After a few correspondences back and forth, he eventually asked for me to visit which I did. We hit it off great and we have been together going on a year now. When the truth first came to light about me and how I knew of his current situation, i was surprised he took it well but I was honest when I said I never wanted to keep the truth from him but felt awkward to just blurt things out. All in all, we are doing well but I was never involved with anyone who was incarcarated and this is a difficult road for not only me but for him also. Unfortunately he is in the begin stages of a 6 year bid. I miss him everyday and sometimes I just don't know how I will get through the time apart.

hi lisa,
welcome! this is a great place to share concerns, good news and more!

Gus and I met while he was in prison. When I started to write him I didn't even know if he would answer but he did. After a few correspondences, he asked if I would visit and I did. We have been together almost a year now and I have to admit it is difficult. I was never in a relationship with someone who was incarcerated and it is a strain emotionally. Like many people, of course I fear that I am being played but honestly I do care about him alot and I hope that he means what he says. I am new to this site and if anyone has any advice they would be willing to share or offer me, i would be very appreciative. Thanks for your help

Hello,

I met my fiance through a friend. She was traveling to visit her friend and asked if I would ride with her. I told her that if she wanted me to continue riding with her, I would need someone to talk to while she visited (I was tired of sitting in the car for 6 hours). The rest is history. We started just helping out two friends and now we are awaiting his release to tie the knot.

Dazednconfessed

Hi everyone! I met my guy through a friend who's nephew is in the same prison. He didn't have very many people to write. Well one thing lead to another, and now we love each other. That was 2 years ago. I go see him about 1 a month or so. We are planning a future together. I'm glad I finally came over to check MWI out.
Joy

I met my husband thru my best cousin. It was 2yrs come March 12. We started writing back and forth. I eventually started taking Prison Gap Bus to Attica where he was. We got married 11/29/06.

Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Please tell us as much or as little as you like about yourself so we can all get to know and support one another better.

Patty

I met my daddy while he was/is doing his bid. We met through my sis and her soon to be hubby. Neither one of us were looking for love just a friend/bud... but hey it happend and we are happy in love. we are looking forward to getting married within the next few months.

Hi all,
I have been posting in here for a couple of weeks now and realize that I had skipped the introduction thread.
My name is Shanda. I am 49 years old, divorced for 2 1/2 years. I have three grown children and FIVE grandchildren! My guy is divorced, as well, and has a 16 year old son. He is 47. He thinks that I am one HOT grandma! I don't think it has sunk in yet.
I am a college graduate (psych major) and worked in social services for most of my career. I am currently between jobs and assessing my options. (Translation- burned out.) Cecil was a commercial fisherman, hence the name fishermans_girl.
I became aquainted with a young kid in town who was facing some pretty serious charges. He is my kids' age and seemed to need someone to talk to and I began accepting his calls when he was in county. During one of those conversations when we were commiserating about relationships, I, half-jokingly told him, "If you know a decent guy my age, give him my number." Well, the kid was sentenced to Maine State Prison, and months later I got a call from Cecil, (my guy) saying, "You don't know me, but this kid gave me your number and told me you are about my age."
As some of you know, that first call went on for over an hour and we began to correspond and have exchanged pictures. I am waiting for clearance to visit and plan to as often as possible since he is only 66 miles from here. I am smitten:blush: . (That is what we have been saying to each other lately!) Cecil and I believe that there are no coincidences and everything happens for a reason. We believe that there is Someone greater than us guiding this relationship. (You that know me have been hearing that, too.) Whether it will work out or not remains to be seen, but we both have a good feeling about it. We have just under 15 months until his release. I have a strong feeling that it will.
So, thanks for all the warm welcomes and all the sharing. I hope that we can continue to share the joys and support each other through the difficult times. GBY.

"Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely."

Welcome to all the new comers.

Hello All,

This is my very first post!

I met Shawn through a pen pal website about 4 months ago. I was looking to make a positive impact on someone's life and did NOT expect anything other than friendship.

However, in the past month our relationship has turned into more than just friendship. I was surprised that I had come to care about this person so much over such a short period of time. I feel like I know him so well and he tells me he feels the same. He told me 2 weeks ago that he loves me and I know that I feel the same. It's crazy! I think this relationship is so much different because it's alot easier to open up and be honest on a piece of paper. There are no distractions, just pages of feelings and stories about our lives. I have told him things that I never open up about and I feel in my heart that this is just right.

Shawn has been in EOCI for 11 years so far and will be released in 2010. He is wonderful, kind, sensitive and makes me feel things I have never felt. I never in a MILLION years thought I would fall in love with someone in prison but love is a strange thing. I am visiting him next month and I am ecstatic. I can't wait to see his face and hold him in my arms for the first time. I know I am going to be sooo nervous. I already am and it's a month away!

I am so thankful for prisontalk because before Shawn, I had never known anyone in prison and I was totally uneducated about what went on in there and so forth. This site has taught me so much and it makes me feel good to know that I am not alone. I truly enjoy reading your posts and I am excited to be apart of this community.

Lauren :love:

Welcome to PTO Lauren. You will find alot of support here.

Hello lauren&shawn welcome sweetie:D
I know exactly how you feel I am truly in your shoes as I reached
Out to my friend thru a prison ministry and I am in my 30s so this
Was like really odd to me when I first got into it,because I always
Said to myself who could fall in love with a man in prison and now
Here I am a year later finding myself truly caring about this man
He is not my man but we are dear friends I have known of him
Since 98 thru his brother that once dated my sister and I always
Promised his brother I would write him,we have become best of
Friends and we pray together and we share so much amongst
Each other its really special even though I am not in a relationship
With him , his friendship has blessed my life .Good luck to you
And Shawn on your visit I am sure it will be awesome:thumbsup:
I am glad you are at pto hope to chat with you sometime

Peace Kimi

Thank you so much for the warm welcome Wife C and Kimi06! I am definitely looking forward to chatting with you sometime Kimi. It makes me feel so much better knowing that there are people who understand my situation. It makes things a little easier for me. :thumbsup:

Well I am always here for support lauren&shawn, what prison is your
Friend at lauren? I use to live in Florida for 5years before moving to
Jackson Mississippi my home town is Philly PA as you see I am loving the
South, my friend is still in south florida outside of west palm beach
His camp is called Glades CI in Belle Glade Florida, when I come and
Visit family down there and get to visit him you never know we just
Might bump into each other God Bless and talk with you again soon
Kimi06

Hello everybody!

This is my first post. My name is Dani and I found this website when I was looking for information about women in love with a prisoner, so here is my story.

Six months ago I heard an advertisement on the radio regarding prisoners, and how to go about writing a letter to a person who is incarcerated. At first, I was just curious about the whole idea but decided to check it out anyway. The website is writingtoaprisoner.com. I started reading some of the postings from different states and then found one that touched my heart. His posting was different because he was not asking for any help, he was only asking for friendship with anyone. I sent the first letter and then, waited. That's how everything started.

A week later, I received a reply from him. He was just as sweet as I thought he would be. As time went by, the letters kept increasing. We found out that we have so much in common, it is just totally unbelievable. We have the same interests, likes and dislikes. We write to each other, not one or 2, but 4 and 5 letters every week. I didn't know how involved I was until recently when I didn't receive any letters from him. It went on for about 12 days and I was just going crazy thinking that I wasn't going to hear from him ever again. Then, finally, he sent a letter explaining the reason why he couldn't write. Apparently, the prison where he is was making some kind of changes and he was not able to write for a few days but that is over, and now, we even talk on the phone at least once a week. I look forward to hear his voice every Friday night. Two weeks ago, he finally told me that he loves me and I told him how much I love him too.:)

Now I don't know what to do, and this is the reason why I'm here. At first, I thought I was crazy, falling in love with a prisoner, but now I know that I'm not the only one!!!

It is so great to know that there is somebody else out there who can understand how I feel. I can't talk to my family about it or to some of my friends. There is only one person who knows that I'm writing letters to a prisoner, my best friend, but I can't even tell her the whole truth.

I would really appreciate any comments you have. :)

Hi Dani108, you are not alone like I was explaining to lauren&Shawn I
Completely understand so dont feel bad or down on yourself because
This gentlemen happens to be in prison right now things happen for
A reason ,for me it was truly a outreach and outlet living this life is
Hard and we all need a extra activities especially positive ones that
Will make us smile and touch somebodys heart I have never visited
My friend we have talked accross the phone a few times but we have
Written religiously for a year and it is doing him a world of good as
It is for me and that alone makes me happy, just take your time and learn to
Be his bestfriend everything else will fall in place. I am so happy
You are here if you have any questions you can always pm me
It is a beautiful thing getting that mail in your box isnt it
Good luck and best of wishes be careful and keep your mind
Clear on your friendship first its a good feeling trust me I am
Feeling what you feel.......:o)

LaurenNshawn and Dani108,

Welcome to the family. We look forward to getting to you know. You will find that we are a supportive family w/ different opinions, circumstances, etc., and are here to offer feedback (both ends).

You will find that some of us have been where you are and or are where you are; therefore, we can lend advice and or a listening ear.

Dani108, you are not crazy, for some have fallen in love immediately and it has worked out. Take it slow and continue to keep open the lines of communication.

Best wishes to all of you that has recently joind the family.

Thank you Kimi06 for letting me know I'm not alone.

I needed someone on my side and now I'm so glad I found this site because I can see, after reading some of the postings, that I'm not alone, there are other women like me, in love with a prisoner. It feels great to know that.

Thank you Thunder for welcoming me into the family. This is a great supportive family where one can get advice if not, just someone who can listen.

It's great knowing that you have a safe haven to turn to when you need support, especially when your situation is as sensitive as ours.

Hello All

I Met My Man At A Rodeo And Have Been In Love With Him Since I Saw Him That Day 2 Years Ago Next Month.

He Is My Rock And I Dont Know What I Would Do Without Him.

He Has Been There For Me In So Many Ways That I Couldnt Name Them All Here.

I Dont Think I Appreciate Him Near Enough Though.

Hi I am new here. I met my boyfriend through my brother where they are both incarcerated at W.G.Y.C.F. We met Dec.26th and both decided to enter a relationship with each other on Jan.20 2006 it has been a long road but he makes me so happy!

Greetings Everyone,
I always pass by this thread, and I never think twice about coming and looking to see whats good. Well, today I finally came by, and I liked it.
I dont find to many people who met there hunny bunz inside, and Im glad that there is this section, that people such myself can relate to and discuss. I always post on my prison there, and here and there when needed-- Now, that said.
I did met my husband inside many many many years ago, and I love him to death. He is my soulmate, bestfriend, lover and most of all hes my husband. I cant tell you all enough how much I LOVE HIM.. I started off as friends, and then we became lovers; after that now Im his wife.
I always get, how can you be with someone in prison, you dont know him etc. I look, and I always say: they are still human, and they "Some" have feeling, and a heart. Not everyone is the same. Its like is all your fingers and toes look the same NO... Everyone deserves to have love and to beloved. Never judge its book by its cover, because for all you know- you might have missed the greatest thing that has ever came into your life..
I think I rambled long enough, so thanks for listening..

SMOKEYS WIFE
I LOVE YOU SMOKEY POR VIDA

:D Hello all! I have a friend in NNCC. We started writing in November, 06 and have become very good friends. I am so happy to have found this site:p

Welcome to all of our new friends!!!

Hey guys im not new but to some I might come off that way. My old name on here was secksi_bishh and most knew me as Bella. Imma MWI with a man whos doing 18 to life and who was at first my pen pal. Ive been with him for 2 and half years! Im from Indiana and hes in Ohio.....not to bad of a drive as long as the weather is corporating!! :) If anyone needs anything lemme know Im never far!

Bella

Well I have been posting on the forum where my man is at and so I decided that I would introduce myself here also. I started writing my guy in 05 as a penpal. I saw his ad while doing research for a class I was taking and something just clicked from his ad. I wrote him that first letter thinking nothing will come of this...well it has been a year and 6 months of great writing, a year and some change of a beautiful relationship and a year of visiting and we have been engaged for 8 months!!:D Yeah needless to say this was sooo not expected but it is an amazing thing for us. It feels good to know that there are others who understand as I have read your introductions and posts and it is great to know we are not alone.
Thank you
Trena

My son is in prison. In illinois He has been there sence he was 16. He is 25 now and has never had a relationship. I cant realy teach him anything about women, because I am his mother. He. is a wonderful person, easy to talk too. He has good advice for his brother and sister on how to treat children so they don't end up in prison like himself. How could I get him a Penpal?

Welcome to all the newcomers, we're so glad to have you with us and look forward to getting to know you better in the days ahead...

My son is in prison. In illinois He has been there sence he was 16. He is 25 now and has never had a relationship. I cant realy teach him anything about women, because I am his mother. He. is a wonderful person, easy to talk too. He has good advice for his brother and sister on how to treat children so they don't end up in prison like himself. How could I get him a Penpal?


Hi there and welcome! :) There are many penpal sites on the internet and PTO has a penpal forum where you can discuss such matters as well as post your own thread seeking pals for your son. Here's the link:
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=294

I am in Illinois and if you ever want to chat about the IDOC or anything please don't hesitate to PM me...

All the best to you and your son,
Patty

Hey everyone, It is so nice to see that there is a site online where all of us females who have formed a bond with a prisoner has somewhere to go and talk. I met my best friend through a pen pal site. I have met quite a few of them through a pen pal site. But most of them kinda of fizzled out or just didnt work. Which is why I am kinda of weary about him now. He is breaking down the walls I have built up from being hurt so much. We usually send each other about 5-7 pages of letters.

Thanks so much for setting this up I know I am going to use it alot being that my boo has 2 more years to go.:)

Hi everyone, ive been hanging around for awhile, but have yet to introduce myself so here goes :)
My boyfriend (MWI) has been inside for 6 1/2 years, with around 4 to go.
We started out as penpals awhile ago and have formed this amazing bond. Im so in love with him! hehe I will be moving to the states (im in australia at the moment) hopefully within a few years, so yeah, hi all :)

Welcome to PTO, and thank you for sharing with us! What a great place to be Australia...but we would love to have you here in America with us, so come on over...

i just joined this site & i'm super excited to have found this forum! well here goes my story (i hope there is someone out there who can relate!)... i met my baby when i was working as a CO at the federal prison where he was doing his time. i guess there is just no stopping love when it's real & you can't let it pass you by. after a year of us being together & all sorts of rumors going around i was just forced to resign from my job last week (they had been monitoring all of the mail & i was getting my letters to him through his mother)! it's been tough... especially because it's hard for everyone who loves me to believe that he honestly loves me simply because of the circumstances we met under. my man is the love of my life & now i'm just waiting on him to get transfered to texas so we can get telephone communication (we've been going a year on just letters) & get married & put this behind us! there is always pain in pleasure so even though we've been through some tough times this will all be over soon & i will finally be free to love my baby & we will be free to make our life together. it is a beautiful thing to fall in love with someone when there are no strings attatched... it's all about what you have in your heart & the way you feel for one another - the connection you make & it has nothing to do with anything you can offer because all i can give my baby is all of my love & i write to him everyday! i would love to hear from people who've gone through what i've had to go through (losing my job) because inside the prison gates they like to put this idea in your head that people like me are so terrible but i don't understand what is so horrible about loving someone?? the good news is he just got accepted to the drug program which cuts a year off his sentence which means he'll be coming home to me next year december 2008 & i'm counting down the days until my hubby comes home to me!

hello i met my husband while he was incarcerated my rother was locked up with him and when my brother called home rio would always say hello we would talk he had a girl friend i had my cheating husband ne day i recieved a valentines card from him and i kept it for a few years one day i was single and so was he he asked me to go visit so i did when i saw him in person for the first time and he saw me we bot new something was about to happen during our fist visit we kissed i live in brooklyn he lived at clinton c.f. i stood over there for three days i told him i loved him on our third visit he asked me to marry him on the sixth visit. we are now happily married doing trailer visits but he is too jealous toooooooo jealous he is doing life and so am i now! i wish he would trust me a little more because i love him to death

Roddrick's baby, i admire your loyal devotion and dedication to your significant other. it proves that love has no bounds! i wish ya'll the best life has to offer, and a wonderful future together. thank you for sharing your experience with us.

It is always great to see new comers check in and post.

Best wishes.

Hello Raul and I met while incarcerated,he is in the federal correctional complex{med} we met in 05 of aug.. I haven't known him as long as a few others that have been with thier loved ones but just the same I love him so.. I am so tired of defending my relationship with him to my friends and family.. He is locked up but makes me happy and that is what counts right? just because our loved ones are locked up doesn't mean that they have nothing to offer us... I feel that he has so much to offer alot more than the men out here..Everyone out here wants sex and Love is not only about sex.. Love is undersatnding ,respect ,trust and being there for ur partner through thick and thin.. It is an emotional rollorcoaster but well worth it cause u find out what true luv is.... Does anyone here understand what I am going through or talkin about?

Well Hello all,
I met Paul in late 1999, while he was still in Pelican Bay Shu. My fathers friend knows him. He is currently in Federal Prison. He is without a doubt the man my heart has always desired. I am so happy that he is a part of me. As far as us and a normal relationship, not gonna happen. Normal is to boring for me. With that said I wish everyone the best of luck, and may you be blessed with the happiness I have.
Always- Carla loves Paul

I just wanted to pop in and welcome the newcomers to the forum. I look forward to getting to know you all more and hope you participate in the forum with us.

Patty

Just wanted to stop in and say WELCOME to all the new members. This is a GREAT family in here and you will find GREAT support!!

I also want to welcome all the newcomers.....come in and relax and post til yer lil heart can't take no more!!! <33

Patty.......we got tornado's over here!!!

Bella

I am enjoying my time on the site and all of the help, understanding and advice from other people in the same situation is a comfort to me. I enjoy reading the posts daily.

Dale:grouphug:

Dale,

Welcome.

I just read your post!!! What a lovely bunch of peeps you all are!!:thumbsup:

Yer Welcome behaving.....if ya ever need anything Im all ears baby!!!

Welcome and happy postings to you....Smiles and huggs....Kimi 06

Yikes!! I think I goofed. This is my first time writing to an incarcerated person...we met in Nov. 06 and are getting very close. I just realized that I might have made a big mistake. I sent him 6 pictures and I put those cute stickers on them...the ones with different sayings...I just realized that they may be returned! What say you'all???:angry:

Well let's see this is a bit complicated...I actually was the kitchen manager at NSP and ended up hooking up with my lead cook. There was much speculation as to when the relationship started and I do believe a pool going on if my daughter would be born more than 9 months after he got out. Well she was early and that caused a few raised eyebrows. I call her my prison baby. She was conceived the day daddy got out of prison then he went back down and she was born the day he got out again. That isn't the confusing part though. I am actually with a my other lead cook now whom I had written as just a friend for three months before it dawned on me there was something there. We are now 18 months together and 27 months until he comes home!! So in a way we were pen pals but also I did know him just hadn't ever thought of him like that while I worked there.

I just wanted to pop my head in here too and let all the ladies know to keep ya chin up. Its hard and yea it sucks but its worth the wait. The rewards we reap are numerous.

Bella

My name is Amanda...and I met my friend Dean while he was/is incarcerated. I basically started writing him due to my co-worker/good friend...her husband is at the Eastham Unit here in Texas...and he happened to be friends with Dean. Somewhere along the lines I said I'd write his friend, and we started exchanging words back in December 06...since then, we've been writing non-stop and I've visited him twice. He has strong feelings for me, and I'm starting to develop feelings as well. I just have my moments where I feel embarassed...

He's due for release soon....up for parole in October of this year and projected release date in April of 2008. I just worry how I can deal with all that....

So thats my story...hope to get to know ya'll during this time in my life. :)

You are welcome behaving, hope you get all the info you need:thumbsup:











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Well, I guess the stickers on the photos were allowed, as he wrote and told me he received them and how much he enjoyed them!!

Behaving...Im glad gurl. Its nice when its the lil'est things that make them smile eh?

Welcome all the newer ladies!!

Bella

:D Yes, Bella...and when they smile...we smile!! It means so much to know we are appreciated for the little things:thumbsup:

I everyone, I visit here everyday and read and read, there is much love in here. I met my Love while I was a C/O at a medium prison here in Oklahoma. I did not plan to fall for this amazing man. We was just frequent talkers(and I wrote back to him a few times), because out of the many that I spoke to, he never disrespected me. And he knew my job was important to me. And I knew how important to him it was to do his time and get home to his kids.(10years~4.5 done 5.5 to go) So when we started missing each other when I had my off days, I knew I needed to back off, and he also agreed. We would do fine for about a week , maybe a week and a half, then we would be find our selfs chit chattin again. All the other employees and Capt Lt. knew that he was my "little partner" but they warned me. Well, we never did anything but talk to much. I did my job always got good marks for doing my job. But I got crap all the time cuzz I treated every one the same, with respect and I demanded respect, from the other I/M as well as my fellow employees.
Well one day about amonth and 2 weeks ago this other I/M gave me a letter and I gave it back to him and said you better keep that. Well, I got called in to the investigators office 2 weeks after that and they had an I/M tell them about me an my mans letters back and forth. Needless to say I got fired and he got put in lock down. Well, I'm still written my love and this whole situation has just made us stronger. Our relationship is still new ,6 months, from the time we started talkin, but he is the realist man I have ever known and we have such an intuitive draw to each other(it was amazing when I worked there and we just knew what each other was thinkin) I miss seein him everyday and just kickn it wit him(we did that allot) I could go on for ever with it all. I just pray that we don't have to wait 24 months talk together on the phone or to see each other and give each other that first kiss!! ummm, God works in, the only way he can, uniquely. Thanks everyone, please keep in touch with me, I dont have many people to talk to about me and him and what to expect.

i just joined this site & i'm super excited to have found this forum! well here goes my story (i hope there is someone out there who can relate!)... i met my baby when i was working as a CO at the federal prison where he was doing his time. i guess there is just no stopping love when it's real & you can't let it pass you by. after a year of us being together & all sorts of rumors going around i was just forced to resign from my job last week (they had been monitoring all of the mail & i was getting my letters to him through his mother)! it's been tough... especially because it's hard for everyone who loves me to believe that he honestly loves me simply because of the circumstances we met under. my man is the love of my life & now i'm just waiting on him to get transfered to texas so we can get telephone communication (we've been going a year on just letters) & get married & put this behind us! there is always pain in pleasure so even though we've been through some tough times this will all be over soon & i will finally be free to love my baby & we will be free to make our life together. it is a beautiful thing to fall in love with someone when there are no strings attatched... it's all about what you have in your heart & the way you feel for one another - the connection you make & it has nothing to do with anything you can offer because all i can give my baby is all of my love & i write to him everyday! i would love to hear from people who've gone through what i've had to go through (losing my job) because inside the prison gates they like to put this idea in your head that people like me are so terrible but i don't understand what is so horrible about loving someone?? the good news is he just got accepted to the drug program which cuts a year off his sentence which means he'll be coming home to me next year december 2008 & i'm counting down the days until my hubby comes home to me!
It seems as though you and I have a huge part of our lifes in common..

I have a quick question does anyone else get a request from there guy asking them find a pen pal for another incarcerated friend of theirs?

I met my partner through an advert. Although we haven't yet met, we have a very strong relationship. We write daily and we are so close that it feels like i've known him forever. I am going to visit him later this year, but it is hard for me as i live in the United Kingdom, and with me being a single parent, money is tight. I have got to research somewhere to stay near where he is but i cannot wait to finally be by his side. We are planning on one day getting married, and myself and my daughter moving to the US as because he has been in prison, i don't think it's possible for him to move over to the UK although he would like to do this.
Justin is my heart and my world. He also writes to my daughter and helps her with her spelling, and she adores him too, which is really important to me.
I have the support of my family, but i need all your support too as with me being an ocean away, i do feel sad sometimes.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to make new friends on here.
God bless you all.
If you want to talk to me, which i hope you do, then i'd really love to hear from you.

Hey everyone i met my man thru an inmate pen pal program really i wasn't looking for no man it just happened but im glad it did happened i think i met the most honest guy i met so far so im definitly happy :-)

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ok, i do apologize, i managed to post the same thing 3 times, and now i can't figure out how to get it all off!!!!!!

Hello, All!!!!
:D
Well, I met my man when I worked at a privately run state prison. I worked in a non- security capacity up there for right at six months. I noticed Keith my first day and just never could shake the feeling that when I'd looked him in the eye I'd seen my future and he was most definitely in it. I liked him a whole lot, that I knew. I fought it for a while but then realized my interest was just way too strong. We'd talked enough to realize that the interest was defintely mutual. :drool: I decided that it was in both of our best interests for me to look for employment elsewhere. So, I did. Well, April 7th was a year since I left. Florida has this nifty little rule that if you were a former DOC employee that you can't visit anyone for a year after you leave. But if you are trying to visit in the facility you worked in.....well, that'll be five years, thank you. :faint: Since I didn't leave under adverse circumstances, if he can get a transfer, then I can apply to see him since we've passed our year mark. It's been one hell of a long year and we are in the process of trying to get him transfered. It's been an exercise in frustration:banghead: , but we're sticking with it. I've got my fingers crossed as much as I can that when I call the head of classification back on Monday, he'll have some really good news for us. Keith has 28 months left of his 13 year sentence. We still have a bit of time to go, but if we can at least visit and see each other, that will help some I'm sure. But whichever way it goes, I'll be right here for him through the rest of it. I can't wait til he comes home, right where he belongs.:yay:
This site is awesome!!! It's great to have somewhere to go and be able to see that you aren't the only one going through being separated from your loved one and the difficult times that brings. To be able to talk with others and gain some measure of peace and belonging. Sometimes people who haven't been through a loved one being away like this, can be so judgemental and critical. :blah: I know it's been that way with my parents and sister and other relatives. And while I love them, they aren't going to be the ones I come home to at the end of the day, that'll be Keith. And regardless of their cesure, Keith makes my days and nights worth it. Sure we fight just like anyone else, but we've been through enough in our lives that we understand what's most important in life, and for me, that's Keith!!!!! :love:

C'mon August 24, 2009!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes...I've recently started writing back and forth with a guy I found through a penpal website. I have no idea why I chose him. I had narrowed my choices down to about 4 people...I chose 2 to write. The other guy was a bit rude on paper but the other...well...that's why I'm here.

It's a shame (I don't know why) But I really look forward to those letters. They really brighten up my day. I think we're helping eachother.

my name is carly. i've started a reltaionship with a guy that is about to go in. i came here looking for advice and tips. i still feel a little crazy about how this is all going to work out in the end. it's such a fresh relationship to be put on pause like that.

Hey all!
I just got here today and I just emmersed myself in these posts. I am SO glad to have found this place, you just don't know...

Anyway, I met my future husband after he had been in for almost 7 years. Never, ever, EVER would I have thought that I'd fall in love with a man who was in prison, especially for, well, what he's in for. But you see, I really think all he needed in his life was a little love and hope. I think its all anybody needs, you know?
I wrote several people at random in an attempt to get an interview for a magazine article I was working on. I ended up writing it on a guy who is on death row, but my first pen pal, well, it was ALL OVER after him.
I remember being SO nervous waiting on Duane to write me back. He was the first person i wrote. I remember seeing his picture and 'feeling' something I cannot describe. But after his first response, I couldn't wait to write another one and to get yet another one.
Now here I am, almost 3 years later, not believing that I have found this wonderful man who understands me and loves me despite all of my quirks.
I get really upset when people tell me that it won't last, he's using me, "he'll get locked up again!" but I have faith in him, and I am going to try my very best to give him the support and love he needs so that he won't go back again.
I don't care what he did in his past, and he doesn't care about mine. All that matters to me is that God brought us together, and I'm all goofy in love :)

hi my name is dawn.i met my man though a pen-pal ad.started to right him just as friends is all.he got out and we meet face to face.he did 8 yrs.and no on parole.beleave it or not we are still together and married.

I met my fiancee 12 years ago while I was working as a Court Clerk during his trial. There was an instant chemistry and I started out as his spiritual advisor and once he was transported to Ely Prison our relationship blossomed into more. It was very emotional for me as I knew he had other women and was trying to play us all so I ended my part of the relationship for the next 10 years.

During that time we both learned the lessons we needed to in life and in January of this year my daughter encouraged me to write him so I did. We wrote and on the eve before Valentines Day he called me and told me he still loved me and didnt want to lose me. I knew I still loved him the minute I heard his voice.

Six weeks later I went to visit him and he proposed and I accepted. We plan to elope the day he gets out and honeymoon for a week then go see his family.

This love is a perfect example of "never judge a book by its cover"

I am so happy for you MishL7. I'm also glad you found this site. Everyone is so friendly and i've made a new friend which is really nice. I know that everything will work out for you in your future and i wish you all the happiness in the world. :D

I'm not sure if ive posted here or not, but i met my man while incarcerated, ive been on pto for a minute now, but im just finding the met while incarcerated portion of the site. I also reunited (17 years seperated) with my love while he is incarcerated(still is) anyway i wanted to say hi!

Hey all!
I just got here today and I just emmersed myself in these posts. I am SO glad to have found this place, you just don't know...

Anyway, I met my future husband after he had been in for almost 7 years. Never, ever, EVER would I have thought that I'd fall in love with a man who was in prison, especially for, well, what he's in for. But you see, I really think all he needed in his life was a little love and hope. I think its all anybody needs, you know?
I wrote several people at random in an attempt to get an interview for a magazine article I was working on. I ended up writing it on a guy who is on death row, but my first pen pal, well, it was ALL OVER after him.
I remember being SO nervous waiting on Duane to write me back. He was the first person i wrote. I remember seeing his picture and 'feeling' something I cannot describe. But after his first response, I couldn't wait to write another one and to get yet another one.
Now here I am, almost 3 years later, not believing that I have found this wonderful man who understands me and loves me despite all of my quirks.
I get really upset when people tell me that it won't last, he's using me, "he'll get locked up again!" but I have faith in him, and I am going to try my very best to give him the support and love he needs so that he won't go back again.
I don't care what he did in his past, and he doesn't care about mine. All that matters to me is that God brought us together, and I'm all goofy in love :)
Mishl7

I get that alot from my friends too. They are always like why are u waiting for him you could have found another guy. But like he has said we will walk together under a hater's umbrella. I just know that this is my choice and I believe with all my heart and faith like u do that this is what is right for me and him.

I met my perfect match through a pen pal site and we are totally diggin eachother. But I have to keep it a secret because my family and friends will trip and I don't want to justify what I am doing. Does anyone relate to this? So the best thing to happen in my life for many years I can't even talk about. It sucks but it's OK, I will see him and I will be with him and in 3+ years I will deal with the objections but I don't see the need right now.

This web site is great. Thanks to all the moderators.
Erin

Wow! Look at all the new members. I couldn't be more pleased! :yay: Thanks to all of you for joining us and :wave: welcome welcome welcome. I hope you all become active in the MWI forum and look forward to getting to know all of you!

Patty

I guess my story is somewhat different than most on this site, but it certainly is great to hear so many romantic and happy versions of how, why and when from others--I am really glad for all those living their dreams. For me, it was finding out a long lost rellie was in PB prison. We have never met and unlikely to as I literally live half way round the world from America, but it is really nice to have found him and know that my letters make his isolation a tiny bit less lonely. Thank you to everyone for sharing your private lives, for all the information I have gained and to the Moderators for being so welcoming, cheers NB :)

Hi all, Im Kristie. I met my "man" thru a good friend of mine. Her man is locked up and asked her to find him a pen pal. Sure thing, I started a letter that night. We wrote back and forth for a month or so, when I decided to ride with her, and visit him. As soon as he walked into that small visiting room, I knew that it was going farther than letters. He said Hi and kissed me on my temple. We sat out in the yard and visited for 4 hours, talking getting to know each other. And what do ya know, we are in love. He is getting out August 26th, and I will be right there at the door to get him. I love him, but very scared at the same time. I have read all these horror stories here. He is in Claremont Custody Center in Coalinga, Ca. I cant wait till August.

:cool: :thumbsup: My sister's friend gave my address to his friend and we started writing to one another. His letters are so loving and caring and full of concern of me. I acually fell in love with his letters to me before I even saw a picture of him. I never thought I would be involved with some one that was in prison little lone fall in love with one. He is the love of my life and the sun does shiine when I read his loving letters. He has ask me to marry him and I have said Yes. His parole is in review at this time and we are praying for some good news that he will be getting out soon. This forum is super great and I'm happy to be able to talk about how I feel about my guy. ;) :cool:

I met my future husband in the Fed prison..I went up there with a friend that knew him just to keep her company on the drive since I always seem to be the navigation system..I woke up that morning with a stomach ache and wasn't going to go but I felt bad for my friend.I already knew what he looked like from the picture but I always told myself I wouldn't deal with anybody incarcerated.Once I saw him I knew it was love at first sight..I never thought that he felt the same way until I finally visited him by myself the next month now he propsed to me and is ready to get married in the prison..I'm still debating if I want to wait when he comes home but I believe I'm ready to be his wife asap...

Hi All ~

I was tracked down and told to come to this thread and share ~ so....

I met my boyfriend at church! I had no clue he was an inmate. The church had a Thanksgiving get-together for anyone who, for a variety of reasons, had nowhere else to go for Thanksgiving. I walked past everyone and headed straight for the television broadcasting football (I'm a vegetarian, so turkey doesn't do it for me!) and saw this hot hot hot very young man among the football watchers. We ended up spending a couple hours talking about sports and then he sat next to me during the fellowship. It was only after he left that someone told me he is from "the prison camp up the road". I noticed that whenever I went to church (sporatically, to be honest), I never saw him....it turns out his visits were in the morning (they are rotated in shifts ~ 3 mo morning, 3 mo afternoon). Another guy from the camp brought a letter to me at the Christmas gathering for those with nowhere else to go (I'm really not as pathetic as I sound! :D ) from the sportsfan telling me he how much he loved meeting me and if I wanted to write, here was his address. I held onto that note for almost 2 months, and finally wrote him in February. Needless to say, things took off like we both had rockets attached to our asses and I have never been happier. After a rocky past, I know I am ready for a real and honest relationship, and I never thought I'd find it in the heart of a prisoner, but....

I am fortunate ~ he's a minimum custody inmate, and only has 9 months remaining on his sentence. He works outside the facility daily, and, God-willing, will be eligible for half-day and home passes soon. I am glad I was pointed to this forum ~ lots of wisdom, experience, strength, and hope to be found here, I'm sure!

AC

Hi :wave: and welcome to aprilcat and all the other new members to the Met While Incarcerated forum, I'm so glad you have joined us and hope to get to know you better. Please check out the forum and feel free to post your own threads as well. If you have any questions or need assistance feel free to PM me or any of our MWI staff!

Welcome welcome welcome,
Patty

Well my story is quite long and colorful like anyone elses so this is a short version. I was trying out chatlines, bieng a single mom and having no time to find new friends, my ex slid me this number and told me I should meet people. So I did, expecting the worse. I didn't have much luck since I am very picky about who I even want to talk to, but we met that night on the chatline.

We hit it off at hello. I could tell he was an intellegent and respectfull man. We talked about all kinds of issues, even religion! I was wowed at how intellegent and thought out his answers were and he was wowed by my questions and answers. We clicked, and when he had to go i couldn't wait to talk to him again. When we hung up all i could think was, wow I found the one.

He did call the next day and talked to me for a very short time barely getting out his sentence. "I'll call you back I promise, I just have some legal things to deal with tonite. I'll tell you everything when I call you back." I was like...what? He then nervously spoke low "I gotta go". I put down the phone. Legal things at night? That didn't make sense everything was closed. I figured he was in trouble over something and was going to get arrested. I didn't want anything to do with that stuff, I always stayed away from drugs, or anything crime related. Heck I didn't even speed.

A few days later and he hadn't called back. I stopped calling too, but it was nagging me. The wonderful conversation we had,the something that was there; was that it? I couldn't let this go, I had to see how bad things were and then make a decision. I called back. he answered.

After that he told me everything, and it wasn't as bad as I thought. To his surprise I didn't back away. He told me the reason he didn't call me back was because he didn't want to put me through the pain of caring about someone in prison. He didn't want to put himself through the pain either. I respected that and he told me if it's what I wanted we could just be friends. I knew that moment we could not be just that, I know now he knew this too. A week later we couldn't be just friends and now we are head over heels.

I met my mister on a pen-pal site about 6 months ago.
Tonight i am waiting for my first ever phone call from him.
Im full of butterflies im like teenager going on her first date.
Ladies and gents do a phone dance for me I really need to hear his voice.:thumbsup: :thumbsup:

Hoping the phone call is brillant and memorible, cheers NB

I got his name from a ministry called The Aleph Institute....started writing to him and we are friends now. I am not sure how it will all pan out, but he seems to care alot about me and I am not sure where this relationship is headed, I have to get to know him better once he gets out (which is soon).....we seem to have lots in common and I hope he is being sincere with me, but time will eventually tell about all of these things.

We have been writing to each other now for over a year.
:D

Hoping the phone call is brillant and memorible, cheers NB
It went brilliantly thanks :love:

My name is Max. I made parole on a life sentnce 11 montha ago and even though I've been doing good, I find it hard to relate to civvies. I dropped my bad habits 12 years ago and been sober since ( yes, I could have gotten high in there ). I've found that since I don't drink anymore, I can't go to bars for companionship so I started cruising the Web and was referred to this site by a member. I work night shifts at a factory so that helps keep me from accidently wondering into a bar and spend my off nights getting my own business off the ground. While in I saw that book dealers were all going online to sell books and folks in prison had a hard time getting book lists. My book business is starting to take hold and it gives me something to do in my spare time that makes money instead of cost. But, it seems that I'm always impelled to surf the Web and look for people that aren't as judgemental as most and chat with them. I hope that I'll be able to answer some of yalls questions and relate to any feelings you have. (email address removed per PTO policy) Use it if you need it. Peace.

I met my fiance seven years ago through his sister/my best friend. She and I met seven years ago and we immediately became good friends. About a month later she told me that her brother asked her about a penpal. So I told her I would, my father, step-father, uncle and some friends have all been in the system, so I could definately relate to his desire. She gave him my address and we started writing and then phone calls and the first time I talked to him for only 15 minutes, I knew he was the one! ;) I lived in DC and Northern VA at the time and he is in South Georgia (deep in the sticks!) and I made my first visit to him a year later and we were both more impressed with each other in person!:thumbsup: I would fly down to Savannah and rent a car and drive the rest of the way and stay in a hotel for the weekend to visit. I'm now in NC and drive down 7 hours and we have continually grown over the 7 years we've known each, but we feel as though we have known each other for 20 years! I have met all of his immediate family and we all love each other, but not just because of him, I've formed my own personal relationships with them.

This is our 7th year, he is finishing up 10 years and will be released 10/8/07. It has not always been good, we have definately had some bad times, arguments, disagreements, not being able to talk for months because of him being put in the hole and thinking I would leave him, just the challenges of a relationship. :angry: However, the adversity has given us strength. We are the best of friends and accept each other's faults and love each other unconditionally and on top of all that, he FINE TOO! You know a girl can never get too much sweet eye candy! :yay:

Hi Erin,

I can relate to what you are saying. I had that thought for a hot minute, but I refused to give anyone that much power & authority over my situation. Its unfortunate that some of those close to us can be so closed-minded. When we allow others to influence us, we sometimes miss out. So Suga, NEVER, EVER let the thoughts, opinions and unfair judgments of ANYONE be it family or friends make you feel as though you have to keep what makes you happy a secret. No one can judge us but God, so as long as He doesn't tell you it's not good for you, then nothing or no one else matters. We often receive blessings through the most akward and unexpected situations.

All the best to you and yours!

I got my first phone call last night from my pen pal....we have been cooresponding now for almost 2 years....

Oh it was wonderful, he has a wonderful voice too....

What a great guy.

Hello Ladies!

I am new to the site and this forum is absolutely FABULOUS! :D It's refreshing having somewhere to go where others can relate to/share my same lifestyle. I met my finace seven years ago (3 years into a 10 year sentence) through his sister/my best friend; she and I had just met 2 months before. We started off just being pen pals, friends, best friends, lovers and got engaged. Before him, I had been through so much that even if he didn't have genuine intentions, it wouldn't hurt me, probably just disappoint me to a certain degree. He is the most wonderful man and is absolutely perfect for me! We feel as though we have been together for 20+ years.


MWI does not "discount" your feelings, friendships, relationships and marriages. I think it's actually the exact opposite. Although there is a chance things aren't what they seem, but that's a given chance MWI or not and adversity builds strength and commitment. I read somewhere that MWI marriages are 3 times more likely not to end in divorce because of the adversity. So I see it as an advantage.

Incarceration takes away the distractions of society, gives one time to grasp and understand one's own feelings. In addition to having a genuine appreciation for what we have and gives a stronger appreciation and love when we obtain the things we don't yet have. Sometimes we receive our most precious blessings during the most unexpected and akward situations and the most unexpected people in life. And meeting the love of your life during incarceration is one of them! :)


I wish you all true blessings of commitment, growth and prosperity.

:wave: hi and welcome newcomers!!! I look forward to getting to know you as you work your way through the forum!

All the best,
Patty

Met Jeff when I worked in the prison he was in. He was so cute and funny, I was hooked. I still am:)

Hello everyone I could have sworn that I stopped by to make my intro but I didn't. I've posted in other MWI forums but some reason not here oh well here I am. I met honey MWI a few years ago and we've been going at it strong. it hasn't been easy the ride has been quite bumpy but I'm still here sticking it out, although at times I just want to pull my hair out but its cool.
We met as friends but then it trickled to something more and again here I am.

laflor ~ thanks for introducing yourself, I've seen you around the forum and look forward to getting to know you better.

Welcome,
Patty

Welcome all thew newbies and Laflor......*hugs*


Bella

Hello I am new to this forum. I got hooked on this PTO site! I always tell him about it when we speak. This site helps me out so much it feels like everyone here is family. I live in Jersey and I met my baby while he has been locked down. You can just call me MCWIFE cause thats who I am. I LOVE that man! He know I ain't going no where. I'm there for him till death do us part

MCWIFE ~ :wave: Hi and welcome to the forum, I'm glad to have you with us!

All the best and then some MORE,
Patty

My fiance and I met in a work release facility where we both went prior to our releases from prison. I didn't know it, but before I arrived at the work release, another female resident told everyone all about me...including the fact that I was a "man hating lesbian"!:D The fact that what she told them wasn't true, must not have been an important detail to her. Of course, I didn't know that she had told anyone anything about me.:hmm:

On the third evening I was in the work release, I went in the coffee room to get a cup of coffee. There was just one guy in there and so I asked him if he minded if I sat at the table. He said he didn't, so I sat down and introduced myself and he said he was Scott.:)

We started talking at about 5:30 PM and at about 3:30 in the morning, we realized we'd been there for hours. From the first moment we started talking, we were finishing each others sentences and saying the same thing at the same time. We found we had the same sense of humor, the same odd outlook on life and that we were both bisexual.:thumbsup:

We bacame the house comedy team. We had everyone laughing all the time...even the staff thought we were friends on the outside. We were amazed when our counselor took us into her office and told us that she was assigning us together as "buddies"-if one of us had to go somewhere outside of the house, the other one HAD to go too. This was mainly for me, as I had gotten very agoraphobic during my prison stay.:eek:

Assigning us as buddies was odd for 2 reasons: 1)They didn't let men and women go out together in pairs and 2) They didn't assign buddies. We went with it though, because by then we realized there was a very definite connection between us and we had decided that we wanted to be together once we were both released.:love:

About 3 1/2 weks after I arrived, the inevitable happened, and Scott's release date arrived. I rode with a staff person when she drove him and his things to his new apartment and helped him get his boxes inside. We left him there with his promise to call me that night, and see me at work the next day.:cry:

Back at the facility I was informed that I was no longer allowed to talk to Scott, as he wasn't a resident any longer and I was now considered a violation of his probation conditions, and he mine, because we were both convicted felons! We went from not being able to go anywhere without each other, to being forbidden to speak to each other!:eek:

After the holidays passed, we decided to petition DOC to get married. We had been seeing each other at work and whenever else we could, as well as talking on the phone. We are both in our 40s and are not children going blindly into something for the wrong reasons. We complete each other, the other half that makes each become whole. We were treated like children, our petition denied.:angry:

Somehow, we managed to make it until I was released and then another year without being able to openly be together. The very day our probations were both over, we moved in together. That was back in March, 2002, and we are still together, more in love today than yesterday! :love: :love:

We have co-owned 2 businesses together, we have traveled all over and have even paid a couple of visits to our favorite work release facility together!:D

We always send the work release a card at the holidays and update them on how we are doing, just to remind the ones that didn't think we'd make it together for two months, let alone 6 years, just how strong a love found later in life, and sometimes in odd places, can be!:D

:wave: Hey to alll the newcomers, glad you found us, welcome welcome welcome, please PM me or any staff member if we can be of assistance. Meanwhile I hope to hear more from you in our MWI forum!

Take care,
Patty

hey people, my name is krystina. Iwas just released from a colorado prison where i did just under three years. I am not real sure what to say here other then i think it's awsome that there is a place where I can go and talk to people who may understand me a little bit. I feel like this world out here is closing in on me and i just want to go back.

hey people, my name is krystina. Iwas just released from a colorado prison where i did just under three years. I am not real sure what to say here other then i think it's awsome that there is a place where I can go and talk to people who may understand me a little bit. I feel like this world out here is closing in on me and i just want to go back.

Welcome!!

hey people, my name is krystina. Iwas just released from a colorado prison where i did just under three years. I am not real sure what to say here other then i think it's awsome that there is a place where I can go and talk to people who may understand me a little bit. I feel like this world out here is closing in on me and i just want to go back.


Welcome gurl and I hope you find all you need from this site. All around the board there is bunches of support in everything you can think of. Lots of loving people and we are here 24/7. Hope to see you around and if YOU need anything please feel free to holler.....

Bella

Itamed....looks like yer one of us now! Glad to meet u and more glad u found love!!!

Bella

well i think i have found my new pto home!lol!
i have been making a few posts in the wisco forum but not many replys, hope this one suites me better.
well long story short i met ryan through a pen pal ad on-line and right from the start we both wanted conversations not a relationship.but 6 months of very faithful writing on both parts (we have been corresponding now for about a year)we now are discussing my first trip(9hours away)to see him.we now concider ourselves to be "together" and its been real nice.i hope to eventually move to wisco(from ks)in the late spring to early summer of next year to be closer to him then hopefully when hes released in dec 08 we can move to my old stomping grounds back west.
now granted ryan and i are taking it slow in a fast way it may seem but rest assured all you worriers.we both are keeping a level head about this relationship, granted we write any where from 3-7 letters a week about anything and everything(just last month i recieved my first 37 page letter)and we talk once or twice a week on the phone.getting to know him has been my pleasure(he says its his pleasure to know me though.lol). i never saw myself or my family allowing such a relationship to transpire but i guess that just the way life is, and now i know my future in fortune telling is over.lol!
anyways thanks for letting me intro myself and ryan(in a way)to you all and i hope to have many more posts on here.until then -jackie

Jackie....Im glad u found somewhere u can now sink yer feet in and not move:) I love reading folks who met thru a pen pal ad....I met mine that way too:) Good stuff! Don't worry about if u think we think yer taking it fast...U guys gotta do u and as long as u guys are comfortable with how things are going then that is all that matters. Hope to see ya more around here!

Bella

wow thanks for the prompt reply its like i am actually talking to some one who listens!lol!the wisco room is a bit slow, i mean i got a welcome and a few reply to my questions but i dont think there are many people in that area of the forum or something. but hey i apriciate what ive learned so far.
i think this forum is great for any one with a loved one behind bars i even recommeded it to a friend of mine (her bf is locked up in boise, id).ryan thinks its a good way for me to learn different things too, hes actually glad i found this too cause sometimes i feel like we talk a lot about prison life and now i can divert some of those questions to you guys and we can have more "normal" convos about life and such.
anyways thanks again and i hope to hear from everyone more-jacks

Hey ladies :wave: I met my friend while he was locked up ( still is :( ) were not quite a " couple " yet, but I see it going that way. He's mentioned little things that I know are leading up to the big one:D and little does he know I cant wait. He's a great guy and I'm glad theres a place were we can come and talk about our issues. Having someone locked up is one thing, but when you didnt know them on the street is another. Glad I'm here, thanks for the forum. :thumbsup:

Hey ladies:wave: I just posted my introduction in the wrong place:o I guess I still have alot to learn here:thumbsup: I'm currently writing an inmate. We are still friends at this point, but I can tell its getting pretty heated. I've talked to him mom. The man had his mom call me, so I know it close:D He's mentioned small things about us becomming a couple, but I've always been an agresser in my life, so I think I'm gonna sit back on this one and wait for him to offically ask me. Little does he know I'm on pins and needles waiting:D Anyways, nice to met you all, and I look forward to many posts here.

miz a , i am in the same boat as you i never knew ryan pre-prison i met him through a pen pal ad.i wish you luck in your relationship.how long have you guys know each other?for me anyways writing to him has been so much fun, i never thought i could learn so much about another person from a pen and paper.lol.
any ways im glad that there is such a following for this thread, great people and advise hope to see you around her more-jacks

Welcome to all the newcomers I hope to get to know each of you better via the many threads in this forum and those that you yourselves will start. In the meantime if I or any of our staff members can be of assistance please do not hesitate to PM us.

All the best,
Patty

I met my soon to be husband through someone who was incarcerated that used to be my friend. One day I went to the mail box and saw a letter from the unit where my x friend was located and thought what does he want we havent written one another in almost 2 months, to my surprise it a letter from another inmate who had seen pics of me and wanted to get to know me. It was around valentines day and the letter included a v-day card (really put a smile on my face). He was very respectful and I was like hes lonely and just wants a friend someone to communicate with never would have thought just mere months later i would be missing him so much and waiting for him to come home. They say everything happens for a reason and theres lots of details that could have prevented our paths from crossing but they did and now im happy to say im in love with him and im looking forward to the day he comes home to me. I get looks when I talk about him and questions come where is he blah blah blah, I let it be known how we met, as I am not ashamed, and really dont care what others think. Who are they to judge? I am :new: but look forward being here to get and give support as we patiently wait on the ones we love...I love my man yes I do!!! :love:

I met my Baby through a pen-pal site and when we first started writing I would have never thought it would go this direction, or this deep. Well, I can say now for sure that he is the love of my life. To a lot of people it might sound weird to fall in love under the given circumstances. I just know that I never want to miss him in my life anymore, we have grown so close with the little we have it is hard to describe. But when I'm reading all the posts, I'm sure all of you feel what I'm trying to explain. :)

This site has helped me great deal, knowing that you are not alone and that there are plenty of other women that go through the same and are willing to follow through with it, just like I do. There are many lonley, hard years to come I know that and it's not always easy. Especially being that I live in ATL and he is in NJ. But everytime we talk, or I get one of his letters, or I lay in bed looking at his picture wanting him close, I know I have no option but to stick through this with him. :heart:

Thanks for all the support I found on PTO!!!!

If there is anyone else with a loved one at SWSP, maybe we can meet up sometime when I fly down to visit!

Hi ,I have been on here a while. Never seen this before:) I met my guy back in Sep.06. It has been a strange 10 mo.Started out as Pen Pals . then friends. I never knew anyone who could write such beatiful words on paper. Glad to have found this site.Y'all can understand what i am going through.Thanks

Well ill introduce myself here also. I met my baby almost 9 months ago but it feels like it has been 9 years already. Never did i expect to be doing what i am but i am and couldnt be any happier. I met my soul mate, my best friend and soon to be hubby. It isnt an easy ride but we say it only makes us stronger. I love him to death and thank God everyday for putting him in my path. It is nice to come here and know that i am not the only one here so thanks

I met my Baby through a pen-pal site and when we first started writing I would have never thought it would go this direction, or this deep. Well, I can say now for sure that he is the love of my life. To a lot of people it might sound weird to fall in love under the given circumstances. I just know that I never want to miss him in my life anymore, we have grown so close with the little we have it is hard to describe. But when I'm reading all the posts, I'm sure all of you feel what I'm trying to explain. :)

This site has helped me great deal, knowing that you are not alone and that there are plenty of other women that go through the same and are willing to follow through with it, just like I do. There are many lonley, hard years to come I know that and it's not always easy. Especially being that I live in ATL and he is in NJ. But everytime we talk, or I get one of his letters, or I lay in bed looking at his picture wanting him close, I know I have no option but to stick through this with him. :heart:

Thanks for all the support I found on PTO!!!!

If there is anyone else with a loved one at SWSP, maybe we can meet up sometime when I fly down to visit!


Its gonna be challenging and its gonna suck at times but at the same time remember it has its rewards. I don't think its ever easy but the ways to cope CAN get easier if ya feel me? Im glad to meet ya and I only hope to see more of ya!

To the other ladies that are new around here WELCOME:) and please feel free to post and vent and be yaself. U'll find some great ppl on this FORUM and all around the board. If u need anything lemme know :)

Bella

Hi Bella,

thanks for your words! Nice meeting you and everyone else on here!

Have a nice Sunday!

Sandra

I started to write my penpal in September 2006, we got real close after a few months - he said he love me and he said when he gets released he wants us to get married.

We had a fallout in Jan/Feb and he wrote me a few days ago so Im wondering what his intentions are!!!! He seems sincere but I'm not sure and afraid of getting my feelings hurt

I have been a penpal to an inmate at Allred since Jan this year and to cut a long story short we are now 'together' and in love - we both have the same goals in life and same objectives - we are both completely in sync and want to be together when he gets out - hopefully next year on Parole. I can quite honestly say i trust him completely and love him deeply. I am meeting him for the first time this October when I travel over from New Zealand and will be in Texas for 3 months. I can't wait.

:wave: Hi and welcome to all of the newcomers to the MWI forum!! :yay: I'm so glad you have joined us here and hope to get to know you better through your posts in the many threads available as well as those you make on your own. We also have a monthly check in thread for any of you interested, you will be more than welcome! You can find it here: http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=271643

Patty

Howdy folks,

I am former corrections officer. Not from California. I lurk on the Nevada board. I am a aspiring screenwriter and as such I am communicating with a DR female at CCWF. She’s is assisting me in writing a script that I have all ready done.

I hope to visit her once in a while on my way to LA with a sharp turn north from I-15.

If anyone has any questions about anything I will see if I can help you all out. Rules are about the same.

My first advice is that if you mail anyone put the date you sent the letter on the front of the envelope and like wise for them. What happens is that will show if someone is playing games.

Have fun.

I'm glad i found this place. I was introduced to him by one of my best friends who is married to his brother (also incarcerated). I know all his family even met them before we met. We started writing and we were STRICTLY going to be friends. But i started feeling something crazy for him. I tried to ignore it and even stopped writing for about a month(yes i know thats bad) but thats what i do when i feel i am getting close to someone (which he knew from the beginning) Anyway, i finally visited him after 6 months of writing. I told his parents to tell him i was going up cause i didnt want to surprise him and have me wait forever for him to get ready. So i went up there and he looked really different from his pictures (he had lost a some weight i guess too many burpies) Anyway,i knew immediately it was him when he walked out. I knew instantly i was going to marry him. So that was on a saturday, i told him i would be back the following friday. On my way home, i cried and decided i would go back the next day even though its a 2-2 1/2 hour drive. So i surprised him and i didnt have to wait. I went back the next friday and Sunday, Fathers Day. I am absolutly in LOVE with him. The letters really got us close and the visits confirmed my feelings. He asked me to marry him and i said yes!!! His family knows and are supportive. I am slowly telling my family and they are accepting it better than i thought. People say I'm crazy and i should wait its only 2 1/2 years left, but if i love him now why wait. So as soon as i get the paperwork from him, i will start the process. WOO HOO!!!!:D

wait,..... put the date on the outside of the envelope to see if he's playing games? I dont get it?????

There are times tha staff want to "play games" with the mail. What happens if you put the date liek "NOV 7, 2007" on the envolope it place the officers that are in the mail room on jump street by telling them we are watching.

As a former officer it helped a little by knowing when it was sent and how long it took to the imates get their letter.

Hey fam, I feel the need at this time to reintroduce myself in this site because I have known my dearheart since childhood however I have seen him in over 25 years. He is currently finshing a 22 1/2 year bid with 3 1/2 to go. So at this writing I admit I am MWI and need lots of support in this area.

Hopeful....congrats and glad to see ya made it over here. Like I tell all the ladies we have some really great ppl all across this board and especially in here so stick around and reach out if something stumps ya or u just need someone to listen while you vent. Being a mwi...well it can present its challenges being you didn't have the honor of knowing them on the outside but at the same time the advantages of getting to know them on a deeper emotional level.

Bella

hi im hayley im in australia and my penpal is in america i first started writing to him about 4 months ago i found his ad on a inmate penpal site

Hayley...welcome to our MWI forum. I would love to make it over to Australia one of these days Ive for the longest always wanted to visit. Hope to see more of ya around lady!

Bella

yes awesome! cant wait to talk to everyone

Ms.Pop I was gonna comment on the other forum but now that I see ya here I will do soo....I have to say you and yer soon to be hubby look beautiful together. Welcome to our MWI forum and hope to see more of ya.

Bella

Welcome to PTO everyone. Yes, Ms. Pop, u2 do look good together. ;) This site and the moderators are awesome with support and information.

Hi, I met my soulmate through a penpal service. I never thought that I would write a man in prison but when I seen Jason's ad something about him just jumped out at me...ever since the first letter he has been all that I can think about. :shrug:

Just wanted to say Hi and great forum!

Hi, I met my soulmate (Jason) through a prison penpal service. We starting writing each other and getting to know one another. Things have been going well between us but somewhere along that line I feel in love with him. I know that he's my soulmate. I have never felt this way about any man that I met in my life. Jason is not like any of them. He's understanding, caring, and loving. He sees me like I would like everyone else to see me..."For who I am". Although, we have only known each other for a short time I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him...but the only problem that I have is "Does he feel the same way". I'm not sure...??? I pray that he does but only God has the answer to that. Anyway, I'm just doing the best that I can to keep things going and keep the love between us strong. I would love to meet others who may be going through the same situation or have been here before. Support is greatly needed here!

:wave: Welcome to all the new members. I hope to get to know all of you better as you join in the threads in the MWI forums and through those you create as well.

Patty

There are times tha staff want to "play games" with the mail. What happens if you put the date liek "NOV 7, 2007" on the envolope it place the officers that are in the mail room on jump street by telling them we are watching.

As a former officer it helped a little by knowing when it was sent and how long it took to the imates get their letter.

Ive done this but don't do it all the time and its a sure fire way to see if someone is messing with the mail......not giving it to him in certain amount of time etc. Thanks for the tip. Ha anymore tips??????


Welcome to the new ladies and feel free to dive right in as we have many great MWI forums and threads.

Bella

Welcome to PTO campbell. Great site for support and information:D

I dont know if i had introduce myself but anyway i will again. Its 12.07 am here(*-*) still awake....anyway I met my man on our dating site here a friend of his had put his ad on it. The usual happen being a CO I wrote to him more out of curiosity....than anything else...the rest as you know how it turned out. We have been corresponding for 7months still early stages.

cheers

Ok so I have been lurking around this forum for awhile now and thought I would finally introduce myself. I meet my boyfriend about a year ago while he was out on bond but we were just friends. Not much happened and we ended up losing contact. Well a good friend of mine got locked up on a parole violation and ended up in the same tank as my boyfriend. So they talked about me and realized I was the same person. I had been bringing my friend's girlfriend to see my friend and one day he told me "Hey so and so says he knows you". I was pretty shocked as I really had no intention of hearing from him again etc. Long story short we started writing and we became more than friends and now he is my boyfriend. I wouldn't have it any other way. Well that's my little story. I look forward to posting on this forum FINALLY!

Windy and mc.....welcome to the MWI forum. All of us are here for the same reason and looking forward to hearing more and more from you ladies.

Bella

Welcome as well campbell to our MWI forum. Patty and all of our other ladies are awesome!!!

Bella

Ive done this but don't do it all the time and its a sure fire way to see if someone is messing with the mail......not giving it to him in certain amount of time etc. Thanks for the tip. Ha anymore tips??????


Welcome to the new ladies and feel free to dive right in as we have many great MWI forums and threads.

Bella
I am a guy thank you very much. LO LO. If you have any questions in general just ask.:thumbsup:

Im so sorry....*hangs head in embarrasment* Im bad at assuming most names are females. I guess that is what I get for NOT checkin profiles ha ha. I don't have any questions as of yet but I do know that a certain CO(back at my honey's old MAX joint) would purposely pass out mail to the wrong people and I never understood that game she was playing. Their mail is like their bible. *shrugs*

Bella

The Q (Chuckles),

It's OK. We all make little mistakes.

The Q:thumbsup:

I have been posting on here for about a month to a month and a half or so and I never really introduced myself. :o Sorry about that...My name is Michelle, I am a 25 year old mom of one. I actually met my man through a guyfriend. I am a believer in fate. And I believe that I met him because of such. I hadn't talked to my guyfriend in about 3 years (I had considered him my 'big brother' since I was about 13 years old.) But I had heard on the news about him getting into trouble and probably going to be incarcerated. Well I followed his story until I found out where he was going to be placed because I wanted to write him and let him know that his 'little sis' still loved him even though I wanted to smack him upside the head for doing what he did because he had been on a really good track the last time that I talked to him. Well...we started writing and then he asked me if I knew anyone that would write his celly because he is from Florida and doesn't know anyone and he is a really cool guy and didn't hurt anyone or anything like that. So I told him that I had some free time so I would write him. Well I never got around to writing the first letter because I had a lot less free time than I thought that I had. Well he ended up writing me. The more that we wrote and talked on the phone, the more I knew he was the man for me. He was everything that I asked for in a man. (Minus the whole prison thing) I was seriously about to just give up on relationships but I think I got him, to tell me not to ever give up! He will be home in December and we plan on moving forward from there. I hope to be able to give as much advice as I get here on PTO!

Everyone have a great day!

Michelle :rolleyes:

Hi everybody. I'm 25, live in North Carolina, and I was introduced to Jae through a friend of mine's friend who was locked up with him. Whew. Did you follow that?! lol She had a friend who was locked up and she knew I liked to write so she told her friend to find somebody he knew that I could write to. He came back with a couple names and I started writing Jae and things just escelated from there. It wasn't long before I was going to visit him and things have just been beyond my expectations, to say the least. So that's the basics on me. Hope to get to know everybody real soon!

Hi, I'm 26 and I met my guy who's 21 while working in a prison. I was working in a non-custody position contracted through an outside source and like many people on here I never thought I'd end up with someone in prison. We started talking about a relationship 4 months after we met and about three weeks after that he was transfered to another facility. He was transfered to minimum custody to serve his second sentance for a lesser charge. We figured because he was transfered to another facility we'd be fine and began writing and talking on the phone. While the DOC was investigating a coworker of mine they came accross my phone calls with my man. I was asked to resign from my position and due to a lack of employment had to move back to my home state and in with my parents. Before this we had been planning on moving in together when he got home next spring and getting married. They threw him in the hole the same day they made me resign. I haven't heard from him in six weeks and it's been a really long six weeks. We had been talking almost everyday. I've talked to his family and there's a possibility he may get more time. Possibly 2 more years and they could take away the almost 2 years he's already served. I know others have lost thier jobs in this situation but has anyone's loved one gotten more time? How much? I'm really worried and don't know what to do. I know that if we're meant to be together we'll find a way but the situation almost seems hopeless now. I love him more than anything and I know he loves me but I miss him terribly.

Welcome ladies!!!!

how often does everyone see their significant others? I MISS mine and wish i could see him more. I see him every weekend. It doesnt seem like enough and the time flies by when we are there together

This is a great forum. I too met my guy while he's in prison, through a good friend. I can't give the details :) you understand... She had talked to him quite a bit and mentioned me several times. He started asking to write me, then he started begging. I had talked to her about him several times and thought about asking her, but wasn't sure how she'd react. So needless to say when his begging paid off and she asked... I jumped on it. It started off as the nervous hello and what do you say. That lasted 1 letter, then look out, 11 months later and we're still writing every day and now we talk on the phone. I'm going to see him for the first time on the 20th of this month. I can't wait. He calls me every day with the count down. He has changed my life, for the better, and says the same of me. He still has a little under a year to go. I can't wait to hug him on Friday :) :) :) :) :) :)

Delphi.....first off welcome to the MWI forum. You couldn't of came to a better spot!! Next....congrats and good luck on yer first visit. Man..I member mine and it was awesome! I was nervous but I was in love!!! Hope to see you around more often!

Just friends....mines in Ohio and Im able to see him 2 times a month. Im out of state so I pretty much get to pick the dates I wanna visit and they are usually for the most part flexible with me!

Bella

Hi everyone I'm new. I met my man while incarcerated at San Quentin. I was the legal secretary to his attorney. We wrote little bits here and there. Then 3 major events happened in my life...life changing events, devasting events. Then I lost my job and told him to never contact me again. I was alone, devasted and hurting. To make a long story short, he sent his mother looking for me. She finally found me. I told her it would be ok for him to call me. He became my friend, was there for me through my ordeals and now he is my true love. We plan to marry. That's my story. I'm Martha as you can see. :)

I met my fiance through a friend. He happened to be his cellmate at the time. I wanted to go visit my friend, but that would have meant that his mom (who was taking me) wouldn't have been able to get a contact visit with her son. So in order to avoid that from happening, his cellmate put me on his visitation list and I pulled him out so that my friend's mom could get her contact visit. We hit it off pretty good considering we had never been introduced to each other. Oh and my friend would never put me in any danger and trust me, my fiance had to prove he was worthy enough to even meet me. That was back in December of 97 and we've been together ever since and still going strong.

:wave: Hi and welcome to all the newcomers to the MWI forum. I look forward to getting to know all of you better. If you have any questions or need assistance feel free to PM me or any PTO moderator, we're here to help.

Patty

Hi everyone! I'm Tawny and I met my boyfriend Mark through someone that I was writing to before...someone that I wasn't really feeling and decided to just be friends with. He thought that Mark would be a better match for me and the rest is history!! I just happened upon this site and I LOVE IT!!!! It is so helpful and supportive...I look forward to being apart of this forum and getting to know you all.
~Blessings~

Hi Tawny and welcome to the family. Let me know if I can help you with anything.

Patty

Thank you so much Patty for the welcome!!! I'm happy to be here!:)
Hi Tawny and welcome to the family. Let me know if I can help you with anything.

Patty

Delphi.....first off welcome to the MWI forum. You couldn't of came to a better spot!! Next....congrats and good luck on yer first visit. Man..I member mine and it was awesome! I was nervous but I was in love!!! Hope to see you around more often!

Just friends....mines in Ohio and Im able to see him 2 times a month. Im out of state so I pretty much get to pick the dates I wanna visit and they are usually for the most part flexible with me!

Bella
Thanks for the welcome. 5 days!!! :) :) :) :) :) I can't wait!!! He's still calling with the count down, and making sure I'm still coming. He's so funny, we laugh constantly. Oh by the way... if you didn't get that... I can't wait, Ha Ha Ha. :)

Delphi....awww gurl good for u!!

Okay... my story is kind of complicated. Here it goes... I was with a guy named D on and off for about 3 years *with him being in and out of incarceration*... he got out this last time and wanted to "see other people." I was fine with it... I knew it wasn't going to go anywhere... we were just too differen. Well while he was incarcerated he asked me to write his bunkies too and it was totally platonic for almost 6 months. After D and I broke up it slowly started becoming less and less friendly... and I finally visited him. *Mind you I'm not scandalous by any means... D actually suggested it... because he saw how much we had in common* The visit was the greatest... and we're still writing and seeing each other. I'm taking it very slow... all we have is time. Well that's my little story! Hope to get to know all of you much better!

Wild...wow well hey if if it was all mutual and there is no hard feelings gurl then why not? Im glad u met someone thru another situation and its what makes you happy. Good luck and hope to see you around more.

Bella

Hey everyone, Im new here. I met my boyfriend while he was incarcerated...well, he still is, but anyway, we met thru writing letters, he was my penpal and now were in love.

:wave: Hi and welcome to the MWI forum PBG!!! We're happy to have you with us and look forward to getting to know you better as you familiarize yourself with the forum. Please feel free to PM me or any staff members as we are here to assist.

Enjoy,
Patty

Hi everyone I am new to this forum and just wanted to tell you about my man and I. Well I went to visit my nephew one day and another friend. And my man saw me that day. And for about 2 months after that day he he kept bugging my nephew, hey who was that lady you were with and hey fix me up with her. Well my nephew never told me. So this guy was all ready to ask the trustee to send me a note. But finallly my nephew said something to me, and now we are together. I go see him every Sunday and write him many letters a week, He treats me like gold and, also I am falling deeply in love with him, and yea its fast, but who is to say when love comes grab it. And has asked me to marry him. Well I do already have the kids and the whole life learned lessons. And at first I wasnt sure,but since then he does ask me to give him his fresh slate and not to compare him to any one else. And in my book he is a 10. Also I guess I should tell you all he is a lifer. And that is the hardest part of all. A relationship with someone in prison is hard enogh, yet to add life in to the whole story. Well I do believe in miracles and in god. And god did put this man in my llife for a reason. So time will tell. Glad to be here.

I met my boyfriend thru writing letters also and I certainly didn't expect to fall in love. In fact I was dead set against not writing any other inmates because of other things that had happened to me dealing with other guys I had written, but for some reason i decided to give him a chance and look where it got me, head over heels, lol. I feel the way you feel, he's the only one who see's me for who I am and accepts me, never judges me, always supports me, and he makes me feel beautiful. I know he is my soulmate, and if he is urs then it will work out. Just stay strong and never give up.

Hi I am also new here. Have been reading for a while and have gotten some great info from this site. I am MWI also. I met him through a penpal site. I suppose you have heard it all before but all I was looking for was a friend and look at me now. Very happy in love and loving it. :D Finding this site was a godsend because until I found it I had no idea there were so many others in the same boat as me. Thank You all for all the great and helpful info I have found so far and for the inevitable barrage of questions I will have in the future. :)

Smilez...PBG...Womba I want to welcome all you ladies to our MWI forum. We have some great ladies and stories that have been shared all across this board. I take pride in the MWI forum because that is me all the way and even tho I didn't meet mine on the outside and did in 2004 as a pen pal I think I've had a deep opportunity to learn tons about him and what makes him tick. I hope all you ladies do indeed find what yer looking for in this forum and please feel free to kick back and share anything and everything with us.

Bella

Hello everyone, I met D while visiting my cousin. We started out by writing and soon realized that as much as he needed me in his life I needed him in mine. That was 5 years ago. I love his so much it makes my heart hurt sometimes :) It hasn't all been rainbows and butterflies but we weather the storms as they come. It took me 2 years to be approved for visitation, if that is any indication of what B.S. we have been through. We still have 4 more years to go but our love is even stronger now because of these storms. I just want to say that it is such a relief to know that I'm not alone in this journey, and I'm really not crazy for falling inlove with someone that has made a big mistake in the past :) THANKS!

:wave: Hi and welcome to Smilez159, PGB, Womba Angel and Demonsgirl!!! I am so glad that you have joined us in the MWI forum and look forward to getting to know you better as you respond to our many threads in progress as well as those you may post yourselves. Please do not hesitate to PM me or any other staff member if you need assistance. We are here to help.

All the best and again, WELCOME,
Patty

:o Thank you for inviting me to this forum. I feel like I am home. It is really hard on the outside, talking to friends and family. None of them understand what I our us go through on a daily basis. And love is hard enough, yet being in love with some one on the other side of the walls. But I would not change any thing about this man I have fallen in love with. Ok maybe one thing, that he gets out one day. And who knows maybe god is on my side and will give me my dream man, in my arms, and in my home. And for life.

HI, MY NAME IS PREFERENCE, AND I MET MY BABY JAMES :p WHILE HE WAS INCARCERATED IN PONTIAC (IL), WE MET THROUGH A FRIEND OF MINE'S HUSBAND WHO IS HIS HOMEBOY FROM WAY BACK WHEN. AT FIRST I WAS A LITTLE RELUCTANT TO IT, BECAUSE HE'S IN IL, AND IM IN TN, BUT HE GREW ON ME, AND NOW I COULDN'T IMAGINE MY LIFE WITHOUT HIM!!!! :D I'M GRADUATING COLLEGE NEXT YEAR, ABOUT 6 MONTHS B4 HE GETS OUT, AND I WILL BE MOVING THERE. I LOVE HIM, AND WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR HIM, BECAUSE MY BROTHER WAS IN JAIL FOR 5 YEARS, AND HE SAID IT WAS "PURE HELL" SO I CAN'T IMAGINE WHAT MY BABY IS GOING THROUGH 400+ MILES AWAY! BUT WHAT I DO KNOW IS THAT WHEN HE GETS OUT, I WILL DO ALL THAT I CAN TO KEEP HIM OUT!

Sweetness glad to have you aboard and I hope you find all that you could ever need here in the MWI board. The ladies are super here and all across the Pto boards :) Patty our MWI mod shes the best!

Bella

I found my David on a prison penpal website one night while I was messing around. I wasn't looking for anything more than a friend, you know, some one who wasn't going to judge me. Well, it hasn't been that long ago that I wrote to him the first time, but our feelings have grown really strong over the last few months. I can't imagine not having him in my life. He has become my biggest fan and I his. He believes in me like no other has. I really don't have any support in all of this except David. My friends think that I'm crazy. It's just that I can see past what he's done and who he was in the past. He's an ex-gangmember who definitly looks the part. But he's ready to make a change for me and mine. We're hoping to get his parole transferred here from az and if not I'll be going over there to be with him. I just hope the time goes fast cuz I can't hardly wait to have his strong arms wrapped around me. I love you baby.:heart:

yh

:wave: Welcome newcomers to the MWI forum family. I'm glad you found us and look forward to getting to know you all better. Let me know if I can assist in any way, I'm only a PM away...

Patty

i met mine thru a pen pal ad and i just wanted to be friends but we quickly fell in love and have been together almost 2 years now.

I have been a member here at pto for a few months and when I am online here I spend much of my time at MWI...Everyone has stories and questions here that I can relate to, so I love spending my time here.
Now this is a little of my story.......I met my Yank through a friend, which is an ex of mine. My ex went to prison on a violation and went to the facility where Yank was. I wrote my ex and would show concern about his well being, considering he is such a small fellow. At this time I really had no idea what prison life was like. Well, Yank wrote to me some in letters the ex would send me, Y would say, don't worry about him, he is comin out soon and I got a long way to go, Y would tell me he would take the heat for troubles if they come along, Yank is a big tough guy, and he knew he wasnt comin out for awhile. His release date is in 2013. I knew then he was a good man.
After the ex came out he stayed with me for awhile, yank would write letters to him and me. Then one day Y called and ask for the ex, (ex had found a place of his own) I gave him a # to reach ex at. We talked just a little, how are you, how are things....and like that. Well, a few later he called again and said he could never get in touch with ex...and we just started talkin....and it is all bliss from there. We talked for hours that day, (he was at work) and within the month I knew I loved him. He is a great man. Now we have been talkin for two years counting the writting time. We are planning to get married, we filled out our request, but found out that if we start our counseling now he cannot transfer closer to here until we are done which could take like 3 months to get approved and 4 or more months to complete the counseling. So we decided to wait. But the great thing is, he may get to transfer in Aug. or Sept. AND NOW WE HAVE A PAROLE DATE! It is Sept 26....I pray he will be coming out of there then. We have decided that we will be getting married on Feb. 23 08...that is the first time we said we loved each other, 2-23.
Okay, about him, he is in on a robbery charge. No one got injuried. He was 19, he recieved a 20yr. sentence. He refused to test. against another guy. He also left the court house the day of sentencing and did not turn himself in for a month. I think these things played a role in the time he got. He had never been in any trouble before...he had gotten speeding tickets but that is all. He is from Chicago,Illinois, his crime occured here in Alabama, which is where I am from. (Hence the reason he is my Yank.) He has served almost 15yrs. of his sentence now.
Well, I guess that will give you all a little insight. If any of you want to know more just ask or pm me.
Shea
I love being a MWI woman! I love my Baby Yank!!!

:wave: Welcome rheonna and WALTSBABEE, we're glad to have you with us in the MWI forum. Pull up a chair and get comfortable. Be sure to PM any staff member if you have questions or need assistance, we're here to help.

All the best,
Patty

Thanks Patty, I have been comfy here for awhile now. No problems so far, but I will not hesitate to ask if I need help or if I have a concern.
Thank you for the welcome.

Hi My Name Is Tracy, If You Asked Me 3 Months Ago If I Thought I Could Fall In Love With Someone In Jail. I Would Say Your Crazy No Way....3 Months Ago I Started Writing A Man (penpal) He Is My Life, My Love And I Cant Believe How Much I Love Him. He Has 3 More Years. Doing A Mandatory Sentence. We Write Everyother Day, Talk 3 Times A Week And I See Him Twice A Month. I Really Think He Is My God Send. My Soul Mate. Everything Happens For A Reason. If He Never Got Busted We Would Of Never Met.
To Top It Off We Are From The Same State! Thanks Friend For The Post.
Tracy

Welcome to all the newbies!!! Well, we leave in the next week and half for our last visit of the summer. Once school starts back we don't get to visit as much. But it is all good, we do what we do!!! How has everyone else's summer been? Mine has been pretty good. Of course missing my MR.S!!! But that is all the time!!! :( Hope everyone is having a good week and it's middle of the week, woohoo Friday can't get here fast enough!!!

I meet my soon to be hubby through a friend, when he was out. We talked via telephone and internet but never meet face to face. At the time when he was out he was trying to get to know me but I wasn’t trying to get to know him because I was already with someone.

Once, he got locked up he had called our friend (the one that introduced us) and asked if he could write to me, I said yeah, so I gave him my po box address. He started writing but I didn’t really think much of it because my intentions were only to stay friends.

We started writing back and forth for about six months and got to know each other. I already knew he was writing to other females so I wasn’t trying to get emotionally attached or involved with him. But my emotions got the best of me and I started to develop feelings for him. He stopped writing to all the other females he was writing too, to show that he was serious with me.

His mom, which he is really close too, started to do 3way calling for him and he started calling me. We would talk for a few minutes but its all that we had. Finally, when we got together he sent me a visiting form, I filled it out and sent it in. I was approved about four weeks later. So I got the courage to visit the following saturday.

It was a 3.5 hour drive, so when I finally got there I was nervous as hell because it was going to be our first physical encounter. I went through the whole process and finally made my way to the visiting room. I was waiting in the visiting room for about 40 minutes. I got bored so I got up to go to the restroom. Once I got back from the restroom, I seen him standing there waiting for me. As I walked to him my hands started sweating, all I heard was kiss me. So yeah we kissed, I had to pull away lol we sat down and started talking. Both of our hands were shaking from all the nervousness but we finally got over it.

I’ve only visited twice but I’m visiting again for his birthday. He writes everyday, kind of talk everyday when his mom calls 3way or when he calls my house. I’m trying to visit as much as I can before school starts. He’s out in December and I’m so excited!

I meet my man through a mutual friend that he hadn't talked to in over 10 years. Our mutual friend (who is also locked up) told me about him and suggested I write him and let him know how my friend was doing etc. Well, it went from there. We became fast friends and the history!

Reggies....welcome to our MWI forum and if ya need anything let someone know. We got some really great FOLKS(cause its not just ladies) on here!!

Bella

Welcome newcomers! We're glad to have you with us. Let us know if we can be of assistance, PTO staff is only a PM away if ever you need us.

Patty

In spite of the circumstances, it great to see that the new comers have come across PTO.

Welcome!!

In spite of the circumstances, it great to see that the new comers have come across PTO.

Welcome!!

Well to make a long story short...I met my man last August...I only wrote him in hopes of having a friend but I definelty found more then that...I was really hesitant at first to allow any feelings or anything more then friendship show in my letters...but the more and more I wrote to him the more and more I knew in my heart that he had to be a part of my life forever and always....I definelty can't imagine life without him....He is due to get out May of 2008 and I can't wait...it's gonna be the happiest day of my life knowing that I never have to let go then....

:wave: Hi whalensgrl28 and welcome to the MWI forum. I hope to get to know you better and hope you will find what you are looking for here at home with us in the MWI forum. IF you haven't already done so please check out this months "Check In Place" as it is a good way to get to know everyone. Hope to see you there!
http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=282375

Patty

I cant find any guys on this site! And it appears all you girls have the same story and pre story to tell...surely this cannot be coincidence?!

Well then perhaps you are well named, "confused again" LOL Seriously though :wave: hi and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum. There are "guys" here trust me and we "girls" as you call us are quite the diverse lot so if you think we're all the same you've merely scratched the surface. Hopefully you will take the time to get to know us better. I assume your interest in PTO and specifically the MWI forum stems from the fact that you have met someone that you care for who happens to be incarcerated. If so you've come to the right place. If you need any assistance please do not hesitate to PM me or any of our PTO moderators as we are here to help.

All the best,
Patty

We met in 1977 when I answered an ad in a magazine (this was pre-internet days). It was one of those biker mags that my current boyfried at the time subscribed to. We were both 22 years old, yes that makes us both 52 this year. We hit it off instantly. He was getting all sorts of responses to his ad and was receiving a lot of mail, but he always answered my letters as soon as he got them. He told me he had a ritual of setting up his paper, pen, smoke and drink when ever he wrote to me. Our letter writing got very intense so we naturally took the next move to phone calls. (or as he called it 2nd base) Long story short, we corresponded for 3 years, never met, then I cut out. It became obvious to me that he was going to be incarcerated for a very long time and I wanted marriage, kids, house with picket fence....................and I was in love with him. Believe it or not we never discussed why he was in prison, I never asked, I didn't care, he only told me that he should be out soon. You know appeals and all..........You have to remember that the world was so different back then. There wasn't the availability of information, or even a forum of any kind and I was young and rather naive. So, imagine my surprise in 1996 when I checked the NYS DOC (because he was never out of my thoughts and always in my heart) website and there he was. Now I knew why he was in prison and for how long, 25 to life. Get this, it took me 4 years to write him only to chew him out that he never told me there was the possibility of life. Shoot, if I could take back that letter now........
So that was 2000, get this - last year, 2006, I wrote asking his forgiveness for the nasty letter in 2000 and if there were a possibility we could write. His response came in 3 days with a yes!!!!!!!!! Our lives have changed. He was in maximum for many years, met another woman, got married.............. I married at 30, have one son, so we both had moved on.................. It is 30 years now he has been my friend, even though we haven't kept in touch for 26 of them. I still haven't met him, he's asking when we can move to 3rd base, soon I hope. Here's my dilema, that slow burn I've had for him all these years has definitely sparked and he is more than receptive to the idea that; well what's that Tim McGraw song "The next 30 years......................." We'll see time will tell.

Hi everyone, I have to say that I have been somewhat of a lurker here. I finally decided its time to introduce myself since we are all in the same boat here. My name is Anna and I met my man through a friend back in 1998. We started out just as friends because I was in a relationship (with someone who was incarcerated also). I would write and visit him and we became really good friends. He was always there for me to hear me bitch about whatever was going on in my life. My man at the time got out and we married. I would still write him but the letters became far and few between because of my husband. Well long story short, I ended up divorcing my husband and ultimatly begged for forgiveness of loosing touch. We went through some rocky letters but got right back on track of where we were. He was great and was by my side through my divorce. One day I realized that I loved him more as just a friend. I wasn't scared to start another relationship with someone who was incarcerated. Love knows no boundries. We are still holding strong...although some days are harder then others...We still have a long stretch in front of us... I pray for the day when he can come home to me.

:wave: Hi and welcome newcomers. We're so glad to have you with us!

Patty

Hi, my name is Cathy and I met my man 13 years ago when he was still on the row. I met him through a pen pal organisation and visited him on DR. Thankfully he was over turned to LWOP and I still support him.

:wave: Hi mrsgates and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum! We hope to see more of you around here.

All the best,
Patty

Hey PTO Family ~ I just wanted to share that I met my "love" while he was incarcerated. We have been together now for over a year and we are totally into each other. I love this man. We go on a "date" once a week (at the prison of course) but that is our time. He is like no other. He has 2 1/2 years left and I will be here every step of the way. I hope everyone is as happy as I am right now. God bless all of you!! Keep your heads up and think positive. This kind of life style is not meant for everyone and I def didn't think it was for me but look where I am now.

Thanks Guys!!!

Hey everyone not sure if I have introduced myself yet but I have left several posts. I met my fiance through a pen pal ad online in 2003. He has been in the clink for almost 13 years now and is serving LWOP, although we are hoping to change that some day. I dont think it really matters how you meet someone it is everything in between. 4 years ago I would have never guessed we would be here today but check it out...We are getting married in 4 days!

:wave: Hi and welcome BadBun and shawnee77!!! We're glad to have you with us in the MWI forum and hope you will feel right at home. If you need any assistance please feel free to PM me or any PTO staffmember as we are here to assist.

Hope to see alot of you both,
Patty

In spite of the circumstances, it's nice to meet you all and welcome you to the forum.

Take care.

Hello All,

I met my love through my roommate at the time; he is her brother. I knew she had a brother in prison when we moved in together, but didn't know anything else about him. He would call for her and when she wasn't home, I thought it would be rude to not accept the charges, so I started talking to him. After a while, she commented that she thought he was purposely calling when she wasn't home so he could talk to me! As it turns out, she was right. After a year of talking on the phone, I finally made the 4 hour trip with his sister to meet him in person. Without going into a lot of cliches about "love at first sight", etc. - the rest is pretty much history. We've been together for 18 years and I have never looked back. Most of my friends and family are supportive in their own way, but they still try to fix me up with men on the outside so I can have a "normal" relationship.. LOL, they mean well but I traded normal in for true love a long time ago.

Awwwwwwwwwww ConshyGirl such a sweet story! :wave: Welcome to the MWI forum. I hope to get to know you better through this great forum.

Welcome welcome welcome,
Patty

Patty - thanks for the welcome! I'm looking forward to meeting and talking with you all; it's so no nice to hear that someone thinks my story is "sweet" - most people just look at me like I have two heads when I talk about this stuff. It's quite a relief to be among friends who understand.

Welcome to the "Met While Incarcerated" forum. Please tell us as much or as little as you like about yourself so we can all get to know and support one another better.

Patty

Hi to you all. Well, I met the man that I am growing to luv but am unsure of these feelings almost 7 yrs ago by accident we started writing. We have never met, but in all this time, we have continually been corresponding. He is doing about 25 years in a federal prison, and of course he has the time for me. I have been in 3 relationships while he has been locked up, see, we were only pen pals, so after 6 years, we are barely starting to talk about a relationship with each other, I have always wanted that, but did not want to commit too all that time, especially because i've never actually met him, just spoke on phone, alot, and have mailed each other all this time. Am still confused, but I have feelings that seem to grow, and only he can cheer me up. I don't know if I want to take it to the next level, but i just know that I only feel happy when I speak to him, or receive his letters. Don't know what to think... but I thought coming on this website would help, and to see how others feel about this, and what stories they have to tell, see, like most of you, can't really speak to anyone who understands why i feel this way about a man that i have not physically met, that is doing time, and that i may never be with. Anyways, that's part of my story. Thanks for listening.
Maria

Hi All I Want To Start Off With Mwi Are Special People We Are The Real Lovers Of The World We Love With No Guarantees ,i Met My Man 3 Yrs Ago Thru His Family So I Feel Good About That . We Go Thru But All Couples Do , But He Brings Us Back Every Time I Was So Glad To Find This Site Because Civilians Dont Have A Clue How We Do What We Do And Sometimes U Feel So Alone And U Wonder Is This The Right Thing I Would Like To Get To Know A Lot Of U We Need To Meet A Yr From Now And Have A Mwi Party We Are Our Own Seperate Survivors Thx For Reading And Keep Us In Ur Prayers As I Will U . Love Makes U Feel Like All Is Possible A Good Man Makes It All Possible To Feel Love

My ex's niece was writing a friend of his. She gave him my address unbeknown to me. We penned for about 1 1/2 yrs....just as friends. He transferred closer to where I live. We met...and married 8 mos later...We been married 5 1/2 yrs...of all places to meet the love of my life...go figure!! Love him to death!!!

Wow. Welcome to all the MWI ladies. I really hope you enjoy your stay here with us. If you need anything please let Patty know. She's an awesome mod!! Being an MWI its challenging....we didn't know their personality on the streets...only what we've been told and we learn them thru visits,calls, and letters. Its very rewarding tho. Just to have that solid bond...no one can take away.

Ladies Im Bella....Ive been with my man for 3 years now and he was my pen pal back in 2004. I didn't go looking for love however somewhere in the struggle it found me. Ive been thru many ups and downs with him. He's doing 18 to life and has been down 5 years now...so yes we have such a lengthy time left but its something we will overcome. I know God has something bigger in store for us. I don't see it as I'm "waiting" im seeing it as we are "living" how we gotta live for now and it won't always be like this. Gotta member every day is one Less day they can make them do all over again and one more day CLOSER to bringing them home. I don't know about you guys but HOME is exactly where mine needs to be =) Ever feel like ya wanna chat and don't know whom exactly on PTO to chat to.....look me up. Im never far. Im anxious to get to know all the ladies I have yet to meet!

~Bella~

Conshy...no worries here suga U will find us all in the same boat just different varieties =) Im looking forward to getting to know ya better and please feel free to post in all the MWI forums we got.

Bella

Hey everyone,
David and I met thru a pen pal as he had posted. I really liked what he had to say in it. I wrote to him just looking for a friend, someone to listen when I needed it and who wouldn't judge me. He has come to mean so much to me and he says the same thing to me. I'm really glad I took the time to write him, I don't know what I would do now without him. He says he wants to make a life with me and my kids. So I'm here waiting for this to be over so we can spend the rest of our lives together.:D

Hey Bella - are we both in love with the same guy? My guy's Tommy, too. LOL. Thanks for the welcome; I'm already feeling the love in this forum!

i am new to this but i do have a story would anyone like to hear it?

here's my story...i used to work for the dept. of corrections for almost 9yrs. i've met alot of guys that just messed and and i've also met some that are right where they need to be. one day while doing my job i noticed an inmate that i've known for awhile staring at me. i went up to him jokingly and said take a picture it will last longer. he said "ms. G. you are a beautiful black woman why do you work here. You don't have the attitude like some of these guards have. you're to nice to be doing this job. We talked for a few mins. and i went on my way. well for several days i would see him and speak. one day he told me he liked how my chain laid on my chest. i was always hearing crazy things from inmates so i let it ride. he would tell me on occasions...ms. g i have 90 days before i'm out. i didn't pay any attention to it because that's what they all say. surely enough a few months went by and he was about to get out. he told me he would see me again and i was like yeah right. 2 days after he got out i was home doing some house work..my phone rang and my son said mom somebody name jesse wants you on the phone. I thought it was a bill collector so i answered the phone with an attitude. he said hey stranger how are you...i was stunned i said who is this and he said i told you i would see you again. after i realized who it was we talked on the phone that day for 4hrs. after that conversation we arranged a day to meet. when that day came i had butterflies like you wouldn't believe. he took me out to dinner and we sat at the resturaunt for hours talking and laughing and that was it.....he left went back home and so did i. after getting home he called and told me thought he loved me. i'll tell you more later

Wow I see newcomers I LIKE THIS ALOT!!! :yay: :wave: Hi and warm welcome to maria44, RAHMINS GURL, latinlady742 and jessijerri!!! Kick your shoes off and get comfy with us. We are so glad to have you here. Please feel free to PM me or any PTO staffmember if you need assistance, we are here to help. I hope to get to know you all through our great forum!!!

Patty

Get this- I am more in love with my mwi man that i have EVER been with ANYONE. It is not a life that I had planned for myself - that's why it makes me so mad when people are down on me. Lord knows - it would be a whole lot easier if he were out here with me. Me and him - we haven't got the money to get a good lawyer and as a result he is looking at the rest of his life in angola. I suppose in this post I am just venting but I'll be there until the world caves in for him and I am so grateful for this PTO site. It reminds me that there are others going through this too. Much love. xxx

Keep your head up people are going to say bad things about you and him. Ive gotten to the point its comical, because I know Im not going to leave him now matter what they say. Rhona If you like I can recommend a few lawyers here in LA. who handle post conviction relief.

Hi all. I'm sorta new here. I lurked for about a month because I'm shy. But I am so glad to have found this site. I get so much inspiration and comfort from all of your stories. Same ol' story with me and mine. Penpals fallin in love. He's such an incredible man. But it can be difficult to cope with the situation sometimes. Thanks to you all, I find the strength to stay positive for both of us, especially in those times when he is really down. Hugs all around!:grouphug:

Hi everyone,I am so glad I found this forum. I met my bf through my best friend,his sister. We have been writing each other for 3 years. I have visited him about 10 times. Every chance I get. The problem is he is in Texas and I live in Kansas. Anyway, we just started out as pen pals,but it was just an instant connection.. the whole soulmate thing. He has been locked up for 15 years and has gotten his parole. He has to do 6 more months till he is released. Then we will see how things go. I feel in my heart that he is the man God intends me to be with, so I have to go with that. But at times it can be difficult. My wondering what will happen when he is released, aka if Im being played. Has anyone else felt this? Anyway, just wanted to say hi and let everyone know how grateful to have found this site.

Trish

:wave: Hi and welcome to all the newcomers, great to have you with us.

Just checkin' in real quick. Yesterday was my birthday and he came home with roses and cards and we had a great evening. This morning we have court so I will let you all know how it goes.

Take care friends,
Patty

Hello All,
I met Michael through a Prison Ministry Program, we met in 06. He is currently at FCI Fairton in Jersey and will be released next year sometime. I was amazed at his ability to write beautiful poetry. He also has all the beautiful words to lure me into a relationship but after browsing on this site for awhile I am having mixed emotions. I fear all of the outcomes of MWI that I have read here on this site.
Anyway thanks all, I find this site very addicting ;) Love the input!

:wave: Hi w8g4mine and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum. We're glad to have you with us. If you need assistance feel free to PM me or any staff member as we are here to help!

Patty

Patty,

Happy Be-lated birthday. Wow, roses and he remembered your national holiday!! :-) This is awesome.

Wishing you many more special days w/ the man of your dreams.

Hi my name is April. I am new to PTO. I have been talking to my K.C for almost a year now and loving every minute of it. He gets out in November so really soon. I have yet to hear his voice or of course meet him. He lives in Texas and I am here in Tennessee. I will go this spring after he gets is ankle monitor off so we can actually go and do things. I am very happy that I found this website it is really great! I think I have become addicted,lol. Oh I met K.C. through a pen pal ad!

:wave: Hi April and welcome to the MWI forum. You surely have noticed that you are surrounded in this forum by many who like yourself met their loved one during his/her incarceration and this is a great place for us to support and interact with one another. I'm glad you are here with us.

Patty

:wave: Hi all! i'm making my way around PTO and introducing myself here and there. i met my man in March 2005 as a guest speaker at Carson City CF in Michigan. During that initial meeting, We were cordial but there were no sparks (for me at least) because i wasn't there to socialize and tried not to notice the sea of beautiful Black faces in the audience. A week later, i received a letter from him, thanking me for speaking at the program i had attended. i stay busy so i never responded to his letter (bad manners, i know) but periodically he would cross my mind. A year later, in March 2006, i decided to write him just to say hi and "build" with him as they say about issues affecting the Black community, culturally and politically. He wrote back, asked me a few questions to start, and the rest is history. Within a few short weeks, i started to develop feelings for him. He was articulate, grounded, sincere. We had our first visit about two months after my first letter, and our relationship has grown leaps and bounds since that time. We are perfect for each other in so many ways. He is my soul mate, my best friend, the love of my life. We have what John Coltrane called a "Love Supreme."

:wave: Hi and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum, NewAFrikanLove! I enjoyed reading about how you met your man and look forward to getting to know you better through the forums. If you need any assistance feel free to PM me or any staff member as we are here for you. Again, welcome!

Hugggz,
Patty

I think it`s about time I do this as well. I have enjoyed this site for some time now, but so far I have just been reading without posting anything myself.A lot of info here, so it takes a while to read everything:) . I am in a MWI relationship since 6 months back. Haven`t met my man yet, since I live tooooo far away, but hopefully in the nearest future that will happen.:thumbsup:

Mimm....gurl welcome to the MWI forum. In here you'll find all the support you ever could cause we are right there wit'cha or have been. When do you think you will be able to go and meet ya honey? Good luck with that and let us know when u do!!!

Bella

:wave: Welcome mimmush to PTO and the MWI forum. I look forward to getting to know you better. PM me or any staffmember if you need assistance.

Patty

I`m looking forward to getting to know all of you aswell and join the conversations here. As for when I will be able to see my baby, I`ll have to come back on that one, depends on so many things, but it will happen sooner or later:yes:

Hello all...

I am not new to this site or the prison system. I was actually involed w/someone who was incarenrated and just released about three months ago. Make a long story short me and ol boy broke up.((relationship ended badly))

When ol boy was released from prison I was escatic!! I was like yay Im done w/TDC. and well since the relationship ended on a sour note I told myself that I would never do this again. ((talk to someone in prison)) Well I dont know why but I let my best friend talk me into talking to one of her of husbands friends. And I must say that I am happy that I did that.
This man is so sweet and caring and just wants to shower me like the queen that I should be treated like. BUT with that being said things are being taken at a tortise speed. ((haha))

Okay... enough about me.

It's so cool that there's a whole section for us who have met while incarcerated. I knew it happened, but wow.

I actually met my love through my sister. She had been writing him off an on both times he's been in and she wanted to visit. We got myself approved to visit so I could drive her there. He and I took one look at each other and felt like we knew one another. In fact we spent that first visit discussing how we may have known one another. And we wrote many letters and spent a few more visits trying to figure this out.

We still haven't figured it out, but have both pretty much decided it was just meant for us to meet. He is the most passionate, tender, loving and communicative man I have ever met. The hardest part is waiting, but I have wasted more time on men who aren't half of what he is to me. I can wait the next 2.5 years or so until he gets out. I love him, so it'll be worth it, this I am sure of.

:wave: Hi and welcome to MeMyself&I and HisChildSindi!!! I'm so glad to have both of you with us. I hope you will find alot of information and I know you'll find support from our little MWI family. If you need assistance feel free to PM me or any staff member, we are here to help.

Patty

ive been here awhile but i havent introduced myself yet
im from canada and my mans in ohio
we met on a penpal site (through letters)
i sent him a letter ,,,,,he never responded right away
he told me he was going to throw my letter away but he had this
feeling ,,,,,,,,,,,,if he threw my letter away he would be throwing
something valueable away ,,,,,,,,,,,,,
he said theres a connection and i feel the same way
we`ve been together and writing ever since
i cant see myself without him or with anyother guy

:wave: Hi MidnightCherry! I'm glad you introduced yourself to us. Welcome to PTO's Met While Incarcerated Forum. We're happy to have you with us. Please let me or any staff member know if we can be of assistance. In the meantime, we've got many threads in this forum to keep you busy. Hope to hear lots from you!

Best wishes,
Patty

You're right, Ravenslove. Anthony didn't disrespect me by committing a crime while he and I were already together, therefore tearing our family and relationship apart. No, we were blessed to meet while he was incarcerated and he has had the time to think through how to approach me and think about what he will do to keep from being apart from me and our family.


Ok I'll go first most of you know I met my man while I was a c/o in the institution were he was. That was over two years ago. The full story is in another thread. Patty you are right there is a whole new set of issues when you meet your man while he is down. First and foremost alot of people think just because you met him that way he can't love you. He is using you. The usual stuff we all hear. But that can be percieved two ways. He also didn't disrespect us by commiting a crime while in a relationship. Didn't choose crime or drugs over us. So there are good and bad either way you look at it.

Thanks for making this forum. I look forward to many good threads.

Ravenslove

Hello. My name is Lea and I introduced myself to Anthony through his sister/my best friend in July 2006 thinking that we'd simply be pen pals but he let me know within months that we would be more than that and I thank God that I found him when I did. According to TDCJ, he has over 10 years left but I don't believe that for one second. In the meantime, I'm enjoying our courtship and accumulation of love letters. Although I'm in St. Louis and he's in New Boston, TX, we're only one letter away from each other.

I'm also blessed to have found PTO and all the helpful members and advice on here. You and your loved ones are in my prayers for safe returns for everyone!

God bless!

Hi everyone, I'm fairly new around here. I haven't posted much, more just reading what everyone has to say and is going through. I've been reluctant to post an intro because of my situation but I know that if I want any support from friends, this is where to find it. I was encouraged by a certain someone that it's OK and there are people here who understand. Thanks Patti!

My name is Dani and last year I went to another state to teach in a prison. That's where I met my man. That's also why I've been reluctant to post. I've read on the MWI forum that some of the ladies didn't like it when a guy hooked up w/someone who worked where they were because they didn't want to lose their guy. So I just want to say off the start I knew my guy wasn't with anyone or even writing to anyone or anything. Hadn't even gotten a letter from his family in 6 months. He was free and clear in that respect. Plus he's also not under age, really didn't want to go there. Ya know?

I got to know him while he was there (nothing physical, just a friendship) and then he transfered to a different facility for the rest of his sentence. We started writing and talking on the phone. I knew I had to leave my job and was willing to do so. But two weeks before I was supposed to be done the DOC found out and I had to leave.

Long story short I had to move back to my home state and I'm struggling to put my life back together. We are still together, as after a few months he got the go ahead from the investigator that we could have contact again. I'm trying to find a decent paying job so I can find somewhere for him and I to live when he gets out in April.

I'm having problems with my family though so that's why I finally decided to post. I've seen how supportive everyone here is and I'm grateful I found this page. My dad barely talks to me, my mom is pretty understanding and the rest of my family thinks I just got homesick. I've decided thought that once he get's here I refuse to lie about where we met. It's a part of us and if people dont' like it it's too bad.

Anyway, enough about me, I'm glad to be here and I hope everyone's doing OK :)

Dani

:wave: Hi Dani and welcome to the MWI forum. I'm glad to have you here with us and hope to get to know you better!

All the best,
Patty

Great new forum....I so desperately need to talk to someone who knows what it is like. I'm afraid, confused lonely doubtful etc. etc. any advice???

Hi my name is Traci,
I met my boyfriend April 2006, and we hit it off right away. There was alot of flirting etc. etc. He was a trustee at a job sit that I delivered auto parts to and there were sparks right away, I would get real nervous around him and tounge tied, and then one day I told him that he made me nervous, and he got sad because he thought that it was because he was a convict. I told him no that it was because I knew that I could be O-SO-BAD with him, and that was all it took and the affair was on. We managed to sneak a kiss (WOW) a stupid thing to do, but I don't regret a thing. It has been a major roller coaster ride since. I put in for visits and was approved, but he was in a facility where they only had non contact visits, which sucked. We were stupid and took risks on the job, and got into trouble because of them, I lost my visits a year ago because everyone found out. He went to the hole, lost his job, and got 10 days added to his sentence because of it, and I cannot see him or have phone contact for now. I do get to reapply for visits on the 23rd, but who knows if I will ever get approved again. My problem is how do I stay strong and not doubt his love for me etc. etc. when he is a shitty pen pal, and we can't communicate any other way. He says he loves me with all his heart and always will, never to doubt him, and just be patient, and if I ever have my doubts to read his letters that tell me how much he loves me. We had a real relationship for 6 months, the only thing is he didn't get to come home with me (just by phone) and it is so hard to have him daily in my life 4-6 times a day on the phone, to a letter every 2 to 4 weeks. How do I stay strong???????:( I desperate for answers, and support. ANYONE?

No one ever gets back to me. I don't know what I doing wrong.

:wave: Hi Traci and welcome to the MWI forum. We're happy to have you with us. Try posting threads in our forum, I 'm sure you will find that many are happy to respond as the MWI family is a great group of people! Also please take a look at our monthly check in thread, a good way to connect and be connected to the "regulars" around here. You can find the September edition here: http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=287865

Also if you need assistance please feel free to PM me or any PTO staff member. We are here to help you.

Welcome,
Patty

Hi Chris's baby!!! ~ try posting a new thread in the mwi forum and I'm sure our members will respond.

Patty

Thanks Patty, there are so many things going on in my head and I need alot of support. Thank you very much I needed this site to help stay positive and focused on my baby. I love him very much and don't want to give him up.!!!!!